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Episode #242: Kids Say It Like They See It · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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Speaker 1: Hey, welcome to tea time with Amien beav Stup girl,
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Speaker 1: step step Sup?
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Speaker 2: What's up? Just actually enjoying life? I would say, enjoying life.
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Speaker 2: That's probably the more the place that I'm at.
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Speaker 1: What does that mean?
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Speaker 2: Enjoying life? I am recognize all the syncreticities that I
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Speaker 2: have in my life. I'm getting messages all the time
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Speaker 2: letting me know things are transitioning. You know, we were
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Speaker 2: just talking about manifesting and stuff like that. I keep
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Speaker 2: I'll try to imagine me driving a certain vehicle, and
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Speaker 2: it's like one vehicle keeps popping in each time. I'm like, okay, okay,
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Speaker 2: universe surprising to light me. We'll see how that works out,
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Speaker 2: because it's just interesting. It's just interesting because I think
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Speaker 2: that sometimes we get an idea in our head that
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Speaker 2: we want what we want, and then we start talking
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Speaker 2: ourselves out of it because we don't think that we're
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Speaker 2: worth it. We think that's too much, because we start
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Speaker 2: thinking about all the hows and how's that going to happen?
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Speaker 2: And what if that is happen and how could I
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Speaker 2: even do that? We put all this pressure on ourselves
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Speaker 2: to kind of have the to create every single part
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Speaker 2: every single aspect from the start to finish, how you're
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Speaker 2: going to get that vehicle, how you're going to get
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Speaker 2: that house, how you're going to get that job. And
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Speaker 2: it's it's recognizing. Even when I'm driving home, I see
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Speaker 2: myself driving on this paved road to my house. So
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Speaker 2: it's like I'm going through an experience that I'm I'm
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Speaker 2: doing all the time. Hanging out with the grandkids. We
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Speaker 2: have a great time, we have great conversations. It's just
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Speaker 2: the other day my grandson was here, he's almost eight,
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Speaker 2: and he said, my massage table was out, and he says, Grandma,
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Speaker 2: I want a massage. And I'm like, okay, well, let's
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Speaker 2: get up all climb up on the table and take
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Speaker 2: up your shirt and I said, I'll cover you. You know,
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Speaker 2: he had his pants on and stuff like that, so
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Speaker 2: I put it put a thing across the back of
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Speaker 2: him so I didn't get oil on his clothes. And
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Speaker 2: I sat there and I was like rubbing his back
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Speaker 2: and he's like, oh my gosh, Grandma, this feels so good.
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Speaker 2: Like he must have told me I don't even know
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Speaker 2: how many times, and then they kept bringing it up
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Speaker 2: throughout the day afterwards, but he totally meloed out. Not
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Speaker 2: that he was like hyper or highstrung before he got here,
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Speaker 2: but he was in such a place of speed of peace,
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Speaker 2: and we don't recognize. For me, even kids are so
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Speaker 2: good to have around because they're so freaking honest about things,
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Speaker 2: even to the point of, oh, Grandma, that's pulling my Harry.
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Speaker 2: He'd probably probably just go to a little bit lower
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Speaker 2: on me, like he's telling me what to do now
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Speaker 2: that which is great. It's great, which I appreciate. I
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Speaker 2: wish all my clients would be more vocal about all
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Speaker 2: of that stuff, you know what I mean. But something's
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Speaker 2: bothering to speak up. But we've learned, we've learned to
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Speaker 2: tolerate things and put up with things even if we
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Speaker 2: don't like it. And I think it's because we don't
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Speaker 2: really know how to communicate it, which is the part
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Speaker 2: of a conversation we had too. But we don't know
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Speaker 2: how to communicate without hurting someone else's feelings. And it
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Speaker 2: has a lot to do with the energy that we
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Speaker 2: have when we're having these conversations, even in your relationships.
