Latest / Gospel Talks Podcast / #88 - Are we allowed to comment on religion and spirituality?
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- 0:00I don't know if you guys have ever been in a situation where you're talking to somebody and all of a sudden they bring up religion or talk about spiritual stuff and you're kind
- 0:10of sitting there like, is this my chance or am I supposed to say something here?
- 0:15Do I just let it lie?
- 0:17And those are what we call divine appointments.
- 0:20And we've been doing a series of episodes on getting to the bottom of that and what we're supposed to do with it.
- 0:26So if you've been wondering or had an experience like that, this episode is for you.
- 0:33Welcome to Gospel Talks Podcast where we help Christians all over the world become more effective in relational evangelism and discipleship.
- 0:41I'm your co-host, George Menoka, and with me today is Jeff Musgrave, the author and the founder of The Exchange Ministry, and we're so glad to have him.
- 0:49Hey, Jeff, how you doing?
- 0:51It's been a couple weeks.
- 0:53It has.
- 0:54I apologize so much to everybody that I've been absent.
- 0:57I apologize for that.
- 0:59where have your travels taken you?
- 1:00Anywhere cool?
- 1:01Well, yeah, lots of cool places.
- 1:04Sometimes I actually forget where I've been.
- 1:07I've to Missouri, Pennsylvania, New Jersey.
- 1:10I was in Wisconsin.
- 1:12So those are kind of the last four places.
- 1:15I had five training events in last five, or in five weeks.
- 1:19It's actually the last couple of weeks I've actually been dealing with some health issues here in our
- 1:26family and got those somewhat under control.
- 1:30here I am.
- 1:31We're so glad to have you.
- 1:33We've been doing this series on divine appointments.
- 1:35There's probably some people that are jumping on for the first time, but could you kind of catch us back up since it's been a couple of weeks, jog my memory, tell us how you define
- 1:45a divine appointment and a little bit of what we've covered.
- 1:49Yeah, I love the concept that a divine appointment is when God providentially empowers you to touch a life that he's already been working in.
- 1:59So in other words, you mentioned at the beginning of the episode, someone brings up the Bible, religion, spiritual things in a normal conversation.
- 2:08That sounds like just kind of happenstance.
- 2:11But oftentimes that's the Lord working in that person's heart behind the scenes and we're just being brought into the work that God has already been doing.
- 2:20Mm.
- 2:20Yeah, I love that.
- 2:21I don't know if we'll have time for it today, but I've got a cool divine appointment story.
- 2:26mean, since I last talked with you, I've started an exchange Bible study with an LDS couple across the street and three young men and two more now that just walked into my
- 2:39house last week and new people move into the area.
- 2:42Yeah.
- 2:43yeah, you're in one of those neighborhoods, aren't you?
- 2:45Yeah, we're, yeah, we're definitely, so God's kind of filling our bowl up in terms of exchange Bible studies that we were missing from our previous ministry.
- 2:56So, yeah.
- 2:58George, I counsel pastors because I'm with a new pastor every week, I tell them now anybody in the church can do as many of these they want to but as a pastor you should
- 3:08probably only try to do one at a time.
- 3:11You're breaking the rules man.
- 3:13I don't know, I'm a sucker for, it's really hard to say no to them.
- 3:17You know, it just really, I want to have hand it off to somebody else.
- 3:20Maybe I'm controlling or something, but it's hard.
- 3:23I want to do it.
- 3:24been there long enough to really set up the ability to do that.
- 3:28And I also find, and I know you feel this way, it's all built on relationship.
- 3:33And so trying to pass that off to someone else, especially when they're outside of the church, it's like, this is weird.
- 3:40I I thought you and I were friends and we were talking about life and now you're handing me to a church person.
- 3:47So yeah, I think it's...
- 3:49It is difficult to do that.
- 3:51It's kind of like that saying of you dance with the people who brought you.
- 3:55It's kind of that idea of it's just weird.
- 4:00Actually, it's the relational piece of what you teach.
