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Episode 5: Sovereignty · Three Rebel Souls

• 1:18
  Hello,
• 1:19
  friends.
• 1:21
  Hello.
• 1:21
  Hi.
• 1:24
  How
• 1:24
  are
• 1:24
  you
• 1:25
  feeling
• 1:25
  today?
• 1:26
  Awesome
• 1:26
  to
• 1:26
  be
• 1:27
  here
• 1:27
  with
• 1:27
  you.
• 1:28
  As
• 1:28
  usual.
• 1:29
  Excited
• 1:30
  always
• 1:31
  is
• 1:33
  pleasure
• 1:33
  and
• 1:33
  a
• 1:33
  gift.
• 1:35
  That's
• 1:35
  right.
• 1:38
  Set
• 1:38
  up
• 1:38
  for
• 1:38
  more
• 1:39
  conversations.
• 1:41
  Quick
• 1:41
  check
• 1:42
  in.
• 1:44
  We
• 1:44
  feeling
• 1:46
  now
• 1:46
  that
• 1:47
  everybody's
• 1:47
  done
• 1:47
  their
• 1:47
  solo
• 1:48
  bio
• 1:49
  episodes,
• 1:50
  how
• 1:51
  we
• 1:51
  feeling?
• 1:52
  Excited.
• 1:53
  Yeah,
• 1:54
  I'm
• 1:54
  so
• 1:54
  excited.
• 1:56
  Lot
• 1:56
  less
• 1:57
  nervous
• 1:57
  for
• 1:57
  this
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  one,
• 1:57
  huh?
• 2:00
  Yeah,
• 2:01
  I.
• 2:01
  Well,
• 2:01
  I
• 2:02
  guess.
• 2:02
  I
• 2:02
  guess
• 2:03
  I
• 2:03
  was
• 2:03
  nervous,
• 2:03
  like,
• 2:03
  for
• 2:04
  my
• 2:04
  first
• 2:04
  one
• 2:04
  that
• 2:05
  we're
• 2:05
  not
• 2:05
  using,
• 2:05
  so
• 2:06
  y'
• 2:06
  all
• 2:06
  never
• 2:07
  hear
• 2:07
  that
• 2:07
  mess
• 2:07
  that
• 2:08
  happened,
• 2:09
  but,
• 2:11
  yeah,
• 2:13
  no,
• 2:13
  it's
• 2:13
  good.
• 2:14
  I'm
• 2:14
  so,
• 2:14
  so
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  excited
• 2:15
  to
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  keep
• 2:16
  diving
• 2:16
  into
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  all
• 2:17
  the
• 2:17
  topics
• 2:17
  that
• 2:18
  came
• 2:18
  up
• 2:18
  in
• 2:18
  our
• 2:19
  individual
• 2:19
  episodes.
• 2:20
  So.
• 2:20
  Yeah.
• 2:22
  Yeah,
• 2:22
  we've
• 2:22
  got
• 2:23
  a
• 2:23
  lot
• 2:23
  more
• 2:24
  to
• 2:27
  elaborate
• 2:28
  on
• 2:29
  over
• 2:29
  the
• 2:29
  course
• 2:30
  of
• 2:30
  our
• 2:30
  journey
• 2:30
  here,
• 2:30
  for
• 2:31
  sure.
• 2:33
  Still
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  a
• 2:34
  little
• 2:34
  nervous,
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  but,
• 2:34
  like,
• 2:35
  excited
• 2:35
  just
• 2:36
  because,
• 2:37
  again,
• 2:37
  we're.
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  The
• 2:38
  reason
• 2:38
  why
• 2:38
  we
• 2:38
  decided
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  to
• 2:39
  do
• 2:39
  this
• 2:39
  was
• 2:39
  because
• 2:40
  we
• 2:40
  were
• 2:40
  having
• 2:40
  these
• 2:41
  conversations
• 2:41
  anyway.
• 2:42
  Right.
• 2:43
  I
• 2:43
  feel
• 2:43
  like
• 2:43
  the
• 2:44
  nervousness
• 2:44
  is
• 2:44
  a
• 2:45
  little
• 2:45
  more
• 2:45
  of,
• 2:45
  like,
• 2:47
  I
• 2:47
  guess
• 2:48
  I
• 2:48
  haven't.
• 2:52
  I've
• 2:52
  never
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  done
• 2:53
  recordings
• 2:53
  before.
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  Right.
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  So
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  I'm
• 2:54
  still
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  kind
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  of
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  like,
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  when
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  do
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  I
• 2:55
  talk?
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  Do
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  I
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  not
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  talk?
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  Do
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  I
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  say,
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  like,
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  you
• 2:57
  know,
• 2:58
  so
• 2:58
  that's
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  still
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  like.
• 2:59
  I'm
• 2:59
  still
• 2:59
  getting
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  used
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  to
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  that.
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  But
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  other
• 3:01
  than
• 3:01
  that,
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  like,
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  do.
• 3:02
  Doing
• 3:03
  this
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  itself.
• 3:03
  It's
• 3:03
  exciting.
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  Yeah.
• 3:07
  Talk
• 3:07
  just
• 3:07
  like
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  you
• 3:08
  always
• 3:08
  talk
• 3:08
  in
• 3:08
  our
• 3:08
  normal
• 3:09
  conversations.
• 3:10
  Yeah,
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  exactly.
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  That's
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  all
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  we're.
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  We
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  just
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  decided
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  that
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  we
• 3:14
  were
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  essentially
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  doing
• 3:15
  the
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  thing
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  we've
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  always
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  been
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  doing
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  and
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  pressing
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  record.
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  Right.
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  So
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  here
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  we
• 3:19
  are.
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  Right.
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  Maybe
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  it's
• 3:24
  the
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  smartest
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  thing
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  we've
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  ever
• 3:25
  done.
• 3:25
  Maybe
• 3:25
  it's
• 3:25
  the
• 3:25
  dumbest.
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  Who
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  knows?
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  We'll
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  see.
• 3:30
  Yeah,
• 3:30
  exactly.
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  Exactly.
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  It's
• 3:32
  fun.
• 3:33
  So
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  what
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  are
• 3:33
  we
• 3:33
  doing
• 3:33
  today?
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  Well,
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  we
• 3:36
  are
• 3:36
  going
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  to
• 3:37
  start
• 3:37
  our
• 3:37
  series
• 3:39
  of
• 3:40
  sharing
• 3:41
  the
• 3:41
  values
• 3:42
  that
• 3:42
  we
• 3:42
  came
• 3:42
  up
• 3:43
  with
• 3:43
  as
• 3:43
  a
• 3:43
  group
• 3:44
  that
• 3:45
  are
• 3:45
  going
• 3:45
  to
• 3:45
  kind
• 3:45
  of
• 3:46
  guide
• 3:46
  our
• 3:46
  journey.
• 3:49
  At
• 3:49
  Three
• 3:49
  Rebel
• 3:50
  Souls,
• 3:51
  essentially,
• 3:51
  we
• 3:51
  wanted
• 3:52
  to
• 3:52
  understand,
• 3:52
  like,
• 3:53
  what
• 3:53
  are
• 3:54
  compass
• 3:54
  was.
• 3:55
  So
• 3:55
  this
• 3:55
  is
• 3:55
  like
• 3:55
  an
• 3:55
  extension
• 3:56
  of
• 3:56
  our
• 3:56
  mission.
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  Like,
• 3:57
  why
• 3:57
  are
• 3:57
  we
• 3:57
  doing
• 3:57
  this?
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  What
• 3:58
  do
• 3:58
  we
• 3:58
  hope
• 3:58
  to
• 4:00
  get
• 4:00
  out
• 4:00
  of
• 4:00
  it?
• 4:00
  Or
• 4:00
  what
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  do
• 4:01
  we
• 4:01
  hope
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  to,
• 4:04
  I
• 4:04
  guess,
• 4:04
  kind
• 4:04
  of
• 4:04
  lead
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  with.
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  Basically,
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  we
• 4:09
  wanted
• 4:09
  to
• 4:10
  clearly
• 4:10
  articulate
• 4:11
  our
• 4:11
  guiding
• 4:11
  principles,
• 4:12
  not
• 4:13
  just
• 4:13
  for
• 4:13
  ourselves,
• 4:13
  but
• 4:14
  for
• 4:14
  the
• 4:14
  folks
• 4:14
  that
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  we
• 4:15
  want
• 4:15
  to
• 4:15
  connect
• 4:16
  with.
• 4:16
  We
• 4:16
  want
• 4:17
  these
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  to
• 4:17
  sort
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  of
• 4:17
  be
• 4:18
  like
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  a
• 4:18
  pillar
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  that
• 4:19
  help
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  us
• 4:20
  connect
• 4:20
  with
• 4:20
  all
• 4:20
  of
• 4:21
  you,
• 4:21
  bring
• 4:22
  you
• 4:22
  into
• 4:22
  our
• 4:22
  little
• 4:23
  Rebel
• 4:24
  souls
• 4:24
  community
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  and
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  help.
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  Keep
• 4:26
  us
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  aligned
• 4:27
  when
• 4:27
  things
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  get
• 4:28
  a
• 4:28
  little
• 4:28
  messy.
• 4:29
  That's
• 4:30
  right.
• 4:31
  Inevitably,
• 4:33
  things
• 4:33
  get
• 4:33
  a
• 4:33
  little
• 4:34
  messy
• 4:34
  because
• 4:35
  life
• 4:35
  is
• 4:35
  messy.
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  So
• 4:37
  we
• 4:37
  have
• 4:38
  six
• 4:38
  core
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  values
• 4:39
  because
• 4:40
  we
• 4:40
  couldn't
• 4:40
  narrow
• 4:40
  it
• 4:41
  down
• 4:41
  further
• 4:41
  than
• 4:41
  that.
• 4:43
  But
• 4:44
  the
• 4:44
  very
• 4:44
  first
• 4:44
  one
• 4:45
  that
• 4:45
  we're
• 4:45
  going
• 4:45
  to
• 4:45
  tackle
• 4:46
  today
• 4:47
  is
• 4:48
  our
• 4:49
  value
• 4:49
  of
• 4:49
  sovereignty.
• 4:51
  So
• 4:51
  here's
• 4:52
  how
• 4:52
  we
• 4:52
  defined
• 4:53
  sovereignty
• 4:54
  for
• 4:54
  what
• 4:54
  it
• 4:54
  means
• 4:55
  for
• 4:55
  us
• 4:56
  at
• 4:56
  Three
• 4:56
  Rebel
• 4:57
  Souls.
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  We
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  are
• 4:59
  loyal
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  to
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  ourselves
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  first.
• 5:02
  It
• 5:02
  isn't
• 5:03
  selfish,
• 5:03
  it's
• 5:04
  sacred.
• 5:05
  This
• 5:05
  is
• 5:05
  about
• 5:06
  reclaiming
• 5:06
  the
• 5:07
  power
• 5:07
  to
• 5:07
  choose
• 5:07
  our
• 5:07
  own
• 5:08
  path,
• 5:09
  not
• 5:09
  the
• 5:09
  one
• 5:09
  handed
• 5:10
  to
• 5:10
  us.
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  We
• 5:11
  honor
• 5:11
  our
• 5:12
  intuition,
• 5:12
  our,
• 5:13
  our
• 5:13
  needs
• 5:13
  and
• 5:13
  our
• 5:14
  boundaries
• 5:14
  without
• 5:15
  apology.
• 5:16
  Sovereignty
• 5:17
  is
• 5:17
  not
• 5:17
  about
• 5:18
  isolation,
• 5:18
  but
• 5:19
  being
• 5:19
  so
• 5:19
  deeply
• 5:20
  rooted
• 5:20
  in
• 5:20
  your
• 5:21
  own
• 5:21
  truth
• 5:22
  that
• 5:22
  you
• 5:22
  attract
• 5:22
  the
• 5:23
  right
• 5:23
  people.
• 5:26
  So
• 5:27
  good.
• 5:27
  It's
• 5:28
  a
• 5:28
  good
• 5:28
  one
• 5:28
  to
• 5:29
  start
• 5:29
  with.
• 5:30
  Yeah.
• 5:31
  Because
• 5:31
  it's
• 5:31
  kind
• 5:32
  of
• 5:32
  like
• 5:32
  the,
• 5:34
  the
• 5:34
  crux
• 5:34
  of
• 5:34
  it
• 5:34
  all.
• 5:35
  Right.
• 5:35
  Kind
• 5:35
  of
• 5:36
  the
• 5:36
  reason
• 5:36
  that
• 5:36
  we
• 5:39
  really
• 5:39
  felt
• 5:39
  so
• 5:39
  strongly
• 5:40
  about
• 5:40
  doing
• 5:40
  this.
• 5:41
  It's
• 5:42
  our
• 5:42
  own
• 5:43
  individual
• 5:43
  journeys
• 5:44
  of
• 5:44
  this
• 5:44
  like
• 5:45
  kind
• 5:45
  of
• 5:45
  reclamation.
• 5:46
  Right.
• 5:46
  Of
• 5:47
  finding
• 5:47
  our
• 5:47
  own
• 5:47
  sovereignty.
• 5:48
  So
• 5:50
  let's
• 5:50
  talk
• 5:50
  through
• 5:51
  what
• 5:51
  that
• 5:51
  actually
• 5:51
  looks
• 5:52
  like
• 5:52
  in
• 5:54
  each
• 5:54
  of
• 5:55
  our
• 5:55
  individual
• 5:56
  worlds.
• 5:59
  What
• 5:59
  does
• 5:59
  sovereignty
• 6:00
  mean
• 6:00
  to
• 6:00
  you?
• 6:00
  I
• 6:00
  feel
• 6:01
  like
• 6:01
  this
• 6:01
  is,
• 6:01
  this
• 6:02
  is
• 6:02
  the
• 6:02
  one
• 6:03
  value
• 6:03
  that
• 6:03
  right
• 6:03
  now
• 6:04
  I
• 6:04
  am
• 6:05
  really
• 6:05
  just
• 6:05
  starting
• 6:06
  to
• 6:06
  like
• 6:06
  integrate
• 6:07
  in
• 6:07
  my
• 6:07
  life
• 6:07
  and
• 6:08
  really
• 6:08
  live
• 6:08
  with
• 6:09
  in
• 6:09
  my
• 6:09
  life.
• 6:09
  Like
• 6:10
  all
• 6:10
  of
• 6:10
  the
• 6:11
  personal
• 6:11
  development
• 6:12
  that
• 6:12
  I've
• 6:13
  done
• 6:13
  up
• 6:14
  until
• 6:14
  today
• 6:14
  is
• 6:15
  like,
• 6:15
  I'm
• 6:15
  finally,
• 6:16
  excuse
• 6:16
  me,
• 6:16
  getting
• 6:17
  that.
• 6:17
  Like
• 6:17
  I'm
• 6:17
  finally
• 6:18
  getting
• 6:19
  what
• 6:19
  that's
• 6:20
  like
• 6:20
  for
• 6:20
  me.
• 6:20
  Like
• 6:20
  living
• 6:21
  it
• 6:22
  right.
• 6:22
  Just
• 6:23
  being
• 6:24
  independent,
• 6:26
  being,
• 6:26
  you
• 6:27
  know,
• 6:27
  just
• 6:27
  like
• 6:27
  making
• 6:27
  like
• 6:28
  my
• 6:28
  own
• 6:28
  decisions
• 6:29
  on
• 6:30
  things
• 6:30
  without,
• 6:34
  without
• 6:35
  others
• 6:36
  input.
• 6:37
  Especially
• 6:38
  like
• 6:38
  the
• 6:39
  input
• 6:39
  of
• 6:39
  the
• 6:39
  people
• 6:39
  who
• 6:40
  just
• 6:40
  want
• 6:40
  to
• 6:40
  impose
• 6:41
  their
• 6:42
  beliefs,
• 6:43
  you
• 6:43
  know,
• 6:44
  like
• 6:44
  on
• 6:44
  me,
• 6:45
  I
• 6:45
  guess.
• 6:45
  Right.
• 6:45
  Or
• 6:46
  I
• 6:47
  would
• 6:47
  say
• 6:47
  especially
• 6:48
  like
• 6:48
  family
• 6:49
  dynamics,
• 6:50
  right.
• 6:50
  Where
• 6:50
  I
• 6:50
  feel
• 6:50
  like
• 6:51
  for
• 6:51
  me
• 6:51
  have
• 6:52
  been
• 6:52
  very
• 6:53
  well,
• 6:54
  very
• 6:54
  prominent,
• 6:55
  like
• 6:55
  where
• 6:56
  I
• 6:56
  always
• 6:56
  allowed
• 6:57
  myself
• 6:58
  to
• 6:58
  put
• 6:58
  family
• 6:58
  first.
• 6:59
  And
• 7:00
  that
• 7:00
  was
• 7:00
  like
• 7:00
  a
• 7:00
  detriment
• 7:01
  to
• 7:01
  me
• 7:01
  and
• 7:01
  my
• 7:02
  own
• 7:02
  son
• 7:02
  and
• 7:02
  my
• 7:02
  own
• 7:03
  sovereignty.
• 7:03
  So
• 7:04
  I
• 7:04
  feel
• 7:04
  like
• 7:04
  it's
• 7:06
  like
• 7:06
  I'm
• 7:06
  finally
• 7:06
  just.
• 7:08
  I
• 7:08
  feel
• 7:08
  more
• 7:09
  anchored
• 7:09
  in
• 7:10
  myself
• 7:10
  is
• 7:10
  the
• 7:10
  best
• 7:11
  way
• 7:11
  that
• 7:11
  I
• 7:11
  can
• 7:11
  put
• 7:11
  it.
• 7:13
  You
• 7:13
  know,
• 7:14
  I'm
• 7:15
  not
• 7:15
  perfect.
• 7:16
  Not,
• 7:16
  not,
• 7:18
  not.
• 7:18
  Like
• 7:19
  I
• 7:19
  have
• 7:19
  it
• 7:19
  all
• 7:19
  figured
• 7:20
  out.
• 7:20
  I'm
• 7:21
  just
• 7:22
  able
• 7:22
  to
• 7:22
  practice
• 7:23
  that
• 7:23
  a
• 7:23
  little
• 7:23
  more
• 7:24
  now.
• 7:26
  Yeah,
• 7:28
  I
• 7:28
  know
• 7:28
  that's
• 7:29
  true
• 7:29
  for
• 7:29
  you.
• 7:29
  Like,
• 7:30
  you're
• 7:30
  such
• 7:30
  a
• 7:30
  deeply
• 7:31
  intuitive
• 7:31
  person.
• 7:33
  But
• 7:33
  we
• 7:33
  also
• 7:34
  were
• 7:34
  raised
• 7:34
  with
• 7:35
  that
• 7:35
  sort
• 7:35
  of
• 7:35
  like
• 7:36
  family
• 7:37
  first
• 7:37
  family,
• 7:37
  no
• 7:38
  matter
• 7:38
  what
• 7:38
  kind
• 7:38
  of
• 7:39
  narrative,
• 7:39
  which
• 7:40
  like
• 7:40
  I
• 7:40
  think
• 7:41
  we've
• 7:41
  talked
• 7:41
  about
• 7:41
  many
• 7:42
  times,
• 7:42
  like
• 7:42
  for
• 7:42
  both
• 7:42
  of
• 7:42
  us,
• 7:43
  that
• 7:43
  kind
• 7:43
  of
• 7:43
  resulted
• 7:43
  in
• 7:44
  this
• 7:44
  people
• 7:44
  pleasing,
• 7:45
  like,
• 7:45
  oh
• 7:45
  yeah,
• 7:46
  no
• 7:46
  boundaries,
• 7:49
  our
• 7:49
  own
• 7:49
  needs.
• 7:49
  And
• 7:49
  that
• 7:51
  sovereignty
• 7:52
  is
• 7:52
  about
• 7:52
  kind
• 7:53
  of
• 7:53
  drawing
• 7:53
  that
• 7:53
  line
• 7:54
  in
• 7:54
  the
• 7:54
  sand
• 7:54
  saying
• 7:54
  like,
• 7:55
  nope,
• 7:55
  my
• 7:55
  intuition
• 7:56
  is
• 7:56
  telling
• 7:56
  this
• 7:56
  or
• 7:57
  I
• 7:57
  actually
• 7:57
  need
• 7:57
  this.
• 7:58
  And
• 7:58
  it's
• 7:58
  being
• 7:58
  able
• 7:59
  to
• 8:01
  set
• 8:01
  boundaries
• 8:02
  that
• 8:02
  give
• 8:03
  us
• 8:03
  a
• 8:03
  pathway
• 8:03
  to
• 8:04
  a
• 8:04
  healthier
• 8:04
  Connection.
• 8:08
  But
• 8:08
  it
• 8:08
  is.
• 8:09
  It's.
• 8:09
  It
• 8:10
  is
• 8:10
  a
• 8:10
  practice
• 8:11
  when
• 8:12
  all
• 8:12
  of
• 8:12
  those
• 8:13
  other
• 8:13
  narratives
• 8:14
  are
• 8:14
  so
• 8:14
  deeply
• 8:14
  conditioned
• 8:15
  into
• 8:15
  you.
• 8:16
  Yeah.
• 8:16
  And
• 8:16
  I
• 8:16
  want
• 8:17
  to
• 8:17
  add,
• 8:17
  sometimes
• 8:17
  it
• 8:18
  means
• 8:18
  no
• 8:18
  connection
• 8:19
  at
• 8:19
  all.
• 8:20
  Yes.
