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Episode 69: Autumn Calabrese, Beachbody Trainer · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdlers.
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Speaker 2: Emily A Body here with a new episode of Hurdle,
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Speaker 2: a podcast that talks to everyone from entrepreneurs to top
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Speaker 2: CEOs and athletes about how they've gotten through tough times
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Speaker 2: hurdles of sorts by leaning into wellness.
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Speaker 1: I have the biggest smile.
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Speaker 2: Plastered on my face right now because I'm just so
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Speaker 2: grateful for all of you. This past week, since the
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Speaker 1: The past week's been unbelievable.
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Speaker 2: And I just know that it's just the beginning of
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Speaker 2: so many things to come, and it just encourages me
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Speaker 2: to keep working hard, to keep going out of my
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Speaker 2: way to make time to create this thing that hopefully
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Speaker 2: affects and has the chance to impact so many. So
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Speaker 2: thank you, genuinely from the bottom of my soul for listening,
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Speaker 2: for engaging, and for hanging out with me. This week
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Speaker 2: episode sixty nine, I am chatting with Autumn Calibrese. You
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Speaker 2: Autumn has been danced saying ever since she was a
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Speaker 2: really little girl. But when she was young, she had
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Speaker 2: a mysterious injury and pain in her hip that left
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Speaker 2: her unable to walk for almost a week. It was
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Speaker 2: that lingering pain that caused her to delay getting really
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Speaker 2: into dance until she was a teenager. And by that time,
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Speaker 2: a lot of the other dancers that she was up
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Speaker 2: against so that she.
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Speaker 1: Was interacting with they have a lot of years on her.
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Speaker 2: So she applied to all of her dream schools as
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Speaker 2: a dancer, and she ultimately got into a small performing
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Speaker 2: arts college. While she was there, a difficult ballet master,
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Speaker 2: which is like the funniest little title I've ever heard.
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Speaker 2: He made it even more difficult for her to pursue
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Speaker 2: her dancing dreams. He told her that he would never
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Speaker 2: place her in performance, that she didn't have what it
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Speaker 2: took to make it in the field, and that negative
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Speaker 2: feedback really weed on her. It really hurt her confidence.
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Speaker 2: So she decided to do the best she could with
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Speaker 2: what she had and pursue another dream, pursue something else.
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Speaker 1: That's when she went into personal training.
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Speaker 2: As a personal trainer, she was out in California, she
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Speaker 2: made her first home program called Home and Family, and
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Speaker 2: then she tells me in today's episode that through the
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Speaker 2: word of mouth from different clients, she finally got a
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Speaker 2: call from the people at Each Body and that is
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Speaker 2: when everything changed.
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Speaker 1: In today's episode, we talk.
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Speaker 2: All about creating her first program for the Fitness Mega brand,
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Speaker 2: and she'll talk about that in a little bit.
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Speaker 1: And the pressure is.
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Speaker 2: That she felt when she realized that she had the
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Speaker 2: opportunity to impact the lives of literally millions of people
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Speaker 2: all over the country and the world. This woman has
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Speaker 2: worked her butt off to get where she is today.
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Speaker 2: We talk about what some of the failures that she's
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Speaker 2: experienced have really taught her and the things that she's
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Speaker 2: excited for in the near future. Let me tell you
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Speaker 2: she's a pine sized powerhouse and there's no doubt in
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Speaker 2: my mind.
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Speaker 1: You guys are gonna love this episode.
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Speaker 2: As always, you know the drill at Emily Body at
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Speaker 2: Hurdle Podcast. If you have a hurdle moment of your
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Speaker 2: guys in a timely manner and I so appreciate all
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Speaker 2: the comments, all the dms, all the emails. It's Emily
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Speaker 2: at Hurdle dot us. With that, let's get to hurdling.
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Speaker 1: Today.
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Speaker 2: I'm sitting down with Autumn Calabrese. She is well known
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Speaker 2: for her work with Beach Body in the twenty one
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Speaker 2: Day Fix. She's also a trainer on this season of
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Speaker 2: Revenge Body. You've worked with Kendall Jenner, You've worked with
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Speaker 2: Brooke Burke, You've worked with Rachel Zoe.
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Speaker 1: You've got a pretty impressive clientele roster. Thank you.
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Speaker 3: You know, I'd like to say this, I had a
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Speaker 3: pretty impressive clientele roster, and I actually consider my my
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Speaker 3: quote unquote clientele roster now more impressive. It's always fun
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Speaker 3: when you get to work with people in the public,
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Speaker 3: in the celebrity I but I get to train the
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Speaker 3: masses now. That's creating my at homework out programs that
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Speaker 3: lets me reach hundreds of thousands, if not millions, And
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Speaker 3: that clientele is where the honor is.
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Speaker 4: Really.
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Speaker 3: Not that there's anything wrong with training celebrities, but it's
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Speaker 3: just when you see those people's lives, those people that
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Speaker 3: are just so desperate for help, looking for an answer,
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Speaker 3: that are struggling, that don't have the ability to hire
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Speaker 3: a personal trainer to come to their house five days
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Speaker 3: a week and a shift come to their house and
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Speaker 3: all that stuff. When you get to step into their
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Speaker 3: world via the television and completely change their life like that,
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Speaker 3: to me is the impressive roster.
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Speaker 1: I can totally hear that.
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Speaker 2: So you don't just start training hundreds of thousands to
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Speaker 2: millions of people over night.
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Speaker 1: Talk to me a little bit about growing up. Where
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Speaker 1: are you from?
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Speaker 3: I was born and raised in Cleveland, Ohio, Okay, lived
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Speaker 3: there till I was fifteen, lived in Saint Louis after
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Speaker 3: that for about eight years, so did high school and
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Speaker 3: college in Saint Louis. Had a very short stint in
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Speaker 3: Jersey for six months second semester of my senior year.
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Speaker 4: Of high school. So I've lived a little bit everywhere.
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Speaker 2: Did you know growing up in Ohio that you had
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Speaker 2: an interest in fitness and wellness?
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Speaker 3: I want wanted to be a dancer, so I grew
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Speaker 3: up as a dancer. That's actually what I majored in
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Speaker 3: in college. I grew up wanting to entertain, I grew
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Speaker 3: up wanting to perform, and I grew up wanting to
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Speaker 3: move people in some way. I knew that since I
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Speaker 3: was a little little girl, Like it's a running joke
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Speaker 3: that I came out of the womb dancing. So I
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Speaker 3: guess somewhere in me was that passion to move my
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Speaker 3: body and somewhere in me was that passion to help people?
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Speaker 2: Okay, and when you say you grew up dancing, what
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Speaker 2: kind of dance are we talking about?
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Speaker 4: I did everything I did.
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Speaker 3: Jazz, ballet, tap, modern, lyrical jazz is my favorite, always
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Speaker 3: has been.
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Speaker 1: But yeah, I was a dance major in college. And
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Speaker 1: where was college?
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Speaker 4: You said what college.
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Speaker 3: Was in Saint Louis. I went to Webster University. Okay,
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Speaker 3: small performing arts college.
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Speaker 4: Did not graduate, but I did go for most of it.
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Speaker 2: So the question then comes up is that were you
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Speaker 2: always really good at it? Because God, I can tell
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Speaker 2: you that when I was dancing and I was younger,
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Speaker 2: there were plenty of people in that class that you know.
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Speaker 1: It took a little took a little bit of work.
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Speaker 3: No, I wasn't, and I wouldn't. I never considered myself
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Speaker 3: I was never the best in the class.
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Speaker 4: Ever.
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Speaker 3: I actually started behind the eight ball. I had an
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Speaker 3: issue with my hip when I was a little kid.
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Speaker 3: Woke up one day and couldn't walk, fell out of bed,
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Speaker 3: ended up in the hospital for like two weeks. Every
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Speaker 3: test known to man run on me. They never found
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Speaker 3: out what was wrong. I kind of got I just
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Speaker 3: got better. So for a long time, my parents were
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Speaker 3: very cautious of the activities that they would let me
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Speaker 3: do since they didn't know what was wrong, they didn't
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Speaker 3: know what could.
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Speaker 4: Cause it again.
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Speaker 3: So I didn't get to start dance until I was thirteen.
