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#20 - Enlisting in the Air Force to Learn Discipline and Building the Life You Want With Joanne Castillo · The iAlign Podcast with Flint Mitchell

• 0:09
  SPEAKER_03: What's up, y'all?
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_03: Welcome to Seeking Authenticity.
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_03: My name is Flint Mitchell, and I get absolutely psyched by having conversations with authentic people that I admire about the things they value.
• 0:21
  SPEAKER_03: Their stories and perspectives don't just make me smile, laugh, and think.
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_03: They inspire me to wake up earlier, listen better, focus, and work harder, and help make me a better version of myself.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_03: And it's my hope that sharing these conversations through this podcast might do the same thing for you.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_03: In this episode, I talk with Joanne Castillo.
• 0:43
  SPEAKER_03: Joanne is a 15-year Air Force veteran and the owner of Infallible Fit.
• 0:47
  SPEAKER_03: She focuses on helping clients lose weight by understanding the underlying reasons why they might be struggling in the first place.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_03: Instead of just looking for the perfect diet or workout routine, she places a priority on creating a strong mind and positive habits.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_03: This seems to be a more common and positive trend in the overall weight loss and wellness industries, so I was excited to hear her take on it.
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_03: If you're interested in finding out more about her as a coach or personal trainer, her information will be in the podcast description.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_03: From the first time we talked over the phone, I was stoked to get her on the podcast.
• 1:19
  SPEAKER_03: But she's incredibly genuine and focused on helping others through the tools she's learned by helping herself.
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_03: In this conversation, we talk about joining the Air Force in order to escape her prior life and build discipline, about her experience as an entrepreneur in the fitness industry, her side passion with writing and producing hip-hop music, where the name Infallible came from, and why she's bringing it back.
• 1:41
  SPEAKER_03: Joanne wants her story to be the sounding board for others to see the possibility of change in their own lives.
• 1:47
  SPEAKER_03: And she has good reason for it, because her story is authentic and inspiring.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_03: I loved her message, and I know you will too.
• 1:54
  SPEAKER_03: Enjoy.
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_00: Like for me, I feel like I'm not being loyal.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: And then so I tell myself, okay, I'm not being loyal to them, but then I'm being disloyal to myself.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: No matter where you come from, no matter what has been what beliefs and values have been brought into you growing up or in your environment, that you can break that.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, like don't find yourself, create yourself.
• 2:29
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you hear a lot like, oh man, I gotta find who I am, I gotta go solo search, you know.
• 2:34
  SPEAKER_00: But it's like, yo, if you change that word find to create, you don't have to go out and find and search it.
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_00: You create it yourself, you create you, your identity.
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you have your comfortable zone, you're with your people, but you pull away, and then you have this time when you are by yourself, and that's the scary part.
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_03: Thank you for doing this with me, Joanne.
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_03: I really appreciate it.
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, thank you for having me.
• 3:04
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, this is exciting.
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_03: Super grateful.
• 3:06
  SPEAKER_03: I um first off, I do want to say thank you for your service.
• 3:10
  SPEAKER_03: I think it's fantastic.
• 3:11
  SPEAKER_03: I mean, it's really cool talking to veterans.
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_03: I don't actually have too many uh friends or relationships that are veterans, so I think it's a cool experience for me.
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_03: Um, and kind of on that subject, I was wondering if you could tell me a bit about maybe why you joined the military or the Air Force, what kind of inspired you to do that?
• 3:30
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so the reason why I joined the Air Force is because at that time I needed to change my life.
• 3:36
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and it it wasn't because I was patriotic, it's just I needed a change.
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_00: It was just the way I grew up.
• 3:42
  SPEAKER_00: So I grew up like, you know, um in the gangs and the drugs, you know, just doing stuff off the street.
• 3:48
  SPEAKER_00: And I needed structure and discipline, and that's what the Air Force did for me.
• 3:52
  SPEAKER_03: Wow, that's wild.
• 3:55
  SPEAKER_03: Uh would you be willing to talk about before, like what was going on, where you were at before the military then?
• 4:03
  SPEAKER_00: Uh so before it was just more of like um, it's just the lifestyle that I happened to get into.
• 4:11
  SPEAKER_00: And it has it does have a lot to do with like the family structure that I had at home, which I do love my family, you know, and I know everything happened for a reason.
• 4:20
  SPEAKER_00: Um but uh it was just me going out and trying to find that sense of belonging somewhere else, and I ended up with people who were in that lifestyle.
• 4:29
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, absolutely.
• 4:30
  SPEAKER_03: No, I'm it's it sounds like you know, in those environments that become it's more of a searching for family kind of thing of why people, especially when you're young, you're you're vulnerable because you people need a family.
• 4:47
  SPEAKER_03: You can't go, I don't think you can go through life alone.
• 4:49
  SPEAKER_03: Maybe some people can, but you know, people search for that, and and that's one way they do it.
• 4:55
  SPEAKER_03: How did you were there any moments, I guess, or was there a moment where you something switched and you said to yourself, I need discipline?
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_03: Because that's kind of what you said.
• 5:05
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, um, honestly, it's like, yes, I was living that lifestyle, but it's always something like deep inside of me that didn't feel right.
• 5:14
  SPEAKER_00: Like it just it became normal, and that's just what I knew.
• 5:17
  SPEAKER_00: I was comfortable, but I just knew deep down inside, um, it just it was wrong.
• 5:22
  SPEAKER_00: You know, and I didn't know how to break out of that.
• 5:24
  SPEAKER_00: And then um, like when I was like around my junior, senior year, my dad started throwing like, you know, you get the brochures for joining the military.
• 5:33
  SPEAKER_00: So my dad started like, you know, throwing them at me, like, hey, you know, think about this, think about this.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_00: And of course, I ignored it.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but then uh one of my um childhood friends, her dad, I looked at him like, you know, he was like a father figure for me.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_00: And um he actually told me, you know, like convinced me to join and then go into the air force because he was in the army and he was like, the army is not for you.
• 5:59
  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, okay.
• 6:02
  SPEAKER_00: Yep.
• 6:03
  SPEAKER_03: That was the only guidance.
• 6:05
  SPEAKER_03: Don't go this way.
• 6:06
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
• 6:07
  SPEAKER_00: Um, yeah, he's just like, it's just not for you.
• 6:10
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I know you, I know how you are.
• 6:11
  SPEAKER_00: The Air Force is more for you.
• 6:13
  SPEAKER_00: And then I I went ahead and I joined.
• 6:17
  SPEAKER_00: So do you remember signing up for it?
• 6:19
  SPEAKER_00: Do you remember that?
• 6:20
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 6:22
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I was nervous but eager at the same time because I felt at that time it was my only way out.
• 6:28
  SPEAKER_00: Because I did try to go to community college.
• 6:30
  SPEAKER_00: I went, I got my GED, and then I tried community college.
