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SPH Book 6 - 1 of 12 Chris interviews me about #1 · The Bull Brotherhood

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I have a real problem with social cues, and I
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was really worried about that. When I started
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letting that out, thanks to my boys encouraging
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me to be myself, I started realizing I attract
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more people. Oh, I'm nerdy, too. I'm a slut and
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nerdy. You know, I'm philosophical, too. I'm
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reading Adler, and I'm a slut. You know what
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I mean? So what you do is, like, no matter who
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you are, if you are a micro -penis, Valhalla
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-worshiping, you know, kinkster, Which was my
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mentor. Wasn't expecting that. Yeah. This podcast
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for men who lead, men who master, and men who
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leave a lasting impression. If you're here, you're
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not just curious. You're ready to elevate. So
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to all the bulls, hot wives, stags, and open
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-minded explorers, we see you. Let's go. What's
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good, what's good, what's good, y 'all? It's
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your boy. And I know that's old school, niggas.
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So y 'all young niggas, leave me alone about
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that one. That's back in the 90s. It's your boy,
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Socrates. And we got a very special... book episode
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for the Socrates' Philosophies and Hypotheses.
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We got a special guest in the room. Usually I
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do these by myself, but this fella here is so
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cool. My man Chris, he's been a regular play
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partner of my wife's. My wife thoroughly enjoys
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him. Smart man, educated, hardworking, and very
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proficient in the lifestyle. And me being the
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question extraordinaire, the interviewer guy
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to ask all kind of intriguing questions. I, you
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know, it's not a lot of people that can hold
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a candle to that, but this brother can. So I'm
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excited about him. We're going to talk about
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these 12 principles and we're going to go over
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them in another way where he's going to, you
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know, we have a conversation about him and he's
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going to draw out some things that I might not.
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you know think about and um you know we're just
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going to have a conversation about it and i love
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to have these concepts bounce off of his creative
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mindset so with no further ado your boy chris
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what's up man how's it going man wait you say
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uh we're gonna break it down we're gonna do it
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like over episodes right yes sir i just want
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to make sure you know yeah yeah just only got
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an hour today yeah exactly He's cognizant of
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times. My boy has been on several episodes of
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the Siren of Freedom podcast, and you guys should
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check that out. A lot of great episodes with
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him. So, yeah, what we're going to do, man, is
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we're going to go over these ones, and however
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we're going to give you the mic, we're going
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to talk about them and my crazy claims to fame
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for them and what I claim that they can do for
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you as far as cisgendered masculine male. in
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any area of life of the of yours interpersonal
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relationships with women so like would you say
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that is your like target audience for these principles
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i would say my target audience is any cisgendered
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man who wants my claim which is i my claim is
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that you can get keep and keep happy any woman
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you authentically want yeah i respect that I
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feel like we have so many conversations about
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this. It's crazy we're finally getting in front
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of a microphone now. Yeah, exactly. But I mean,
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just like looking at them, I mean, how did you,
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are these like in order of importance or how?
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So, yeah, I'm very glad that you said that. They
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are in order of importance. Let me say why. For
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example, number one is important. Choose a victorious
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mindset over a victimhood mindset. The reason
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why that's extremely important, for example,
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if you don't have that mentality, but you accept
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number nine, which is women are the prize, you
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will learn something about female nature that
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will get you in trouble. If you don't have a
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victorious mindset, she won't feel safe and secure
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and confident about you. Which means she won't
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open up in the way that she needs to. Which means,
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for example, number eight, women speak the language
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of heart and connection. That's only if they're
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attracted to you and respect you. So the victorious
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mindset is important. Choose intelligent authenticity.
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Wait, wait, wait. I got a question. Yeah. Number
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eight, when you talked about the women speak
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the language of heart and connection, do you
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feel like there's a set language on that? Or
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do you feel like sometimes your understanding
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of things has to fluctuate depending on your
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partner? Well, you know, it's a great question.
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I love that question. In essence, there is a
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language and it's not words. I'm glad you said
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that. But then you're going to have to also learn
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the vernacular and also her choice of words.
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True. Okay, so let me give you an example. There
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is a language and this is the universal truth.
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This is why I'm claiming that goes what I call
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red pill number one stage. which is the red pill
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or manosphere community, you need about three
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more red pills for them to really get out of
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the matrix. And we'll talk about it in another
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episode. But one of the things is, is that here's
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the fact of human beings, not women or anybody.
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And you do, anybody look this up and the numbers
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are a little different depending on the research
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you've looked up, but the principle is the same,
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all language. And I mean, all forms of communication.
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our percentage of body language, words, tone,
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speed, and speech pattern, as well as facial
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features, facial expression. Do you know the
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percentage of the words of human beings, not
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just women, that matter in communication? No.
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From 7 % to 20%. So at most, in a legal briefing,
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in an attorney's, in a court, maybe the words
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are 20 % of the importance. So when you're communicating
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with someone, men, if two men are looking at
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each other, they're doing the same thing a woman's
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doing. A woman is way more aware of it. She's
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looking at your body language. Right now, your
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arms are crossed. That says something, right?
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I studied it. Right now, your feet are pointed
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towards the podcast and not towards me. That
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says something. Your facial expression says something.
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Your eyes say something. Your smile says something.
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Right? So women pick up that stuff very naturally.
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That's a language that men don't use. Since we're
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more about logic, we focus way too much on the
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words. Why? Because two logical people, two men,
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it matters what you say and are you going to
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keep your word. For women, everybody that studies
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women will tell you it's not as much as the words,
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it's your tone of voice. You know, I've seen
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a TikTok that said, oh, you know, it's always
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the same one because they copy each other. The
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man will be driving, the woman will be on the
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passenger side, and the woman's not talking,
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but her voiceover says, you know what? Or the
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screen says, you know what? My husband's right
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almost every time. It's just the tone that I
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don't like. So, yeah. That universal language
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of 7 % is about the words and everything is about
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your body language, your tone, your cadence,
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your volume in your voice. Are you yelling? Are
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you quiet? All of those things, your choice of
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words, you're all the way down to in the words,
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they can break that down. It's your choice of
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words. It's your vocabulary. How big is your,
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all of those things matter. How well you can
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present the idea. all of those things matter
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that's a language now getting down to the there's
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cultural things i'll give an example i'm hispanic
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and there's a word that i love it's bicho now
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all my latinos don't please don't criticize me
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over this because i haven't used the word where
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i live now i don't practice my spanish okay but
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i'll give you this for certain latinos bicho
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is an insect for salvadorians it's a little child
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And for Caribbeans, it's a curse word. Same word,
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different meaning. Yeah. Right? For example,
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in America, a fag is a derogatory term for our
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homosexual brothers and sisters. In London, it's
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a cigarette. So you got to learn the meaning
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behind the words of the girl that you're talking
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to. Culture will tell you, right? Being in the
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lifestyle will tell you, right? Their political
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views are all things that give you a clue on
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how they pick up meaning. And then there's the,
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you ever heard, you know, you met somebody and
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they use a word all the time and come to find
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out they were using it wrong, but you know what
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they meant when they were using the word. Yeah.