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Speaker 3: Most girls had already been dancing for five, six, seven years,
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Speaker 3: so I was always behind the eight ball. But I
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Speaker 3: might not have been the best technical dancer in the room,
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Speaker 3: but I promise you I was probably always the dancer with.
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Speaker 4: The most heart.
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Speaker 2: The most heart, I think that's what's important, right, Yes, Okay,
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Speaker 2: So you never found out what was up with your hip.
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Speaker 1: It just slowly got better.
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Speaker 4: Never found out.
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Speaker 3: I can make educated guesses as an adult because I
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Speaker 3: still have physical issues. So I have a bulging disc
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Speaker 3: in my lower spine in my L four L five.
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Speaker 3: So when that disc slips out, I am down and
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Speaker 3: out for a good ten days. The funny thing is
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Speaker 3: is it never slips out when I'm doing physical activity.
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Speaker 3: It slips out when I like bend over to put
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Speaker 3: on a pair of sox and move the wrong way,
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Speaker 3: and then I'm like and I'm down, or like bend over,
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Speaker 3: blow drying your hair and you move the wrong way,
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Speaker 3: like it's random things.
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Speaker 4: It's very rare, knock on wood, that.
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Speaker 3: It goes out on me anymore, because I've taken a
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Speaker 3: lot of caution in strengthening the areas that need to
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Speaker 3: be strengthened on my body, stretching when I need to,
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Speaker 3: and it's really The last time it went out on
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Speaker 3: me was just over two years ago, and in fact,
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Speaker 3: it went out and I sprained my entire hip complex
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Speaker 3: at one time. So that was one of the scariest
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Speaker 3: things I've ever experienced.
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Speaker 2: You mentioned something really interesting that you've taken the time
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Speaker 2: to strengthen the things that you need to strengthen to
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Speaker 2: accommodate for the fact that you have this pack issue.
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Speaker 2: I don't think a lot of the time when people
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Speaker 2: have an injury, they truly understand that everything is so interconnected.
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, So when you say that you took that
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Speaker 2: time to strengthen, what are you focusing on when it
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Speaker 2: comes to lower back pain.
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Speaker 3: So a lot of lower back pain comes from either
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Speaker 3: week of dominos or too tight of hip flexers, not
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Speaker 3: strong glutes, so all of it. It's not just one thing.
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Speaker 3: So I'm always I warm up before my workouts I
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Speaker 3: foam roll before my workouts because a tight muscle is
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Speaker 3: not a strong muscle, so I make sure I don't
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Speaker 3: have knots in my muscles. One of the biggest reasons
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Speaker 3: I developed eighty day obsession was a My boss asked
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Speaker 3: me for an ABS and ASS program. That's what he said,
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Speaker 3: I want an ABS and ASS program. And I said, okay,
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Speaker 3: but I'm gonna give you a functional ABS and ASS program,
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Speaker 3: meaning like it's going to have a purpose, not just like,
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Speaker 3: look how good my abs and butt look. Because we
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Speaker 3: sit all day long, and we hunch over computers and
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Speaker 3: phones all day long. So I'm not the only person
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Speaker 3: with back issues. There's so many of us. So I
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Speaker 3: wanted to really develop something that taught people how to
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Speaker 3: strengthen those areas because that's what I had spent so
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Speaker 3: much of my time learning.
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Speaker 4: Okay, if I.
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Speaker 3: Strengthened this, this doesn't hurt anymore. If I stretch this,
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Speaker 3: this doesn't hurt anymore. If I build that, I can
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Speaker 3: move my legs properly if I'm moving from my glutes.
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Speaker 4: So yeah, it takes a little time and learning, but
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Speaker 4: that's what I did.
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Speaker 2: Okay, So you're in college, you're a dance major. What
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Speaker 2: do you think you're gonna do with your life?
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Speaker 4: I wanted to dance, and I wanted to act.
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Speaker 3: I wanted I knew, always knew I wanted to move
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Speaker 3: to California. That like, since I was itty bitty, I
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Speaker 3: would run around the house saying I'm gonna live in California,
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Speaker 3: and my dad would always tell me, like, no, you're
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Speaker 3: not watch me. So I thought I was gonna dance.
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Speaker 3: I really did, Like I wasn't exactly sure. I didn't
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Speaker 3: know if I would be dancing on a tour or
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Speaker 3: dancing in music videos. You know, I'm a child of
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Speaker 3: the eighties, which means I was in college in the nineties.
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Speaker 3: That's when music videos were hot, hot hot.
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Speaker 4: You know, you had Britney Spears and Christina Ana.
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Speaker 3: Guilera and then Sink and all these people that dance,
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Speaker 3: like really dance, and Janet Jackson and even Will Smith.
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Speaker 3: Like you had all these people that danced. So I
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Speaker 3: wanted to do that. My back was never.
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Speaker 4: Gonna let me do it, right.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I would say or argue that the Will
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Speaker 2: Smith dance video is a little bit different than the
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Speaker 2: Britney Spears dance video.
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Speaker 1: They are, but I still loved that getting jiggy with it.
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Speaker 2: Come on, okay, So we thought we were gonna dance,
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Speaker 2: thought we were gonna dance, and that's not what happened.
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Speaker 3: That is not what happened. And that was that was
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Speaker 3: a tough pill to swallow. So I was my junior
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Speaker 3: year of college. I was battling a couple things. I
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Speaker 3: was battling my back, which was also causing k me issues.
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Speaker 3: And my ballet master, who was in charge of the
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Speaker 3: entire dance program at Webster. He was awful, like he
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Speaker 3: was the epitome of what dance instructors are and what
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Speaker 3: they shouldn't be. So this man tore me down on
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Speaker 3: a daily basis, like always told me I wasn't good enough.
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Speaker 3: I wasn't trying hard enough. It didn't matter how what
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Speaker 3: I brought to the class, it was never going to
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Speaker 3: be enough for him. He was a ballet dancer. He
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Speaker 3: wanted me to be a ballet dancer. And that is
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Speaker 3: not my strong suit. No matter how hard I tried,
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Speaker 3: and I would always try my best, it just wasn't
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Speaker 3: my thing. I was a chance dancer. And so junior year,
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Speaker 3: I sneezed at one point and it took me to
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Speaker 3: the ground like just a sneeze, literally dropped me to
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Speaker 3: the ground, couldn't get back up.
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Speaker 4: Went to the doctor.
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Speaker 3: The doctor, that's when I found out about the bulging disc,
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Speaker 3: the ball.
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Speaker 4: It's there's so many things.
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Speaker 3: It's quite interesting that I'm in the fitness world because
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Speaker 3: of it. Like my hips are off, my one leg
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Speaker 3: is longer than the other by like a half an.
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Speaker 1: Inch half an inch.
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Speaker 3: It's a big difference. Yeah, it's a big difference. And
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Speaker 3: so it all throws all my alignment off.
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Speaker 1: Immediately.
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Speaker 2: Just looked at your sneakers to look if you had
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Speaker 2: a lifter in one of that. I don't have a
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Speaker 2: list to see that. Okay, I probably should.
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Speaker 4: But I don't.
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Speaker 3: Uh. And so when I went to the doctor, he said,
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Speaker 3: he said to me, like, look, if you keep dancing
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Speaker 3: as much as you are, because I was dancing about
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Speaker 3: six or seven hours a day. You keep dancing the
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Speaker 3: way you are, you'll be in back surgery at twenty
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Speaker 3: And he said, Or you can stop dancing this much,
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Speaker 3: you can do it recreationally as fun, and you probably
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Speaker 3: will never have to have back surgery. So every thing
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Speaker 3: I spent my entire life working towards was like, great,
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Speaker 3: keep going, You're gonna end up in back surgery and
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Speaker 3: you probably won't be doing this anyways or find something
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Speaker 3: new to.
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Speaker 4: Do with your life.
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Speaker 3: So I actually left, and at the same time, my
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Speaker 3: ballet master basically sat me down and told me he
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Speaker 3: was never going.
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Speaker 4: To cast me in the final show.
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Speaker 3: He just didn't This man did not like me, and
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Speaker 3: he was like, I'm never gonna cast you in the
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Speaker 3: final show, and if you don't get cast in the
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Speaker 3: final show, you won't ever graduate with your degree.
