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Woman Run The World (Loren's trip with Femmitforward Cruise) · The Breakfast Club

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Speaker 1: I'm a homegrow that knows a little bit about everything
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Speaker 1: and everybody. You know, if you don't lie about that, right,
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Speaker 1: Lauren came, Hey, y'all, what's up It to Lauren de
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Speaker 1: Rosa And this is the latest with Lauren de Rosa.
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Speaker 1: This is your DELI dig on all things pop culture, entertainment, news,
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Speaker 1: and all of the conversations that shake the room. Baby.
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Speaker 1: If I'm checking in behind the scenes of the grind,
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Speaker 1: we are definitely on the roll with the conversations. I
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Speaker 1: told you guys, I would be bringing you more sit
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Speaker 1: down conversations. I'm finally back in New York from the
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Speaker 1: Finland at Sea Forward cruise that I did, and I'm
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Speaker 1: not I got rest last night.
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Speaker 2: I was like, and I didn't feel guilty about it.
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Speaker 2: I got rest last night.
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Speaker 1: I wasn't up all night preparing for the podcast or
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Speaker 1: you know, any other thing that I do. This morning,
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Speaker 1: I woke up a bit earlier though it was up
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Speaker 1: at three am. Normally, you know, I get a little
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Speaker 1: hour or two more. But yeah, like, I'm in a
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Speaker 1: very centered space and I want you guys to be
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Speaker 1: able to really experience the cruise with me, so you
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Speaker 1: know where that centric space is coming from. One of
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Speaker 1: the conversations that I had while on the cruise was
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Speaker 1: with Krystal Renee Haslett, you know from Zatima. She's also
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Speaker 1: done work with Tyler Perry Studios and still does I believe,
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Speaker 1: I mean outside of just the show, but she was
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Speaker 1: like styling behind the scenes at one point. But you
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Speaker 1: know her because she is also on Black Effects. She's
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Speaker 1: one of her podcast cousins. She has the podcast Keep
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Speaker 1: It Positive, Sweetie and Baby her podcast audience. I told
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Speaker 1: y'all in one of the last episodes, they are they
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Speaker 1: show up for her. So my Lowriders, we got to
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Speaker 1: take a lesson out there book when we are ready
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Speaker 1: to do our live sit downs. All of that is
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Speaker 1: coming live podcasts are coming. But I wanted you guys
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Speaker 1: to hear some of the conversations. So I put together
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Speaker 1: a few of my favorite clips from the conversation because
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Speaker 1: it was just so impactful and everybody needs a little
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Speaker 1: bit of this.
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Speaker 2: Let's get into it.
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Speaker 1: So we talk a bit about just the journey through
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Speaker 1: all of the things, figuring out our life after TMZ
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Speaker 1: Breakfast Club, and we just have fun with the audience.
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Speaker 1: Then we had a conversation about showing up and looks
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Speaker 1: and how you show up. Because Crystal Renee Hazy, let
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Speaker 1: me tell y'all something about my girl.
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Speaker 2: Okay, she is pieces.
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Speaker 1: I saw a post of her on Instagram the other day,
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Speaker 1: baby big Bulltega Battie. Okay, the Bulltega. Like the designer
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Speaker 1: brand stuff, is it. I don't feel like you always
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Speaker 1: have to be a designer to be stylish. But y'all know,
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Speaker 1: I'm a fashioned girly, so I do love my brands.
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Speaker 1: But she puts together the pieces, whether they're super designer,
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Speaker 1: super expensive or not. But oh my gosh, she had
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Speaker 1: this bag on her Instagram the other day. Ah So
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Speaker 1: we talk a bit about it and have a little
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Speaker 1: bit of fun, and we also get in and then
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Speaker 1: we also get into the whole mean girl conversation. We
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Speaker 1: talk about whether these empowerment brunches and cruises, like are
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Speaker 1: they really effective or not? And of course we talk
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Speaker 1: about just everything ascension wise and things that you guys
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Speaker 1: have been seeing from me over the last year. She
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Speaker 1: brought up, you know, everything that tapping here on the show,
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Speaker 1: including the live HR meeting that wasn't supposed to happen
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Speaker 1: on their Let's sack a listen my girl.
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Speaker 3: Laura, Laura, let's go. Hey.
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Speaker 2: Oh wow, love, Like, okay, how are you.
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Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm blessed. I'm even really inspired by you.
