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Understand what Warmth is (S5) S22:E2 Sunday · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hello, everyone.
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It is John C.
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Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
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Great to be with you on a wonderful
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Are you ready, guys?
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I know I am.
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So I have a question for you.
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What if the real secret to influence was
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not being louder, smarter, or faster, but actually
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being warmer?
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Hmm, there's a caveat.
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Well, welcome everyone to Inspirations for Your Life,
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where I turn everyday moments into powerful life
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lessons that help you grow, lead, and connect.
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Who am I?
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Sure, I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, passionate
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lifelong learner, and yes, so grateful now to
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be a published author.
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This is Sunday, as I said, May 24th,
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2026, and I'm exploring one of the underrated
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forces in life and business.
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What is it?
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Warmth.
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Warmth makes people stay relaxed, trust, and even
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open up.
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In a world full of noise, the people
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who make others feel safe, seen, and valued
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are the ones who truly leave a mark.
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So if you're wondering, or you ever wanted
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a better set of conversations to happen, or
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maybe even have a stronger relationship and more
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human spaces, this episode is exactly for you.
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By the way, guys, this is series five.
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That means we are on the air in
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our fifth year.
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We've been on the air four months, and
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January, February, March, April, May, four months, four
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and a half, four years, and five months.
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It's Sunday, and it's all about understanding what
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warmth is and this week, we're not just
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talking about warmth, we're learning how to be
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it.
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Yeah, I know.
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Number one, guys, warmth makes people stay.
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When people feel welcomed, they naturally want to
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remain.
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A warm atmosphere creates a sense of, well,
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belonging.
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And I think we all wanna feel like
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we're part of something, right?
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I think that's a very important thing for
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a lot of people to actually understand because
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that's a key in life, guys.
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Number two, people relax when the room feels
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kind.
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Kindness lowers stress and tension right away.
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It helps people breathe easier and think more
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clearly, and it's where all the judgment is
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basically, well, let's say 86 or removed.
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86 comes from the restaurant industry where we
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say we're gonna 86 a sauce or 86
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a dressing or 86 onions or whatever it
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just means to remove.
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Number three, guys, warmth is the invisible social
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glue.
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It holds people together in a way that
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rules and titles can't.
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It makes connection feel natural instead of forced.
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Number four, guys, a calm tone builds trust
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fast.
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When your voice is steady and kind, people
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feel safe.
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Trust often begins with tone before words.
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Number five, warm people create safer spaces.
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Safety is not just physical, it is emotional
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too.
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Warmth helps others feel protected from any kind
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of judgment, all right?
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I think a lot of times people are
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scared because they don't know how people are
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gonna open up or what they're gonna say.
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And I can understand why people may be
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scared about basically being vulnerable.
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It's hard sometimes to open up because you
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don't know if you're gonna be judged or
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if you're gonna be excluded or exiled, right?
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Number six, kindness is not weakness.
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It takes strength to stay gentle in a
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harsh world.
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Real kindness shows confidence and control.
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And I say this phrase a lot to
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people when I'm doing something to somebody and
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I feel like they're trying to take advantage
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of me and I say, don't let my
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kindness, okay, come out as being a weakness.
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Don't take my kindness for being weak because
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I can be strong and I'm choosing to
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be kind.
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Don't abuse it.
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Real kindness shows confidence and control, right?
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Number seven, the tone in a room matters.
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People respond to energy before they respond to
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content.
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People respond to energy before they respond to
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content.
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The atmosphere shapes the conversations.
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I think a lot of people don't realize
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that and it's happening subconsciously.
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It's happening subconsciously.
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That's an important thing to know, guys.
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That's a very, very important thing to know,
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a very important thing to know.
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Number eight, guys, warmth makes honesty easier.
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When people feel accepted, they're more willing to
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tell the truth.
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Comfort opens the door to real authentic communication.
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People can just be who they are, not
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try to be someone else.
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Number nine, guys, you can feel when a
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space is cold.
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Coldness often creates distance without saying a word.
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People notice when warmth is missing and they
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either leave or they clam up and don't
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wanna say anything.
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So they'll still be polite, right?
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But they're not going to be more than
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that, okay?
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They're gonna be polite and courteous, but they're
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not gonna go beyond that threshold.
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And why should they?
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Number 10, warmth invites conversations.
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A friendly environment encourages people to speak up.
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Wow, that's pretty cool.
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It turns silence into magical rays of connections.