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Speaker 4: So basically he was.
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Speaker 3: Telling me there's no point in you being here because
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Speaker 3: I'm never gonna let you graduate. So I was like,
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Speaker 3: all right, well then I guess I'm not graduating.
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Speaker 4: So I left.
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Speaker 3: I wasn't gonna stay in school not knowing what I
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Speaker 3: wanted to do, so I left.
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Speaker 4: I took some time.
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Speaker 3: For a minute, I thought I wanted to be a
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Speaker 3: physical therapist and work with injured dancers like that seemed
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Speaker 3: kind of maybe like a direction I wanted to go,
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Speaker 3: but then ended up not being And eventually I packed
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Speaker 3: my bags and had it to California.
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Speaker 1: Finally just gonna.
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Speaker 3: Go do it, like because I could still audition, I
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Speaker 3: could audition for commercials and movies, and I was taking
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Speaker 3: acting classes out here, and I was doing all that.
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Speaker 4: And it was going okay.
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Speaker 3: I got my sag card. I was doing little things
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Speaker 3: here and there, but it just wasn't enough. I was
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Speaker 3: still waiting tables to pay the bills. I had met
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Speaker 3: My then boyfriend became my fiance was you know, we
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Speaker 3: ended up getting married, but at the time he was
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Speaker 3: he's significantly older than me. He was not comfortable with
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Speaker 3: me pursuing acting and dancing. He's like, that's not very
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Speaker 3: financially stable for us to like get married and start
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Speaker 3: a family. And so that's when I started looking. I
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Speaker 3: was already looking for other career things to do, but
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Speaker 3: that's when I really started looking for something else to do.
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Speaker 2: And is that when you kind of started to lean
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Speaker 2: into personal training.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, So people kept saying, why don't you become a
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Speaker 3: dance teacher, Why don't you become a dance teacher?
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Speaker 4: And that was too hard for me. It was so
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Speaker 4: close to my heart.
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Speaker 3: It was so emotional for me that I couldn't do
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Speaker 3: it the way I wanted to do it anymore. That
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Speaker 3: I didn't want to teach it like I stepped away
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Speaker 3: from it for four years. I didn't step foot in
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Speaker 3: a dance class.
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Speaker 2: I can't even imagine what it's got to be like
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Speaker 2: to feel so passionate about something for so long in
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Speaker 2: your life and then literally having no other choice but
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Speaker 2: to step back from it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was traumatizing. It was really emotional. Like I said,
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Speaker 3: it really messed with my confidence level. It messed with
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Speaker 3: what I felt I was capable of doing. But I
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Speaker 3: knew I loved being physically active, and I knew I
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Speaker 3: liked helping people, and so that's when I decided I
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Speaker 3: was going to become.
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Speaker 4: A personal trainer.
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Speaker 2: I think this is also something important to mention with
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Speaker 2: regard to becoming injured, because I think a lot of
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Speaker 2: individuals really struggle with this idea that, whether it's dance
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Speaker 2: or running or CrossFit or whatever your sport is, when
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Speaker 2: you get injured and you become down and out and
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Speaker 2: you realize that you really need to take a step back,
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Speaker 2: that really messes with your headspace. It messes with your
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Speaker 2: sense of self worth. It canfus you as to how
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Speaker 2: you're supposed to let go of a lot of the
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Speaker 2: aggression and the stress and the things that we deal
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Speaker 2: with every day, so I can definitely see some parallels drawn.
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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, in between the.
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Speaker 3: Two, when it's sort of your identity, it's when then
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Speaker 3: it's gone, You're you're left to figure out who you
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Speaker 3: are without that right, which in a way is a
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Speaker 3: great thing, right, Like it's a blessing in disguise. I
16:23
Speaker 3: really believe that things are not failures, that they're redirects,
16:27
Speaker 3: and I was definitely being redirected. It took a really
16:30
Speaker 3: long time. It's actually funny because we were talking about this.
16:32
Speaker 3: Before we started about I said, there's so many hurdles, like.
16:35
Speaker 4: Let's pick one. How do we pick one?
16:38
Speaker 3: And as we're talking about this, it's interesting because I
16:41
Speaker 3: think my dance teacher, my college dance teacher, probably did
16:45
Speaker 3: one of the biggest numbers on me possible, like, really
16:48
Speaker 3: really messed me up emotionally in terms of self confidence
16:54
Speaker 3: and what I felt I was capable of doing. And
16:59
Speaker 3: I had to face it head on with Beach Body. Yeah,
17:03
Speaker 3: and not with my first program, not with my second program,
17:06
Speaker 3: not with my third program, all of which had done
17:08
Speaker 3: very well. So at that point you would think, great,
17:12
Speaker 3: your self confidence must be sky high, which it was
17:15
Speaker 3: until my boss called me into his office and told
17:17
Speaker 3: me what he wanted my fourth program to be. And
17:19
Speaker 3: he said, I know you like country music, right and
17:21
Speaker 3: I said yeah, And he's like, I want you to
17:22
Speaker 3: do a dance program with country music, so based like
17:28
Speaker 3: not country line dancing, but sort of around that theme,
17:31
Speaker 3: creating moves to the music. That's very simple, beginner level.
17:36
Speaker 3: And every fear I had came rushing back, and every insecurity,
17:43
Speaker 3: every doubt that I had in my ability to create
17:47
Speaker 3: that program came back and.
17:52
Speaker 4: Working on it. Working on it was a blessing.
17:55
Speaker 3: But like I said, it really made me face every
17:58
Speaker 3: one of those insecurities work through them. It wasn't just
18:01
Speaker 3: a like, it wasn't an I simple like, Okay, we're
18:05
Speaker 3: going to do this. I mean there was emotional breakdowns
18:08
Speaker 3: to myself more often than not, but there was a
18:11
Speaker 3: lot because when we went into development on it, it
18:15
Speaker 3: took seven versions before we got to the version that
18:18
Speaker 3: my boss approved, and we were running out of time. Yeah,
18:21
Speaker 3: like he was about to switch programs on me because
18:24
Speaker 3: he was like, we're not getting it.
18:26
Speaker 4: It's not what I want.
18:27
Speaker 3: I don't and he didn't know how to explain to
18:28
Speaker 3: me what he wanted so I was like trying to
18:30
Speaker 3: read his mind, and I had one more shot at it,
18:33
Speaker 3: and we sat down at a table and I was like, walk.
18:36
Speaker 4: Me through again what you want, like, explain it to
18:38
Speaker 4: me again. Let me just see.
18:39
Speaker 3: And the way he explained it to me, it finally
18:41
Speaker 3: clicked and I was like, Oh, you don't want to
18:43
Speaker 3: dance routine, you want steps. And I was like, okay,
18:47
Speaker 3: got it. But that was months months of trying and
18:49
Speaker 3: then months of development and months of being nitpicked and
18:54
Speaker 3: like I need more queueing and I need this and so,
18:56
Speaker 3: like I said, it really it really was something that
19:01
Speaker 3: brought up every insecurity I had.
19:03
Speaker 2: Before we move on, tell me a little bit about
19:05
Speaker 2: what beach Body is.
19:07
Speaker 4: So, beach Body.
19:09
Speaker 3: Is a company that creates at home fitness and nutrition programs.
19:13
Speaker 3: Most people are most familiar with P ninety X from
19:16
Speaker 3: Tony Horton. So Tony Horton was one of the first
19:19
Speaker 3: trainers that beach Body ever had. So beach Body is
19:22
Speaker 3: owned by Carl Deichler, and beach Body puts out the program,
19:26
Speaker 3: so they find the trainer that you know, we develop
19:29
Speaker 3: it together with the beach Body team, then we film it.
19:33
Speaker 4: Then beach Body sells.
19:35
Speaker 3: The program, and Beach Body actually kind of has two
19:38
Speaker 3: different markets.
19:38
Speaker 4: They have for years they had the infomercial market.
