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My wife HUMILIATED me for being happy with my job... and now she wants a divorce! r/BestofRedditorUpdates | Reddit Stories | EP3067 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Ayo, it's Riley here.
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  Speaker 3: My wife humiliated me for being happy with my job.
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  Speaker 1: And now she wants a divorce.
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  Speaker 2: That doesn't sound like a happy ending to me. I,
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  Speaker 2: 35 male, love my job.
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  Speaker 3: It's close to home and has flexible hours. The pay
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  Speaker 3: ain't bad either. considering I have no degree. My wife,
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  Speaker 3: 28 female, and I, with our income, can't afford a
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  Speaker 3: good living. We have two kids, a son and daughter.
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  Speaker 3: My son is four. We had a kid early on
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  Speaker 3: before marriage. It was a happy accident. And my daughter, too.
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  Speaker 3: We were talking Friday, and I mentioned my boss was leaving.
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  Speaker 3: My wife asked if I was going to take his spot.
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  Speaker 3: I laughed and said, heck effing no.
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  Speaker 4: Who wants it?
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  Speaker 3: This led to a fight. My wife accused me of
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  Speaker 3: lacking ambition and said I'm boring for just accepting things
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  Speaker 3: in life. She said it's insane. She has to be
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  Speaker 3: the breadwinner. She has to claw her way up the
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  Speaker 3: corporate ladder. She's ambitious. She constantly takes overtime and tries
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  Speaker 3: to get promoted. But I've been working the same role,
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  Speaker 3: the same job for seven years and just accept it.
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  Speaker 3: She thinks I've become boring. My carefree attitude makes her bored.
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  Speaker 3: Ambition is shmexy. It's what men should be. She said,
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  Speaker 3: if I grew a backbone, I could be making six
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  Speaker 3: figures by now. We could be living in New York
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  Speaker 3: or have a bigger house. By the way, this comes
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  Speaker 3: from throwaway Henry Budin. And if you want to submit
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  Speaker 3: your own stories, go to r slash okay story time subreddit.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Savina.
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  Speaker 5: I'm Claire.
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  Speaker 6: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 3: And we are here to give some good advice, Goofly,
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  Speaker 3: but we don't have all your answers. We're only going
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  Speaker 3: to tell you what we do. Let us know what
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  Speaker 3: you would do down in the comments. As Opie says,
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  Speaker 3: I don't understand her logic. Genuinely not. don't i'm happy
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  Speaker 3: with my life i'm content why do i have to
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  Speaker 3: be a corporate shark constantly seeking my way up the
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  Speaker 3: ladder i just want to go to my nine to
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  Speaker 3: six job and go home and see my family i
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  Speaker 3: like having my weekends i like being happy we have
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  Speaker 3: money for once we aren't struggling with life how can
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  Speaker 3: i tell my wife i'm just happy why is someone
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  Speaker 3: being happy seen as wrong And there are some relevant comments.
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  Speaker 6: She's not happy.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, she's not happy. I think you need to sit
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  Speaker 3: down and get to the real nitty gritty of this.
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  Speaker 3: Because I don't believe that it's you, you know, your happiness.
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  Speaker 3: She's more looking at it like, I would be a
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  Speaker 3: lot more happier with more money. And the only way
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  Speaker 3: that can happen is if you do this, you have
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  Speaker 3: an opportunity here.
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  Speaker 4: Choose the right thing.
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  Speaker 3: So, yeah, I'd sit down and have a talk with her.
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  Speaker 6: Why not?
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  Speaker 2: Have you ever heard of talking to your wife?
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  Speaker 1: No.
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  Speaker 2: Might go a long way to try talking to your wife.
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  Speaker 4: There are some relevant comments.
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  Speaker 3: JFC, you can't be serious, says, I'm with you 100%.
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  Speaker 3: I think about this comic a lot whenever I start
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  Speaker 3: to doubt myself. The only part that gives me pause
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  Speaker 3: is your wife saying, why do I have to be
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  Speaker 3: the main breadwinner? Would your comfortable life be possible if
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  Speaker 3: she also took your approach? That is, to what extent
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  Speaker 3: is her kind of ambition? Because I think you're equally
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  Speaker 3: as ambitious, just towards a different goal. What allows you
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  Speaker 3: to pursue the life you want? Does she want to
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  Speaker 3: work less? These are important questions about how you work
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  Speaker 3: together as a team while also pursuing your own individual ambitions.
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  Speaker 3: Opie responds, yes, she doesn't make much more than me. 10K,
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  Speaker 3: I make 48K. She makes around 60K. She's a salaried
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  Speaker 3: manager at a big box retailer, but she chooses to
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  Speaker 3: do this. She liked running a business and she loved
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  Speaker 3: working retail. She wants to go into corporate. But we
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  Speaker 3: live in a low cost of living area. Our house
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  Speaker 3: was $ 210, 000.
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  Speaker 4: For three bedrooms.
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  Speaker 3: That was an effing steal. My mortgage is cheaper than
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  Speaker 3: my rent for a two bedroom tiny apartment. And by cheaper,
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  Speaker 3: I mean $ 300 cheaper. I pay $ 1, 350 for my mortgage.
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  Speaker 4: My rent was $ 1, 600.
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  Speaker 1: Outrageous, right?
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  Speaker 3: But it was all I could find. I can't afford
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  Speaker 3: to move to the big city and live a life
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  Speaker 3: of luxury. It's just never happening. She thinks if we
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  Speaker 3: both climb the ladder in a few years, we'll be
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  Speaker 3: making six figures and living in a mansion. That won't happen,
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  Speaker 3: and it's not my dream.
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  Speaker 6: But to her, it's her dream.
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  Speaker 2: It's her dream.
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  Speaker 1: It's a good dream.
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  Speaker 3: And see this, this is where the communication comes into play.
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  Speaker 6: Talk to her. This is where you bring up, we
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  Speaker 6: should buy a zoo.
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  Speaker 2: I know you want to live in the big city,
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  Speaker 2: but have you ever considered living in a zoo?
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  Speaker 4: And I would love that, my dream.
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  Speaker 2: You want to live in the Big Apple? There's lots
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  Speaker 2: of apples at the zoo.
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  Speaker 3: I just want to live my life with a job
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  Speaker 3: that isn't stressful and that I enjoy and not be
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  Speaker 3: overburdened with stress. Is that wrong of me? She's very
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  Speaker 3: much of the men should be the breadwinners and not women.
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  Speaker 3: She should take a relaxed approach and stay home with
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  Speaker 3: the kids. There's an update four days later.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't like the men should be the breadwinners, blah, blah, blah.
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  Speaker 2: I don't like that mindset.
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  Speaker 3: That she has.
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  Speaker 6: But I think it's the.
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  Speaker 5: case of like you come home happy from work and
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  Speaker 5: you enjoy it and she's.
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  Speaker 6: Like stressed out and she's like I hate.
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  Speaker 2: This yeah she's stressed out and she's like and I'm
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  Speaker 2: making more money than you and I have to come
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  Speaker 2: home and then I'm doing all of the mom work
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  Speaker 2: I'm not saying she's definitely doing that I'm just feeling
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  Speaker 2: like maybe that's what's.
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  Speaker 6: It I think she needs a vacation I think even.
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  Speaker 2: I think there's like a statistic that like even when
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  Speaker 2: moms or like when it's like dad is the mom
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  Speaker 2: you know what I mean like dad is the stay
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  Speaker 2: at home dad moms still do 50% of the child
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  Speaker 2: rearing Makes sense. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: They just love us. What can we say? I mean,
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  Speaker 3: they did come out of us, so sorry. They want
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  Speaker 3: to go back in.
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  Speaker 2: Sorry. They want to go back in. But I hate this.
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  Speaker 4: Let me back. Let me back in. Four days later.
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  Speaker 2: Well, it's a divorce. Whoa. Wow. Four days later and
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  Speaker 2: it's divorce city. Yikes. You know what they say? When
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  Speaker 2: you know, you know. And someone knew. And someone knew.
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  Speaker 4: I like, yikes. That's okay.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, let's see. Maybe she was having an affair or something.
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  Speaker 3: We're just two different people going different directions. So her
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  Speaker 3: initial reasons were envy. She admits she was envious I
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  Speaker 3: could just accept my life the way it is and
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  Speaker 3: be happy with so little. I could be happy never
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  Speaker 3: moving up in my career. She was envious I could
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  Speaker 3: go home happy and not stressed and not dread the
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  Speaker 3: work week. She never has that luxury. She's always stressed,
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  Speaker 3: always feeling worthless for getting such a late start in life.
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  Speaker 3: But the real reason, she's not happy with her life.
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  Speaker 6: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: I think they should get divorced.
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  Speaker 6: I read that room real quick.
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  Speaker 2: She's not happy with her life, and she wants someone
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  Speaker 2: more ambitious, and he's okay with not. I feel like
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  Speaker 2: it's okay for one person to be more ambitious and
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  Speaker 2: the other person to not be ambitious and be like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm actually happy with the lifestyle that we have. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: It's okay. I think neither one of those things makes
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  Speaker 2: you a bad person. But it just seems like they
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  Speaker 2: don't line up.