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Speaker 2: If we're having a conversation around here, if I'm coming
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Speaker 2: from a neutral place and asking questions that might otherwise
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Speaker 2: be they could be upsetting. Depending on what kind of
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Speaker 2: energy I'm coming out of the conversation with, you get
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Speaker 2: different a different outcome from the people around you. But
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Speaker 2: back to the massage, it's like, I think every kids
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Speaker 2: should be getting a massage, honestly. I mean it's they
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Speaker 2: talk about which I didn't plan on talking about any
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Speaker 2: of this stuff, but if they talk about like parents,
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Speaker 2: you know, when they're from the childs that are babies,
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Speaker 2: when you're putting their lotion on them to kind of
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Speaker 2: massage their bodies and stuff like that, because it makes
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Speaker 2: such a difference, and I got to physically see it
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Speaker 2: visually visually see it with my grandson. And now my
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Speaker 2: granddaughter will be like, well, my black grandma, So she'll
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Speaker 2: just lay right on the floor in front of me
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Speaker 2: and all this rubber back, you know what. She seems
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Speaker 2: to enjoy that. But it's like it's just being aware
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Speaker 2: that there's just these little differences that what I didn't
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Speaker 2: even spend probably fifteen minutes doing this, and it's like
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Speaker 2: you could each person with their kids could spend this
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Speaker 2: amount of time and then they get a different outcome
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Speaker 2: from their own children. They get a different environment from
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Speaker 2: their own children. It's a peaceful place. You don't have
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Speaker 2: to be a massage therapist to do these things. It's
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Speaker 2: just they it's just giving them that one on one
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Speaker 2: and that touch and that and it's not even I
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Speaker 2: was rubbing his back and then I massaged his arms
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Speaker 2: and its hands with it's like, it's just it's it's
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Speaker 2: just so simple. This is such a simple task that
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Speaker 2: had such a huge outcome it had. It was something
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Speaker 2: that lasted for hours and hours and hours throughout that day,
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Speaker 2: and it's and it's nice for them to know that
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Speaker 2: they're they're loved, and you know, without because they don't
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Speaker 2: listen to our words. A lot. We say all kinds
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Speaker 2: of things, parents, teachers, peers, like everybody says all kinds
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Speaker 2: of things, but but they don't. Their energy doesn't always
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Speaker 2: match up with what they're saying. And that's confusing and
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Speaker 2: it can it's conflicting with kids and it is with
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Speaker 2: people too, But they just don't they're not sure why
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Speaker 2: they're feeling these things. And then until you start isolating
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Speaker 2: and you start paying attention more right when you're when
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Speaker 2: you're listening and you're observing everything kind of shifts. So
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Speaker 2: I think that's kind of an important piece out there.
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Speaker 2: It's not only is it important for us to get
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Speaker 2: massages for us to help relax, but it's like us,
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Speaker 2: I'll sit massage my own hands. I can massage my
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Speaker 2: own arms. There's things that we can do for self
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Speaker 2: and that's important. I haven't sat and massage my feet,
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Speaker 2: but I could, and it'll probably be very valuable for myself.
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Speaker 2: That's very grounding, right, It's just and then with all
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Speaker 2: that being said, I was processing, you know, I always
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Speaker 2: think about grounding as putting your feet in the dirt
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Speaker 2: and all that stuff. But I've heard that, you know,
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Speaker 2: eating things, eating foods and stuff like that can be
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Speaker 2: very grounding, probably because you're you're in the now, and
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Speaker 2: so I think that's kind of I guess a lot
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Speaker 2: of things can ground you more than we more than
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Speaker 2: I perceived as possibilities of being grounded. And it is
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Speaker 2: sitting there massaging those speed. It's not just sitting there
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Speaker 2: and imagining you have these roots coming from your feet
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Speaker 2: to the earth, or you know, going into these great
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Speaker 2: huge meditations. You can simply say the words, or you
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Speaker 2: can massage your big toe or your hand or whatever.
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Speaker 2: Massage your scalp. It gets us into this physical now
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Speaker 2: that we're experiencing that we're lucky to experience.