• 8:21
  You
• 8:21
  know,
• 8:21
  or
• 8:22
  not
• 8:22
  for
• 8:22
  a
• 8:23
  while.
• 8:23
  You
• 8:23
  know
• 8:24
  what
• 8:24
  I
• 8:24
  mean?
• 8:24
  But
• 8:24
  it.
• 8:25
  Unfortunately,
• 8:26
  it
• 8:26
  does.
• 8:26
  It
• 8:26
  does
• 8:26
  mean
• 8:27
  that,
• 8:27
  too.
• 8:28
  Yep,
• 8:29
  absolutely.
• 8:29
  But
• 8:31
  interestingly
• 8:32
  enough,
• 8:33
  I
• 8:33
  mean,
• 8:34
  the
• 8:34
  last
• 8:34
  line
• 8:35
  in
• 8:35
  this
• 8:35
  value,
• 8:35
  when
• 8:36
  we
• 8:36
  were.
• 8:37
  When
• 8:37
  we
• 8:37
  were
• 8:38
  writing
• 8:38
  these.
• 8:38
  When
• 8:38
  we
• 8:38
  were
• 8:39
  defining
• 8:39
  it,
• 8:41
  being
• 8:41
  sort
• 8:42
  of
• 8:42
  deeply
• 8:42
  rooted
• 8:43
  in
• 8:43
  your
• 8:43
  own
• 8:43
  truth
• 8:43
  that
• 8:43
  you
• 8:44
  attract
• 8:44
  the
• 8:44
  right
• 8:44
  people.
• 8:46
  It's
• 8:46
  that
• 8:49
  it's
• 8:49
  a
• 8:50
  tricky.
• 8:51
  It's
• 8:52
  a
• 8:52
  tricky
• 8:52
  thing
• 8:52
  to
• 8:52
  kind
• 8:52
  of
• 8:53
  wrestle
• 8:53
  with
• 8:53
  when
• 8:53
  you're
• 8:54
  going
• 8:54
  through
• 8:54
  it,
• 8:55
  because
• 8:55
  we've
• 8:56
  placed
• 8:57
  so
• 8:57
  much.
• 8:57
  Like,
• 8:57
  historically,
• 8:58
  we've
• 8:58
  placed
• 8:59
  so
• 8:59
  much
• 8:59
  emphasis
• 8:59
  on
• 9:00
  family
• 9:01
  as
• 9:01
  the
• 9:01
  ones
• 9:02
  who
• 9:02
  are
• 9:02
  always
• 9:02
  going
• 9:02
  to
• 9:02
  be
• 9:03
  there
• 9:03
  no
• 9:03
  matter
• 9:04
  what.
• 9:05
  And
• 9:07
  I
• 9:07
  think
• 9:07
  the
• 9:07
  reality
• 9:08
  is
• 9:08
  that
• 9:08
  I've
• 9:08
  found
• 9:10
  deeper
• 9:11
  connection
• 9:11
  with
• 9:12
  the
• 9:12
  people
• 9:12
  I've
• 9:13
  chosen
• 9:15
  rather
• 9:16
  than
• 9:16
  the
• 9:16
  people
• 9:16
  who
• 9:18
  sort
• 9:18
  of
• 9:18
  take
• 9:19
  for
• 9:19
  granted
• 9:19
  that
• 9:19
  blood
• 9:20
  equals
• 9:21
  endless
• 9:22
  loyalty
• 9:22
  or
• 9:22
  whatever.
• 9:23
  Right.
• 9:26
  But
• 9:26
  I
• 9:26
  wouldn't
• 9:27
  have
• 9:27
  found
• 9:28
  that
• 9:28
  without
• 9:31
  at
• 9:31
  least
• 9:31
  starting
• 9:32
  to
• 9:33
  reclaim
• 9:33
  my
• 9:34
  own
• 9:34
  sovereignty,
• 9:35
  because
• 9:35
  I
• 9:35
  feel
• 9:35
  like
• 9:35
  that's
• 9:35
  what
• 9:35
  drew
• 9:36
  me
• 9:36
  to,
• 9:36
  like,
• 9:36
  you
• 9:36
  guys
• 9:37
  and
• 9:38
  the
• 9:39
  other
• 9:39
  people
• 9:39
  that
• 9:39
  we
• 9:39
  have
• 9:39
  in
• 9:39
  our
• 9:40
  circle.
• 9:40
  Right.
• 9:41
  Yeah.
• 9:42
  It's.
• 9:42
  It's
• 9:43
  funny
• 9:43
  that
• 9:43
  you
• 9:43
  just
• 9:43
  said,
• 9:43
  like,
• 9:44
  how
• 9:44
  some
• 9:44
  people
• 9:45
  think
• 9:45
  that
• 9:46
  family,
• 9:46
  you
• 9:46
  know,
• 9:46
  is
• 9:47
  endless
• 9:47
  loyalty,
• 9:47
  but
• 9:48
  they
• 9:48
  expect
• 9:49
  that
• 9:49
  from
• 9:49
  you,
• 9:49
  but
• 9:49
  it's
• 9:49
  not
• 9:50
  what
• 9:50
  they
• 9:50
  give
• 9:50
  back.
• 9:52
  You
• 9:52
  know
• 9:52
  what
• 9:52
  I
• 9:52
  mean?
• 9:53
  And
• 9:53
  that's
• 9:53
  what
• 9:54
  I
• 9:54
  feel
• 9:54
  like.
• 9:54
  That's
• 9:54
  when,
• 9:55
  like,
• 9:55
  your
• 9:55
  sovereignty
• 9:56
  comes
• 9:56
  in
• 9:56
  and
• 9:56
  be
• 9:56
  like,
• 9:56
  wait
• 9:57
  a
• 9:57
  minute.
• 9:57
  Like,
• 9:58
  is
• 9:58
  this
• 9:58
  true
• 9:58
  for
• 9:58
  me?
• 10:00
  Right,
• 10:00
  Exactly.
• 10:01
  You
• 10:02
  know,
• 10:02
  and
• 10:02
  that's
• 10:02
  when
• 10:02
  you
• 10:03
  have
• 10:03
  to
• 10:03
  decide.
• 10:05
  And
• 10:05
  it's
• 10:05
  hard,
• 10:06
  but
• 10:07
  you
• 10:07
  have
• 10:07
  to
• 10:07
  decide
• 10:07
  whether,
• 10:08
  like,
• 10:09
  okay,
• 10:09
  am
• 10:09
  I
• 10:09
  going
• 10:10
  to
• 10:10
  continue
• 10:10
  this
• 10:10
  game,
• 10:10
  or
• 10:11
  am
• 10:11
  I
• 10:11
  just
• 10:11
  going
• 10:11
  to
• 10:12
  stand
• 10:12
  up
• 10:13
  for
• 10:13
  myself?
• 10:13
  Yeah.
• 10:15
  What
• 10:15
  does
• 10:15
  sovereignty
• 10:16
  mean
• 10:16
  to
• 10:16
  you,
• 10:16
  Sloan?
• 10:21
  I
• 10:21
  like
• 10:22
  to
• 10:22
  let
• 10:22
  other
• 10:22
  people
• 10:23
  talk
• 10:23
  first,
• 10:23
  because
• 10:24
  then
• 10:24
  my
• 10:24
  brain
• 10:25
  starts
• 10:25
  working
• 10:25
  better.
• 10:26
  So
• 10:29
  I
• 10:30
  think
• 10:30
  along
• 10:31
  the
• 10:31
  lines
• 10:31
  of
• 10:31
  what
• 10:31
  you
• 10:31
  were
• 10:32
  just
• 10:32
  saying,
• 10:32
  Adriana,
• 10:34
  like,
• 10:35
  and.
• 10:36
  And
• 10:36
  Erica,
• 10:37
  like,
• 10:40
  you
• 10:40
  know,
• 10:41
  knowing
• 10:42
  what
• 10:42
  I
• 10:42
  value
• 10:44
  and.
• 10:46
  And
• 10:48
  being
• 10:49
  able
• 10:49
  to
• 10:49
  honor
• 10:50
  and
• 10:50
  balance
• 10:51
  that
• 10:51
  in
• 10:51
  my
• 10:52
  interactions
• 10:52
  with
• 10:53
  other
• 10:53
  people
• 10:54
  so
• 10:54
  that
• 10:55
  it's
• 10:56
  not
• 10:57
  always
• 10:58
  succumbing
• 10:58
  or
• 10:59
  being
• 10:59
  submissive
• 10:59
  or
• 11:00
  giving
• 11:00
  away
• 11:01
  or.
• 11:02
  But,
• 11:03
  yeah,
• 11:03
  being
• 11:03
  able
• 11:04
  to
• 11:06
  know
• 11:07
  what
• 11:08
  I
• 11:08
  value
• 11:10
  and
• 11:10
  honoring
• 11:11
  myself
• 11:12
  in
• 11:12
  that
• 11:13
  and
• 11:14
  not
• 11:15
  saying
• 11:15
  that
• 11:16
  other
• 11:17
  people's
• 11:17
  values
• 11:17
  aren't
• 11:18
  important.
• 11:18
  They
• 11:18
  absolutely
• 11:19
  are.
• 11:20
  And
• 11:20
  sometimes,
• 11:20
  you
• 11:21
  know,
• 11:21
  like
• 11:21
  you
• 11:21
  said,
• 11:22
  that
• 11:22
  means
• 11:22
  that
• 11:23
  maybe
• 11:24
  we
• 11:25
  can't
• 11:26
  be
• 11:26
  part
• 11:27
  of
• 11:27
  each
• 11:27
  other's
• 11:27
  lives
• 11:27
  anymore,
• 11:29
  but
• 11:30
  at
• 11:30
  other
• 11:30
  times,
• 11:31
  it's
• 11:31
  just
• 11:31
  like,
• 11:32
  yeah,
• 11:33
  we
• 11:34
  value
• 11:34
  different
• 11:34
  things,
• 11:35
  and
• 11:35
  that's
• 11:35
  okay.
• 11:36
  Yeah.
• 11:38
  Like,
• 11:38
  I'm
• 11:38
  not
• 11:39
  sacrificing
• 11:39
  a
• 11:40
  part
• 11:40
  of
• 11:40
  myself,
• 11:40
  and
• 11:41
  I'm
• 11:41
  not
• 11:41
  asking
• 11:41
  you
• 11:42
  to
• 11:42
  sacrifice
• 11:43
  a
• 11:43
  part
• 11:43
  of
• 11:43
  yourself.
• 11:45
  We
• 11:46
  can
• 11:46
  be
• 11:46
  whole
• 11:47
  and
• 11:47
  complete
• 11:48
  by
• 11:48
  ourselves.
• 11:49
  It
• 11:49
  doesn't
• 11:49
  have
• 11:50
  to
• 11:50
  be
• 11:51
  this
• 11:51
  merging
• 11:52
  or
• 11:52
  this
• 11:54
  abandonment
• 11:57
  of
• 11:57
  self.
• 11:59
  Yeah.
• 11:59
  It's
• 11:59
  not
• 12:00
  like
• 12:00
  one
• 12:00
  person
• 12:00
  doesn't
• 12:01
  have
• 12:01
  to
• 12:01
  lose
• 12:01
  themselves
• 12:02
  in.
• 12:02
  Exactly.
• 12:03
  Yeah.
• 12:06
  I
• 12:06
  think
• 12:06
  this.
• 12:07
  That
• 12:07
  ties
• 12:07
  back
• 12:08
  a
• 12:08
  lot
• 12:08
  to
• 12:08
  what
• 12:09
  I
• 12:09
  was
• 12:09
  explaining
• 12:10
  in
• 12:10
  my
• 12:10
  episode,
• 12:11
  how,
• 12:11
  like,
• 12:11
  the.
• 12:12
  I
• 12:12
  read
• 12:12
  that
• 12:12
  line
• 12:13
  in
• 12:13
  the
• 12:13
  book
• 12:13
  where
• 12:14
  it
• 12:14
  said
• 12:14
  there's
• 12:14
  no
• 12:14
  such
• 12:15
  thing
• 12:15
  as
• 12:15
  one
• 12:15
  way
• 12:15
  liberation.
• 12:17
  Yeah.
• 12:17
  Like,
• 12:17
  if
• 12:18
  it's
• 12:18
  right
• 12:18
  for
• 12:18
  me,
• 12:18
  it's
• 12:19
  right
• 12:19
  for
• 12:19
  other
• 12:19
  people.
• 12:19
  But
• 12:20
  I
• 12:20
  think
• 12:21
  it's.
• 12:21
  It's
• 12:22
  always
• 12:22
  difficult
• 12:23
  to
• 12:23
  wrestle
• 12:23
  with
• 12:23
  because
• 12:23
  when
• 12:24
  you
• 12:24
  do
• 12:24
  start
• 12:25
  to
• 12:26
  understand
• 12:27
  yourself
• 12:28
  better,
• 12:29
  when
• 12:29
  you
• 12:29
  start
• 12:29
  to
• 12:30
  untangle,
• 12:30
  like,
• 12:31
  what
• 12:31
  you
• 12:32
  were
• 12:32
  told
• 12:32
  versus
• 12:32
  what
• 12:33
  you
• 12:33
  actually
• 12:33
  believe,
• 12:34
  which
• 12:35
  there's
• 12:36
  like,
• 12:36
  a
• 12:36
  Venn
• 12:36
  diagram
• 12:37
  there.
• 12:37
  Right.
• 12:37
  Like,
• 12:38
  what
• 12:38
  I
• 12:38
  actually
• 12:39
  believe
• 12:39
  and
• 12:39
  what
• 12:40
  I
• 12:40
  was
• 12:40
  told
• 12:40
  to
• 12:40
  believe,
• 12:41
  there's
• 12:41
  some
• 12:41
  overlap.
• 12:42
  Some
• 12:42
  of
• 12:43
  the
• 12:43
  things
• 12:43
  that
• 12:43
  I
• 12:43
  was,
• 12:44
  you
• 12:44
  know,
• 12:44
  like,
• 12:44
  told
• 12:45
  to
• 12:45
  believe
• 12:45
  or
• 12:45
  told
• 12:46
  to
• 12:46
  kind
• 12:46
  of
• 12:46
  want,
• 12:47
  I
• 12:48
  do
• 12:48
  actually
• 12:48
  value,
• 12:49
  but
• 12:49
  not
• 12:49
  all
• 12:49
  of
• 12:49
  them.
• 12:50
  There's
• 12:51
  still
• 12:51
  some
• 12:51
  things
• 12:51
  on
• 12:51
  this
• 12:52
  other
• 12:52
  side
• 12:52
  of
• 12:52
  the
• 12:52
  Venn
• 12:52
  diagram
• 12:53
  that
• 12:53
  are
• 12:53
  only
• 12:54
  mine.
• 12:55
  And
• 12:56
  that's
• 12:56
  where
• 12:56
  the
• 12:56
  friction
• 12:57
  comes
• 12:58
  in.
• 12:59
  But
• 12:59
  where.
• 12:59
  And
• 13:00
  where
• 13:00
  sovereignty
• 13:00
  gets
• 13:01
  difficult.
• 13:01
  Right.
• 13:01
  Because
• 13:02
  it's
• 13:02
  like
• 13:02
  the
• 13:02
  boundaries
• 13:03
  without
• 13:03
  apology.
• 13:04
  It's
• 13:05
  being
• 13:05
  able
• 13:05
  to,
• 13:06
  like,
• 13:06
  honor
• 13:07
  ourselves
• 13:08
  and
• 13:08
  our
• 13:08
  needs
• 13:11
  and
• 13:11
  take
• 13:12
  care
• 13:12
  of
• 13:12
  ourselves.
• 13:13
  Because
• 13:13
  going
• 13:14
  back
• 13:14
  to
• 13:14
  what
• 13:14
  you
• 13:14
  said
• 13:15
  before,
• 13:15
  Adriana,
• 13:16
  it's
• 13:16
  like,
• 13:17
  it's
• 13:17
  an
• 13:17
  expectation
• 13:18
  that
• 13:18
  you
• 13:18
  show
• 13:19
  up
• 13:19
  a
• 13:19
  certain
• 13:19
  way,
• 13:19
  but
• 13:19
  it's
• 13:20
  not
• 13:20
  always
• 13:20
  reciprocal.
• 13:22
  Right.
• 13:24
  And
• 13:24
  it
• 13:24
  keeps,
• 13:24
  like,
• 13:24
  that
• 13:25
  cycle
• 13:25
  going.
• 13:26
  Right.
• 13:26
  Like,
• 13:26
  everyone
• 13:27
  thinks,
• 13:27
  like,
• 13:27
  oh,
• 13:27
  yeah,
• 13:28
  you're
• 13:28
  supposed
• 13:28
  to
• 13:28
  do
• 13:28
  this,
• 13:28
  you
• 13:29
  know,
• 13:30
  and
• 13:30
  one
• 13:30
  person's
• 13:31
  fighting
• 13:31
  for,
• 13:31
  like,
• 13:32
  their
• 13:32
  sovereignty,
• 13:32
  and
• 13:32
  the
• 13:33
  other
• 13:33
  one's
• 13:33
  comfortably
• 13:35
  in
• 13:35
  the.
• 13:36
  The.
• 13:36
  In
• 13:36
  the
• 13:37
  conditioning.
• 13:37
  Right.
• 13:38
  Like,
• 13:38
  they
• 13:38
  don't
• 13:38
  want
• 13:39
  it
• 13:39
  to
• 13:39
  change
• 13:39
  because
• 13:40
  then
• 13:41
  they
• 13:41
  might
• 13:41
  have
• 13:41
  to
• 13:41
  look
• 13:41
  at
• 13:42
  it
• 13:42
  differently.
• 13:42
  Uncomfy,
• 13:43
  if
• 13:43
  so
• 13:44
  uncomfortable.
• 13:44
  Right.
• 13:45
  But
• 13:46
  I
• 13:47
  have
• 13:47
  to
• 13:47
  look
• 13:47
  at
• 13:47
  my
• 13:47
  own
• 13:47
  discomfort.
• 13:48
  It's
• 13:48
  like,
• 13:51
  I
• 13:51
  know
• 13:51
  it's
• 13:52
  so
• 13:52
  uncomfortable.
• 13:52
  I
• 13:53
  just
• 13:53
  wish
• 13:53
  that
• 13:53
  the
• 13:53
  people
• 13:54
  that
• 13:54
  were
• 13:54
  so
• 13:54
  uncomfortable
• 13:55
  with
• 13:55
  looking
• 13:55
  at
• 13:56
  themselves
• 13:58
  could
• 13:58
  understand
• 13:59
  how
• 14:00
  rewarding
• 14:00
  it
• 14:01
  is
• 14:01
  to
• 14:02
  actually
• 14:02
  take
• 14:02
  a
• 14:02
  look.
• 14:03
  Like,
• 14:03
  how
• 14:03
  worth
• 14:03
  it
• 14:04
  it
• 14:04
  is
• 14:04
  to
• 14:04
  take
• 14:04
  a
• 14:05
  look
• 14:06
  how
• 14:07
  much
• 14:07
  your
• 14:07
  life
• 14:07
  improves
• 14:08
  when
• 14:08
  you
• 14:08
  actually
• 14:09
  just
• 14:10
  scared
• 14:11
  and
• 14:11
  all
• 14:11
  just
• 14:12
  do
• 14:12
  it.
• 14:15
  The.
• 14:16
  Well,
• 14:16
  often,
• 14:16
  like,
• 14:18
  we
• 14:18
  build
• 14:18
  it
• 14:18
  up
• 14:19
  inside
• 14:19
  our
• 14:19
  heads,
• 14:19
  and
• 14:19
  it's
• 14:20
  way
• 14:20
  scarier
• 14:20
  than
• 14:20
  it
• 14:21
  turns
• 14:21
  out
• 14:21
  to
• 14:21
  be.
• 14:22
  Yeah.
• 14:22
  Yeah.
• 14:23
  And.
• 14:23
  And
• 14:24
  it's
• 14:24
  not
• 14:24
  to
• 14:25
  minimize
• 14:25
  the
• 14:25
  discomfort
• 14:26
  because
• 14:26
  it
• 14:26
  is
• 14:26
  still
• 14:26
  uncomfortable.
• 14:27
  Yeah.
• 14:28
  Even
• 14:28
  going
• 14:28
  through
• 14:29
  the
• 14:29
  process,
• 14:29
  I
• 14:29
  don't
• 14:30
  know
• 14:30
  what
• 14:30
  this
• 14:30
  is,
• 14:30
  like,
• 14:30
  for
• 14:30
  you
• 14:31
  guys,
• 14:31
  but
• 14:31
  even
• 14:31
  going
• 14:31
  through
• 14:31
  the
• 14:32
  process
• 14:32
  of
• 14:33
  defining
• 14:33
  my
• 14:34
  own
• 14:34
  personal
• 14:34
  core
• 14:35
  values,
• 14:35
  even
• 14:35
  outside
• 14:36
  of,
• 14:36
  like,
• 14:36
  what
• 14:36
  we've
• 14:37
  articulated
• 14:38
  here
• 14:38
  with
• 14:39
  Three
• 14:39
  Rebel
• 14:40
  Souls,
• 14:40
  which
• 14:40
  are,
• 14:41
  like,
• 14:41
  there's
• 14:42
  threads
• 14:42
  of
• 14:42
  our
• 14:42
  individual
• 14:43
  core
• 14:43
  values
• 14:44
  woven
• 14:45
  into
• 14:45
  the
• 14:45
  fabric
• 14:45
  of
• 14:46
  this.
