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Why some narcissists target highly religious people · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people.
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  I'm Lee Hammock, the diagnosed self aware narcissist known as
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  mental illness and welcome to another episode of the
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  Narcissist Code. This your first time to sit in
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  my face and hear my lovely voice.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and I use my platform
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  on social media to raise a wonderful MPD, get more people
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  into therapy, and also validate the victims, survivors and
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  thrivers of said disorders. Say toxic people say toxic
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  traits. Today's episode is going to be
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  about why do some narcissists go after religious people and also
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  how narcissists use religion to manipulate people with.
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  Yeah, so I already know this is going to be a controversial
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  topic, and I know it shouldn't be, but this is the way it goes
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  when we talk about religion, especially in America or
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  anywhere, pretty much. But like especially in America
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  where I live at, it's just religion is a very touchy
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  subject. Y'all and people.
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  And that's why narcissistic people go after religious people
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  because they can use your religion and your faith to
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  manipulate you with. A lot of times, that's the a lot
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  of times it's just this narcissistic people, especially
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  some of the ones I've talked to, see religious people as easy
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  prey. Because it's just like, I know I
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  can play on your faith, I can play on your religion because
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  you don't need to see real, you don't need to see a real change
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  in me. If I treat you badly, I can just
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  say, hey look, you need to have faith.
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  If I do something wrong to you, I can just say, hey look, you
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  need to believe in me or just you need to go pray on it.
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  If I do something wrong to you or do something horrible to you,
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  I can always just say, look, we're married or we're together
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  and you know God believes in forgiveness or forgive and
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  forget an eye beauty and an eye to beholden whatever it is.
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  Y'all, they can play on your religion and use it to
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  manipulate you, use it to keep you with them because they know
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  if they get married to a certain religious person, you're not
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  going to leave. They don't think you're ever
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  going to leave them because the religion says you can't leave
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  sometimes. And then they'll convince you.
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  Sometimes the religion doesn't say that.
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  They will convince you that the religion says that.
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  They will convince you that you're the Bible or whatever,
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  the Quran, whatever. They will convince you that you
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  can't leave them because of this right here.
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  You know, so narcissistic people, some of them absolutely
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  target people in the church, people in the church, people
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  that are highly religious people that that have good hearts,
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  authentic people. Sometimes they just go after
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  that type of person because they know that once they get you,
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  it's hard for you to get out of it.
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  And they can always use your faith to manipulate you with, to
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  keep you down, to keep you locked to them, to keep you
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  bound to them. This happens quite a bit.
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  Y'all know and y'all know This is the truth.
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  It happens quite a bit in toxic, toxic relationship dynamics
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  where either you, the victim, survivor, thriver are highly
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  religious, or the narcissistic person is highly religious, or
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  pretending to be highly religious.
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  They're pretending to be a member of the same faith as you.
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  They're pretending to be interested in you because of
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  your religion, because of your faith.
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  But they see you as a they see you as a certain type of person
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  that is open to manipulation. They did.
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  They just do y'all. They use it.
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  They see it as, OK, you're religious, so you're a target.
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  They target you. And they some of them, they will
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  ruin your lives. Some of them will ruin your
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  life, you know, and I see even in my comment sections, people
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  all, even in my comment section, they're all like, if y'all try
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  Jesus, Jesus can heal, Jesus can forgive.
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  They will tell you the same thing to keep you in a relation
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  with them. So you.
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  So you don't believe in Jesus anymore, right.
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  So you're willing to give a bonus.
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  So that means you're you're not as deeply bound in your faith as
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  you thought you were because you don't.
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  Jesus can heal. I thought Jesus could heal.
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  Jesus could change you so you don't believe in Jesus anymore.
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  You going to walk away? That's like slapping God in the
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  face. They're slapping God's son in
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  the face. Imagine, imagine how your daddy
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  would ask somebody slap you in the face.
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  You think God is going to take kindly to somebody slapping
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  Jesus in the face? No.
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  You see what I'm saying? If you see something going with
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  this, they will use it against you.
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  I'm not telling y'all. I'm not telling y'all to not be
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  religious. That's not what I'm saying.
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  Because I I read the entire Bible.
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  I love God. God is.
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  I'm. I'm only here because of God.
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  I promise you don't. But don't let people use it to
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  manipulate you. It to just tell you to to
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  manipulate the Bible or any kind of religious text or scripture
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  into their own words. And like like they are speaking
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  for God because they will absolutely or your or God, you
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  know, God Almighty. They will take that and just
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  weaponize it against you, y'all and keep you there because they
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  will target you because they they see you as a certain type
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  of person. You see what I'm saying?
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  They see you as maybe being a high because you go to church
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  because you're religion. You're in church on every
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  Sunday. They see you as a highly
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  empathetic person. Your empathy attracts them to
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  it. Y'all in church together, you
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  know, I don't know. People were the best colognes
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  and perfumes of church. I don't know what it is back in
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  the day. That's one of the things I
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  remember from being in church. The people who smell good, you
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  know, these people always smell good.
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  So you go to church, the the synth is in the air.
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  There's like pheromones everywhere.
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  Just like it's people attract it.
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  It's just good. You assume there's good people
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  in there. You assume because of the
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  church, you assume that good people are in there.
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  You know and narcissistic people can infiltrate the church.
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  They sometimes the narcissist is the pastor.
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  You see what I'm saying? Sometimes the narcissist is the
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  pastor of the church. Sometimes the narcissist is in
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  the congregation, congregation. Sometimes the narcissistic
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  person is visiting. You know there's a there's a
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  visitor anybody, any visitors in the house, please stand up.