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Then that's about learning the person's individual
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stuff. The more you get that, and I would say
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this, and like I said, this is for everybody.
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If you're a pickup artist and you're trying to
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lose these principles and you're like, I just
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want to go out in the club and pick up some bitches.
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Okay, here's what you do. You learn the first
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part. You better master that fact that your communication
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is a lot more about your body language than it
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is the words you use. It's a lot more about your
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tone of voice, how loud your volume is, and your
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cadence than it is about the words that you're
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using. That will lend way more into meeting someone.
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So yeah, it is a language that you can use universally
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that you're going to have to get. Now, if you
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want to start getting the claims that I'm making,
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which is like, if you're on lifestyle, you can
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be flooded and I don't care where you live with
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this stuff. You're going to have to start understanding
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her cultural references, her political references,
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her. city that you grew up in right in certain
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cities i would say if you the way you pronounce
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the city they know oh you're you're not from
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here right or like nobody in san francisco calls
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it frisco you know what i'm saying that type
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of thing right that's about knowing those i would
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say social things religion culture the city you
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live in, what generation you're in. Those, you
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know, if you're saying Riz, I kind of know where
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you're coming from. Yeah. I know what you're,
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you know what I mean? If you're saying I'm game,
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like I use the word game. Yeah. And I have to
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stop using it because now I know that this generation
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thinks game means lying, you know, or being inauthentic.
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A lot of them have said that. And I'm like, no,
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game, I learned game from the 70s and the first
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thing you do is don't lie. But the point is,
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to answer your question, there's three languages.
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master one in each order and you will be you
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will start understanding women in a way that's
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crazy i love that yeah so like when you say the
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uh that main language is broken down into three
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languages again that's universal okay universal
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social and personal So universal. We all are
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looking at body language. That's subconscious.
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There's nothing you can do about it. And unless
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you are trained, you're telling like, I read
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like four or five books in body language. All
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four of them were written by FBI negotiators.
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Episode eight is going to be really good. Yeah,
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I think so too. Let's get back to the other one.
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Go ahead, yeah. Before we lose time. I know,
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right? Yeah, so number two, intelligent authenticity.
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Yeah, choose intelligent authenticity. How do
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you determine someone's intelligence? That's
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a great question. I would say for this point,
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that's a great question, man. And if I had a
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philosophical podcast, which I'm thinking about
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doing, I would go into a long diatribe about
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that, but I'm going to say, yeah, well, now that
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you asked me that, and actually it's going to
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be good, but not for that reason. I would say
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for this reason, it doesn't matter. I would say
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what I mean by intelligent authenticity is take
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some time and think about it. And what I would
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say is the principle behind that is you, you
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look at your, Self is a profile. Okay. When you
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look at yourself as a profile, you have your
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overall profile of your personality, your values,
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where you come from, the things you can't control
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like your race and your parents and your ethnicity
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and your DNA and all that kind of stuff. Yeah.
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But then there's your preferences and what you
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like and who you like, right? What I mean by
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that is you know when you're being real and you
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know when you're being fake. Now, did I take
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a whole lot of seminars and mentors and talk
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to people to find out and get real deep? Yeah,
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you can get deep, but you don't need to. You
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know who you are. You know when you're trying
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to impress somebody as opposed to, this is what
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I really want to do or this is what I really
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want to think or this is how I really feel about
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this. Well, we all know how to calibrate no matter
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what culture, if it's Hispanic or black or white
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or Asian or European or whatever. We all know
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to calibrate differently with our grandparents
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than we do with our play partner or our girlfriend
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or wife. Yeah. Right. We know we have sexual
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conversations with our sexual interest and not
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moms. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Right.
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We know we talk to children about certain things,
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even if it's not, you know, even if it's not
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violence and sex. have conversations with children
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and if you're telling the child the truth you
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water it down you take some details out right
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so what i mean by choose intelligent authenticity
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it's like i see a lot of people in the dating
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world the play space um where they feel like
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they need to bring a certain type of themselves
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to the party and if that person is not sufficient
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then they feel like they need to add or subtract
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and what i'm telling you is this And we'll get
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into it in two. Trump taught me this. Be yourself
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and let the chips fall where they may, which
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means if you're authentic, they're going to fucking
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love you. Because everybody loves authenticity.
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Right? Here's how you do it where you don't have
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to be a superhero to do it. You don't have to
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risk everything. Just calibrate. We're in the
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lifestyle. I don't tell anybody that's in business.
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I don't tell people at my church. I don't tell
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my, half my family knows my aunt, my aunt, my
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T .T., she is a very conservative Christian woman,
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could not handle it. And I mean for her, I don't
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mind listening to her lecture every time. I talk
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to her three times, four times a year. Okay,
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you can lecture me. But her, she would be depressed
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and she would be like, I raised my, because she
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helped raise me, I raised them wrong. I ain't
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doing all that. So when you go to a club, first
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off, Go where you're celebrated, not tolerated.
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You don't have to be smart for that. And if you're
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going where you're celebrated and not tolerated,
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then one, that allows you to be authentic right
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then and there. Two, all the other things you
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think are insufficient, guess what? Somebody
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either has gone through that insufficiency or
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relates to it and will be connected to you because
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of that. So when I first got into the lifestyle,
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for example, my nerdiness, I was ashamed of it.
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I thought I had to be this big alpha dude who
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had muscles and tough and never talk about anything
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goofy. And I cannot express my social anxiety
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or my lack of, I have a real problem with social
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cues. And I was really worried about that. When
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I started letting that out, thanks to my boys
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encouraging me to be myself, I started realizing
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I attract more people. Oh, I'm nerdy too. I'm
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a slut and nerdy. You know, I'm philosophical
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too. I'm reading Adler and I'm a slut. You know
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what I mean? So what you do is like, no matter
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who you are, if you are a micro penis, um, Valhalla
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worshiping, you know, Kingster, which was my
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mentor. Wasn't expecting that. Yeah. He. He was
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one of my kink mentors in LA. That dude gets,
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in my opinion, he's not an attractive guy and
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he'll tell you that. He's got a micro penis.