• 14:46
  Right.
• 14:47
  But
• 14:48
  even
• 14:48
  the
• 14:48
  process
• 14:49
  of
• 14:49
  going
• 14:49
  through
• 14:49
  my
• 14:50
  own
• 14:51
  core
• 14:51
  values
• 14:52
  was
• 14:52
  so
• 14:53
  difficult
• 14:53
  because
• 14:54
  I
• 14:54
  was.
• 14:54
  I
• 14:54
  had
• 14:55
  to
• 14:55
  question
• 14:55
  with
• 14:55
  every
• 14:56
  single
• 14:56
  one
• 14:56
  of
• 14:56
  them.
• 14:56
  I'm
• 14:57
  like,
• 14:57
  why
• 14:58
  do
• 14:58
  I
• 14:58
  value
• 14:58
  this?
• 15:00
  Is
• 15:01
  it
• 15:01
  because
• 15:01
  someone
• 15:01
  told
• 15:02
  me
• 15:02
  this
• 15:02
  is
• 15:02
  valuable,
• 15:03
  or
• 15:03
  is
• 15:03
  it
• 15:03
  because
• 15:03
  it's
• 15:04
  actually
• 15:04
  something
• 15:04
  I
• 15:05
  value?
• 15:06
  And
• 15:06
  even.
• 15:07
  Even
• 15:07
  that
• 15:08
  process
• 15:08
  was
• 15:09
  difficult
• 15:09
  to,
• 15:10
  like,
• 15:11
  untangle
• 15:12
  the
• 15:13
  conditioning
• 15:13
  and
• 15:14
  the
• 15:14
  narrative
• 15:15
  from
• 15:16
  what
• 15:16
  was
• 15:16
  actually
• 15:17
  true
• 15:17
  for
• 15:17
  me.
• 15:17
  And
• 15:18
  I
• 15:18
  went
• 15:18
  10
• 15:19
  rounds
• 15:19
  with
• 15:19
  myself
• 15:20
  figuring
• 15:21
  out,
• 15:21
  like,
• 15:21
  what
• 15:21
  was
• 15:22
  actually
• 15:22
  mine.
• 15:23
  And
• 15:23
  I.
• 15:24
  I
• 15:24
  treat
• 15:25
  even
• 15:25
  my
• 15:26
  own
• 15:26
  personal
• 15:26
  core
• 15:26
  values
• 15:27
  as
• 15:27
  like
• 15:27
  a
• 15:27
  living,
• 15:27
  breathing
• 15:28
  document
• 15:28
  and
• 15:28
  something
• 15:29
  that
• 15:29
  I
• 15:29
  check
• 15:29
  in
• 15:29
  with
• 15:30
  often
• 15:31
  in
• 15:31
  my
• 15:31
  life
• 15:31
  because
• 15:33
  our
• 15:33
  experiences
• 15:34
  tend
• 15:34
  to
• 15:35
  shape
• 15:36
  what
• 15:36
  we
• 15:36
  value.
• 15:37
  Right.
• 15:37
  And
• 15:38
  I
• 15:38
  think
• 15:38
  it's
• 15:38
  funny,
• 15:39
  like,
• 15:39
  we've
• 15:39
  talked
• 15:39
  about
• 15:39
  this
• 15:40
  in
• 15:40
  Hula,
• 15:40
  but
• 15:41
  both
• 15:41
  of
• 15:42
  you,
• 15:42
  I
• 15:43
  think,
• 15:43
  have
• 15:43
  said
• 15:44
  something
• 15:45
  along
• 15:45
  the
• 15:45
  lines
• 15:45
  of.
• 15:45
  And
• 15:46
  most
• 15:46
  of
• 15:46
  the
• 15:46
  people
• 15:46
  that
• 15:47
  I've,
• 15:47
  like,
• 15:47
  walked
• 15:47
  through
• 15:47
  the
• 15:48
  core
• 15:48
  values
• 15:48
  exercise
• 15:49
  have
• 15:49
  said
• 15:49
  something
• 15:50
  along
• 15:50
  the
• 15:50
  lines
• 15:50
  of,
• 15:50
  like,
• 15:51
  well,
• 15:51
  I
• 15:51
  narrowed
• 15:52
  it
• 15:52
  down
• 15:52
  to
• 15:52
  these,
• 15:52
  like,
• 15:52
  five
• 15:53
  things.
• 15:53
  And
• 15:54
  then
• 15:54
  this
• 15:54
  thing
• 15:54
  happened,
• 15:55
  and
• 15:55
  I
• 15:55
  realized
• 15:56
  actually,
• 15:57
  integrity
• 15:57
  needs
• 15:58
  to
• 15:58
  be
• 15:58
  one
• 15:58
  of
• 15:58
  my
• 15:58
  five
• 15:59
  primary
• 15:59
  core
• 15:59
  values.
• 16:00
  Because
• 16:00
  I
• 16:00
  was
• 16:00
  so.
• 16:01
  I
• 16:01
  was
• 16:01
  so
• 16:01
  rattled
• 16:02
  by
• 16:02
  this
• 16:02
  situation,
• 16:03
  or
• 16:03
  I
• 16:03
  was
• 16:03
  so,
• 16:03
  like,
• 16:04
  taken
• 16:05
  aback
• 16:05
  by
• 16:05
  this
• 16:05
  situation,
• 16:06
  I
• 16:06
  didn't
• 16:06
  realize
• 16:07
  how
• 16:07
  important
• 16:07
  that
• 16:08
  was
• 16:08
  to
• 16:08
  me.
• 16:09
  Yep.
• 16:10
  So
• 16:10
  it's
• 16:10
  like,
• 16:11
  it
• 16:12
  needs
• 16:12
  to
• 16:12
  be
• 16:12
  something
• 16:12
  that
• 16:12
  we're
• 16:13
  constantly
• 16:14
  checking
• 16:14
  in
• 16:14
  with
• 16:15
  ourselves
• 16:15
  and
• 16:16
  reevaluating
• 16:17
  because
• 16:18
  we
• 16:18
  continue
• 16:18
  to
• 16:19
  evolve.
• 16:19
  But
• 16:20
  that's
• 16:20
  where,
• 16:20
  like,
• 16:21
  the
• 16:21
  sovereignty
• 16:21
  comes
• 16:22
  into
• 16:22
  play.
• 16:23
  Because,
• 16:24
  yeah,
• 16:25
  it's
• 16:25
  the.
• 16:25
  The
• 16:26
  reclamation
• 16:26
  of
• 16:27
  self.
• 16:27
  And
• 16:30
  with
• 16:30
  that,
• 16:31
  it's
• 16:32
  acknowledging
• 16:33
  and
• 16:33
  honoring
• 16:33
  that
• 16:34
  we
• 16:34
  are
• 16:34
  meant
• 16:34
  to
• 16:34
  continue
• 16:35
  to
• 16:35
  evolve.
• 16:36
  And
• 16:36
  it's
• 16:37
  okay
• 16:37
  if
• 16:37
  our
• 16:37
  needs
• 16:38
  change.
• 16:38
  It's
• 16:38
  okay
• 16:39
  if
• 16:39
  our
• 16:39
  boundaries
• 16:40
  change.
• 16:40
  It's
• 16:40
  okay
• 16:40
  if
• 16:41
  our
• 16:41
  relationships
• 16:41
  change.
• 16:43
  The
• 16:43
  one
• 16:43
  thing
• 16:44
  that
• 16:44
  has
• 16:44
  to
• 16:44
  stay
• 16:45
  true
• 16:46
  is
• 16:47
  our,
• 16:48
  like,
• 16:49
  our
• 16:49
  commitment
• 16:50
  to
• 16:50
  ourselves.
• 16:54
  And
• 16:54
  all
• 16:54
  of
• 16:55
  it
• 16:55
  is
• 16:55
  a
• 16:55
  process,
• 16:56
  you
• 16:56
  know,
• 16:56
  all
• 16:57
  of
• 16:57
  it.
• 16:57
  But,
• 16:57
  you
• 16:58
  know,
• 16:58
  it's
• 16:58
  in
• 16:58
  a
• 16:58
  practice.
• 16:59
  Yeah,
• 17:00
  exactly.
• 17:01
  I
• 17:01
  just.
• 17:02
  I
• 17:02
  remember.
• 17:03
  See,
• 17:03
  the
• 17:03
  thing
• 17:03
  is,
• 17:04
  is
• 17:04
  that
• 17:04
  we
• 17:04
  are.
• 17:05
  You
• 17:05
  go
• 17:05
  to
• 17:05
  school
• 17:05
  and
• 17:05
  you
• 17:06
  get
• 17:06
  educated,
• 17:06
  but
• 17:06
  where's
• 17:07
  the
• 17:07
  class
• 17:07
  on
• 17:08
  to
• 17:08
  figure
• 17:08
  out
• 17:08
  what
• 17:09
  you
• 17:09
  value.
• 17:10
  Right.
• 17:10
  That
• 17:10
  you're
• 17:10
  not
• 17:11
  taught
• 17:11
  those
• 17:11
  things.
• 17:11
  You
• 17:12
  know,
• 17:12
  you're
• 17:12
  just
• 17:12
  told
• 17:12
  what
• 17:13
  to
• 17:13
  value.
• 17:14
  You're
• 17:14
  not
• 17:14
  told.
• 17:14
  You're
• 17:15
  not
• 17:15
  taught
• 17:15
  to
• 17:15
  ask
• 17:16
  yourself,
• 17:16
  what
• 17:16
  do
• 17:17
  you
• 17:17
  value?
• 17:17
  What's
• 17:18
  important
• 17:18
  to
• 17:18
  you?
• 17:20
  And,
• 17:22
  you
• 17:23
  know,
• 17:23
  early
• 17:23
  on,
• 17:23
  when
• 17:24
  I
• 17:24
  had
• 17:24
  met
• 17:24
  Erica,
• 17:24
  and
• 17:24
  we
• 17:25
  were
• 17:25
  doing
• 17:25
  work
• 17:26
  together.
• 17:26
  She
• 17:26
  had
• 17:26
  told
• 17:27
  me,
• 17:27
  have
• 17:27
  you
• 17:27
  done
• 17:27
  your
• 17:27
  valleys?
• 17:28
  And
• 17:28
  I
• 17:28
  was
• 17:28
  like,
• 17:28
  no.
• 17:28
  And
• 17:29
  I
• 17:29
  did
• 17:29
  them,
• 17:29
  and
• 17:30
  I
• 17:30
  remember
• 17:30
  doing
• 17:30
  them
• 17:31
  myself.
• 17:31
  And
• 17:32
  I'm
• 17:33
  telling
• 17:33
  you,
• 17:33
  it's
• 17:33
  like
• 17:34
  you
• 17:34
  are.
• 17:35
  You
• 17:35
  discover
• 17:35
  yourself
• 17:36
  when
• 17:36
  you
• 17:36
  actually
• 17:37
  sit
• 17:37
  down.
• 17:38
  And
• 17:38
  I
• 17:39
  remember,
• 17:39
  like,
• 17:39
  texting
• 17:40
  Erica,
• 17:40
  like,
• 17:40
  oh,
• 17:41
  my
• 17:41
  God,
• 17:41
  I'm
• 17:41
  so
• 17:41
  excited.
• 17:42
  I
• 17:42
  feel
• 17:42
  like
• 17:42
  I
• 17:42
  just
• 17:42
  saw
• 17:43
  myself.
• 17:43
  Like,
• 17:44
  I
• 17:44
  could
• 17:45
  see
• 17:45
  myself,
• 17:46
  because
• 17:47
  I
• 17:47
  actually
• 17:48
  sat
• 17:48
  down
• 17:49
  to
• 17:50
  put
• 17:50
  down
• 17:50
  what
• 17:50
  was
• 17:51
  actually
• 17:51
  valuable
• 17:52
  to
• 17:52
  me,
• 17:52
  like,
• 17:53
  what
• 17:53
  I
• 17:53
  actually
• 17:53
  value.
• 17:56
  Well,
• 17:57
  I
• 17:57
  love
• 17:57
  that
• 17:57
  you
• 17:58
  brought
• 17:58
  up
• 17:59
  of,
• 17:59
  like,
• 17:59
  we're
• 17:59
  taught
• 18:00
  what
• 18:00
  to
• 18:00
  value.
• 18:01
  That's.
• 18:02
  That's
• 18:02
  how
• 18:02
  it
• 18:03
  went,
• 18:03
  right?
• 18:04
  Like,
• 18:04
  as
• 18:04
  kids,
• 18:04
  we
• 18:04
  were
• 18:05
  taught
• 18:06
  what
• 18:06
  to
• 18:07
  think,
• 18:07
  not
• 18:07
  how
• 18:08
  to
• 18:08
  think.
• 18:09
  Right.
• 18:09
  We
• 18:09
  weren't
• 18:10
  taught
• 18:10
  how
• 18:11
  to,
• 18:11
  like,
• 18:12
  discover
• 18:13
  or
• 18:13
  understand
• 18:13
  ourselves
• 18:14
  or
• 18:14
  process
• 18:15
  these
• 18:15
  emotions
• 18:16
  or
• 18:16
  these
• 18:16
  events
• 18:17
  and
• 18:17
  understand
• 18:17
  how
• 18:18
  they
• 18:18
  were
• 18:18
  shaping
• 18:18
  us
• 18:19
  along
• 18:19
  the
• 18:19
  way.
• 18:19
  Right.
• 18:20
  We're
• 18:20
  doing
• 18:20
  all
• 18:20
  of
• 18:20
  that
• 18:21
  in
• 18:21
  right
• 18:21
  retrospect.
• 18:22
  And
• 18:23
  I
• 18:23
  think
• 18:24
  the
• 18:24
  way
• 18:24
  that
• 18:25
  societal
• 18:26
  shifts
• 18:26
  are
• 18:26
  happening,
• 18:26
  I'm
• 18:27
  hoping
• 18:27
  that
• 18:27
  changes
• 18:28
  a
• 18:28
  bit
• 18:28
  for
• 18:28
  the
• 18:28
  future,
• 18:28
  because
• 18:29
  I
• 18:29
  think,
• 18:29
  like,
• 18:30
  future
• 18:30
  generations
• 18:31
  are
• 18:31
  a
• 18:31
  little
• 18:31
  bit
• 18:31
  more
• 18:31
  aware
• 18:32
  in
• 18:32
  the
• 18:32
  moment
• 18:33
  than
• 18:33
  we
• 18:33
  were
• 18:33
  at
• 18:33
  their
• 18:34
  age.
• 18:34
  But
• 18:36
  I.
• 18:37
  I
• 18:37
  remember
• 18:37
  the
• 18:38
  same
• 18:38
  thing,
• 18:38
  Adriana.
• 18:39
  Like,
• 18:39
  I
• 18:39
  would
• 18:39
  sit
• 18:40
  on
• 18:40
  my
• 18:40
  couch
• 18:41
  every
• 18:42
  morning
• 18:44
  and
• 18:45
  read
• 18:46
  or
• 18:46
  learn
• 18:47
  or
• 18:47
  journal
• 18:47
  or
• 18:48
  do
• 18:48
  something,
• 18:49
  and
• 18:50
  every
• 18:50
  single
• 18:50
  day,
• 18:50
  it
• 18:51
  was
• 18:51
  just,
• 18:51
  like,
• 18:51
  slowly
• 18:52
  chipping
• 18:53
  away.
• 18:53
  Like,
• 18:54
  I
• 18:54
  like
• 18:55
  the
• 18:55
  analogy.
• 18:55
  This.
• 18:56
  It
• 18:56
  just
• 18:57
  came
• 18:57
  to
• 18:57
  me
• 18:57
  in
• 18:57
  the
• 18:58
  moment,
• 18:58
  just
• 18:58
  now
• 18:59
  of.
• 18:59
  It's
• 19:00
  like
• 19:00
  I
• 19:00
  was
• 19:00
  given,
• 19:00
  like,
• 19:01
  a
• 19:01
  big
• 19:01
  slab
• 19:01
  of
• 19:02
  rock,
• 19:02
  and
• 19:03
  I
• 19:03
  was
• 19:04
  tasked
• 19:04
  with
• 19:06
  sculpting
• 19:06
  myself.
• 19:07
  And
• 19:07
  every
• 19:08
  single
• 19:08
  day,
• 19:08
  all
• 19:08
  those
• 19:09
  little
• 19:09
  actions
• 19:10
  were,
• 19:10
  like,
• 19:10
  chipping
• 19:10
  away
• 19:11
  until
• 19:11
  I
• 19:12
  revealed
• 19:14
  this
• 19:14
  person
• 19:16
  beneath
• 19:17
  all
• 19:18
  the
• 19:18
  shit
• 19:18
  that
• 19:18
  was,
• 19:19
  like,
• 19:19
  piled
• 19:19
  up
• 19:19
  on
• 19:19
  top
• 19:20
  of
• 19:20
  me,
• 19:20
  right?
• 19:20
  Like,
• 19:21
  what
• 19:21
  was
• 19:21
  true
• 19:21
  for
• 19:22
  me.
• 19:22
  And
• 19:22
  I
• 19:22
  felt
• 19:22
  like
• 19:22
  I
• 19:22
  couldn't
• 19:23
  actually
• 19:23
  see
• 19:23
  myself
• 19:24
  or
• 19:24
  I
• 19:25
  couldn't
• 19:25
  even
• 19:25
  honor
• 19:25
  my
• 19:26
  needs
• 19:26
  until
• 19:26
  I
• 19:26
  knew
• 19:27
  what
• 19:27
  they
• 19:27
  were.
• 19:28
  Right?
• 19:28
  Like,
• 19:28
  I
• 19:28
  couldn't
• 19:29
  even
• 19:29
  set
• 19:29
  a
• 19:29
  boundary
• 19:30
  until
• 19:30
  I
• 19:30
  understood
• 19:31
  what
• 19:32
  I
• 19:32
  valued.
• 19:33
  So
• 19:34
  all
• 19:34
  along,
• 19:34
  when
• 19:34
  I
• 19:35
  thought
• 19:35
  I
• 19:35
  had
• 19:35
  been
• 19:35
  trying
• 19:35
  to,
• 19:36
  like,
• 19:36
  do
• 19:36
  these
• 19:36
  things
• 19:36
  and
• 19:36
  practice
• 19:37
  these
• 19:37
  things,
• 19:37
  none
• 19:38
  of
• 19:38
  it
• 19:38
  came
• 19:39
  into
• 19:40
  fruition
• 19:40
  for
• 19:40
  me
• 19:41
  until
• 19:41
  I
• 19:41
  went
• 19:42
  through
• 19:42
  that
• 19:42
  exercise
• 19:43
  of
• 19:43
  crafting
• 19:43
  my
• 19:43
  values,
• 19:44
  because
• 19:45
  that
• 19:45
  gave
• 19:45
  me
• 19:45
  the
• 19:46
  clarity
• 19:46
  and
• 19:46
  the
• 19:46
  confidence
• 19:48
  to,
• 19:49
  like,
• 19:49
  start
• 19:50
  to
• 19:50
  stand
• 19:50
  in
• 19:50
  my
• 19:51
  own
• 19:51
  sovereignty.
• 19:51
  And
• 19:51
  sovereignty
• 19:52
  isn't
• 19:52
  something
• 19:52
  that.
• 19:53
  I
• 19:53
  mean,
• 19:54
  I'll
• 19:54
  just
• 19:54
  speak
• 19:54
  for
• 19:55
  myself,
• 19:55
  but
• 19:55
  I
• 19:55
  think
• 19:55
  it's
• 19:56
  true
• 19:56
  for
• 19:56
  you,
• 19:56
  too.
• 19:56
  Like,
• 19:57
  I
• 19:58
  have
• 19:58
  not
• 19:58
  mastered
• 19:59
  this.
• 19:59
  This
• 19:59
  is
• 20:00
  on
• 20:00
  our
• 20:00
  list
• 20:00
  of
• 20:00
  values
• 20:01
  because
• 20:01
  it's
• 20:01
  something
• 20:01
  that
• 20:02
  we
• 20:03
  aspire
• 20:03
  to
• 20:04
  every
• 20:04
  day.
• 20:05
  Like,
• 20:06
  it's
• 20:06
  a
• 20:06
  thing
• 20:06
  that
• 20:06
  we.
• 20:09
  No.
• 20:09
  Is
• 20:09
  a
• 20:10
  constant
• 20:10
  practice.
• 20:11
  Like
• 20:11
  we
• 20:11
  said,
• 20:12
  it's
• 20:12
  It's
• 20:13
  a
• 20:13
  never
• 20:14
  ending
• 20:14
  journey
• 20:14
  and
• 20:15
  it's
• 20:15
  something
• 20:15
  we're
• 20:15
  always
• 20:15
  working
• 20:16
  on
• 20:16
  because
• 20:16
  we're
• 20:16
  always
• 20:16
  evolving.