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  Introduce yourself and the narcissist stands up, gets a
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  round of applause and sits down. You see what I'm saying?
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  That happens all the time. Y'all.
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  Just be weary in this situation where you see if you see people
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  using religion to hurt you, if you feel like you being hurt by
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  the text, you feel like somebody's using the Bible to
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  hurt you or to keep to justify some type of toxicity or some
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  type of some type of toxic action or some type of
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  humiliating behavior towards you or some type of hurtful or
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  harmful behavior towards you. That's what it goes right there.
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  Y'all that's part of it. Don't let people do that because
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  I'm just telling you, they will absolutely, 100% target you
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  because you're religious. They will because they and you
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  will be Like if they go to the same church or they're in the
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  same congregation or whatever, you would think they're a good
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  person just because they're religious.
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  Just because they're in church you you automatically assume
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  that they're a good person because they're in church.
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  You so your guard is already lowered.
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  They target some. Sometimes narcissistic people
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  target religious people because your guard is already let down
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  because you're in the church. Church is supposed to be where
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  you. Church is where you're supposed
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  to go, get love, care, and be able to trust the people around
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  you. Like y'all have the same goal.
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  Like church is supposed to be unified.
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  Unified. We have a unified goal here.
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  So you assume that people have the same goal as you because if
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  you have a good heart, you know what I mean?
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  You assume that. You assume you assume that the
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  people around you have good hearts as well.
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  So that narcissistic person could infiltrate the church and
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  just pretend to be a good person.
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  They can pretend they have your best interests at heart or the
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  same interests that you do. They can pretend that they don't
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  have to be. They don't even have to be
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  authentic with it. They can pretend to have the
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  same interests as you. They can pretend to have the
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  same mindset as you to get you to get you locked in, locked
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  out. And sometimes they convince you
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  to leave the church. Sometimes they get you to
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  question your faith. You know, you pray, they treat.
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  The worse they treat you, the harder you be praying and they
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  will weaponize your prayers. They're like, make sure you pray
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  for yourself to change too, because you're a horrible
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  person. You're not good in the eyes of
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  God. They can make you seem like you
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  are the bad person because you want to leave them y'all get
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  married and whatever you want to leave them.
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  They'd be like, wow, I guess you're not the woman of God or a
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  man of God. Guess you're not doing it right.
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  You see what I'm saying? They assume that you have a
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  certain type of mindset. If you're highly dedicated to
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  the church and single or whatever, you know what I mean.
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  Or recently divorced, widowed, whatever the situation is, just
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  be very weary of people you meet in church and the same thing.
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  It's the same thing. It's kind of the same thing on
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  dating apps. Y'all like and this is one of my
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  things right here. I just this is my thing right
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  here. One of the red flags to watch
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  out for if people to to me, if people just have it in their bio
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  just like a Bible verse or a scripture, they're trying to get
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  you to lower their guard. Y'all.
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  I'm not saying that they are just being inauthentic, but the
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  red flags for me would go up. If I see Christian or somebody
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  in the bio, my red flags always go up.
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  I'm just like, why you put that there?
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  You know, I'm a proud Christian. I get.
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  I get being a proud Christian, I get that.
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  But some people put that stuff out there to get you to lower
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  your guard. You see, you see what I'm
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  saying? Because you're religious.
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  You see a religious scripture in their in their bio, you
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  automatically assume that they are good persons and you lower
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  your guard. You see, they target you like
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  that. It's so subtle.
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  It's subtle. We all the manipulation can be
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  so subtle. That's what I'm saying.
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  Just be wary. I'm not telling you to avoid
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  people with Christian in their bio.
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  I would, because I it's just a different mindset.
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  But like just be very careful when you're dealing with people
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  like that because they can convince you that you know what
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  what what else do you have other than their word?
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  You know, they can tell you, oh, my girlfriend treated me
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  horribly. My ex is doing this.
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  My ex has done that. My ex has did this.
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  My ex has done that. What evidence do you have?
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  On the contrary, you just have to take that word for you know,
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  I've been in church for this long.
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  You got, I've been, I've been. It's a different church that you
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  know, you know I don't go to that church anymore.
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  This doesn't happen. I got excommunicated because
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  people lied on me, I I got, they took me off the books because
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  people lied on me. This is that they are looking
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  for some people are out here looking for religious people to
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  manipulate y'all. So if you can see yourself
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  religious, Christian, Muslim, whatever religion you are, just
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  be careful because people are looking.
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  There is a certain type of person, it's out here looking
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  ready, willing and able to manipulate you.
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  They're looking to manipulate you.
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  They're looking to come get you. They're looking to take that.
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  They're looking for this. Y'all, that's something.
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  Just be be careful, Y'all, just be very wary, be very careful
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  because everybody, like I said, everybody doesn't have your best
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  interest at heart. They just don't.
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  Everybody does not have your best interest at heart.
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  They just don't. And I know people just like,
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  well, everybody doesn't have your best interest at heart.
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  Y'all they have their best. They have their best interest at
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  heart. They have their best interest.
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  Not yours, not yours. So be careful, be very weary,
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  because the more the more you're dealing with a toxic
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  narcissistic person, the more they're going to keep doing this
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  stuff. Y'all.
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  So it's just like you go to church, you might be a target.
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  That's that's the easy way for me to put it.
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  If you go to church, you might actually be a target, you know,
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