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He wears a kilt so you can see it all the time.
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Oh. But he's insane about kink and BDSM and he's
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very popular. That dude gets more pussy than
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he can deal with. Loud and proud. 100%. Love
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it. But see, where he goes, he goes where people
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who worship Thor and Loki. And people who consider
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kink and BDSM their life, just not something
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they do on the weekends, he's celebrated, right?
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There's Mormon on Mormon swingers. I don't even
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understand how that works, but they're like Mormons
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only. They're celebrated, right? There's interracial,
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which is, you know, as my boy Michael C says,
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the side of the pool that I swim in, right? So
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there's so many variations. And if you don't
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have one, you can create it because they're out
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there. So you don't have to be intelligent. But
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what's intelligence? That has been a huge philosophical
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and neuroscience, to give you the nerds, because
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this is Socrates' philosophies and hypotheses
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to answer your question directly. Intelligence
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is a neurological, scientific, and philosophical
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mystery that I don't think will be even close
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to being understandable for another 100 years.
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Okay. No, we all know. But the so when you were
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talking about just your journey with your mentor
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and everything, that was actually a great bridge
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way into number three. And that's why I was just
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I was kind of like, full stop. Let's go back.
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We still got a good segue going there. Number
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three. Is it okay if I read it? Please do. Start
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a journey of finding or living your vision, purpose,
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and plan. Yeah, like how do you... So when you
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were talking about just with number two, with
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going where you're celebrating and just going
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to people whose language you can understand.
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Do you find that just getting to that point where
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you were, well, where you are now is just...
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How would you describe that? How would I describe
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what? The journey. Like, would you say it's like...
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For me personally. You talking about for me personally
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or any individual? Yeah, you personally. Yeah,
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so for me personally, I was lucky enough to be
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raised by a biological father. I'm not mentored
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and talked to by a biological father. He didn't
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raise me. My stepdad did. who encouraged me to
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find what my vision purposes religiously. And
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I was around 16 when he did that. And then 19,
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I was lucky enough to run into Anthony Robbins
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and him on an infomercial back in the day when
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the TV used to go off at midnight. That's how
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old I am. And I read a book called Awakening
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the Giant Within. And it didn't talk about vision,
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purpose, and plan. That is actually in my religious
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text is a vision, purpose, and plan. I have been
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in self -help a long time. I've studied a lot
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of successful people. I never met, I never heard
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of or met any successful person that didn't have
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at least an emotional feeling about the vision
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is where you're going, the world, the way the
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world will look when you're done. The purpose
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is why you're doing it, and the plan is how you're
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going to fucking think that thing happened. Some
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people don't have it in writing like I do. Mine's
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up in my vision boards. Mine's up in writing
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places. I'm talking about mine all the time.
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But some people just have a strong feeling. So
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my journey was that. What I realized is that
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I've never seen a dude that killed it with a
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woman that didn't have all three. Now, what we're
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going to talk about in the fourth episode is
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going to be... how you can how easy it can be
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so i talk about um a thing that i developed called
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what i call the love's expression or love x and
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it is the nexus of a vision if you can imagine
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four circles one big one which is your vision
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and then inside that circle is a small one up
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top which is what i call your vision's identity
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and then next to and this is a venn diagram it
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would be your talent And then after that one,
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it would be your mission. And then in the middle
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of that nexus is what your vision or purpose
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or your calling is. And what I would say is if
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you don't have a vision, a purpose and a plan,
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then your new vision is a life living a vision.
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Your new plan is or your new purpose is to find
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my purpose. And your new plan is to educate yourself
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and to do everything you can to get super clear
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on those things. Yeah. But let's take it all
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the way down. Hey, Socrates, I ain't trying to
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hear all that bullshit, dude. I'm trying to get
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more pussy. Bet. I got you. Every time you get
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to the point of going on a date. Create a mini
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vision. In other words, visualize or think of
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how you want that thing to go. Make sure you
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include her fun, brother. Because a lot of you
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dudes just think about how you're going to get
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your dick wet and you don't think about her experience
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at all. Visualize it. That's your vision. Why
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do you want? Ask yourself or write it down why
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you want this to go well. And then plan the date.
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Every woman in the world loves a man to plan
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the date. So you ain't got to have a life of
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vision and purpose. I think you should. Now,
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you won't make the claim that I make, which is
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I don't know that you'll get any woman you authentically
25:16
want without a life vision, purpose, and plan.
25:19
But I know you'll get a lot of good women just
25:23
and set yourself apart big time just by having
25:27
a plan of action when you take a girl out on
25:29
a date or when you're dating them, period. You're
25:32
not wrong. So my journey was a long one, to answer
25:35
your question. It was a long one of knowing how
25:38
important it is at a young age. And it took me
25:40
a long time to figure out what mine was and how
25:43
to execute on it and how to put together a plan.
25:45
It was hard. And that's why I'm doing this. I
25:47
don't want it hard for you. I wish somebody had
25:49
told me, don't worry about that. Just start asking
25:51
yourself. And you could do as much as write it
25:55
down every day, journal it, have a chat GBT project,
25:58
or you can just ask yourself every morning. man
26:01
what is my vision how do i want the world to
26:02
look after i'm done and your world could be just
26:05
you and your family or it could be like steve
26:07
jobs i want to put a dent in the universe you
26:09
know i love how that actually goes back to number
26:13
eight well it goes forward and back at the same
26:17
time it's a time thing we're just gonna move
26:20
past it um but no because uh it's like you said
26:25
like if you have a victorious mindset you know
26:28
just where you want to be in life what you want
26:31
to do and like how you want to get there you're
26:35
not gonna settle for just anybody right like
26:38
you're gonna be looking for people who even if
26:41
they aren't tailor -made to understanding you
26:45
off bat they're gonna put in effort to do that
26:48
and that's why you know That number four, be
26:54
intelligently selective. So that's when I realized
26:59
how important the order was. Yeah. Because when
27:04
you have a victorious mindset, you know who you
27:07
are authentically and you have a where you're
27:09
going, why you're going and how you're going
27:10
to get there. Like you said, you said it. You
27:14
start becoming selective. You start saying. Well,
27:18
this girl who's just really fun and, you know,
27:21
all dudes with a strong sex drive like crazy
27:23
women. Why? Because they're good in bed. They're
27:27
down for spontaneous bullshit. They're doing
27:29
crazy shit to you. A lot of times you don't have
27:31
to ask them for sex. Like, we all love that,
27:33
right? I miss her. This brother thinking about,
27:37
oh, man, I should call her. Got hit with a flashback.
