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Get Up, Make It Happen: Become Better Than Ever Before · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Here's the big challenge of life.
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  Speaker 2: You can have more than you've got because you can
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  Speaker 2: become more than you are.
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  Speaker 1: That's the challenge.
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  Speaker 2: And of course the other side of the coin reads,
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  Speaker 2: unless you change how you are, you'll always have what
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  Speaker 2: you got. Success is something you attract, not something you pursue.
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  Speaker 2: Success is looking for a good place to stay. So
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  Speaker 2: instead of going after it, you work on yourself personal development.
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  Speaker 1: See.
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  Speaker 2: The major question to ask on the job is not
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  Speaker 2: what are you getting? The major question to ask on
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  Speaker 2: the job is what are you becoming? The big question
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  Speaker 2: is not what am I getting paid here? The big
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  Speaker 2: question is what am I becoming here? Because true happiness
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  Speaker 2: is not contained and what you get happiness is contained
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  Speaker 2: and what you become.
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  Speaker 3: It's a very common idea, and I figured out why
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  Speaker 3: that is.
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  Speaker 4: I think.
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  Speaker 3: So imagine that we already know from a clinical perspective
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  Speaker 3: that you know if you set out a path towards
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  Speaker 3: a goal, which you want to do because you need
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  Speaker 3: a goal, and you need a path because that provides
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  Speaker 3: you with positive emotion. Right, So you set up something
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  Speaker 3: as valuable, so that applies a hierarchy. You set up
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  Speaker 3: something is valuable. You decide that you're going to do
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  Speaker 3: that instead of other things. So that's kind of a
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  Speaker 3: sacrifice as you're sacrificing everything else to pursue that, and
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  Speaker 3: then you experience a fair bit of positive emotion and
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  Speaker 3: meaning as you watch yourself move towards the goal. And
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  Speaker 3: so the implication of that is the better the goal,
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  Speaker 3: the more full and rich your experience is going to
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  Speaker 3: be when you pursue it. So that's one of the
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  Speaker 3: reasons of that's one of the reasons for developing a
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  Speaker 3: vision and for fleshing yourself out philosophically, because you want
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  Speaker 3: to aim at the highest goal that you can manage. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: So you do that, and then what you'll find is
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  Speaker 3: that as you move towards the goal, there are certain
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  Speaker 3: things that you have to accomplish that frighten you because
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  Speaker 3: it's going to stretch you if you pursue a goal,
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  Speaker 3: and so that'll put you up against challenges. Okay, So
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  Speaker 3: all the clinical data indicates, well, the opposite of safe spaces.
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  Speaker 3: As Jonathan Height has been pointing out, that what you
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  Speaker 3: want to do when you identify something that someone is
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  Speaker 3: avoiding that they need to do because they're afraid you
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  Speaker 3: have them voluntarily confronted.
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  Speaker 2: I want to have this much experience and be able
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  Speaker 2: to do this by thirty days from now, sixty days
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  Speaker 2: from now, six months from now, And finally that six
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  Speaker 2: months passes and there you are. Finally the time passes
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  Speaker 2: and you have it. Finally the time passes and the
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  Speaker 2: skill is now beginning to be polished, and it is
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  Speaker 2: so unique and effective. Achieving is an incredible source of inspiration.
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  Speaker 5: But the power of doing a better habit each day,
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  Speaker 5: or casting a little vote for that type of person
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  Speaker 5: is that now you have evidence to root your belief in. Occasionally,
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  Speaker 5: and this is true for everybody. If you live long enough,
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  Speaker 5: life will come for you at some point, right like
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  Speaker 5: something's going to happen. So occasionally life will stress you.
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  Speaker 5: But when life doesn't challenge you, I think it's important
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  Speaker 5: to challenge yourself. You can decide to design something to
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  Speaker 5: make your good behaviors easier and your bad behaviors harder.
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  Speaker 5: So when it comes to habits, if you want to
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  Speaker 5: practice your guitar more frequently, put it right in the
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  Speaker 5: middle of your living rooms so that you run across
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  Speaker 5: all the time. If you want to read more when
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  Speaker 5: you make your bed in the morning, take the book
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  Speaker 5: you want to read, Put it on top of the pillow.