• 6:33
  SPEAKER_00: I tried, you know, working, like I couldn't even like keep a job.
• 6:36
  SPEAKER_00: I probably had like maybe 15 jobs before I joined the military.
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, because I would, yeah, I would go and then I would quit.
• 6:42
  SPEAKER_00: I just didn't have that discipline to keep going, you know?
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and uh yeah, so eager and nervous, scared at the same time.
• 6:52
  SPEAKER_00: And I just I couldn't wait.
• 6:53
  SPEAKER_00: I just it was just like this is my only way out, this is it.
• 6:56
  SPEAKER_00: No, and there's something about that.
• 6:58
  SPEAKER_03: I and I love that excitement that kind of you know summarized that moment.
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_03: But what do you think it was that was preventing you or yeah, kind of preventing you from holding these jobs or preventing you from kind of like you say you you felt like something was wrong.
• 7:18
  SPEAKER_03: What was kind of preventing you from changing that?
• 7:21
  SPEAKER_03: Was it just the environment?
• 7:23
  SPEAKER_00: Um, it was that I felt like I was meant to be a failure and a quitter, just because like things like in the past, like I would, you know, go to school but then not go to school.
• 7:35
  SPEAKER_00: I was always like dropping out here and there, here and there.
• 7:37
  SPEAKER_00: So that led to that.
• 7:39
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I didn't feel like you know, the better things in life were for me that I didn't deserve it.
• 7:46
  SPEAKER_00: So I just had that mindset.
• 7:47
  SPEAKER_00: It was very, you know, that negative mindset.
• 7:50
  SPEAKER_00: And that's what really held me back.
• 7:52
  SPEAKER_00: I would always like let that take over.
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_03: That's a hard way to grow up.
• 7:56
  SPEAKER_03: That's a hard way to live.
• 7:58
  SPEAKER_03: But I do, I mean, hopefully foreshadowing further in this conversation is I I like hearing that because then it makes me think that you've shifted that, right?
• 8:09
  SPEAKER_03: You've shifted that perspective.
• 8:11
  SPEAKER_03: So then what was you know your entry into the Air Force like?
• 8:17
  SPEAKER_00: Um honestly, at that moment, I just felt like it was just like survival.
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_00: Honestly, I I I think I just looked at it like that too, so I wouldn't mess up because I've tried I tried so many things before that, and I didn't follow through with it.
• 8:32
  SPEAKER_00: And I just felt like this was my only and last chance, or nothing else was gonna work.
• 8:38
  SPEAKER_00: So I took it as like this survival thing.
• 8:40
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, and it must have been, I mean, going from an environment where there's very little structure to one where there is it's pretty much the epitome of structure, it would be the military, right?
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 8:55
  SPEAKER_03: Were there any moment moments in particular where you kind of looked around and were, you know, like what's going on here?
• 9:03
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, all the time, especially in basic training, because you know, in basic training, you're confined, you don't have your freedom, it's taken away from you, and they break you down, you know, so they break you down so that they can build you up into the the military mindset.
• 9:15
  SPEAKER_00: So it was just like all the time.
• 9:18
  SPEAKER_00: Um how do they break you down?
• 9:20
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's just more of like the beliefs, the mission that they have, um, you know, the way how they structure things, how we have to march in place, like all that, just it's all of that together.
• 9:35
  SPEAKER_00: Um waking up on time, you know, being on time.
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_00: So it's I guess breaking it down to build that structure that you know most of us need when we join the military.
• 9:49
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 9:50
  SPEAKER_00: If that makes sense.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_03: It does.
• 9:53
  SPEAKER_03: And I guess I actually don't know this.
• 9:56
  SPEAKER_03: How many years do you commit to when you sign up?
• 10:00
  SPEAKER_00: Uh so it depends.
• 10:01
  SPEAKER_00: Um, in the Air Force, I don't know if it changed now, but at that time when I was in, it was either four or six years.
• 10:09
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 10:11
  SPEAKER_00: So you can do four or you can do six years.
• 10:13
  SPEAKER_03: Word.
• 10:14
  SPEAKER_03: And you did it for 15.
• 10:16
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 10:16
  SPEAKER_00: I started off with four, and then I just like kept re-enlisting.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_00: And then after I was like, you know, um, I was at a point where I can be independent and like on my own, I had the structure, the discipline, and it was time for I suppose it was just time for me to leave.
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_03: That makes sense considering the reason why you stated and you went into it.
• 10:39
  SPEAKER_03: Right.
• 10:40
  SPEAKER_03: Right.
• 10:40
  SPEAKER_03: You went into it for a very important skill set and you you learned that.
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_03: Well what was the moment or maybe time frame where you looked at yourself maybe in the mirror and you were like, no, I've learned it.
• 10:54
  SPEAKER_03: I got this, I got this down.
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_03: It's time for me to step off and do something else.
• 10:59
  SPEAKER_00: Oh man.
• 11:01
  SPEAKER_00: Honestly, I'll say like my 10-year mark because I was active duty for 10 years and then I went into the National Guard.
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but my thing, I was nervous to step out too because you know, you're secure in the military, you have your benefits, you get paid every two weeks.
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_00: And it was like, oh my gosh, can I get out there and do this on my own?
• 11:23
  SPEAKER_00: Because then now I've been like dependent on that.
• 11:26
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 11:27
  SPEAKER_03: Absolutely.
• 11:27
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 11:28
  SPEAKER_03: You use the National Guard to kind of wean yourself out.
• 11:31
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
• 11:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's like I'm gonna take it like baby steps at a time.
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
• 11:38
  SPEAKER_03: So you left the military and you were kind of you're kind of at this place like you're mentioning where you don't really have security.
• 11:46
  SPEAKER_03: You've got the discipline, you've got the skill set, but now you don't have the security.
• 11:51
  SPEAKER_03: What do you do?
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you you you just do it and you believe that you can do it.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 11:59
  SPEAKER_00: Or else, you know, I would have like stayed in and because then it came to a point where I started to become unhappy and miserable because that I I started feeling like, oh my gosh, I need my freedom.
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 12:11
  SPEAKER_00: You know, instead of like I'm being I'm like owned by the government and I have to follow their rules all the time.
• 12:19
  SPEAKER_00: Um yeah, and it was just it honestly, that is what it was.
• 12:24
  SPEAKER_00: It was just, you know what, just do it.
• 12:25
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 12:27
  SPEAKER_03: So what did you what did you do?
• 12:28
  SPEAKER_03: How what was your first step outside of when you when you had your freedom and you left?
• 12:33
  SPEAKER_03: What was your first step?
• 12:34
  SPEAKER_00: I went into business in the fitness industry.
• 12:37
  SPEAKER_00: Why'd you why'd you choose fitness?
• 12:39
  SPEAKER_00: I chose fitness because um, so I was overweight.
• 12:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I yo-yo dieted a lot.
• 12:45
  SPEAKER_00: So I battled with my weight, like basically almost throughout my life.