27:44
Bam, bam. I'm going to say mine. I don't mind
27:48
saying it because, you know, her name was Tosh.
27:51
That was mine. And she was a freaking wildfire.
27:55
Anyway. So, yeah, go ahead. Oh. Oh, wait. Like,
28:00
my example? No, I mean, I didn't know if you
28:02
had a question or, you know, if you wanted to.
28:04
No, no, no. I think we're doing good. We're making
28:08
good time. Well, let me talk on that one. Which
28:11
one? Selective. Okay. So this now from four on
28:16
down is about everybody else. The first three
28:19
are about you. Think about that. So how would
28:24
you say number two and number four differentiate
28:27
from choosing intelligent authenticity to being
28:30
intelligently selective? See, being selective
28:33
is about other people. Being intelligently authentic
28:36
is about you. Yeah. You don't even need anybody.
28:39
You can just be in the room with yourself and
28:41
just be like. Let me be real with myself. Sometimes
28:44
we have conversations. We sit in a line to ourselves
28:46
about it. So the first three are about you. Once
28:52
you get to four, that's how you're interacting
28:56
with people. Five, how you're interacting with
28:57
people. Six, how you're interacting with people.
28:59
Self -sustaining leadership. Leader. If you don't
29:03
have anybody else in the room, you have nobody
29:04
to serve or lead. It's all about everybody else.
29:07
The first three will get you to the point where.
29:11
You can get anybody. Now, a lot of things like
29:14
being a self -sustained servant leader will get
29:18
you a lot more in life than just women. But the
29:24
first three is about you being a complete self.
29:27
I love that. I love that. Wait, so, yeah, let's
29:37
actually move on to the next one. Number five.
29:41
Have a framework for her to live into so you
29:44
can frame her experience. Yes. This one is going
29:48
to be a long episode. It might even be two because
29:50
I have to really get into the science behind
29:52
how women experience things. Feminine, cisgender
29:55
women especially. I learned it from Smut though.
29:58
If you read a Smut book, you'll realize that
30:00
the sex is whatever because it's coming to her.
30:04
It's the experience before, during, and after.
30:06
Yeah. Right? It's the man that's doing it. And
30:11
here's what men don't understand. I'll give an
30:14
example. I love this. Comedians would say, and
30:17
I heard several comedians say this, or either
30:19
stole each other's jokes or they all came up
30:21
with one because it's more of a common sense
30:23
thing that you would think. They talk about Fifty
30:25
Shades of Grey. And for those who haven't seen
30:29
it, if you're listening to my podcast and you
30:30
haven't seen Fifty Shades of Grey, then you're
30:32
doing yourself a disservice. Go see the movie.
30:35
50 Shades of Grey, they were like, pretty much
30:37
is a story, and I'm going to give a little bit
30:39
of a spoiler. It's this innocent virgin woman
30:42
who meets a billionaire, super handsome, attractive
30:45
man, and he introduces her to kink or BDSM. And
30:50
comedians say, and he beats the, he gets her.
30:55
Like, he does some stuff that I wouldn't do on
30:58
the first or second scene that they do. I mean,
31:02
he goes crazy. And this comedian was like, that's
31:07
only because he's a billionaire. They were like,
31:10
if that was in the trailer park, it would have
31:12
ended with him in jail. And I'm going to tell
31:17
you, look, you're wrong because what men don't
31:21
understand is that going back to number eight.
31:25
No, that's not right. Going back to number eight.
31:28
Yeah, number eight. What men don't understand
31:30
is that women. speak a different language than
31:35
you when there's sex. That's why their porno
31:37
is in writing and ours is visual. So how you
31:41
frame something for a woman is the difference
31:45
of how she's going to experience it. So in the
31:50
pickup world, in the pickup artist or the manosphere,
31:53
they talk about holding frame. Holding frame
31:55
just means your intangible lifestyle. where there's
32:00
borders, there's boundaries, there's rules, there's
32:03
standards, and there's a culture that you're
32:08
providing her that she's living into. So for
32:11
example, with you, can I use you for an example?
32:13
Yeah. Okay. So you are an experienced guy. That
32:18
means they're not just getting dick. They're
32:20
getting an awesome guy with a great conversation,
32:23
somebody that's... just as well and here's what
32:27
you're good at that i'm not just as well as sitting
32:29
there having a conversation and never having
32:31
sex as it is a damn orgy you're just as proficient
32:35
at meeting and then fucking an hour later as
32:39
you are meeting and we don't fuck for months
32:41
you're an experience what are they living into
32:44
they're living into going out and eating they're
32:46
living into concerts they're living into comedy
32:49
shows they're living into date nights they're
32:51
living into movie nights They're also living
32:53
into a great communicator. That's your frame.
32:58
Thank you. I enjoy the courting process. Exactly.
33:03
I feel like there's something about you both
33:05
of y 'all just bringing your best in this situation.
33:09
It's fun as hell. I love it. And I love watching
33:12
you do that. Other people's frame. How much money
33:17
is it? Do you actually have a house? In this
33:20
house, do you have standards? What are your rules?
33:22
What is your belief system? This is all a framework.
33:25
And women want to be with a man, and this is
33:29
scientifically proven through research, that
33:32
provides, protects, pleases, loves, and leads
33:38
within a framework that she can live into from
33:42
someone she wants it from. I'll say that again.
33:46
Women want to be, a cisgendered woman wants to
33:52
be provided for, protected for, pleased, loved,
33:56
and led. Right? In a frame she wants, that frame
34:01
could be one of my fiancées. I was engaged to
34:05
this lady, and I told her, look, I'm a businessman.
34:07
I want to travel the world. I want to have businesses
34:10
that run themselves. We were together three months.
34:12
She was like, oh, crap, you're right. I don't
34:14
want to live this life. I just want a job, and
34:16
I want to go on vacation once a year. She did
34:19
not want to live into my frame, right? My frame
34:23
is we're traveling. We're doing business. And
34:25
so now Siren and I, we think that way. We're
34:27
like, oh, we have to have it that way. If you
34:29
weren't that way, I wouldn't be with you. So
34:31
that's a framework. That framework, and I'm going
34:35
to be controversial because I've heard women
34:37
say this, so I'm just repeating what they said.
34:39
And we all know this. The hot guy at work that
34:43
comes up to you and say, ooh, really nice, sexy
34:45
dress. If you're attracted to him, she's like,
34:48
ooh, thank you. The ugly, nasty, creepy looking
34:51
guy that doesn't say it right. Let's be real.
