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Trouble with Traditional Mom · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  We got a question for American mama. Dear mama, what's wrong with being
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  a traditional housewife? Well, let's ask our American mama and joining us now
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  our American mama, Terry Netterville. There is at least one TikToker that's promoting
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  traditional values. I believe her name's Este Williams. I've seen a couple of
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  her tiktoks and she says, look, if you want to be a traditional
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  housewife, if this is something that you're doing, here's some things that are
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  important to consider. Here's some tips on how to do it and all that
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  type of thing. And actually I listened to her tips. I thought her
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  tips were very good. The first one that she said, yeah, you
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  have to make sure you choose the right man. If you want to be
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  a traditional housewife. You cannot be dependent upon a man who's cruel. You
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  need to make sure that you're picking a man who is supportive of you from
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  the moment you started dating. And I thought, I thought of you,
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  and Kevin, well, thank you, because I love being as you know,
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  I love being a wife and a mom. Right that is my favorite.
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  That's my purpose in this life. I have wanted to be this since
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  I was a little girl and I had my little teddy bear, and I
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  would pray to God. I would rub my teddy bears back at night,
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  praying to God, like trying to prove to God. I promise you I'll
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  be a good mama. I mean, that's how Valley I wanted to be
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  a mom. But anyway, um, you know, let me just tell
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  our listeners, let me describe her to you, And they said this as
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  well, she kind of looks like a Marilyn Monroe, but a traditional wife
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  Marilyn Monroe. She's got the platinum blonde hair. She wears a lot of
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  makeup, and but I love makeup too, so I'm like, I love
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  loved her makeup. She had on a very feminine dress. Yeah, she
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  had a soft voice. Yes, and I thought that was interesting. But
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  um, when she started speaking, she said, um, you know this
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  is if you want to be a traditional housewife, here are some tints that
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  can help you and guide you. And she wasn't saying to all women should
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  do this right, all women must do that. She was saying, if
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  you choose this route, if you want this way, if you want this
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  life. She wasn't condemning, No, she was just kind of like,
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  there's to me, there's room for everybody. Sure, there's room for everybody.
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  And so she was given her side. You know, if you can't
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  have a room for Dylan mulvaaney, you can have room for a real woman
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  who loves that traditional lifestyle. And let me point this out to there are
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  women, yeah, who for their mental health, who in order to achieve
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  their greatness that God place in them, they need to go into the workforce.
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  Yes, yes, right, And she said that too. She said
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  there's a way for working women to be a traditional housewife, right, and
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  she was given tips on that too. I thought that was very brilliant because
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  I have a lot of friends, even sisters, who work outside the home,
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  right, and they also can work inside the home and they are they
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  would consider themselves traditional housewives. It's a traditional role where you're the man is
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  the provider. He's the one. Like I've said this before, I feel
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  the safest one I'm around Kevin. I feel like that'shing can happen to me
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  because he is He's my safe place. He's our provider, right. He
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  takes care of the outdoor stuff, take care of the indoor stuff. He's
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  actually a better cook. So he does a lot of the cooking. So
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  but she was talking about you're right, she said, to find the right
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  man, don't find someone abuses so important. Yeah, and she said,
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  learn to cook, clean, and host. This is went in high school
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  fh. Future Homemakers of America. That was my hallway. That's where I
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  lived. I don't even know if they have that anymore, but that is
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  where I lived for high school. It was sewing, cooking, all those
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  electives. I loved every second of it. I love my teachers. So
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  you know when she said that, I thought, I love that would learned
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  how to host, learn how to decorate a house? Right anyway. Um,
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  she goes on to say that, um, you know, have something
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  for yourself because you give. So this is brilliant, she said, get
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  you give so much of yourself when you're a traditional housewife, you think of
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  others, You put others first to such a degree that you need to remember
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  have something every day for yourself. For me, it was exercise. I
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  would go run. I thought of that too. I would go run,
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  and Kevin knew that I needed that time. So if it got dark,
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  he loaded the three kids up and he would literally drive three miles while a
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  jog because he didn't feel like I was safe. So you would have the
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  lights on me and the kids would just watch me running my three miles if
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  you know when it got too darkness, that's what you want to do.
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  Yes, But again, this is one of those things where she was giving
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  tips for women who wanted to be at tritional housewife. These are great tips
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  for people who don't want to be attrician housewife. Even if you're going to
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  be a corporate titan, right, you need to give something for yourself.
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  You need to have a hobby that's away from the business, that's for you
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  for your own mental health. Yeah, well being, I agree one percent.
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  And then this is where people kind of gave her flat. Okay,
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  The last tips she said was to up keep yourself up, keep your present
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  at your beauty presentation because men are visual, that's right. Try to stay
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  fit, try to stay healthy, try to look good for your husband.
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  They love that. I don't see a problem with it. When she said,
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  I would, oh lord, here we go, because not every day
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  do I wear makeup every day, but I do want to be presentable.
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  In fact, Kevin said to me, we were at our nephew's wedding and
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  up to me. We were on the dance floor, and he just whispered.
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  He said, I'm so proud to belong to you. And I cannot
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  tell you what that did for me, because I do put a lot of
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  work into trying to preserve myself so that he's attracted. Right, even though
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  he said, I'll be attracted to you, whether you know, blah blah
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  blah. For me, I want to do that. But here's what's so
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  interesting here. But it's also healthy for you. It's healthy. It's very
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  much don't take it extreme, right, but you make sure that you're you're
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  doing it at a healthy level. That's a good thing. Well here's a
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  point that I thought, Oh my gosh, the the haters were coming out
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  saying that she was a Marrily Monroe looking right. You know that means that
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  she believes in slavery and abusive men and blah blah blah. Right, I
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  thought, how interesting because trans men dressed like Marilyn Monroe all the time,
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  the same hair, same makeup. They even try to do this and yet
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  nobody says a word. But this girl just happens to look a little bit
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  like HER's not trying to. She just looks like her a little bit,
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  and they're giving her hell about it. It's they're the most hypocritical group.
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