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Speaker 2: Thank you. You're brow amazing. I'm serious. You know. I'm
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Speaker 2: new in the podcast space, your podcast cousins.
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Speaker 1: We are Yes Podcast Network, and I'm like, all these
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Speaker 1: people are here and they're excited, and I'm like, girl,
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Speaker 1: you you doing this?
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Speaker 2: You got my numbers? So oh, I'm gonna call you, y'all. Look,
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Speaker 2: I'll call you. I love it.
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Speaker 3: Well.
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Speaker 2: I was so excited to be here.
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Speaker 4: We kids off yesterday with Monica and we carry y'all.
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Speaker 2: Y'all found it so good. I don't really did what
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Speaker 2: has been your favorite moment so far? You know what.
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Speaker 2: I had a great time yesterday, like a real good time.
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Speaker 2: Probably could much fun.
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Speaker 1: But when I was walking on the cruise, like when
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Speaker 1: we were about to get thro all the check ins
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Speaker 1: and stuff, I was like, this is so flying.
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Speaker 2: It's so many black.
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Speaker 1: Women, and like we just called we're got to get
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Speaker 1: on this boat and just like do stuff that we'd
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Speaker 1: be doing. And you know what else, because y'all thought
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Speaker 1: we'd be doing the things. Okay, we're doing the things right.
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Speaker 1: But that's been my favorite part though, just walking in
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Speaker 1: and seeing all of us and then done was doing
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Speaker 1: a hot girl walk and y'all was singing and just
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Speaker 1: I thought Picha cold was here and it was just dark,
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Speaker 1: and I'm like, yo, we really really do be like
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Speaker 1: so full of because you can get so wrapped up and.
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Speaker 2: All the other stuff I make my job.
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Speaker 1: So just seeing that has been like such a I'm
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Speaker 1: like so inspired by having everybody you by, everybody that's
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Speaker 1: like here and just doing.
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Speaker 2: The things that we do.
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Speaker 4: There's so many women that I've ran into the I've
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Speaker 4: seen on Instagram that I followed it I'm inspired by.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my goodness, and they also keep yeah,
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Speaker 1: I got like they bye.
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Speaker 2: It's all little person and they're so sweet, Like everybody's
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Speaker 2: some time energy. I love it all right, Before we
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Speaker 2: take a deep dive in, I'm gonna break the ice
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Speaker 2: with a little rapid fire. Okay, it's gonna help us
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Speaker 2: get to know you a little bit. Okay, you're ready,
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Speaker 2: all right in the perfect world.
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Speaker 4: Heals sneakers are slides Hell's group chat voice note Queen
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Speaker 4: or I'll text you later.
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Speaker 2: Energy.
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Speaker 1: Try my voice stoves to be podcast voice notes.
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Speaker 2: So do they have like where you can act you fast,
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Speaker 2: like make speed of love? Now were you oh so? Now?
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Speaker 2: Maybe speeding through my voice notes. I'll be so.
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Speaker 1: Serious and they'd be a lot happen, and then I'll
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Speaker 1: come back with the oh my god, so I got
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Speaker 1: cut off in the last one.
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Speaker 2: Baby all thought I did not know that. Okay, I
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Speaker 2: must a girl like you on Instagram. I'm like top
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Speaker 2: six O, God give me through it. Okay, don't she girl?
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Speaker 1: Get up has been my my my thing. But for real,
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Speaker 1: I future a lot. I'll be I put up, like
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Speaker 1: when I want to for a little baby, what's the
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Speaker 1: one that's like, uh, I forget, what's the song? What's
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Speaker 1: the name of the song? It's hears so many of them,
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Speaker 1: but no, there's one song that I always listen to,
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Speaker 1: my little Baby, and it'd be like, how are you
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Speaker 1: gonna tell us.
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Speaker 2: We're never gonna look? What is it come out? It's
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Speaker 2: like you say something like we the ones so like
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Speaker 2: we're never gonna fall up a while. Don't know. I'll
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Speaker 2: figure it out later. But it's this little Baby song.
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Speaker 1: And I play that all the time. He talk about
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Speaker 1: pushing the but then it may back too. I think
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Speaker 1: I'll got the same song.
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Speaker 2: But yeah, little Baby Future, but don't she girl up
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Speaker 2: it up?
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Speaker 5: Huh?
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Speaker 1: I like that one too, So girl get up. She
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Speaker 1: has been my my theme song recently. And then at
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Speaker 1: one part where she'd be like, what's the agenda.
