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#97 - How to Access the Rooms of Your Mind to Articulate Your Opinion · Brandon Fogal Evolution

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  How do we articulate what we really believe?
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  Do you ever find yourself struggling with, first of all, what do I think on
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  the matter, whatever the issue is?
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  How do I access those rooms in my mind and find what I really think about it?
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  And then how do I get it to the point that it comes out of my mouth?
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  How do we articulate our opinions in a way that is substantial and just rocks
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  the room that makes people turn their head and want to look.
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  I'm going to attempt to do that, but I'm going to attempt to explain what I think on this.
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  And you're going to see me stumble and bumble through some things,
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  but I want to show you that everybody has that.
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  Everybody has those things that they struggle with in explaining what they believe.
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  We're all in this same boat, and some people have it better than others,
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  and some people are just blessed and gifted in a way that it comes more natural to them.
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  My name is Brandon Fogle. This is Evolution.
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  We're going to take, this is going to be a little bit different than my normal shows.
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  So I hope you buckle up. We got a lot to cover today, but it starts with this.
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  How do we, first of all, how do we find what we really believe?
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  How do we, because a lot of life is just us listening to others,
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  us listening to people who we think are the authorities on the matter,
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  as opposed to what do I really think?
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  We go to people that we think have more experience, that they've spent the time
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  more to think about it so that we don't have to think.
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  And a lot of times it becomes a really surface level on the things that we,
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  when given the opportunity to say it, it doesn't come out the way that we really want it to come out.
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  And I find myself struggling with this all the time. Do you ever have that where
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  you just, you're like, you think you, I have it every day because I'm doing this every day.
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  I'm like, why did I say it that way? Why did my mouth not say the right word?
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  Why, why am I constantly reaching for words as opposed to, because all of us
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  in our brains, our brains are amazing things.
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  We, they're like a library. that we only access probably about 10% of our brain.
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  That's what I always hear, 10% of our brain.
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  How do we access more of it? How do we open those rooms that seem locked up at times?
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  And how come some people can, the rooms in their house are like lit up more than others?
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  Because I find myself, I think people, it's bandwidth, what bandwidth you have
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  in your brain that you are able to reach and find and what you really think on a matter.
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  But it's also being able to pull those words from your head and to be able to
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  put them in language because language is, it unlocks everything.
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  If we can speak it, it opens our mind to greater realities out there.
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  Things that we think are just basically the very surface of our world.
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  There's so much more going on that if we aren't able to speak about it,
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  And this goes into a lot of us receive a lot more input than output.
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  And I would say to access those rooms in your mind, you have to do it over and over.
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  You have to create more output in your own world, in your own space,
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  whether that's just talking out loud to yourself and going about your day.
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  I mean, people, you know, you get a lot of bad rap, you know,
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  people saying, oh, he's just talking to himself. You know, he's always talking
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  to himself. What a loser.
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  What a loser. He's just talking to himself. Maybe not everybody's watching,
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  but maybe just instead of watching the news or instead of watching whatever it is, a movie.
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  And just absorbing it all in or even a podcast because I find myself all the
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  time I'm listening to stuff and I think I'm getting smarter.
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  I'm reading stuff and I think I'm getting smarter as opposed to really figuring
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  out how much I really know on whatever it is I think I know and start talking about it.
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  And I think whenever you start talking it out and you start living it out,
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  you're going to find things that you didn't know.
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  It's just, it's really, is it tough for you want to hear somebody speak whenever
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  they can't just get to the point or when they can't make sense,
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  their argument or what they're saying doesn't have structure.
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  I struggle with that all the time. I struggle with that all the time.
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  And I look at people and we're going to take a look at one person in particular.
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  I put a couple of links in the description you can look at of something that
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  really helped me in this.
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  But also, I'm always talking about Alex O'Connor. He's a person that can really
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  just articulate what he believes and his opinions and all that.
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  And that's what it can resonate with people because he's able to communicate
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  it so effectively. But like, why can he do that?
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  And somebody else doesn't naturally come, doesn't have that.
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  I think it's just this body that we have.
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  And these cobwebs in our head, they're just blocking up the rooms.
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  And it's like, it's not as clear.
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  There are things out there that you can take that can open your mind.
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  I wish there was a limitless pill, like Bradley Cooper, the movie,
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  where he takes that and it's just, he can think and see clearly.
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  I wish there was that. But there are things like that.
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  There are similar medicine or just natural supplements you can take that can
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  give that effect to your mind.
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  Because we all have it in us. We all have that back in our mind.
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  And we can find it if we start speaking it out, if we start talking it out and
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  making it known what our opinions are.
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  We're going to take a look at, I'm going to take this short clip from Alex O'Connor
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  and him in the middle of a podcast that he had with Sam Harris and him just
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  saying, I don't even know where these words are coming.
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  I don't know how, I'm not even thinking about them. They're just naturally flowing out.
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  There's just this, I open my eyes and there's just this image and I open my
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  ears and there are just these words.
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  And there's a sense in which when I'm speaking right now, I'm not calculating
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  every word that's coming out of my mouth. I'm not thinking about every sentence.
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  These words, where the hell are they coming from? They are just going.
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  I didn't know I was about to say the word going. It just came out, right?
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  And you have no idea how you said it. And when you fail to say it,
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  if you forget it for a moment and you struggle to find a word or you say the
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  wrong word, that too is mysterious.
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  Your success is mysterious and your failure is mysterious. but it makes it so fascinating.
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  Okay. So that is remarkable to me.
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  Because I'm always, I'm always listening to people as I know everybody is that
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  who you admire, who you think, who you, you aspire to be.