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Number 11, guys, the right energy lowers walls.
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People naturally guard themselves when they feel pressure,
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understandable.
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Warmth and the energy from being warm helps
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those defenses soften, helps people have an understanding,
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a sense of care, a sense of compassion,
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a sense of community, a sense of understanding.
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Number 12, people open up when they feel
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accepted.
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Acceptance gives others permission to be real.
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It builds deeper and more meaningful exchanges instead
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of the cursory things like people ghosting each
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other.
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And we're gonna do a whole show on
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ghosting, don't worry.
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Number 13, warmth turns strangers into regular people.
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When people feel good around you, they come
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back.
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You see, familiarity often starts with emotional comfort.
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It does, and that's kind of very special.
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Number 14, a sincere smile changes the dynamic
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in our world.
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A genuine smile can shift the entire mood
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of a room.
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It signals, hey, I'm open before words even
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come out of your mouth or my mouth.
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The subconscious makes a huge, huge difference.
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A huge, huge difference.
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I think that's important to know, guys.
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Very important to know.
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Number 15, comfort is a signal.
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When someone feels comfortable, they're telling you the
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space works for them.
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Comfort often leads to trust, trust.
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Number 16, guys, warmth gives people permission to
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be real, to be authentic, to be who
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they really are.
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No errors about who they are.
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People do not need perfection to connect.
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They need a place where they can be
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themselves.
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I was having a conversation with somebody the
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other day, and I think I slipped on
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a word, and the person had said to
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me, what did you mean?
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And they came back, and I was like,
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oh, I think I meant this.
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And it was just kind of funny, but
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it was like not a challenge.
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It was more like kind of being playful.
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Number 17, good energy is contagious, if you
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didn't know that already.
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Positive energy spreads quickly from person to person.
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So does negative energy, so we wanna keep
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it good.
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One warm person can change the entire dynamic
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of a room.
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That's like amazing how that can happen, how
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somebody's energy, how somebody's space, how you can
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feel somebody's space by just being a few
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feet away from you.
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We learned this, you know where?
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Horses.
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Horses.
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I had a gentleman on the show, I
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think it was last year, and he was
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talking about horses can sense your heartbeat from
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standing near.
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That's pretty amazing, guys.
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Any rider can have the experience.
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They can see something in the distance that
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will most definitely send your horse in a
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spiral, be it a deer on the trail,
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wayward tarp, or the world, let's say, shattering
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something going on, or maybe an open umbrella
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that kind of falls in the path.
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Unbeknownst to you, your heart starts to beat
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faster.
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As your brain prepares for the spook, and
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before your horse even sees the threat, he's
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tense too.
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In a situation, we've learned that a deep
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breath goes a long way, that horses can
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sense our fear, and by staying calm, our
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energy will transfer into them.
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But did you know that there's actual science
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behind horsemanship?
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That's what blew me away.
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Horses have incredible hearing with the ability to
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hear the heartbeat of a human from four
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feet away.
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In the wild, horses will synchronize their heartbeats
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to the other horses in the herd in
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order to sense danger more quickly.
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And recent studies have shown that they use
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their tactics in domesticated life as well.
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When horses interact with us, they tend to
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synchronize to our heartbeats as well, meaning they
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can sense slight adjustments in our mood.
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This means when a rider gets on, maybe
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nervous about something, this inadvertently translates fear into
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the horse, and anxieties onto the horse.
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And they pick this up, and guess what?
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They do respond.
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They do respond.
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Number 18, guys, a welcoming space changes posture.
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People sit differently.
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When they feel at ease, their bodies often
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relax before their words do.
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Maybe you're gonna sit back in the chair.
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Your arms are spread out.
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Number 19, people lean in when they feel
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cared for.
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Care creates attention.
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When people feel valued, they naturally engage more
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deeply.
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That's a mouthful.
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Number 20, guys, warmth is memorable.
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People may forget your exact words, but they
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will remember how you made them feel forever.
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That feeling stays with them.
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Number 21, emotional safety starts right here.
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Warmth is often the first step toward real
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safety.
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It tells people they do not need to
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hide.
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They don't have to be fearful.
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They can be who they are.
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Number 22, the best groups feel human.
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Human spaces allow laughter, honesty, and true empathy.
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Warmth makes groups feel alive instead of mechanical
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and rigid.
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That's important.
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Number 23, guys, warmth reduces performance pressure.
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People do better when they are not afraid
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of being judged.
