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358: Finding Flow for All 5 Human Design Types · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Nicole Laino: Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated
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  to helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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  flow without sacrificing results.
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  Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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  according to your human design.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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  Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and I want to talk about flow today.
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  So I actually, I started to kind of, sometimes the way that I prepare for
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  these episodes is I record myself into my transcriber to sort of catch
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  whatever is swimming around in my head.
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  This is part of me knowing how to work with my design.
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  I have an open head.
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  I have an open Ajna.
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  I have a lot of thoughts, so I do a lot of journaling.
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  I do things to get those thoughts out of my head because it can become a bit
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  of, it can definitely get busy up there.
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  It can get really crowded up there and I can get confused.
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  It's also my conscious son.
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  So adding to all of that, I can get where.
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  It can feel like, I know I have thoughts, but I don't know what they are.
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  So it's so important for me to have a process for emptying the stash that's,
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  that's swimming around up there.
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  And a lot of the ways that I do that are through journaling and stuff like that.
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  But then I also, I take audio notes where I can speak.
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  Why do I do that?
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  Well, I have a defined throat and I have a motor to the throat.
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  I indirectly, I have a motor to the throat.
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  I'm a manifesting generator, so I can speak out my thoughts so much more easily
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  a lot of times than I can write them.
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  And I don't limit myself to how I use these tools, which one I'm gonna
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  use when I really follow intuition as to into where I need it to go.
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  What do I need to do?
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  What tool do I need now?
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  I used to be very rigid and I did not have flow and I fought with myself and I fought
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  to create results and I fought to find balance and I did not necessarily feel
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  at home in my body, honestly, because I don't think that I was in my body.
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  I think that I was in my head most of the time, which is
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  where I think most people are.
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  I've been talking to so many people, my calendar has been completely booked,
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  talking to people during, we just wrapped up the Authority Accelerator Masterclass.
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  First of all, thank you to everybody who came, everybody who showed up,
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  everybody who watched a replay, everybody who said they loved something
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  or shared an insight or something in our Telegram chat, which was bonkers.
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  So, so active and so much great stuff is being shared in there.
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  So thank you.
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  If you participated at all in any way in that.
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  But I was talking to so many people and what I do find is that most of
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  us are caught in our head or in the clouds, which really either one of
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  those means, so you're either, you are looking to a celestial event or cosmic
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  force for every answer in your life and you're actively searching for it.
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  That, or you're caught in your head trying to figure out what am I going to
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  do, how am I going to get it done, what's it going to be, trying to really attach
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  to strategies and, very like 3D sort of, plans that you can lay out for yourself.
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  And there's a bit of white knuckling that, and there's a lot
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  of questioning going on in the head.
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  And either one of these both result in you not being in flow.
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  Which is really what we're going to talk about today.
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  I'm going to break it down into the five human design types and how they
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  find flow, but you're not finding flow.
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  You are fighting with yourself.
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  And really that's coming from, you're not in your body.
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  And I know that because I was not in my body for like my life.
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  My, acting teacher used to say things to me where he'd say, you know,
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  you're not in your body right now.
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  And I'm like, okay.
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  How do I get in my body?
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  Like that was the question.
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  And that's like the, it's, it's such a difficult thing because
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  asking yourself, how do I get into my body is a heady thing.
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  It's not a body thing.
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  So how do we do that?
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  And that's to me where human design came in and rocked my world was
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  because it got me in my body.
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  Cause it got me out of my head because it took the power away from my brain,
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  which was so in charge of everything.
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  And it messed up probably everything I consciously went for in my life.
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  It screwed up on some level because I could not allow and I
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  couldn't really be present in it.
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  and I say, this is somebody who's had a lot of success in their life.
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  I am not somebody who, like, struggled through life and never had any success.
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  No, I've had lots of success in lots of ways.
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  And I've had other things that I have gone after and not achieved.
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  And I knew totally that it's like, this is me.
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  I'm in my way here and I am, something internal in me is keeping me from being
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  able to enjoy what I am going after.
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  Like, I know I'm in my own way.
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  And that's the not in your body part.