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Speaker 1: Yeah and no, and just thinking about the massage, we
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Speaker 1: do it so we can relax. We need that me
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Speaker 1: time because we have that pent up energy in our
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Speaker 1: body that's stuck and you feel it in your neck
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Speaker 1: and shoulders, or you get a cramp somewhere, or whatever
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Speaker 1: the case may be. We don't think about children that way.
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Speaker 1: And children have experiences all day long too, and they're
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Speaker 1: witnessing the adults and the things that they're going through
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Speaker 1: and all their energy. But a child doesn't know what
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Speaker 1: to do with all that energy that they're storing in
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Speaker 1: their body. And just by taking ten to fifteen minutes
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Speaker 1: to bring that nurturing touch to their body to help
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Speaker 1: them calm down, to help them shift, manipulating the muscles
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Speaker 1: to release any i'm gonna say energy or toxins or
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Speaker 1: stuck stuff that's in there. They don't know what to
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Speaker 1: do with that. And this is an opportunity to make
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Speaker 1: that make a nurturing connection with that child as well,
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Speaker 1: provided that you are in that as the parent in
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Speaker 1: that nurturing or grandparent in that nurturing space for them
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Speaker 1: to receive that nurture from you. Now, if I just
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Speaker 1: grabbed a child's arm and just kind of needed, you know,
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Speaker 1: needing knead right, needing their their muscle just quickly because
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Speaker 1: I'm irritated or I got things to do and I
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Speaker 1: don't have time for this, but they want it, then, right,
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Speaker 1: you're sending a different energy to their body. Whereas if
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Speaker 1: you sit and caress and like a nurturing, gentle massage
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Speaker 1: to the child, it's a whole different energy and it
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Speaker 1: can it shifts. I think it also too. You may
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Speaker 1: you may have you may have been in a calm
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Speaker 1: space to do it. However, through that nurturing connection, he
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Speaker 1: calmed down even more, which brought even more calmness to you,
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Speaker 1: and so it just shifted the entire energy of the
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Speaker 1: environment altogether.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, well this is the whole up and flow right
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Speaker 2: the infinity. Yeah, it totally is. And it's like I
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Speaker 2: never said anything to him about going to the bathroom
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Speaker 2: or drinking fluid or anything like that, and he's like, Grandma,
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Speaker 2: I have gone to the bathroom six times now since
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Speaker 2: that massage. And he's like, that has to do with
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Speaker 2: the massage. And I'm like, and he's right, because he
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Speaker 2: doesn't normally that's not a thing, and it's not not
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Speaker 2: something that I noticed. I couldn't tell you that he
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Speaker 2: had a fluid on his body or anything like that.
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Speaker 2: But then he had a response. They kids are are brilliant.
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Speaker 2: They really are brilliant. They're very very smart, and I
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Speaker 2: don't think if adults would stop and listen to the
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Speaker 2: conversations they're having, everything would change kind of the conversations
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Speaker 2: when we get mad at our kids. I got mad
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Speaker 2: at my kids sometimes too. But when we get mad,
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Speaker 2: if we stop and recognize that that child is you,
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Speaker 2: that child is a version of you. And it's like,
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Speaker 2: if you don't have time for that child, that's because
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Speaker 2: someone didn't have time for you. And now you have
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Speaker 2: an opportunity to change everything everything. You can change the
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Speaker 2: past because there is no past present future, No, it's
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Speaker 2: I mean future, I mean present. Everything is right now.
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Speaker 2: Everything is right now, And I do really wholeheartedly believe
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Speaker 2: that we don't have there's no separation between the timelines
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Speaker 2: as far as everything is happening right now. Is really
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Speaker 2: what my point is. And it's like, it's an opportunity
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Speaker 2: when we are looking at them to approach ourselves in
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Speaker 2: a different way because our our mom version of us
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Speaker 2: are our dad version of us. That the way that
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Speaker 2: they approached us when we were at that stage. It's
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Speaker 2: just such a huge trigger that all that all that
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Speaker 2: emotion that you're feeling at that moment and you're being
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Speaker 2: triggered by something because your kid's not listening, because they
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Speaker 2: defied you, because they lied to you, because of whatever.
