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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just-Path to a Long and Virtuous Life 9.16.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Now on page 346, Messiah shining more examples, class examples
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  where they asked rabbis 346 asked rabbis in what merit?
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  What did you do right in life? You deserve that.
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  You lived a long life and they all had answers and just not
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  enough. And the answers were all related
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  to doing certain things very well, which really is the idea
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  behind being a hassid. It means you have a certain of
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  the things that you love. You know, people have a passion
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  for something when it comes to taram, it's what it's nice to
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  have Miss Kaidil, It's nice to have a passion.
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  You might be a hassle person, a learning person and item.
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  That's the item. And that's really these rabbles.
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  What they do is they show you their item, that they were
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  extremely strongman or some shalu tamidava, the wisdom in
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  Shamoa. They asked this Rabbi Mamar Dr.
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  Yamim, how'd you marry a long life?
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  I'm Alehem Miyamai, La CT. In my life I never made a cup
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  and I never used a shoe as a shortcut with a deeper point to
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  that. That means in the CASI way of
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  thinking, I was very careful about the respect of the
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  physical shoe. I would it's a big deal to if
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  it's a high you shouldn't walk through a school with a
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  shortcut. You know it's very mean.
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  You want to cut from you know each second to Quinn rose and
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  like that. You shouldn't do that
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  understood, but big deal. That's why he lives alone likes
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  to give to gods. They give us years and grant us
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  more years is a big deal because of this small item.
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  But the idea is what he means to show us his respect for a shoe
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  was to this degree that's a hazy in that area as one example to.
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  Allotted their time when they're born or they're.
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  They're off, you know all that at the time they're going to
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  change is all. There are definitely certain
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  ideas of extensions. Absolutely even for you know,
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  there has a dude Pinon Cavour. This is an idea of being a
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  receipt with regard to respect to a soup.
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  This is coin ubernon quevo de beriot.
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  Similarly, the rabbi also said Lopasati al rosheim kodesh, I
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  wouldn't walk over people's, hey, what the little man was.
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  People used to sit. The rabbis used to sit like on
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  the floor while they were learning.
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  The lower tier rabbis and the bigger tier rabbis either stood
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  up or sat on chairs behind them. This is the set up.
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  So you have the rabbis sitting on the floor in the suit of
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  assemblance and I would not walk over them.
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  I would not step over their heads to get the money.
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  Bigger spots, even though he's saying I'm more important, even
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  though I'm a bigger deal, I'm not slipping over people says
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  sign a small sign of respect, a small sign of respect, no big
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  deal. But you go deeper, follow how
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  important this respect is. Number 1, he was in the right to
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  step over them. That's how you get to your seat.
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  All right, you're on your way to your seat #2 he's more important
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  than they are. Where these are different layers
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  of how a person control respect. They can forego their right.
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  They can try to hide their sense of prominence is all ideas.
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  Like for example, you're a Hashou person and you take
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  yourself down. You're a Hashou person.
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  You don't make yourself into a big deal.
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  You don't carry yourself with errors.
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  That is literally being conscious of other people's
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  well-being and being a Hassid in the area of giving other people
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  respect. And it's a big area of life.
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  One of our biggest areas of character is, you know, not
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  getting into fights in those things.
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  Another big area of character is treating people as human beings
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  and giving every person the proper respect they deserve.
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  A kasi this rabbi was in that area.
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  Because of that, he married a long life Shalom livso al ghabe
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  mesi vaatan not the to step over people sitting there.
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  Shalom Lena ought Kim Evasi Otan not to seem like he was
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  disrespecting them just to avoid seeming like he was
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  disrespecting is enough to marry a long life with these ideas are
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  all that wrong with all these concepts are our concepts and
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  ideas of taking something and being into it.
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  We say it every person has a passion.
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  You know, you're a football fan, you have a passion, you're a
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  baseball fan, you have a passion.
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  And so that I'm it's 4th as well as you can have your items that
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  free your DNA and free your passion.
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  I've always wondered this question about people, certain
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  people who have good character in certain areas.
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  It's something that it almost seems like they were born with,
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  which means growing up they were always nice, which means before
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  they even worked on their character, they had Adna that
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  fit that character, right. But then as they got older, they
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  continued on that projection. They continued on that way and
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  they are now are the really the best character people in those
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  areas. So what is that?
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  Is that them or is that that they worked on themselves?
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  Which one is it? It's a mess.
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  That's a combination. It's a combination of who you
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  are and that's where people oftentimes develop their
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  Hasidut, which is this high idea developable, calling their
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  passion 1st and item. It's a blend, a mix of what they
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  are naturally and what they continue to be through work,
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  through effort. Sometimes you have people who
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  are able to change themselves and and develop a passion
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  against something that's completely against their way.
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  OK, that's a better person. But the average person has a
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  hasidut, has a drive, has something he's passionate about.