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  Speaker 6: Goal-wise, which is huge.
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  Speaker 5: Doing what makes you happy makes somebody else unhappy, but
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  Speaker 5: vice versa. You're two different people. You can't change them.
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  Speaker 2: Can't live with them, can't live with them, divorce them.
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  Speaker 6: She'll go and you'll stay.
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  Speaker 3: She admits to me that she cannot be happy with
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  Speaker 3: this life. Living in the suburbs, being a soccer mom,
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  Speaker 3: this life isn't for her. She tried making it work,
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  Speaker 3: but she can't do it. She wants to constantly claw
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  Speaker 3: her way up the ladder, constantly drive to improve. She
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  Speaker 3: wants a big house, be rich, be somebody, and not
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  Speaker 3: just live. She wants someone who is equally as ambitious,
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  Speaker 3: and not me, someone who is content. She wants to
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  Speaker 3: be with someone who is willing to take major risks,
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  Speaker 3: spur-of-the-moment plans.
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  Speaker 6: Find them in Vegas.
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  Speaker 2: She wants someone with a gambling addiction.
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  Speaker 5: She wants a big spender, big reason to, you know,
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  Speaker 5: get married.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: She wants money bags.
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  Speaker 6: And that's okay. That's what she wants.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's okay. And that's just not who you're with.
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  Speaker 3: No.
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  Speaker 2: I was going to marry someone poor, and now that
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  Speaker 2: I am not marrying him, I'm like, I think I'll
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  Speaker 2: marry someone rich.
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  Speaker 1: You know what?
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  Speaker 4: Might as well. I'll split the script.
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  Speaker 2: I tried it the one way. Now I'm looking for
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  Speaker 2: someone who's rich.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 4: And, you know, there's nothing wrong with that.
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  Speaker 2: There's nothing wrong with that.
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  Speaker 3: To her, it's like a constant pressure. She doesn't want
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  Speaker 3: to stay in one place, do the same thing forever.
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  Speaker 3: I'm the exact opposite. I don't want to constantly be moving,
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  Speaker 3: constantly be doing more. I want to be happy and
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  Speaker 3: live a quiet, humble life. She cannot understand how I
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  Speaker 3: could want to, and I could not fathom why she
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  Speaker 3: wouldn't either. So we're left in an impasse. We both
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  Speaker 3: have decided we can't go on. It isn't fair to
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  Speaker 3: either of us, nor our kids. Not a happy update,
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  Speaker 3: I guess.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, and that's all.
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  Speaker 2: And that's it.
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  Speaker 3: Dang.
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  Speaker 2: And that's all she wrote.
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  Speaker 4: It is not a happy update.
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  Speaker 2: I wish we could have her side of the story. Like,
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  Speaker 2: because he's like, she just is kind of money grubby.
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  Speaker 2: But that's not me. I like my content life. I'm
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  Speaker 2: all right with just my couch and my beer.
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  Speaker 4: Right?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And she might be like, you know, I wish I
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  Speaker 2: wish we could go to Florida every once in a while.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: I wish.
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  Speaker 6: Try to do a compromise.
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  Speaker 2: I wish we could maybe go out on a date
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  Speaker 2: night and afford a babysitter.
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  Speaker 3: I also just think she doesn't like her job either.
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  Speaker 6: No.
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  Speaker 3: She's like, I mean, from what she's doing, she's working
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  Speaker 3: these corporate jobs. Corporate jobs are.
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  Speaker 2: The worst.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: No, I've never really been like, oh, I love going
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  Speaker 3: to my corporate job. That just doesn't, you don't really
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  Speaker 3: hear that. Not saying that they're all bad, but. you know,
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  Speaker 3: a majority of them, I feel like are not the best.
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  Speaker 3: And so her going to that and him going to
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  Speaker 3: something that he actually enjoys and all this stuff and
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  Speaker 3: her seeing him come home, being happy and content. And
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  Speaker 3: she's like, oh, he must not care, you know, because
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  Speaker 3: he's happy with what he's doing like it was more
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  Speaker 3: she was jealous and then she also was projecting all
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  Speaker 3: of her feelings onto him when he's like girl I
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  Speaker 3: don't really see the issue here and she's like I
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  Speaker 3: want more and you can't give it to me so
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  Speaker 3: you know and that's just how it is sometimes you
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  Speaker 3: don't really realize it until you're older And you grow
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  Speaker 3: in separate directions.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I wonder how long they dated before they got pregnant.
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  Speaker 2: Because it might just be like, oops, I guess we're
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  Speaker 2: doing this.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: And she's like, yeah, that looks fun. And then she's like,
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  Speaker 5: let's try kid number two. Maybe that'll change things.
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  Speaker 6: That'll fix it.
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  Speaker 1: Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
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  Speaker 2: Things are not going well. But we haven't tried having
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  Speaker 2: another kid yet.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I think it's probably for the best
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  Speaker 2: that they got divorced.
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  Speaker 4: I think so, too.
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  Speaker 3: I think she would definitely be a little better at you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: It would show in the marriage. And the kids would
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  Speaker 3: have to see that and everything. So it's better to
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  Speaker 3: separate now than later. That's the end of that story,
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  Speaker 3: and we got another one coming right up.
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  Speaker 2: I humiliated my husband over his salary, and I don't
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  Speaker 2: regret it.
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  Speaker 1: You idiot!
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  Speaker 2: My female 27 husband, male 29, and I are currently
• 11:03
  Speaker 2: planning on moving in the near future. We were debating
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  Speaker 2: where to go, and in a heated argument, I said...
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  Speaker 2: In a few years' time, and for the rest of
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  Speaker 2: our marriage, I'll be making double to triple what you'll make.
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  Speaker 2: I'm the one who'll mainly be paying for the house,
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  Speaker 2: so I decide. My husband reiterated, you've been in school
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  Speaker 2: or with very young kids, we have a one-year-old and
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  Speaker 2: a two-year-old, for the four years we've been married, and
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  Speaker 2: we'll soon be taking time to have another kid, and
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  Speaker 2: you won't be the full-time workforce for another two years
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  Speaker 2: at least. I've been supporting us until now. He also
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  Speaker 2: said that he wished he could get pregnant so he
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  Speaker 2: could get some time with the kids when they are young.
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  Speaker 2: We do plan on switching roles in a couple of years.
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  Speaker 2: We're all work and he'll be with the kids. He
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  Speaker 2: has since apologized, but I still feel I am right.
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  Speaker 2: I am, just by virtue of our chosen careers, going
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  Speaker 2: to be the main breadwinner. Plus, biologically undergo pregnancy. I
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  Speaker 2: should have the final day on a major purchase. My
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  Speaker 2: husband is amazing, works hard and is great with the kids.
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  Speaker 2: But I feel that it is fair that I get
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  Speaker 2: a bigger say for something like this. Am I the
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  Speaker 2: a-hole here?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think you're both the a-holes.
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  Speaker 6: I think you need to just.
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  Speaker 4: Why is this not being like a compromise?
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  Speaker 6: Why is this tit for tat, you know?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, no, I make more money so I
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  Speaker 3: get to decide.
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  Speaker 4: No, I make more money. Like, why is that the argument?
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  Speaker 4: Aren't you a team?
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  Speaker 6: Bingo.
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  Speaker 3: You're supposed to be working together, not like, oh, I
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  Speaker 3: make more. I make the decisions now in the household.
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  Speaker 6: Like, huh?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it does all just seem very strange. And I
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  Speaker 2: would like to know more about like why it's such
• 12:32
  Speaker 2: a fight of where they're going to live or like
• 12:35
  Speaker 2: what what are the dynamics of what they're arguing over?
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  Speaker 5: And also, why is it a thing of like, all right,
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  Speaker 5: since you were a mom for the first couple of years,
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  Speaker 5: I know you'd be doing your job later, but we'll
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  Speaker 5: do a swap in a little bit, you know, down
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  Speaker 5: the down the road.
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  Speaker 4: Swap.
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  Speaker 2: But I do think it's nice that he's like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: I wish I could get pregnant so I could spend
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  Speaker 2: time with the kids. It is nice that he at
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  Speaker 2: least is saying that he has that mentality because I
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  Speaker 2: feel like a lot of men are like, Back to work,
• 13:00
  Speaker 2: back to the grind. By the way, this comes from WifeInFight.
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  Speaker 2: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
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  Speaker 2: to r slash OKStoryTime subreddit. I'm Claire.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 6: I'm Claire.
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  Speaker 2: And guys, we're just here to give good advice goofily,
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  Speaker 2: but we only know what we would do.
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  Speaker 1: So we don't have all the answers.
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  Speaker 2: So let us know what you would do in the
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  Speaker 2: comments down below. As OP says, here's a comment. Comment
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  Speaker 2: number one. You are the a-hole. You even like each other, right?