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Speaker 2: It's an opportunity for you to approach it from a
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Speaker 2: different perspective, differently than than it was brought to you.
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Speaker 2: And it's like it changes everything. So I don't have
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Speaker 2: control over everything in everybody's lives, but I do have
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Speaker 2: opportunities to have conversations about it, and I don't. Some
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Speaker 2: things will be presented to me and it's like, you know,
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Speaker 2: I wish I had I wish I could do something
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Speaker 2: differently for you for that, But this we've got, we
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Speaker 2: have an opportunity to see things from a different perspective.
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Speaker 1: Uh. That also goes along with what you were saying
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Speaker 1: is our parents showed up in the version they knew
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Speaker 1: how to show up, whether it was loving or abusive,
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Speaker 1: doesn't matter what side or in the middle. That's how
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Speaker 1: they knew how to show up. And then we take
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Speaker 1: that on because that's what we were raised with. That's
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Speaker 1: our programming. Yeah, we might make some tweaks, we may
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Speaker 1: not be as abusive, or we will lean more towards
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Speaker 1: more loving, but we still have controlling aspects, Like there's
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Speaker 1: there's still going to be pieces of us that are
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Speaker 1: pieces of our parents or the adults that were in
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Speaker 1: our life that raise us. In our body, in our system,
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Speaker 1: in our subconscious. It's still in there, and it's going
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Speaker 1: to get triggered, right, It's going to get triggered in
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Speaker 1: some way. And then your children come along and like
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Speaker 1: you said, they do something and that triggers that emotional
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Speaker 1: baggage that you've been hanging on to that you didn't
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Speaker 1: know what to do with. Not you as BEV, but
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Speaker 1: anybody that's just listening, and so that gets triggered and
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Speaker 1: we have the opportunity, it's like begov A say, we
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Speaker 1: have the opportunity to stop and recognize what is happening.
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Speaker 1: This is a huge piece of self awareness. Recognize what
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Speaker 1: is happening, and in that moment, you have opportunity to
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Speaker 1: shift everything. Because if everything is happening now, past, present,
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Speaker 1: and future, and we are one omnipresent with energy, we
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Speaker 1: are everything. Then you stopping and recognizing what's happening, that
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Speaker 1: this is an opportunity in that moment to heal a
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Speaker 1: situation that you were raised with that your parents, Right,
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Speaker 1: that's ancestral healing that we if you if you don't
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Speaker 1: know about it, look it up. But it's healing the past,
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Speaker 1: and you're healing the present because you're healing yourself, and
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Speaker 1: you're healing the future because you're taking the opportunity to
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Speaker 1: shift the energy do your own processes so that you
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Speaker 1: converse with this child on a whole different in a
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Speaker 1: whole different way than the way you typically would do it. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: and so it's a huge impact. It's not just a
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Speaker 1: moment in time where oh, I recognize I'm yelling at
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Speaker 1: my kid and that's what my dad used to do. No,
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Speaker 1: it's a healing of all that stored energy and you
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Speaker 1: from your history that your parents carried, that their parents
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Speaker 1: carried and so forth, and to change that now so
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Speaker 1: that your child doesn't carry that forward. Like, there's just
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Speaker 1: an immense amount of healing that can take place when
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Speaker 1: somebody has self awareness.
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Speaker 2: It's true, I get excited about that stuff. It's so freeing.
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Speaker 2: It's so freeing, it's like all your views. Take the time,
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Speaker 2: take the time to notice the things that are triggering
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Speaker 2: you or that are you when you're when the kids
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Speaker 2: are around. Don't have a response to it, but just
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Speaker 2: notice the things they do that irritate you because it's
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Speaker 2: an opportunity. And then then questioning yourself, not from a
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Speaker 2: victim standpoint, because the victim standpoint will come out and
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Speaker 2: try to defend everything. And that's where everything is so
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Speaker 2: different now because I don't have that. I'm not in
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Speaker 2: that victim place. I'm in a different space when I'm
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Speaker 2: processing these things and looking at it differently. If if
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Speaker 2: I didn't, I wouldn't I wouldn't be Gosh. I try
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Speaker 2: to show up and be the best partner I can
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Speaker 2: possibly be. I try to show up and be the
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Speaker 2: best person I could possibly be in every day when
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Speaker 2: I didn't always have that ability or didn't know how to,
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Speaker 2: But that didn't mean that I didn't keep exploring and
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Speaker 2: keep trying to find other ways or keep showing up.
