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Truth Set Free Q&A · Crosswalk

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Jesus tells us to take up our cross and follow
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Him. You're listening to Crosswalk with Pastor
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Steve Winnery. Crosswalk is the radio ministry
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of Calvary Chapel Tri -Cities and it is our aim
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to lead you to the cross through the teaching
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of God's Word. Today's crosswalk is pre -recorded
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from True Set Free. All right, here we go. Are
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you ready? Yeah, I'm ready. First one, I'm working
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hard to be patient and kind with my teen even
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when he is disgruntled daily. He knows Scripture
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and reminds me the need to be giving him grace
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even when his behavior is atrocious. I do want
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to show him God's heart and his mercy and grace.
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in his bad attitudes, but it's becoming increasingly
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difficult. Pastor Steve, do you have any advice?
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You know, is this a man or a woman? I think it's
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a mom, but I actually I don't know for sure.
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I would advise you to read him Ephesians chapter
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six, where it talks about a a child needs to
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obey his parents, which is the first commandment
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with a promise. And the promise is that you'll
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have a long life. And I'm kind of joking around
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about that in the sense that it is a threat in
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scripture in the sense that if you don't obey
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your parents, then there's a good chance that
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awful things are gonna end up happening to you.
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And there's some passages in the book of Proverbs
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that talk about you need to discipline your kids.
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You need to beat them with a rod because if you
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beat them with a rod, you will save their soul
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or save them from hell. It's not talking about
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keeping somebody out of hell as we describe it,
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the word for hell. in the passages, Hades, it's
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the idea of delivering your son from death. And
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so children that are disobedient to parents,
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you know, this is this is always the issue with
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with these guys. And, you know, you you worked
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in the jail system. It's always the issue with
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these guys. They end up in awful places doing
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awful things. And they have a short life. And
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that's what the passage is talking about. So.
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Kids need to be disciplined. And you know, the
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issue with a teenager, if you're, if you're a
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woman, um, it's, it's hard at that point because,
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um, he's, he, I don't know if he knows it yet.
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He probably does, but he's stronger than you.
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And, and, um, it's like, uh, what's a woman going
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to do against, you know, with a, with a son that
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can. I saw that switch in my, in my son's brain
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at 12. Yeah. Yep. That's about the time it switched
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to my brain too. I remember that's the that's
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the point where I started looking at my mom and
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going She she had know what she's talking about,
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you know, and there was some truth to that it's
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not true true with your son and your wife, but
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In any case, okay, so you gotta get kind of got
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to get a handle on it if he knows scripture then
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I would be showing him his responsibilities.
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He doesn't need to be showing you yours. You're
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the parent, he's the child. And he needs to understand
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what it is to honor his mother. Honor is a big
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fat deal with men. And hopefully there's a dad
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in the picture. If there's not a dad in the picture,
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hopefully there's some man that you might be
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able to get to talk. with him about this kind
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of stuff. Actually, my nephew actually came up
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and stayed with me for a week, might've been
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two weeks, because he was having some issues
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at school and some issues with his family and
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he came up and he just hung out with me and he
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worked with me and we talked about honor quite
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a bit. just how you're supposed to be treating
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people and how you're supposed to be treating
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your parents and and and things like that and
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So even even my family members have used me for
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that kind of situation and I would be looking
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for somebody in his life. That's a man that can
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Tune him up guys need to be tuned up. Yeah, I
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was gonna say one of the things I've seen in
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the teens especially is that people don't realize
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the influences that are coming in that are encouraging
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or motivating this type of behavior and they
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they do the parenting thing in the sense of talking
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to them but they don't remove any of the pressures
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and the social media and the influences and the
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friends and the environment that causes a lot
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of this this attitude you show me your friends
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i could show you your your future yeah you know
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it's like yeah there's a there's a lot of that