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  Speaker 2: Why would anything matter besides picking a place where you
• 13:36
  Speaker 2: can both be happy? Opie downvoted that. We love each other. Honestly,
• 13:41
  Speaker 2: he's still in the honeymoon phase over me. We do
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  Speaker 2: share a very strong love. Like all couples, we fight
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  Speaker 2: and sometimes reach an impasse for important decisions. And now
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  Speaker 2: here's an edit. His earning potential is $ 100, 000 to $ 150, 000.
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  Speaker 1: Nice.
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  Speaker 2: Mine is $ 250, 000 to $ 350, 000.
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  Speaker 6: Really nice.
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  Speaker 4: Really nice.
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  Speaker 1: Nicer.
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  Speaker 2: Nicer for sure.
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  Speaker 3: So you're both making six figures.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Because it does feel like once it kind of gets
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  Speaker 2: into six figure range, it is sort of like, I
• 14:09
  Speaker 2: get that she's like, I could make more than you.
• 14:11
  Speaker 2: And it's like, well, you're both making a lot.
• 14:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 14:14
  Speaker 6: Again, it just seems tit for tat where it's like,
• 14:16
  Speaker 6: I'm better than him. And like, I'm trying to one
• 14:17
  Speaker 6: up him. And y'all are a team.
• 14:20
  Speaker 2: It's even in the way that she said, like, he's apologized,
• 14:23
  Speaker 2: but I still think I'm right. It's like you have
• 14:25
  Speaker 2: to learn to let things go, Opie. Yeah. It does
• 14:27
  Speaker 2: not serve you to always have to be right. You
• 14:30
  Speaker 2: have to make compromises.
• 14:31
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 14:32
  Speaker 3: You can totally just, you know, be content and just
• 14:35
  Speaker 3: take the L sometimes. We were just talking about that earlier.
• 14:39
  Speaker 6: Take it.
• 14:39
  Speaker 3: About taking the L, and that's okay. It doesn't make
• 14:42
  Speaker 3: you less of a person. It doesn't make you seem
• 14:43
  Speaker 3: like an idiot. You just, you know, sometimes others can
• 14:47
  Speaker 3: be right, and that's cool.
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: You must take the L train.
• 14:52
  Speaker 6: Okay, Usnavi.
• 14:54
  Speaker 2: Okay, edit two. He has sensed apologize again and said
• 14:59
  Speaker 2: that we were both under a lot of stress and
• 15:01
  Speaker 2: said things we didn't mean and that he does seem
• 15:04
  Speaker 2: to understand where I'm coming from, re-earning potential, etc. I
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: accepted his apology and I thanked him for understanding. He
• 15:12
  Speaker 2: then said that he will drop the kids at my
• 15:13
  Speaker 2: sister's and take me out for ice cream. followed by
• 15:17
  Speaker 2: a nature walk where we can further discuss this and
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: understand each other's perspectives on where to live and the
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: role of money in decision-making power.
• 15:24
  Speaker 4: That's actually really nice.
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: That is super nice. I'm in love with this man.
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: He's like, you know what, I'm gonna, we'll drop the
• 15:30
  Speaker 3: kids off and, you know, me and you are just
• 15:31
  Speaker 3: gonna spend time together and we'll talk about it.
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: I truly, truly, truly hope they get divorced so I
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: can get with him.
• 15:41
  Speaker 4: Who is he?
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: You're about to lose yourself a good man, OP. Update
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: a month later. So anyways, my husband and I had
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: a nice long walk in conversation. We both apologized to
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: each other and for our heated tone. He was also
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: concerned that he was wrong and apologized once more. We
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: decided to take another look about moving and see if
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: we can find something which works for both of us. However,
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: we also agreed that certain things need a financial decision
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: maker as an impasse must be resolved. For major financial purchases,
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: we decided that I would be the decision maker for
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: the aforementioned reasons. I love this girl boss. I love
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: her girl bossing. I think I make more money, so
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: you maybe listen to me, baby boy. What do you
• 16:27
  Speaker 2: think about that? Yes, yes, yes?
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: I don't know.
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: I feel like it doesn't matter who makes more. You're
• 16:32
  Speaker 4: a team.
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: It's a partnership.
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: They're a team, and I just feel.
• 16:38
  Speaker 3: I feel like it doesn't matter who's making more. You
• 16:40
  Speaker 3: should both be involved in the decision making because it
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: is both of your guys' future, not just one over
• 16:45
  Speaker 3: the other, you know?
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: Yes, completely.
• 16:47
  Speaker 4: That's my opinion.
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: And even just the way she said aforementioned reasons.
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: I know.
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: Me when someone's smarter than me. You seem like a jerk.
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: Someone's using words I don't really know. I think she
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: needs to back off a little bit.
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: I go, okay, and?
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: The decision maker will, of course, will listen to the
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: partner and take everyone's view into account, but will make
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: the final decision. Here's what I have to ask. If
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: her husband suddenly was making more than her, would she
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: be able to give up the power and be like, well,
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: that's what we decided. Whoever makes more money gets to
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: make more decisions.
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: So.
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: I now have to listen to you because you now
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: make more money than me.
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: No, I don't think that's correct.
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: I don't think she would at all. I think it's
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: a control thing.
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: Oh, for sure it's a control thing. I don't think
• 17:34
  Speaker 3: that she is being in any way. There is no
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: compromise here. She is like, you just eventually have to
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: see my side and then everything will be good.
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: And then it will all work out. Once we do
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: everything exactly how I want to do it, then we
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: won't be fighting.
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: God.
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: Of course, we will try to make all decisions together.
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: In order to mend the fight, my husband took me
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: to a fancy dinner the following week. We then continued
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: looking at various locations and houses. We decided to sit together,
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: list what we are looking for in a property, and
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: build a combined criteria that makes both of our preferences
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: into account. Using that, we looked hard and found a
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: neighborhood that wasn't the first choice of any of us,
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: but it was something that met our combined criteria and
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: was something we were both happy with.
• 18:15
  Speaker 4: Okay, that's a start. That's good. I'm glad. Yeah, I agree.
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: And it's sort of like, why didn't you guys do
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: this earlier? This should have been the first thing you
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: guys did when you decided to move.
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: Instead, we just argued who made more money and who
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: could make the decision based on your income. Yes.
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: The next step was then house hunting within the neighborhood. Again,
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: we reached an impasse. However, my husband voluntarily acknowledged that
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: since I'll earn more and paying for most of it,
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: we should be living in the house that I want.
• 18:44
  Speaker 4: That's not the point.
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: The whole point is that you guys can discuss as
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: a couple and come up with the best possible thing
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: for both sides. It's called compromise, not, oh, well, you
• 18:56
  Speaker 3: know what, this is just a lot of work. Well,
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: you know what, you're gonna make more anyway, just you
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: make the decision.
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: We should do what you do. And it's like, oh, well,
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: you're gonna be paying for more of the house. It's like,
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: it does not seem like they are in a team
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: partnership at all.
• 19:07
  Speaker 5: How many impasses do they need to reach? Because they've
• 19:10
  Speaker 5: reached a lot of impasses.
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: Literally, every other sentence.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: Sorry, I'm an impasse. I'm an impasse.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 19:18
  Speaker 4: I don't think that this should just be her decision.
• 19:21
  Speaker 4: I just feel like it's so, why is she doing this? Why?
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: Why does she have to be in control of everything?
• 19:27
  Speaker 3: It's like, girl, don't you trust your husband enough to,
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: you know, think that you can both come up with
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: something and be all right with that. Or it eventually
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: it's just like, well, I'm just never going to be
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: comfortable with what he decides. So ultimately we're just going
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: to go with what I want.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: And he's just like, Okay, I guess this is just
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: the way life is I mean, if.
• 19:45
  Speaker 3: That's the dynamic of them, then yeah. But the thing is,
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: she's coming here to complain. So it's like, this is holes.
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: This is holes all over again.
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: I was super thrilled when I heard this.
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, of course.
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: Why would you be angry?
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: That's exactly what you wanted this whole time.
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: You're going to do exactly what I want. I'm so
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: thrilled about this. This is exactly what I wanted.
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: That's what I wanted to hear.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: Can't believe he came to this on his own. That
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: we were able to reach.
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: An agreement without fighting and that my husband truly understood
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: my perspective.
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: Girl, that's just not it. I mean, you're in Delululand
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: right now.
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: And so then that definitely says that it's like, if
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: I don't get what I want, it's going to be
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: a fight.
• 20:27
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: Yeah, she literally got exactly what I want. She's like,
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: I'm so happy we could do it without fighting.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: Oh, I'm so glad that you didn't have to get,
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: you know, the way that you are wanting things in
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: our relationship. We finalized the deal and are making preparations
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: to move. We're both really happy and excited to enter
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: this next phase of our lives.
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: I'm sure.
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: I know most of you won't be happy with what's transpired,
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: but it is something that works best for us and
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: that we are both happy with. And honestly, our relationship
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: has just been made stronger due to our fight and
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: subsequent teamwork. My husband keeps doing gestures showing how much
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: he appreciates me and I love him.
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: A lot. Because he does exactly what you want.
• 21:04
  Speaker 4: That's why you love him.
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: And then when he's like, oh, actually, I want to
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: make this decision.
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: She's like, hold your horses, buddy. I make more money.