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  And finding, getting in your body, starts with getting out of your head.
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  And as I was talking with people and just sort of, I've just been swimming in all of
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  these experiences that I've had with other people over the last couple of weeks.
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  and when I look at my clients inside business by design who have
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  been with me for a long time, I had one client come into Austin.
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  So we had lunch together.
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  It was so wonderful to see her.
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  And I've had interactions with all of like, I'm, I'm always intimately
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  involved with all of them and the people who've been with me for a long time.
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  Some of them did testimonials during the Authority Accelerator.
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  And the most gratifying thing to me is I watched them take the power
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  away from their mind and they're finding their flow and what that does.
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  And this is what it means to have somebody who is, who's been down the
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  journey, at least that you want to go on.
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  If you're looking to let go, find somebody who has learned to let go.
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  So that they can tell you what the road ahead looks like, you know, you
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  are driving down a road that's dark.
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  So the answer is to find somebody who's been down that road before
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  and has headlights and who can illuminate that way for you.
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  So to see these people let go of the mind game, I know what's ahead for them.
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  It just gets easier and easier and they get into allowing.
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  And then that's where your intuition kicks in and that's where you go to
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  sleep and you wake up with answers and that's where your energy just
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  carries you into the next thing.
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  So what I want to do is I want to break down, I'm going to talk about flow
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  for each of the human design types.
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  Um, honestly, like I said, this started with me doing a voice memo to myself and
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  it was so good and it was so flowing.
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  I was like, screw it.
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  I'm just going to record.
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  Very Manny Jen, by the way.
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  And we're going to talk about that because I want to, I don't have any notes.
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  I don't have anything.
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  I'm just trusting that this is all flowing through at the moment.
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  So you're going to experience that, okay?
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  So here we go.
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  I'm going to, break it down by human design type and we're going to just talk
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  about flow and I'm just going to give you a free flowing reflection on what I've
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  seen working with every single one of the types and how you find flow, okay?
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  Sound good?
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  Fabulous.
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  Let's dive in.
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  I'm going to start with the generators and the manifesting generators and I'm
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  going to talk about them together and then I'm going to break it apart, you know,
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  cause there's so much that's the same.
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  I don't want to repeat myself, but it starts with them because that's where
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  my, notes were starting was really talking about, you know, and, and
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  exploring this idea of, generators and manifesting generators, sacral beings.
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  You are, we are, since I am a mani gen. We are designed to have sustainable energy.
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  we're designed to do, this is stuff we all know, right?
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  Do what lights you up and it will carry you.
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  Now, finding your flow as a generator, a manifesting generator, it doesn't
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  mean you're doing all the time.
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  And it doesn't mean you don't get tired and it doesn't mean that you should work
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  yourself in the ground and it doesn't mean that you are somebody's slave
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  to do all of the work while somebody else, like a projector, sits by and
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  just says like, nope, over that way a little bit more, a little to the left.
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  That's not your role either.
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  The key is that you love building what you build.
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  And when you are in the act of doing something that feels good,
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  that feels right, And the more right it feels, the more energy
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  you will generate for the thing.
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  and then you will stop.
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  So it isn't about never getting tired.
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  It isn't about never needing rest.
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  The key is, is that if you're not in your head thinking about, should I be
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  resting now, should I be working now?
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  Is this a response, which is where I see everybody start.
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  Is this a response?
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  Should I go on this?
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  You're still in your head.
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  If you're asking that question.
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  Okay, I want you to just, I'm going to tough love you here a little bit.
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  You are still absolutely a hundred percent in your mind.
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  If you are asking that question, is that a response?
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  And you're looking for me to tell you whether it is.
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  And cause that is not, I'm not your authority.
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  You are, and if you are following, and I'm going to talk about my process.
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  Cause I've been in a lot of flow.
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  These last few weeks have been pretty amazing.
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  And I'm in flow right now, but I've also been tired.
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  So let's talk about how that works for generators and manifesting generators.
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  And I'm a manigen.
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  So I have a lot of plates spinning in the air.