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Speaker 2: I keep showing up the difference between me and my
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Speaker 2: younger version of me is I ask questions, I'll say
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Speaker 2: things before I would have been. I'll just go through
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Speaker 2: my be in my head and have a you know,
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Speaker 2: whatever I come up with, and it usually wasn't a
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Speaker 2: good thing to come up with because most of the
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Speaker 2: stuff wasn't true, inaccurate, right, not a space you want
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Speaker 2: to be creating from and I and I want to be,
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Speaker 2: I want, I want to well, I don't want to be.
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Speaker 2: I know that we are master creators really, so just
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Speaker 2: taking that time and is exploring all the things. I
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Speaker 2: was talking to my grandson about a vision board because
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Speaker 2: he he wants this jeep thing, and I'm like, well,
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Speaker 2: maybe create a vision board. Start writing into your notebook
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Speaker 2: about what you know you want this? Do you want this?
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Speaker 2: How would you how would that? What does it look like?
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Speaker 2: How would it feel? Could you close your eyes and
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Speaker 2: imagine what that feels like? Is driving around? So it's
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Speaker 2: like I'm just trying to present it to a child
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Speaker 2: from in a child perspective, but it's like be aware.
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Speaker 2: Kids are freaking brilliant and they understand things a lot
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Speaker 2: more than we think they do, and they might look
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Speaker 2: at us it's like we're we have a third eye
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Speaker 2: sometimes because we're coming at them with this energy because
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Speaker 2: I love you. I don't want you to do this
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Speaker 2: because I love you, it does not feel like love.
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Speaker 2: And in that moment, it's the words don't matter, what's
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Speaker 2: what we're coming out because all they can feel this,
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Speaker 2: all this anger like being pinpointed right at them, that
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Speaker 2: they're being targeted, and it doesn't make sense that they
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Speaker 2: don't understand because I love you and it's not because
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Speaker 2: anybody did anything wrong. But just stop and look and
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Speaker 2: see how that feels. Stop and you can tell by
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Speaker 2: how the kids are around you, by the way you're
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Speaker 2: talking to them. You can tell by how how the
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Speaker 2: kids are reacting, by how how do you feel right
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Speaker 2: when you're having that conversation. If it doesn't feel good,
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Speaker 2: it's probably it's probably going to be counterproductive, it's probably
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Speaker 2: not going to work out the way you'd like it to.
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Speaker 2: And then it's asking your team, we this whole team
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Speaker 2: that we have around us, like how would how what's
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Speaker 2: the best way we can show up in this situation?
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Speaker 2: What's the best way. It's like I tell my kids
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Speaker 2: all the time, I don't have the answers. I don't
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Speaker 2: have the answers, but I when when a situation is
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Speaker 2: presented to me, how can I'm asking my team like,
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Speaker 2: how can we show up right now? This best way
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Speaker 2: ever since I've been doing that, even with my clients,
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Speaker 2: I don't go in there and be like, Okay, how
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Speaker 2: can I serve today? How can we serve today? Because
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Speaker 2: there's a wee, there's a I've got this huge team
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Speaker 2: that flows with me wherever I go. How can we
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Speaker 2: how can instead of me being worried about how am
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Speaker 2: I going to pay for this? Because how am I
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Speaker 2: going to pay for this? That's ego? How am I?