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Speaker 2: In the it girl black? That one? That little part
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Speaker 2: right there, that's I'll put.
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Speaker 1: It on all my songs and all of that because
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Speaker 1: I'll be feeling that, like, yeah, y'all be trying to
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Speaker 1: really play with us when we all hearing doing it up.
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Speaker 4: That's so true. That is so true. Are you the
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Speaker 4: friend who arrives early or fashionly.
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Speaker 2: Late lates, but you came around your day fashion with her?
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Speaker 1: I came early because I was here for my last obligation,
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Speaker 1: so I was like, all right, let me not go
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Speaker 1: find any bars because I might not be back on
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Speaker 1: the time. The little Baby song is called all In,
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Speaker 1: All In, Yes, that song. Sorry, I had to get
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Speaker 1: that outdicating to you. All right, here we go something.
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Speaker 1: People think it's glamorous about your career, but it's actually came.
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Speaker 2: Charles's sitting in the interviews and talking.
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Speaker 1: To people and everybody's like, oh my god, what's your
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Speaker 1: favorite interview, who's your favorite person to talk to? And
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Speaker 1: I'm like, it's a blessing. It's I'm maybe not chaotic,
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Speaker 1: but it's just like you don't ever know what you're
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Speaker 1: getting and you come into an interview is literally especially
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Speaker 1: because we it's four of us.
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Speaker 2: So it's like playing spades.
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Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, so it's like you know what, everybody's
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Speaker 1: like rolling the room and just died this video and
8:27
Speaker 1: it was so on point. You know, Charlotte's gonna go
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Speaker 1: into like the mental health stuff and like the really
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Speaker 1: deep things and and be going, okay, so take us
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Speaker 1: back to the beginning.
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Speaker 2: Just's gonna be funny and she's gonna ask and You're like,
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Speaker 2: how did that even come into your head?
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Speaker 1: Girl?
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Speaker 2: But it gives the interview character and color.
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Speaker 1: And then I come in with the news and the
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Speaker 1: media stuff and like that whatever was trending and things
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Speaker 1: they probably don't want to talk about. But you just
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Speaker 1: don't know what you're gonna get from a person, and
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Speaker 1: it can be a little nerve racket, even though we
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Speaker 1: make it look so easy. Yes, I always am like ooh,
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Speaker 1: I'm about to access them when I ask this, you
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Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, all right though, Yeah, I don't know.
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Speaker 2: I mean, you don't have choice. Yeah, no, my goodness.
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Speaker 4: Now I still get nervous when I do interviews.
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Speaker 2: He put them on, y'all. Hole, He's gonna put it on. Guys,
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Speaker 2: go tell me yeah, love me.
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Speaker 1: Okay. But my friend j Jay Von James, who like
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Speaker 1: stops me and tells creative direction and stuff for me.
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Speaker 1: He always tells me, you saving these office girl. Every
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Speaker 1: day is your day. He always try to stop stay the.
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Speaker 2: Office, but you can't show up here. Not right, No,
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Speaker 2: seems I said, m h, I'm crude.
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Speaker 1: That's what I'm talking about, us doing the things he'd
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Speaker 1: be doing.
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Speaker 2: There's in a lot of news here, y'all. Yes, I
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Speaker 2: just love us. Can I give it up? I love
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Speaker 2: it now, Lauren.
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Speaker 4: You've been thriving in the media space for years, but most.
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Speaker 2: Recently now you have this new position on the Breakfast
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Speaker 2: Club that we've all listened to for years. They watched
10:08
Speaker 2: as well. I want to know when you got the
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Speaker 2: news that this was actually your preferent position and you
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Speaker 2: were on this show, how did you prepare mentally or
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Speaker 2: were you already ready to walk into that space? Didn't
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Speaker 2: really come like that. How you go please do that?
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Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell them I don't sell y'all do that
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Speaker 2: one with you? Okay?
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Speaker 1: No, But so so let's go back to when I
10:37
Speaker 1: first got the yes just to have it was supposed
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Speaker 1: to be one day. I remember they were going to
10:42
Speaker 1: rotate and see they didn't know me from a canapaign,
10:44
Speaker 1: and I was doing everything I could just to like
10:46
Speaker 1: get a shot at the seat because I know I
10:48
Speaker 1: wanted to quit my job.
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Speaker 2: And I was like, cause.
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Speaker 1: I'm my background is a marketing so I'm like, okay,
10:53
Speaker 1: it's a rollout. So I'm gonna quit my job and
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna total the world that I quit my job
10:56
Speaker 1: on the breakfast club.
