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Do Narcissists See Anyone As Equals? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So do narcissists see you as equals?
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  Do they do? Do they see?
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  Anybody as an equal to them. That's what we're talking about
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  today. Do narcissistic people, can
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  narcissistic people ever see anyone else as their equal or as
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  their superior? If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Boom. Welcome back, folks.
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  Welcome back, welcome back. Let's get it.
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  So. Equals the equal sign 1.
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  Plus one equals. Two narc plus narc.
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  Equals. You now I'm joking.
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  So narcissistic people, toxic people like this is how a
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  narcissist mind works when when it comes to equality, right?
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  I personally think that a lot of narcissists can see you as an
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  equal or can see you as a superior to them.
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  Hold up, 'cause I know, I know, I know a lot of y'all saw the
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  tatter of the video, you saw the thumbnail and you was like what
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  the hell? Lee talking about Lee always Lee
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  clickbait clickbait. He I'm angry, you angry clicked
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  on the video and you thought I was going to say no, narcissist
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  never see anybody else as an equal.
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  But that's not always going to be true, right?
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  Because you have to get into the mind of a narcissist to actually
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  understand. And that's why you're here,
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  right? That's literally.
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  Why you're here right now because you want to get into the
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  mind of a narcissist to understand how a narcissist
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  thinks and what we do, how we react, how we're going to treat
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  people, how we're going to do things right.
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  That's. Right, right, right, right,
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  right, right. So think about it like this,
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  Narcissistic people could possibly see you.
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  As an equal. Or as a superior.
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  Now let me, let me before I hop too deep, before I go, before I
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  just start going off on this video.
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  Before I start. Doing that, yes, there are a lot
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  of narcissists that see themselves as superior to
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  everyone else, they have a sense of entitlement that is not
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  deserved and they are horrible ass people and will never ever
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  live up to their true dreams and their reality and never be
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  happy. Let's get that out the way right
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  now because I know people are going to say that.
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  I know that's why you angrily clicked on the video.
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  That's why you probably left an angry comment before you watched
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  the video. I get it.
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  Right, I completely. Understand it, I get it, I trust
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  me. But that's what happens here.
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  That's why you're. Here to get the mindset.
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  Of a narcissist because some narcissists absolutely think.
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  That they're entitled. To every single thing they think
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  they're better, Stronger, faster, better looking, more
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  money, more deserving, whatever it is they think.
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  That they're. Above you in every single way
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  they. Think they think that they're
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  above. Everybody in every single way.
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  Not just you, everybody. Everybody.
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  Yes, so I say that to say this. There are a lot of abusive,
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  manipulative, horrible ass people out there, but some of
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  them don't think that they are above you.
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  Let me tell you why. Let me tell you why I'm getting
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  fired up. What's going on with me?
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  I'm getting fired up right now. I'm getting fired up later on in
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  the. Video early.
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  Let me tell you why. Because a lot of narcissists see
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  you as the equal or above them. They want to pull you down to
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  their level. Or if they see you as an equal,
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  they want to push you below their level to take your head
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  down and stuff you down here, right?
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  Do you understand what I'm saying?
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  Because if they see you. As an equal, they will try to
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  push you down below them. They will try to do whatever it
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  takes a lot of times to. Make themselves feel.
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  Superior to you or look superior to you?
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  They see you as an. Equal they see.
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  You as a challenge. They see we we see eye to eye.
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  Hell no. I don't like this.
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  I want to stand out. I want to be the most I want to
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  be one of the most important ones.
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  I want to be this, I want to be that.
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  That's why they that's how they do it.
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  If they see you as an equal, they will try to.
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  Push you down, they will try to like say especially let's just
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  say y'all are on the same level of a company, right?
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  You and this narcissistic person y'all on the same.
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  Level. Y'all had like the same job
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  title, y'all up for a promotion or whatever, Y'all the same
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  qualifications and everything. They're going, a lot of them
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  will do whatever it takes to throw you under the bus.
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  So they get promoted above you, or so they feel above you.
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  They'll change their yeah, y'all will have the same exact job
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  description, the same exact job, right?