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  And as long as I have a comfortable amount of plates, as long as I'm not
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  distracting myself with too many things, then I will have energy for them all.
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  And it will actually, each one will kind of feed me a little bit more.
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  Generators, you're probably not going to enjoy too many things spinning, that
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  will probably confuse you and make you kind of contract or retract a little
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  bit, but Because I'm not in my head these last few weeks, so here's what happens.
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  You're in flow, you're doing the thing, and more and more energy is generated
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  for the thing that you're doing.
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  So I had the Authority Accelerator Masterclass going on.
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  I had my clients to attend to.
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  I had content that I was writing.
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  I had all of these things where I was sort of shifting gears throughout the week.
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  I had the podcast to do.
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  I had all these things.
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  And there were some times where I was tired.
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  And there were sometimes where I, I'm going to be honest, I had to push
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  through because there were just things that needed to get done and generators,
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  Manny Gens, we are in the moment people.
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  It can be really hard sometimes for us to plan and have the energy
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  to do the thing we planned for.
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  It's not how it works.
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  It's why I didn't record this episode.
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  I'm late with this episode.
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  I was working it and trying to get notes out, but the, I felt my sacral
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  turn on and I was like, screw it.
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  We're just going to go record this.
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  That's how it works.
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  And sometimes that's not on our time.
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  It's on Sacral time.
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  So we have to learn to work with that.
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  And that can be really frustrating in the beginning because sometimes
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  we're like, I got to get it done.
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  I got to get it done.
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  And Sacral is just like, yeah, nah, not happening.
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  I'm not, it's not really there yet for me.
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  But when you are in the energy of the thing that you are,
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  that's really turning you on.
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  The ideas come, the things come.
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  This is where momentum comes from.
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  But, if you're really not in your head, and if you are really listening
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  to your body, you know when to go and you know when to stop.
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  You're not really questioning that.
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  Now, time constraints for me over the last few weeks had me Doing more
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  when I was like, I'm really tired and I really want to rest right now.
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  But I was like, I got it.
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  I really have to get this done.
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  And I added more work on, there were things that I definitely, you
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  know, made trouble for myself with.
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  It wasn't more than I could handle, but it was definitely my sacral was saying no.
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  And I was saying one more, I got to get it out.
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  I got to get it done.
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  Cause I was on deadlines.
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  This happens sometimes.
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  But what did that result in?
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  It resulted in me on, at the end, on Friday after the last official
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  masterclass session was over, I had sales calls book back to back to
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  back for like the rest of that day.
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  And then I think the last one was like at three o'clock or something.
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  And it was like somebody unplugged me.
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  Like I felt my sacral go off.
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  We're done.
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  That's a, I didn't say I need to rest now.
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  I wonder if it's time to rest.
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  I wonder one more thing.
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  I felt the motor turn off almost instantly and I felt me
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  lose that sustainable energy.
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  I drained the battery a little bit and it let me know.
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  And I did not question it and I went to bed and I did all these things,
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  you know, try to rest, but then I had another week of, two more masterclass
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  sessions, you know, the, bonus session and a Q and a, and then I had sales
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  calls and then I have my group call.
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  I have a lot of stuff going on.
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  I had a reading that week and so there was so much going on and I, kind of
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  had to probably put myself to work before I was ready to, but I know.
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  What I need now, here's the other thing now in my mind, it might
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  be, my mind might say, Oh, we got to clear out a bunch of space.
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  Cause it's going to take days for us to recuperate from this.
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  We're really tired.
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  No generators.
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  We don't work like that.
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  Yes, you will rest when the sacral says rest, but you don't know how
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  long that rest is going to take.
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  I went to bed last night.
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  I slept like 10 hours last night.
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  I gave my body rest.
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  I have been giving my body rest all week, but I did feel like I
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  was not really fully recharged.
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  But this is where generators are different than the non sacrals, and we're going
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  to get to you guys in just a moment, as I wrap up mani gens and gens here.
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  But if you take rest as a gen or mani gen, this is what's different about us.
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  You recharge that battery, you're ready to go again.
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  You're ready to go again.