• 20:17
  But
• 20:17
  I
• 20:18
  have
• 20:18
  found
• 20:18
  this
• 20:19
  to
• 20:19
  be
• 20:20
  the
• 20:20
  pathway
• 20:21
  to
• 20:21
  connection,
• 20:23
  especially
• 20:24
  with
• 20:24
  the
• 20:24
  two
• 20:24
  of
• 20:24
  you,
• 20:25
  because
• 20:25
  I
• 20:25
  think
• 20:25
  walking
• 20:26
  in
• 20:26
  this
• 20:26
  value
• 20:27
  alongside
• 20:27
  other
• 20:27
  people
• 20:28
  who
• 20:28
  are
• 20:29
  walking
• 20:29
  in
• 20:29
  this
• 20:30
  value,
• 20:30
  even
• 20:30
  if
• 20:30
  they're
• 20:30
  not
• 20:31
  doing
• 20:31
  it
• 20:31
  the
• 20:31
  same
• 20:31
  way
• 20:31
  you
• 20:32
  are,
• 20:33
  that
• 20:33
  in
• 20:33
  and
• 20:33
  of
• 20:34
  itself
• 20:34
  is
• 20:34
  like
• 20:34
  really
• 20:35
  powerful.
• 20:36
  So
• 20:36
  I
• 20:36
  guess,
• 20:37
  like,
• 20:37
  let's
• 20:38
  talk
• 20:38
  about
• 20:38
  that.
• 20:38
  When
• 20:38
  does
• 20:39
  this
• 20:39
  feel
• 20:40
  easy
• 20:41
  to
• 20:41
  embody?
• 20:42
  When
• 20:42
  does
• 20:42
  it
• 20:43
  feel
• 20:43
  like
• 20:43
  a
• 20:43
  struggle?
• 20:44
  Like,
• 20:44
  what's
• 20:44
  the.
• 20:45
  What
• 20:45
  is
• 20:45
  it
• 20:46
  actively
• 20:46
  like
• 20:48
  making
• 20:48
  an
• 20:49
  effort
• 20:49
  towards
• 20:50
  your
• 20:51
  own
• 20:51
  sovereignty?
• 20:54
  That's
• 20:55
  a
• 20:55
  tough
• 20:55
  one
• 20:56
  to
• 20:57
  answer.
• 20:58
  Just
• 20:58
  here
• 20:58
  to
• 20:58
  ask
• 20:58
  the
• 20:58
  hard
• 20:59
  questions.
• 20:59
  Yeah,.
• 21:02
  Well,
• 21:02
  it's
• 21:03
  just
• 21:03
  very
• 21:03
  deep.
• 21:03
  Right?
• 21:04
  So,
• 21:04
  yeah,
• 21:05
  like,
• 21:05
  honesty
• 21:05
  is
• 21:05
  kind
• 21:06
  of
• 21:06
  easy,
• 21:06
  right.
• 21:06
  How
• 21:07
  that
• 21:07
  shows
• 21:07
  up
• 21:07
  is
• 21:08
  very
• 21:08
  obvious.
• 21:09
  Right?
• 21:09
  Like
• 21:09
  how
• 21:10
  sovereignty
• 21:10
  shows
• 21:11
  up
• 21:11
  is
• 21:12
  a
• 21:12
  little
• 21:12
  bit
• 21:13
  less
• 21:14
  obvious.
• 21:15
  But
• 21:15
  you're
• 21:16
  in
• 21:16
  your
• 21:17
  kind
• 21:17
  of,
• 21:17
  for
• 21:18
  me
• 21:18
  anyway,
• 21:19
  fighting
• 21:19
  much
• 21:20
  deeper
• 21:20
  programming
• 21:23
  and
• 21:23
  pattern
• 21:25
  that.
• 21:26
  And
• 21:26
  that's
• 21:27
  why
• 21:27
  it's
• 21:27
  still
• 21:28
  such
• 21:28
  a
• 21:28
  work
• 21:28
  in
• 21:29
  progress,
• 21:29
  because
• 21:30
  we're
• 21:30
  still
• 21:30
  uncovering.
• 21:31
  It's
• 21:31
  like,
• 21:31
  oh,
• 21:32
  wait
• 21:32
  a
• 21:32
  minute,
• 21:33
  why
• 21:33
  do
• 21:34
  I
• 21:34
  do
• 21:34
  that?
• 21:34
  Why
• 21:34
  do
• 21:35
  I
• 21:35
  think
• 21:35
  that
• 21:37
  there's
• 21:37
  a.
• 21:38
  Thing
• 21:38
  I
• 21:38
  thought
• 21:38
  I
• 21:38
  dealt
• 21:39
  with
• 21:39
  and
• 21:40
  that
• 21:41
  to
• 21:41
  bite
• 21:41
  me
• 21:41
  in
• 21:41
  the
• 21:42
  ass.
• 21:42
  That's
• 21:42
  fun,
• 21:42
  don't
• 21:43
  even
• 21:43
  get
• 21:43
  me
• 21:43
  started.
• 21:47
  But
• 21:48
  I'll
• 21:48
  put
• 21:48
  it
• 21:48
  this
• 21:48
  way,
• 21:49
  so
• 21:53
  I'll
• 21:53
  just
• 21:53
  give
• 21:53
  you
• 21:53
  a
• 21:53
  real
• 21:54
  word
• 21:54
  world
• 21:54
  example,
• 21:55
  because
• 21:55
  I
• 21:55
  don't
• 21:55
  know
• 21:55
  how
• 21:56
  to
• 21:56
  articulate
• 21:56
  this
• 21:57
  objectively.
• 22:00
  My
• 22:00
  future
• 22:00
  ex
• 22:01
  husband
• 22:01
  came
• 22:02
  to
• 22:02
  me
• 22:02
  one
• 22:02
  time
• 22:03
  and
• 22:03
  he's
• 22:03
  like,
• 22:04
  do
• 22:04
  you
• 22:04
  think
• 22:05
  that
• 22:05
  there's
• 22:05
  a
• 22:05
  chance
• 22:06
  that
• 22:06
  we
• 22:06
  could
• 22:06
  make
• 22:07
  this
• 22:07
  work?
• 22:08
  And
• 22:08
  I
• 22:09
  said
• 22:09
  no.
• 22:10
  And
• 22:10
  he's
• 22:10
  like,
• 22:11
  why
• 22:11
  not?
• 22:12
  And
• 22:13
  I
• 22:13
  said,
• 22:14
  because
• 22:16
  I
• 22:16
  can't
• 22:19
  make
• 22:19
  you
• 22:19
  happy
• 22:20
  without
• 22:20
  sacrificing
• 22:21
  pieces
• 22:21
  of
• 22:21
  myself.
• 22:26
  And
• 22:27
  that.
• 22:29
  And
• 22:29
  I
• 22:30
  don't
• 22:30
  mean
• 22:30
  that
• 22:30
  in
• 22:31
  a
• 22:31
  bad
• 22:31
  way.
• 22:31
  I
• 22:32
  mean,
• 22:32
  like,
• 22:32
  to
• 22:33
  me
• 22:33
  it's
• 22:33
  a
• 22:33
  benefit,
• 22:34
  Erica,
• 22:34
  like
• 22:35
  you
• 22:35
  said,
• 22:35
  it's
• 22:35
  a
• 22:35
  benefit
• 22:36
  to
• 22:36
  both
• 22:36
  of
• 22:36
  us
• 22:36
  to
• 22:37
  separate
• 22:37
  so
• 22:38
  that
• 22:38
  he
• 22:38
  can
• 22:38
  find
• 22:40
  a
• 22:40
  partner
• 22:43
  that
• 22:43
  doesn't
• 22:43
  have
• 22:44
  to
• 22:44
  do
• 22:44
  that
• 22:46
  to
• 22:46
  meet
• 22:47
  him
• 22:47
  where
• 22:47
  he
• 22:47
  is.
• 22:48
  Wow.
• 22:52
  I
• 22:53
  don't
• 22:53
  know
• 22:53
  if
• 22:53
  that
• 22:54
  made
• 22:54
  sense.
• 22:55
  Oh
• 22:55
  my
• 22:55
  God,
• 22:55
  that
• 22:55
  makes
• 22:55
  so
• 22:56
  much
• 22:56
  sense.
• 22:56
  I
• 22:57
  wish.
• 22:57
  Made
• 22:58
  me
• 22:58
  gasp
• 22:58
  and
• 22:58
  now
• 22:58
  I'm
• 22:59
  gonna
• 22:59
  cry
• 22:59
  like
• 23:00
  all
• 23:00
  in
• 23:01
  30
• 23:01
  seconds
• 23:02
  the.
• 23:02
  Way
• 23:02
  that
• 23:02
  you
• 23:03
  just
• 23:03
  explained
• 23:03
  that.
• 23:03
  I
• 23:04
  wish
• 23:04
  that
• 23:04
  I
• 23:05
  had
• 23:05
  had
• 23:05
  that
• 23:05
  verbiage
• 23:06
  exactly
• 23:07
  for
• 23:07
  when
• 23:07
  I
• 23:07
  was
• 23:08
  getting
• 23:08
  divorced.
• 23:08
  Because
• 23:09
  that's
• 23:09
  exactly.
• 23:09
  Would
• 23:09
  have
• 23:09
  been
• 23:10
  my
• 23:10
  answer
• 23:10
  because
• 23:11
  that's
• 23:11
  exactly
• 23:11
  what
• 23:11
  was
• 23:12
  happening.
• 23:12
  Sacrificing
• 23:13
  myself.
• 23:14
  If
• 23:14
  I
• 23:14
  could
• 23:14
  have
• 23:14
  said
• 23:14
  that.
• 23:15
  The
• 23:15
  thing
• 23:16
  is,
• 23:16
  is
• 23:16
  that,
• 23:18
  and
• 23:18
  I
• 23:18
  don't
• 23:18
  know
• 23:18
  in
• 23:18
  your
• 23:19
  situation.
• 23:19
  But
• 23:19
  I
• 23:19
  think
• 23:19
  in
• 23:19
  my
• 23:20
  situation,
• 23:20
  it
• 23:20
  still
• 23:20
  would
• 23:21
  have
• 23:21
  been
• 23:21
  like,
• 23:21
  but.
• 23:24
  But,
• 23:25
  you
• 23:25
  know,
• 23:25
  but.
• 23:26
  But
• 23:26
  nothing.
• 23:29
  It's
• 23:29
  so.
• 23:29
  That's
• 23:30
  so
• 23:30
  interesting.
• 23:31
  I
• 23:31
  feel
• 23:31
  the
• 23:31
  exact
• 23:32
  same
• 23:32
  way
• 23:32
  as
• 23:33
  to
• 23:33
  what
• 23:33
  you
• 23:33
  just
• 23:33
  said,
• 23:33
  Adriana.
• 23:34
  I
• 23:34
  wish
• 23:34
  I
• 23:34
  had
• 23:34
  the
• 23:34
  language
• 23:35
  or
• 23:35
  I
• 23:35
  wish
• 23:35
  I
• 23:36
  had,
• 23:36
  like,
• 23:36
  the.
• 23:37
  The
• 23:38
  eloquence
• 23:38
  to
• 23:39
  articulate
• 23:39
  that
• 23:40
  in
• 23:40
  the
• 23:40
  moment,
• 23:41
  because
• 23:42
  I
• 23:42
  think
• 23:42
  that's
• 23:42
  what
• 23:42
  was
• 23:42
  underneath
• 23:43
  it,
• 23:43
  but
• 23:43
  also,
• 23:43
  like,
• 23:44
  on
• 23:44
  both
• 23:44
  sides.
• 23:45
  Right.
• 23:45
  Like,
• 23:46
  when
• 23:46
  I
• 23:47
  mentioned
• 23:49
  that,
• 23:50
  I
• 23:50
  finally
• 23:50
  just
• 23:50
  sort
• 23:51
  of
• 23:51
  came
• 23:51
  to
• 23:51
  the
• 23:52
  realization
• 23:52
  or
• 23:52
  like,
• 23:53
  the
• 23:53
  truth
• 23:53
  that
• 23:53
  I
• 23:53
  didn't
• 23:54
  want
• 23:54
  to
• 23:54
  have
• 23:54
  children.
• 23:56
  And
• 23:56
  he
• 23:56
  was
• 23:57
  like,
• 23:58
  yeah,
• 23:59
  that's
• 23:59
  fine.
• 23:59
  And
• 24:00
  I
• 24:00
  was
• 24:00
  like,
• 24:00
  the
• 24:01
  fuck
• 24:01
  it
• 24:01
  is.
• 24:01
  Like,
• 24:01
  no,
• 24:02
  this
• 24:02
  has
• 24:02
  been
• 24:02
  a
• 24:03
  thing
• 24:03
  that
• 24:03
  you've
• 24:03
  wanted
• 24:04
  your
• 24:04
  entire
• 24:04
  life.
• 24:05
  In
• 24:06
  four
• 24:06
  hours,
• 24:06
  you
• 24:06
  didn't
• 24:07
  just
• 24:07
  all
• 24:07
  of
• 24:07
  a
• 24:07
  sudden
• 24:07
  decide
• 24:08
  you
• 24:08
  didn't
• 24:08
  want
• 24:08
  that.
• 24:08
  I
• 24:09
  knew
• 24:09
  that
• 24:09
  there
• 24:09
  would
• 24:09
  be
• 24:12
  eventual,
• 24:13
  like,
• 24:13
  the
• 24:13
  resentment
• 24:14
  for
• 24:14
  that
• 24:14
  or
• 24:14
  something
• 24:15
  like,
• 24:15
  kind
• 24:15
  of
• 24:15
  underlying.
• 24:16
  Right.
• 24:17
  And
• 24:17
  it.
• 24:18
  So
• 24:18
  it
• 24:18
  worked
• 24:19
  on
• 24:19
  both
• 24:19
  sides.
• 24:21
  I
• 24:21
  can't
• 24:22
  sacrifice
• 24:22
  the
• 24:22
  parts
• 24:23
  of
• 24:23
  myself
• 24:25
  to
• 24:25
  give
• 24:25
  you
• 24:25
  this
• 24:26
  thing.
• 24:27
  And
• 24:27
  you
• 24:27
  also
• 24:28
  shouldn't
• 24:28
  have
• 24:28
  to
• 24:29
  sacrifice
• 24:29
  parts
• 24:29
  of
• 24:30
  yourself.
• 24:31
  Exactly.
• 24:32
  To
• 24:32
  stay
• 24:32
  here.
• 24:34
  Right.
• 24:34
  And
• 24:35
  that's
• 24:35
  exactly
• 24:35
  what
• 24:35
  you're
• 24:36
  talking
• 24:36
  about.
• 24:36
  It's
• 24:36
  that,
• 24:36
  like,
• 24:37
  two
• 24:37
  way.
• 24:37
  It's.
• 24:38
  It's.
• 24:38
  Yeah,
• 24:39
  everybody
• 24:40
  is
• 24:40
  better
• 24:40
  off
• 24:42
  in
• 24:43
  these,
• 24:44
  like,
• 24:44
  in
• 24:44
  different
• 24:45
  situations.
• 24:46
  And
• 24:46
  it's
• 24:47
  not
• 24:47
  to
• 24:47
  say
• 24:47
  we
• 24:47
  don't
• 24:47
  value.
• 24:48
  Yes.
• 24:48
  It's
• 24:49
  not
• 24:49
  to
• 24:49
  say
• 24:49
  we
• 24:49
  don't
• 24:49
  value
• 24:50
  what's
• 24:50
  happened
• 24:50
  up
• 24:50
  to
• 24:51
  this
• 24:51
  point.
• 24:51
  It's
• 24:52
  just
• 24:52
  that
• 24:52
  we
• 24:52
  know
• 24:52
  we
• 24:53
  can't
• 24:53
  go
• 24:53
  forward
• 24:55
  because
• 24:56
  if.
• 24:56
  If
• 24:57
  any
• 24:57
  of
• 24:57
  us
• 24:59
  are
• 25:00
  abandoning
• 25:00
  ourselves
• 25:01
  even
• 25:01
  a
• 25:01
  little
• 25:01
  bit,
• 25:03
  no
• 25:03
  one
• 25:03
  wins.
• 25:05
  Right.
• 25:08
  That's
• 25:08
  the.
• 25:09
  The
• 25:09
  part
• 25:09
  of
• 25:09
  the
• 25:09
  value
• 25:10
  that
• 25:11
  we
• 25:11
  felt
• 25:11
  was,
• 25:11
  like,
• 25:12
  so
• 25:12
  important
• 25:12
  to
• 25:12
  articulate.
• 25:14
  It
• 25:15
  isn't
• 25:15
  selfish.
• 25:16
  It's
• 25:16
  sacred.
• 25:17
  This
• 25:17
  is
• 25:17
  what
• 25:17
  we're
• 25:18
  talking
• 25:18
  about.
• 25:19
  It
• 25:19
  sounds
• 25:20
  selfish
• 25:20
  to
• 25:21
  be
• 25:21
  the
• 25:21
  one
• 25:21
  to
• 25:22
  ask
• 25:23
  for
• 25:23
  the
• 25:23
  divorce.
• 25:24
  It
• 25:24
  sounds
• 25:24
  selfish
• 25:25
  to
• 25:25
  be
• 25:25
  the
• 25:25
  one
• 25:25
  to
• 25:25
  ask
• 25:26
  for
• 25:26
  the
• 25:27
  boundary.
• 25:28
  But
• 25:28
  at
• 25:28
  the
• 25:28
  end
• 25:28
  of
• 25:29
  the
• 25:29
  day,
• 25:30
  being
• 25:30
  in
• 25:30
  any,
• 25:31
  like,
• 25:32
  relationship
• 25:33
  or
• 25:33
  situation
• 25:34
  or
• 25:34
  room
• 25:35
  or
• 25:35
  job
• 25:36
  that
• 25:36
  requires
• 25:37
  you
• 25:38
  to
• 25:38
  abandon
• 25:39
  your
• 25:39
  own
• 25:40
  needs,
• 25:42
  it's
• 25:42
  not
• 25:42
  serving
• 25:43
  you,
• 25:43
  and
• 25:44
  therefore
• 25:44
  it's
• 25:45
  also
• 25:45
  not
• 25:45
  serving
• 25:46
  anyone
• 25:46
  around
• 25:46
  you.
• 25:47
  Right,
• 25:48
  Right.
• 25:48
  Like,
• 25:49
  when
• 25:49
  we're
• 25:49
  all.
• 25:52
  When
• 25:52
  we're
• 25:52
  all
• 25:52
  able
• 25:53
  to
• 25:53
  sort
• 25:53
  of
• 25:53
  step
• 25:54
  into
• 25:54
  this
• 25:55
  space,
• 25:56
  we
• 25:56
  are
• 25:56
  not
• 25:57
  the
• 25:57
  only
• 25:57
  ones
• 25:57
  who
• 25:58
  benefit.
• 26:00
  Literally
• 26:00
  everyone
• 26:00
  around
• 26:01
  us
• 26:01
  benefits.
• 26:01
  There's
• 26:02
  a
• 26:02
  ripple
• 26:02
  effect,
• 26:03
  even
• 26:03
  if
• 26:04
  they.
• 26:04
  Can't
• 26:04
  see
• 26:04
  it
• 26:04
  in
• 26:04
  the
• 26:04
  moment,
• 26:05
  and
• 26:06
  they
• 26:06
  usually
• 26:06
  won't.
• 26:07
  Right.
• 26:07
  That's
• 26:08
  okay.
• 26:08
  Yeah.
• 26:09
  So
• 26:10
  this
• 26:10
  is
• 26:10
  where
• 26:10
  sovereignty
• 26:11
  feels
• 26:11
  hard
• 26:11
  for
• 26:12
  me.
• 26:13
  It's.
• 26:14
  It's
• 26:14
  trusting
• 26:15
  my
• 26:15
  own
• 26:16
  intuition
• 26:16
  or
• 26:17
  this
• 26:17
  own
• 26:17
  inner
• 26:17
  knowing.
• 26:18
  That
• 26:18
  like,
• 26:18
  even
• 26:19
  if
• 26:19
  no
• 26:19
  one
• 26:20
  else
• 26:20
  can
• 26:20
  see
• 26:20
  this
• 26:20
  right
• 26:21
  now,
• 26:21
  I
• 26:21
  can
• 26:21
  see
• 26:22
  it
• 26:22
  and
• 26:22
  I
• 26:22
  know
• 26:23
  it
• 26:25
  and
• 26:25
  kind
• 26:25
  of
• 26:25
  sticking
• 26:26
  to
• 26:26
  your
• 26:26
  guns
• 26:26
  in
• 26:27
  those
• 26:27
  moments,
• 26:27
  that's
• 26:28
  where
• 26:28
  sovereignty
• 26:28
  feels
• 26:29
  hard
• 26:30
  because
• 26:30
  most
• 26:30
  people
• 26:30
  won't
• 26:31
  see
• 26:31
  it
• 26:32
  in
• 26:32
  the
• 26:32
  here
• 26:33
  and
• 26:33
  now.
• 26:33
  They'll
• 26:33
  only
• 26:33
  see
• 26:34
  it
• 26:34
  in
• 26:34
  the
• 26:34
  rearview
• 26:34
  mirror.
• 26:35
  It'll
• 26:35
  only
• 26:35
  make
• 26:36
  sense
• 26:36
  in
• 26:36
  the
• 26:36
  rear
• 26:36
  view.
• 26:37
  Right?
• 26:37
  So
• 26:38
  that's
• 26:39
  where
• 26:39
  it's,
• 26:40
  it's
• 26:41
  simultaneously
• 26:42
  easy
• 26:42
  and
• 26:42
  hard.
• 26:43
  Because
• 26:43
  I
• 26:43
  think
• 26:43
  over
• 26:44
  time
• 26:44
  I've
• 26:44
  come
• 26:45
  to
• 26:45
  like,
• 26:46
  the
• 26:47
  more
• 26:47
  I've
• 26:47
  come
• 26:47
  to
• 26:48
  like
• 26:48
  know
• 26:48
  and
• 26:48
  understand
• 26:49
  and
• 26:49
  trust
• 26:50
  myself,
• 26:52
  it's
• 26:52
  easy
• 26:52
  for
• 26:52
  me
• 26:53
  to
• 26:53
  take
• 26:54
  the
• 26:54
  step.