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Speaker 2: That's how I had it in my mind.
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Speaker 1: So when I finally got the guest the guest host,
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Speaker 1: they're like, oh, we'll give you a day because they
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Speaker 1: didn't know me, so they didn't know if I would
11:06
Speaker 1: come in there and my chemistry wouldn't.
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Speaker 2: Work with the guys or like whatever. And when I
11:10
Speaker 2: got the call and they were like, okay, you can
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Speaker 2: do the day. Actually you can do two days. That
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Speaker 2: I was like, Oh.
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Speaker 1: I was like, okay, this is the thing all right
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Speaker 1: fast forward, we get through all the process or whatever,
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Speaker 1: and I started to see the need Like when I
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Speaker 1: was there, before there was any real conversation, I just
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Speaker 1: started to feel like I could add value even if
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Speaker 1: I wasn't going to be on camera, because at that point,
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Speaker 1: I think we'd all knew like, okay, just it's going
11:37
Speaker 1: to be the thirst seed. And for me, I was
11:40
Speaker 1: just like, man, I gotta pay rent. I know I
11:41
Speaker 1: can add value whether I'm on camera or not.
11:44
Speaker 2: I'm open.
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Speaker 1: So I started seeing like, okay, production wise, here's like
11:49
Speaker 1: some things that I can add to.
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Speaker 2: This part of the show, to this part of the show,
11:52
Speaker 2: to this to that.
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Speaker 1: And one day we were talking after the show and
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Speaker 1: Charlotte Mane was like, do you think we could kind
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Speaker 1: of sense ourselves more like in the news space kind
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Speaker 1: of like TMG does. I said one hundred percent. And
12:04
Speaker 1: he was like, how do you think you could do
12:05
Speaker 1: it all? I was like, well, you need me and
12:11
Speaker 1: and then I was like and after that, it's easy
12:13
Speaker 1: because y'all have the culture.
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Speaker 2: Like working at tmcall.
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Speaker 1: Was there for eight years. It's like TMZ is really
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Speaker 1: great at what they do. Whether you love them or
12:22
Speaker 1: hate them or love how they do it or hate
12:23
Speaker 1: how they do it, and they lead conversation, so they're
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Speaker 1: always relevant.
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Speaker 2: But the breakfast.
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Speaker 1: Club is like that's where the heart is at, Like
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Speaker 1: that's home, you know what I mean. You trust them,
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Speaker 1: you want to hear from them, you care about them,
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Speaker 1: you care about their lives. And when I got in
12:36
Speaker 1: that room, and I saw that from the inside because
12:38
Speaker 1: I've been a fan of the show forever, so I
12:41
Speaker 1: knew that, but being in there, I'm like, oh, this
12:44
Speaker 1: is like really what culture is like when people talk
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Speaker 1: about the culture, I'm like, oh, this is really it.
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Speaker 1: It's the fact that people come here and they feel
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Speaker 1: safe and like the conversations are safe. They hard and tough,
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Speaker 1: sometimes are funny, but they're safe. So I was telling him,
12:57
Speaker 1: I'm like, man, there's nowhere when you look around right now,
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Speaker 1: who else can marry news possibly being first and leading
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Speaker 1: conversation with actual.
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Speaker 2: Culture and trust. There's nobody doing that.
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Speaker 1: You guys could be big, Like not be you guys
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Speaker 1: are I remember saying to.
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Speaker 2: Him, like do you not know who you are? Like
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Speaker 2: you're gonna gonna listen, Like Howard Stern could y'all do
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Speaker 2: with TMS?
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Speaker 1: Y'all could run circles with your eyes closed around at TMC.
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Speaker 1: You just need to figure out what the landscape is
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Speaker 1: and how you insert what you're already doing with what
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Speaker 1: I know how to do. And that was the first
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Speaker 1: conversation we had about it, and then it took some time.
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Speaker 2: I was doing a lot.
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Speaker 1: Of things for like no money, like for a long time,
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Speaker 1: probably for like months and months and months, And to
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Speaker 1: be honest, I didn't even start getting paid.
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Speaker 2: Until I came to like when Jess went my maternity lead.
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Speaker 1: That is what made it like a real thing, not
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Speaker 1: because she wasn't there, but because she said, hey, Lauren
13:51
Speaker 1: can come in and let her come in here, because
13:53
Speaker 1: they were trying to figure out what they're going to do.