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  Now, I don't know, when I go to bed tonight, there might be a like, okay,
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  we're done now again, we're done.
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  And that might happen at seven o'clock tonight.
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  And I might have to just really recharge and restore myself.
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  But, next day, I might be ready to go.
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  Whereas I see some gens and many gens in my world still will come to me
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  and be like, you know, I feel like I should be resting, I feel like
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  I should, no, it's not a thought.
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  But what's your body telling you?
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  If you are really following flow, because that's what we're talking about
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  here, finding your flow with your type.
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  There's so much more to flow of the detail, you know, we can get
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  into variables and centers and all of this other stuff in the chart.
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  We're not going to go that deep.
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  We're just going to talk about, we're going to keep it at the type level,
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  but your energy type tells you so much.
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  So finding my flow.
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  As a manifesting generator, I have to see what life is giving me, I'm getting
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  responses, it's saying, my body is saying yes, my body is saying no, I'm
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  following all of those things, and then I don't have to ever ask myself, is
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  it time to rest or is it time to go?
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  My sacral chooses.
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  And that's where I have other things that I'm going to do because I have
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  been so in alignment with the things I have been doing, I have been so lit
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  up by the work that I'm doing, I have other ideas that have come from that.
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  I am so ready to go with those.
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  I am so ready.
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  Then my challenge just becomes like, am I carving out enough time to get it done?
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  Is my calendar not so jammed that I can't do the things that are exciting for me?
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  I'm in a creative mode at the moment.
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  Now that's, the thing.
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  We sometimes generate as manifesting generators.
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  We're so scheduled out.
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  We're so planned.
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  We have so many other things that are going, we think we're tired or
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  we think we're frustrated and it's like, no, you didn't create space
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  for the thing that really lit you up.
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  That's why you don't feel great.
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  So we have to start listening to something other than our thoughts and our mind.
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  We have to start saying, what do I feel?
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  Your feelings will tell you everything, right?
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  Now I want to talk about, let's talk about manifestors.
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  So manifestors, um, this is the thing with manifestors too.
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  So manifestors, finding your flow has to be in those moments of a down time.
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  In those moments of a downtime, again, not going to your head.
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  I see manifestors do this a lot.
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  Uh, particularly if you have definition in your head, you're going to do
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  this a lot, where it's going to be, you're going to want to figure it out.
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  You are going to want to know when the next urge is coming.
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  You're going to want to know when the next thing is coming.
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  And the truth is, you will not know.
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  And what flow is, about working with your energy.
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  It's about not forcing anything.
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  And so the first step has to be For manifestors, what you have to trust is,
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  is that have to see what the thought is.
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  First of all, most of the time the thought is, I'm not doing anything.
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  I'm not doing anything.
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  I'm so frustrated by not doing anything.
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  I have, I want to make an impact.
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  I'm worried it won't happen.
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  It's taking too long.
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  What if I never create the thing I meant to create?
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  I think at the core.
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  Of every manifester is just like, what if I don't really get to
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  do the thing that I meant to do?
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  Like, what if I never get that thing out?
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  there's that kind of really unconscious belief and
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  motivation that is so beautiful.
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  That's driving you to not truly relax and rest in the relaxing and the resting.
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  And really what relaxing and resting can mean.
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  is you're doing things, you're just not doing the thing and you are giving
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  yourself space and you are giving yourself, and I mean that as physical
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  space from other people, you're not apologizing for being who you are, which
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  is somebody who doesn't need people the way that other people need people,
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  who needs more space in order to become the channel that you're meant to be.
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  You're waiting for something incredible to drop in that's
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  going to drive you to action.
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  You don't have to create the spark.
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  The spark is channeled through you.
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  And I know that sounds cosmic, especially if you're just getting used to this
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  work, and you're just being introduced to human design and all this work.
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  It might be like, uh, channeled?
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  But you are a direct channel.
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  It's not like for generators, we have to pay attention to what we're
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  responding to because that's how the universe communicates with us.
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  It's through life.
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  It's through the things that it puts in our path that we go yes and no to.