• 26:55
  But
• 26:55
  then
• 26:55
  it's
• 26:56
  immediately
• 26:56
  hard
• 26:58
  to
• 26:58
  be
• 26:58
  met
• 26:58
  with
• 26:58
  like
• 26:59
  any
• 26:59
  kind
• 26:59
  of
• 26:59
  resistance
• 27:00
  from
• 27:00
  the
• 27:00
  people
• 27:01
  who
• 27:01
  can't
• 27:01
  see
• 27:01
  it
• 27:01
  yet,
• 27:02
  who
• 27:02
  it
• 27:02
  is
• 27:02
  impacting.
• 27:03
  It's
• 27:03
  absolutely
• 27:04
  impacting
• 27:04
  people
• 27:05
  around
• 27:05
  us.
• 27:05
  But
• 27:06
  the
• 27:07
  ripple
• 27:07
  effect
• 27:08
  is
• 27:08
  more
• 27:09
  often
• 27:09
  than
• 27:09
  not
• 27:10
  positive
• 27:10
  for
• 27:10
  everyone
• 27:11
  involved.
• 27:12
  I
• 27:13
  think
• 27:13
  it's
• 27:13
  always
• 27:13
  positive
• 27:14
  for
• 27:14
  everyone
• 27:14
  involved.
• 27:16
  But
• 27:16
  for
• 27:16
  some
• 27:16
  it
• 27:17
  might
• 27:17
  take
• 27:17
  a
• 27:17
  lot
• 27:17
  longer
• 27:17
  for
• 27:18
  them
• 27:18
  to
• 27:18
  see
• 27:19
  positive
• 27:19
  in
• 27:19
  it.
• 27:22
  Yeah,
• 27:22
  it,
• 27:23
  it
• 27:23
  takes
• 27:23
  them
• 27:23
  looking
• 27:24
  at
• 27:24
  themselves
• 27:24
  a
• 27:25
  little
• 27:25
  deeper,
• 27:26
  right.
• 27:26
  A
• 27:26
  little
• 27:26
  harder
• 27:27
  to,
• 27:27
  for
• 27:27
  them
• 27:27
  to
• 27:27
  maybe
• 27:29
  realize
• 27:29
  that
• 27:29
  it
• 27:29
  might
• 27:30
  take
• 27:30
  time.
• 27:30
  Right.
• 27:31
  Like
• 27:32
  I
• 27:32
  feel
• 27:33
  like
• 27:33
  for
• 27:33
  me,
• 27:34
  the
• 27:35
  whole
• 27:35
  sovereignty
• 27:35
  piece
• 27:36
  really
• 27:36
  tight
• 27:36
  in,
• 27:37
  in
• 27:37
  the
• 27:37
  past
• 27:37
  year
• 27:41
  because
• 27:41
  it,
• 27:41
  it,
• 27:42
  because
• 27:42
  it
• 27:42
  had
• 27:42
  to
• 27:42
  do
• 27:42
  with
• 27:43
  really
• 27:44
  facing
• 27:46
  the
• 27:46
  people
• 27:47
  pleasing.
• 27:48
  I,
• 27:48
  I
• 27:48
  would
• 27:48
  say
• 27:48
  that
• 27:49
  I
• 27:49
  was
• 27:49
  probably
• 27:49
  the
• 27:50
  best
• 27:50
  people
• 27:51
  pleaser
• 27:51
  that
• 27:51
  could
• 27:52
  be.
• 27:52
  Right?
• 27:53
  Exactly.
• 27:54
  First
• 27:55
  place.
• 27:57
  I
• 27:58
  put
• 27:59
  everyone
• 28:00
  before
• 28:00
  me,
• 28:00
  you
• 28:01
  know,
• 28:01
  And
• 28:01
  I
• 28:01
  learned
• 28:02
  to
• 28:02
  do
• 28:02
  this
• 28:02
  at
• 28:03
  a
• 28:03
  very
• 28:03
  young
• 28:03
  age,
• 28:04
  starting
• 28:04
  with
• 28:04
  my
• 28:05
  mom
• 28:05
  and
• 28:05
  taking
• 28:05
  care
• 28:05
  of
• 28:06
  my
• 28:06
  mom
• 28:06
  till
• 28:06
  the
• 28:06
  day
• 28:07
  she
• 28:07
  passed.
• 28:08
  And
• 28:09
  so
• 28:09
  I
• 28:09
  learned
• 28:09
  to
• 28:09
  do
• 28:09
  that
• 28:10
  with
• 28:10
  everyone
• 28:10
  else,
• 28:11
  right?
• 28:11
  Because
• 28:11
  I
• 28:12
  learned
• 28:12
  to
• 28:12
  just
• 28:12
  put
• 28:12
  everyone
• 28:13
  else
• 28:13
  before
• 28:14
  me
• 28:15
  until
• 28:17
  the
• 28:17
  last
• 28:17
  year,
• 28:18
  which
• 28:18
  was
• 28:19
  with
• 28:19
  family.
• 28:20
  And
• 28:20
  I
• 28:20
  guess
• 28:20
  it
• 28:20
  had
• 28:21
  to
• 28:21
  be
• 28:21
  that
• 28:21
  difficult
• 28:22
  that
• 28:22
  I
• 28:22
  had
• 28:23
  to
• 28:23
  finally
• 28:24
  nip
• 28:24
  it
• 28:25
  in
• 28:25
  the
• 28:25
  bud
• 28:25
  with
• 28:25
  family
• 28:27
  in
• 28:27
  order
• 28:27
  to
• 28:28
  just
• 28:30
  like
• 28:30
  get
• 28:31
  past
• 28:31
  it,
• 28:32
  right.
• 28:33
  As
• 28:33
  uncomfortable
• 28:34
  as
• 28:34
  that
• 28:34
  was
• 28:35
  for
• 28:35
  me
• 28:35
  to
• 28:35
  finally
• 28:35
  do,
• 28:36
  right.
• 28:36
  Because
• 28:36
  my
• 28:37
  thing
• 28:37
  is,
• 28:37
  is
• 28:37
  that
• 28:39
  when
• 28:39
  I
• 28:39
  do
• 28:39
  what's
• 28:40
  right
• 28:40
  for
• 28:40
  me
• 28:40
  and
• 28:40
  make
• 28:40
  someone
• 28:41
  else
• 28:41
  feel
• 28:41
  a
• 28:41
  certain
• 28:42
  kind
• 28:42
  of
• 28:42
  way
• 28:42
  and
• 28:42
  I
• 28:42
  want
• 28:43
  to
• 28:44
  rescue
• 28:45
  them
• 28:45
  from
• 28:45
  that.
• 28:47
  And
• 28:48
  while
• 28:48
  I
• 28:48
  think
• 28:48
  that
• 28:49
  that
• 28:49
  is
• 28:49
  like
• 28:49
  a,
• 28:50
  a
• 28:50
  nice
• 28:50
  thing
• 28:51
  to
• 28:51
  do,
• 28:51
  it's
• 28:52
  actually
• 28:52
  a
• 28:52
  manipulative
• 28:53
  thing
• 28:53
  to
• 28:53
  do,
• 28:54
  right?
• 28:54
  It's
• 28:54
  actually
• 28:55
  a
• 28:55
  control,
• 28:57
  you're
• 28:57
  trying
• 28:57
  to
• 28:57
  control
• 28:57
  how
• 28:58
  they
• 28:58
  feel
• 28:58
  because
• 28:58
  you
• 28:58
  don't
• 28:59
  want
• 28:59
  them
• 28:59
  to
• 28:59
  feel
• 28:59
  a
• 29:00
  certain
• 29:00
  way
• 29:00
  and
• 29:00
  not,
• 29:01
  not
• 29:01
  in
• 29:01
  a
• 29:01
  ill
• 29:02
  intended
• 29:02
  way,
• 29:04
  but
• 29:04
  it's
• 29:04
  still,
• 29:06
  you're
• 29:06
  still
• 29:07
  trying
• 29:07
  to
• 29:07
  control
• 29:07
  the
• 29:07
  situation.
• 29:08
  But.
• 29:09
  So
• 29:09
  I
• 29:09
  finally
• 29:09
  had
• 29:09
  to
• 29:10
  learn
• 29:10
  that
• 29:10
  I
• 29:10
  had
• 29:10
  to
• 29:11
  let
• 29:11
  people
• 29:11
  feel
• 29:12
  however
• 29:14
  they
• 29:14
  felt
• 29:15
  by
• 29:16
  my
• 29:17
  actions.
• 29:17
  Right.
• 29:17
  By
• 29:17
  me
• 29:18
  putting
• 29:18
  myself
• 29:18
  first.
• 29:20
  And
• 29:20
  that
• 29:20
  was
• 29:21
  very
• 29:21
  difficult.
• 29:22
  But
• 29:24
  there
• 29:24
  was
• 29:24
  one
• 29:24
  incident
• 29:25
  where
• 29:25
  it
• 29:25
  just
• 29:25
  clicked
• 29:26
  for
• 29:26
  me.
• 29:27
  It,
• 29:27
  like,
• 29:28
  clicked.
• 29:28
  Once
• 29:29
  it
• 29:29
  clicked
• 29:29
  for
• 29:29
  me,
• 29:29
  I
• 29:29
  was
• 29:30
  like,
• 29:30
  oh,
• 29:32
  got
• 29:32
  it.
• 29:33
  And
• 29:34
  the
• 29:34
  second
• 29:34
  I
• 29:34
  got
• 29:34
  it
• 29:35
  in,
• 29:35
  the
• 29:35
  second
• 29:35
  that
• 29:35
  it
• 29:36
  became
• 29:36
  so
• 29:36
  clear
• 29:36
  with
• 29:37
  it,
• 29:37
  I.
• 29:37
  I
• 29:38
  felt
• 29:38
  calm.
• 29:39
  I
• 29:40
  did
• 29:40
  not
• 29:40
  feel
• 29:41
  the.
• 29:42
  The
• 29:42
  discomfort
• 29:43
  I
• 29:43
  felt,
• 29:43
  like,
• 29:45
  internally.
• 29:45
  Right.
• 29:46
  Like,
• 29:46
  my.
• 29:46
  My
• 29:46
  nervous
• 29:47
  system.
• 29:47
  Because
• 29:47
  that's
• 29:48
  what
• 29:48
  would
• 29:48
  it
• 29:48
  always
• 29:48
  be,
• 29:48
  would
• 29:49
  be
• 29:49
  my
• 29:49
  nervous
• 29:49
  system.
• 29:49
  Like,
• 29:50
  I
• 29:50
  got
• 29:50
  to
• 29:50
  do
• 29:50
  something
• 29:50
  about
• 29:50
  this,
• 29:51
  because
• 29:51
  it
• 29:51
  was
• 29:51
  so
• 29:51
  uncomfortable.
• 29:52
  And
• 29:52
  it
• 29:52
  was
• 29:52
  like,
• 29:53
  okay,
• 29:53
  no,
• 29:54
  I
• 29:54
  did
• 29:54
  this
• 29:54
  for
• 29:54
  me.
• 29:55
  I'm
• 29:55
  good.
• 29:55
  And
• 29:56
  I'm
• 29:56
  okay
• 29:56
  with
• 29:58
  however
• 29:58
  it
• 29:58
  is
• 29:58
  that
• 29:58
  they're
• 29:59
  feeling,
• 29:59
  because
• 30:00
  it's
• 30:00
  just
• 30:00
  however
• 30:01
  they
• 30:01
  have
• 30:01
  to
• 30:01
  feel
• 30:01
  and.
• 30:02
  Right.
• 30:02
  Like,
• 30:03
  I
• 30:03
  can't
• 30:03
  control.
• 30:04
  I
• 30:04
  can't
• 30:04
  control.
• 30:04
  And
• 30:04
  I'm
• 30:05
  also
• 30:05
  not.
• 30:05
  I'm
• 30:06
  no
• 30:06
  longer
• 30:06
  going
• 30:07
  to
• 30:07
  make
• 30:07
  it
• 30:08
  my
• 30:08
  responsibility.
• 30:10
  Right.
• 30:10
  Because
• 30:10
  then
• 30:10
  again,
• 30:11
  it
• 30:11
  comes
• 30:11
  to
• 30:11
  me
• 30:11
  sacrificing
• 30:12
  myself
• 30:13
  for
• 30:13
  your
• 30:14
  comfort,
• 30:16
  and
• 30:16
  that's
• 30:16
  when
• 30:16
  it
• 30:16
  really
• 30:17
  all
• 30:18
  hit
• 30:18
  me.
• 30:18
  And
• 30:19
  so
• 30:19
  I.
• 30:19
  I
• 30:19
  keep
• 30:19
  reminding
• 30:20
  myself
• 30:20
  of
• 30:20
  what
• 30:20
  that
• 30:21
  felt
• 30:21
  like.
• 30:21
  And
• 30:21
  it's
• 30:22
  like.
• 30:22
  And
• 30:22
  so
• 30:22
  if
• 30:22
  I
• 30:22
  ever
• 30:23
  want
• 30:23
  to
• 30:25
  go
• 30:25
  back
• 30:25
  to
• 30:25
  that
• 30:26
  old
• 30:26
  way
• 30:26
  or
• 30:26
  give
• 30:26
  my
• 30:27
  power
• 30:27
  away
• 30:27
  is
• 30:27
  just
• 30:28
  go
• 30:28
  back
• 30:28
  to
• 30:28
  that.
• 30:28
  To
• 30:28
  that
• 30:28
  clarity
• 30:29
  that
• 30:29
  again,
• 30:29
  like.
• 30:29
  Right.
• 30:30
  That's
• 30:30
  what
• 30:30
  it's
• 30:30
  about.
• 30:31
  And
• 30:32
  where
• 30:32
  does
• 30:32
  growth
• 30:33
  happen?
• 30:33
  Where
• 30:34
  we're
• 30:34
  comfortable.
• 30:35
  Oh,
• 30:35
  no.
• 30:35
  And
• 30:36
  the
• 30:36
  discomfort.
• 30:36
  That
• 30:37
  is
• 30:37
  exactly
• 30:37
  where
• 30:37
  it
• 30:37
  happens.
• 30:38
  Exactly.
• 30:38
  Yeah.
• 30:39
  Right.
• 30:40
  By
• 30:40
  keeping
• 30:41
  other
• 30:41
  people
• 30:41
  comfortable,
• 30:42
  we're
• 30:42
  actually
• 30:43
  limiting
• 30:43
  them.
• 30:44
  Right.
• 30:46
  Ouch.
• 30:46
  We
• 30:47
  are
• 30:47
  robbing
• 30:47
  them
• 30:47
  of
• 30:48
  the
• 30:48
  opportunity
• 30:49
  to
• 30:49
  learn
• 30:50
  and
• 30:50
  grow.
• 30:51
  Right.
• 30:53
  So
• 30:53
  we
• 30:53
  have
• 30:53
  to
• 30:53
  let
• 30:54
  them.
• 30:54
  Let
• 30:55
  them.
• 30:55
  We
• 30:56
  have
• 30:56
  to
• 30:56
  allow
• 30:56
  them
• 30:57
  to
• 30:57
  learn
• 30:58
  those
• 30:58
  hard
• 30:58
  lessons.
• 30:59
  Yep.
• 31:00
  Yeah.
• 31:00
  Saving
• 31:01
  people
• 31:01
  doesn't
• 31:01
  actually
• 31:02
  help
• 31:02
  anything.
• 31:03
  Just
• 31:03
  keeps
• 31:04
  this
• 31:04
  dysfunction
• 31:05
  going.
• 31:06
  That
• 31:07
  condition,
• 31:07
  it
• 31:07
  just
• 31:07
  keeps
• 31:07
  it
• 31:08
  going.
• 31:08
  And
• 31:08
  then
• 31:08
  what
• 31:08
  does
• 31:08
  it
• 31:08
  end?
• 31:09
  When
• 31:09
  does
• 31:09
  the
• 31:09
  cycle
• 31:09
  end?
• 31:11
  It
• 31:11
  doesn't.
• 31:14
  Right.
• 31:15
  It
• 31:16
  doesn't
• 31:16
  end.
• 31:17
  It
• 31:17
  never.
• 31:18
  It
• 31:18
  never
• 31:18
  will.
• 31:18
  Right.
• 31:20
  A
• 31:20
  nip
• 31:20
  it
• 31:20
  in
• 31:20
  the
• 31:20
  bud.
• 31:21
  So,
• 31:21
  you
• 31:21
  know,
• 31:22
  I
• 31:22
  realized
• 31:23
  that
• 31:23
  I
• 31:23
  am
• 31:23
  the
• 31:24
  cycle
• 31:24
  breaker
• 31:24
  in
• 31:24
  my
• 31:24
  family,
• 31:25
  and
• 31:25
  I
• 31:25
  had
• 31:25
  to
• 31:26
  finally
• 31:26
  step
• 31:26
  up
• 31:26
  to
• 31:26
  that.
• 31:27
  Break
• 31:27
  the
• 31:28
  cycle.
• 31:30
  Same
• 31:30
  girl.
• 31:31
  Yeah.
• 31:32
  Alternate
• 31:33
  name
• 31:33
  for
• 31:33
  the
• 31:33
  podcast.
• 31:34
  The
• 31:34
  Cycle
• 31:34
  Breakers.
• 31:35
  Yeah.
• 31:36
  And
• 31:36
  I
• 31:36
  mean,
• 31:36
  I.
• 31:36
  And
• 31:37
  I
• 31:37
  also
• 31:37
  want
• 31:37
  to
• 31:37
  add
• 31:38
  that
• 31:39
  doing
• 31:40
  this
• 31:41
  does
• 31:41
  not
• 31:41
  mean
• 31:42
  you
• 31:42
  don't
• 31:42
  love
• 31:44
  your
• 31:44
  family.
• 31:45
  It
• 31:45
  doesn't
• 31:45
  mean
• 31:45
  that
• 31:45
  you
• 31:46
  no
• 31:46
  longer
• 31:46
  care
• 31:47
  about
• 31:47
  them.
• 31:48
  It's
• 31:48
  just
• 31:48
  that
• 31:48
  you
• 31:48
  have
• 31:49
  to
• 31:49
  do
• 31:49
  what's
• 31:49
  right
• 31:49
  for
• 31:49
  you.
• 31:50
  And
• 31:50
  I
• 31:50
  feel
• 31:50
  like
• 31:50
  that
• 31:51
  that
• 31:51
  can
• 31:51
  also
• 31:52
  be
• 31:52
  a
• 31:52
  struggle.
• 31:52
  A
• 31:52
  lot
• 31:52
  of
• 31:52
  people
• 31:53
  can
• 31:53
  struggle
• 31:53
  with
• 31:53
  that,
• 31:53
  thinking
• 31:54
  like,
• 31:54
  oh,
• 31:54
  well,
• 31:54
  then,
• 31:55
  you
• 31:55
  know,
• 31:56
  you
• 31:56
  can.
• 31:56
  You
• 31:56
  can
• 31:57
  love
• 31:57
  them
• 31:57
  and
• 31:57
  still
• 31:59
  do
• 31:59
  what's
• 31:59
  right
• 31:59
  for
• 32:00
  yourself.
• 32:02
  Thank
• 32:02
  you
• 32:02
  for
• 32:03
  saying
• 32:03
  that.
• 32:04
  Because
• 32:04
  in
• 32:04
  fact,
• 32:04
  I
• 32:04
  think
• 32:05
  it's
• 32:05
  the
• 32:05
  best
• 32:05
  way
• 32:05
  for
• 32:05
  you
• 32:06
  to
• 32:06
  love
• 32:06
  someone.
• 32:06
  Yeah.
• 32:08
  The
• 32:08
  truth
• 32:09
  is
• 32:09
  always
• 32:10
  kind,
• 32:11
  even
• 32:11
  if
• 32:12
  it
• 32:12
  makes
• 32:12
  people
• 32:12
  uncomfortable
• 32:13
  or
• 32:13
  even
• 32:13
  if
• 32:13
  it's
• 32:13
  hard
• 32:13
  to
• 32:14
  hear.
• 32:14
  Right.
• 32:14
  Like,
• 32:15
  the
• 32:15
  truth
• 32:15
  is
• 32:15
  always
• 32:16
  the
• 32:16
  kinder
• 32:17
  thing
• 32:17
  to
• 32:17
  do.
• 32:19
  Because
• 32:19
  again,
• 32:21
  if
• 32:21
  we,
• 32:22
  if
• 32:22
  we
• 32:22
  are
• 32:23
  honest,
• 32:23
  we're
• 32:23
  doing
• 32:24
  so
• 32:24
  many
• 32:24
  things.
• 32:25
  And
• 32:25
  this
• 32:25
  is,
• 32:25
  I
• 32:25
  think
• 32:26
  this
• 32:26
  kind
• 32:26
  of
• 32:26
  goes
• 32:26
  into,
• 32:27
  like,
• 32:27
  why
• 32:27
  is
• 32:28
  this
• 32:30
  a
• 32:30
  rebellious
• 32:31
  idea?
• 32:31
  Or
• 32:31
  why
• 32:31
  does
• 32:32
  it
• 32:32
  feel
• 32:32
  rebellious
• 32:32
  to
• 32:33
  us
• 32:33
  right
• 32:33
  now
• 32:34
  in
• 32:34
  this
• 32:34
  moment?