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  Speaker 5: When you come back that night, pick it up, read
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  Speaker 5: a few pages, go to sleep. That small improvements, tiny habits,
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  Speaker 5: little choices are not just a cherry on top of
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  Speaker 5: our performance, not just like a nice thing to have,
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  Speaker 5: but actually can be the key that unlocks significant success.
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  Speaker 1: Well, what's interesting here is that.
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  Speaker 5: Everybody wants a transformation, right, everybody wants a radical im
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  Speaker 5: want rapid success. But we fail to realize that small
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  Speaker 5: habits and little choices are transforming us every day already,
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  Speaker 5: That these times when you make a choice is slightly better,
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  Speaker 5: slightly worse, a little mistake or a small air percent
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  Speaker 5: better one percent. That these things come pound over time,
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  Speaker 5: and habits are the compound interests of self improvement. And
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  Speaker 5: so if you can learn to master those, then you
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  Speaker 5: can make time work for you rather than get against you. Right,
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  Speaker 5: good habits make time your ally. Bad habits make time
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  Speaker 5: your enemy.
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  Speaker 3: How much time do you waste? So then I get
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  Speaker 3: the classed to vote how many of you waste ten
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  Speaker 3: hours a day? It's like ten percent of the kids
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  Speaker 3: that put up your hands. And it's interesting because I
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  Speaker 3: don't define what constitutes waste. I just asked the question.
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  Speaker 1: So they're diagnosing themselves, right. I'm not saying you're wasting
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  Speaker 1: ten hours a day.
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  Speaker 3: I'm just asking It's like, given your own attitude, how
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  Speaker 3: much time are you wasted?
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  Speaker 6: So many people are waiting. You're You're waiting for things
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  Speaker 6: to be perfect. You're waiting for everyone to get themselves together.
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  Speaker 6: You're waiting for someone to invite you into the room.
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  Speaker 6: You're waiting for someone to give you a seat at
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  Speaker 6: the table. You're waiting for someone to validate your gift.
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  Speaker 6: You're waiting for someone to call your You're waiting for
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  Speaker 6: someone to give you the opportunity.
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  Speaker 1: You're waiting for everything.
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  Speaker 4: To line up. You're waiting for all the situations to
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  Speaker 4: come together perfectly. And I'm telling you you cannot wait.
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  Speaker 4: You gotta start working right now. Don't wait another minute.
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  Speaker 4: Don't wait another moment. Now is your time.
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  Speaker 2: Personal success is built on the foundation of character, and
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  Speaker 2: character is the result of hundreds and hundreds of choices
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  Speaker 2: you may make that gradually turn who you are at
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  Speaker 2: any given moment into who you want to be. If
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  Speaker 2: that decision making process is not present, you'll still be somebody.
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  Speaker 2: You'll still be alive, but you may have a personality
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  Speaker 2: rather than a character, and to me, that's something very different.
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  Speaker 2: Character isn't something you were born with and can't change,
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  Speaker 2: like your fingerprints. It's something you weren't born with and
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  Speaker 2: that you must take responsibility for forming. There used to
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  Speaker 2: be a joke about football teams that lost every game.
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  Speaker 2: The coach would say, we built a lot of character
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  Speaker 2: this year, didn't we As If character is something that
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  Speaker 2: you settle for when you haven't achieved what you really wanted,
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  Speaker 2: or automatically develops as a result of adversity, I.
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  Speaker 1: Don't buy that.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think adversity by itself builds character, and I
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  Speaker 2: certainly don't think that success erodes it. You build character
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  Speaker 2: by how you respond to what happens in your life,
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  Speaker 2: whether it's winning every game or losing every game, or
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  Speaker 2: getting rich or dealing with hard times. You build character
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  Speaker 2: from certain qualities that you must create and diligently nurture
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  Speaker 2: within yourself, just like you would plant and water a
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  Speaker 2: seed or gather wood to build a campfire. You've got
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  Speaker 2: to look for those things in your heart and in
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  Speaker 2: your gut. You've got to chisel away in order to
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  Speaker 2: find them. Just like chiseling away rock to create the
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  Speaker 2: sculpture that has previously existed only in the imagination. But
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  Speaker 2: the really amazing thing about character is that if you're
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  Speaker 2: sincerely committed to making yourself into the person you want
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  Speaker 2: to be, you'll not only create those qualities, you'll strengthen
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  Speaker 2: them and recreate them in abundance even as you're drawing
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  Speaker 2: on them every day of your life. That's why building
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  Speaker 2: your character is vital becoming all that you can be.