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uh that that goes on and so Um, and you know,
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like you're talking about stuff that, you know,
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people are seeing on the, on their screens and
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things like that. It's, you know, it's all part
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of the parenting thing. And, uh, um, I don't
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know, you know, if you, if you're a single mom,
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it's just, it's just hard. You know, it just
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is. And, uh, that's, that's why, uh, if that's
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the case with you, that's why I'm counseling
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you to, um, maybe find a guy that can, can speak
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into his life, uh, in that kind of sense, somebody
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that he'll listen to. and in respect and Tune
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-ups are good for guys, you know one of the things
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that I did get in trouble but one of the things
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that kept me out of trouble with sports and coaches
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and I had one coach that tuned me up right well
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one time and beat the snot out of me, you know,
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and he and he did it, you know that I had pads
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on and the things but Yeah, he tuned me up right
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well, and then you know gave me you know that
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put me in a position where I could excel and
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He was a good guy in any case You know you If
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you're in a situation where where you're the
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mom and pretty much you're the only disciplinarian
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you got to you got to be praying and asking God
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to Help you out and step in but I would flip
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that around on your boy and You need to do some
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studies on what the scripture has to say about
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a child's relationship with his parents and specifically
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honoring your father and mother. You can get
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on blueletterbible .com or dot org. I think it's
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dot org. Get on blueletterbible .org and it's
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got some Bible tools where you can literally
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get on there and look up passages in the Bible
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to help you out with. uh, you know, what the,
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what the scripture says about, um, uh, how to,
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how to, uh, deal with, uh, with a child. Um,
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also the book of proverbs, um, uh, my wife has
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a book that she uses for the kids in our school
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and it's called proverbs for pair. Nope. Yeah.
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Proverbs for parenting, uh, proverbs for parenting.
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And I don't know who the author is, but, uh,
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it goes through and gives you. It's a great resource
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to be able to look up really quickly proverbs
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that have to do with young men. I'll give you
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a heads up on where you need to look in the book
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of Proverbs. Chapter one through 10 of the book
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of Proverbs is Solomon talking to his son and
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dealing with all the issues that men deal with,
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young men deal with. especially when they start
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getting older, when they start getting to the
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teen years. And so you'll find a lot of really
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good wisdom in there if you go through and read
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that passage, Proverbs chapter one through 10.
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Awesome. All right, moving along here, my next
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one. If Israeli law was death for committing
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adultery, why was David and others not put to
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death for Bathsheba or other guys for having
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multiple wives? Well, a multiple wives thing
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is not adultery. Adultery is when a man sleeps
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with a woman who's married to another man or
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vice versa. And so when you're talking about
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multiple wives, the culture at the time and the
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Bible at the time of the Exodus specifically
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allowed for plural marriage. And again, it's
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because there was a cultural issue. that was
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going on there. The standard that God gave was
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one man for one woman, just like Jesus says in
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Matthew chapter 19. Specifically in the book
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of Deuteronomy, I think it's chapter 17, chapter
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16 or 17, it talks about the fact that kings
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are not supposed to multiply wives to themselves.
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It talks about don't multiply gold and silver
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to themselves, don't multiply wives, don't multiply
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horses. And it's the idea that you don't do like
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the kings in the pagan lands. And unfortunately,
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with most of the kings, of Israel, they just
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disregarded that. And so, Saul, for example,
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had multiple wives. David obviously had multiple
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wives. Solomon went crazy on the multiple wives
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thing. And you see that on down through the kings
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of Israel until they come back from Babylon.
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And by the time you get to the New Testament
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times, you don't really have that going on in
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ancient Israel. Now, you know, they've gotten
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back to what the word actually has to say. And
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so as far as why God allowed it at the very beginning,
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it was the kind of thing where you had a culture
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of that with the Jews when they went into Egypt.
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And so Jacob had multiple wives. Abraham had
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multiple wives. Isaac did not. Joseph did not.