- 4:02I mean, it's totally inauthentic to kind of like pass people off, especially in that evangelism.
- 4:09I can maybe do it in counseling and say, one of our pastors, he does the counseling with families.
- 4:14Maybe that's a little bit more natural, but I don't know.
- 4:17It's always been.
- 4:19said to the Thessalonians, I am affectionately desirous of you.
- 4:24it's not just that they trust you, but that you love these people.
- 4:30These are people you've grown to know and you want to see God finish that work that he's beginning.
- 4:36so yeah, that's, and it's interesting.
- 4:39I think that's what a divine appointment is.
- 4:41It's us finishing work that got started.
- 4:43It's, you know, all of these people that you're working with, something's underneath the surface that makes them desire us to do a Bible study.
- 4:51Yeah, yeah, I we've seen that Maybe I'll share at the end but but I think is this the ninth one we're on or the tenth one though when This is number nine.
- 5:02I think this is a great one, you know, know, you're in a divine appointment when They bring up religion which is kind of like a no-no topic for a lot of people, you know So you
- 5:13definitely know these days?
- 5:14Yeah.
- 5:15And it is, it's like in our culture, there's certain things that you don't talk about.
- 5:20And it is interesting.
- 5:22People can talk about religion, but not Christianity.
- 5:25They can talk about all the other world religions, but not the Bible.
- 5:29And so when that comes up, you really have to believe that something is going on to bring this out.
- 5:37Mm-hmm.
- 5:37What why do you think that is?
- 5:39Why do you think we can't talk about Christianity anymore?
- 5:43But they're okay talking about Islam Buddhism, whatever
- 5:46Yeah.
- 5:46Well, I think we could get into the political side of things about all of that, but I think bottom line, there is an enemy and the enemy has to squash truth.
- 5:56The fact is every other religion is a false religion and he doesn't, the enemy doesn't mind false religion.
- 6:05It's truth that he wants to keep people from.
- 6:08And so that really is the bottom line of everything.
- 6:11I've always said I really believe in conspiracy theory and there is one conspirator and it is the enemy, the devil.
- 6:18And he's the one who is working everything that he possibly can.
- 6:23He's not omnipotent.
- 6:28He doesn't have all power and so he can't control everything, but everything he can control, he's trying to get people away from truth.
- 6:36Yeah, I think the spiritual fight behind the scenes is becoming more obvious as time goes on but um, but I mean coming back to this topic of of religion spirituality, I kind of
- 6:48tend to be like a pounce on it as soon as the opportunity comes But this is a pretty sensitive topic.
- 6:53How have you approached?
- 6:55When they first bring this up.
- 6:56I mean, how do you feel them out to what extent they're ready to talk about it?
- 6:59Yeah, I think that underlying our jumping is kind of a, I gotta take this opportunity right this minute, it's not gonna come back to me.
- 7:13if I think in terms of, this is the Holy Spirit revealing a work that is under the surface, then it's not such a panic, I gotta do something right this second.
- 7:26The reason I say that is because oftentimes these conversations come up in environments that are not conducive to the gospel.
- 7:34Maybe you're at work and you even have a rule against it that the good news is they brought it up, not you.
- 7:41kind of almost fair game, but it's still work and we're getting paid to work, not to talk about God.
- 7:48And so I like to think of it in terms of
- 7:51we can put that in the back of our mind and say, how can I get this person into an environment that would be conducive for a gospel conversation?
- 8:02so that would be my first thought is, if this is already, this is a conducive environment, I've got the ability to have a half an hour, hour conversation here.
- 8:12Because remember, we can give the gospel and thoroughly in 20 minutes.
- 8:16But if they have questions and we're back and forth and it takes an hour or two, it's much better.
- 8:22And so I would first of all ask, do I have that time?
- 8:26And if I do, then yeah, let's jump on this conversation right now.
- 8:30If not, say, you know, that's a great subject.
- 8:33Let's and I have lunch and then name a date and let's talk about that.