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  Usually it fits through his DNA if it's his makeup, but the
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  fashion is taking his makeup and utilizing it for Hashem, but
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  using it for your people and developing yourself, taking a
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  nice person and making him to a real character person, right?
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  For example, taking a person is very diligent, making him into a
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  diligent learner, taking a person who is always on top of
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  things and making him into someone who, let's say worries
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  about other people's lives. You can take your makeup and
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  utilize it for your great development and combined you
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  create. I can create.
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  This is the mindset all chum. Another example we have here are
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  examples of the asked rabbis. What would you do to merit this
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  long life? On each age of the rabbi gives
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  is an insight to another example where a person can have a
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  passion, respect for a shul, respect for people, his Allah
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  shalu tamidab ET rabi peradal they as they prayed as rabbi.
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  But ma harakdi amim amalahan, what did I do to merit long
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  life? Mei Amai Look with Mani Adam
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  Labit Amidash. In my entire life, nobody ever
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  got to show first. I was always the first I in
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  show. It's his thing, you know, people
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  like that. I don't know people like that.
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  They have that thing and it's the thing.
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  They wake up like clockwork, 4 AM, 5:00 AM.
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  No matter what happened, it's just there and you go to show an
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  hour before. They're not even sure why.
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  I don't know. He's just it's just a nature.
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  They don't know what it is. It's a passion.
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  It's this thing exactly you. Don't know that.
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  Again, and me personally, I'm in here.
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  I'm a person if I I can't do it, there's no way I convince it's
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  not I make nature. If I schedule and time myself on
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  planet, I'll still end up time mistake.
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  So I have to tell myself that shul's thoughts at you know a
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  certain time and I'll get there a few minutes later back to
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  everyone has the nature. I'm not saying I'm bad every
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  year. This is not one of my strong
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  suits. And some people have this as a
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  literal DNA. You've seen it to your whole
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  life, stirring guys like that, right?
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  That is their passion. It says the camera.
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  That's how this rabbi, he's painting himself.
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  I think this is what merit helped me merit a long life.
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  Rabbi, you. Have a Saruya in your blood.
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  What was that which Siri? My illness and my my mother's
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  grandfather. He and my grandfather's, he was
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  our early guy chance to hold me because I used to go to the
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  shoe. That's why I used to go to the
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  shoe at the 845 mignon as a 13 year old.
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  I thought I was doing OK. Cool guy, 845,000,000 a
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  grandfather. I would go to the spray then and
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  I would hide in the back of the woman section because we walk
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  in, no sketch, and then we walk in and usually caught us.
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  He's doing his collecting, whatever it is, and he turned to
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  us every time. Yeah, he came from Minnicana,
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  but no, I think the line was they've been the words very
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  early. But when it's hot water, right?
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  And it was like everything, Sir and he he woke up as we.
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  Did be on time? You have to think to yourself,
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  I'm going to be early. Say yeah.
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  Not to be on time to I want to get there on.
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  Time, so Sarah will be early. And you'll be like fine.
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  Next example, show you like this.
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  We took you down a quantum earlier, We'll bring it back up
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  a little bit off the lip. Medical answers the rabbi I
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  never said because the mazon led the zeemon while there was a
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  kohan in the crap. By the way, this rabbi was a guy
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  owner prayed. There was a rabbi who I believe
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  told that person the Gemara 400 times.
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  He's that rabbi. All right.
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  He did a lot of the things in his life but even he would not
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  be willing to say it but aha in the presence of a Kohan because
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  the Kohan deserves the respect even though he's the most
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  respected guy for sure and that is he gets pretty.
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  He wrote the book you. Know exactly the point being is
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  that every person's got the item.
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  Some people have 2-3. You know what's funny about
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  these rabbis? They don't give you 10.
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  They give you one or two items. You can't have 10 passions.
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  I keep trying to look at people if someone tries to do 10 things
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  that they love you and I both know what happens.
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  There's no interesting He's just a very, you know, all over the
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  place kind of guy. He doesn't really buckle himself
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  down. There are people I've said this
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  opinion. I think it's a little bit a
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  little bit controversial. I believe this is true for a
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  it's not so you won't see the controversy in it.
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  But for a learning guy, learning has to be the only thing on
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  their mind that means the only thing.
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  They can't think about anything else while they're in the, you
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  know, the high school years, whatever the years are.
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  And I remember this to myself, actually, I had one thing on my
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  mind while I was learning during the the real years.
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  Sixteen, 1718 years old, there was nothing else.
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  And that means even praying for me took a strong back seat to my
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  learning. Now, that's not the right thing.
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  The right thing is you should be learning and praying and doing.
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  Jesse Ha Moussard You have to have over time, a balance.
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  But as you develop and as you create a passion, you have to
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  really be singly focused. One or two things.
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  Focus on your passion the same way when you're in work right
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  and you have a project, it's not the time during that project you
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  want to develop a new line or you want to find work on a new
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  customer. It's not the right time during
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  that project till you're busy with your other inventory.