34:54
That's a sexual harassment case. Straight up.
34:57
Straight up. It's going to ruffle feathers. Roof
35:04
is in the pudding. It's out there. For the most
35:07
part, yeah. Now that's, but also let's give people
35:11
credit. Let's give women credit. Let's give the
35:13
community credit. That's a nuanced thing. That's
35:16
a gray area. And that's okay that it's a gray
35:18
area. It is a gray area. And that's not every
35:21
time. I've seen women who have been approached
35:24
incorrectly by very attractive men and they went
35:26
off on them at work. You know what I'm saying?
35:28
That's not every time. But it's proving a point.
35:31
And my point is, is that. The framework of how
35:34
that woman's experiencing, like women who like
35:36
to have music on when they're having sex and
35:38
the candles being lit and the environment being
35:41
nice, frames her way of seeing you and seeing
35:45
the situation in a romantic setting. Don't use
35:49
this at work. Don't use this in a logical conversation.
35:54
But how you frame things verbally. will change
36:00
how she experiences the thing. I learned this
36:02
in kink, right? Take a paddle at work, go in
36:08
front of somebody and say, you insufficient little
36:11
bitch and spank her on the ass. You're in a court.
36:16
Meet her at a munch, invite her to the house.
36:20
And I've done this. Invite them to the house.
36:23
Tell them when you get there, you take all your
36:24
fucking clothes off. I'm blindfolding you. I'm
36:27
handcuffing you. I'm coloring you and I'm leading
36:29
you down the road in a chain to my room where
36:33
I'm going to tie you up and I'm going to beat
36:35
the fuck out of you. It's so fun doing that.
36:39
Right? Feels like a He -Man moment. Exactly.
36:43
Yo, oh. Dude, the setting is everything. And
36:49
I've seen ugly guys do this, especially if you're
36:52
not talking about intercourse. Yeah. I've seen
36:54
ugly doms do this. Yeah. Why? Because how you
37:00
frame things is one, a human being thing. So
37:04
let's not, if you ladies want to get offended,
37:05
I'm not saying it's women, it's human beings,
37:07
but women, because they have to raise children,
37:11
because they have more estrogen in their, flowing
37:13
in their blood, because they are the. They're
37:16
the species that has less bone density and less
37:19
muscle mass and are smaller than us. They have
37:23
to be more acute to some of the smaller, finer
37:26
things in life. They have to be more acute to
37:29
the details. Because they were gatherers while
37:32
we were hunting. Because they have to understand
37:35
if a baby's crying, what kind of cry is that?
37:37
Is that a hungry cry? Is that a change of diaper
37:39
cry? Is that an emotional cry? Or all the way
37:43
up to a teenager when the kid can fully express
37:46
themselves, and even a lot of teenagers can't.
37:48
A woman has to intuit these things. That makes
37:51
her more sensitive to the situation. That affects
37:53
her. This is science. This is not about making
37:56
women right or wrong. Oh, okay. Fair enough.
38:03
Yeah. So, well, I see the side note that you
38:09
also have on number five, too, which is that
38:12
this is the foundation of the seven principles
38:14
on how you and. What's that? The two center words
38:23
are kind of wiped out, so I see interested. I
38:29
know, right? But... Interact. Interact. My handwriting's
38:36
bad, y 'all. This is the foundation of the following
38:40
seven principles on how you interact with women.
38:43
Yeah, I see a C and an L. Hey, brother, don't
38:47
talk about my handwriting, nigga. I can't write,
38:49
okay? Just ask me. No, I'm just as bad. Just
38:52
as bad. I was like, damn, high sex. Oh, but no,
39:00
that's fair. That's fair. Let's get into number
39:02
six. Men have sex drives. Women have sex responses.
39:07
They were just talking about how basically you
39:11
knew what type of situation you were in with
39:14
the woman. So you were able to tell her how you
39:18
wanted her, tell her what you were going to do
39:20
to her and tell her what the outcome of that
39:23
was going to be. How would you describe the difference
39:27
between a sex drive and a sex response? Yeah,
39:31
so I want to give this to a credit where I learned
39:33
this from, which is Sadia Khan. She's a dating
39:38
coach and therapist. She would be considered
39:42
a female version of the Manosphere. I don't agree
39:44
with that. I don't think she does either. But
39:46
this is just common sense, guys. But let's talk
39:50
about the science. You know, you came up to Socrates'
39:52
philosophies and hypotheses. So let's talk about
39:55
the science. Men's testosterone is three times
39:58
more than women. And testosterone in men and
40:01
women is their sex drive. Right? So when women
40:05
lose testosterone, when they go to menopause,
40:06
they lose their sex drive. When they're increasing,
40:09
because my wife is going through testosterone
40:11
therapy right now, it increases their sex drive.
40:14
That's number one. Number two. We have a positive
40:17
appendage and they have a negative appendage.
40:19
What does that mean? Not positive and negative
40:21
immorally. You have a plug and they got a socket.
40:28
Right? Culturally so. Culturally so. Almost every
40:35
culture except for some West African tribes are
40:39
expected for the man to pursue the woman. And
40:44
let's go all the way down to evolutionary psychology.
40:46
According to evolutionary psychology, not only
40:48
that men have sex drives, that sex drives everything
40:51
in the universe. And I follow some evolutionary
40:54
psychologists that teach at Yale, I think, or
40:57
is it? I think the ones at Yale, they have a
40:59
podcast. I'll put it in the show notes. That
41:02
say that sex drives everything a man does. I
41:07
think it was Oscar Wilde that says that. Everything
41:10
in this world is about sex except for sex. Sex
41:13
is about power. Men are meant to drive, to pursue,
41:17
to push themselves to get women. And women are
41:22
made because of their DNA, because of the way
41:25
they're made physically, because of their stature,
41:28
because culturally, historically, they're made
41:31
to respond to what you do to pursue them. When
41:37
you just understand that in perspective, here's
41:39
how there's many ways we're going to talk about
41:41
this on the seventh episode about this. But when
41:46
you think about this, it changed my life in one
41:51
way. This was the biggest one that changed everything
41:55
for me is if I have a drive. And I take that
41:58
drive. What's my sex drive when I create a portfolio?
42:01
That means how good do I present myself? How
42:04
well do I talk to women? How often do I want
42:07
sex? How viral am I sexually? How much stamina?