19:42
Speaker 3: Where they would sell it on TV and you could
19:43
Speaker 3: just buy it direct like that, and then they also
19:46
Speaker 3: have the coaching market, so which is a multi level
19:48
Speaker 3: marketing side of it, where people can be a Beach
19:50
Speaker 3: Body coach and they are they put groups together where
19:54
Speaker 3: but basically the coach is like your support system. You're
19:57
Speaker 3: your cheerleader for you. They help you find the program
19:59
Speaker 3: that's right for you. They're your accountability partner. They check
20:02
Speaker 3: in on you to make sure you're having success. So
20:05
Speaker 3: you can go either way with it. You know, you
20:06
Speaker 3: can just go online and order things right just automatically
20:09
Speaker 3: from Beach Body. You can get beach Body on demand
20:11
Speaker 3: where all the workout programs are listed.
20:13
Speaker 4: My cooking show is on.
20:14
Speaker 3: There, or you can buy it through a coach, which
20:16
Speaker 3: is all the same thing at all, and you all
20:18
Speaker 3: end up in the same place. It's just whether or
20:20
Speaker 3: not you want that extra accountability cheerleader, that cheerleader, that
20:23
Speaker 3: person of like, Hey, I'm not doing this on my own,
20:25
Speaker 3: so I need somebody to call me and be like,
20:27
Speaker 3: did you press play today?
20:28
Speaker 2: And sometimes we all need someone like yeah, totally, we
20:31
Speaker 2: do uh to reflect on this idea of the dance
20:34
Speaker 2: coach and then even your boss making you feel at
20:36
Speaker 2: times like you were less or a little inferior. I
20:40
Speaker 2: mean we all have people like that in our lives.
20:42
Speaker 2: I think that what is so important in a constant
20:46
Speaker 2: battle for me, and I'm sure you experience it as
20:48
Speaker 2: well as is coming to terms with this idea that
20:51
Speaker 2: like you are good as you are, and because someone
20:54
Speaker 2: thinks something about you, that doesn't mean that that's how
20:58
Speaker 2: you are. That doesn't mean that's who you are are.
21:00
Speaker 2: What it means is that, all right, this is this
21:02
Speaker 2: person's opinion. But it's so important to get to a
21:05
Speaker 2: place where you feel confident in what you have to
21:08
Speaker 2: bring to the table, knowing that that criticism doesn't define you.
21:12
Speaker 3: Right well, I love the saying that other people's opinions
21:15
Speaker 3: are running your business, for sure. I love that because
21:18
Speaker 3: you know, everybody's got an opinion about everybody, and that person,
21:23
Speaker 3: like you said, that person's opinion really isn't It's not
21:26
Speaker 3: a reflection of you. The only thing that matters is
21:28
Speaker 3: your opinion. And I don't think my boss ever made
21:30
Speaker 3: me feel inferior. In fact, if anything, he was the
21:33
Speaker 3: one building me up always. But that doesn't mean, you know,
21:36
Speaker 3: he didn't have a company you run in a vision
21:38
Speaker 3: that he had. But it's interesting how you can take
21:43
Speaker 3: what somebody is asking of you and turn it into
21:47
Speaker 3: I'm not doing it good enough. I'm not giving them
21:50
Speaker 3: what they need, I'm not bringing my best self to
21:53
Speaker 3: the table, which is never what was actually being said
21:56
Speaker 3: or even remotely implied. But when you've got that deep
22:00
Speaker 3: seated history of me, for me, the dance teacher telling
22:04
Speaker 3: me straight out I wasn't good enough, straight out I
22:06
Speaker 3: didn't try hard enough. I was never gonna make it.
22:10
Speaker 3: That can't help but play in the background so that
22:13
Speaker 3: when somebody corrected, gives you corrective criticism or you know,
22:17
Speaker 3: constructive criticism.
22:21
Speaker 1: You flip it totally.
22:22
Speaker 4: You flip it.
22:23
Speaker 3: And that's something that we have to learn for ourselves
22:26
Speaker 3: to silence that yeah and to not let that past
22:30
Speaker 3: define us.
22:31
Speaker 2: Talk to me about what it was like when the first,
22:34
Speaker 2: the second, and the third programs really caught on like wildfire,
22:38
Speaker 2: because I think we skipped over becoming a personal trainer
22:42
Speaker 2: and throwing into this beach body thing. So how did
22:44
Speaker 2: you even transition into a place where you went from
22:48
Speaker 2: personal trainer working out of god knows what Jim in
22:51
Speaker 2: California to finding Beach Body and creating these programs.
22:55
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a super long story, but it basically I
22:59
Speaker 3: was a trained at Equinox. I also had a lot
23:01
Speaker 3: of private clients at the time. And yes, I had
23:06
Speaker 3: private clients that were in front of the camera, but
23:07
Speaker 3: I had a lot of private clients that were sort
23:09
Speaker 3: of in the entertainment industry but on the back end
23:11
Speaker 3: side of it, and I was working on creating a
23:14
Speaker 3: product that helped people with portion control. That was something
23:18
Speaker 3: that I was seeing that was a big problem for
23:20
Speaker 3: so many clients was that I would be kicking their
23:22
Speaker 3: butt in the gym five days a week and they
23:25
Speaker 3: would be going up and down five pounds. And I
23:27
Speaker 3: had one client in particular, who I had become very
23:29
Speaker 3: good friends with at the same time. We went out
23:31
Speaker 3: to lunch one day after her workout and we had
23:35
Speaker 3: ordered salads, and these salads were enormous, and she basically
23:38
Speaker 3: ate the entire salad. I had a portion of it,
23:41
Speaker 3: and looking across the table, it was sort of like
23:44
Speaker 3: that aha moment of like that's our problem.
23:46
Speaker 4: And that's why I said to her.
23:48
Speaker 3: I was like, that's your problem, and she's like, what,
23:50
Speaker 3: I had a salad and I was like, yeah, it's
23:52
Speaker 3: not just a salad in California, We've got all the
23:56
Speaker 3: nutritional information on the menus. So we pulled up the
23:58
Speaker 3: menu and sure enough, the salad was like fifteen hundred calories.
24:01
Speaker 3: It was really like six servings of vegetables for four
24:05
Speaker 3: or five servings of carbohydrates. It was lettuce and pasta
24:08
Speaker 3: and croutons and broccoli and feta, cheese and chicken and
24:11
Speaker 3: salad dressing to cover a salad that big. So she
24:14
Speaker 3: had eaten almost all of her calories for the day
24:16
Speaker 3: in that one meal. She had stretched out her stomach,
24:19
Speaker 3: which means she was going to go really long time
24:22
Speaker 3: without eating again because she was probably going to be
24:24
Speaker 3: a little overly full. Her digestion was going to be
24:27
Speaker 3: a little bit harder because how much she had just
24:28
Speaker 3: put in there. So all of it just started rushing
24:30
Speaker 3: through my mind. So that's when I started to work
24:33
Speaker 3: on my portion control product. I launched it on the
24:37
Speaker 3: Hallmark channel on a show called Home and Family. From there,
24:42
Speaker 3: I had given it also to one of my private
24:44
Speaker 3: clients who was in the entertainment industry and the sound
24:47
Speaker 3: editing side of it.
24:48
Speaker 4: They were having a friend over for lunch one day.
24:51
Speaker 3: He was a slightly bigger gentleman and they were trying
24:54
Speaker 3: to nudge him to lose weight, and so they said,
24:56
Speaker 3: look what our trainer created. And he wasn't at all
24:59
Speaker 3: interested in it for himself, but he said, I think
25:01
Speaker 3: I know somebody who might be interested in that.
25:03
Speaker 4: Can I pass it on?
25:04
Speaker 3: So they called me. They asked me if he could
25:05
Speaker 3: pass it on. I said, who's you passing on to?
25:07
Speaker 3: They said, beach body.
25:08
Speaker 4: I was like, oh my gosh.
25:09
Speaker 1: Yes.
25:11
Speaker 3: Eventually, like a week or so later, I got called
25:14
Speaker 3: in for I got the phone call that they wanted
25:16
Speaker 3: to have a meeting with me.
25:18
Speaker 4: We didn't have the meeting for six.
25:19
Speaker 3: More weeks because it was right before Christmas, so the
25:22
Speaker 3: CEO was going out of town, he wasn't gonna be around.
25:27
Speaker 3: Went in, had the meeting. The meeting went well. Wasn't
25:31
Speaker 3: sure how it went.
25:32
Speaker 4: You never know.
25:32
Speaker 3: When you're sitting in those situations, You're like, did I
25:35
Speaker 3: say the right thing?