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Speaker 2: That's that's harsh? How are we going to pay for this? Hey, universe,
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Speaker 2: Hey guys back here, how are we going to make
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Speaker 2: this happen? Like, come on now, we need to make
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Speaker 2: this happen. How is this gonna happen? So it's like
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Speaker 2: I I rely on my team all the time for everything,
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Speaker 2: for everything. I'm talking to them all the time, and
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Speaker 2: people might feel like that's odd, And if I would
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Speaker 2: have probably talked to you about it five years ago,
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Speaker 2: I might have found it odd. I don't know. I
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Speaker 2: don't know because I don't I don't know where it
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Speaker 2: was at five years ago. But I'm not five years
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Speaker 2: ago anymore. I'm right here and I'm right now, and
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Speaker 2: I'm I'm showing up as me and this is how
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Speaker 2: I am. And I'm unapologetic about it because it's there's
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Speaker 2: no reason to apologize because I've always said I love
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Speaker 2: it when someone shows up one hundred percent authentic and
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Speaker 2: just is them, they're themselves one hundred percent. Because it
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Speaker 2: was paving the way for me to realize, what, oh that,
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Speaker 2: that's what that could look like. You know you can
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Speaker 2: dress in crazy colored well I could. I'm wearing my
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Speaker 2: work clothes right now. But you know there's there's things
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Speaker 2: that I could be doing. And it's like I can
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Speaker 2: put Like we talked about before, I can talk about
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Speaker 2: how how am I gonna buy a whole new wardrobe?
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Speaker 2: I don't have to worry about buying a whole new wardrobe. Hey, universe,
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Speaker 2: how can we manifest a wardrobe that's going to be
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Speaker 2: something that's nice and colorful that I'm gonna flow and
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Speaker 2: I'm going to vibrate in. I'm gonna just feel grating
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Speaker 2: all the time. I'm gonna uplook people just by walking
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Speaker 2: in the door. It's just having the imagination I'm playing
18:39
Speaker 2: with it. Yeah, it's funny that we're having all these conversations.
18:43
Speaker 2: We're getting ready to roll into a new year.
18:45
Speaker 1: Yeah.
18:47
Speaker 2: And I was thinking about that because here I am
18:49
Speaker 2: looking at my you know, my list of our twelve months,
18:54
Speaker 2: which I don't look at all the time. I don't
18:56
Speaker 2: I don't look at mine all the time. And then
18:57
Speaker 2: I look at my December and it's like it's talking
18:59
Speaker 2: about uh, listening and intuition. All the stuff is happening
19:03
Speaker 2: for me right now, and it is. And if we
19:06
Speaker 2: don't take inventory, if we don't take if we don't
19:09
Speaker 2: stop and be an awareness of it, and it aren't
19:12
Speaker 2: right now, then we miss out on all the stuff
19:15
Speaker 2: that we're doing right now. We have so many things
19:17
Speaker 2: that are happening right now that are so amazing and positive.
19:21
Speaker 2: Something else I wanted to touch on. Everyone's always trying
19:24
Speaker 2: to figure out their purpose, always trying to figure out
19:27
Speaker 2: their purpose. Everybody, Oh, what's my purpose? There's gotta be
19:30
Speaker 2: more to me. And I was hearing people say recently
19:32
Speaker 2: on a lot of the different things I listened to.
19:34
Speaker 2: They were talking about, well, what do you want to
19:36
Speaker 2: do when you're a kid, Well, I want to be
19:38
Speaker 2: a veterinarian and I want to be a nurse, and
19:40
Speaker 2: I don't want to be either one of those now.
19:41
Speaker 2: But but below the surface of that, it was I
19:45
Speaker 2: wanted to help people. I wanted to heal people. I
19:47
Speaker 2: wanted to do things. And it's like we stop and
19:50
Speaker 2: we stop ourselves from doing those things because I don't
19:52
Speaker 2: want to do I don't want to be a nurse
19:54
Speaker 2: and I don't want to be a veterinarian. I don't.
19:56
Speaker 2: But the underlying thing was that's what that was my desires.