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: So I make every.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: Decision in this marriage. She doesn't even make more money.
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: She has the potential to make more money.
• 21:19
  Speaker 6: Exactly.
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: She's still in school.
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: I don't even think she has actually graduated, but she
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: has the potential to make that money. So then when
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: they pick the house and then she doesn't make that amount,
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: then what?
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: I mean, it's like, Whatever works for you. I love
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: it for you. Sis, I love it for you. I
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: love a woman in control. I wouldn't be down.
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: For it, but that's fun. I agree with Kim Foyne.
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: And then on top of that, she's still swinging her
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: dang dong on Reddit. Kiki to herself talking about, LOL,
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: I humiliated my husband.
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: And I love him a lot. And I love him so.
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: And we reached a compromise without fighting. And the compromise
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: was whatever I want.
• 21:59
  Speaker 4: Like, okay.
• 22:02
  Speaker 6: Sure.
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: If that's how the marriage goes, then yes. But don't
• 22:05
  Speaker 3: come to us asking for advice when you clearly just
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: want it to just be your way or the highway.
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: Your way or the highway.
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: Like, am I the angel?
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 22:16
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 22:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you are. You didn't even ask that because you
• 22:18
  Speaker 4: knew you were.
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: You knew. Baby girl, you knew you're in the wrong here.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: But that's okay.
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: But anyway, that's the end of that story. And we
• 22:27
  Speaker 4: got another one coming right up.
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: I got my dream job offer abroad, but it might
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: ruin my husband's career. Anchors away, baby. I, female 26,
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: got an offer from my boss to move abroad next
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: year for six months to open a new branch of
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: our agency and be a branch manager.
• 22:46
  Speaker 4: It's a two-hour flight away.
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: It's an incredible offer to get at my age, and
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: I worked my butt off for the past two-plus years
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: as a project manager slash team leader to get here.
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: Started off as the former rule, organically became the latter
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: one as well. I'd have all expenses with the move covered.
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: It's a dream come true for me career-wise.
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: Here's the issue.
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: My husband, male 29, doesn't want to move. He's about
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: to have an exam in December to finally get all
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: necessary qualifications for his profession. Think like bar exam in
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: the US. His salary would go up and he'd be
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: able to be independent. But only in our country. I'm
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: not sure he'd be able to find a job abroad.
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: And he really doesn't want to move. I am making
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: three times his salary and we'd live comfortably, but understandably,
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: he doesn't want a break in his career, especially when
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: it's finally going to take off. He wants to save
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: as much as possible to buy a house, have kids, etc.
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: I want the same, but not necessarily now, perhaps in
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: a year or so. We don't have enough saved to
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: do it earlier anyways, and I want to negotiate my
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: salary for the new position so that we would still
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: be on track with all these plans. By the way,
• 23:57
  Speaker 3: this comes from Gosee. 23. And if you want to
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: story time subreddit.
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah.
• 24:05
  Speaker 6: I'm Claire. I'm Sophia.
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: And we're here to give some good basketball, but we
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: don't have all your answers. We're only going to tell
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: you what we do, but let us know what you
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: do down in the comments. As Opie says, for a
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: little context, he's always been more domestic, doesn't care to
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: learn more languages or travel, which is fine. I, on
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: the other hand, consider myself more of a cosmopolitan person.
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: I speak three foreign languages and I'm currently learning a
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: fourth one. Always dreamt of international career, whether it's about
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: being able to travel or just move abroad. During our relationship,
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: I did move abroad twice for more than a year.
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: So we know that long distance relationship is doable. But
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: when I came back three years ago, we discussed that
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: we don't want that anymore.
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: So I stayed.
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: When we talked about the opportunity, he instantly became cold
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: and short with me. We are speaking, et cetera, normally,
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: but any time the topic comes up, he gets annoyed.
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: Doesn't say no to me going alone or with her dog,
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: but isn't happy for me, nor wants me to go. Thus,
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: would I be the a-hole if I accepted the offer?
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: No.
• 25:12
  Speaker 6: Go for it. Yeah, you got this.
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: I think it also has to do with how you
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: were raised, and my mom, especially... has always told us,
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: you do what you need to do, and if it
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: was meant to be, they will follow you, or you
• 25:30
  Speaker 3: will figure out something that will work. Don't stay back
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: for someone, because then you're just gonna grow resentful, and
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: you're not gonna enjoy what you're doing, and you're gonna
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: be like, what if, what if, and always think about,
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: and you're saying this is your dream, you have dreamt
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: of this, and it's now finally coming true. Like he can't,
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: you cannot, Just have him take that away from you.
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: You can't.
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree with you. But then it's like, okay,
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: then you guys are just going to have to break up.
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: Then you're just going to have to go like, well,
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: we're just living. So you have to decide what's more
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: important to you.
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: Your career.
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: Building a life with this man. So it's a big,
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: big decision.
• 26:10
  Speaker 6: Yeah, you're at an impasse.
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I will. I'm an impasse.
• 26:15
  Speaker 4: There are no kids. There are no kids. Yeah, there
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: are no kids.
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: You only get one life.
• 26:21
  Speaker 5: And if you don't do it, you're going to, you know,
• 26:24
  Speaker 5: it's like if I don't do this, I'm going to
• 26:26
  Speaker 5: regret it and I'm going to resent him for this.
• 26:28
  Speaker 5: Or if I do do this, he's going to be
• 26:30
  Speaker 5: upset and he's going to resent me for this. It's
• 26:33
  Speaker 5: at the end of the day, it's your relationship. But
• 26:34
  Speaker 5: what do you, like Claire said, what do you prioritize?
• 26:36
  Speaker 5: You prioritize yourself, your work, what you want to do
• 26:41
  Speaker 5: or what he wants to do.
• 26:42
  Speaker 6: It's a thing.
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: And what else does he have to offer?
• 26:46
  Speaker 6: Watch La La Land. That was a good one.
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: Watch La La Land. I mean, if he's H-U-N-G, think
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: it over.
• 26:55
  Speaker 4: Give it a second thought.
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: Give it a second thought before accepting the new job.
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: But probably decide yourself. Yeah. There are lots of H-U-N-G men.
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: All in all.
• 27:05
  Speaker 6: I love that game.
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: If it's going to work, it'll work out with both
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: of you being happy and doing what you want to do.
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: Just right now, it may be a bump in the road.
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: But you don't know. Until you take that chance.
• 27:17
  Speaker 6: Flip a coin.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: Flip a coin.
• 27:19
  Speaker 6: Let fate decide.
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: No, but honestly, flip a coin is great advice because
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: if you feel sad, then you go, great, I'm going
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: to do it then. You know, like if you don't
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: get the result that you want, that's the point of
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: flipping a coin to me.
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: What?
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: Oh, like if you do it and then.
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if it's like heads, I go. Tails, I don't. Oh, tails.
• 27:37
  Speaker 6: I hate that.
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: I guess I should go because I feel bummed.
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: Oh, about like what it landed on.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: That's great. I didn't even think of that.
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: That's what I did. I did this big one woman
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: show and I flipped a coin to decide if I
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: wanted to do it or not. And it said you
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: shouldn't do it. And then I was like, I guess
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: I should do it because I'm really bummed right now.
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Oh, that's actually a good perspective. There's an edit here.
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: I see a lot of comments that were not compatible
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: due to him wanting to stay and me going abroad.
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: When we met, we both wanted to live abroad. He
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: was meant to finish his degree and join me, but
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: turns out you can't find a job in his field
• 28:14
  Speaker 3: outside of the country unless you're a genius. Neither me
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: nor him knew that. It's not like he hates traveling.
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: He can't do it due to his work. Yeah, he's
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: now used to that. Me, not so much. Three years ago,
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: when we came back so that he could continue his career,
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: we agreed to stay in one place for a longer time.
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: Until that point, him or both of us moved at
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: least once every year, either together or one of us.
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: It wasn't a promise that neither of us would go
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: anywhere ever. It's been three years in one city, the
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: longest I've ever lived in one city since childhood. Do
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: what you want with that. Just wanted to clarify some things.
• 28:52
  Speaker 4: And there's an update.
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: I do feel kind of bad for him. I feel
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: bad for both parties. It's not like he wants to
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: keep them there.
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: It's just like, well, this is what my work is. Yeah.
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: And she's like, well, we could just live off of
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: my salary. But then that's basically saying, like, give up
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: your career for her.
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: Exactly.
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: There are both of them have to. They are two sides. And,
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: you know, which there comes a point in your life,
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: which I mean, I've had to do this as well.
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: At some point, you're going to have to, you know,
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: if you're going to be miserable living there.
• 29:28
  Speaker 4: Then you have to go.
• 29:29
  Speaker 3: If you are going to be visible without him, then
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: you have to stay.
• 29:33
  Speaker 6: And you'll be okay. Normal people.
• 29:36
  Speaker 3: There's an update a week later. after reading your guys' comments,
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: I decided to wait until Sunday to sit down and talk.