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And so you've got some some guys who are actually
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obeying what scripture has to say or what God's
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designed for marriage had to say. But when the
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people of Israel are coming out of Egypt, you've
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got these situations where, again, culturally
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speaking, some of these guys have married multiple
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wives. And this is still a problem in places
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like Africa. So you become a Christian, you have
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three wives. What are you going to do with your
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wives? because again, specifically because of
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cultural issues. It's not like America in the
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sense that a woman can just be with a man and
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then go and be with another man and he's okay
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with it. You can put ladies in real awful situations
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if you do that. And so generally speaking, when
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missionaries are dealing with that issue, A lot
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of times what they counsel the men to do is continue
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to take care of the women that they've married,
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but be committed to the first wife that they're
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married to. And again, just take care of the
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rest of the wives as long as they want to live
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in the household. And it's an accommodation to
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the situation that the women are in because You
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open a can of worms when you when you get outside
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of what scripture says Yeah, and we we have a
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number of those issues that we go through in
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our culture also and so that's that's what that
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was for what God did with the Kings was he got
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rid of the multiple wives thing the the The plan
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that God had was to do it from the top down basically
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the leadership would have be the example of how
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marriage was supposed to go. And that finally
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became the case. It just wasn't the case at the
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time of. Saul and it wasn't the case at the time
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of David. These guys had no excuses for this
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because one of the things that scripture also
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says is that they were to take and make themselves
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a copy of the first five books of the law, well
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the law itself, first five books of the Bible.
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And so they would have known the passages anytime
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that you're... writing down one verse after another
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verse after, you're going to know the Bible really
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well. And so if they had done that, they would
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have known these things and they wouldn't have
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gotten caught up in some of the sin that they
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were caught up in. David's sin specifically was
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adultery. And so David and Bathsheba, that's
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adultery. And one of the things that David says
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in Psalm 51 when he's confessing his sin is specifically,
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he says that there's no sacrifice that he can
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give for that. You don't have a sacrifice in
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scripture for transgression. You have sacrifice
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in scripture for accidental sin in the sense
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of I didn't mean to do it, I fell into it, I
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blew it, you know, kind of thing. Not I knew
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I wasn't supposed to do it and I went for it.
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And so it's not that God can't forgive transgression,
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the Bible says that he can. There's just no sacrifice
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for it in the Old Testament law. And so when
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you're looking at Davidson, he recognizes that
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he deserves death because of what he's done.
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And practically speaking, uh, the reason that
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nobody would put him to death is political. That's,
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that's what it would get down to. Yeah. Who's,
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who's going to come up and kill David. And, um,
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you have the same thing with Solomon. Who's going
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to come up and kill that guy. Uh, I can't say
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that about Solomon because he, there's, there's
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no evidence that he committed adultery, but David
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specifically, um, who's, who's going to do that
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with him. And so, um, and you see repentance
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in David's life and because of his repentance,
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God forgives him, but, um, he also has a sword
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on his household from that point on. And his
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household is a, is a complete wreck. Yeah. It's
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just a zoo from that point on. His, um, his daughter
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gets raped by her half brother and another half
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brother kills that guy. And, you know, um, uh,
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that's ab slum who does that. He ends up. starting
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a rebellion against David and you have a civil
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war that takes place and all kinds of awful things
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happen because of that sin. So it's not like
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they got away with it. But again, when you're
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looking at the consequences for sin, they weren't
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always meted out. So yeah, that's the record.
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All right, I got, I think Marcy is the name on
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this from YouTube, Pastor Steve, and she says,
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I have a question about good works. It's literally
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how I do life, but have heard the whispers of,
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and piecing some things together here, of, well,
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she thinks she can buy her way to heaven. And
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she goes on and says a couple more things and
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ends it with, I know my reward is in heaven.
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It's just a really yucky feeling coming from
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someone who assumes to know better than my good
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works. What does the Bible say about your works
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getting you to heaven? Your works don't get you
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to heaven. Your works are a result of the fact
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that you're going to heaven. And so the Bible
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talks about good works in a Christian's life.