20:00
Speaker 2: My soul knew that I wanted to help people. That's
20:04
Speaker 2: all my soul knew. And now I've always had a feeling,
20:06
Speaker 2: even from doing massage, that there's we've got to be
20:09
Speaker 2: able to heal. There's we got to be able to
20:10
Speaker 2: heal everything. Everything is everything to be healed. Like that's
20:13
Speaker 2: my whole that I know that to be true. Now
20:15
Speaker 2: I haven't proved it to myself one hundred percent, but
20:17
Speaker 2: I've got this knowing inside of me. So I've got
20:19
Speaker 2: to let my team flow through me. Those are the passions,
20:22
Speaker 2: those are the things. One of my daughters wanted to
20:25
Speaker 2: be a bus driver when she was grown up. Why
20:28
Speaker 2: because she wanted to be a icel. He just told
20:30
Speaker 2: her recently, I said, you want to be a freaking guy.
20:32
Speaker 2: Do we get so serious and so caught up in
20:34
Speaker 2: all these details? The guide that helps to guide someone,
20:38
Speaker 2: that helps to nurture them, to help because that's the
20:40
Speaker 2: way she always was. She wanted to be, you know,
20:42
Speaker 2: helping people, nurturing them. She always had people that had
20:45
Speaker 2: maybe hearing disabilities or abilities, how are going to call it?
20:51
Speaker 2: They weren't hearing the same way that we were hearing.
20:54
Speaker 2: They might have communicated sign language, So she'd learned sign language.
20:56
Speaker 2: She'd always be to the defense of those that were
21:00
Speaker 2: that she felt needed to be defended. So it's like
21:02
Speaker 2: it's we get so caught up in all these things,
21:04
Speaker 2: and we think that there have to be these big,
21:05
Speaker 2: huge things, But it's like break it down and then
21:08
Speaker 2: start asking your team, okay, okay, team, so we can
21:12
Speaker 2: heal people? What does that look like? How can we
21:15
Speaker 2: heal people? And so it's just being open. How can
21:18
Speaker 2: we communicate more with spirit? How can we It's just
21:22
Speaker 2: being open to the information that's flowing in this whole time,
21:26
Speaker 2: I swear I've been looking at everything from a different perspective.
21:29
Speaker 2: And now because I was like, I don't want to
21:31
Speaker 2: be a freaking veterinarian. That's that's the stupidest thing. It's like,
21:34
Speaker 2: these guys don't know what they're talking about. And then
21:36
Speaker 2: I just started breaking it down. It's like, yeah, they do.
21:40
Speaker 2: Stop and think about the things you wanted to do
21:41
Speaker 2: when you were growing up.
21:44
Speaker 1: And and I wrote down, keep as simple, sister, because
21:51
Speaker 1: that's what kids are. Kids are simple, but they understand
21:55
Speaker 1: so much. And so as a child, especially in the
21:58
Speaker 1: time that we were children.
22:00
Speaker 2: H we knew what.
22:01
Speaker 1: A doctor was, and what a nurse was, what a
22:04
Speaker 1: bus driver is what right we knew those titles and
22:07
Speaker 1: because those were talked about, we didn't know what a
22:12
Speaker 1: life coach was or a healer, like we didn't know
22:17
Speaker 1: those terms. But you're right, you know, you think about
22:20
Speaker 1: a doctor, a nurse, a vet like we're we want
22:23
Speaker 1: to help, we want to heal, we want to uh
22:27
Speaker 1: do something to nurture.
22:30
Speaker 2: People. And so.
22:34
Speaker 1: It just goes right along the lines with the massage
22:36
Speaker 1: with your grandson. Is it was so simple. Things that
22:41
Speaker 1: he said was so simple and direct. The things that
22:45
Speaker 1: kids understand is so simple. We're adults and we've we've
22:50
Speaker 1: created this chaotic way of communication because that's what we know.
22:56
Speaker 1: And if we just brought it down to simplicity and
23:00
Speaker 1: listened and and did better at communication, it would be
23:07
Speaker 1: so incredible on so many levels of us actually healing
23:13
Speaker 1: and understanding each.
23:14
Speaker 2: Other instead of trying to understand everybody through our own traumas. Yeah,
23:22
Speaker 2: so crazy, but it is. You're right, It is simple.