42:11
Everything from courting the woman to get her
42:14
in the bed and to marriage. Part of that's your
42:18
sex drive. If I look at that as a portfolio of
42:21
things that I do and don't do, then I can look
42:25
at it and have a signature. And if I can give
42:27
it a name or a title or score, then for example,
42:30
what I said is if my sex drive, I'm going to
42:33
give my sex drive, I've named mine and mine is
42:36
called Bull Ron. And I can't tell you why it's
42:41
called Bull Ron, but it's called Bull Ron. And
42:44
that is a profile of things. I am what it calls
42:47
a Sigma male. That means I'm not an alpha. I
42:50
don't come in the room with my chest out. Leading
42:53
people and dictating. I make the woman choose
42:57
my leadership. I do dress in a masculine way,
43:02
but I have certain qualities, like Kenzie says,
43:06
if you study the Kenzie Institute of Sexology,
43:09
there is no such thing as 100 % masculine male.
43:13
Some men are bisexual men are 50 -50. Some men
43:17
are 70 -25. Some men are 80 -20. Right. So mine's
43:22
about 80, 20. There is a profile. And when I
43:26
realize that there's a profile, just like a car,
43:30
I'm searching for a car right now. I like black.
43:34
I like trucks. I like a certain, you know, maker.
43:38
Those are the things I'm looking for. I'm not
43:40
rejecting a red truck. I just don't want one.
43:44
I'm not rejecting a Volvo. I just don't want
43:47
one. I'm not rejecting a Cadillac. I just don't
43:50
want one. And when I realized that I'm a portfolio
43:53
of sex drive, then what I'm getting is a response
43:58
to that drive and not a rejection of who I am.
44:01
Yeah. So you go back to being intelligently authentic.
44:07
Why? If I'm intelligently authentic, I'm not
44:10
in spaces where I'm not celebrated. So go back
44:13
down to six. I can eliminate half of it. Why
44:18
do I go to Splash Mocha? Because I know they're
44:20
not going to say I don't like black men. Right.
44:23
But I'm going to go to Hot Wife Palooza knowing
44:25
that some might say that. But I really needed
44:27
the ego boost of going. I think this will be
44:30
my 10th time that we're going in August where
44:33
I'm celebrated than a motherfucker. Yeah. That
44:37
poured into my soul. Right. So what I really
44:42
love about that is, is that. If women have a
44:46
sex response, then I understand why some women
44:51
say, I was surprised at how I responded to him.
44:54
Have you heard that woman say that? Like, I didn't
44:57
know I would like him. Or I didn't know I would
44:59
like that. Or I didn't know my body would do
45:02
this. You ever heard a woman say that? Sometimes.
45:05
Yeah. Why? Because they got a response too. They're
45:08
surprised on how their body responded. It's almost
45:12
separate from them. gave it away with subspace
45:16
in the kink world. Because when a woman is in
45:20
subspace, her brain is turned off, she's in a
45:22
fog, and she's just as surprised at how her body's
45:26
responding as you are. That let me know. That's
45:30
a sex response, not a rejection. If she rejects
45:34
you, it's either because you're not her type,
45:38
period, or it's because there's three reasons
45:43
why. You're not her type. She responded to your
45:45
drive or she's not in the right state of being
45:49
in the moment. That's it. Could you go a little
45:53
deeper on that third one? Yeah. Yeah. So like,
45:57
for example, in hotel takeovers or if you go
46:01
to like, you go to what? This is really clear
46:05
for my vanilla people listening to this. This
46:08
is really clear in lifestyle situations. I understand
46:11
this would be a lot less clear in vanilla bars
46:13
and things like that. But in the vanilla world,
46:17
in the lifestyle world, you go to a hotel takeover,
46:20
especially the ones that we go, I call them DTF,
46:22
the deep down the fuck ones. You go to a woman
46:26
and say, hey, you know, you talk to her for five
46:28
minutes. I've had women come to me and talk to
46:30
me for five minutes. Next thing you know, we're
46:32
walking up to her hotel. But you can go to a
46:34
woman, talk to her for five minutes, and you'll
46:39
be like, hey, would you like to play? And they'll
46:40
say this. They'll say, oh, I just played. I'm
46:44
exhausted. I'd love to, but oh, man, I'm just
46:48
tired. I need to rest. If she's authentic, that's
46:54
a real state of being. She doesn't have the energy
46:56
to play with you. Yeah. She could be attracted
46:58
to you, be your type, and your drive was perfect.
47:02
You approached her perfectly. You weren't like,
47:06
hey, you want to fuck? Which can work in some
47:08
of these places, but don't work most of the time.
47:11
You went up to her properly. You asked her, and
47:13
then you say, hey, would you like to play? Let's
47:17
say it's a couple. You talk to the husband. You
47:18
did everything right. She's not in the right
47:20
state of mind. I've also found out recently that
47:23
some women rejected me. For some weird reason,
47:27
because they thought I talked to them because
47:29
I was just being friendly and I was going to
47:31
reject them. So they might as well get ahead
47:33
of it. And I'm like, that's weird. But that's
47:36
how some women and some people think. Yeah. So
47:40
what allowed me to understand that. Even though
47:44
if you're going to go to a place like Splash
47:46
Mocha or Hot Wife Palooza, you're pretty DTF.
47:50
Right. Yeah. So it's not the location. It's not.
47:53
I'm not. a place where I'm not celebrated. And
47:56
if I learn how to approach, which are universal
48:00
principles, if it's a couple guaranteed, go to
48:02
the husband first, even if she's an FLR and she,
48:05
how dare you talk to him? And I'm a woman. I've
48:08
never seen them turn you down because you didn't,
48:10
you talked to the husband first, right? If you
48:13
learn those things and you approach and she still
48:15
says no. Well, if you look back and you say,
48:19
I like my drive. I like the fact that I come
48:22
respectful. I like the fact that I do this X,
48:24
Y, and Z, then that's your state of being. And
48:28
I've seen women turn down men they literally
48:30
wanted to be with because they were tired or
48:33
angry or frustrated with their husband or didn't
48:36
feel. Here's the big one, guys. Ladies, please
48:39
tell your friends about this. They did not feel
48:43
attractive themselves, and they turned you down.
48:47
They were attracted to you. timing was right
48:50
they thought they walked out of the house that
48:52
day said i'm frumpy and ugly and nasty i don't
48:56
want to yeah that's a state of being that's her
49:00
state of being got nothing to do with you yeah
49:02
that's interesting because it makes you just
49:05
think about the fact that rejection more times
49:08
than not it's not really it's 50 50 it's not
49:11
about you i don't want to say all the time because
49:14
sometimes someone might not be attracted to you
49:16
or attracted to the things you say. But I see
49:20
this. You could only be... I feel like this.