25:36
Speaker 4: Should I have said more?
25:37
Speaker 3: Should I have said less? And it was about two
25:40
Speaker 3: months until I got the phone call and the email
25:44
Speaker 3: that had the contract in it.
25:45
Speaker 1: Longest two months ever.
25:47
Speaker 4: Longest two months of my life. I've never checked my
25:48
Speaker 4: email so many times.
25:50
Speaker 1: I can totally relate to that.
25:51
Speaker 2: Especially it's like when I have a new article coming
25:53
Speaker 2: out in a magazine and I'm really excited about it. Yeah,
25:55
Speaker 2: feature spread or something, and I'm going into Barnes and
25:58
Speaker 2: Noble like every day for the two weeks leading up
26:00
Speaker 2: to news stand date, even though that I know that
26:03
Speaker 2: news stand date isn't for two weeks.
26:04
Speaker 1: Just think he's think of it early, right, You just
26:06
Speaker 1: never know.
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Speaker 2: So they get excited and there they're all in, you
27:27
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Speaker 3: I have a contract, And I just went into development
27:30
Speaker 3: on my first program, which ended up being twenty one
27:32
Speaker 3: Day Fixed. That honestly was the monster. Like that was
27:37
Speaker 3: my first program ever with them. It was a hell
27:41
Speaker 3: of a ride just in the creation process. It was
27:44
Speaker 3: supposed to be nine weeks of a test group. It
27:47
Speaker 3: turned into nine months of a test group. So it
27:49
Speaker 3: was a really interesting time juggling so many things in
27:53
Speaker 3: my life. I was still a personal trainer. I didn't
27:55
Speaker 3: want to give up my private clients because I didn't
27:56
Speaker 3: know how this was going to go. I had just
28:00
Speaker 3: gotten divorced the year before. I was taking care of
28:05
Speaker 3: my son, he was two two and a half. In
28:08
Speaker 3: the process of all of everything that was going on,
28:11
Speaker 3: my ex husband lost his job, was moving to San Diego.
28:15
Speaker 4: I was a fitness competitor.
28:17
Speaker 3: I had a competition literally three days before we started
28:20
Speaker 3: filming the workouts.
28:22
Speaker 4: I like a lot on my plate.
28:23
Speaker 2: I was going to say, you're not doing anything here, no,
28:26
Speaker 2: very there's nothing going on, nothing geez.
28:29
Speaker 4: I like a lot on my plate.
28:31
Speaker 3: And it was funny because when we filmed, even then,
28:35
Speaker 3: I was dealing with something the director at the time
28:38
Speaker 3: I had been I had worked for the director at
28:40
Speaker 3: the time many years ago as background talent for her,
28:44
Speaker 3: and she is amazing and her and I are wonderful
28:47
Speaker 3: friends now, but at the time she was still looking
28:50
Speaker 3: at me as background talent, and so all through rehearsals
28:54
Speaker 3: she was very much treating me like I didn't know
28:57
Speaker 3: what I was doing, like I was background talent, Like
28:59
Speaker 3: you going to need to do this, and you're gonna
29:01
Speaker 3: need to do that, and I was like, I know,
29:02
Speaker 3: I know, I got it. I promise I got it.
29:05
Speaker 3: And in the meantime, I'm rehearsal week is also peak
29:09
Speaker 3: week for competition, so I'm carb depleted, I'm dehydrated.
29:12
Speaker 4: I'm still trying to get my workouts in.
29:14
Speaker 3: I'm trying to go to my weigh ins and all
29:15
Speaker 3: these things, and I'm in rehearsals with once again somebody
29:18
Speaker 3: telling me I don't know what I'm doing. So it's
29:21
Speaker 3: it's an emotional drain that week, but it's also so
29:24
Speaker 3: exciting because I can't wait to get in there and
29:26
Speaker 3: film the workouts, right, so we did. We went in,
29:28
Speaker 3: we filmed the first workout on the first day. They're like,
29:31
Speaker 3: don't worry about it. Let's just give it a shot.
29:33
Speaker 4: See how it goes. They yelled action.
29:35
Speaker 3: We filmed the whole workout, which was thirty minutes. They
29:38
Speaker 3: yelled cut and everybody was standing there with like a
29:40
Speaker 3: blank look on their face.
29:42
Speaker 4: And I was like, oh my god, I sucked.
29:43
Speaker 3: In my mind, that's what I'm thinking, like, oh God,
29:45
Speaker 3: all right, Like they're gonna come talk to me.
29:47
Speaker 1: Dance teacher two point oh, yeah.
29:49
Speaker 3: Dance teacher two point oh. I thought for sure, and
29:50
Speaker 3: I knew my CEO was there. He was in the
29:52
Speaker 3: back room, and I was just like, oh my gosh, okay.
29:54
Speaker 3: And the director she came out and she kind of
29:58
Speaker 3: came walking up to me very slow, and she would
30:01
Speaker 3: call me Boo, and she said she put her hand
30:03
Speaker 3: on my shoulder and she said, Boo. In all of
30:06
Speaker 3: my career, I've never seen anybody get it in one take.
30:10
Speaker 3: And so it was like that moment of relief, of
30:13
Speaker 3: like vindication of like I know, I knew what I
30:15
Speaker 3: was doing, and she was like, that was amazing. Let's
30:17
Speaker 3: do one for safety. And I was like, okay, great,
30:20
Speaker 3: and she's like, you know, take five, get water and
30:22
Speaker 3: we'll do it again. And normally the CEO at least
30:26
Speaker 3: I was told, would stay for the whole first day.
30:28
Speaker 3: And he came walking out and he's like, she's got it,
30:30
Speaker 3: and he left and so he's out of there. He's
30:33
Speaker 3: like I was like, all right, that's fantastic. And we
30:35
Speaker 3: filmed for that week and I went through a six
30:38
Speaker 3: months waiting period. Nobody knew who I was. They weren't
30:41
Speaker 3: announcing me yet, so I had to still go in
30:43
Speaker 3: this like limbo time period of sort of who am
30:47
Speaker 3: I and what am I doing now? Because the product
30:50
Speaker 3: wasn't launching yet they hadn't announced me.
30:53
Speaker 1: I was still training. I didn't know how much longer
30:55
Speaker 1: I should.
30:55
Speaker 3: Keep my clients because I felt bad knowing that I
30:58
Speaker 3: was going to be leaving them.
31:01
Speaker 4: And then finally we launched.
31:02
Speaker 3: We launched February eleventh of twenty fourteen.
31:05
Speaker 2: And not to mention, like, you were also going through
31:06
Speaker 2: such a crazy emotional transition. Yes, so you're dealing with
31:11
Speaker 2: this huge shift in your personal life. You're being a
31:13
Speaker 2: mom to this two and a half year old that's
31:15
Speaker 2: running around, You're trying to balance your clients and this
31:18
Speaker 2: new career and so worried about what's going to happen next,
31:21
Speaker 2: and it's just, yeah.
31:24
Speaker 4: It was a lot. It was a lot looking back
31:27
Speaker 4: on it, but.
31:27
Speaker 3: It was all so good that it was, you know,
31:29
Speaker 3: especially when you're like on that climb up, but you
31:33
Speaker 3: know that the climb is good. I don't I don't
31:38
Speaker 3: remember ever being tired.
31:40
Speaker 4: I'm sure I was exhausted.
31:41
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm more tired now, but it was,
31:43
Speaker 3: you know, there's so there's so much excitement around it,
31:45
Speaker 3: there's so much energy around it.
31:48
Speaker 4: There's so much unknown.
31:49
Speaker 3: In what's to be discovered that if you lean into that,
31:54
Speaker 3: which is what I was doing. I was leaning into
31:56
Speaker 3: like all the fun I was having with it and
31:58
Speaker 3: the fact that it was everything I had been working
32:00
Speaker 3: looking for.
32:01
Speaker 2: So it might not have felt tired, but I bet
32:04
Speaker 2: that you did feel alone.
32:07
Speaker 3: No, here's the thing that those were not the moments
32:10
Speaker 3: of feeling alone.
32:11
Speaker 1: Interesting, It's not.