• 32:35
  It's,
• 32:36
  it's
• 32:36
  that
• 32:37
  going
• 32:38
  back
• 32:38
  to
• 32:39
  what
• 32:39
  you
• 32:40
  were
• 32:40
  saying
• 32:40
  about
• 32:42
  robbing
• 32:42
  them
• 32:43
  of
• 32:43
  opportunities
• 32:43
  to
• 32:43
  learn
• 32:44
  and
• 32:44
  grow,
• 32:45
  right?
• 32:45
  Like
• 32:46
  some
• 32:47
  people
• 32:47
  have
• 32:47
  an
• 32:48
  idea
• 32:48
  or
• 32:49
  there
• 32:49
  is
• 32:49
  a
• 32:49
  narrative
• 32:50
  around
• 32:50
  what
• 32:51
  it
• 32:51
  means
• 32:51
  to
• 32:52
  love
• 32:52
  another
• 32:52
  person
• 32:52
  or
• 32:53
  to
• 32:53
  show
• 32:53
  love
• 32:53
  to
• 32:54
  another
• 32:54
  person.
• 32:55
  And
• 32:55
  that
• 32:55
  is
• 32:55
  very
• 32:56
  synonymous
• 32:56
  with
• 32:57
  the
• 32:57
  people
• 32:57
  pleasing
• 32:57
  behaviors
• 32:58
  we've
• 32:58
  been
• 32:58
  talking
• 32:59
  about.
• 32:59
  Right.
• 33:00
  When
• 33:00
  in
• 33:01
  fact,
• 33:02
  the
• 33:02
  most
• 33:02
  loving
• 33:03
  thing
• 33:03
  you
• 33:03
  could
• 33:03
  ever
• 33:04
  do
• 33:04
  for
• 33:04
  someone
• 33:04
  is,
• 33:05
  whether
• 33:06
  it's
• 33:06
  a
• 33:06
  friend,
• 33:06
  a
• 33:06
  family
• 33:07
  member,
• 33:07
  a
• 33:08
  partner,
• 33:08
  whatever,
• 33:10
  is
• 33:10
  to
• 33:10
  be
• 33:11
  honest
• 33:12
  and
• 33:12
  to
• 33:12
  live
• 33:13
  in
• 33:13
  your
• 33:13
  own
• 33:13
  truth
• 33:13
  number
• 33:14
  one.
• 33:15
  Because
• 33:16
  then
• 33:16
  we
• 33:16
  are
• 33:16
  actually
• 33:17
  gifting
• 33:17
  them
• 33:18
  the
• 33:18
  opportunity
• 33:19
  to
• 33:19
  learn
• 33:19
  and
• 33:19
  grow
• 33:20
  and
• 33:20
  to
• 33:21
  like,
• 33:21
  maybe
• 33:21
  come
• 33:22
  into
• 33:22
  this
• 33:22
  themselves.
• 33:23
  But
• 33:23
  by
• 33:23
  modeling
• 33:24
  it,
• 33:24
  we're
• 33:24
  also
• 33:25
  giving
• 33:25
  permission,
• 33:27
  right?
• 33:28
  It's
• 33:28
  the
• 33:28
  signaling
• 33:29
  that,
• 33:29
  like,
• 33:29
  it's
• 33:29
  okay
• 33:30
  for
• 33:30
  you
• 33:30
  to
• 33:32
  figure
• 33:32
  out
• 33:33
  who
• 33:33
  you
• 33:33
  are.
• 33:33
  It's
• 33:33
  okay
• 33:34
  for
• 33:34
  you
• 33:34
  to
• 33:34
  evolve,
• 33:34
  it's
• 33:35
  okay
• 33:35
  for
• 33:35
  you
• 33:35
  to
• 33:35
  grow.
• 33:36
  It's
• 33:36
  okay
• 33:36
  for
• 33:36
  you
• 33:36
  to
• 33:36
  learn
• 33:37
  things
• 33:37
  about
• 33:37
  yourself.
• 33:38
  It's
• 33:38
  okay
• 33:38
  for
• 33:38
  you
• 33:38
  to
• 33:38
  honor
• 33:39
  your
• 33:39
  needs.
• 33:41
  Boundaries
• 33:42
  are
• 33:42
  okay,
• 33:43
  right?
• 33:43
  Like
• 33:44
  when,
• 33:44
  now,
• 33:45
  when
• 33:45
  a
• 33:45
  family
• 33:45
  member,
• 33:47
  like
• 33:47
  recently
• 33:47
  set
• 33:48
  a
• 33:48
  boundary
• 33:48
  with
• 33:49
  me,
• 33:50
  I
• 33:50
  was
• 33:50
  like,
• 33:51
  okay,
• 33:52
  I
• 33:52
  respect
• 33:53
  that
• 33:53
  boundary.
• 33:54
  Do
• 33:55
  I
• 33:55
  like
• 33:55
  it?
• 33:55
  No,
• 33:56
  it
• 33:56
  inconveniences
• 33:57
  me
• 33:57
  a
• 33:57
  little
• 33:57
  bit.
• 33:57
  But
• 33:58
  that's
• 33:58
  okay
• 33:59
  because
• 33:59
  it's
• 34:00
  your
• 34:00
  boundary
• 34:00
  and
• 34:01
  I
• 34:01
  love
• 34:01
  you.
• 34:01
  So
• 34:03
  we
• 34:03
  can,
• 34:04
  I
• 34:04
  think
• 34:05
  we
• 34:05
  can
• 34:06
  also,
• 34:06
  like,
• 34:06
  receive
• 34:07
  when
• 34:07
  you've
• 34:08
  done,
• 34:08
  like
• 34:09
  when
• 34:10
  you've
• 34:10
  done
• 34:10
  the
• 34:10
  thing
• 34:10
  and
• 34:10
  you
• 34:11
  understand
• 34:11
  how
• 34:11
  hard
• 34:11
  it
• 34:12
  is
• 34:12
  for
• 34:12
  a
• 34:12
  people,
• 34:12
  for
• 34:13
  a
• 34:13
  recovering
• 34:13
  people
• 34:13
  pleaser
• 34:14
  to
• 34:14
  set
• 34:14
  a
• 34:14
  boundary,
• 34:15
  you
• 34:16
  can
• 34:16
  also
• 34:17
  respect
• 34:18
  boundaries
• 34:18
  a
• 34:19
  lot
• 34:19
  more.
• 34:20
  But
• 34:20
  everybody
• 34:21
  wins
• 34:21
  in
• 34:21
  that
• 34:21
  situation.
• 34:22
  Everybody
• 34:22
  learns,
• 34:23
  everybody
• 34:23
  grows,
• 34:24
  and
• 34:24
  we
• 34:24
  actually
• 34:25
  get
• 34:25
  closer
• 34:26
  in
• 34:26
  connection
• 34:28
  when
• 34:28
  we
• 34:28
  do
• 34:28
  it.
• 34:29
  But
• 34:29
  it
• 34:30
  emphatically
• 34:31
  rejects
• 34:32
  all
• 34:32
  these
• 34:32
  old
• 34:33
  narratives
• 34:33
  that
• 34:33
  we
• 34:34
  work
• 34:34
  at.
• 34:34
  And
• 34:34
  that's
• 34:35
  why
• 34:35
  it
• 34:35
  feels
• 34:36
  so
• 34:36
  rebellious
• 34:37
  and
• 34:37
  feels
• 34:37
  so
• 34:38
  uncomfortable.
• 34:39
  My
• 34:40
  hope
• 34:40
  would
• 34:40
  be
• 34:40
  that
• 34:40
  one
• 34:41
  day
• 34:42
  this
• 34:42
  does
• 34:43
  not
• 34:43
  feel
• 34:43
  rebellious.
• 34:45
  We
• 34:45
  want
• 34:46
  sovereignty
• 34:46
  to
• 34:46
  be
• 34:47
  the
• 34:47
  norm.
• 34:47
  It's
• 34:47
  part
• 34:47
  of
• 34:48
  the
• 34:48
  reason
• 34:48
  that
• 34:48
  we're
• 34:48
  doing
• 34:48
  all
• 34:48
  of
• 34:49
  this.
• 34:49
  Right?
• 34:49
  Like,
• 34:49
  we
• 34:50
  want
• 34:50
  this
• 34:50
  to
• 34:50
  be
• 34:52
  just
• 34:53
  the
• 34:53
  M.O.
• 34:53
  For
• 34:53
  everybody.
• 34:54
  We
• 34:54
  want
• 34:54
  this
• 34:54
  to
• 34:55
  be
• 34:55
  how
• 34:55
  we
• 34:55
  all
• 34:55
  operate,
• 34:56
  but
• 34:57
  we're
• 34:57
  not
• 34:58
  there
• 34:58
  yet.
• 35:00
  Yeah,
• 35:00
  I
• 35:01
  want
• 35:01
  to
• 35:01
  say,
• 35:01
  I
• 35:01
  feel
• 35:01
  like
• 35:01
  the
• 35:02
  rebellious
• 35:02
  side
• 35:02
  is,
• 35:03
  for
• 35:03
  me,
• 35:03
  it's
• 35:04
  not
• 35:04
  so
• 35:04
  much
• 35:04
  going
• 35:04
  against
• 35:05
  something.
• 35:06
  Right.
• 35:07
  Pretty
• 35:07
  much
• 35:07
  like
• 35:07
  what
• 35:07
  you
• 35:08
  were
• 35:08
  saying,
• 35:08
  but
• 35:08
  like.
• 35:09
  But
• 35:10
  doing
• 35:11
  what
• 35:12
  I
• 35:12
  want,
• 35:12
  how
• 35:13
  I
• 35:13
  want
• 35:13
  it,
• 35:13
  how
• 35:14
  I
• 35:14
  see
• 35:14
  it,
• 35:14
  you
• 35:15
  know,
• 35:15
  with
• 35:15
  my
• 35:16
  values,
• 35:16
  my
• 35:17
  own
• 35:17
  ideas.
• 35:17
  Right.
• 35:18
  Not
• 35:18
  because,
• 35:19
  you
• 35:20
  know,
• 35:20
  family,
• 35:21
  society,
• 35:22
  you
• 35:22
  know,
• 35:22
  religion,
• 35:23
  whatever
• 35:23
  told
• 35:23
  you
• 35:24
  that
• 35:24
  it
• 35:24
  needed
• 35:24
  to
• 35:24
  be
• 35:27
  that
• 35:27
  way.
• 35:27
  And
• 35:28
  you're
• 35:28
  talking
• 35:29
  about
• 35:29
  honesty
• 35:29
  before
• 35:31
  and
• 35:31
  being
• 35:31
  honest
• 35:32
  with
• 35:32
  each
• 35:32
  other.
• 35:32
  And
• 35:33
  I
• 35:33
  feel
• 35:33
  like
• 35:34
  one
• 35:34
  of
• 35:34
  the
• 35:34
  things
• 35:35
  that
• 35:35
  I
• 35:36
  appreciate
• 35:37
  about
• 35:38
  having
• 35:38
  friends
• 35:38
  that
• 35:39
  can
• 35:39
  be
• 35:39
  honest
• 35:39
  with
• 35:40
  you,
• 35:40
  that
• 35:40
  can
• 35:41
  say
• 35:41
  to
• 35:41
  you,
• 35:42
  hey,
• 35:42
  you
• 35:42
  know,
• 35:44
  are
• 35:44
  you
• 35:44
  doing
• 35:44
  this?
• 35:45
  You
• 35:45
  didn't
• 35:45
  do
• 35:45
  this,
• 35:45
  or
• 35:46
  whatever
• 35:46
  it
• 35:46
  is.
• 35:46
  I
• 35:46
  feel
• 35:47
  like
• 35:47
  it
• 35:47
  almost
• 35:47
  like
• 35:47
  having
• 35:48
  someone
• 35:48
  calling
• 35:49
  you
• 35:49
  out
• 35:49
  in
• 35:49
  an
• 35:50
  honest
• 35:50
  way
• 35:50
  with
• 35:50
  love
• 35:51
  gives
• 35:51
  you
• 35:52
  that
• 35:52
  permission
• 35:52
  to
• 35:52
  be
• 35:52
  like,
• 35:53
  okay,
• 35:53
  I
• 35:53
  know
• 35:53
  you're
• 35:54
  right.
• 35:54
  I've
• 35:54
  been
• 35:54
  like,
• 35:54
  I've
• 35:55
  been
• 35:55
  not
• 35:56
  doing
• 35:56
  that
• 35:56
  thing.
• 35:57
  And
• 35:57
  you
• 35:58
  know,
• 35:58
  because
• 35:58
  you're
• 35:58
  keeping
• 35:58
  it
• 35:58
  quiet.
• 35:59
  And
• 35:59
  you
• 35:59
  know,
• 36:00
  it's
• 36:00
  great
• 36:00
  because
• 36:00
  it's
• 36:01
  hidden,
• 36:01
  but
• 36:02
  when
• 36:02
  your
• 36:02
  friend
• 36:02
  points
• 36:02
  it
• 36:03
  out
• 36:03
  to
• 36:03
  you,
• 36:03
  you're
• 36:04
  like,
• 36:04
  I
• 36:04
  feel
• 36:05
  like
• 36:05
  for
• 36:05
  me,
• 36:05
  it's
• 36:06
  like
• 36:06
  it
• 36:06
  gives
• 36:06
  me
• 36:06
  permission
• 36:07
  to
• 36:07
  like,
• 36:07
  really
• 36:07
  look
• 36:08
  at
• 36:08
  it
• 36:08
  and
• 36:08
  really
• 36:08
  actually
• 36:09
  do
• 36:09
  something
• 36:09
  about
• 36:10
  it
• 36:10
  because
• 36:11
  it's
• 36:12
  said
• 36:12
  with
• 36:12
  love,
• 36:12
  but
• 36:13
  I
• 36:13
  also
• 36:13
  feel
• 36:14
  like
• 36:14
  it's
• 36:14
  also
• 36:15
  said
• 36:15
  with
• 36:16
  like,
• 36:16
  this
• 36:20
  belief.
• 36:20
  Yeah,
• 36:22
  right.
• 36:22
  Like
• 36:22
  they
• 36:22
  believe
• 36:23
  in
• 36:23
  you.
• 36:23
  So.
• 36:24
  So
• 36:25
  you.
• 36:25
  Right.
• 36:25
  Like,
• 36:26
  so
• 36:26
  I,
• 36:27
  like,
• 36:27
  I
• 36:27
  trust
• 36:28
  that.
• 36:28
  You're
• 36:28
  strong
• 36:28
  enough
• 36:28
  to
• 36:29
  hold
• 36:29
  this,
• 36:29
  or
• 36:29
  I
• 36:30
  trust
• 36:30
  that
• 36:30
  our
• 36:30
  relationship
• 36:31
  is
• 36:31
  strong
• 36:31
  enough
• 36:31
  to
• 36:31
  hold
• 36:32
  this.
• 36:32
  Right.
• 36:33
  Like,
• 36:33
  oh,
• 36:34
  I
• 36:34
  love
• 36:34
  that.
• 36:34
  And
• 36:35
  that
• 36:35
  you
• 36:35
  believe
• 36:35
  in
• 36:35
  me.
• 36:36
  Right?
• 36:36
  Like,
• 36:36
  if
• 36:36
  you're
• 36:37
  calling
• 36:37
  me
• 36:37
  out
• 36:37
  on
• 36:37
  something,
• 36:38
  you
• 36:38
  believe
• 36:38
  in
• 36:38
  me
• 36:39
  enough
• 36:40
  to
• 36:40
  know
• 36:40
  that
• 36:41
  I
• 36:41
  can
• 36:41
  step
• 36:42
  up
• 36:42
  to
• 36:42
  that
• 36:42
  on
• 36:42
  what
• 36:43
  I'm
• 36:43
  avoiding.
• 36:44
  You
• 36:44
  know,
• 36:45
  I
• 36:46
  feel
• 36:46
  like
• 36:46
  it's
• 36:46
  two
• 36:46
  sides
• 36:47
  of
• 36:47
  the
• 36:47
  same
• 36:47
  coin,
• 36:47
  what
• 36:48
  we
• 36:48
  just
• 36:48
  said.
• 36:48
  But
• 36:48
  I
• 36:48
  like
• 36:48
  the
• 36:49
  way
• 36:49
  you
• 36:49
  said
• 36:49
  it
• 36:49
  better.
• 36:54
  So
• 36:54
  funny.
• 36:56
  It's
• 36:56
  a
• 36:57
  stepping
• 36:57
  towards,
• 36:58
  not
• 36:58
  necessarily
• 36:59
  stepping
• 36:59
  away.
• 37:00
  I
• 37:00
  like
• 37:00
  that.
• 37:01
  Yeah.
• 37:02
  The
• 37:02
  one
• 37:02
  thing,
• 37:02
  though,
• 37:03
  that
• 37:03
  I
• 37:03
  just
• 37:03
  pulled
• 37:04
  out
• 37:04
  of
• 37:04
  what
• 37:04
  you
• 37:04
  said
• 37:04
  is,
• 37:05
  is
• 37:07
  trust.
• 37:08
  Right?
• 37:08
  Like,
• 37:09
  there's
• 37:09
  two
• 37:09
  sides
• 37:10
  of
• 37:10
  this
• 37:10
  part.
• 37:11
  It's
• 37:12
  trusting
• 37:12
  ourselves,
• 37:13
  trusting
• 37:14
  our
• 37:14
  own
• 37:14
  intuition,
• 37:15
  our
• 37:15
  own
• 37:16
  needs,
• 37:16
  whatever,
• 37:17
  and
• 37:18
  trusting
• 37:18
  the
• 37:18
  other
• 37:19
  person
• 37:19
  enough
• 37:20
  to
• 37:21
  know
• 37:21
  that
• 37:21
  they
• 37:21
  can
• 37:21
  carry
• 37:22
  whatever
• 37:23
  is
• 37:23
  on
• 37:23
  the
• 37:23
  other
• 37:24
  side
• 37:24
  of
• 37:24
  this.
• 37:24
  Like,
• 37:24
  just
• 37:25
  I
• 37:25
  think
• 37:26
  that
• 37:26
  sort
• 37:26
  of
• 37:26
  like
• 37:26
  belief
• 37:27
  in
• 37:27
  someone
• 37:27
  else
• 37:28
  or
• 37:28
  the
• 37:28
  belief
• 37:29
  in
• 37:30
  the
• 37:30
  relationship.
• 37:31
  Right.
• 37:32
  Is.
• 37:34
  And
• 37:34
  it's
• 37:35
  an
• 37:35
  act
• 37:35
  of
• 37:36
  trust.
• 37:38
  And
• 37:39
  at
• 37:39
  the
• 37:39
  end
• 37:39
  of
• 37:39
  the
• 37:39
  day,
• 37:41
  they're
• 37:41
  either
• 37:42
  going
• 37:42
  to
• 37:42
  up
• 37:42
  hold
• 37:43
  that
• 37:43
  trust
• 37:45
  where
• 37:45
  they're
• 37:46
  going
• 37:46
  to
• 37:46
  make
• 37:46
  whatever
• 37:46
  choice
• 37:47
  they
• 37:47
  need
• 37:47
  to
• 37:47
  make.
• 37:49
  And
• 37:49
  in
• 37:49
  that
• 37:50
  case,
• 37:50
  we
• 37:50
  also
• 37:51
  need
• 37:51
  to
• 37:51
  trust
• 37:51
  that
• 37:51
  it's
• 37:51
  for
• 37:52
  the
• 37:52
  best.
• 37:53
  Right.
• 37:53
  If
• 37:54
  the
• 37:54
  relationship
• 37:54
  isn't
• 37:55
  strong
• 37:55
  enough
• 37:56
  to
• 37:57
  withhold
• 37:57
  a
• 37:57
  bound,
• 37:57
  to,
• 37:58
  like,
• 37:58
  withstand
• 37:58
  a
• 37:59
  boundary
• 37:59
  being
• 37:59
  set,
• 38:01
  then
• 38:01
  it
• 38:01
  probably
• 38:01
  wasn't.
• 38:03
  Probably
• 38:04
  wasn't
• 38:04
  strong
• 38:04
  enough
• 38:05
  for
• 38:05
  the
• 38:05
  long
• 38:06
  haul
• 38:06
  anyway.
• 38:07
  Right.
• 38:08
  But
• 38:08
  that's.
• 38:08
  I
• 38:08
  think
• 38:08
  that's
• 38:09
  the
• 38:09
  difference
• 38:09
  in,
• 38:09
  like,
• 38:09
  interesting
• 38:10
  about,
• 38:10
  like,
• 38:10
  stepping
• 38:11
  into
• 38:11
  relationships
• 38:12
  that
• 38:12
  we're
• 38:12
  choosing
• 38:12
  now
• 38:12
  in
• 38:13
  this
• 38:13
  phase
• 38:13
  of
• 38:13
  life,
• 38:15
  as
• 38:15
  we're
• 38:15
  walking
• 38:17
  again,
• 38:17
  walking
• 38:18
  towards
• 38:20
  not
• 38:20
  100%
• 38:20
  perfect
• 38:21
  in
• 38:21
  our
• 38:21
  sovereignty,
• 38:22
  but
• 38:22
  walking
• 38:22
  towards,
• 38:23
  like,
• 38:24
  this,
• 38:25
  where
• 38:26
  our
• 38:26
  roots
• 38:26
  are
• 38:26
  getting
• 38:27
  deeper
• 38:27
  and
• 38:27
  stronger.