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  If we are listening, we will find our flow through that.
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  We'll figure out what we want to build.
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  Projectors have their ways through invitations that finding their way.
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  You're the only one that doesn't have something to do with this world.
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  just comes through you.
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  You are a channel, so you have to honor that.
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  And by honoring that, it's about creating space.
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  And the first way that we create space is to stop the mind chatter saying,
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  when's the thing going to come?
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  When's the thing going to come?
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  When's it going to be there?
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  When's it going to go?
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  I got to get moving now.
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  What you got to trust is that all of that space, it doesn't matter.
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  You're sort of like, I think, do you remember like the old Bugs Bunny cartoons
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  where, you know, the Bugs Bunny would be sitting at the starting gate and
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  then the turtle would start to go?
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  And I know that this is a tortoise and the hare thing where
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  the tortoise ultimately wins.
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  However, what I'm talking about here is that you're Bugs Bunny sitting
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  there being like, I'm so much faster than everybody in this race.
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  I don't need to run the whole time.
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  I can let them get three quarters of the way there and then I will just
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  lap them when I decide it's time.
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  When it's right for me.
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  It's so much of it is about timing.
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  So much is about creating the space for the spark to be lit. And
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  when it is, you know, you don't question it, you don't have to.
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  You'll know because it will pull you on a path.
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  Where most manifesters are is over analyzing and over planning and
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  trying to figure it out where you don't have enough space for that
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  thing to really drop in for you.
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  A lot of manifesters don't know what it feels like really to be taken.
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  on the ride that is the urge to feel what that feels like as a manny gen, I
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  get little taste of that where, when the creative thing drops in, it feels like
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  that's sort of where I feel like I am in this very moment is that there are so many
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  things that I am so like, feel like I've been waiting forever for them to drop in.
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  And I don't know exactly where they're leading, but they, it feels like
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  I could not, not do these things.
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  It would be impossible for me to not see this through and to not do this thing.
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  I feel called to create this stuff.
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  And that's what manifestors often don't trust enough, is
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  that that is coming for you.
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  And if it's not coming, it's usually because you are too
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  distracted with other stuff.
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  And And sometimes that is distracted with your own thoughts of wondering
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  when the thing is going to come.
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  Because on some level all manifestors know, you know you're meant for
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  something big, you know that you have a strong calling, you have felt
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  the connection with something, you know, you don't need people, all of
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  that, you know it, but there's so much conditioning a lot of times of
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  you not really being a manifestor.
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  That's keeping you from being an aligned manifestor in their flow.
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  An aligned manifestor in their flow is really comfortable leaning back and just
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  being like, I'm going to go when I go.
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  And I am, pulling it all in right now.
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  Every moment is, full for you, but you have to allow it to be.
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  And this is what flow is.
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  It's this feeling like we don't have to create anything when we're in alignment.
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  We are open to answers and pathways to be, laid out for us that
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  we could not have planned for.
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  This is what it means to have your intuition come online.
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  But most of us are so busy thinking that our intuition
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  can't get a word in edgewise.
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  So finding flow for a manifester is about really being comfortable leaning
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  back in the moments of, uh, in between one creative urge and the next.
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  And when you're starting this journey, what that looks like is
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  learning to be really a manifester, really learning to decondition
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  so that you can be that channel.
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  And the manifestors I've worked with, like, it's so like clockwork.
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  You all are so assertive that once you start going down that
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  path, things happen for you so quickly because you're so powerful.
• 23:45
  Most of you are dimming your power.
• 23:47
  Most of you are throttling yourself in this world because somewhere along
• 23:52
  the line you were taught to hold back because it wasn't safe to be
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  a hundred percent of who you were.
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  Made people uncomfortable.
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  You probably make people uncomfortable.
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  So learning to sit back and say, it's not my responsibility how I make anybody feel.
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  I'm just here to be this.
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  Finding your flow is about being yourself.
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  And every single type has a different way of being themselves.
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  Okay.
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  So that's manifestors.
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  Projectors.
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  Your way is going to be through prioritizing your health,
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  your physical wellbeing, your cleanliness of your energy.