49:23
If you have a conscious drive, you will never
49:26
get rejected. You will get feedback. Yeah. And
49:30
once I saw that, I have never felt rejected.
49:33
And I've been ghosted, told no, I'm not interested,
49:36
blocked. I had a woman just block me on an app
49:38
today. I never... The conversation went great,
49:41
and I went to go back to her to say something
49:42
that was blocked. And I was like, that ain't
49:44
got nothing to do with me. Yeah. And that's another
49:47
thing, too. If you know you're moving with authenticity.
49:50
Right. It's like game is game. Yeah. That person
49:53
might have been married for all you know. You
49:55
don't know what happened. Yeah. Her husband might
49:57
have been like, oh, he's black? No. Yeah. Block
49:59
him. You know, who knows? Or look at his, you
50:03
know, I've got guys who've been rejected because
50:05
their dick size was too big. The husband didn't
50:07
want you to blow that back out like that. Yeah.
50:09
He did not want you to experience that. Or in
50:12
a vanilla scenario, you know, women, I really
50:16
think this. Race is a preference, but I think
50:19
it shouldn't be. I think everybody that makes
50:22
rare for preference is losing out because that
50:26
soul connection, your soulmate might be in another
50:29
skin color. But that's women, people's preferences.
50:33
Yeah. Right. But when it comes to your state
50:36
of being, you can't do anything about that. Anyway,
50:38
it comes to, you can do something about being
50:41
celebrated. You can do something about your profile
50:45
of who you are, your sex drive. If you're not,
50:49
if you're a guy and you're an incel, but you
50:51
never go out, you're not, you're not, that's
50:55
not involuntary. You're choosing not to go out.
50:57
You're choosing not to get out there on the apps.
50:59
You're choosing not to take professional pictures.
51:01
You're choosing not to go out there and talk
51:02
to women to approach. You're choosing not to.
51:05
Yeah. Right. So I love that part because it really
51:10
helped me see there is no such thing as rejection.
51:13
There's feedback. Because if she's in a different
51:17
state of being and I've been in a hotel takeover
51:19
when it's like, oh, I'm ready now. Let's go.
51:23
I told you I was just tired. Other guy blew my
51:26
back out. I'm ready for you to blow mine out.
51:28
I've been in situations where, oh, I didn't think
51:31
you were attracted to me. So when I asked you
51:34
to go play, oh, yeah, I thought you were just
51:36
bored. I thought you was just hitting me up because
51:39
this other girl rejected you. I've heard stories
51:41
like that. Yeah. Yeah. So. Crazy. Yeah, let's
51:48
actually go on to number seven. I do not know.
51:51
We are at 50 minutes and we're halfway through.
51:53
So this is going to be a part one. Yeah, yeah.
51:58
So let's get to eight and we'll stop. Do we?
52:02
Oh, okay. Yeah, yeah. So let's get. So number
52:05
seven, be a self -sustained servant leader. Yes,
52:08
yes. Talk to me about a servant leader. What
52:12
is that to you? My father introduced to me this.
52:15
There is a book out there called Servant Leaders,
52:18
an old school book maybe written in the 50s.
52:22
I'm just going to name some people who are servant
52:24
leaders. Jesus, Buddha, Martin Luther King, Kennedy,
52:29
Steve Jobs, believe it or not, Snoop Dogg. You're
52:37
a leader by having a vision and moving forward
52:40
and having people follow you. There's leaders
52:46
that are leading for their own purposes and there's
52:48
leaders who are leading so that they can add
52:51
value to your life. When you are a leader who's
52:56
trying to get served, you're limited because
53:00
you're draining the people from you and you're
53:03
getting the value because they need the leadership
53:09
you provide. As opposed to you're getting value
53:13
because they live from the things that you serve
53:16
them. Yeah. Right? We made the Messiah the leader
53:21
of our whole lives because he spent his time
53:23
serving people. We made Martin Luther King the
53:26
standard of how you should be besides cheating
53:29
on his wife because he spent his whole time serving
53:31
people. We made Steve Jobs the richest, most
53:35
profitable man business in the world. Because
53:39
he was a leader. He was like, I'm not going to
53:42
ask anybody what they want. If you ask them what
53:44
they want, they want a better stylist. I'm going
53:46
to give you your finger. Right? So he was like,
53:51
I'm going to lead you, but for your service.
53:54
When you are self -sustained, the woman doesn't
53:56
have to worry about taking care of you. Your
53:59
friends don't have to worry about taking care
54:00
of you. Right? When you are a servant leader,
54:06
when you're a servant, I'm going to tell you
54:10
guys this. There's a thing called the principle
54:12
of reciprocity. This is a psychological or neurological
54:15
fact of every culture. If I give you something,
54:19
you feel automatically debted to me. If I do
54:23
something to you, you feel automatically debted
54:25
to me. Some cultures have whole rules and principles
54:28
behind it and what you have to do to get it right.
54:31
It used to be you did certain things. Now my
54:35
life is your life. My life is in your hands.
54:39
My life is you own my life, right? When you serve
54:44
other women, when you plan a date, that's service.
54:48
When you open the door, that's service. When
54:50
you pay for the date, that's service. She feels
54:52
like I need to give him something in return.
54:54
Now, you should not force her to think that's
54:57
only sex. That's prostitution. But when you serve
55:01
them and then you do something for them, that's
55:04
going to lead them to a better place. Why do
55:06
I do kink? Because I understand that actually
55:09
doing that stuff takes away one thing that women,
55:13
modern day women hate, which is they call decision
55:16
fatigue. It's a real thing, y 'all. All my alpha,
55:19
ultra conservative MAGA homies out there, it's
55:22
a real thing. Look it up since you guys love
55:25
science. I love science too, all my homies out
55:29
there. And when I talk described and say, you're
55:32
going to come to the house, you're going to take
55:33
your clothes off. Right here. You're going to
55:35
kneel down. This is what I told you. You're going
55:37
to kneel down, put your hands behind your back,
55:39
open your mouth, and say, I'm ready for you.
55:43
I'm going to blindfold you. You know what it
55:45
took away? The mystery of what I need to do to
55:48
feel safe, but also mystery of what he's going
55:51
to do to me. I don't need to decide on my dress.
55:54
I don't need to decide. I just need to decide
55:56
where I need to, what I'm going to, the black
55:59
lingerie he told me to pick out. And then he's
56:01
going to take care of every decision there is.