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I'm sure you can relate to that.
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A warm environment allows more freedom to coexist.
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But I think sometimes people get scared because
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of what happened in the past.
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Maybe you were at a certain restaurant and
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maybe things didn't go well because you were
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with a new friend or even a significant
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other, and it just went downhill.
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And so you're fearful to go back to
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that place or sit at that certain table
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or maybe even order that food.
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You know, athletes are like this.
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They have this special ritual before they'll play
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the game or a certain old pair of
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dirty socks because it puts them into their
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zone.
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Without it, they feel all discombobulated.
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And that itself says something.
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We learned about that horse before.
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Four feet away, a horse can sense your
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heartbeat.
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So I have a question for you.
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Can humans sense others' heartbeats?
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And from how far away?
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Let's dissect that for a moment, okay?
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Not like horses, okay?
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Brains can sync.
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Humans cannot directly sense others' heartbeats, but they
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can perceive subtle cues.
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They can perceive subtle cues, okay?
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They perceive subtle cues.
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And I think that's an important thing for
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us to understand.
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Okay, I think that's an important thing for
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us to understand that humans cannot directly sense
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others' heartbeats, but they can perceive the subtle
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cues related to emotional states and psychological responses,
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such as the body's language and how it's
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positioning or the vocal tonality.
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The ability to detect these cues is influenced
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by proximity with closer distances allowing for better
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perception of such signals.
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So humans do not have the ability directly
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to sense the heartbeat of others.
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However, they can pick up on subtle cues,
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as I said, such as their emotional states
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and psychological responses.
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And the ability to detect these cues is
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influenced by several factors.
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Proximity, being closer to someone, enhances the ability
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to perceive their emotional or psychological signals.
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The context, the environment, and situation can always
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affect how well these cues are detected.
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While humans cannot directly sense heartbeats, they can
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interpret and they can feel the other person's
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energy.
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That's very, very powerful, guys.
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I'm extremely powerful.
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So energy is everywhere, guys.
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Energy is everywhere.
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So if you're getting on a horse, so
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before I jump to the horse again, I
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bet a question you're probably asking me, John,
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is can dogs sense our heartbeat?
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Can dogs sense our heartbeat as humans?
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Can they?
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So dogs can sense human heartbeats due to
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their superior sense of hearing, which allows them
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to detect sounds from a distance.
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They may seem to find comfort in the
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sound of a heartbeat, often cuddling close to
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their owners to listen.
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So they can feel how a human is,
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even though they may not be able to
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see them very well.
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Their sight is not as good as humans,
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obviously, right?
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But I think it's interesting to know that
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when we control our behaviors, it can affect
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our surroundings.
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It can affect the people in the environment.
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That's important.
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So when we think about our heartbeat, we
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think about our lives, we think about how
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I affect my output.
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I might not be able to directly influence
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someone, and I shouldn't, but if I change
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my output, it will directly affect somebody else.
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Being kind is something that's gonna change everybody.
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Maybe you have somebody that's being nasty, and
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you're just suddenly so kind.
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That's gonna change everything very positively.
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So if you've ever gotten on a horse
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before, you're gonna get on one in the
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future, make sure that you are very aware
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of that situation.
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Okay?
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Make sure you're aware of it.
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So the gentleman, just get back to my
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mind here, that was on our show.
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It was a while ago.
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His name, it just came to me a
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minute.
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His first name was Zach.
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And when he was on the show and
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hearing about horses and what he did, that's
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pretty amazing, okay?
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And so when you think about this, when
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you think about how this affects people, right?
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I think that's a pretty amazing thing, okay?
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I think it's an amazing thing.
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And so we heard a lot about horses
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from him.
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That was pretty amazing, right?
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For you guys to remember the show, it
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was a while back, but it was pretty
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amazing.
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So he actually runs a farm, a horse
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farm.
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And yeah, we learned a lot about horses
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from him.
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So if you're thinking that the horse doesn't
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know, well, guess what?
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The horse knows more than you think.
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The horse can sense your body.
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So the short tip is, be aware of
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your body.
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Be aware of its output because other creatures
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in nature can sense that.
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Even people can't, let's say, hear your heart,
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but they can sense you and your presence.
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I think that's something that a lot of
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people don't realize.
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Number 24, guys, a gentle room produces better
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conversation.
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Gentleness invites thoughtfulness and respect.
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It creates space for deeper exchanges.
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That's powerful, guys.
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That's priceless.