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  Speaker 2: When you are a person of character, you know who
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  Speaker 2: you are and where you want to go. You've already
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  Speaker 2: spent a great deal of time thinking about it. You've
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  Speaker 2: been working on the parts of your personality that will
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  Speaker 2: make you better your attitude, your health, your time management skills.
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  Speaker 2: You've been putting it all down on paper, and you've
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  Speaker 2: developed positive self direction. As you talk with yourself every day,
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  Speaker 2: how often do you ask, is what I am doing
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  Speaker 2: today getting me closer to where I want to be tomorrow?
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  Speaker 1: Because here's what you don't want to ever do.
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  Speaker 2: Kid yourself, kid your neighbor, and kid me in kid
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  Speaker 2: marketplace if you want to, but don't kid yourself. You
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  Speaker 2: can't wait around with your fingers crossed hoping you'll arrive
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  Speaker 2: at a good destination. When you're not even headed in
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  Speaker 2: the right direction, you say, well, maybe the wind will
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  Speaker 2: take me. There's a chance, of course, but it's about
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  Speaker 2: as likely as winning the lottery. You've got to take charge.
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  Speaker 2: Ancient scripture says that hope, if it's delayed long enough,
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  Speaker 2: can make the heart sick. You've got to ask yourself often,
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  Speaker 2: am I performing the disciplines that are taking me in the.
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  Speaker 1: Direction that I want to go.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to delude myself and think I'm on
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  Speaker 2: the way to financial success when there's.
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  Speaker 1: Not a prayer.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to delude myself into thinking there's someone
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  Speaker 2: else who will take care of it. Nobody else is
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  Speaker 2: going to take care of it. Nobody else is going
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  Speaker 2: to take care of me. What if all off your
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  Speaker 2: negative thinking relatives turned positive?
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  Speaker 1: What would that do for your fortune and your future?
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  Speaker 1: Not much?
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  Speaker 2: If prices came down a little, what would that do
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  Speaker 2: for your sophistication and your culture?
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  Speaker 1: Not much? If the economy gets a little better, what
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  Speaker 1: would that do for you? Not much. If you don't make.
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  Speaker 2: Plans of your own, you'll fit into someone else's plans,
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  Speaker 2: And what do you think they have planned for you?
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  Speaker 1: Not much.
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  Speaker 2: Most people wake up every morning counting on this not
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  Speaker 2: much list, and that's all they have. Not much, not
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  Speaker 2: much hope, not much promise, not much progress. They're driving
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  Speaker 2: what they don't want to drive, living what they don't
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  Speaker 2: want to live, doing what they don't want to do.
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  Speaker 2: Forget the thief waiting in the alley to snatch your purse.
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  Speaker 2: What about the thief in your mind? He is tempting
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  Speaker 2: you to become lazy. Not stimulated by thoughts and questions.
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  Speaker 2: Don't become a victim of yourself. Ask yourself these questions.
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  Speaker 2: Is this the direction that I want for my life?
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  Speaker 2: Is it someone else's direction? Is it a goal that
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  Speaker 2: has been ingrained in me since my childhood? Is it
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  Speaker 2: my parents, my spouse's, my boss, or my children's?
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  Speaker 1: Is it mine?
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  Speaker 2: Ask yourself these questions get into the debate of your
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  Speaker 2: inner mind. What am I doing that works? What am
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  Speaker 2: I doing that doesn't work?
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  Speaker 1: Debate at all.
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  Speaker 2: Work with your mind to figure out the best possible
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  Speaker 2: direction for you. This is your self direction. There are
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  Speaker 2: two parts to positive self direction. Part one is self knowledge.
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  Speaker 2: Self knowledge is knowing who you are and what you
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  Speaker 2: want to do with your life.