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  You have to let go.
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  Uh, first of all, you have to recognize how much of you.
• 24:40
  has probably been hijacked by somebody else's energy already.
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  And if you aren't properly deconditioning daily, like daily, if you aren't cleansing
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  your energy by being alone, if you aren't sleeping alone, And I know this is hard.
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  my husband's a projector, talked about that a million times on the show.
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  He has taken to sleeping in our guest room a lot of nights, not because
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  there's anything wrong in our marriage.
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  Nope, not at all.
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  And sometimes he starts out in our bed and then he goes into the other room.
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  And I've told him a million times.
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  I'm like, if that's where you need to be, I get it.
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  I'm a lot.
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  And what's really happening when you're a projector sleeping
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  next to us, particularly if you sleep next to a sacral.
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  is you are being charged up all night by that person's energy.
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  It's not their fault.
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  It's not your fault.
• 25:29
  It's just the way the energy dynamics work.
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  what you do is you wake up not as you, as them.
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  You wake up already having to get rid of stuff.
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  So that's why you might not feel as rested.
• 25:40
  That's why you might feel a little bit more like them than you do like yourself.
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  But you wouldn't know it, because you're used to it.
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  You are so conditioned to be that way.
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  Projectors, your flow, finding some play, y'all can be real serious, and
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  you have to find some play in your life because you are meant to be playful.
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  I know that that's not like a typical thing that we talk about with
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  projectors, but waiting for those invitations, a lot of projectors, you're
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  looking for things to tell people.
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  To teach people, to help people with, and they don't want your help.
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  And you are not finding your flow through that, you're
• 26:21
  finding bitterness through that.
• 26:23
  You're getting frustrated with the fact that people are not seeing you.
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  But that's not how they see you.
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  And you're burning yourself out, and you're spending energy you do not have.
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  So people can tell you, I didn't ask for that.
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  Finding your flow as a projector is you should be focused on yourself
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  until somebody asks you something.
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  You should be focused on prioritizing your physical well being.
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  That's how you find your flow as a projector.
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  That you don't have to fill every moment in between all of the moments.
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  And if you want to fill it with something, fill it with enriching yourself.
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  Fill it with luxuriating in the fact that you don't have to
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  do as much as the rest of us.
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  Luxuriate in the fact that if you rest, you will attract more.
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  And build an expertise.
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  Figure out what is it that you want to be recognized for and become so damn good
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  at that, that they cannot ignore you.
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  Because your energy will carry that.
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  But you have to trust that.
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  And most of you don't, most of you are still playing the generator game
• 27:32
  and you are trying to do rather than trusting that if you just are enough,
• 27:40
  that people will find you and you'll say things like, Oh, I've tried that.
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  But most of the time when I look at it, it's like, no, you tried it
• 27:49
  for like a minute, but you really weren't cleaning your energy.
• 27:53
  You really weren't deconditioning yourself.
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  You really weren't in, I've got this energy.
• 27:58
  You were like, okay, they told me to wait, so I'm waiting.
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  But I'm waiting like this, like with, my fists clenched, being like,
• 28:04
  are you going to ask me to dance?
• 28:05
  Are you going to ask me to dance?
• 28:06
  Are you going to ask me for something?
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  Nope.
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  I better tell you.
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  I had a projector.
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  It's funny.
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  I get comments on YouTube.
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  And, uh, and we have hundreds of videos up on YouTube and we get, I get comments
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  and I always read, I read the comments.
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  Sometimes I respond to them.
• 28:20
  Sometimes I don't, because some of them are kind of kooky and out there.
• 28:23
  And some of them just make me laugh.
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  One of them was on, I did a video on the, an episode on the
• 28:28
  projection field, like years ago.
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  That video is still up, it's still getting hits.
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  This is the beauty of having like evergreen stuff up there, right?
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  I don't have to work for this.
• 28:36
  Although this comment was not somebody I see joining my world anytime soon.
• 28:40
  But they wrote like, I'm a 5'1 splenic projector or whatever
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  they told me they were.
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  And I'm also a sound engineer.