32:13
Speaker 3: Those were the moments where, no, I've never felt so
32:16
Speaker 3: lifted up. It was like, I have this Beach Bodies,
32:19
Speaker 3: this amazing company. I had all these people around me.
32:22
Speaker 3: I had all my friends that were still trainers at
32:24
Speaker 3: Equinox that were like cheering me on. That is not
32:28
Speaker 3: when I felt alone. We launched the program, and the
32:31
Speaker 3: program blew it out.
32:32
Speaker 4: Of the water.
32:34
Speaker 3: We sold in the first day what they predicted to
32:36
Speaker 3: sell in the first week. We sold in the first
32:39
Speaker 3: week what they predicted to sell in the first three months,
32:41
Speaker 3: and we went on back order for two months with
32:44
Speaker 3: that launch. It was one of the biggest launches in
32:47
Speaker 3: the Beach Body history. That infomercial stayed at number one
32:50
Speaker 3: for fourteen weeks straight. It stayed in the top ten
32:52
Speaker 3: infomercials for over a year. It was I would say
32:59
Speaker 3: five six months in. It's not when it's not when
33:03
Speaker 3: you're making the climb that you're alone.
33:05
Speaker 4: It's when you hit the success.
33:07
Speaker 3: And it's funny because when I signed on to Beach
33:10
Speaker 3: Body and when I was in the development process, I
33:13
Speaker 3: had a meeting with my CEO and at the end
33:15
Speaker 3: of my meeting, he said to me, do you have
33:18
Speaker 3: some good friends? And I thought it was such a
33:21
Speaker 3: weird question, and I was like yeah, And he's like,
33:23
Speaker 3: do you have you close with your family? And I
33:25
Speaker 3: was like yeah, and he's like, keep them around. It's
33:29
Speaker 3: lonely at the top. That's all I said, keep them around.
33:32
Speaker 3: It's lonely at the top. And I really didn't think
33:34
Speaker 3: anything of it.
33:35
Speaker 4: When he said it.
33:37
Speaker 3: He could not have been more right in terms of
33:40
Speaker 3: when you find your success, you also find you see
33:48
Speaker 3: a really unattractive side of people that maybe never saw before.
33:52
Speaker 3: That's when jealousy starts to come out. That's when talking
33:56
Speaker 3: behind your back starts to come out. That's when people
34:01
Speaker 3: that are even the closest of people in your life
34:04
Speaker 3: start to make you feel like you're the bank and
34:08
Speaker 3: not the friend or the relative, right like, what can
34:11
Speaker 3: I have from you? Without thinking twice?
34:16
Speaker 4: You know? So that's it's not the climb where it
34:19
Speaker 4: feels lonely.
34:20
Speaker 2: It's the top and it's like when they come to you,
34:22
Speaker 2: it's as though they always need something. It's never to
34:25
Speaker 2: check on you. It's that quote that people always say.
34:28
Speaker 2: It's like, don't forget to check on your strong friend.
34:30
Speaker 2: It's like they see you doing well and they think, Okay,
34:33
Speaker 2: she's all set.
34:34
Speaker 1: Yes, but that's not really how it works.
34:37
Speaker 3: No, it's really not. And that's the really interesting thing
34:40
Speaker 3: that I think so many people have a hard time with.
34:42
Speaker 3: They see people that have had success, and they forget
34:45
Speaker 3: that there were these hurdles that they had to overcome.
34:47
Speaker 3: They forget that there's a whole story that happened before
34:53
Speaker 3: that success story happened. That for most of us, we
34:57
Speaker 3: weren't born with you know, like, sure, you can have
35:02
Speaker 3: anything you want, and your parents happen to be in
35:04
Speaker 3: the field you want, you know, like most people aren't
35:07
Speaker 3: the children of.
35:07
Speaker 4: Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie.
35:09
Speaker 3: Like, so if they want to be an actor, they've
35:10
Speaker 3: got parents who are who can direct put them right
35:12
Speaker 3: where they need to be. You know what, most of
35:14
Speaker 3: us don't have that. I'm a Midwest girl from Ohio.
35:17
Speaker 3: My dad owned pizza places like that that, you know,
35:21
Speaker 3: and I had a strong family, and I had family
35:23
Speaker 3: that told me, like my dad always told me you
35:25
Speaker 3: could be anything you want to be. My mom questioned
35:27
Speaker 3: me when I moved to California and said, what makes
35:28
Speaker 3: you think you're any better than anybody else that has
35:30
Speaker 3: moved there.
35:31
Speaker 4: So there was.
35:32
Speaker 3: There's always that side, there's always that story that happened before.
35:36
Speaker 3: And I think that's really important for people to remember
35:38
Speaker 3: on both ends of it. The people that are going
35:40
Speaker 3: through it, like, just because you're going through it, doesn't
35:43
Speaker 3: mean you're not going to get through it doesn't mean
35:44
Speaker 3: you're not going to end up on the other side
35:47
Speaker 3: with a huge success story. And for the people looking
35:50
Speaker 3: at those people with this success story, like you said, yeah,
35:54
Speaker 3: don't assume that because they're successful in their career that
36:00
Speaker 3: that doesn't mean that they don't still have hurdles that
36:02
Speaker 3: they have to overcome, or that they don't still need
36:04
Speaker 3: to be checked on or asked, you know, like what's going.
36:06
Speaker 4: On with you?
36:06
Speaker 3: Hey, Like how is everything? Because I think that's really important.
36:09
Speaker 1: It's super important.
36:10
Speaker 2: Okay, So while you are at the top, so to speak,
36:14
Speaker 2: after this first launch and it goes so crazy successful,
36:17
Speaker 2: how are you handling some of these what can be
36:21
Speaker 2: described as overwhelming feelings.
36:24
Speaker 3: You know, I think for the first year, you're on
36:27
Speaker 3: such a high of like, oh my gosh, like this
36:30
Speaker 3: is everything I've wanted.
36:31
Speaker 4: That it's it takes a minute. It really takes a
36:36
Speaker 4: minute to process it all.
36:38
Speaker 3: And I don't think I processed or even started a
36:41
Speaker 3: process what was happening until maybe after the first year
36:46
Speaker 3: or even two years, maybe even after Fixed Extreme launched,
36:49
Speaker 3: where then you start to go, okay, like this is
36:52
Speaker 3: really happening, like it wasn't just one program, this is
36:55
Speaker 3: my second program. And you know, after Fixed Extreme came
36:59
Speaker 3: the Master's Hammer and Chisel, and then that's where your
37:03
Speaker 3: mind starts to shift a little bit of going like
37:07
Speaker 3: you know, when you're making that climb and you have
37:09
Speaker 3: that first big one that's like the big hurrah, oh
37:11
Speaker 3: my gosh. But there does there is this transitional period
37:15
Speaker 3: that happens where you go from being the one who's like,
37:19
Speaker 3: oh my gosh, I'm up and coming and I'm new
37:21
Speaker 3: to the one who's like, oh my gosh, I've got
37:24
Speaker 3: a target on my back because I'm I'm the quote
37:27
Speaker 3: unquote want to be I'm the quote unquote want to
37:31
Speaker 3: break my break that record, do better than she did,
37:35
Speaker 3: and all of it all you really have to, like
37:38
Speaker 3: I have to check in on the regular with myself.
37:41
Speaker 3: You have to keep a level head. You have to
37:43
Speaker 3: keep your head down and stay focused. You have to
37:45
Speaker 3: not worry about the stats like that.
37:46
Speaker 4: Like I always have to.
37:49
Speaker 3: Stop and say to myself, what's the goal. The goal
37:52
Speaker 3: is to help people. That's all that matters. Like, it's
37:55
Speaker 3: not about you know, how many followers you have on Instagram,
37:58
Speaker 3: how many likes you get. It's not about like, you know,
38:01
Speaker 3: did this product outsell that product? Did this product help somebody?
38:04
Speaker 3: That's what has to be priority number one.
38:07
Speaker 2: You mentioned social media. How was getting familiar with that
38:12
Speaker 2: for you.
38:14
Speaker 3: I had been on social media, you know, I had Facebook.