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Let me give you a passage. This is in Titus chapter
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3. Let me get there. And so It says starting
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in verse 3 we ourselves were also once foolish
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disobedient deceived Serving various lesson pleasures
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living in malice and envy hateful and hating
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one another But when the kindness and the love
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of God our Savior toward men appeared not by
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works of righteousness, which we have done But
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according to his mercy he saved us through the
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washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy
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Spirit And so that makes it clear that my good
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works are not something that saves me It goes
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on and says Through the Holy Spirit whom he poured
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out on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our
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Savior That having been justified by his grace
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and that means unmerited favor, you know Give
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it getting good things that you don't deserve
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and so therefore you can't work for it That having
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been justified by his grace we should become
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heirs according to the hope of eternal life This
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is a faithful saying and these things I want
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you to affirm constantly that those who have
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believed in God or trusted in God should be careful
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to maintain good works. These things are good
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and profitable to men. And so when you look at
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what the Bible says about good works in a believer's
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life, there are always things that come after
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salvation. So salvation is something that God
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does in your life when you trust in Christ. Salvation
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does not consist of doing good works so that
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God will reward you. with salvation. The Bible
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does talk about the fact that God rewards your
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good works. But again, those are not things that
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save you. There's a passage, another passage
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in Ephesians chapter two that basically puts
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us all in the same order that you see. with Paul
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in Titus chapter three, and it says this, for
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by grace you have been saved through faith, and
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again, grace is getting good things you don't
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deserve, through faith, and that not of yourselves,
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talking about that salvation, it is the gift
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of God. And then he says specifically, not of
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works, lest anyone should boast, for we are his
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workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good
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works, which God prepared beforehand that we
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should walk in them. So the the picture that
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you get there is you give your life to Christ
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you you exercise faith in Jesus and you trust
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in him and Your life is changed and then God
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has this plan for you that he wants to wants
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you to enter into and that plan includes Doing
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things that are godly and and it's just a natural
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fruit of having a real relationship with Christ
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Here's here's another passage in Romans chapter
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4 Paul is talking about Abraham's righteousness
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and the fact that it was apart from works and
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he says in chapter 4 verse 1 what then shall
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we say that Abraham our father has found according
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to the flesh for if Abraham was justified by
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works he has something to boast about but not
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before God for what does the scripture say Abraham
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believed God and it was accounted to him for
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righteousness Now to him who works, the wages
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are not counted as grace but as debt. And the
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point that he's making here is if you're working,
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then you can't call the salvation something that
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comes as a gift. Because it's not a gift, it's
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wages. And so if you're working, then it's wages
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and God owes you. But to him who does not work,
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verse five, but believes on him who justifies
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the ungodly, His faith is accounted for righteousness.
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And he goes on and he talks about David in the
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same passage and lets you know that David went
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through the same things. And again, not of works.
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Last verse over in Romans chapter 11. Let's see.
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In starting in verse five, it says, even so at
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this present time, there's a remnant according
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to the election of grace. And again grace means
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getting good things you don't deserve unmerited
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favor and if by grace Then it's no longer of
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works. Otherwise grace is no longer grace But
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it is if it is of works. It's no longer grace.
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Otherwise work is no longer work and so he makes
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a a clear distinction between the whole idea
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of works versus grace. And so salvation is by
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grace. It's something that I don't deserve that
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God gives to me because I've trusted in him.
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Works are something that are an outgrowth of
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the salvation that I have. I do things that God
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wants me to, not because I need to impress God
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or get myself into heaven or. do anything along
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those lines. I do those because I love him and
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I want to please him. It's like a relationship.
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If you have a situation where you're married
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and you're constantly working to try to earn
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your wife's love or to earn your husband's love,
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you've got a tweaked marriage. That is not the
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way that it's supposed to work. But on the other
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hand, if you're married and you could care less
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what they think about you, and you just do what
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you please and you're constantly doing exactly
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the opposite of what your husband or wife would
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have you do, you've got a tweaked marriage. That's
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not something that's gonna last. The way that
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it's supposed to go is, I love my wife and so
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therefore, because I love her, I wanna do good
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things for her. And that's the same picture that
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you have with Jesus in the church. We do things
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for Jesus, not because we have to or because
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it gains us brownie points in heaven. We do things
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for Jesus because we love him. And again, it's
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a natural outgrowth of that love for him. That's
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what I do for my wife. I love my wife, and so
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therefore I do things that are pleasing to her.
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Not all the time, but I do. So. There you have
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it. Yeah. Alright, moving to Israel. Can you
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give us an update on Israel and how the Iran
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situation, if at all, applies to the end times?
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And then I'm going to throw this one in there
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because it's the same type of thing. The other
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question says, the United Kingdom just put sanctions
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on Israeli companies that are doing or promoting
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illegal settlement expansions in Gaza. That's
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