• 12:49
  SPEAKER_00: And I lost 50 pounds.
• 12:51
  SPEAKER_02: Wow.
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_00: So, and it is cool, you know, I'm like fit, you know, feel good.
• 12:55
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but what what it really was with that transformation was the mindset part of it, how it like strengthened me emotionally and mentally.
• 13:03
  SPEAKER_00: I gained confidence, self-respect.
• 13:05
  SPEAKER_00: You know, um, I started having more of a positive mindset.
• 13:09
  SPEAKER_00: And um with that, that's what that's where it was like the desire, like I want to go into business and I want to help people the way fitness helped me.
• 13:16
  SPEAKER_03: So you went into the fitness industry, then kind of for the reason of supporting people mentally, it sounds like it wasn't really about the the fitness, it was like you saw what happened to yourself and you wanted to see if you could give that to other people.
• 13:30
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
• 13:32
  SPEAKER_00: And because it was done through fitness with me, that's how I know how to do it.
• 13:36
  SPEAKER_03: How what were your maybe first steps into the fitness industry?
• 13:39
  SPEAKER_03: How did you start to do that?
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_03: Did you just become a personal trainer?
• 13:43
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I um I went and got my cert, and then a few months after getting my cert, I went ahead and got my business license and started.
• 13:54
  SPEAKER_00: That was it.
• 13:55
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I was like, well, let me just do it.
• 13:59
  SPEAKER_00: How long ago was that?
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_00: Two years ago.
• 14:01
  SPEAKER_00: I went into business January 2018.
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_00: Uh two and a half years ago.
• 14:05
  SPEAKER_00: You just hit the ground running.
• 14:06
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
• 14:07
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, let me just do it, or else I would like, because I have, you know, when you don't do it, you hesitate.
• 14:13
  SPEAKER_00: And um, you start thinking, oh no, I can't do it.
• 14:16
  SPEAKER_00: You start having doubt, and then you let the fear sink in.
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_00: So I was like, no, let me just do it.
• 14:20
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_03: So, what has that journey been like then over the past two and a half years?
• 14:24
  SPEAKER_03: It's been hard.
• 14:25
  SPEAKER_03: It's been great.
• 14:26
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it has its challenges, um, but it's been great at the same time.
• 14:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like I wouldn't take it back.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um I mean, one of the big things, like, you know, when you go into business, you want to make sure something you're genuine or passionate about because there's gonna be downtimes and those and that passion is what's gonna keep you going.
• 14:42
  SPEAKER_00: So, like I'll even my ups, my downs, it's all been good.
• 14:46
  SPEAKER_00: Um, learned a lot from everything, and I just keep on growing.
• 14:51
  SPEAKER_03: Did you ever think that you would be an entrepreneur?
• 14:55
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 14:56
  SPEAKER_03: You did?
• 14:57
  SPEAKER_00: I've always wanted to get into business, yeah.
• 15:00
  SPEAKER_00: Why?
• 15:01
  SPEAKER_00: Um well, one thing, my dad was a businessman.
• 15:05
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 15:05
  SPEAKER_00: He like watching him, his work ethic, um, and how he was successful in his business, it's what wanted me to be in business.
• 15:17
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, he did he didn't actually like have his business business like after I joined the military, but even just watching his work ethic and how like if he put his mind to something, he like he went all the way for it.
• 15:29
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 15:30
  SPEAKER_03: So then you just you did you start working for another person, like another organization, or did you just create your own company?
• 15:37
  SPEAKER_00: I just created my own company and did it.
• 15:41
  SPEAKER_00: Because like leaving the military, I was like, I don't want to work for anybody.
• 15:45
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 15:46
  SPEAKER_03: You're like, I work for the government.
• 15:48
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I'm like, I'm not working for anybody, I'm doing my own thing.
• 15:51
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but even like before I went into fitness, I had two businesses before this, and it it didn't really launch off the ground, but it was like one was like a DJ company and the other one was like a marketing slash record label.
• 16:04
  SPEAKER_03: Interesting.
• 16:05
  SPEAKER_03: When were that while you were in the military?
• 16:09
  SPEAKER_03: Yes.
• 16:10
  SPEAKER_03: What provoked you to start those companies while you were already working?
• 16:17
  SPEAKER_00: Um, was I was with friends with joined with friends.
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_00: So my first business was uh with friends, and you know, they started wanting to do the DJ company, so I was like, all right, yeah, let's do it, you know.
• 16:29
  SPEAKER_00: And then um the second one, same thing with a friend.
• 16:34
  SPEAKER_00: We used to write together.
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_00: Um, he taught me a lot about how I I write to this day.
• 16:39
  SPEAKER_00: And uh since we had that chemistry, we're like, hey, how about we go into business?
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_00: And we tried it out.
• 16:45
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but I ended up going another way and then he went a different way.
• 16:50
  SPEAKER_03: By writing, do you mean like writing actual songs?
• 16:53
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 16:53
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, songs, poetry, spoken word.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_03: So interesting.
• 16:57
  SPEAKER_03: What what kind of style did you like what kind of what way did you guys write?
• 17:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so it was hip-hop.
• 17:05
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and like the way we wrote is like very, very conscious.
• 17:09
  SPEAKER_00: How do you define that?
• 17:11
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, what does that mean?
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, so conscious, like um, and and when I say this, I'm not trying to like downplay other artists or whatever, no, but like like actually like speaking about life, our experiences, you know, dropping gold nuggets so maybe people could learn from it, you know, take something from it, uh, maybe bring it into their life and use it as you know, their experience.
• 17:36
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 17:36
  SPEAKER_03: I would be curious.
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_03: Do you have any favorite lyrics that you wrote?
• 17:42
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I do, but it's been a while since I've said them.
• 17:45
  SPEAKER_00: I would have to go back into the archives and dig them up for you.
• 17:49
  SPEAKER_03: That's all good.
• 17:50
  SPEAKER_03: Was there a particular message or type of message that you you liked to talk about in your in your poetry and your songs?
• 17:57
  SPEAKER_00: So before, because I was so much on the dark side and negative side, I wrote a lot about like it was it was really dark how I used to write.
• 18:07
  SPEAKER_00: So it was like dark, like angry, like depressed.
• 18:12
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 18:13
  SPEAKER_00: So if I was to write now, it'll be different.
• 18:16
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 18:18
  SPEAKER_03: Maybe you should start writing again, man.
• 18:21
  SPEAKER_00: I actually, I you know, honestly, I do plan on to.
• 18:24
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but I want to establish this business first before I go there.
• 18:28
  SPEAKER_00: Sure.
• 18:29
  SPEAKER_00: Um, just because I know how I am, I want to put like my all into that, you know.
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
• 18:34
  SPEAKER_03: It sounds like the military taught you well then.
• 18:38
  SPEAKER_03: Finish your projects now, dog.
• 18:41
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, no, right?