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  But they'll tell people. They'll make a.
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  A special title up for their job, but to make it seem like.
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  It's above you, right to make it.
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  Seem like it's above everything. To make it.
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  Seem like it's above, above and beyond the Call of Duty.
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  This is what? Happens.
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  And it's what we're trying to say with people in these.
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  Situations this is. Definitely how it goes.
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  Like, so if you're dealing with a narcissistic person, toxic
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  person or whatever, this is what you have to understand.
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  This is how their minds are going to work.
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  They're going to try to push you down.
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  They're going to try to put elevate themselves above you.
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  This is how they do it. This is how they're going to
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  keep doing it. They don't want to.
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  They don't want to. They don't want you even
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  thinking that you are an equal. They don't even want you
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  thinking that because they don't benefit through that.
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  They don't want you thinking it, they don't want you considering
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  it. They don't want you.
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  Doing it. This is not what they want,
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  right? Am I right?
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  Am I right? But for.
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  Most narcissists, this is how it goes.
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  They will try to push you down, they will try or they will try
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  to step over you. They will try to step up on you.
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  They will try to use you if you if they see you as an.
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  Equal or on equal footing on the same level.
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  They will try to use you. To get to where they want to go,
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  they want to try. To use.
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  You to get to their next level, to get to their next step.
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  They will try to use you. To get.
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  There they will. Yeah, they will use your ass.
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  I ain't joking, they will. Absolutely use.
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  You they will. Use you, throw you away, spit
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  you, they. Use you.
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  And step over, use you to get that promotion and it'll leave
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  you alone, abuse you and just disappear.
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  That's how they go it. But if you're already above
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  them, Oh my goodness, if a narcissist thinks that you are
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  above them. Equal is one thing, above is
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  completely. Different one if they think you
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  are above. Them man you.
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  Want to see? An insecure person you want to
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  see. The insecurities.
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  Of a person to come to the full level to.
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  Come to the highest level. Come to the maximum extreme,
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  then you got to be dealing with the narcissist like in these
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  situations, this is what you have to deal with.
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  If you want to see a. Narcissist the most in their
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  insecure. Form put them in an environment.
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  Where they are not the top dog. Where they are.
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  While everybody else. Makes more money to them.
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  They're the shortest person in the room.
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  There might be a little. They might.
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  Be bald headed. Whatever it is, whatever their
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  greatest insecurity is. Put them in in A room.
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  Full of people. That exacerbate their.
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  Insecurity. And you will see who they really
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  are. You will see how cowardice and
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  how meek they are. They might.
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  Pretend to be strong with you. But to everybody else that.
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  They feel like is above them. They hilu Sir, ma'am hilu they
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  will become. Like boy.
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  This is Ludy, hide it matter of fact.
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  The government, so to speak. You take these weird old
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  politicians out there. We have in America that.
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  Just don't. Care about governing.
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  They don't care about being. They don't care about governing.
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  They care about. Clout and social media stuff and
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  clicks and just saying the craziest shit.
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  That can come out of their mouth.
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  And they, they, they project the strength.
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  I'm strong. I'm this, I'm that.
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  Would you get them in a room with the president or somebody
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  else that's. Above them they become meek as
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  hell. And I'm not as strong without
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  you. You just.
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  The same mindset right there. They're strong.
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  To you, but when they. Get in the room with actual
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  strong, powerful people. Zip.
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  Yes, Sir. Yes, ma'am.
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  That's how that's how they go. That's how they do it.
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  They were the the most. Insec.
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  So in these situations, if a narcissist sees you or feels.
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  Like you are. Above them.
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  This is when you get them in their true most insecure form,
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  the punk form. The the the The Who I'm from
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  call them hoes, the ho form not. Women ho form, I say.
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  When I say ho form I mean just like.
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  These are just weak people. In general.
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  They are. They project strength, but
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  they're actually weak. So if they think that you're.
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  Above them, man. You ain't seen, you ain't seen.
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  Nothing yet, Trust me when I say that.
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  Because yes, will they try to? Take you down.
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  A lot of them will plot on you to try to take.