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Speaker 2: Up until that point, we were trying to figure.
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Speaker 1: Out how I was even want to be able to
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Speaker 1: be paid to be behind the scene because money was
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Speaker 1: just like you know, right now, people aren't paying people
14:03
Speaker 1: and entertainment teams are shrinking. So when she did that
14:06
Speaker 1: and they were like, okay, cool, like let's make it
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Speaker 1: a thing, they were like, well, we got to find
14:09
Speaker 1: a way to pair. So at that point when I
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Speaker 1: came back, I was being paid. Finally, you know what,
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Speaker 1: I mean so like that was like and that was like.
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Speaker 2: A moment Like I remember I was in the car
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Speaker 2: with my.
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Speaker 1: Mom and I was listening to the show and I
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Speaker 1: heard just saying and I was.
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Speaker 2: Like, she's talking. I'm like yeah, yeah.
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Speaker 1: When I I was listening to the show and then
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Speaker 1: Charlotte made texted me and.
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Speaker 2: Said, hey, I don't know if you'd be interested.
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Speaker 1: But just said she would like you can come in
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Speaker 1: and be here while she's out if you're open to it.
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Speaker 1: And I was like, okay, cool, but I'm in a
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Speaker 1: car my mom taking her.
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Speaker 2: To like a check up. My mom start crying. I'm like,
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Speaker 2: what are you crying for? And she's like no, this
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Speaker 2: is just such a good thing.
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Speaker 1: Because I was trying to figure out a lot of
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Speaker 1: stuff at that point, like I had moved into an apartment.
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Speaker 2: I didn't even know how I was gonna phit the rent.
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Speaker 1: I didn't care cause I was like something's going to
14:54
Speaker 1: work and stuff out or I'm going.
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Speaker 2: To work it all. And then that happened.
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Speaker 1: So that kind of like so it was It's there's
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Speaker 1: been so many iterations of like here's a job, but
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Speaker 1: it didn't really happen. Like just with that one call, right,
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Speaker 1: So I hope that answered the question.
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Speaker 2: No, it didn't. Thank you for living as an insight
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Speaker 2: on that, because you touched.
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Speaker 4: On so many key points, one working for no money,
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Speaker 4: being in a position where.
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Speaker 2: You needed the money but was willing to do it.
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Speaker 4: For free until they decided to pay you, showing your value.
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Speaker 4: I think a lot of times we missed that moment,
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Speaker 4: like I just wanna.
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Speaker 2: Get here and forget the steps to get you there.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I wanna say something too, like when people
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Speaker 1: were talking about like doing things for free, it's like, Okay,
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Speaker 1: i'm'na do it until they pay me.
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Speaker 2: I didn't think that I was gonna be paid.
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Speaker 1: I didn't think I was wanting to have a job there,
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Speaker 1: Like I knew that they didn't have.
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Speaker 2: At the time.
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Speaker 1: For what I was being told there, it just wasn't
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Speaker 1: a role for me. They hired what they had already needed.
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Speaker 1: I was like, this is the best of the best,
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Speaker 1: and if I could come in here every day and
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Speaker 1: learn and be around this until whatever else happens, I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna do that.
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Speaker 2: As long as y'all tell me I'm going to come,
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Speaker 2: I'm gonna come.
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Speaker 1: I didn't do it thinking like, oh, eventually one day
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Speaker 1: they gonna pay me, I'm and get a job. I'm like, yo,
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Speaker 1: I'm literally sitting with the best in the industry.
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Speaker 2: I wanna be y'all think i'might gonna come in here
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Speaker 2: every day and axt questions. You know what I mean.
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Speaker 2: I'm just grateful to be in a space of learning. Yes, So, okay,
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Speaker 2: I al.
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Speaker 1: Just practiced this conversation. Was saying that I been asked
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Speaker 1: about this a lot, and I don't ever mind talking
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Speaker 1: about it because I feel like all of y'all had
16:20
Speaker 1: lost it, were able to learn something from it and
16:24
Speaker 1: be able to see yourself in it. Yeah, and that's
16:26
Speaker 1: why I never mind talking about it, even though.
16:28
Speaker 2: Me and Yes are in no way different, says sure,
16:30
Speaker 2: so I'll say that first, we love her. It's just
16:32
Speaker 2: a person like that.
16:34
Speaker 1: So, you know, I think, if I'm being real, it's
16:39
Speaker 1: like I I understand.