• 18:43
  SPEAKER_03: What would be the what would be like maybe one of the top lessons that you learned, maybe maybe about discipline or maybe about life from from your experience in the military?
• 18:54
  SPEAKER_03: Like how did what what kind of thing did it change you the most?
• 18:58
  SPEAKER_03: Does that make sense?
• 19:00
  SPEAKER_00: So you know, the military taught me that I can do what I put my mind to, just because like they they you you're you're put into uncomfortable zones a lot.
• 19:15
  SPEAKER_00: Like, for instance, you know, they send you somewhere, you know, you're not familiar with the place, you're not familiar with the people, but you're forced to.
• 19:22
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it's like forced, but you learn that, you know, okay, I can do this.
• 19:27
  SPEAKER_00: Um, like for me, I used to be like really, really shy.
• 19:30
  SPEAKER_00: So for me, it was a challenge to go and like be open and talk to people.
• 19:33
  SPEAKER_00: So it was like, okay, yeah, I can't talk to people.
• 19:35
  SPEAKER_00: It's not as bad.
• 19:37
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 19:38
  SPEAKER_00: This is practice.
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_00: Use of practice.
• 19:43
  SPEAKER_03: Yep.
• 19:44
  SPEAKER_03: So it's just about putting you in uncomfortable situations.
• 19:48
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, being comfortable, being comfortable, being uncomfortable.
• 19:53
  SPEAKER_03: No, it makes sense.
• 19:54
  SPEAKER_03: I think that's a pretty common trend, especially in um people who work in the fitness industry and people who like the fitness industry.
• 20:04
  SPEAKER_03: It's because the idea of working out is inherently to put yourself in a place of physical uncomfortability, right?
• 20:11
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 20:11
  SPEAKER_03: And then to learn.
• 20:14
  SPEAKER_03: You've had a crazy set of stories, dude.
• 20:18
  SPEAKER_03: Yay! I I'm curious about a lot of this.
• 20:22
  SPEAKER_03: You know, veteran, music producer, fitness industry, uh an entrepreneur.
• 20:32
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, a lyricist too.
• 20:34
  SPEAKER_03: What would be the lyricist would be actual actually writing the songs?
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, writing the songs.
• 20:39
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 20:40
  SPEAKER_03: I guess I guess what I'm most curious about right now is kind of the current journey you're on, then uh being an entrepreneur and being, you know, you just rebranded.
• 20:49
  SPEAKER_03: Um why'd you why'd you do that?
• 20:53
  SPEAKER_00: So um, so before Infallible Fit, I was JC Fitness.
• 20:57
  SPEAKER_00: And tell you the truth, I just like threw that name together just so I can have something when I like went out and market and branded myself.
• 21:05
  SPEAKER_00: And the way that came about is um my little sister on her Instagram, she has, you know, like her first name and then C.
• 21:14
  SPEAKER_00: So C E E, our last name is Castillo, and then my older sister, hers says G C.
• 21:20
  SPEAKER_00: So I was like, you know what?
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just gonna say J C.
• 21:23
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, all right, JC fitness.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_00: That's that's where that came from.
• 21:27
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but like from the get, I knew I was gonna rebrand because that was that wasn't like the name I wanted to carry on, and like, you know, um brand nationally and globally.
• 21:39
  SPEAKER_00: Um but infallible, my friend I told you I went to business with and we used to write together.
• 21:44
  SPEAKER_00: I went to go visit him.
• 21:45
  SPEAKER_00: He lives in New York and he came up to me.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_00: He was like, Hey, what about changing your name to Infallible Fit?
• 21:51
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, I don't know.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_00: Infallible is like different.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_00: She's dark, she's angry, and this and that.
• 21:58
  SPEAKER_00: You know, he's like, I mean, it sounds Better and I was like, you know what?
• 22:01
  SPEAKER_00: After it thought about it, I was like, I can revamp who infallible is.
• 22:05
  SPEAKER_00: Um, yeah, I was like, just revamp her.
• 22:08
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, I just because the message behind infallible is the same as what it was when I first got the name, which was like 16 years ago.
• 22:17
  SPEAKER_00: So and that and also I spelled the name wrong, like in the dictionary infallible spelling, it has a double L, but I removed one L.
• 22:26
  SPEAKER_00: And the reason why it's because um I'm not perfect, but I'll do everything to the best of my ability.
• 22:33
  SPEAKER_02: That's awesome.
• 22:34
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 22:36
  SPEAKER_00: So um, so I was like, you know what, that message is still there, and I truly believe that.
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_00: So let me just go ahead and do it.
• 22:43
  SPEAKER_00: And I want to like bring that message out to everyone.
• 22:45
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, absolutely.
• 22:46
  SPEAKER_03: It's kind of, I think it goes back a little bit to what you said about kind of at the very start.
• 22:52
  SPEAKER_03: You know, you said you were getting into these activities you didn't want to be a part of, you always knew, like you had an underlying feeling of what you wanted.
• 23:02
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 23:02
  SPEAKER_03: Kind of the same deal now with this name Infallible was even though you were sounds like a pretty different person in that time or we're thinking different, the message stayed, the underlying message stayed the same.
• 23:15
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 23:16
  SPEAKER_03: That's pretty cool.
• 23:17
  SPEAKER_03: So you start this company, you rebrand it Infallible.
• 23:20
  SPEAKER_03: What why rebrand it now though?
• 23:22
  SPEAKER_03: Like what's what started that?
• 23:24
  SPEAKER_00: You know, honestly, I've been wanting to rebrand the whole time.
• 23:28
  SPEAKER_00: And I just didn't know what to rebrand into.
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_03: I guess that's a better question then.
• 23:33
  SPEAKER_03: What are you rebranding into?
• 23:35
  SPEAKER_00: So I I want them to know that they're perfectly imperfect.
• 23:40
  SPEAKER_00: You know, um, that, you know, although you've gone through adversity or you know had certain experiences in your life, that you can't overcome that.
• 23:49
  SPEAKER_00: Um and take it as an experience, not something that like bring you down and you know, you hold on to and you just let it tear you inside, which I I did for a very long time.
• 24:00
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so that's that's the message that I want them to know.
• 24:03
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you're perfectly imperfect.
• 24:05
  SPEAKER_00: It's okay that you had mistakes, just keep moving, you know, learn from it.
• 24:09
  SPEAKER_03: 100%.
• 24:11
  SPEAKER_03: Do you now see as the trainer or as the coach?
• 24:17
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 24:17
  SPEAKER_03: Do you see ways that your clients maybe habits that they have or mental blocks that they have that you had?
• 24:27
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 24:28
  SPEAKER_00: Um physical limitations, um, as far as mental, like not having like the confidence, uh, thinking that things aren't possible, especially like so because of my weight loss journey.