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  You down. Or not even try to.
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  Try to take. You down but.
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  When you do falter, if you do fail, they will.
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  Want to be the ones that. Swoop in and take power from you
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  to try to take your position from you and then once they
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  feel. Like you're all.
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  Equal footing. Equal footing.
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  Or that if you below them, they're going to treat you hard,
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  they're going to treat you horribly.
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  If they ever felt like you. Were above them and somehow they
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  got promoted or you got demoted and y'all on the same level.
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  This is just not company wise. This is anywhere social
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  settings, whatever it is. If they feel like now y'all.
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  Equal footing. Now you will see the real them.
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  They might try to acquiesce to everything that you want when
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  you're above them. It might be nice to you.
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  They might. Become a damn.
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  Sycophant. A weirdo, A member of your
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  little cult that you might have going on, right?
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  They might just you. Like I ain't got a cult, but you
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  act like you're a cult member. Leave me alone.
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  But then. Once you get once they get to
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  the same level as you. They'll.
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  Show you their true character or once you like I said once.
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  They have no more use for. You once they've.
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  Used you up. And got to the point where they
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  want to. Now you will see the real them.
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  Narcissistic people tend to be users and abusers and losers and
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  oozers and boozers and bruisers. All the rhyming, all the oozers,
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  right? All the oozers.
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  Carlos Boozer. Oh, Dukehead.
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  Oh, Duke boy. But yeah, they do see people as
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  equals or see people that are. Above them.
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  This is why they're insecure. This is.
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  Why their egos are so easy to crack.
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  Y'all narcissists thought that they were the best thing going.
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  They wouldn't act the way that. They act a lot of time right A.
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  Lot of times they're. Projecting their own.
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  Insecurities onto you, out into the real world, doing this type
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  of stuff right here. This is what they do, this is
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  how they act, this is how they treat you.
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  This is what they're going to continue to do.
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  This is the mentality of abusive, manipulative people.
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  Now. I just feel like in order to
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  heal, in order to grow, you have to understand that.
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  If they're treating you bad. Y'all ask yourself why now could
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  they be treating? You bad just because they are
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  horrible ass human being, Yeah. Absolutely true, but they could
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  be treating you bad. They could be trying to beat.
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  You they could. Be treating.
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  You bad. Or they could be treating.
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  You nice and sucking up to you because they.
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  Think you're above them or. You are equal footing in social
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  circles, in friend groups, at the job, wherever it is.
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  Social media platforms. Whatever it is, if they.
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  Feel like you're. Above them and you don't deserve
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  it. They feel like they're more
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  deserving. Watch how they Yeah, watch how.
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  Manipulative and sneaky they can be.
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  It can be sick. A sick thing to watch.
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  You'd be like when you see it, you'd be like, what the hell?
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  Who the hell are you? You like what?
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  The hell is going on here? What do you have?
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  Like what do you have going on? And it can make you feel like
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  you're going crazy when you see this person.
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  It can make you just feel sick to your stomach because you see
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  how they're acting around other people.
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  You can start wondering like, why the hell?
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  Don't they act this way with me? You know, why don't they act
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  this way with me? So that's one thing you have to
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  ask yourself in order to in order to heal, in order to grow
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  and understand why they're treating you a certain type of
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  way. It might not be because they
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  think they're better than you it.
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  Might be because you make you make them feel small, you make
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  them feel weak, you think you make them feel meek.
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  You might like especially even it.
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  Like it doesn't have to be job, Like I said, it doesn't have to
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  be job or whatever. You can just be more
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  conventionally attractive than they are, and they can feel like
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  they're you above. Them and they can treat you a
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  certain type of way. Y'all there is crazy.
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  So yes, some narcissists absolutely can see other people
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  as equals. Or as superiors.
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  It's just that they might net, they might not project it
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  outwardly. In a way for you to know it.
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  They do it behind the scenes behind that narcissistic mind.
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  They are doing it on a. Consistent basis.
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  But they might not show it in real.
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  Time in real life, you know. You might not see it, but they
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  are doing. They're actively.
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  Doing it they actively are, so it's just something to consider
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