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Kindness scales.
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Number 25, one kind act can influence many
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people over time.
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Warmth grows as it's shared.
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I love that, guys.
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Number 26, the right atmosphere does part of
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the work.
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Part, not all of it.
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Environment shapes behavior more than many people realize.
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A warm setting supports better outcomes, right?
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Number 27, people return to warmth.
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We all seek spaces that make us feel
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good.
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Warmth creates loyalty without forcing it.
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It just becomes a natural occurrence.
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Number 28, guys, number 28, warmth makes connection
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easier.
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It removes friction from relationships.
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People bond faster when they feel comfortable.
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Number 29, guys, softness can be powerful.
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Gentle energy can carry great influence.
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Sometimes, guys, the quietest strength is the most
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effective one.
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Remember, I said you don't have to be
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loud.
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At number 30, a warm space changes the
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whole caveat, the whole experience.
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Warmth transforms ordinary moments into meaningful ones.
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It turns interaction into connection.
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It turns interaction into connection.
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And I think if we pause for a
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moment and ask ourself, the last time we
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were in a conversation, were we warm or
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were we cold?
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I don't care whether it was platonic or
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non-platonic.
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I care that you were a human being
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to that person.
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It was something you didn't wanna discuss.
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Were you kind and warm?
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You know, Mark, I appreciate that.
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And this is not something I wanna discuss.
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It's okay, still warm.
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And I'm happy to talk about any other
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area that you could bring up, just not
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this one, not today.
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I was kind, respectful.
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I set a boundary.
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Setting a boundary does not mean that you
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are unkind.
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Setting a boundary is you are basically putting
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something and expecting respect.
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You might find your friend or partner that
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has something and they wanna keep that off
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the table.
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That's respect.
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When people hear boundaries, a lot of times
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they chase, like, oh my gosh, what am
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I gonna do?
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What am I gonna do?
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But if we look at it from the
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other angle and say, wait a minute, I
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recognize and I respect this person's boundary.
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And because of that boundary, I'm not gonna
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try to circumvent it.
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I'm not gonna try to manipulate it.
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I am gonna respect this boundary.
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If and when this person decides to allow
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me to cross it down the road, great,
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but I'm not going to expect that or
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try to get them to change the boundary.
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See, that's the difference of warmth.
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Warmth meets somebody where they are and where
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you are.
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You don't have to go higher.
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You don't have to go lower.
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You're right together at the same level.
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Think about pets for a moment.
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I don't know if we have any animal
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lovers, whether it's dogs, cats, or anything.
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You don't have to do much to love
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your pet, do you?
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Your pet just naturally comes to you and
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maybe wants to be petted.
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And if you move your hand, the pet
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kind of just lifts your hand back on
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to try to pet him or her again.
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But you don't have to do much for
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that.
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Of course, you take care of them.
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You walk them, things like that if you
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have a pet, but you don't have to
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do a lot.
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The pet naturally meets you at your level
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and you meet the pet at your level
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and you connect.
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That's very, very special.
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Ladies and gentlemen, today in closing, I wanna
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say something very, very important.
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We've been talking about warmth, in case you
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didn't know.
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We weren't talking about the warmth from a
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fireplace.
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We're talking about the warmth from people in
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their connections, relationships, even business ones.
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Warmth is not, ladies and gentlemen, just a
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nice idea.
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It's a powerful way to lead, to communicate,
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and to build trust.
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It should not, let me say this again,
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it should not be rushed.
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It should not be rushed.
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It should not be rushed.
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It should be nurtured at whatever level that
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you're currently at at the present moment.
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That's what it's about.
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That's what it's about.
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And I think when we start to understand
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that we're happy at where we are, maybe
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we want it to go somewhere else, but
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we're happy where we are right now and
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we can appreciate and be grateful for the
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time we have together or the beginning starts
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of a relationship.
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That's pretty cool.
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So ladies and gentlemen, when you choose warmth,
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okay?
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You choose connection over distance.
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And care, ladies and gentlemen, over coldness.
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Think about that for a moment.
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It doesn't cost anything to be kind, nothing.
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And when you be kind, kindness will come
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back to you like a boomerang.
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And that is how you create relationships that
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last.
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Don't expect to be an expert at warmth.
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Just try your best.
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Don't over try, just try your best and
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be yourself.
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Have a great one everyone.
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And I look forward to you finding warmth
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in all of your connections that you make.
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Have a great one everyone and be well.
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