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: That way, both me and my husband could have space
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: to process our emotions. I noticed that my excitement was
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: clouding my judgment, and reading how many of you were
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: saying that my job is more important than him really
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: made me take a step back from thinking about the
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: possibilities and focus on the present. Plus, I had to
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: leave for the weekend to attend a course in another city,
• 30:03
  Speaker 3: so Sunday seemed a good time. After I came back,
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: my husband picked me up and almost immediately said, let's go.
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: I didn't get what he meant, so I asked where,
• 30:13
  Speaker 3: and he said, let's move to the country. I just
• 30:16
  Speaker 3: have two conditions. One is that you will have a
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: proper contract that states every single expense the company will cover,
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: and that you wait until my exam to make a
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: final decision on the specifics. As for now, I can't
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: process thinking about the move. I have too much on
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: my plate.
• 30:31
  Speaker 4: I was floored.
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: Asked him if he was sure, and what about his
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: job and career. He said that yes, he's sure, as
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: he also wanted to live in that country for a
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: while someday, and this seems like a good moment. That
• 30:43
  Speaker 3: he will be able to find something, and if not,
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: then we'll still be fine as long as it's only
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: six months. Honestly, love him.
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I hope they get divorced so I can marry him.
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: Oh my god!
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 30:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he seems like a stand-up guy. And I'm glad, like,
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: I think it really put into him, like, you know, percept, yeah.
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because he was like, okay, what do I value?
• 31:10
  Speaker 4: Exactly.
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: Do I value this career that I kind of want,
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: but it would keep me here, which seems like it
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: wasn't his priority to begin with, and take me away
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: from my wife, which is not a priority to me.
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: So he's going, okay, I'm going to prioritize these two
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: other things, living abroad and my wife.
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: Which I love that.
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: Which, I mean, they said in the like she said
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: in the beginning, they both did not plan to stay
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: there that long.
• 31:32
  Speaker 4: But it just, you know, the studies are taking.
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: Too long and whatever things happen. And now she's ready
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: to go. And he's like, you know, hesitant on it.
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: And that's completely OK that like it makes sense. But
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: I agree with like what he's saying, like, but everything
• 31:47
  Speaker 3: in writing, make sure we know all the logistics. And
• 31:50
  Speaker 3: once we finalize it, like, let's go.
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: And I love that it was the first thing like
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: she's been gone for a few days.
• 31:55
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: And he's like, let's go.
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 31:57
  Speaker 4: He said, you know what?
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: I think that's so romantic for him to just be like,
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: I'm making this decision.
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: Yeah. I think the I think it gave him time
• 32:06
  Speaker 3: to think, you know, oh, she's not here.
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: Would I like this? And it's like, no, I hate that.
• 32:12
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: It's like, oh, he loved me. All right. Yesterday, I
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: talked with my boss and asked if we can come
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: back to the planning in December, as it would still
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: give us enough time to organize everything until March. His
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: deadline for the project to start. Explained to him that
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: my husband needs to focus on his exam now, so
• 32:29
  Speaker 3: we won't be able to plan the move. Fortunately, he
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: understood and after a bit of back and forth, said
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: that the offer is still on the table before Christmas.
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: Perhaps very anticlimactic for everyone suggesting divorce or me leaving
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: to be the girl boss I always wanted to be.
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: But life is about balance and compromise. Sometimes just not
• 32:49
  Speaker 3: between the parties that we thought. It's not me versus
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: my husband, but it's us against the world.
• 32:55
  Speaker 6: Dang, bars.
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: That's so sweet.
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: Or at least my boss's request to decide about such
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: a huge thing in a week. Especially that it wasn't
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: my goal in this company. This is literally the first
• 33:06
  Speaker 3: time someone other than a co-worker would leave for months
• 33:09
  Speaker 3: to open a new branch.
• 33:11
  Speaker 4: So yeah, that's all.
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: Thanks again.
• 33:14
  Speaker 3: Aww.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: So the husband did get his happy ending. He did.
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: He did.
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: He got his happy ending.
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: And so did the wife. And so did the wife too.
• 33:21
  Speaker 4: Everyone's happy in this story.
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: Everyone got a happy ending.
• 33:24
  Speaker 6: One big O.
• 33:24
  Speaker 4: Aw.
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: Aw.
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: A big O like this kind of O.
• 33:28
  Speaker 6: Aw.
• 33:29
  Speaker 3: Aw.
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: That's so sweet.
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: Aw.
• 33:33
  Speaker 4: That was the O for me.
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: That one, I'm really glad we landed on that one
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: with the last one being like, you're not ambitious enough.
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: It was sort of like, it was two sides of
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: the same coin.
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: I'm really happy we ended on a happy one.
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story, and we got
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: another one coming right up.
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: Hey, it's Carly, your favorite axolotl host here.
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: We're going to get back to the stories, but here's
• 33:55
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• 33:57
  Speaker 1: I accidentally humiliated me and my wife, and now I'm
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: dreading going back.
• 34:02
  Speaker 6: You got a DeLorean?
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: To set the scene, my wife, 35 female and I,
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: 34 male, are currently attending... antenatal classes, preparing for the
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: arrival of our first child this summer. There are seven
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: other couples, all of similar age to us, and we've
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: been looking forward to potentially making some new friends out
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: of these classes who will have similar age children to
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: us and live nearby in a very nice neighborhood.
• 34:27
  Speaker 6: Oh, you want to make friends for your kid before
• 34:29
  Speaker 6: they come out. Cool.
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: Let's arrange a play date in three years.
• 34:33
  Speaker 6: Pre-friends, pre-friends, pre-friends.
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: Once they're all born. So far, everything has been going great.
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: There's good camaraderie between everyone. The guys limit hospital parking.
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: The ladies compare aches. And all of us seem to
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: get along and have good chats between couples and across
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: the group in spare moments in the sessions. I'm not
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: a natural extrovert and don't feel the most at home
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: in groups like this, but I'm doing my best to
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: seem like a real person.
• 34:59
  Speaker 6: Are you a robot?
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like we're preparing for the arrival of our child.
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: They're coming from space. They followed us. We took the mothership.
• 35:07
  Speaker 6: So our child is going to be the spawn of Satan.
• 35:09
  Speaker 6: Have fun with the demon.
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: Naturally, in an unfamiliar social situation like many others might,
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: I'm cracking the occasional joke along the way to break
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: the ice and keep the mood light. Generally, grease the
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: wheels of social interaction and portray myself as a fun,
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: normal guy to be around.
• 35:27
  Speaker 6: Again, are you a robot? Who says that? Who says
• 35:31
  Speaker 6: it like that?
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: As one does. I crack jokes to keep the ice smooth. And, yeah,
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: I'm from here.
• 35:39
  Speaker 6: I'm from this planet. As the humanoids do. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from SeriousPilot2700. And if you
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: want to submit your own stories, go to the r
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: slash ok story time subreddit. I'm Dakota.
• 35:49
  Speaker 6: I'm Keon.
• 35:50
  Speaker 4: And I'm Keon.
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: And we're going to read this story, the two Keons
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: and I. And we're totally going to believe this guy's
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: from the planet Earth. And just let us know what
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: you think about this story in the comments. And OP says,
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: Halfway through today's class, there's some downtime between activities. We're
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: all sat in a broad circle, and people are sharing
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: funny conversations that have come up with people they know
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: when they have announced or mentioned their pregnancies. As usual,
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: the tone is jovial and casual. People mentioning inappropriate or
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: odd questions they get asked. Others responding that they've had
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: similar or worse asked. And then there's OP standing three
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: feet away, completely stiff.
• 36:32
  Speaker 6: He's doing the Shia LaBeouf from Transformers. He's doing the...
• 36:35
  Speaker 6: I'm actually.
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: He's processing.
• 36:40
  Speaker 6: The AllSpark.
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: It's a great scene. At one point, one of the
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: ladies who sat near us says that someone once came
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: up and asked her, Oh, wow. So was this an
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: accident or on purpose? And comments, what a mad thing
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: that is to ask when that person knew she was
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: happily married. This gets a good response and a general
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: chuckle around the room. This is where I step in.
• 37:02
  Speaker 6: Oh, he's going to show his two-step.
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm. He's just been taking notes the whole time, and
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: now he's like, it's my time. There's a window.
• 37:10
  Speaker 6: I feel like out of anyone I know, you know
• 37:12
  Speaker 6: who would do this? Riley.
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: Really?
• 37:16
  Speaker 6: Yeah. Keep going. I want to hear what Opie's joke is.
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: And by step in, I mean step into my whole
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: mouth with both feet.
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 37:26
  Speaker 6: Oh, he's doing the Robin.
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: He's double knee dropping into his mouth. In my head,
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: in the moment, I think, oh, yes.
• 37:36
  Speaker 6: Oh, my gosh.
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: What a humorous situation. What an impertinent thing to say
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: to someone who's clearly and happily married. So I think, yes.
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: I will add to the conversation by suggesting something equally
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: hilariously inappropriate someone might say in that situation. Why do
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: you say it like you're an alien?
• 37:53
  Speaker 4: What is going on? This guy's AI.
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: You are AI.
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: You are a robot.
• 37:58
  Speaker 6: No one speaks like this.