- 8:39And so setting ourselves up to be able to have an in-depth conversation without interruptions, that's really valuable.
- 8:47Yeah.
- 8:47Yeah.
- 8:48So, so valuable.
- 8:49you know, it's, it's, it's, it's a big deal catching people at the right time because it can be a big turnoff when you're trying to catch them in the middle of something.
- 8:58And it kind of feels presumptuous on our, you know, from, from their perspective, we, feels presumptuous to them that we insert ourselves and say, what I have to say to you is
- 9:08more important than what you have to do.
- 9:10Well, that's true.
- 9:11it's still a disregard for them, you know, and that's how they perceive it.
- 9:16So I love finding out the, you know, is this a good time?
- 9:19Once you get past that and you're going to, know, how to, what kind of questions or diagnostic questions come with this divine appointment?
- 9:28Well, I think.
- 9:29Setting yourself up for success is really valuable here.
- 9:32So when they bring this up, don't just say, let's have lunch sometime.
- 9:36Say, you know, I would love to talk about that.
- 9:39And kind of so that they know when we're getting there, we're talking about the subject you brought up.
- 9:44And then I would just remind them, I kind of remember what they said and said, you were saying that you've been reading the Bible lately.
- 9:53How did that come about?
- 9:54What's going on that makes you want to read the Bible?
- 9:57And just start.
- 9:57getting some of their story.
- 9:59Okay, so you're just kind of asking these open-ended questions.
- 10:03We're getting them to talk.
- 10:04When you're dealing with this specific divine appointment, because there's been specific things related to each kind of divine appointment, is there anything else specific to this
- 10:12one that you've taught or there are verses on the Bible that address this kind of person who's seeking?
- 10:18Well, I do think we have to always remember that this is not just an absent passing curiosity on the part of the person that no one seeks after God.
- 10:28And if a person is seeking after God, that's an evidence of the work of the Holy Spirit in their heart.
- 10:33And so that's really the thought process behind all these divine appointments is we're looking and we're seeing people who are seeking God.
- 10:41And the Bible tells us that
- 10:43doesn't happen.
- 10:44So when we see it happening, what we know is that God is at work.
- 10:47God is the one who's drawing.
- 10:49Yeah, yeah.
- 10:51For sure.
- 10:51ah They don't come, think it's John chapter eight, they don't come unless the, or John chapter six, they don't come unless the Father draws them.
- 10:59But.
- 10:59uh
- 11:00sometimes people get upset about that verse and say, well, it doesn't seem, and here's the deal, God is drawing people.
- 11:05mean, it's not like, it doesn't happen very often.
- 11:09God is in the saving business.
- 11:11He's been doing this for thousands of years.
- 11:13He wants to rescue the world.
- 11:15That's why he said Jesus to seek and to save that which was lost.
- 11:18And so we can be confident that
- 11:21Around us right now there are people that got as wound himself.
- 11:24We just have to find them
- 11:25Hmm.
- 11:27guess I have a question for you.
- 11:29That temptation to pounce and kind of almost out the gospel, you know, just throw it all out there at once and feeling like this is the only chance we have.
- 11:39Why do you think we as Christians are tempted that way?
- 11:41I mean, is there any underlying theology, bad theology that makes us like that?
- 11:46I know we're eager for a good thing, but
- 11:48But why do we sometimes blow it in the sense of rushing and not going God's pace?
- 11:54And why do think we're tempted to rush like that?
- 11:56I think there's all different kinds of things, and you might have some thoughts about why you think that is.
- 12:01I sometimes think it's really just an eagerness, an excitement, and what we have to do is temper it with this thought.
- 12:09Most people need more than one touch with the gospel.
- 12:12God has given me a relationship with this person, and if I can utilize this relationship to give them what they need to be able to make a credible decision, then I want to take
- 12:23advantage of that.
- 12:24the opportunity to be able to do that.
- 12:26that's why we love a relational evangelism.