• 24:40
  SPEAKER_00: I I mean I'm a weight loss coach, so I have weight loss clients, and you you feel like it's not possible, you truly believe like that's just who you are, you know, and then you know, just like the confidence level, um, esteem level.
• 24:57
  SPEAKER_03: Kind of you become this identity or you have this identity in your head.
• 25:01
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 25:03
  SPEAKER_03: How do you try to get people to get away from that identity?
• 25:09
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so the way I do it, I I integrate that with the training.
• 25:13
  SPEAKER_00: So, say for instance, like we're doing squats and they just think they can't do the squats.
• 25:18
  SPEAKER_00: So we'll start slow and then you know, we work the squats, and then if they feel like like we'll do a couple reps or a couple sets, and just in that, they're like, oh my gosh, I did this.
• 25:28
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, see, I told you.
• 25:32
  SPEAKER_00: You know, so they start building the confidence there.
• 25:35
  SPEAKER_00: And then, you know, when you start feeling more stronger, um, you know, you feel better about yourself, you stand up better.
• 25:41
  SPEAKER_00: And then I just that's how I see that progression in my clients.
• 25:45
  SPEAKER_00: Because then as as they do more, you know, we add more weight, we do more like complex type exercise.
• 25:51
  SPEAKER_00: And there's always something, I'll try to add something in where it challenges them again, and then they they get that feeling, and then we do it and they're like, oh my gosh, I did it.
• 26:00
  unknown: See?
• 26:02
  SPEAKER_03: That's awesome.
• 26:03
  SPEAKER_03: It's so it's I mean, clearly it's a journey, right?
• 26:07
  SPEAKER_03: Like you're saying, no one's ever perfect, and you'll never be perfect, but you can always get a little bit closer to your ideal.
• 26:14
  SPEAKER_03: Uh, are there any times then or clients you've had where you see them after a decent amount of this journey?
• 26:24
  SPEAKER_03: And like, is there like a different spark in their eyes or something different about them where you go like, yeah, I think you made it?
• 26:31
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah.
• 26:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I had a client, um, he lost 50 pounds.
• 26:37
  SPEAKER_00: And like before he came to me, like he was just going to and from work.
• 26:42
  SPEAKER_00: And then when he was at home, most of the time he would just like lay in bed or stay home.
• 26:46
  SPEAKER_00: And then um, after a while, he started going out.
• 26:49
  SPEAKER_00: Um, he started dating and just even like the way he walked, he had this pep in his step, like it was different, you know.
• 26:56
  SPEAKER_00: And um, and then he was very, very like scared to work out at his work gym.
• 27:02
  SPEAKER_00: So one of my uh our goals was that he was gonna train there.
• 27:05
  SPEAKER_00: And we slowly got him there.
• 27:07
  SPEAKER_00: And before before COVID, we were going there once in a while, so he, you know, was like willing to go and work out at the gym.
• 27:15
  SPEAKER_03: So that's an awesome example.
• 27:19
  SPEAKER_03: It seemed kind of a real life, you know.
• 27:22
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 27:23
  SPEAKER_03: It's you know, it's that connection between, and it happens so often, the connection between people being like physically cleaning up their life, clean cleaning up their body, and then it bleeds over into the rest of their life.
• 27:40
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, because the the like the traits that what you build up in fitness, you take to take that into other aspects of your life, like the discipline, the grit, the persistence, you know what I mean?
• 27:54
  SPEAKER_00: Um, the determination.
• 27:56
  SPEAKER_00: So all that it's just yeah, you practice, practice, practice that, and you take that into other aspects of your life.
• 28:01
  SPEAKER_03: Absolutely.
• 28:02
  SPEAKER_03: I I guess this might be a bit of a a leap, but what would then be um the most important reason why people should clean up their life?
• 28:14
  SPEAKER_03: Like, why should they come in if they if they think that there's something that they have to change?
• 28:19
  SPEAKER_03: What's what's the main reason why you think people should come in and try to change it?
• 28:23
  SPEAKER_00: And try to change it?
• 28:24
  SPEAKER_00: Better health, better health, not only that, your mindset, because I mean your mind can take you into all different types of directions, it could take you up, it could take you way down deep into a hole, you know, and um and it's important, especially like now, nowadays, we need to make sure we have a healthy mindset.
• 28:47
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 28:47
  SPEAKER_00: So even if they just came in a couple of times of the week and you know, we we did like some light training, just them doing that, they feel good.
• 28:57
  SPEAKER_00: Now, I I like that you bring that up.
• 29:00
  SPEAKER_03: Is that the mind can bring you up, but it can also put you in a hole, right?
• 29:10
  SPEAKER_03: No, and do you see that as like a common trend?
• 29:14
  SPEAKER_03: Is that part of the journey?
• 29:15
  SPEAKER_03: Do people do you have to get into the hole before you you get out of it or before you raise yours rise up?
• 29:22
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I with with most of my clients, yes.
• 29:25
  SPEAKER_00: It it's they come to me because like they went to the doctor, they're pre-diabetic, they're high cholesterol, something is wrong with their health.
• 29:34
  SPEAKER_00: So it's like something, it's something negative that hits them that that gives them that scare, and then they'll they come and they go look for a trainer.
• 29:43
  SPEAKER_03: Do you think that there are other methods for finding the maybe the negative parts of your life that you want to change that don't you don't need it to be scared into?
• 29:53
  SPEAKER_03: Are there fine ways of being aware of the things you want to change?
• 29:57
  SPEAKER_00: I could say for me personally, is like being around people who are like-minded that want that, because they they then encourage you to do that.
• 30:06
  SPEAKER_00: Because it is, it's a very scary thing, you know, because you're facing a lot of pain and everything that you suppress you don't want to face.
• 30:15
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, being vulnerable, that's scary.
• 30:18
  SPEAKER_00: So the only thing I would that's one thing I would say is it it helps having a support system.
• 30:24
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, absolutely.
• 30:25
  SPEAKER_03: And I think that's all it draws a strong parallel to this idea that the mind can bring you up or bring you down, which is that the people around you can bring you up or bring you down.
• 30:36
  SPEAKER_03: Right?
• 30:37
  SPEAKER_03: It sounds like you've had experiences where you've been in groups that dragged you down away from what you knew was right inside, and you've also had experiences where you had like this uh other lyricist or music producer who kind of brought like some of the good out in you, and it's it's important to find those communities because you know it's cliche to say it, but you are the average of your five closest friends, and it's so true, yeah.
• 31:03
  SPEAKER_00: It's so true, it makes a huge difference.
• 31:06
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta be, you gotta, you have to be protective of your space and your environment, you know, whether you know you feel bad about it, it's so true.
• 31:15
  SPEAKER_00: If you want to make change, you have to be with people who are on that same energy level, on that same frequency.
• 31:21
  SPEAKER_00: And if you know, if they're not, they're up here.
• 31:24
  SPEAKER_00: You being around them, it that's gonna bring you up to that frequency that you want to be in.