38:16
Speaker 3: We all had Facebook. I had just barely started. Everybody
38:21
Speaker 3: had barely started using Instagram about seven years ago when
38:26
Speaker 3: when I was sort of in development or for twenty
38:29
Speaker 3: one day fixed. So I feel like that has been
38:33
Speaker 3: an ever changing thing for all of us. Anybody that's
38:37
Speaker 3: kind of been in business for the last eight to
38:40
Speaker 3: ten years. I think we're all learning it as we go,
38:42
Speaker 3: and it changes every single day.
38:44
Speaker 1: What about the feedback loop.
38:47
Speaker 3: Uh, I learned very quickly to I learned very quickly the.
38:53
Speaker 4: Skill of swipe, delete and block when needed.
38:58
Speaker 3: So I do not do negativity on my feed, and
39:03
Speaker 3: I'm it's one of those moments like I've tried to
39:06
Speaker 3: keep my feed pretty positive, but I have no problem
39:08
Speaker 3: coming on and given like tough love, mama, bear love,
39:11
Speaker 3: Like keep your negative crap off my site.
39:13
Speaker 4: Like if you don't like what I'm posting.
39:14
Speaker 3: That's cool, you don't have to follow me, but you
39:18
Speaker 3: are not allowed to come on here and have negativity
39:23
Speaker 3: towards somebody else or towards me. So like if I
39:26
Speaker 3: post somebodies before and after, you're not allowed to come
39:28
Speaker 3: on and question their hard work. No way, that person
39:31
Speaker 3: worked their butt off literally, So you don't get to
39:33
Speaker 3: tell them that they didn't. You don't get to say
39:36
Speaker 3: that they still don't look good. You don't get to
39:38
Speaker 3: skinny shame somebody and say like, you looked better before.
39:42
Speaker 4: You don't get to fat shame.
39:43
Speaker 3: Somebody and say like, oh my gosh, why would you
39:46
Speaker 3: post like cause there's been all of that on it.
39:49
Speaker 3: So I have my fice, the Italian side to me,
39:52
Speaker 3: and I just don't tolerate that on my stuff. I'm like,
39:54
Speaker 3: I want I want when people to come over to
39:57
Speaker 3: my feed wherever it is, to want it to be
40:00
Speaker 3: a positive experience and for me too, and a lot
40:02
Speaker 3: of times it's not. You know, I get I get treaded,
40:05
Speaker 3: but I usually know what I'm gonna get treaded for.
40:07
Speaker 4: Before I ever post it.
40:09
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't care, and I've I've made that very
40:11
Speaker 3: clear to people too. I'm like, you, guys, I know
40:14
Speaker 3: what you're gonna say before I ever post the picture.
40:16
Speaker 4: If I cared, I.
40:18
Speaker 3: Wouldn't post it.
40:19
Speaker 1: Yeah.
40:20
Speaker 2: Well that goes back to again, this self dialogue, right,
40:22
Speaker 2: this creating this place where you feel confident in what
40:25
Speaker 2: you have to offer, so it doesn't matter what anybody
40:27
Speaker 2: has to say about what you are doing.
40:29
Speaker 1: You're just fine.
40:30
Speaker 4: Yeah.
40:30
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not posting anything obscene or trashy or anything
40:33
Speaker 3: like that. So I'm like, if you don't like my
40:35
Speaker 3: bathing suit shot, well sorry, that's I don't know what
40:37
Speaker 3: you want to tell you.
40:38
Speaker 4: This is what we're doing, is that's that's that's what
40:40
Speaker 4: I have.
40:40
Speaker 1: On today, or like, you know, I love it.
40:43
Speaker 2: Okay, So now, so much success with beach body talk
40:46
Speaker 2: to me about what has then become the next chapter
40:50
Speaker 2: for you. So where are you at with now what's
40:52
Speaker 2: going on? Talk to me about maybe talk to me
40:54
Speaker 2: about Revenge body and the whole shebang.
40:57
Speaker 3: So we I am in this new chapter, which is
41:00
Speaker 3: it's such a fun chapter of really like this is
41:02
Speaker 3: the established chapter. This is the no longer like I
41:06
Speaker 3: don't I'm not proving I don't have to prove anything anymore,
41:09
Speaker 3: which is a lovely place to work from where it's
41:13
Speaker 3: just getting to really create to and put out what
41:19
Speaker 3: I want to put out. So when I talk to
41:21
Speaker 3: my boss, when I sit down and have meetings with
41:22
Speaker 3: him about what's next, It's always been a very creative process,
41:26
Speaker 3: but like over the years, it's become more and more
41:29
Speaker 3: so where like he knows, I have my finger on
41:32
Speaker 3: the pulse. I really listen to what my followers are
41:34
Speaker 3: asking for, what our fans are asking for, what our
41:36
Speaker 3: coaches are asking for. I'm always learning something new. I'm
41:40
Speaker 3: trying to stay ahead of the science. With the science,
41:43
Speaker 3: I've gone through so much. I've gone through issues with
41:45
Speaker 3: my gut health over the years, so I'm always trying
41:48
Speaker 3: to bring whatever I've learned to everybody else. So I
41:53
Speaker 3: look at my struggles as my biggest lessons now that
41:57
Speaker 3: you know, there's the saying that God doesn't give you
41:59
Speaker 3: what you can handle, And sometimes I feel like I've
42:01
Speaker 3: been given the hard things because I can go show
42:04
Speaker 3: people how to how to work through them, not just
42:08
Speaker 3: survive them, but really how to thrive in them, how
42:10
Speaker 3: to thrive in the uncomfortable. And so I'm taking all
42:13
Speaker 3: of that. I'm taking all of these life experiences, and
42:17
Speaker 3: that's what's getting put into all of this next chapter
42:19
Speaker 3: of my life. The new programs, the new my new
42:22
Speaker 3: nutrition program launched. That's what I think was so much
42:25
Speaker 3: fun on Revenge Body and the girl that I got
42:29
Speaker 3: to work with and where she was at in her
42:32
Speaker 3: life as we were filming that, and being able to
42:34
Speaker 3: take all of my hurdles, all of my life lessons
42:41
Speaker 3: and say I've been there, we're gonna be okay, Like
42:44
Speaker 3: let's work through this together, let's talk it out like
42:47
Speaker 3: where we at, you know, like really just being able
42:49
Speaker 3: to take my life lessons into each one of these experiences,
42:54
Speaker 3: each one of these new products, each one of these
42:56
Speaker 3: new programs, each one of these new opportunities.
42:59
Speaker 4: It really like just such a beautiful path. I guess
43:06
Speaker 4: that I'm on.
43:06
Speaker 3: It's you can't see the blessing in the rainstorm, you
43:14
Speaker 3: can't see it when it's happening, And so many people
43:17
Speaker 3: get stuck in that. So many people get stuck where
43:19
Speaker 3: it's hard, and they assume that that's just life.
43:23
Speaker 4: Life is just hard.
43:24
Speaker 3: Why me?
43:25
Speaker 4: I'm always the one kicked down.
43:26
Speaker 3: And the biggest piece of advice I can give to
43:28
Speaker 3: people is that if you can recognize that somewhere in there,
43:32
Speaker 3: the blessing will come. And I'm not saying it's coming tomorrow.
43:35
Speaker 3: I'm not saying it's coming in a month. It might
43:37
Speaker 3: not even be coming in a year. But there will
43:39
Speaker 3: be a moment where you will be able to look
43:41
Speaker 3: back and be like, oh my gosh, I'm so glad
43:45
Speaker 3: that happened, or I'm so glad that didn't happen, because
43:50
Speaker 3: if that happened, I wouldn't be here, Or if that
43:53
Speaker 3: didn't happen, I wouldn't be here. So all of that
43:57
Speaker 3: has just made the experience, and it makes this next
44:01
Speaker 3: chapter of everything that I'm creating that much deeper.
44:05
Speaker 4: And more meaningful for me.
44:06
Speaker 2: You've had the opportunity to work with so many people
44:09
Speaker 2: to impact so many people.
44:11
Speaker 1: When you look back so far on.
44:13
Speaker 2: Your career, maybe since say twenty twelve, is there any
44:17
Speaker 2: particular story that you always go back to, any particular
44:21
Speaker 2: person that has just left this outrageous impact on you.