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  You want, you want to glean something from them.
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  But how do we in our real life get above, get down below the surface and find
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  out what it is we truly believe.
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  We, we need to think about issues and we need to talk it out because the more
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  we talk it out and just speak what we think, you know, it might not,
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  it might not resonate with everybody and your opinion might not immediately
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  resonate with everyone because you might be able to not communicate it as effectively.
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  As you see, I struggle with that all the time. But as anyone that is a practicing
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  speaker, and we all are, no matter
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  wherever you are, you are practicing becoming a better communicator.
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  Because it doesn't matter how much knowledge or wisdom you have in your head,
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  you're not going to be able to pass that wisdom on to others if you're not able
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  to describe it and make it known what you really believe on whatever it is.
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  And I mean, this goes with like with public speaking, people get have that issue.
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  And I have that that struggle with that. You know, I would get nervous,
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  you know, because immediately when when everything's on you and eyes are on
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  you and people are looking at you,
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  you can start feeling a little squeamish and you can't think as straight and
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  you can't voice what you really mean on the matter.
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  And you just struggle through it. I struggled through it, but I think we have
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  to put ourselves in uncomfortable positions so that.
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  I mean, daily put ourselves in uncomfortable positions and over and over,
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  just make it as uncomfortable as possible so that it's not as uncomfortable
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  as possible for the recipient, for everybody else.
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  People that do this all the time, that are just out there and speaking.
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  I just know that a lot of times we just, and I don't want this to be just projection
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  because this might not be what you're thinking at all and how you see the world
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  at all or how you see language and being able to communicate your opinions at all.
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  You might not feel the same way, but I want to be, I want to unlock the mysteries
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  of our mind because our mind is so deep and rich.
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  There's so much there and it doesn't matter how strong and like just a wellspring
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  of wisdom and life that we have in there, if we're not able to describe it,
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  we're going to be unsatisfied.
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  We're going to be, see me, I'm struggling for words. I'm struggling for words.
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  Like what's my vocabulary? And I don't think it really, we have to say the exact,
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  the perfect right thing at every moment.
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  I think we just need to continue to talk about it.
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  We need to continue to describe to others the world that we're in because we're all in our own world.
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  We need to, because people that are great at things are able to make things
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  simple, taking the complex and making it simple and understandable.
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  And I want, I want to get that way. I want to, and I'm so stubborn about
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  I'm going to somehow figure out a way to get that way.
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  I don't know if you've ever found
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  that in your life that you ever feel so stubborn that you refuse to lose.
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  And even though it might look like you're not winning, you refuse to lose and
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  you refuse to quit whatever it is that you're going through,
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  whatever it is in your life that you're battling through.
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  It's different for everyone. We all come to this world and we have our biases,
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  our opinions, but I think a lot of us, we don't really have our opinions.
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  We haven't hashed it out and formulated what it is.
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  We just, it's easy to be almost lazy in a sense and just think that we know
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  a lot more than we really do and think that we have a stronger opinion on something
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  than we might really do at this time.
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  And I think the more that you're able to think on these things and communicate
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  them, the more that you might see others going through something and you're
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  able to extend grace and say, and you're able to perceive what they are trying to get across.
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  You know, I think, I mean, I might look to you like a little child at times
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  because I'm like trying to get, trying to get a point across.
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  And maybe there's method to the madness. Maybe there is a sense that I need
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  to grow up. We need to grow up.
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  And instead of just receiving, start giving, start producing something that
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  others can benefit from.
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  And I think it is, we have to find out what we believe on certain matters and
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  not just be surface level.
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  That's what I've found. If you are in the same boat, if you are in the same
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  thought process that I'm at all, I would love to hear your opinion.
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  Put it in the comments, what you think. If you are a person that ever just struggles
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  with getting your point across, it just didn't come out the way I wanted.
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  It didn't come out the way I wanted it.
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  I get you. I totally get you. But I think it is over and over doing it,
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  continuing to just press on.
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  Battle through, do it when no one's looking so that when you have the attention
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  of others, because like Gary Vee always says, attention is the most valuable asset.
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  If you got someone's attention, don't waste it.
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  And I try not to waste anyone's attention. I try not to waste anyone's time.
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  And I know I'm not, not a microwave and I don't have like instant access,
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  you know, words of wisdom, but I think it's the repeated trial and error over
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  and over that will make me better at what I do.
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  And I, I think the same thing can go for everyone out there,
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  just doing it over and over and putting yourself in that uncomfortable position
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  so that when you, when your time
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  to shine happens and it might come unexpected. A lot of times it does.
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  It just, It just happens in your face. You're not ready for it.
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  I think we got to just struggle through the wilderness at times so that when
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  we step into the light, we're going to be able to give those words of wisdom
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  at the right time to someone that needs it.
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  But this might be a perfect example of not being able to articulate what I want to articulate.
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  And I think it's just because a lot of it's not just repeatedly over just thinking
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  on it because no matter how much I think I know something, until I start talking
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  it out, I start for everyone to see maybe how much I don't know.
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  A wise person can look like a, a person can look wise if they keep their mouth shut.
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  But I don't think you're going to, you might feel wise by keeping your mouth
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  shut, but you're not going to be a person that's going to change the world by
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  keeping your mouth shut.
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  You're going to be a person that just floats through life and maybe it doesn't
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  get what you really want out of it.
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  And we only have this one life to live. So I want to get as much out of as possible.
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  And I bet you do as well. All right.
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  Well, we'll leave it at that. Let me know what you think.
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  I'm going to keep going. I'm too stubborn to stop. And I hope you keep going
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  as well. And I hope you keep evolving to that best version of you.