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  And it killed me to see the mic set up incorrectly throughout this whole thing.
• 28:56
  And I was just like, that is exactly.
• 28:59
  Like the projector, like the collective eye roll when we get like
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  a projector who wants to teach us something that we did not ask for.
• 29:09
  And if you're in that, it's just, do you see how that was just like my energy just
• 29:14
  went, Oh, nobody asked you about my mic.
• 29:18
  Nobody asked you.
• 29:20
  And that's where you have to, if you're just leaning back and you are.
• 29:25
  If you are daring enough to be seen as being really good, believing
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  you are so good at what you do, I promise you, you will get invitations.
• 29:34
  They will come easily to you, but most projectors are not being seen.
• 29:39
  They're not allowing themselves to be seen or they're being seen in that energy.
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  Let me tell you this, let me tell you that, and nobody
• 29:44
  really is, accepting of that.
• 29:47
  Your flow is to trust your wisdom.
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  And to trust that you don't have to move until the right
• 29:54
  invitation comes through for you.
• 29:56
  And I know that can be really uncomfortable because you're
• 29:58
  going to spend more time not doing anything than doing things.
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  And that is your flow because projectors all complain that
• 30:06
  they have to do too much.
• 30:07
  But when we tell them to lean back, they say, I can't.
• 30:10
  And that's your mind telling you to do something and you're not following
• 30:15
  your body, if you followed your body.
• 30:17
  Your body is saying no a lot, and it's saying no a lot more
• 30:21
  than you are answering that call.
• 30:24
  So I want to point out, you're in and you're ahead if you're
• 30:26
  not listening to your body.
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  If you aren't listening to, and that's the thing, you don't have a sacral that's
• 30:33
  going to tell you when it's enough.
• 30:35
  You're going to burn out.
• 30:36
  And the more open you are as a projector, the worse that's
• 30:40
  gonna feel when you burn out.
• 30:41
  It's going to feel it's almost like you're short circuiting.
• 30:44
  It's like, you know, like your nerves are breaking down and generators.
• 30:49
  We can feel that too.
• 30:50
  When we push ourselves too hard.
• 30:51
  I had a day last week that felt like that, where I was like,
• 30:53
  I have to go to bed right now.
• 30:56
  And I took a nap in the middle of the day and that was just what I needed.
• 31:00
  And I felt my body breaking down and it needed it so badly.
• 31:06
  That's what happens when projectors push themselves way too far.
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  Now reflectors.
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  Reflectors, it's similar.
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  Reflectors, you have to, your flow is going to come from, honestly, you're
• 31:19
  all so different, like even amongst reflectors, you guys are, no two are,
• 31:25
  I mean, none of us are the same, but I mean, reflectors, I see reflector clients
• 31:30
  who, some of them have a ton of hanging gates in and around pointing to the root.
• 31:35
  Where they have a lot of get up and go energy, some of them, a lot
• 31:40
  of them pointing to the sacral.
• 31:41
  So when they're around people or the transits are kind of always
• 31:45
  activating certain parts of them.
• 31:47
  Some of them have them spread out all over where it doesn't feel
• 31:50
  as concentrated in some area.
• 31:53
  But all of you have to respect the fact that you are going to be, you're
• 32:00
  going to probably need to be alone.
• 32:02
  a lot of the time in order to figure out who you are, and you're going to have
• 32:06
  to stand up for that and it might make people uncomfortable and in order to
• 32:11
  find your flow, with reflectors, what I do see is that The more you allow
• 32:18
  yourself to withdraw from everyone and you give yourself alone time.
• 32:24
  A lot of reflectors like to live alone.
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  That was sort of what I was going to say.
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  Um, so they can divorce, they can, and be good with that.
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  Where, you know, I've seen them sometimes where they really want to
• 32:36
  hang on to the marriage, they really want to hang on to the, relationship.
• 32:39
  and then once it's forced from their hands and they break up for whatever
• 32:44
  reason, when they settle into doing things by themselves, living by themselves,
• 32:49
  or having autonomy over their time and over their energy, like if they want
• 32:53
  to be completely alone, they can be.