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  Speaker 1: It is knowing how you feel about yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Self knowledge has a lot to do with your philosophy,
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  Speaker 2: and your philosophy has a lot to do with shaping
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  Speaker 2: your attitude. It helps determine how you feel about yourself,
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  Speaker 2: about life, about your direction, and about others around you.
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  Speaker 2: You've got to gather up enough knowledge and information to
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  Speaker 2: know what's right for you. How do you gather up
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  Speaker 2: this information, Well, you can start with your own experiences.
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  Speaker 2: The best way to know if something works for you
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  Speaker 2: to find the right way is to do it the
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  Speaker 2: wrong way. You can't keep doing it the wrong way.
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  Speaker 2: You've got to be smart enough to say, hey, this
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  Speaker 2: isn't working and change it. Start doing it the right way.
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  Speaker 2: Then search for the knowledge and apply what's right for
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  Speaker 2: you to your life. Develop your own attitudes and philosophies
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  Speaker 2: around your own experiences and the experiences of others. Take
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  Speaker 2: all of the information you have gathered and compile it,
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  Speaker 2: Consider it, debate it, tear it apart, turn it upside down,
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  Speaker 2: look at it from your own perspective, and refine it
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  Speaker 2: to suit you. Rearrange it, throw some of it out.
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  Speaker 2: Keep what you think will work for you. You and
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  Speaker 2: most importantly, make sure that what you end up doing
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  Speaker 2: is the product of your own conclusion. Make sure that
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  Speaker 2: the knowledge that you are building is your own self knowledge.
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  Speaker 2: The second component of positive self direction is preparation. Being
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  Speaker 2: ready for the opportunities when they show up in your life.
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  Speaker 2: Being ready for the sales call that may make you
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  Speaker 2: a fortune, being ready for the meeting that may positively
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  Speaker 2: affect your career, Being ready for it all in expectation
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  Speaker 2: it will come. If you wish to be ruler over many,
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  Speaker 2: you've got to be faithful with few. If you wish
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  Speaker 2: to have power and influence over many, be the leader
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  Speaker 2: of many and get the return from many. Be faithful
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  Speaker 2: and disciplined when there's just a few, and do it
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  Speaker 2: in your own enlightened self interest, because that gives you
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  Speaker 2: the best chance to have power, influence, and a place
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  Speaker 2: of honor among the many.
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  Speaker 1: Be faithful when there's just a few.
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  Speaker 2: Someone says, if I had a big organization, i'd really
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  Speaker 2: be on top of things, but I've just got a
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  Speaker 2: few employees and I don't know where they are. Come on,
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  Speaker 2: when you've just got a few employees, you should know
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  Speaker 2: where all of them are. Let's say we were interviewing
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  Speaker 2: the parents of a fairly large family whose children have
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  Speaker 2: all grown up and gone. What if we said to
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  Speaker 2: them what happened to all of your children and they answered,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know, they just all wandered off, we'd ask
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  Speaker 2: where did they all go? If they say, who knows,
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  Speaker 2: they're just all gone. We're just going to have some more,
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  Speaker 2: that's clearly not an acceptable attitude. If you've got a
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  Speaker 2: few employees, if you've got a few distributors, if you've
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  Speaker 2: got a few people you deal with, that's the time
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  Speaker 2: to sharpen your communication skills of being in touch, getting prepared,
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  Speaker 2: giving the most of your heart and soul in your
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  Speaker 2: own enlightened self interest, give it your all when there's
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  Speaker 2: a few, be totally absorbed when there's just a few.
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  Speaker 2: Improve your reputation and skills, so when a leadership position
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  Speaker 2: opens up you'll be called. The same thing goes with
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  Speaker 2: your money. Someone says, oh, if I had a fortune,
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  Speaker 2: i'd really take good care of it. But I've only
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  Speaker 2: got a small paycheck and I don't know where it goes.
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  Speaker 2: Nobody would ever respond to the person who says, I
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  Speaker 2: don't know where it all goes with Oh, we'd love
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  Speaker 2: to have you run our company, or you don't know
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  Speaker 2: where it all goes.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, you should be in charge of the world. Come on,