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: So in her wake, I pipe up, Haha, yeah. Or
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: if they'd ask, Oh, so is it actually your husband?
• 38:08
  Speaker 6: Nice, Morty. I know.
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: Yes. That was quite funny. What if they had asked
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: if it was your husband's child?
• 38:19
  Speaker 6: Nice.
• 38:20
  Speaker 3: Thanks.
• 38:21
  Speaker 6: Thanks. Thanks, Dakota Bot.
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: And everyone just turns and goes.
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: Who said that?
• 38:26
  Speaker 4: Stephen Hawking from The Grave?
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: Did the air conditioner just talk? There was a slightly
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: awkward titter in response to this.
• 38:35
  Speaker 6: Nice.
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: She responded, Well, thankfully no one's gone quite so far.
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: The topic of conversation swiftly but naturally moves on. And
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: in my head, I think, well, that didn't really land,
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: but hey-ho. A minute later, I get a text from
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: my wife sat next to me. She goes, effing heck,
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: there was no need to make that joke. And I
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: sit there for a moment. Yeah, thinking about it, the
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: whole room did sort of awkwardly go quiet there for
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: a moment.
• 39:02
  Speaker 6: Let's get that replay, John.
• 39:04
  Speaker 5: Oh, if you see how he enters the conversation, it
• 39:07
  Speaker 5: wasn't appropriate. It's a bold strategy, Cotton. See if it
• 39:10
  Speaker 5: pays off for him.
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: Yes. That wasn't entirely, clearly just a lighthearted contribution to
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: the conversation.
• 39:18
  Speaker 6: Why is he talking like this?
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: It's crazy. Now that I think about it, wow. That
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: was an incredibly insensitive, inappropriate, and dumb thing to say.
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: Especially to someone who's on the... emotional rollercoaster week of pregnancy.
• 39:32
  Speaker 6: Aloha, aloha, eh.
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: Me, me, me, ma.
• 39:37
  Speaker 6: Bobo, me, my, me, me, boo.
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: Wow. Great googly moogly. I'm a big old fool. I
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: am the world's stupidest idiot. I am the, the, the, the...
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: I am the silliest goose in the nest. I have
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: made myself look like the biggest tool in the room.
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: You had it right there.
• 40:00
  Speaker 6: Call me Tom Fooler because yes.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: Likely everyone thinks that I am an incredibly weird space
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: alien freak for that. Obviously, no mention of it is made,
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: but I spend the rest of the class and the
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: day in a sort of haze of embarrassment. Hey, but
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: is this your first?
• 40:21
  Speaker 6: Is this his first human encounter?
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: Is this your first social interaction?
• 40:25
  Speaker 6: First human encounter of the strangest kind.
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: The cherry on top. We were in the class as
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: an icebreaker. We had each been asked to name one
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: attribute we would like the baby to pick up from
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: our partner.
• 40:37
  Speaker 6: Oh, this is going to be great. I'm so excited.
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: My wife easily replied with a smile on her face
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: and looking lovingly at me. Oh, I'd love if they
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: got your wit and sense of humor.
• 40:50
  Speaker 6: I hope our demon child has a robotic humor. I'm
• 40:53
  Speaker 6: so excited.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: As long as they don't inherit your green blood and
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: tentacle fingers, seeing as you're from another planet.
• 41:02
  Speaker 6: Your child Kit Fisto from Star Wars?
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: I got nothing to say.
• 41:05
  Speaker 6: I got nothing to say.
• 41:07
  Speaker 5: OP, you need to be like, you know what? I
• 41:10
  Speaker 5: do apologize. That was my B.
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: I mean, can you imagine? Let's really set the stage here. Like,
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: everyone's just kind of an acquaintance. Like, you don't really
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: know these people. You're trying to get to know them better.
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: You know, it's like a thing for people who are
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: going to be parents and someone's talking about, oh, yeah.
• 41:28
  Speaker 6: You see that giant brick of ice right there laying there.
• 41:30
  Speaker 6: You go, that looks really good to break.
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: I can't wait to break that.
• 41:33
  Speaker 6: I'm going to break that.
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: I'm going to break that by being like, yeah, what
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: if they were like, you know, did your husband cheat
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: on you?
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: Or did you cheat on your husband? Is that even
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: really is?
• 41:43
  Speaker 5: You know that one game where you had the little
• 41:45
  Speaker 5: hammer and you had the polar bear or penguin on there?
• 41:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 41:47
  Speaker 6: Yeah, and you tried to just knock as much ice
• 41:49
  Speaker 6: blocks as you can.
• 41:50
  Speaker 5: What Opie did was he knocked one and the entire
• 41:53
  Speaker 5: thing broke.
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he just went in there. I mean, honestly, he
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: dropped a bowling ball on the game. He just went, boom. Hey,
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: your husband. Did you cheat on your husband? Wouldn't it
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: be crazy if they said that? It's like, who is this? Yeah, no,
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I'm glad no one said that. Uh, uh, uh, uh.
• 42:15
  Speaker 6: No, you sound like something else.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: Aw.
• 42:19
  Speaker 6: You know, A for effort.
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: So, there we are. I don't know if I should
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: reach out to either the husband or wife at whom
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: I directed this idiotic comic and apologize or... Yeah, no,
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: that's a great one. I'd love to see the email
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: you write for that. Or should I just leave it be?
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: Or just leave the country? Or perhaps the entire solar system?
• 42:37
  Speaker 6: Kid Fisto.
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: This guy brought up the solar system unprompted.
• 42:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: He's like, I could go home.
• 42:43
  Speaker 6: That's what I'm saying. My people need me.
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: There's an edit. To anyone, for some reason, still coming
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: across this post, not 24 hours later, this situation has
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: been entirely resolved by my wife going into spontaneous labor
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: and delivering our son a bit early. So, whew, don't
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: ever have to go to those classes anymore.
• 43:04
  Speaker 4: I don't... I guess that solves it.
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: Yes, this whole situation has been resolved by my wife
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: giving birth to our spawn, and now we will return
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: to the stars where my home system resides, in the
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: 17th quadrant of the Andromeda galaxy.
• 43:22
  Speaker 6: Sweet.
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: I might have to fire the giant space laser at
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: Earthdove just to make sure nobody remembers.
• 43:29
  Speaker 6: That I did this.
• 43:30
  Speaker 5: Yeah, feeling that humiliation and embarrassment, I can never recover
• 43:33
  Speaker 5: from that ever again.
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: Guys are dead.
• 43:36
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: Guys, he's going to be a dad.
• 43:38
  Speaker 6: He's going to have some crazy dad jokes.
• 43:40
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 43:41
  Speaker 6: I never said good. I just said crazy.
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: the next one. My boyfriend told his friends his ex
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: was hotter while I was in the next room.
• 43:52
  Speaker 4: Oh, that's so funny because now I'm your ex too.
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you've got two of them. My boyfriend's 26 male,
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: ex is 22 female. They dated for five years. Funny
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: math on that one. Before they broke up eight months
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: ago because their relationship became long distance. I, 27 female,
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: used to know him through mutual friends. And by all accounts,
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: she was his first love. And everyone was saying how
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: they'd get married someday. It makes sense that they say
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: first love because she, oh, I guess was 18. Yeah,
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: she was 18.
• 44:31
  Speaker 4: He was 21.
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: My math was I saw the eight under the five.
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: I thought she was 15. And he was like 19.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: That would have.
• 44:38
  Speaker 4: Been a little more concerning. They were 1821.
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: That's not crazy.
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: 1821 doable. She is a fashion model and is very tall, skinny,
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: exotic looking and beautiful. She has appeared on numerous ads
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: and magazines. She's even been in Vogue.
• 44:54
  Speaker 4: Oh.
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm in Vogue. And walked the runway for many
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: fashion houses. On the other hand, I am average height,
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: average body weight with a boring job at a bank.
• 45:05
  Speaker 4: You're a bank worker. What's so boring about that?
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: Oh, says someone who's not worked at the bank.
• 45:14
  Speaker 4: I've always heard everyone wants to work at the bank.
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: We all want to work at the bank.
• 45:19
  Speaker 4: I would love to work at the bank.
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: I went on my first date with my boyfriend three
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: months ago. Originally, he told me he was just looking
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: for friends with benefits, which I was okay with. For
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: about a month, we just slept together and sometimes went
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: out to eat together, but nothing serious. He also slept
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: with at least two other girls during this time. He's
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: a very attractive lawyer, so naturally women tend to flock
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: to him.
• 45:41
  Speaker 4: Yes, everyone flocks to lawyers.
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: So I'm confused. Why? You knew all of this going in.
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: Why did you further commit to this guy who was
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: clearly starting all of this as just a, yeah, I
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: just want random people who are into me?
• 45:59
  Speaker 4: Well, that sometimes can transition into something more. I've known
• 46:04
  Speaker 4: people who, you know, were casual and then they were like, oh,
• 46:09
  Speaker 4: we actually like each other a lot. And now they're
• 46:11
  Speaker 4: in long term committed relationships.