16:40
Speaker 2: Like I was able to sit that day and have
16:43
Speaker 2: the conversation the way that given.
16:45
Speaker 1: Even throughout the process, a little moments was happening and
16:47
Speaker 1: it was going marble, and I was like, you know,
16:49
Speaker 1: I come like I didn't know what was happening.
16:52
Speaker 2: I was happening for me.
16:53
Speaker 1: It was like if I were in her place, how
16:55
Speaker 1: would I feel? Yeah, And I've actually been in her place.
16:58
Speaker 5: And after that sent when my mom got said.
17:00
Speaker 2: When I was working at teams, my mom was bad
17:02
Speaker 2: in the campus. She stood at him. But when I
17:05
Speaker 2: go be So when I was working at PMD, I.
17:10
Speaker 1: Remember I had to take a lee from work to
17:12
Speaker 1: be with my mom and I got took the roaci
17:14
Speaker 1: the bay day to day like literally, so I was like, yo,
17:17
Speaker 1: I'm like trying to stip in teams like I'm a
17:19
Speaker 1: hospital and all that, and I'm like, I can't do
17:22
Speaker 1: it anymore, Like I'm.
17:23
Speaker 2: Not myself right now. I needed to be with her
17:25
Speaker 2: and go through this.
17:27
Speaker 1: They hired another girl, and I remember the black girl. Now,
17:30
Speaker 1: I mean they hired her. They sat her right where
17:33
Speaker 1: I would sit it, and they would give her all
17:35
Speaker 1: you know, they might to hit them.
17:37
Speaker 5: So they they were waking like they like because you know,
17:40
Speaker 5: it's like white people that like be around black people
17:42
Speaker 5: and then it's like the.
17:43
Speaker 1: White white people they're like, it's like yeah, so they're
17:47
Speaker 1: very like sometimes they can I think people in those
17:49
Speaker 1: phases can be kind of tone them to what they're
17:51
Speaker 1: doing in the wise, right, So you have people that
17:54
Speaker 1: are really upset called me, like why would they sit her?
17:58
Speaker 1: Like they just pop one black girl off another one
18:00
Speaker 1: in right, and it was causing Like she was there
18:04
Speaker 1: and she was being put in positions to do things
18:06
Speaker 1: and like whatever, and she was uncomfortable. But I've already
18:09
Speaker 1: talked to her a bit before I sets out, so
18:12
Speaker 1: we had a little bit of a report.
18:13
Speaker 2: But I remember the fan.
18:15
Speaker 5: Of the shows when they were making it that CMD.
18:17
Speaker 5: They were making it such a thing with me and
18:18
Speaker 5: her Man Sash and McClay.
18:19
Speaker 2: She U works in Indianapolis now tenC. She's gone around.
18:25
Speaker 1: She's gonna be out say for her for uh USA
18:27
Speaker 1: today though she's doing very well after TZ.
18:30
Speaker 2: But I remember which out heard just being like, look,
18:33
Speaker 2: even when I come.
18:34
Speaker 1: Back into my my role, or if I don't ever
18:37
Speaker 1: come back, I want you to understand that, like I
18:39
Speaker 1: have no issue.
18:40
Speaker 2: With business is business.
18:41
Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying, And I know it's not you.
18:43
Speaker 1: I know that there are things are happening around you
18:45
Speaker 1: that you might not be aware of, or.
18:47
Speaker 2: Even if you're aware, there's nothing you can do. You're
18:49
Speaker 2: just showing enough the other day to work. So mm
18:52
Speaker 2: fast forward into the breakfast of situation.
18:54
Speaker 5: I'm like, Okay, God, now I'll see like you had
18:56
Speaker 5: me in.
18:56
Speaker 2: That situation a few years back.
18:58
Speaker 1: And because now I'm able to be here and be like, Okay,
19:01
Speaker 1: you're showing that every gets the work.
19:03
Speaker 5: You're not really in control of what's happening, but you
19:05
Speaker 5: can't act like.
19:05
Speaker 1: You don't know what's happening, right, So I having a
19:08
Speaker 1: certain empathy first us and it's understanding there like.
19:11
Speaker 5: What's also my first time being at ups parent notting.
19:17
Speaker 2: And I was like it not.
19:20
Speaker 3: M not yet know that was my first time being
19:23
Speaker 3: that up coasing personal with.
19:25
Speaker 1: So H was precant and then just recently had a
19:28
Speaker 1: baby and going back, I.
19:29
Speaker 2: Never experienced that that close.