• 38:33
  That
• 38:33
  was
• 38:33
  really
• 38:34
  cool.
• 38:34
  Yeah,
• 38:35
  it's.
• 38:35
  I.
• 38:35
  I
• 38:35
  guess
• 38:36
  I
• 38:36
  feel
• 38:36
  like
• 38:36
  the
• 38:36
  sovereignty
• 38:37
  part
• 38:37
  is
• 38:37
  putting
• 38:40
  all
• 38:40
  the
• 38:40
  growth
• 38:41
  into
• 38:42
  action.
• 38:42
  Boom.
• 38:43
  Like
• 38:44
  you
• 38:44
  have.
• 38:44
  It's
• 38:44
  like,
• 38:44
  okay,
• 38:45
  you
• 38:45
  learned
• 38:45
  all
• 38:45
  these
• 38:45
  different
• 38:46
  things,
• 38:46
  and
• 38:46
  now
• 38:46
  you
• 38:47
  gotta
• 38:48
  step
• 38:49
  into
• 38:49
  it.
• 38:49
  Yeah.
• 38:50
  Yeah.
• 38:50
  Which,
• 38:50
  again,
• 38:51
  not
• 38:51
  easy.
• 38:52
  That's
• 38:53
  why
• 38:53
  it's
• 38:53
  a
• 38:53
  practice.
• 38:55
  Exactly.
• 38:56
  It's
• 38:57
  a
• 38:57
  journey.
• 39:00
  Yeah.
• 39:01
  Buckle
• 39:02
  up.
• 39:04
  Don't
• 39:05
  forget
• 39:05
  yourself
• 39:06
  on
• 39:07
  this
• 39:07
  ride.
• 39:08
  But
• 39:08
  I
• 39:08
  feel
• 39:08
  that
• 39:09
  I
• 39:09
  speak
• 39:09
  for
• 39:09
  the
• 39:09
  three
• 39:09
  of
• 39:10
  us
• 39:10
  when
• 39:10
  I
• 39:10
  say
• 39:10
  that
• 39:11
  it's
• 39:11
  so
• 39:11
  worth
• 39:12
  it.
• 39:13
  Yeah.
• 39:14
  So
• 39:14
  worth
• 39:14
  it.
• 39:14
  As
• 39:14
  difficult
• 39:15
  it
• 39:15
  is,
• 39:16
  right?
• 39:16
  Like,
• 39:16
  as
• 39:16
  difficult
• 39:17
  as
• 39:17
  it
• 39:17
  is
• 39:17
  because
• 39:17
  you're
• 39:17
  gonna
• 39:18
  have
• 39:18
  freaking
• 39:18
  moments.
• 39:18
  What'd
• 39:19
  you
• 39:19
  say?
• 39:20
  I'll
• 39:20
  allow
• 39:20
  it.
• 39:21
  I'll
• 39:21
  allow
• 39:21
  you
• 39:21
  to
• 39:21
  speak
• 39:22
  for
• 39:22
  me.
• 39:24
  Yep.
• 39:25
  Yeah.
• 39:27
  All
• 39:27
  the
• 39:28
  crying,
• 39:28
  all
• 39:28
  the
• 39:29
  craziness,
• 39:30
  all
• 39:30
  the
• 39:31
  confusion,
• 39:32
  you
• 39:32
  know,
• 39:33
  the
• 39:33
  escaping
• 39:34
  the.
• 39:34
  The
• 39:35
  everything.
• 39:36
  Screaming,
• 39:36
  crying,
• 39:37
  throwing
• 39:37
  up.
• 39:37
  Yeah.
• 39:37
  It's
• 39:38
  all
• 39:38
  worth
• 39:38
  it.
• 39:38
  I
• 39:39
  mean,
• 39:39
  right?
• 39:40
  Sometimes
• 39:40
  it
• 39:41
  does
• 39:41
  make
• 39:41
  you
• 39:41
  throw
• 39:41
  up
• 39:42
  for
• 39:42
  sure.
• 39:43
  Like,
• 39:43
  literally.
• 39:47
  Sloane,
• 39:48
  I
• 39:48
  feel
• 39:48
  like
• 39:48
  you've
• 39:48
  been
• 39:49
  quiet
• 39:49
  and
• 39:49
  you're
• 39:49
  ready
• 39:49
  to
• 39:49
  just
• 39:50
  drop
• 39:50
  some
• 39:50
  mics
• 39:51
  over
• 39:51
  here.
• 39:51
  What
• 39:51
  do
• 39:51
  you
• 39:51
  got?
• 39:52
  Oh,
• 39:53
  I
• 39:53
  know
• 39:53
  I
• 39:53
  already
• 39:53
  did
• 39:54
  that.
• 39:54
  So
• 39:54
  we're
• 39:55
  good.
• 39:57
  Just
• 39:58
  kidding.
• 40:04
  Oh,
• 40:04
  and
• 40:06
  quick
• 40:06
  side
• 40:07
  note
• 40:07
  here,
• 40:08
  like,
• 40:09
  that
• 40:09
  verbiage
• 40:10
  that
• 40:10
  y'
• 40:10
  all
• 40:10
  were
• 40:12
  so
• 40:12
  excited
• 40:12
  about
• 40:13
  it,
• 40:13
  I
• 40:13
  don't
• 40:14
  think
• 40:15
  that
• 40:15
  came
• 40:15
  from
• 40:15
  me.
• 40:16
  Like,
• 40:18
  do
• 40:18
  you
• 40:18
  know
• 40:18
  what
• 40:18
  I
• 40:18
  mean?
• 40:19
  Yeah.
• 40:19
  Because
• 40:21
  those
• 40:21
  words
• 40:21
  were
• 40:21
  not
• 40:22
  in
• 40:22
  my
• 40:22
  head,
• 40:23
  literally,
• 40:23
  when.
• 40:24
  Yeah.
• 40:24
  Like,
• 40:24
  you
• 40:25
  just
• 40:25
  channeled
• 40:25
  it
• 40:25
  up
• 40:26
  to
• 40:26
  me.
• 40:26
  I
• 40:26
  was
• 40:27
  like
• 40:29
  deer
• 40:30
  in
• 40:30
  a
• 40:30
  headlight.
• 40:30
  Like,
• 40:31
  I
• 40:31
  don't
• 40:31
  even
• 40:31
  know
• 40:31
  what
• 40:32
  to
• 40:32
  say
• 40:32
  right
• 40:32
  now.
• 40:33
  Yeah.
• 40:33
  And.
• 40:34
  And
• 40:34
  then
• 40:34
  it
• 40:34
  was
• 40:35
  like,
• 40:35
  damn.
• 40:36
  So
• 40:37
  that's
• 40:38
  intuition
• 40:38
  at
• 40:38
  work.
• 40:38
  That.
• 40:39
  That
• 40:39
  was
• 40:39
  it.
• 40:40
  That's
• 40:40
  exactly
• 40:41
  it.
• 40:42
  Anyway,
• 40:42
  okay,
• 40:43
  so
• 40:44
  sorry.
• 40:45
  That
• 40:45
  just.
• 40:45
  I
• 40:46
  just
• 40:46
  realized
• 40:46
  that
• 40:47
  based
• 40:48
  on
• 40:48
  your
• 40:48
  reactions,
• 40:49
  because
• 40:49
  I
• 40:49
  had
• 40:50
  the
• 40:50
  same
• 40:50
  reaction.
• 40:50
  It's
• 40:51
  like,
• 40:51
  damn.
• 40:51
  Where
• 40:51
  did
• 40:52
  that
• 40:52
  come
• 40:52
  from?
• 40:52
  You're
• 40:52
  like,
• 40:52
  damn,
• 40:52
  that
• 40:53
  was
• 40:53
  good,
• 40:54
  right?
• 40:54
  I
• 40:54
  love
• 40:54
  when
• 40:55
  that
• 40:55
  happened.
• 40:55
  Write
• 40:55
  that
• 40:55
  down.
• 41:01
  Why
• 41:02
  is
• 41:02
  it
• 41:02
  rebellious?
• 41:04
  Well,
• 41:06
  because
• 41:06
  conformity
• 41:07
  is
• 41:07
  celebrated.
• 41:09
  Yeah.
• 41:10
  Right.
• 41:10
  And
• 41:11
  rewarded.
• 41:12
  Yeah.
• 41:13
  Like,
• 41:14
  we
• 41:14
  talk
• 41:15
  about
• 41:15
  being
• 41:15
  a
• 41:15
  sovereign
• 41:16
  nation
• 41:16
  right
• 41:17
  here
• 41:17
  in
• 41:17
  the
• 41:17
  US
• 41:18
  which,
• 41:18
  at
• 41:18
  this
• 41:19
  point
• 41:19
  in
• 41:19
  time,
• 41:20
  makes
• 41:20
  me
• 41:20
  want
• 41:20
  to
• 41:20
  Vomit.
• 41:21
  Like,
• 41:21
  literally.
• 41:22
  It's
• 41:23
  so
• 41:24
  ick.
• 41:26
  Right.
• 41:27
  Talking
• 41:28
  about
• 41:28
  throwing
• 41:28
  up.
• 41:30
  Like.
• 41:31
  Yeah.
• 41:31
  I
• 41:31
  love
• 41:32
  that
• 41:32
  line.
• 41:32
  Gag
• 41:33
  me
• 41:33
  with
• 41:33
  a
• 41:33
  spoon.
• 41:36
  Masters
• 41:36
  at
• 41:37
  taking
• 41:39
  the
• 41:39
  things
• 41:40
  we
• 41:40
  love
• 41:40
  and
• 41:40
  twisting
• 41:41
  them
• 41:41
  into
• 41:41
  things
• 41:41
  we
• 41:42
  hate.
• 41:42
  So.
• 41:45
  In
• 41:45
  that
• 41:45
  sense,
• 41:46
  like,
• 41:46
  reclaiming
• 41:47
  this
• 41:47
  word
• 41:48
  into
• 41:48
  what
• 41:49
  it
• 41:49
  truly
• 41:49
  is
• 41:50
  supposed
• 41:50
  to.
• 41:50
  To
• 41:50
  mean
• 41:51
  is
• 41:51
  each
• 41:51
  individual
• 41:52
  is
• 41:53
  sovereign.
• 41:54
  Feels
• 41:54
  really
• 41:55
  rebellious
• 41:56
  right
• 41:56
  now.
• 41:57
  Because
• 41:59
  that
• 41:59
  is
• 42:01
  not
• 42:02
  celebrated.
• 42:04
  Oh,
• 42:04
  my
• 42:04
  God.
• 42:06
  Yes.
• 42:07
  Because
• 42:08
  there's
• 42:08
  so
• 42:08
  much,
• 42:08
  like,
• 42:09
  group
• 42:09
  think
• 42:09
  happening
• 42:10
  right
• 42:10
  now.
• 42:11
  Yeah.
• 42:11
  And
• 42:11
  just,
• 42:12
  like,
• 42:12
  regurgitating
• 42:13
  of
• 42:13
  narratives
• 42:14
  rather
• 42:14
  than
• 42:15
  actually
• 42:15
  using
• 42:15
  your
• 42:16
  critical
• 42:16
  thinking
• 42:17
  skills.
• 42:18
  Yeah,
• 42:18
  but
• 42:18
  on
• 42:18
  all
• 42:19
  sides.
• 42:19
  Not
• 42:19
  even,
• 42:20
  like.
• 42:20
  Yeah,
• 42:21
  right.
• 42:21
  On
• 42:21
  all
• 42:22
  sides.
• 42:22
  But
• 42:22
  that's
• 42:22
  the
• 42:22
  thing,
• 42:23
  though,
• 42:23
  is
• 42:23
  that
• 42:24
  they
• 42:24
  never
• 42:25
  wanted
• 42:25
  us
• 42:25
  to
• 42:25
  be
• 42:26
  sovereign
• 42:26
  ever.
• 42:27
  Right.
• 42:28
  It's
• 42:28
  not
• 42:28
  just
• 42:28
  now.
• 42:28
  It's
• 42:29
  ever.
• 42:29
  You
• 42:30
  know,
• 42:30
  we
• 42:30
  may
• 42:30
  have
• 42:30
  had
• 42:31
  a
• 42:31
  little
• 42:31
  more
• 42:31
  freedoms
• 42:32
  or.
• 42:32
  Right.
• 42:32
  Like
• 42:32
  before.
• 42:33
  But
• 42:34
  illusion.
• 42:35
  Right.
• 42:35
  Again.
• 42:36
  It's
• 42:36
  still.
• 42:36
  They
• 42:36
  don't
• 42:36
  want
• 42:37
  a
• 42:37
  sovereign.
• 42:37
  That's.
• 42:38
  That
• 42:38
  is
• 42:38
  way
• 42:39
  too
• 42:40
  powerful
• 42:41
  for
• 42:41
  them.
• 42:42
  Which
• 42:42
  is
• 42:42
  exactly
• 42:43
  why
• 42:43
  we're
• 42:43
  doing
• 42:43
  this.
• 42:45
  Because
• 42:45
  we
• 42:45
  want
• 42:45
  people
• 42:46
  to
• 42:46
  come
• 42:46
  on
• 42:46
  this
• 42:46
  journey
• 42:47
  and
• 42:47
  not
• 42:47
  stay
• 42:47
  over
• 42:48
  there.
• 42:50
  You
• 42:50
  may
• 42:50
  or
• 42:50
  may
• 42:50
  not
• 42:50
  have
• 42:51
  just
• 42:51
  opened
• 42:51
  Pandora's
• 42:52
  box.
• 42:54
  Sorry.
• 42:56
  We
• 42:56
  are
• 42:57
  creating
• 42:57
  a
• 42:57
  new
• 42:57
  world.
• 42:59
  But
• 42:59
  honestly,
• 43:00
  that's.
• 43:01
  That's
• 43:01
  what
• 43:01
  it
• 43:01
  feels
• 43:02
  like
• 43:02
  to
• 43:02
  me.
• 43:03
  Right.
• 43:03
  Like,
• 43:04
  there
• 43:04
  are
• 43:04
  those
• 43:04
  mic
• 43:05
  drops.
• 43:06
  Give
• 43:06
  me
• 43:07
  just
• 43:07
  like,
• 43:07
  my
• 43:08
  mind
• 43:08
  just
• 43:08
  went
• 43:09
  in
• 43:09
  10,000
• 43:10
  different
• 43:10
  directions.
• 43:14
  Am
• 43:14
  extremely
• 43:15
  stubborn.
• 43:15
  I
• 43:15
  can
• 43:16
  be
• 43:16
  very.
• 43:17
  Like,
• 43:17
  I
• 43:17
  could
• 43:18
  be
• 43:18
  the
• 43:18
  most
• 43:19
  stubborn
• 43:19
  person
• 43:20
  you've
• 43:20
  ever
• 43:20
  met.
• 43:21
  Okay.
• 43:23
  And
• 43:23
  I'm
• 43:23
  an
• 43:23
  Aries.
• 43:24
  I
• 43:25
  will
• 43:25
  just
• 43:25
  do
• 43:25
  something
• 43:26
  right.
• 43:26
  Like
• 43:27
  moon.
• 43:28
  Aries.
• 43:28
  Moon.
• 43:31
  I
• 43:31
  don't
• 43:31
  like
• 43:32
  being
• 43:32
  told
• 43:32
  what
• 43:33
  to
• 43:33
  do.
• 43:35
  That
• 43:35
  is
• 43:35
  the.
• 43:38
  And
• 43:38
  the
• 43:38
  fire.
• 43:39
  Like.
• 43:40
  Yeah.
• 43:41
  Try
• 43:41
  and
• 43:42
  push
• 43:42
  me.
• 43:42
  I
• 43:43
  will
• 43:43
  show
• 43:43
  you
• 43:43
  how
• 43:44
  deep
• 43:44
  I
• 43:44
  can
• 43:45
  dig
• 43:45
  my
• 43:45
  heels.
• 43:45
  And
• 43:46
  watch
• 43:47
  me.
• 43:47
  You'll
• 43:47
  be
• 43:47
  astounded
• 43:49
  at
• 43:50
  how
• 43:50
  much
• 43:51
  I
• 43:51
  can
• 43:54
  say
• 43:54
  no
• 43:55
  just
• 43:55
  to
• 43:56
  piss
• 43:56
  you
• 43:56
  off.
• 43:57
  Okay.
• 43:58
  But
• 43:59
  what
• 44:00
  these
• 44:00
  values
• 44:01
  and
• 44:01
  being
• 44:01
  sovereign
• 44:01
  to
• 44:02
  myself
• 44:02
  has
• 44:02
  allowed
• 44:03
  me
• 44:03
  to
• 44:03
  see.
• 44:04
  See
• 44:04
  is
• 44:04
  that
• 44:06
  when
• 44:07
  I'm
• 44:07
  doing
• 44:07
  that,
• 44:08
  just
• 44:09
  because
• 44:11
  I
• 44:11
  don't
• 44:12
  want
• 44:12
  to
• 44:12
  do
• 44:12
  what
• 44:12
  somebody
• 44:13
  said
• 44:14
  or
• 44:18
  when
• 44:18
  it's.
• 44:19
  Because
• 44:19
  it's
• 44:20
  what's
• 44:20
  right
• 44:20
  for
• 44:21
  me.
• 44:25
  I
• 44:25
  love
• 44:25
  it
• 44:26
  when
• 44:26
  you
• 44:26
  get
• 44:26
  fiery.
• 44:27
  Ladies
• 44:27
  and
• 44:27
  children
• 44:27
  of
• 44:28
  ladies,
• 44:28
  meet
• 44:28
  Sloan.
• 44:30
  This
• 44:30
  is
• 44:30
  why
• 44:30
  we
• 44:30
  love
• 44:31
  her
• 44:31
  so
• 44:32
  much.
• 44:35
  I
• 44:35
  love
• 44:35
  it.
• 44:37
  And
• 44:37
  I
• 44:37
  said
• 44:38
  I
• 44:38
  would
• 44:38
  always
• 44:39
  continue
• 44:39
  to
• 44:39
  say
• 44:40
  this,
• 44:40
  and
• 44:40
  so
• 44:40
  I.
• 44:41
  Because
• 44:41
  it's.
• 44:41
  I'm
• 44:42
  gonna
• 44:42
  say
• 44:42
  it
• 44:42
  every
• 44:42
  time
• 44:42
  I
• 44:43
  feel
• 44:43
  it.
• 44:43
  This
• 44:43
  is
• 44:44
  why
• 44:44
  you
• 44:44
  find
• 44:44
  your
• 44:44
  people.
• 44:45
  Yes.
• 44:46
  Like,
• 44:47
  because.
• 44:47
  Why
• 44:47
  sovereignty
• 44:48
  matters.
• 44:49
  And
• 44:49
  when
• 44:49
  you
• 44:50
  find
• 44:50
  your
• 44:50
  people,
• 44:50
  they
• 44:51
  help
• 44:51
  you
• 44:51
  get
• 44:51
  there.
• 44:53
  Yes.
• 44:53
  You
• 44:54
  know,
• 44:54
  like,
• 44:54
  you
• 44:54
  learn
• 44:55
  from
• 44:55
  them.
• 44:55
  It's
• 44:56
  just.
• 44:56
  And
• 44:57
  so
• 44:57
  beautiful.
• 44:58
  Again,
• 44:58
  we.
• 44:59
  I
• 44:59
  think
• 44:59
  we've
• 45:00
  touched
• 45:00
  on
• 45:00
  this
• 45:00
  in
• 45:00
  past
• 45:01
  Episodes.
• 45:01
  But
• 45:01
  it's
• 45:01
  also
• 45:02
  worth
• 45:02
  reiterating
• 45:03
  that,
• 45:03
  like,
• 45:04
  once
• 45:04
  you
• 45:05
  have
• 45:05
  gone
• 45:06
  through
• 45:06
  the
• 45:06
  exercise
• 45:07
  of,
• 45:07
  like,
• 45:08
  understanding
• 45:08
  what
• 45:09
  it
• 45:09
  is
• 45:09
  you
• 45:09
  value
• 45:09
  and
• 45:10
  starting
• 45:10
  to,
• 45:10
  like,
• 45:10
  trust
• 45:11
  yourself
• 45:11
  and
• 45:11
  your
• 45:11
  intuition
• 45:13
  and
• 45:13
  you
• 45:14
  attract
• 45:14
  the
• 45:14
  right
• 45:14
  people
• 45:15
  into
• 45:15
  your
• 45:15
  life.
• 45:15
  That's
• 45:16
  a
• 45:16
  cycle
• 45:16
  that
• 45:16
  feeds
• 45:17
  itself
• 45:17
  forever.
• 45:18
  Like,
• 45:19
  I
• 45:19
  draw
• 45:20
  confidence
• 45:21
  and
• 45:21
  inspiration
• 45:23
  from
• 45:23
  you
• 45:23
  guys
• 45:25
  constantly.
• 45:25
  Agreed.
• 45:26
  That
• 45:26
  continues
• 45:27
  to
• 45:27
  fuel
• 45:28
  my
• 45:29
  own
• 45:29
  trust
• 45:29
  in
• 45:30
  myself
• 45:30
  and
• 45:30
  my
• 45:30
  own
• 45:31
  intuition.
• 45:31
  It's
• 45:31
  not
• 45:31
  that
• 45:32
  I'm
• 45:32
  looking
• 45:32
  externally
• 45:33
  for
• 45:33
  it.