• 31:29
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 31:30
  SPEAKER_03: What do you what did you mean by even if you feel bad about it?
• 31:35
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, because you know, you know, like um when you start changing and like there are people you have to let go.
• 31:47
  SPEAKER_00: Because they may be the ones that's dragging you down, bringing you that negative energy.
• 31:51
  SPEAKER_00: And it feels bad because most of the time it's your closest people to you, your friends or your family.
• 31:56
  SPEAKER_03: Right.
• 31:56
  SPEAKER_03: You know, that's a that's a really tough one.
• 32:00
  SPEAKER_03: I think yeah, it's so relevant to everyone because the people who know you best are inherently the closest to you.
• 32:11
  SPEAKER_03: They're gonna be your closest friends, they're gonna be your your family, they might be your your your husband or wife.
• 32:17
  SPEAKER_03: And it's a it's like how do you how do you talk to a person or how do you move on as a person or grow as a person if those people are holding you back?
• 32:34
  SPEAKER_00: You distance yourself.
• 32:38
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I you check up on it once in a while if it's something that you know you still have that connection with them.
• 32:43
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, um, I mean, there will be some people where they just don't even want to do anything, have anything to do with you.
• 32:49
  SPEAKER_00: So then they just you cut ties from there.
• 32:52
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, but honestly, distancing yourself.
• 32:55
  SPEAKER_03: It's it's sad, but kind of a truth.
• 32:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
• 32:58
  SPEAKER_00: It it's it's hard.
• 33:00
  SPEAKER_00: It is, and you think that when you you do it, you're like, oh, it's cool, I can do it again.
• 33:05
  SPEAKER_00: It's it's the same.
• 33:07
  SPEAKER_03: It's a lot of the times I think it's usually natural.
• 33:10
  SPEAKER_03: If it is just a friend, you kind of drift apart, and sometimes you drift back after you kind of grow separately, right?
• 33:19
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
• 33:20
  SPEAKER_00: Cause say, you know, you guys drift apart, you happen to see each other years down the road.
• 33:24
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, maybe you guys being separated was what you guys needed, then you see each other again.
• 33:29
  SPEAKER_00: Hey, you guys are on the same frequency, yeah.
• 33:31
  SPEAKER_00: And you, you know, you link up again.
• 33:33
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 33:34
  SPEAKER_03: I think that another kind of interesting point here, and one of the ones that's really fundamental to this issue is it's it's there's a definite visceral feeling.
• 33:49
  SPEAKER_03: People know when the ones around them are wrong for them.
• 33:54
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 33:56
  SPEAKER_03: Right?
• 33:57
  SPEAKER_03: You know when you're looking at someone and or like you wake up the next morning and you drank too much because and you always drink too much when you're with that friend, or you just didn't do anything, right?
• 34:10
  SPEAKER_03: You sat on the couch all day and watch TV and and you wake up the next day and you're like, I really didn't want to do that.
• 34:16
  SPEAKER_03: Why did I do that?
• 34:18
  SPEAKER_03: And it always somehow links with a person or a group of people, right?
• 34:23
  SPEAKER_03: It's like we know we know who's for us.
• 34:27
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's like deep in your gut, but then it's like you feel bad, you feel wrong, like even the thought of like maybe I shouldn't be around this person anymore, you know?
• 34:40
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, no, but we've been friends for years, or you know, that's my family, and it's hard.
• 34:47
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's it's it's hard.
• 34:50
  SPEAKER_03: I and I I guess maybe it's one of those things where there just is no it's one of the it's it's a mental block that you have to get over, and and it's one that'll make you stronger.
• 35:00
  SPEAKER_03: Is that I actually this is maybe a good way of putting it, is that is a form of confidence is is the ability to separate yourself, to know that you are worthy of separating yourself from these people that are dragging you down.
• 35:19
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, because you know it's um to add on to that, you know, a loyalty thing too.
• 35:30
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I mean?
• 35:31
  SPEAKER_00: Like well, I feel so I feel like like when you start to separate yourself from someone, like for me, I feel like I'm not being loyal.
• 35:43
  SPEAKER_00: And then so I tell myself, okay, I'm not being loyal to them, but then I'm being disloyal to myself.
• 35:49
  unknown: Right.
• 35:50
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, so you saying like being worthy and stuff, yeah, be loyal to yourself, know that you're worthy to separate yourself that you want the best for yourself.
• 36:00
  SPEAKER_03: That's the underlying factor.
• 36:01
  SPEAKER_03: That's like what your business, it sounds like is founded on is trying to give people confidence.
• 36:06
  SPEAKER_00: Mm-hmm.
• 36:07
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, knowing that they're worthy and that they can do the best that they want to do for themselves, like the things that they dream of that they want to do, um, they can achieve that.
• 36:19
  SPEAKER_00: You know, it can make it real, they can bring it into its physical form.
• 36:23
  SPEAKER_03: Right.
• 36:24
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 36:25
  SPEAKER_03: Do you receive the most joy from watching your clients just lose their weight, or is it is it, you know, a year after when you see that their lives are completely changed?
• 36:37
  SPEAKER_00: Their lives are completely changed.
• 36:38
  SPEAKER_00: The weight loss, that's a subproduct.
• 36:41
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 36:42
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 36:43
  SPEAKER_00: Just seeing it's it's amazing, just their energy, their glow, you know, they come in and they have like this dark cloud right on top of their head, they're down, and then I see them six months, a year later, and then they're just like walking in, they're happy, you know.
• 36:59
  SPEAKER_00: It's a beautiful day, it's a great day, you know.
• 37:02
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, just seeing them like, you know, um, their energy like that.
• 37:07
  SPEAKER_00: It's it's beautiful to see that transformation, yeah.
• 37:10
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, 100%.
• 37:12
  SPEAKER_03: No.
• 37:13
  SPEAKER_03: That's yeah.
• 37:14
  SPEAKER_03: How do you plan on maybe building on that then?
• 37:17
  SPEAKER_03: Is it do you I don't think there's a right answer to this.
• 37:21
  SPEAKER_03: Do you see yourself more focusing on one on those one-on-one interactions, or do you see yourself building something larger or not larger, but different than that?
• 37:32
  SPEAKER_00: I want to I want to see myself doing something larger.
• 37:36
  SPEAKER_00: So as far as like going out, doing like um like speaking engagements, you know, talking to people talking about my story, you know, maybe we can we can have interaction, they tell me about their story and hoping that what I've gone through um can resonate with them and you know, let them know like, hey, it is possible.
• 37:55
  SPEAKER_03: Right.
• 37:56
  SPEAKER_03: What would be the context that you try to give your story?
• 38:00
  SPEAKER_03: Like, how would you want to convey your story to other people to inspire them?
• 38:05
  SPEAKER_00: I want them to know what I I want them to know that no matter where you come from, no matter what has been, what beliefs and values have been brought into you growing up or in your environment, that you can break that.