19:31
Speaker 1: So I'm like, oh, like when people talk about all
19:35
Speaker 1: of the things that happen like this, I'm like, oh,
19:38
Speaker 1: that's a real thing, and I'm watching it happen so
19:41
Speaker 1: like a woman, I'm like, bro, it's no way that
19:44
Speaker 1: even though I know she's upset and she don't want
19:46
Speaker 1: me hearing them, if I can set in she's having
19:49
Speaker 1: us up there, if I can set in and back
19:51
Speaker 1: and she says it to and.
19:52
Speaker 2: Say like you were so hard to be that because
19:54
Speaker 2: you were coming every day so refreshed, and I'm like, oh,
19:57
Speaker 2: want of the past, because like I got at once
20:00
Speaker 2: us personally.
20:01
Speaker 5: And I knew that I wasn't her problem.
20:04
Speaker 1: I was actually her partner in that, but she just
20:07
Speaker 1: wasn't at the place where that was something she wanted to,
20:09
Speaker 1: you know what I mean.
20:09
Speaker 2: And I put the horse set and I.
20:11
Speaker 5: Also felt like she was like it was above us.
20:14
Speaker 1: I just was getting a grunt up it because I
20:16
Speaker 1: was a physical representation of what needed to happen from
20:20
Speaker 1: a bigger standing point way from an opator.
20:22
Speaker 2: That wasn't happening.
20:23
Speaker 1: So as I took all that into mine, you know,
20:26
Speaker 1: and when everything happened, I was just like, look, I'm
20:30
Speaker 1: not gonna win, and it's by making this a me
20:33
Speaker 1: versus using So what can I What I can do
20:36
Speaker 1: is like I have to come in here and be
20:38
Speaker 1: honest about how I felt, because I mean, the world
20:42
Speaker 1: said there's nothing I can do now, and everything's all
20:44
Speaker 1: play on table, so you know.
20:45
Speaker 3: Let's do it.
20:46
Speaker 1: But for me it was important and doing that, it
20:49
Speaker 1: was like this is how I feel, and this is
20:51
Speaker 1: how I'm.
20:56
Speaker 2: Yeah, like oh sorry, like this is how I feel.
20:58
Speaker 1: This is a lot our acts, but at the end
21:01
Speaker 1: of the day, I very But that's why I go
21:04
Speaker 1: to the words yeah, but at the end of the day,
21:09
Speaker 1: I want, like, there's gonna be other women that are
21:12
Speaker 1: won't go with some real time time to somebody else,
21:14
Speaker 1: And even if we walk away from this not liking
21:17
Speaker 1: each other at all, and it's not that, but in
21:19
Speaker 1: my mind, I was like, even if that's the kid,
21:21
Speaker 1: because we never decide to be friends in real life.
21:23
Speaker 2: I want to show people that, like, you can have.
21:26
Speaker 1: An issue, but like we don't have to allow it
21:30
Speaker 1: to like like you know what I.
21:32
Speaker 2: Mean, Like at the end of the day, you won't
21:34
Speaker 2: vote with some people.
21:35
Speaker 1: That only I look present and I'm gonna voting spink
21:37
Speaker 1: that I mean, you won't understand it because we're both
21:39
Speaker 1: here in the space and we look like each other,
21:41
Speaker 1: we both like our person.
21:43
Speaker 5: I'm talking to her the first time I met in
21:44
Speaker 5: real life.
21:45
Speaker 1: And she's talk you just tell me, and I'm like, yeah, girl,
21:48
Speaker 1: this secause I'll be important doesn't mean she's like.
21:50
Speaker 5: Oh, so you believe them her around, yes, Like like
21:54
Speaker 5: but I think that.
21:55
Speaker 1: Women don't get to see that often because remody is
21:58
Speaker 1: only room for one of us, right, so we all
22:00
Speaker 1: got your real life, see, like, okay, the conversation are
22:03
Speaker 1: really going for one of us, it's there because.
22:05
Speaker 2: It's like how long are we gonna sit in that?
22:07
Speaker 2: Like because for real, for real, what just doesn't when
22:09
Speaker 2: she's great at it's what she.
22:11
Speaker 1: Does, and when she's great at what I do, what
22:13
Speaker 1: I'm great at is what I'm doing what I'm great at.
22:15
Speaker 1: And when you married it too, when people begin to
22:17
Speaker 1: see that, like man, we have it could be the
22:19
Speaker 1: relief we have, the news, we have, the mental health,
22:22
Speaker 1: we have, the issue like we all bring to seek.