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: We'll see if that's what happens here. Finally, I told
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: him I didn't want to be his friends with benefits anymore.
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: And he asked if I wanted to be exclusive. And
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: I agreed.
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: Wait, that's really funny.
• 46:26
  Speaker 4: That's really funny because the way that I'm interpreting that
• 46:29
  Speaker 4: conversation originally was I don't want to be friends with benefits. Oh,
• 46:33
  Speaker 4: do you want to be exclusive?
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: Thank you for asking.
• 46:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 46:38
  Speaker 4: He's like, no, no, no. I'm just clarifying.
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: I have a sneaking suspicion. He was just like, yeah, sure.
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: If that's what you want to hear. Sure. If that's
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: what you want, if that's what you need to hear,
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: we're exclusive. By the way, you need to hear this
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: comes from a deleted user. But you can submit your
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: own stories on the r slash ok story time subreddit.
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 46:58
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: And we're going to read this story and give our
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: advice and give it goofily and hopefully good. But we
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: don't always know everything. We are filling in a lot
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: of holes here. We're like the movie holes, but the
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: opposite of it.
• 47:11
  Speaker 4: We're like the movie holes, but if we came at
• 47:13
  Speaker 4: the end of the movie holes and filled in all
• 47:16
  Speaker 4: the holes that they dug.
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: We are the movie silo.
• 47:19
  Speaker 4: Silo?
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: S-E-L-O-H. The opposite of holes. Anyway, OP says, he's nice
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: enough to me and does a lot of romantic gestures,
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: but I get the feeling he's still not over his ex.
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: My feelings were confirmed when I overheard him talking to
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: his friends the other day. I was asleep in his
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: apartment after a long day at work, and he had
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: friends over in the living room. They were playing video
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: games and having some brewskis, just typical guy stuff. But
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: I woke up about an hour later and just laid
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: in bed looking at my phone. His bedroom's right next
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: to the living room, so I could hear much of
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: the conversation. A guy was asking him about the new
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: girl he was dating, and then another friend was like, man,
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: you must be absolutely devastated to break up with a model.
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: Then he said, she has a thicker body than your ex.
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: My boyfriend responded, I like skinny girls better, though. His
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: friend said, agreed. Your ex was way hotter. My boyfriend
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: responds with, that's for sure.
• 48:21
  Speaker 4: Oh, and I'm gone. And that's the end of that relationship.
• 48:25
  Speaker 6: Mm-hmm.
• 48:26
  Speaker 3: Oh, boy.
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: Then he says something about how I'm just a basic
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: white girl and they all laugh. Yeah, so just start
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: packing up. If you've got anything in the bathroom, if
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: you've got anything in the closet, go ahead and grab it.
• 48:38
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: You know? And just, you don't even need to say anything.
• 48:42
  Speaker 4: No, you just leave.
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: You give them complete silence and you know what? That'll
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: drive them the craziest probably.
• 48:48
  Speaker 4: If you don't acknowledge that he's done this and you
• 48:51
  Speaker 4: just fully leave, ooh.
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: What a blow to the ego he got broken up
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: with by the basic white girl.
• 48:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: Oh, no.
• 49:00
  Speaker 4: Honestly, if I were good at controlling my emotions in
• 49:05
  Speaker 4: this situation, if you could do that, no indication that
• 49:09
  Speaker 4: I've heard this conversation. You either, you either, I mean,
• 49:12
  Speaker 4: I don't like ghosting in any situation, but if you could,
• 49:16
  Speaker 4: you're up to having a conversation, you go to him
• 49:19
  Speaker 4: and you say, hey it's just not working out i
• 49:22
  Speaker 4: just i'm not really feeling a romantic connection with you
• 49:25
  Speaker 4: i just like i don't see this going.
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: Anywhere yeah don't even do that just say i'm done
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: with you just say i'm done with you actually I'm
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: going to go. I'm done with you. You don't need
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: to call. You don't need to text. I'm done. My
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: heart absolutely shattered after hearing him say that. I started
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: crying and put on headphones to drown out their conversation.
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: After they left, my boyfriend came in to check on
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: me and I told him I heard them talk about me.
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: He looked surprised and said, I heard wrong. I told
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: him I heard every single word, Mr. Lawyer. Then instead
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: of making excuses, he said, don't be so dramatic. I'm
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: with you because I like you. Who cares if she's
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: objectively hotter? It doesn't matter. See, now, buddy, you're shifting
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: the goalposts because that's not what this is about. Yeah.
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: This is about the way you talked about your partner
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: with your friends.
• 50:11
  Speaker 4: It's about you laughing about how I looked.
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: I said, that's beyond the point. And that I'm hurt
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: he called me basic. But he says something about how
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: my heavy makeup and the way I dress makes me
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: look like every other girl on the street. That I
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: should try to be more natural. Again, shifting the goalposts.
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: Trying to make this a, well, I'm right and you
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: should change. Well, I'm right.
• 50:29
  Speaker 2: You are ugly.
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: I have no clue how it devolved into him roasting me.
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: I said I had enough, got dressed and left. He
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: texted me later asking if I was still on for dinner.
• 50:40
  Speaker 4: Guy is a piece of work.
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: I said I didn't feel like going. He got pissed
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: at me because he had to cancel his reservation and
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: said I should woman up and get over it. I
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: can't believe my boyfriend fails to see how much he's
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: hurt me. He's a lawyer. It's his job to not
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: care how much he hurts people.
• 50:58
  Speaker 4: It's just all he needs to do is get out
• 51:01
  Speaker 4: of the situation with his words, his tricksy little words.
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: Am I overreacting or is he being the rude one? Girl,
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: wake up. I want to throw you in the Inception
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: bathtub and wake you up from this dream that you're having.
• 51:15
  Speaker 4: Because you need a breakup. Wake up and break up.
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: Yesterday morning, I texted him with the reasons why I
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: found his words to be so hurtful, thinking he'd message
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: and apologize. However, I should have known that he'd just
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: ignore me. He left me on read for the whole
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: of yesterday and today. And finally, at night, he texted
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: me to say that he's been really busy at work
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: the past couple of days. Then he was like, can
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: I be honest with you? I'm really not feeling this,
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: so let's end it.
• 51:44
  Speaker 4: No, that was going to be you.
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: That should have been you.
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: Been on the fence about it for some time but
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: after our fight i knew that this wasn't right girl
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: you got done so dirty we have nothing left to
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: say really i don't.
• 51:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah there's like nothing you can do in this situation.
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: Hopefully you somehow hear this and know moving forward that's
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: how you should have handled it anyone out there please
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: know your worth so that's it you already unfollowed me
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: on instagram and unfriended me on facebook i was venting
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: to a friend incidentally his co-worker She told me that
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: he was kind of bummed out all day because he
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: found out his ex got a new boyfriend.
• 52:22
  Speaker 4: Oh, bummer. At least she pulled through.
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: This honestly sucks. I actually felt like we had something,
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: but I should have seen the red flags in hindsight,
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: of which there were many. I get it, though. Dude
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: dated a beautiful fashion model for five years. How can
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: he go back to being with a normal woman?
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: No.
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: I want to grab you by the shoulders and shake you.
• 52:45
  Speaker 4: You've learned the wrong lesson.
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: I want to grab you and shake you.
• 52:48
  Speaker 4: Wake up and smell the roses.
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: You're better than this man. You're better than this man.
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: Your worth as a person is not boiled down to
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: the way that you look.
• 52:57
  Speaker 5: No.
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: No, no, no. Now my head looks huge.
• 53:03
  Speaker 5: Moink.
• 53:03
  Speaker 2: Moink.
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: But unless he knows any other models, I guess we
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: mere mortals will have to do. That's the end of
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: that story.
• 53:10
  Speaker 4: Models are not gods. You're all mortals. You all offer something.
• 53:18
  Speaker 4: And this guy actually offers nothing.
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, nothing but just dating a complete scum. I mean, like,
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: what a rude, just a mean, rude, selfish man.
• 53:31
  Speaker 7: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
• 53:33
  Speaker 7: the next one. Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite good time
• 53:37
  Speaker 7: boy host here. We're going to get back to the stories,
• 53:39
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• 53:42
  Speaker 3: My girlfriend's parents say I stole rent from them, but
• 53:46
  Speaker 3: I never knew about it.
• 53:47
  Speaker 4: How could I have stolen it if I didn't know?
• 53:50
  Speaker 3: Background, my 21 female, girlfriend 21 female, and I are
• 53:55
  Speaker 3: now seniors in college and are discussing our future, but
• 53:58
  Speaker 3: we have an issue where her parents say I stole
• 54:01
  Speaker 3: from them and they won't acknowledge our relationship because they
• 54:03
  Speaker 3: don't want their daughter dating a thief. My girlfriend and
• 54:07
  Speaker 3: I met freshman year of college. We became best friends.
• 54:11
  Speaker 3: Sophomore year, she wanted to move off campus, and her
• 54:14
  Speaker 3: parents bought a condo for her to use.
• 54:16
  Speaker 4: That's nice.
• 54:18
  Speaker 3: The condo was a large two-bedroom condo. She asked if
• 54:21
  Speaker 3: I wanted to move in with her and pay rent.