44:26
Speaker 3: It's so hard to say that there's one. Of course,
44:29
Speaker 3: there's so many. Yeah, we just had in July. We
44:33
Speaker 3: just had our huge event of the year for Beach Body,
44:36
Speaker 3: where there's twenty thousand people that come and I sat
44:40
Speaker 3: there and was signing. I was autographing cookbooks for four
44:42
Speaker 3: hours a day for two days in a row. So
44:44
Speaker 3: I'm getting to hear everybody's stories, and there's so many
44:47
Speaker 3: powerful stories.
44:48
Speaker 4: And some of them are.
44:50
Speaker 3: Massive weight loss stories. Right there was somebody who lost
44:52
Speaker 3: one hundred and seventeen pounds. There's been a few of
44:57
Speaker 3: those people who are unrecognizable because of how much weight
45:02
Speaker 3: they've lost. But it's not about that number. It's about
45:05
Speaker 3: what they've gained. It's not about that like, oh, I've
45:07
Speaker 3: lost one hundred and seventeen punds I lost one hundred
45:09
Speaker 3: and twenty pound. It's about like, I'm able to be
45:11
Speaker 3: a good mom again to my kids because I felt
45:13
Speaker 3: like a bad mom. I felt like I couldn't keep
45:16
Speaker 3: up with them. I felt like I wasn't giving them
45:18
Speaker 3: the best version of me, or I was teaching them
45:20
Speaker 3: the wrong way. To be able to give that to
45:22
Speaker 3: a mom, to be able to help a mom feel.
45:25
Speaker 4: That way, that is powerful.
45:27
Speaker 3: I've had many girls now over the years come up
45:31
Speaker 3: to me and tell me that they've beat eating disorders
45:34
Speaker 3: with the ultimate portion, fixed container system, and that isn't
45:38
Speaker 3: something I could have ever imagined in my wildest dreams
45:41
Speaker 3: when I was putting that nutrition program together. And for me,
45:44
Speaker 3: that one's close to home. I've personally have never had
45:47
Speaker 3: an issue like that. I've never had dealt with food
45:51
Speaker 3: in that way. But I was a dancer, so I
45:54
Speaker 3: watched it all the time. I watched girls struggle, and it.
45:57
Speaker 4: Was heartbreaking to see to.
46:01
Speaker 3: See people experience that and see how sick they were,
46:06
Speaker 3: and to feel helpless when somebody's standing next to you
46:09
Speaker 3: at the ballet bar and like just wondering how they're
46:13
Speaker 3: holding themselves up. And so to have people come up
46:16
Speaker 3: to me and say, I've been in and out of
46:20
Speaker 3: hospitals for treatment, nothing has ever worked, and I finally
46:24
Speaker 3: feel in control of my food and it's not controlling me.
46:28
Speaker 3: That that is powerre full. When I've had people come
46:33
Speaker 3: up to me and say, you helped me through cancer,
46:36
Speaker 3: you know, like I was going through cancer and your
46:38
Speaker 3: motivation kept me going throughout the day. Those are all
46:44
Speaker 3: like those are all just every bit of it, every
46:47
Speaker 3: single person story, every single person that's shared it with me,
46:51
Speaker 3: whether it's been in an.
46:51
Speaker 4: Email or handwritten letter that they've.
46:54
Speaker 3: Given to me at an event, or the thirty seconds
46:57
Speaker 3: that they spit it out in a photo line there.
47:01
Speaker 4: I can't even pick just.
47:02
Speaker 1: One you mentioned.
47:03
Speaker 2: We've talked social media, so many people following you, so
47:05
Speaker 2: many people coming up to you in lines to talk
47:07
Speaker 2: about cookbooks and workouts and all of the things.
47:09
Speaker 1: They're so changed by you.
47:12
Speaker 2: They look at you and they see a role model
47:14
Speaker 2: and someone that's in shape and has a great attitude
47:16
Speaker 2: and wants to give them all that she can. When
47:19
Speaker 2: you look in the mirror, what is it that you see?
47:24
Speaker 3: I see somebody who's incredibly passionate about helping other people.
47:29
Speaker 3: And that has become my life. Mission is that, no
47:34
Speaker 3: matter what is going on my job, my purpose here
47:38
Speaker 3: is to help people lead a healthier, happier life.
47:44
Speaker 1: What do you want to do going forward, everything, everything,
47:47
Speaker 1: all of it.
47:48
Speaker 4: I want to do all of it.
47:49
Speaker 1: Are you going to do any more bikini competitions?
47:52
Speaker 4: Uh?
47:52
Speaker 3: I don't think I will be competing anymore. I loved
47:55
Speaker 3: it and it served its purpose for me at that
47:58
Speaker 3: point in time when I did them. But I am
48:00
Speaker 3: somebody who gives one hundred and ten percent to everything
48:03
Speaker 3: I do, and my schedule is just crazy these days,
48:06
Speaker 3: and fitness competitions require a level of dedication and time
48:12
Speaker 3: commitment that I don't believe I have to give to
48:17
Speaker 3: that anymore. And I wouldn't be comfortable stepping on stage
48:21
Speaker 3: with anything less than one and ten percent.
48:24
Speaker 4: So it was fun.
48:25
Speaker 3: It was fun when I did it, But I think
48:27
Speaker 3: I'm onto other things now. But I love seeing people
48:31
Speaker 3: use my programs.
48:32
Speaker 4: To help them prep.
48:33
Speaker 1: How's life now? Is your son ten and a half? Ten?
48:36
Speaker 4: Ten? Ten and a half? Yeah?
48:37
Speaker 1: How How's that?
48:39
Speaker 4: It's amazing?
48:40
Speaker 3: He's so much fun.
48:42
Speaker 4: He's such a ham He's my mini me.
48:45
Speaker 3: I finally understand what my dad meant when he would
48:47
Speaker 3: tell me I was so peaceful when I slept because
48:50
Speaker 3: my son is the ball of energy from the minute
48:52
Speaker 3: he wakes up until the minute he goes to sleep
48:54
Speaker 3: that finally, when he falls asleep, I'm like, oh my god,
48:56
Speaker 3: thank you. Yes, Mommy's gonna sit here and just put
48:59
Speaker 3: her feet up for a second.
49:00
Speaker 4: Now. He's so much fun.
49:01
Speaker 3: He's such a happy, easy kid. Like he's into parkour
49:06
Speaker 3: and skateboarding and baseball and swimming. And he actually had
49:11
Speaker 3: his first audition over the weekend and he got a callback.
49:16
Speaker 1: So what's he auditioning for.
49:18
Speaker 3: He was auditioning for something for Disney. Oh, so he's
49:21
Speaker 3: super excited. But then I was talking to him on
49:22
Speaker 3: the way here actually, and he's super nervous.
49:24
Speaker 1: Oh.
49:24
Speaker 2: He's like, like, you got it, You're fine.
49:28
Speaker 4: But it's so fun.
49:29
Speaker 3: It's so fun to see that side of him because
49:31
Speaker 3: I remember as a kid wanting to do all those things,
49:34
Speaker 3: and I lived in Ohio. I didn't have that opportunity.
49:36
Speaker 3: So it's really cool to get to give him opportunities
49:39
Speaker 3: that I didn't get to have it, even though I
49:41
Speaker 3: wanted him as a kid.
49:42
Speaker 2: You have the opportunity right now. Looking back on Autumn,
49:46
Speaker 2: during her total moment, she is thinking she wants to
49:50
Speaker 2: be a dancer. She's dealing with this man who's not
49:53
Speaker 2: really treating her. The most fair, and she's really struggling
49:56
Speaker 2: with that. You have an opportunity right now to offer
49:58
Speaker 2: her one piece of advice. Looking back on that hurdle moment,
50:01
Speaker 2: what do you tell her?
50:05
Speaker 3: Oh, life has so much more for you than you
50:07
Speaker 3: can even imagine.
50:09
Speaker 4: Just don't stop, Just don't stop, Just don't stop.
50:12
Speaker 1: Thanks so much for sitting down with me, Autumn. Thank you.
50:15
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Speaker 1: with you?
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Speaker 3: You guys can find me on Instagram it's Autumn Calibres.
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Speaker 2: Also a huge thanks to the Smile Radio. Inside the
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Speaker 2: Smile to Go at the free Hand Hotel. I am
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Speaker 2: at Emily Abody. Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.