- 12:29It's literally we want to give them what they need to be able to make that life transformative decision that's going to bring them into a living loving relationship with
- 12:41God.
- 12:41Hmm, I love that.
- 12:42Yeah, I think that's phenomenal.
- 12:45you know, considering all of this section of Divine Appointment, somebody who's asking a religious or spiritual question, because they are people who ask a religious spiritual
- 12:55question, is it safe to assume they're coming from a religious or some sort of spiritual background?
- 13:00Is there anything we need to be on guard of in terms of?
- 13:02kind of words we use?
- 13:03we need to be careful about anything in particular, any kind of traps with these kind of divine appointments?
- 13:09I think first of all, unless we know their story, we can't assume anything.
- 13:14You can't come into a circumstance assuming anything.
- 13:17You have to get that story.
- 13:19And that's why I don't think we think about this.
- 13:22We think about evangelism as me kind of preaching.
- 13:26uh this back and forth conversation is so valuable because we have to figure out where that person is and what they're thinking.
- 13:33ah Every single person Jesus dealt with, he dealt with differently because they were thinking differently.
- 13:38Right, right.
- 13:39So I don't know if it's okay to share.
- 13:42I love your thoughts because I haven't actually met with these people yet.
- 13:45They came over initially, but maybe I could, we could talk live.
- 13:48You could coach me live on the air here just a second, but kind of very interesting.
- 13:53Definitely a divine appointment.
- 13:54These folks are moving to the area from another city here in the Valley.
- 13:59They drove by the church.
- 14:02saw the sign and saw that the front three acres of our property has animals on it.
- 14:07And what we do, we rent it out to a lady that boards animals.
- 14:12She's one of our neighbors here in the neighborhood.
- 14:14And they have goats.
- 14:16And that's the connection is they thought, whoa, the husband grew up in a Baptist church 30 miles from here and walked away kind of.
- 14:24She grew up Catholic.
- 14:25They saw we're a Baptist church that has goats close to where they're moving and they feel like, hey, something's happening here.
- 14:32I never would have put all that together, but they did.
- 14:35God did it just like that.
- 14:37Well, they called me and asked me if they can donate the goats and they'd like to meet with me.
- 14:41And I said, well, we can't accept your donation because they're not our animals in that field, but I can put you in touch with that lady.
- 14:48We don't need to be part of it.
- 14:49I mean, if you want to give your goats to her or whatever.
- 14:51They're attached, you know, the goats are almost like pets.
- 14:54They love them and they want to be able to see them and stuff So but you can come over my house.
- 14:59I'd love to talk with you.
- 15:00I Have a Bible study at Fridays at 7 we do a Bible study.
- 15:03We talk through the gospel You're welcome to be part of that.
- 15:06They said well, we're not socially ready We have some anxiety socially.
- 15:11I'm not ready quite to jump into a small group of 10 other people
- 15:15like, we just meet with you and your wife?
- 15:16I said, all right, just come over to the house before the Bible study at four.
- 15:19So they walk to the house, mom, dad, two daughters, their daughters start playing with my daughters.
- 15:25They're playing in the den.
- 15:27Parents and us sit down in the living room and I go, so what's your story?
- 15:32You know, and they start telling us their story and the whole life story and how they kind of walked away and different things.
- 15:39Don't go to church.
- 15:40Mom goes to church.
- 15:42And she said, I'm going to tell you something, but a lot of people kind of poke at me, especially Christians when I've told them this, especially pastors.
- 15:50I said, okay, hit me.
- 15:51And she said, I was raised Catholic.
- 15:54I said, well, I was raised Catholic.
- 15:56So what's the big deal?
- 15:57know, why would I poke fun at you?
- 16:00And so we started talking some more and I just looked at them.
- 16:03said, you know, there's this four week Bible study where we go through four attributes of God.
- 16:09It's called the Exchange Bible Study and it's inductive to 150 verses.
- 16:13We would go through it together.
- 16:15None of the answers are filled in.