• 54:23
  Speaker 3: Her parents agreed to pay utilities. I didn't want to
• 54:27
  Speaker 3: stay on campus and she was offering to charge me
• 54:29
  Speaker 3: the same rent I would be paying for a small
• 54:32
  Speaker 3: studio apartment in the city our college is located.
• 54:34
  Speaker 4: So I agreed.
• 54:36
  Speaker 3: The agreement was I pay her and she forwards the
• 54:38
  Speaker 3: money to her parents. Now here is where the issue arises.
• 54:43
  Speaker 3: When I moved in, I believe that we agreed to
• 54:45
  Speaker 3: a rent of, let's say.
• 54:48
  Speaker 2: $ 1, 500.
• 54:49
  Speaker 3: According to her parents, I agreed to $ 1, 600.
• 54:52
  Speaker 4: Do you have literally any proof of this, Opie?
• 54:56
  Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Am I the A-hole Thief?
• 54:59
  Speaker 3: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 55:00
  Speaker 3: to the r slash okay story time subreddit.
• 55:02
  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia.
• 55:04
  Speaker 3: And we're here to give some good advice in a
• 55:06
  Speaker 3: little goofy way, but we don't have all your answers.
• 55:08
  Speaker 3: We only tell you what we would do, but let
• 55:10
  Speaker 3: us know what you would do down in the comments.
• 55:12
  Speaker 3: As Opie says, I have lived with my girlfriend for
• 55:15
  Speaker 3: three years now, and I always paid $ 1, 500. The difference
• 55:20
  Speaker 3: came to light when she told her parents we are
• 55:22
  Speaker 3: now dating. Her parents were upset and told her that
• 55:26
  Speaker 3: she cannot date a thief. My girlfriend told me this
• 55:29
  Speaker 3: and I asked her to explain. Basically, when I first
• 55:32
  Speaker 3: paid her $ 1, 500, her parents asked about the difference. Girlfriend
• 55:37
  Speaker 3: was afraid to bring up the issue with me as
• 55:39
  Speaker 3: she didn't want us to start fighting over money as
• 55:41
  Speaker 3: we were close friends.
• 55:43
  Speaker 2: Oh my God.
• 55:44
  Speaker 4: So it's all your girlfriend's fault. It's completely your girlfriend's fault. Wow,
• 55:49
  Speaker 4: I would tell her, okay, can you go back and
• 55:51
  Speaker 4: tell your parents that you never told me? Like, coward,
• 55:55
  Speaker 4: come on.
• 55:56
  Speaker 3: She says she thought I might have just been low
• 55:58
  Speaker 3: on money, as my family isn't as well off as her,
• 56:02
  Speaker 3: and I was working a part-time job and using student
• 56:04
  Speaker 3: loans to help cover rent. She never told me about
• 56:07
  Speaker 3: the difference, and I continued to pay $ 1, 500 for the
• 56:10
  Speaker 3: entire time we have lived there. So now her parents
• 56:13
  Speaker 3: assume I stole almost $ 4, 000 from them.
• 56:15
  Speaker 4: Oh my god. Girl, and why is your girlfriend not
• 56:22
  Speaker 4: immediately going, no, no, no, no. I never told her.
• 56:25
  Speaker 4: I never told her. I said that $ 1, 500 was it. Yeah.
• 56:29
  Speaker 3: So that's my bad. I'll take the blame on that. Yeah,
• 56:32
  Speaker 3: that's crazy. It has gotten to the point that they
• 56:36
  Speaker 3: refuse to even acknowledge we are dating at all. My
• 56:39
  Speaker 3: girlfriend and I turned my room into an office as
• 56:42
  Speaker 3: we didn't need two bedrooms as we are now sharing
• 56:45
  Speaker 3: a bed. She told her parents and their response was
• 56:48
  Speaker 3: that maybe sleeping on the couch will get me to
• 56:50
  Speaker 3: pay them the money I owe. I cannot afford to
• 56:54
  Speaker 3: pay them $ 4, 000. My girlfriend acknowledges that. She should have
• 56:58
  Speaker 3: told me something but said her parents are adamant that
• 57:01
  Speaker 3: they get paid because they feel like I took.
• 57:03
  Speaker 4: Advantage of their generosity.
• 57:05
  Speaker 3: I don't want to blame my girlfriend and I doubt
• 57:07
  Speaker 3: her parents will accept my word but I feel like
• 57:09
  Speaker 3: I shouldn't have to pay them when I didn't realize
• 57:11
  Speaker 3: this was an issue.
• 57:13
  Speaker 4: So am I the a-hole.
• 57:14
  Speaker 3: For refusing to pay $ 4, 000 to my girlfriend's parents?
• 57:18
  Speaker 4: And there is an edit here. No, you're not.
• 57:22
  Speaker 2: No.
• 57:23
  Speaker 3: Because you did not know. So I, you're an oblivious a-hole.
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 57:29
  Speaker 4: But I don't even think you are the a-hole. You
• 57:30
  Speaker 4: didn't know. How are you supposed to know?
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: Nobody told you.
• 57:33
  Speaker 4: I mean, you can tell your girlfriend, have that conversation, say, hey,
• 57:35
  Speaker 4: I don't feel, I feel that it is unfair that
• 57:40
  Speaker 4: you never told me this was an issue. I feel
• 57:42
  Speaker 4: it is unfair that I am being told I owe
• 57:48
  Speaker 4: $ 4, 000 for expenses no one made me aware of. Why
• 57:54
  Speaker 4: did we not have a contract if your parents were
• 57:56
  Speaker 4: so sticklers on this? Yeah, all of these things are ridiculous.
• 58:01
  Speaker 4: You could say, you could try and email or ask
• 58:04
  Speaker 4: your girlfriend to pass on a letter and say, I
• 58:06
  Speaker 4: was not made aware that I was paying $ 4, 000 that
• 58:10
  Speaker 4: I wasn't paying enough going forward, I would be more
• 58:12
  Speaker 4: than happy to pay that amount. I cannot afford to
• 58:16
  Speaker 4: pay the $ 4, 000 blanket sum.
• 58:19
  Speaker 3: There's an edit here responding to some common questions. My
• 58:23
  Speaker 3: girlfriend has told them that she didn't bring it up
• 58:25
  Speaker 3: to me. They believe that she is just making excuses
• 58:28
  Speaker 3: for me and that I knew what the rent was.
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: Well, then.
• 58:33
  Speaker 4: I mean, then there's nothing you can really do. And
• 58:35
  Speaker 4: how is she telling them this?
• 58:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 58:37
  Speaker 4: She's like, well, no, O.P., It's like, no, straighten up.
• 58:42
  Speaker 3: There's a little bit left and I'm just going to
• 58:43
  Speaker 3: get right into it. We didn't do a formal lease.
• 58:46
  Speaker 3: It was all through phone calls and texts. We haven't
• 58:49
  Speaker 3: been able to find any texts as they all occurred
• 58:51
  Speaker 3: freshman year. I know we were stupid not to do
• 58:54
  Speaker 3: a lease, but we didn't think it was necessary. After
• 58:57
  Speaker 3: the first conversation and girlfriend deciding not to bring it up,
• 59:01
  Speaker 3: the issue slipped her mind. She swears her parents never
• 59:04
  Speaker 3: brought it up again until she told them we were dating.
• 59:08
  Speaker 3: I had no idea this was an issue. my girlfriend
• 59:11
  Speaker 3: doesn't think i have to pay it but she's suggested
• 59:14
  Speaker 3: we pay it together because her parents won't let it
• 59:16
  Speaker 3: go or talk to me unless it's me apologizing for
• 59:19
  Speaker 3: taking advantage I honestly would move out.
• 59:29
  Speaker 4: I would move out. You don't owe them anything.
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: I would move out.
• 59:32
  Speaker 4: I would get a new place. You said that you
• 59:34
  Speaker 4: could find a place that was equivalent. I would move out.
• 59:38
  Speaker 4: I would say, I don't want to feel like I'm
• 59:39
  Speaker 4: indebted to your parents. I never signed a lease. There
• 59:43
  Speaker 4: is no proof that I owe them this money. nor
• 59:46
  Speaker 4: was I ever told I owed them this money until
• 59:48
  Speaker 4: right now, and I feel like they're just going to
• 59:51
  Speaker 4: hold this over my head.
• 59:52
  Speaker 3: And also, I think it is a little bit closet
• 59:55
  Speaker 3: guarded for some reason. Yeah, they waited until OP, and
• 59:59
  Speaker 3: they're like, oh, they're dating, and they're like, hmm.
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 4: Hmm, actually, you owe $ 4, 000 for being J with a G.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 4: Like, it's just your J with a G tax.
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 3: And also, I mean, there's no paper trail, so like, Technically,
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 3: they could even if they try to like bring it
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 3: to court or something like bring this into like an
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 3: official hearing or whatever, they have no proof of it.
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 3: So I think you're in the clear, but I would
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 3: move out, though, just so there's no issue and whatever
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 3: you can don't have to deal with them.
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story.