• 38:25
  SPEAKER_00: And letting them know from my story from when I was young, you know, getting into like drugs and wanting to be in a gang and like all that stuff to where me joining breaking through that, joining the military, um, breaking through a lot of the um the negative mindset that I had with the experiences I had in the military, my mindset uh being overweight, you know, the confidence level, esteem level, and that it is possible to lose the weight and bloom, like you know.
• 39:00
  SPEAKER_03: Absolutely.
• 39:01
  SPEAKER_03: No, yeah, it's a it's a story of overcoming obstacles, yeah.
• 39:06
  SPEAKER_03: You know, it's it's something that everyone can relate to, right?
• 39:10
  SPEAKER_03: Because everyone has their own obstacles and they don't have to be the same ones.
• 39:14
  SPEAKER_03: And I think this is kind of a a cool theme with these kind of stories like yours, which is inspiring, which is it's not like you're not asking people to look up to you, you're asking them to look up to themselves, right?
• 39:34
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 39:34
  SPEAKER_03: Find that the you know, to listen to those things that they have deep and down, say these are the things that I want to do, and I'm not being this is the person I want to be, and I'm not being those.
• 39:43
  SPEAKER_03: You're saying, like, go be your own hero, right?
• 39:46
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, like don't find yourself, create yourself.
• 39:50
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you hear a lot, like, oh man, I gotta find who I am, I gotta go solo search, you know.
• 39:55
  SPEAKER_00: But it's like, yo, if you change that word find to create, you don't have to go out and find and search it.
• 40:00
  SPEAKER_00: You create it yourself, you create you, your identity.
• 40:04
  SPEAKER_00: And because, like me coming up, I didn't have that.
• 40:07
  SPEAKER_00: I wanted that sense of belonging so bad, I molded myself to everyone that I encountered myself with.
• 40:12
  SPEAKER_00: So I never created my own identity.
• 40:15
  SPEAKER_00: I was like a follower, you know what I mean?
• 40:17
  SPEAKER_00: So then when I started coming into my own, I was like, you know what, forget this.
• 40:21
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna create who I am, I'm gonna create my identity, I'm gonna have my beliefs, my values, not others.
• 40:26
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 40:26
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, and and like you said, it's not me like, oh, look up to me, or you know, I'm over here, up here.
• 40:32
  SPEAKER_00: No, it's hey, you know, you could do it too.
• 40:35
  SPEAKER_00: You're not alone because we all feel like we're alone.
• 40:38
  SPEAKER_00: We all feel like we're alone in this, and that's why we hold it in and we have this facade, this tough facade, this happy facade.
• 40:44
  SPEAKER_00: We act like everything's perfect, but no, it's you know, it's okay.
• 40:48
  SPEAKER_00: You know what I mean?
• 40:49
  SPEAKER_00: You're not alone.
• 40:50
  SPEAKER_03: A hundred percent.
• 40:51
  SPEAKER_00: I'm hoping, you know, being vulnerable and like letting that out, people feel know that it's okay.
• 40:56
  SPEAKER_00: You can be vulnerable, and being vulnerable is what's gonna get you the change because you finally face the demons or whatever it is that's holding you back.
• 41:04
  SPEAKER_03: Absolutely.
• 41:05
  SPEAKER_03: No, it's and there's I mean, there are so many gems in that.
• 41:08
  SPEAKER_03: You talk about a lot of great things, it's not just the overcoming obstacles, but it's also this idea of vulnerability and building confidence in yourself and not feeling alone.
• 41:18
  SPEAKER_03: That's a huge one.
• 41:19
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 41:22
  SPEAKER_03: Even and and maybe that's an aspect of these, you know, people we have in our lives that we're like, oh, I don't I don't want them to drag me down anymore, but I also don't want to be alone, right?
• 41:39
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 41:41
  SPEAKER_00: Yep, yep.
• 41:42
  SPEAKER_00: Because that's how it goes.
• 41:43
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you know, you have your comfortable zone, you're with your people, but you pull away, and then you have this time when you are by yourself, and that's the scary part.
• 41:54
  SPEAKER_00: You're by yourself because you're trying to figure it out.
• 41:57
  SPEAKER_00: You just left that comfortable zone.
• 41:59
  SPEAKER_00: Now you're uncomfortable.
• 42:00
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, where I go from here.
• 42:02
  SPEAKER_00: But you sticking to it and you're coming into your own, you're creating it, you're gonna start to attract the people that's supposed to be around you that you're supposed to be around.
• 42:12
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 42:13
  SPEAKER_00: You know, so yeah.
• 42:15
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, you say, I mean, you say it really concisely.
• 42:17
  SPEAKER_03: It's don't don't find yourself, create yourself.
• 42:19
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, create it.
• 42:21
  SPEAKER_03: That's the theme, dog, is it's all about action.
• 42:25
  SPEAKER_03: It's just, I think, I think it's important to have those moments of reflection and you because that's what tells you, oh no, I'm what I'm doing right now isn't right.
• 42:34
  SPEAKER_03: And it's like your gut, but that's not gonna get you anywhere.
• 42:38
  SPEAKER_03: Like having that having that aha moment isn't doing anything.
• 42:43
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you gotta take action.
• 42:46
  SPEAKER_03: You don't wake up and go like, oh, I really don't like my life.
• 42:49
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, it's changed, right?
• 42:51
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, right.
• 42:52
  SPEAKER_03: You gotta take action.
• 42:54
  SPEAKER_03: And yeah, I think that's it's like that is kind of the epitome of of all stories of people who who who changed themselves or succeed in any ways, they just took action.
• 43:06
  SPEAKER_03: They didn't keep worrying about what they what they were or what they weren't or who they were or who they weren't.
• 43:12
  SPEAKER_03: They just started doing things that they thought were right in the moment.
• 43:15
  SPEAKER_03: And it takes you places.
• 43:17
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it does.
• 43:18
  SPEAKER_00: And at first it's like, you know, you have that desire that wants to take you towards that, you know, that new path.
• 43:24
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, you don't believe it at first, but you go because that desire is just that strong.
• 43:29
  SPEAKER_00: And then the more you see like things are happening, then you start believing and believing and believing, you're like, oh my gosh, things are really happening.
• 43:36
  SPEAKER_00: And that, and that just helps motivate you, you know, it keeps you going.
• 43:40
  SPEAKER_00: And you just know when you have those downtimes, okay, still go, still go, because things are gonna happen.
• 43:46
  SPEAKER_00: So just like repetition.
• 43:48
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 43:48
  SPEAKER_03: And that is this creation of the new identity, right?
• 43:55
  SPEAKER_03: You're stuck in this one zone, you're stuck with this idea.
• 43:58
  SPEAKER_03: You're you look at yourself and You're overweight and you go, No, this is who I am.
• 44:02
  SPEAKER_03: I'm overweight.
• 44:03
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 44:04
  SPEAKER_03: Right?