- 16:16You get to see the question, see the verses, come to the conclusion that's right there in the Bible.
- 16:22And you get to see the evidence for yourself.
- 16:24Would you be interested?
- 16:25And she just kind of looked at him and said, well, and then she looked back at me she goes, yeah, we'd be interested.
- 16:32I said, all right.
- 16:33You guys are moving on the 29th.
- 16:35Let's help you move.
- 16:36We'll get a crew of guys together.
- 16:38We'll help you get settled in.
- 16:40And when you're settled in enough, let's start our Bible study." She said, deal.
- 16:43And he was really excited.
- 16:46He texted me on Mother's Day and wished my wife a happy Mother's Day.
- 16:49And I wished his wife a happy Mother's Day back.
- 16:51anyway, really already love this family.
- 16:54Really already have a heart for them, praying for them by name.
- 16:58Just want to see God work in their family.
- 17:00Any advice about knowing that about them?
- 17:04Is there anything you would and wouldn't do if you were sitting down with this family?
- 17:08Or would you just go ahead and do the Bible study?
- 17:10No, I think you've already jumped right through the right hoops.
- 17:14You might.
- 17:15I don't know.
- 17:15I mean, you've already asked their story.
- 17:17You've you've gotten the information you need.
- 17:20They know you care.
- 17:21They they see a an acceptance from you.
- 17:24I mean, everything that they need is is just right there.
- 17:28That's beautiful.
- 17:29So I think getting started right there at.
- 17:32God is holy.
- 17:33And just watch their response.
- 17:35See where they're going with it.
- 17:37My guess is that both of them, based on their backgrounds, are going to be really, really impressed with the beauty and the splendor of God.
- 17:49I mean, that's what they're going to come away from lesson one with.
- 17:52Lesson two will probably be a little harder.
- 17:54And so I would just give you the, and I'm sure you would do it anyway.
- 17:58Given that forewarning, know lesson two is a little dark lesson three is my favorite and kind of Prep them for that because it probably will be the hard spot for them
- 18:07Right, right, yeah, I think so.
- 18:10And I think I'm really.
- 18:12for lesson one.
- 18:13It just sounds like they're ready to go.
- 18:14yeah, I think they're, yeah, they're, they're, they're gunning to go.
- 18:18it's, but when we've been talking about this thing on divine appointments and I thought, wow, I was sitting in my living room.
- 18:24thought, wow, you know, Jeff said there was such, yeah.
- 18:28George, I will just say this and I'm saying this for our audience, not for you.
- 18:33If you had not purposely set up them coming to the house and talking, none of this would happen.
- 18:41And so what you did was you recognized it as God working in their lives and then utilized what God was doing to be able to
- 18:50take the steps that you knew were necessary.
- 18:52So I think that's one of the things we have to recognize with divine appointments.
- 18:56Just because we understand this is the hand of God doesn't mean that it's going to fall into place.
- 19:01We still have actions to take.
- 19:03Yeah, I actually been dying to talk with you about this.
- 19:07I think I've come to a realization.
- 19:10I already knew that meeting with people over coffee was a really good thing.
- 19:13And I did many exchange Bible studies that way.
- 19:16But I'm starting to realize that my home is one of the best tools I have.
- 19:22Like for some reason, I didn't realize what it communicates to people when you're hospitable with your own home.
- 19:30It's one thing to be hospitable in a coffee shop.
- 19:33I don't think it means that much but it's still good If your time means a lot but being hospitable in your home is like, I don't know I I can't really quantify.
- 19:43I think I feel like we need to do a whole episode on this
- 19:46Yeah, I think we should.
- 19:46think you're, because I agree with you.
- 19:49I think your best evangelistic tool that you own is your own home.
- 19:54Right.
- 19:55And it just feels, it hits a different in your home.
- 19:58It hits different.
- 20:00Yeah.
- 20:02Okay.
- 20:02Is there anything else we want to do to wrap up divine appointments and this?