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  Let that come later on when things are slow, right when you
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  are required for right now, you are developing a passion.
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  You have to be all in and it's a reality when we want to become a
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  Hassid in the area and that fits your building, that fits your
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  type and you want to develop yourself, whether it be to like
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  praying when you feel like you want to get involved in this, go
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  all in and address other things later.
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  You know, don't think it's one of the the main thing you're not
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  mentioning it is Kabuto Abaya. Sure.
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  I made her example I wanted to. Write the show and forget about
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  your. Parents.
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  Absolutely. You moved.
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  To it. That's actually an easy one.
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  I'm. Going to learn and I don't care
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  if my mother needs me to. No shot which of that you know,
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  whatever. It's the wrong thing.
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  And that's actually an easy one, because then the mother doesn't
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  even mention that one because that's a pursuit, The mother.
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  How'd you get a long life? We know a long life comes from
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  spite in our parents. These are actually indications.
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  These are examples of unique ideas.
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  That's the obvious we just mentioned.
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  Another example of the rabbi mentioned, there's a haseeb for
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  the Halti me Behemash, lower mammatnotea.
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  Every animal since in those days had certain parts of the animal
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  had to be given as a gift to the qurani.
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  I wouldn't eat from a from an animal before its gifts were
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  given. All right.
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  Creative bounds. Bama roads I'm Ruiz shalu du du
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  almor Shalu Tamil David be mehunya Bama herachta Yamim
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  would help you marry long life Amalahan MI amai Luna paldi
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  beacon havila. We'll do this and this will be
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  our last one for today. My friend some someone said a
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  joke about my friend in our presence.
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  Funny, you know, and maybe they called him chubby so and so, or
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  they made some sort of light humor about the guy.
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  I wouldn't smile, I wouldn't laugh.
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  I wouldn't, I wouldn't know he's pile on.
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  I would not allow myself to enjoy so and so's embarrassment.
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  Now you think that further, you hear this guy who ruined you and
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  now who wronged you doesn't really wrong to you, right?
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  And now you hear and he's suffering financially.
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  Naturally, there is an automatic feeling of certain level of
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  satisfaction saying to yourself, he's getting what he deserves.
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  He's getting what he's coming to him, right?
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  We all have that feeling suffering.
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  So I felt that feeling that is again, a wrong feeling.
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  And by the way, not to get political, but I'll say this
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  anyhow. The reason that there are
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  crazies today, and they are crazy, who are actually
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  publicizing their Glee over a nice individual getting shot
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  last week is because they overdid this concept, which
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  means they hated the light. They couldn't stomach the fact
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  that this person is a Chris Clear speaker who's young, who
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  is dynamic, who is building a massive following toward
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  something they don't believe in. And by the way, if anyone judges
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  these people for hating him, yeah, out of your mind, it makes
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  sense. They hate him.
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  He's building up the other side. They can't stomach it.
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  That's all normal. What took them over the top is
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  when now the guy got shot and they're revealing their Glee.
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  That's over the top. And by the way, you surprised?
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  I'm not surprised. They don't like he died.
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  He's not their brother anyhow. They don't know him.
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  They don't see him as a human being.
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  They don't have that human relevant to it.
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  They've gotten dehumanized us for sure.
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  So now of course they can Glee and any of them on that side who
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  are not revealing their Glee are just covering it up.
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  Of course they have that Glee and they're not surprising.
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  That's how people are. Once a guy lives in a different
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  town, you don't really know who he is personally of no fan.
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  He's not a human being to you, he's another being on earth and
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  he doesn't he he goes the other side.
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  People who are making the reveal that these people have Glee are
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  fooling themselves. Of course they have Glee because
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  they dehumanize the entire existence.
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  But what that is, is taking something to an extreme.
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  They had a guy who they didn't like who's on the other side,
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  like I said, is dynamic, who's building up a world, who really,
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  with his own words, can easily make Republicans win for years.
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  They're terrified that it's against stiff, and they pile on
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  the fact that he's also somehow racist in their mind.
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  And before you know it, they have Glee.
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  It's within education. But that is of strong degree of
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  sermea clon Javiero, his other person is not like him, hurt him
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  once is anti him and he has a downfall.
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  They have Glee and this is how people get and in today in 2025,
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  people take everything to an extreme.
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  So they took that to an extreme as well.
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  But it's not as surprising as they make it.
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  I was listening last night in my car.
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  I don't know, 945 a night. They had like one of these.
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  My favorite thing are these, what do they call the montage
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  when they put together the, the the recordings and they have all
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  these crazy people saying things or handing to things about this
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  guy and you're like, are these people out of their mind?
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  And then you realize, not surprised at all, they are out
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  of their mind and it is not entering extreme.
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  This is how the world is and this is but it's how people get
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  when they dehumanize themselves. Go stop this.