• 45:33
  It's
• 45:34
  just
• 45:34
  something
• 45:34
  that
• 45:34
  naturally,
• 45:36
  like,
• 45:37
  permeates.
• 45:37
  I
• 45:38
  don't
• 45:38
  know.
• 45:38
  It's
• 45:38
  like
• 45:38
  it's
• 45:39
  woven
• 45:39
  into
• 45:39
  the
• 45:39
  fabric
• 45:40
  of
• 45:40
  our
• 45:40
  relationships.
• 45:41
  Yeah.
• 45:42
  That,
• 45:42
  like,
• 45:43
  it
• 45:43
  gets
• 45:43
  stronger
• 45:44
  and
• 45:44
  stronger
• 45:45
  as
• 45:45
  we,
• 45:46
  like,
• 45:46
  build
• 45:46
  each
• 45:47
  other
• 45:47
  up
• 45:47
  and
• 45:48
  support
• 45:48
  each
• 45:48
  other
• 45:49
  through
• 45:49
  these
• 45:49
  things.
• 45:51
  It's
• 45:51
  not
• 45:53
  like.
• 45:54
  I
• 45:54
  think
• 45:54
  it's
• 45:54
  interesting
• 45:55
  because
• 45:55
  I
• 45:55
  think
• 45:55
  each
• 45:55
  of
• 45:56
  us
• 45:56
  is
• 45:57
  thousand
• 45:58
  percent
• 45:58
  strong
• 45:58
  enough
• 45:59
  to
• 45:59
  stand
• 45:59
  on
• 46:00
  our
• 46:00
  own,
• 46:00
  but
• 46:01
  fuck,
• 46:01
  we
• 46:01
  are
• 46:01
  ten
• 46:02
  times
• 46:02
  stronger
• 46:02
  together.
• 46:03
  Hell,
• 46:03
  yeah.
• 46:04
  But
• 46:04
  we
• 46:05
  wouldn't.
• 46:06
  It's
• 46:06
  this
• 46:06
  acknowledgment
• 46:07
  that
• 46:07
  we
• 46:07
  wouldn't
• 46:08
  have
• 46:08
  it
• 46:09
  if
• 46:09
  we
• 46:09
  hadn't
• 46:10
  started
• 46:11
  this
• 46:11
  journey
• 46:11
  of
• 46:12
  reclamation
• 46:12
  on
• 46:13
  our
• 46:13
  own
• 46:13
  verse,
• 46:15
  like
• 46:15
  we
• 46:15
  talked
• 46:15
  about
• 46:16
  in
• 46:16
  our
• 46:16
  first
• 46:16
  episode,
• 46:16
  like,
• 46:17
  five
• 46:17
  years
• 46:18
  ago,
• 46:18
  10
• 46:18
  years
• 46:18
  ago,
• 46:19
  we
• 46:19
  would
• 46:19
  not
• 46:19
  have
• 46:19
  been
• 46:19
  friends
• 46:20
  because
• 46:21
  of
• 46:21
  the
• 46:21
  places
• 46:21
  that
• 46:21
  we
• 46:21
  were
• 46:22
  all
• 46:22
  individually
• 46:22
  in
• 46:23
  our
• 46:23
  lives.
• 46:24
  And
• 46:25
  it
• 46:25
  took,
• 46:25
  like,
• 46:25
  just
• 46:27
  launching
• 46:27
  ourselves
• 46:28
  off
• 46:28
  on
• 46:29
  these
• 46:29
  individual
• 46:30
  journeys
• 46:32
  where
• 46:32
  then
• 46:32
  our,
• 46:33
  like,
• 46:33
  paths
• 46:33
  converged
• 46:34
  and
• 46:34
  now
• 46:34
  it's,
• 46:34
  like,
• 46:36
  amplified.
• 46:37
  And
• 46:37
  that's
• 46:37
  just
• 46:38
  the
• 46:38
  coolest
• 46:39
  fucking
• 46:39
  thing.
• 46:41
  Yeah.
• 46:41
  And
• 46:41
  I'll
• 46:42
  also
• 46:42
  say,
• 46:42
  like,
• 46:43
  you
• 46:43
  know,
• 46:43
  when
• 46:43
  you
• 46:43
  start
• 46:44
  on
• 46:44
  this
• 46:44
  journey,
• 46:45
  you
• 46:45
  may
• 46:45
  be
• 46:45
  called
• 46:45
  to
• 46:46
  be
• 46:46
  on
• 46:46
  that
• 46:47
  journey
• 46:47
  by
• 46:47
  yourself
• 46:47
  for
• 46:47
  a
• 46:48
  little
• 46:48
  while.
• 46:48
  As
• 46:48
  it
• 46:48
  was
• 46:49
  for
• 46:49
  me.
• 46:50
  It
• 46:50
  can
• 46:50
  be
• 46:50
  lonely.
• 46:51
  It
• 46:51
  can.
• 46:52
  But
• 46:52
  then
• 46:52
  you
• 46:52
  meet
• 46:52
  those
• 46:53
  people
• 46:53
  and
• 46:53
  they
• 46:54
  catapult
• 46:55
  that
• 46:55
  growth
• 46:56
  to
• 46:56
  like,
• 46:57
  a
• 46:57
  whole
• 46:58
  nother
• 46:58
  level.
• 46:59
  As
• 46:59
  it
• 46:59
  was
• 46:59
  the
• 46:59
  case
• 47:00
  for
• 47:00
  me.
• 47:00
  Ready
• 47:01
  or
• 47:01
  not.
• 47:02
  Right.
• 47:02
  Yeah,
• 47:03
  it.
• 47:03
  But
• 47:04
  the
• 47:04
  benefit
• 47:04
  too,
• 47:04
  of
• 47:05
  that
• 47:05
  quiet
• 47:06
  is
• 47:06
  finding
• 47:06
  yourself.
• 47:07
  Absolutely.
• 47:08
  It's
• 47:08
  hard
• 47:08
  to
• 47:08
  find
• 47:09
  yourself
• 47:09
  when
• 47:10
  you're
• 47:10
  listening
• 47:11
  to
• 47:11
  the
• 47:11
  noise
• 47:11
  of
• 47:12
  others.
• 47:12
  Oh,
• 47:13
  yeah.
• 47:13
  And
• 47:13
  it's
• 47:14
  easy
• 47:14
  to
• 47:14
  get
• 47:14
  sucked
• 47:15
  into
• 47:15
  what
• 47:15
  we
• 47:15
  think
• 47:18
  sounds
• 47:18
  aligned.
• 47:19
  And
• 47:21
  because
• 47:22
  people
• 47:22
  are
• 47:22
  good
• 47:22
  at
• 47:22
  twisting
• 47:23
  things,
• 47:23
  like
• 47:23
  I
• 47:24
  said,
• 47:24
  you
• 47:25
  know,
• 47:25
  they
• 47:25
  can
• 47:25
  take
• 47:26
  these
• 47:26
  things
• 47:26
  that
• 47:26
  we'd
• 47:27
  value
• 47:27
  and.
• 47:28
  And
• 47:28
  twist
• 47:28
  them
• 47:30
  just
• 47:30
  enough
• 47:30
  to
• 47:31
  where
• 47:31
  it's
• 47:31
  not
• 47:32
  that
• 47:32
  value
• 47:32
  anymore,
• 47:35
  that
• 47:35
  quiet.
• 47:35
  And
• 47:36
  it
• 47:36
  is
• 47:36
  a
• 47:36
  little
• 47:37
  lonely
• 47:37
  sometimes,
• 47:38
  but
• 47:40
  it's
• 47:40
  not
• 47:41
  forever.
• 47:41
  It's
• 47:41
  temporary.
• 47:42
  No.
• 47:42
  And
• 47:43
  it
• 47:43
  comes
• 47:43
  and
• 47:43
  goes
• 47:43
  before
• 47:44
  you
• 47:44
  know
• 47:44
  it.
• 47:45
  So
• 47:45
  good.
• 47:46
  That's
• 47:46
  so
• 47:46
  good.
• 47:46
  That's
• 47:46
  awesome.
• 47:47
  Yeah.
• 47:49
  I
• 47:49
  just
• 47:49
  love
• 47:49
  these
• 47:50
  conversations
• 47:50
  with
• 47:50
  you
• 47:51
  guys.
• 47:52
  Think
• 47:52
  we
• 47:52
  say
• 47:52
  that
• 47:52
  every
• 47:53
  time,
• 47:53
  but
• 47:53
  I
• 47:53
  don't
• 47:53
  care.
• 47:56
  Fine.
• 47:57
  I
• 47:57
  feel
• 47:57
  like
• 47:57
  this
• 47:57
  is.
• 47:58
  We're
• 47:59
  we're
• 47:59
  creeping
• 47:59
  dangerously
• 48:00
  close
• 48:00
  into,
• 48:01
  like,
• 48:01
  truth
• 48:01
  and
• 48:02
  courage
• 48:02
  territory
• 48:03
  here,
• 48:03
  which
• 48:03
  is
• 48:04
  future
• 48:04
  episodes
• 48:05
  because
• 48:05
  future
• 48:05
  values,
• 48:06
  little
• 48:06
  preview,
• 48:07
  coming
• 48:07
  attractions.
• 48:08
  So
• 48:10
  let's
• 48:10
  wrap
• 48:10
  this
• 48:10
  up.
• 48:12
  Let's
• 48:12
  just
• 48:12
  bring
• 48:12
  it
• 48:12
  to
• 48:12
  a
• 48:13
  close.
• 48:13
  Any
• 48:13
  final
• 48:15
  thoughts
• 48:16
  or
• 48:16
  words
• 48:17
  or
• 48:17
  even
• 48:18
  just
• 48:18
  like,
• 48:18
  maybe
• 48:19
  we
• 48:19
  could
• 48:19
  just
• 48:19
  offer
• 48:20
  some
• 48:20
  encouragement
• 48:22
  to
• 48:24
  the
• 48:24
  lovely
• 48:25
  people
• 48:25
  who
• 48:25
  are
• 48:25
  listening
• 48:26
  to
• 48:26
  this.
• 48:27
  As
• 48:27
  daunting
• 48:27
  as
• 48:28
  it
• 48:28
  might
• 48:28
  seem,
• 48:28
  you've
• 48:29
  been
• 48:29
  through
• 48:29
  harder
• 48:30
  stuff.
• 48:31
  You
• 48:31
  got
• 48:31
  this,
• 48:32
  and
• 48:33
  you
• 48:33
  have
• 48:33
  no
• 48:34
  idea
• 48:34
  how
• 48:34
  good
• 48:35
  it's
• 48:35
  going
• 48:35
  to
• 48:35
  be
• 48:35
  on
• 48:35
  the
• 48:36
  other
• 48:36
  side.
• 48:37
  Yeah.
• 48:37
  And
• 48:37
  if
• 48:38
  you
• 48:38
  haven't
• 48:38
  started
• 48:38
  this
• 48:39
  journey,
• 48:40
  I
• 48:40
  would
• 48:40
  say
• 48:40
  start
• 48:41
  asking
• 48:41
  yourself
• 48:44
  asking
• 48:44
  questions
• 48:45
  about
• 48:45
  your
• 48:45
  beliefs.
• 48:46
  Right.
• 48:47
  Like,
• 48:47
  are
• 48:47
  they
• 48:48
  truly
• 48:48
  yours?
• 48:49
  Is
• 48:50
  that
• 48:50
  really
• 48:50
  your
• 48:50
  belief?
• 48:51
  And
• 48:52
  you'll
• 48:52
  continue
• 48:53
  from
• 48:53
  there.
• 48:53
  We
• 48:53
  have
• 48:54
  a
• 48:54
  little
• 48:54
  core
• 48:54
  values
• 48:55
  exercise
• 48:58
  that
• 48:58
  we
• 48:58
  can
• 48:59
  share
• 48:59
  with
• 48:59
  you
• 48:59
  if
• 48:59
  that's
• 49:00
  something
• 49:00
  that
• 49:00
  you
• 49:00
  want
• 49:00
  to
• 49:01
  do,
• 49:01
  because
• 49:01
  it's
• 49:02
  a
• 49:02
  great
• 49:02
  place
• 49:02
  to
• 49:03
  start.
• 49:03
  Oh,
• 49:03
  yeah.
• 49:04
  Just
• 49:04
  being
• 49:04
  able
• 49:05
  to,
• 49:05
  like,
• 49:05
  see
• 49:05
  yourself
• 49:06
  a
• 49:06
  little
• 49:06
  more
• 49:07
  clearly.
• 49:09
  But,
• 49:09
  yeah,
• 49:10
  if
• 49:10
  you
• 49:10
  haven't
• 49:10
  started
• 49:11
  yet,
• 49:11
  or
• 49:11
  if
• 49:11
  you've
• 49:12
  been
• 49:12
  kind
• 49:12
  of,
• 49:12
  like,
• 49:12
  dipping
• 49:13
  your
• 49:13
  toes
• 49:13
  or
• 49:14
  don't
• 49:14
  know
• 49:14
  where
• 49:14
  to
• 49:14
  start
• 49:15
  or.
• 49:16
  Here's
• 49:16
  your
• 49:16
  sign.
• 49:18
  If
• 49:18
  you
• 49:18
  were
• 49:18
  waiting
• 49:19
  for
• 49:19
  a
• 49:19
  sign,
• 49:19
  here
• 49:19
  it
• 49:20
  is.
• 49:21
  I
• 49:21
  just
• 49:21
  want
• 49:22
  to
• 49:22
  say
• 49:22
  that
• 49:22
  I
• 49:22
  think
• 49:23
  that
• 49:23
  that
• 49:23
  is
• 49:23
  such
• 49:24
  a
• 49:24
  good
• 49:24
  idea
• 49:24
  with
• 49:24
  the
• 49:25
  values
• 49:25
  exercise,
• 49:27
  because
• 49:28
  one
• 49:28
  of
• 49:28
  the
• 49:28
  things
• 49:28
  that
• 49:28
  I
• 49:29
  found
• 49:29
  when
• 49:29
  I
• 49:29
  was
• 49:29
  doing
• 49:30
  that,
• 49:33
  it
• 49:33
  wasn't
• 49:34
  like
• 49:34
  I
• 49:34
  was
• 49:34
  discovering
• 49:35
  something
• 49:35
  really
• 49:35
  new.
• 49:36
  It's
• 49:36
  just
• 49:37
  that
• 49:37
  I
• 49:37
  was
• 49:37
  really,
• 49:37
  like,
• 49:39
  looking
• 49:39
  at
• 49:39
  it.
• 49:40
  These
• 49:41
  were
• 49:41
  all
• 49:41
  things
• 49:41
  that
• 49:41
  I
• 49:41
  had
• 49:41
  carried
• 49:42
  most
• 49:42
  of
• 49:42
  my
• 49:42
  life.
• 49:43
  Yeah.
• 49:44
  You
• 49:44
  know,
• 49:44
  it's
• 49:44
  just
• 49:44
  that
• 49:45
  I
• 49:45
  was
• 49:45
  finally
• 49:45
  saying,
• 49:45
  okay,
• 49:46
  this
• 49:46
  is
• 49:46
  what
• 49:47
  I
• 49:47
  value
• 49:47
  now,
• 49:47
  what
• 49:48
  I've
• 49:48
  been
• 49:48
  told,
• 49:49
  you
• 49:49
  know,
• 49:49
  because
• 49:49
  that
• 49:50
  had
• 49:50
  been
• 49:50
  put
• 49:50
  on
• 49:50
  the
• 49:50
  back
• 49:51
  burner.
• 49:51
  So,
• 49:52
  yeah,
• 49:53
  I
• 49:53
  think
• 49:53
  it's
• 49:53
  such
• 49:53
  an
• 49:53
  amazing
• 49:54
  exercise,
• 49:54
  and
• 49:55
  I.
• 49:55
  Yeah,
• 49:56
  I,
• 49:56
  too,
• 49:56
  highly
• 49:56
  recommend
• 49:57
  it.
• 49:57
  Yeah,
• 49:57
  we
• 49:57
  can.
• 49:58
  We
• 49:58
  can
• 49:58
  pin
• 49:58
  that
• 49:58
  to
• 49:59
  this
• 49:59
  episode,
• 50:00
  for
• 50:00
  sure.
• 50:02
  A
• 50:02
  whole
• 50:02
  little
• 50:02
  thing
• 50:02
  that
• 50:02
  I
• 50:03
  created.
• 50:03
  But
• 50:03
  I
• 50:03
  think
• 50:04
  it's
• 50:04
  taking
• 50:04
  it
• 50:05
  a
• 50:05
  step
• 50:05
  further
• 50:05
  from,
• 50:06
  like,
• 50:07
  big,
• 50:07
  vague
• 50:07
  ideas
• 50:08
  or,
• 50:08
  like,
• 50:09
  random
• 50:09
  words
• 50:10
  to,
• 50:10
  like,
• 50:11
  saying,
• 50:12
  this
• 50:12
  is
• 50:12
  important
• 50:12
  to
• 50:13
  me
• 50:13
  and
• 50:13
  here's
• 50:14
  why,
• 50:15
  or
• 50:15
  here's
• 50:15
  what
• 50:16
  it
• 50:16
  looks
• 50:16
  like
• 50:17
  when
• 50:17
  I'm
• 50:18
  living
• 50:18
  in
• 50:18
  alignment
• 50:18
  with
• 50:19
  this
• 50:19
  value.
• 50:20
  So
• 50:20
  it's.
• 50:21
  That
• 50:21
  is
• 50:22
  one
• 50:22
  of
• 50:23
  the
• 50:23
  most
• 50:23
  powerful
• 50:23
  things
• 50:23
  you
• 50:23
  can
• 50:24
  do
• 50:24
  for
• 50:24
  yourself,
• 50:24
  even
• 50:24
  just
• 50:25
  my
• 50:25
  favorites.
• 50:26
  And
• 50:27
  the
• 50:27
  hardest
• 50:27
  part
• 50:28
  of
• 50:28
  it
• 50:28
  is
• 50:29
  you
• 50:29
  are
• 50:30
  defining
• 50:30
  that
• 50:30
  value
• 50:31
  for
• 50:31
  yourself
• 50:31
  rather
• 50:32
  than
• 50:32
  looking
• 50:33
  up
• 50:33
  some
• 50:33
  textbook
• 50:34
  regurgitation.
• 50:36
  Don't
• 50:36
  give
• 50:36
  a
• 50:36
  shit
• 50:36
  what
• 50:37
  Merriam
• 50:37
  Webster
• 50:38
  says
• 50:38
  about
• 50:40
  sovereignty
• 50:40
  or
• 50:41
  compassion.
• 50:42
  What
• 50:43
  does
• 50:43
  it
• 50:43
  mean
• 50:43
  for
• 50:43
  you?
• 50:44
  Exactly.
• 50:45
  Right.
• 50:45
  Like,
• 50:45
  we
• 50:46
  wrote
• 50:46
  our
• 50:46
  own
• 50:46
  definition.
• 50:47
  And
• 50:47
  so,
• 50:48
  yes,
• 50:48
  that's.
• 50:48
  That's
• 50:49
  just
• 50:49
  the
• 50:49
  encouragement,
• 50:49
  like,
• 50:50
  the
• 50:50
  first
• 50:50
  step
• 50:51
  on
• 50:51
  the
• 50:51
  path
• 50:51
  to
• 50:51
  sovereignty,
• 50:52
  figuring
• 50:53
  out
• 50:55
  what.
• 50:57
  What
• 50:57
  you
• 50:58
  want,
• 50:58
  what
• 50:58
  you
• 50:58
  need,
• 50:58
  what
• 50:59
  you
• 50:59
  value.
• 51:00
  Because
• 51:00
  you
• 51:00
  can't
• 51:01
  live
• 51:02
  or
• 51:02
  move
• 51:03
  in
• 51:04
  sovereignty
• 51:04
  without
• 51:05
  understanding
• 51:05
  that
• 51:05
  about
• 51:06
  yourself.
• 51:06
  So
• 51:06
  we'll
• 51:07
  give
• 51:07
  you
• 51:07
  a
• 51:07
  little
• 51:07
  bit
• 51:07
  of
• 51:07
  help.
• 51:08
  Yeah.
• 51:08
  Let
• 51:09
  your
• 51:09
  intuition
• 51:09
  guide
• 51:09
  you.
• 51:12
  That
• 51:13
  was
• 51:13
  awesome.
• 51:13
  Thank
• 51:14
  you.
• 51:14
  Thank
• 51:14
  you,
• 51:14
  everyone,
• 51:15
  for
• 51:15
  listening.
• 51:16
  So
• 51:17
  excited
• 51:17
  to
• 51:17
  do
• 51:17
  this
• 51:19
  wrap.
• 51:20
  I
• 51:20
  love
• 51:20
  it.
• 51:20
  And
• 51:20
  that's
• 51:21
  a
• 51:21
  wrap.
• 51:22
  Do
• 51:22
  we
• 51:22
  do
• 51:22
  it
• 51:23
  at
• 51:23
  the
• 51:23
  beginning
• 51:23
  and
• 51:23
  the
• 51:23
  end?
• 51:24
  I
• 51:24
  think
• 51:24
  we
• 51:24
  have
• 51:25
  to
• 51:25
  do
• 51:25
  it
• 51:25
  at
• 51:25
  the
• 51:25
  beginning
• 51:25
  and
• 51:26
  the
• 51:26
  end.
• 51:26
  Yes.
• 51:27
  Bye.