- 20:06you know, all of that we've been talking about is kind of commonplace in our day to day.
- 20:14We recognize that we see it, but let's just put a little biblical foundation on this.
- 20:20Here are some examples of biblical divine appointments where we see them in the Bible.
- 20:26Obviously Nicodemus, I mean, that's a perfect one.
- 20:29The woman of the well is not nearly so perfect because
- 20:32Mm.
- 20:32uh Mm.
- 20:36I look at that passage in Acts where Paul is in Corinth and God speaks to him in a dream at night.
- 20:44And he says, Paul, I don't want you to leave here because, and this is the phrase I want us to look at for a second.
- 20:50I have much people in this city.
- 20:52And literally what he is saying is there are people in this city that I'm working in their lives.
- 21:00I'm drawing them to myself and I want you to go look for them.
- 21:06And so that's why I love to say evangelism is like a great treasure hunt.
- 21:10I mean, we're not trying to work it up.
- 21:12We're not trying to make it happen.
- 21:13We're just trying to find the people that God is wooing to himself because we know that he is.
- 21:20And that just changes everything to me.
- 21:22You know what it is, I think too, is it's trusting God's sovereignty, that He is sovereign over relationships.
- 21:29It's what enables us to walk at God's pace in that opportunity.
- 21:34Yeah, yeah, and you don't have to hurry it, you don't have to push it, you don't have to blah, as you would say.
- 21:39You just walk at God's pace, that's a beautiful way of saying it.
- 21:42Yeah, I was just doing some counseling this morning that was in one of the chapters Jerry Bridges wrote in the book, Trusting God, how God is sovereign, not just over events, he's
- 21:51sovereign over people.
- 21:52Absolutely.
- 21:53Another divine appointment that you see in the Bible where that sovereign hand of God comes out is uh Philip and the Ethiopian eunuch.
- 22:00And I think all of us get that one because that Ethiopian eunuch was actually reading from the Bible.
- 22:07There weren't that many Bibles around in those days.
- 22:09So this is very, very amazing that that and it was obvious.
- 22:14mean, Philip immediately knew, oh, this is why God sent me here.
- 22:17But what I wanted everybody to remember is
- 22:20that Philip was in Samaria and God prompted him to go out into the desert.
- 22:26Didn't make any sense.
- 22:27He followed the prompting of God.
- 22:29And then when he was there, this chariot's going by and he says, I want you to go join yourself to the chariot.
- 22:36And if Philip had not obeyed the prompting of Holy Spirit, he would have never known that man was reading the Bible.
- 22:43And I think to myself, wherever you are,
- 22:46I'm sitting in my home today.
- 22:47Wherever you are, we are surrounded by people that God is wooing to himself, but we don't know what's going on behind those closed doors.
- 22:57And so the only way we're ever gonna know is if we join our lives with their lives, then they start revealing what God is doing, what's going on under the surface.
- 23:07So it's just that reminder to me, we have got to purposely connect
- 23:12our lives with unbelievers because that's the only way we're going to find the places where God is working in people's lives.
- 23:18Yeah, I think that's so, so key.
- 23:22we have to find ways to get into people's lives, whether it's, uh, my next door neighbor said we should, we should make pancakes for the whole street.
- 23:30Just on a Saturday morning, just start grilling pancakes and stuff like that, and just start getting to know people.
- 23:36And he wants to get to know people for a different reason than I want to get to know people.
- 23:39But I still think there are really easy ways to get into people's lives.
- 23:43They're not that expensive and not that hard.
- 23:45Yep, yep, and there you are in your home again.
- 23:47We got to talk about this.
- 23:48Yeah, I know.
- 23:49It's on my mind.
- 23:50uh
- 23:51that's awesome.
- 23:51That's awesome.
- 23:53That's it.
- 23:54That's all I got.
- 23:55um I will look forward to next week.
- 23:58Let's talk about utilizing the tools that God has given us, specifically our home.
- 24:02Yeah, I think that's, that'd be great.
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