• 32:55
  If they want to be around people, they can be.
• 32:57
  And reflectors usually want to have moments where they're around people
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  and then they want to be alone.
• 33:04
  And no one can tell them when that's right.
• 33:07
  And that's why sometimes when they don't have an attachment, they don't
• 33:11
  feel obligated, so it's so easy for them to do what feels right for them.
• 33:16
  So I've seen a lot of people where they settle into that alone life and
• 33:19
  they're like, yeah, I don't really.
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  Want somebody coming in here looking for, like, to guide my life or to have
• 33:30
  any sort of say in what I do or where I go or how much time I spend with them.
• 33:35
  Like they get really comfortable there.
• 33:37
  So is the answer to get divorced and to cut ties with people?
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  No, but your flow is directly related to how much you are willing
• 33:46
  to stand up for yourself to say.
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  I'm not doing that, I'm not going there, I need to be alone, I'm going for a
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  girl trip, meaning me, this girl, alone, I'm renting an Airbnb by myself, in the
• 34:01
  woods, and that's what I'm going to do.
• 34:04
  You watch the kids.
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  Like, that level of, I think there's such a misconception that reflectors are, you
• 34:12
  know, just these soft, delicate creatures.
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  No, most of the reflectors I know are pretty damn fierce.
• 34:19
  They have big, big energy.
• 34:22
  It's just not sustainable.
• 34:25
  And quite frankly, we burn them out.
• 34:28
  If you are around a reflector and they seem tired, it's probably you.
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  And they need that time.
• 34:35
  So just trusting what you feel as a reflector.
• 34:40
  Trusting, allowing yourself to be creative, you're such creative
• 34:43
  beings and giving yourself space to move is the whole thing.
• 34:48
  I wish I had something more insightful to say for the reflectors, but the
• 34:53
  truth is, is that if you aren't doing that, then nothing will feel like flow.
• 34:58
  It will always feel like your energy is you're hijacked by somebody else's energy
• 35:03
  and you're just sort of on their ride.
• 35:05
  And it's so easy for you to do that.
• 35:07
  And the first wake up is learning that you're a reflector and
• 35:09
  that's what your energy does.
• 35:11
  And that, I see that, you know, I see people very quickly once
• 35:15
  they realize they're a reflector, it's like, Oh, this is why.
• 35:18
  And they start to take a step into owning who they are.
• 35:21
  But it doesn't mean that it necessarily for all of them stops there and they
• 35:25
  don't realize how much of other people's energy is pulling them in directions
• 35:30
  that's not of their own choosing and they're not spending enough time alone.
• 35:34
  So they're always feeling kind of drained.
• 35:36
  So they're always feeling kind of disappointed.
• 35:39
  And surprise comes from being so open, which you are, that as, because like
• 35:46
  throughout the day, the moon is changing.
• 35:48
  You get all of these different connections every time you're around different people.
• 35:53
  When you're really open, They light different sparks within you, and
• 35:58
  you're picking up little things from all of the people that you encounter.
• 36:03
  And you're getting lit up in different ways by the moon
• 36:07
  changing throughout the day.
• 36:09
  The moon cycles go so much faster than all the other
• 36:12
  planets and all the other bodies.
• 36:14
  You're being lit up multiple times a day by different things.
• 36:18
  You're getting all of these different connections.
• 36:20
  What a beautiful surprise that can be if you can dance with life like that,
• 36:24
  where you don't feel like you're in flow is because you're not dancing,
• 36:28
  you're doing what other people are making you do on some level.
• 36:33
  And of course we have people in our lives, we make concessions, but you
• 36:36
  want to be making less concessions than you are standing up for yourself.
• 36:40
  You want to be standing up for yourself 80 percent of the time.
• 36:44
  And the rest of the time is they have to respect and honor the fact that you
• 36:49
  need different things than they need.
• 36:52
  And that's how you find your flow is to not be obligated to somebody else's.
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  Okay.
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  I hope you guys liked this.
• 36:59
  This was fun for me.
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• 37:04
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• 37:09
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