• 44:04
  SPEAKER_03: Yep.
• 44:05
  SPEAKER_03: But it's that moment where you take action and you start going that you break that identity.
• 44:10
  SPEAKER_03: You can go, oh, I lost five pounds.
• 44:12
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 44:13
  SPEAKER_03: Like it's just, or I lost two pounds.
• 44:14
  SPEAKER_03: You're like, well, I guess I wasn't that way.
• 44:17
  SPEAKER_03: Right?
• 44:17
  SPEAKER_03: Like, I guess I didn't have as a person, right?
• 44:20
  SPEAKER_03: Or you're in a job and and you know, you're like you're kind of lazy, you're just kind of getting by, you're comfortable.
• 44:27
  SPEAKER_03: And then you work a little harder for a couple weeks or a month, and you get you know, employee of the month, you get some small bonus or whatever, and you're like, oh, actually, yeah.
• 44:36
  SPEAKER_03: I have something else.
• 44:38
  SPEAKER_03: I have something more.
• 44:38
  SPEAKER_03: That isn't who I am.
• 44:40
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I can't do this.
• 44:41
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, let me try a supervisor position, let me try a manager position, you know?
• 44:46
  SPEAKER_00: So it just it does, yeah.
• 44:48
  SPEAKER_03: Those little moments, dogs.
• 44:49
  SPEAKER_03: I love it.
• 44:50
  SPEAKER_03: Yep.
• 44:52
  SPEAKER_03: That's wonderful.
• 44:53
  SPEAKER_03: I know we we've talked about a bunch of really really cool topics.
• 44:57
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 44:58
  SPEAKER_03: What kind of lesson do you think you would want people to take out of this?
• 45:02
  SPEAKER_03: And it can be more than one, but what do you think is one thing you'd really want people to take out of this conversation in particular?
• 45:09
  SPEAKER_00: Um everything you need to succeed is already in you.
• 45:15
  SPEAKER_00: You just gotta bring it out.
• 45:18
  SPEAKER_00: You know, like like I was saying, you don't find yourself, you create it, it's already in you.
• 45:23
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, you know, find yourself to create yourself, yeah.
• 45:27
  SPEAKER_00: It's already in you.
• 45:28
  SPEAKER_00: Everything you need to succeed is already in you, and um the big thing, you know, energy is huge, you know.
• 45:36
  SPEAKER_00: The energy that you want around you, you gotta be particular about the energy that you put out, you know.
• 45:42
  SPEAKER_00: I I believe in karma, so you know, yeah.
• 45:46
  SPEAKER_00: So if if um you know you bring out that great energy, that good energy, you're gonna receive that back.
• 45:52
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, absolutely.
• 45:53
  SPEAKER_03: I think that's a lesson that people can, it's not a what I do now is gonna impact me in a year.
• 46:00
  SPEAKER_03: I mean it is, but it's also I think this is a really active example.
• 46:04
  SPEAKER_03: If a person goes into a conversation, if at the start of the conversation you're not really listening, you're not gonna get a lot of the conversation.
• 46:12
  SPEAKER_03: But the moment it you don't have to stop and then go start a new conversation with a different attitude.
• 46:18
  SPEAKER_03: You could literally just start listening more actively.
• 46:20
  SPEAKER_03: You could realize, be like, oh, I'm not really listening to this, and then just start listening, right?
• 46:24
  SPEAKER_03: You put out a different energy and the conversation will flip because all of a sudden you're more engaged, right?
• 46:30
  SPEAKER_03: That kind of cloud, that energy, it's all the time, every time.
• 46:34
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 46:34
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 46:35
  SPEAKER_03: Definitely, definitely.
• 46:38
  SPEAKER_03: Well, thank you.
• 46:40
  SPEAKER_03: I really appreciate it.
• 46:41
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, this was dope.
• 46:49
  SPEAKER_03: I want to thank Joanne for coming on the podcast.
• 46:52
  SPEAKER_03: Once again, if you're interested in finding out more about Infallible Fit for personal training or online coaching, you can find her information in the podcast description.
• 47:01
  SPEAKER_03: I appreciate her telling the story of where she was at before joining the Air Force.
• 47:05
  SPEAKER_03: I think everyone has moments where they see where they are or who they are isn't where or who they want to be.
• 47:12
  SPEAKER_03: It's been a subject of discourse in many of my conversations during the pandemic.
• 47:17
  SPEAKER_03: Lots of people are looking at themselves in the mirror and realizing that something has been off.
• 47:22
  SPEAKER_03: Maybe even for a long time.
• 47:24
  SPEAKER_03: Whether it's related to weight, a relationship, a job, or anything else, Joanne is proof that if you know something is wrong, you can change it.
• 47:33
  SPEAKER_03: Maybe you need to leave someone behind.
• 47:36
  SPEAKER_03: Maybe you even need to leave a part of yourself behind.
• 47:39
  SPEAKER_03: It's not easy.
• 47:40
  SPEAKER_03: It requires battling with the underlying reasons, the mental habits and the environmental factors that are keeping you down and working to improve them.
• 47:48
  SPEAKER_03: And that's why it's important to fill your life with people like Joanne.
• 47:52
  SPEAKER_03: Ones who not only understand that change is possible, but who have lived it and who want the best for you.
• 47:58
  SPEAKER_03: As she says it, you don't have to find yourself.
• 48:01
  SPEAKER_03: You have to create yourself.
• 48:03
  SPEAKER_03: This conversation had me thinking quite a bit about my life right now during the pandemic.
• 48:08
  SPEAKER_03: It's one that I reflected on when I found myself looking at a clock that showed it was two o'clock in the afternoon without any work, improvement, or enjoyment to account for it that day.
• 48:17
  SPEAKER_03: It makes me think about the habits or mental blocks that are keeping me from bringing out the work ethic I know in my core that I have.
• 48:24
  SPEAKER_03: And maybe it makes you think about what's stopping you in life right now, too.
• 48:27
  SPEAKER_03: Thanks for listening.
• 48:33
  SPEAKER_03: If you liked this episode of Seeking Authenticity, that's freaking awesome.
• 48:37
  SPEAKER_03: All I want to ask of you, the listener, in return for the time and effort I put into making it is that you take a deep breath.
• 48:45
  SPEAKER_03: I mean really breathe.
• 48:47
  SPEAKER_03: Breathe so that it stretches out your shoulders and your back and your chest and pushes out your stomach.
• 48:52
  SPEAKER_03: No more of these shallow bullshit breaths.
• 48:54
  SPEAKER_03: They're barely keeping you alive, my friend.
• 48:57
  SPEAKER_03: And after you exhale, go out and soak up today.
• 49:01
  SPEAKER_03: Because in the end, your actions and the way they interact with the world and the people around you right now are all you have in this life.
• 49:09
  SPEAKER_03: So be authentic with them.
• 49:11
  SPEAKER_03: Peace.