22:25
Speaker 1: You don't mixture into the pot and it works like
22:29
Speaker 1: in real life.
22:30
Speaker 2: I was just like, man, I looked really hard to
22:31
Speaker 2: get here.
22:32
Speaker 1: I can't get this situation and control and change everything
22:36
Speaker 1: I worked for.
22:37
Speaker 5: It cannot, Like I have so many other places to
22:40
Speaker 5: get it. I love that many people that I think so.
22:43
Speaker 4: Many women can say something A lot of lady, what
22:46
Speaker 4: you just said. But I love how you showed we
22:48
Speaker 4: can have conflict resolution. That's gonna be conflicts, it's inevitable,
22:53
Speaker 4: but there's a way that we can. And then you
22:55
Speaker 4: realize we're actually growing life than that. And a lot
22:57
Speaker 4: of times I think people that we have situations with
22:59
Speaker 4: the conflict to it.
23:00
Speaker 2: Once we actually sit down with.
23:01
Speaker 4: That person, we see so many different similarities and I'm like, wow,
23:05
Speaker 4: I actually see myself in yet.
23:06
Speaker 2: And you know, I was still coming on this cruise.
23:08
Speaker 1: I was like, man, I know Heaven and Suno is
23:11
Speaker 1: gonna be like real because sometimes you come to me
23:12
Speaker 1: space and everything, it's like, oh my god, when.
23:14
Speaker 2: Apartment we're all white and it's like, y'all are not
23:19
Speaker 2: even nice for real?
23:20
Speaker 5: We want to shot, you know.
23:22
Speaker 3: What I mean?
23:23
Speaker 1: Being here in his space, and cause I know Heather
23:26
Speaker 1: and what she be on, I'm like, no, she gonna
23:28
Speaker 1: curate this where it's like if that is your personality,
23:31
Speaker 1: she gonna break you down before we get back to
23:33
Speaker 1: where we're going on one.
23:34
Speaker 2: Day, right, And that's how I decided to come here.
23:36
Speaker 2: But that was my energy too.
23:38
Speaker 1: With that, I'm like, yo, we can do all of
23:41
Speaker 1: and the mean girl stuff and all of that, but
23:43
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, it's like we gotta
23:45
Speaker 1: learn that, like it's us or it's nothing.
23:47
Speaker 2: They couldn't platform.
23:49
Speaker 1: They're taking black people out of media, they space, They're
23:52
Speaker 1: shutting our voices down. They don't want people like me
23:55
Speaker 1: and just people got mad at me because I said,
23:57
Speaker 1: I love the fact that you got two real.
24:00
Speaker 2: Black girls like and not be planning of our skin cone.
24:02
Speaker 1: Because last seed Darston, I'm not talking about that. I'm
24:04
Speaker 1: talking about like we really from around. We talk, how
24:06
Speaker 1: we talk, We come from certain things, we eat certain things.
24:09
Speaker 2: Our nails, our hair are lashes, the edges is laid.
24:12
Speaker 2: Like we're doing all of that on this mainstream media
24:14
Speaker 2: black room and you don't see that.
24:17
Speaker 1: So imagine if like we're showing it and now you
24:19
Speaker 1: see it more right, And so now we don't all
24:21
Speaker 1: have to be in white smiling and don't really care
24:23
Speaker 1: for each other.
24:24
Speaker 2: We know how to work.
24:24
Speaker 3: There was.
24:27
Speaker 1: Ill it's the white So it's like the white guys
24:32
Speaker 1: talk because y'all know what.
24:33
Speaker 2: I'm talking about. If you over there and grips and shrike,
24:38
Speaker 2: if y'all like goatlet'll talk about it, you actually played too.
24:45
Speaker 2: So it's so good.
24:47
Speaker 1: At the end of the day, I always tell you, guys,
24:49
Speaker 1: y'all could be anywhere with anybody my low riders having
24:53
Speaker 1: this conversation, but y'all choose to be right here with me,
24:55
Speaker 1: and I appreciate you guys. For that, I hope you
24:57
Speaker 1: guys have enjoyed this episode. Make sure you back out
25:00
Speaker 1: Crystals Podcast again. She is also on the Black Effect
25:02
Speaker 1: podcast network. It's called Keep It Positive. Sweetie, these are
25:06
Speaker 1: very intentional conversations. I'll see you guys in my next episode.