23:26
Speaker 2: It is simple, Yeah, and communicating. If you questioning someone,
23:31
Speaker 2: did you mean it this way? Well maybe they did,
23:34
Speaker 2: Maybe they did mean it that way, and what if
23:36
Speaker 2: they did? Who cares? That doesn't define who you are,
23:39
Speaker 2: but the way we respond defines can be defining moment
23:43
Speaker 2: for sure, but not it's not written in stone. It's
23:46
Speaker 2: an opportunity for change.
23:49
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I've said that to myself this week. Actually,
23:54
Speaker 1: keep it simple, sister, keep it simple, talking to myself,
23:58
Speaker 1: and so it's kiss right, and people hear it in
24:02
Speaker 1: other ways in other terms when I'm like, keep it simple, sweetie,
24:06
Speaker 1: or keep it simple, sister, Because we do, we create.
24:11
Speaker 2: We we make things.
24:13
Speaker 1: So difficult, even in just in our daily tasks we make,
24:17
Speaker 1: we find a way to make them difficult because then
24:19
Speaker 1: we feel good about ourselves because we learned how to
24:22
Speaker 1: do it.
24:22
Speaker 2: From that difficult view.
24:25
Speaker 1: When we just went back to just keep it simple
24:29
Speaker 1: and work smarter, not harder. I have to remind myself
24:33
Speaker 1: of that too, work smarter, not harder. How can we
24:36
Speaker 1: simple simplify this so it's nice. Yeah, all right, friends,
24:45
Speaker 1: you got a lot out of this. And so we
24:47
Speaker 1: went from massage to working smarter, not harder, so in
24:56
Speaker 1: a short amount of time, and you can have these
25:00
Speaker 1: conversations with your friends, your family, your coworkers, somebody in
25:03
Speaker 1: the grocery line. Just have a conversation with somebody and
25:09
Speaker 1: plant the seeds. Or share the content, Share what's resonating
25:12
Speaker 1: with you, Share what's helping you, or share and or
25:19
Speaker 1: share the links for the videos and the content that's
25:23
Speaker 1: helping you. Whether it's a PDF, whether it's a podcast,
25:29
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. Share it with people so that they can
25:32
Speaker 1: hear the information as well. And then it doesn't matter
25:35
Speaker 1: if it's from us or somebody else. I don't care.
25:38
Speaker 1: What I care about is people are doing and being
25:42
Speaker 1: better in themselves. That's what I care about. And the
25:45
Speaker 1: better we get, the better we are, the better we are,
25:48
Speaker 1: the better the external is. And so it's total self awareness.
25:53
Speaker 2: Of yourself that.
25:55
Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't have to say that self awareness of yourself.
25:58
Speaker 1: Sometimes I say things I'm like, why did you say that?
26:00
Speaker 2: That's kind of funny.
26:01
Speaker 1: But anyway, we're on many platforms.
26:04
Speaker 2: We're on YouTube, We're on Facebook, we are on.
26:08
Speaker 1: Google podcasts, podcast attic, iHeartRadio speakers, Spotify, so you can
26:13
Speaker 1: find us in many areas YouTube and so just share,
26:19
Speaker 1: share what works for you can find words.
26:23
Speaker 2: I would say, the things that your interests and the
26:25
Speaker 2: things that you're pursuing have been pursuing you the whole time.
26:27
Speaker 2: That's the only reason you're drawn to it. And don't
26:30
Speaker 2: discount it. It's so easy to discount our desires, brushing
26:35
Speaker 2: ourselves aside. And it's like, take time to notice the
26:38
Speaker 2: things that get your attention. Take time to notice the
26:41
Speaker 2: things that you like to listen to on YouTube, Take
26:43
Speaker 2: time to notice what you want to do. Are you
26:46
Speaker 2: sitting doodling and drawing? Are you having conversations with people
26:49
Speaker 2: that are you know, uplifting them? Just take time to
26:53
Speaker 2: be in an awareness of self and you'll find your
26:56
Speaker 2: path becomes a lot easier.
26:58
Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, all right, my friends. Until next time, This
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Speaker 1: is tea time with Amy and Bev signing up, h