56:05
Women love that. They love that. True. So when
56:10
you're leading someone, you take away something
56:16
that they don't understand, which is the vision
56:19
and the direction they need to go to in that
56:21
area of life. I like that. When you do that for
56:26
a woman, she turns off her worry brain. Her threat
56:31
assessment brain. Because women are less physically
56:35
powerful. I think they're the most powerful thing
56:37
in the world. We'll get to number nine on the
56:40
start of the next episode. They have to threat
56:43
assessment all the time. They have to worry about,
56:48
is this person going to overpower me? Is this
56:50
man who acts like he's all logic, but gets emotional
56:54
every time you reject them. Every time you tell
56:57
them no. Every time you tell them to leave me
56:59
alone. Is this guy going to lose it? Is he going
57:01
to get violent, get aggressive, call me names?
57:07
Right? When you lead them and they know you got
57:11
everything handled, they shut down. That's when
57:15
you start starting from that one. Number eight
57:18
is when you start getting women saying, I'll
57:21
do whatever the fuck you want. Whatever. I trust
57:23
you with my body and my soul and everything.
57:25
Yeah. Intelligent women who have power, who can
57:29
choose not to, start saying that to you. Do you
57:34
feel like just even understanding their language,
57:37
was that difficult to do depending on the partner?
57:42
If you understand the universal principle that
57:45
everybody doesn't pay attention to words. Men
57:48
say that they're logical, they're not. I've said
57:51
this in the last episode. Go read. Thinking slow
57:54
and thinking fast. Go look into Daniel Kahneman.
57:56
Go look into his Nobel Peace Prize winning research
58:00
on how the greatest cutthroat billionaire hedge
58:05
fund guy is making every decision on emotions
58:09
and he backs it up with logic. That's a fact.
58:12
You just learned that every human being looks
58:15
at tone. Men assess each other. We look at how
58:19
tall you are. How is he standing? What's his
58:21
posture? We're looking at body language, not
58:25
his words. If you're from the hood and you've
58:28
seen dudes get in your face talking, nigga, I'll
58:31
fuck you up. I got you, whatever, boom, boom,
58:36
boom. A real gangster looking at his body language.
58:39
How close are you? I'm not going to let you get
58:40
arm's length from me. I'm seeing how you walk.
58:43
I'm seeing how you stand, what you do, what you
58:45
don't say. We're all looking at body language.
58:48
Men want to act like we're the logical ones in
58:51
the room, which we're not. And so therefore,
58:54
I can say it in any tone I want and say it how
58:57
I want to. No, she's not going to pick it up.
58:59
Your word said one thing, but your tone said
59:01
a whole bunch of other things. And tone scientifically
59:04
is more. Body language, scientifically by FBI
59:08
scientists have been proven. Registers, neuroscientists
59:12
have proven, registers more. How you say it registers
59:16
more than what you're saying. So that's easy.
59:19
It's all the other things. It's people teaching.
59:21
You know, like people, it's funny now that they'll
59:24
teach, what does a man want? Sex, sandwich, and
59:27
silence. That's bullshit, but okay. What does
59:29
a woman want? You got to pick her up. You got
59:31
to treat her right. You got to massage her. No,
59:33
you don't. No, you don't. Women are just as simple
59:36
as men. The problem is we don't speak the same
59:39
language they do. An alpha, super alpha man,
59:43
the word vulnerability is the same in the dictionary,
59:45
but it don't mean the same. It's a very submissive
59:48
woman. Who's telling her husband, I want you
59:50
to be vulnerable to me. Does that mean cry and
59:52
say, I'm a real, secretly I'm a bitch and I'm
59:55
afraid of everything. No, she will not respect
59:57
you. Don't be a bitch and don't be afraid of
59:59
everything. But if you're going to her and you
1:00:01
say, you know what? I don't tell anybody anything,
1:00:03
but I tell my wife that I'm scared in this situation.
1:00:07
I'm vulnerable. In her language, vulnerability
1:00:10
means open to receive damage or blessing. For
1:00:16
a man, it means. Open to be destroyed. Open to
1:00:20
be attacked. Open to be taken down. Open to be
1:00:23
taken advantage of. That's not the same language.
1:00:26
The word, the dictionary in the word, the meaning
1:00:29
behind it is different. So no, eight is simple,
1:00:33
man. It's like, that's the simplest one. Once
1:00:37
I understand, I check my tone on how I say things.
1:00:41
I know I ain't going to go up to you and say,
1:00:43
what's up, nigga? What you got? You taller than
1:00:48
me. You're a cool, laid -back guy, but I am not
1:00:50
going to expect that you ain't going to be like,
1:00:53
hey, man, I'm calm, but don't get it twisted.
1:00:56
You know what I mean? Like, men don't do that.
1:00:59
Don't do that to your girl. If you want to teach
1:01:01
her, there's a difference between that friend
1:01:04
you got is a stupid bitch. I don't know why you
1:01:06
be picking them kind of stupid women you got.
1:01:08
She ain't smart. She ain't fucking this. She
1:01:10
ain't, you know, what you need as opposed to.
1:01:14
You know, I love how loyal you are to your friends.
1:01:16
I really love how the kind of person you are.
1:01:21
You might want to really look at her. I don't
1:01:23
really think that she has the kind of loyalty
1:01:25
and boundaries and standards that your friend
1:01:28
group aspires to have. I think you really should
1:01:31
check, you know, the kind of loyalty that she
1:01:35
says she has. That's a different tone. That's
1:01:39
a different attitude. I'm saying the same thing.
1:01:42
Your friend ain't shit. Yeah. I'm saying the
1:01:44
same thing. But those are received differently.
1:01:48
And dudes, because they make the, I'm the man.
1:01:51
The Bible says I got a dick, so you got to follow
1:01:53
me. My pastor says I'm the man. MAGA Republicans,
1:01:57
I'm a MAGA Republican, so I got to be the head
1:02:00
of the household. Man, nobody truly in their
1:02:02
heart respects that. What they respect is how
1:02:04
you treat them. How you go about it. Right. And
1:02:07
if your tone is, bitch, I don't care because
1:02:10
the Lord says you better respect me. I know a
1:02:14
lot of religious women that do that because Pastor
1:02:16
Jenkins says so, but deep down, they don't respect
1:02:18
you. You know what I'm saying? So it's like understanding
1:02:24
that principle with any human being will get
1:02:28
you a long way. You ain't got to sit there and
1:02:30
separate men from women. So understand that scientifically,
1:02:33
culturally, biologically, women are made to understand
1:02:37
social cues better than you. smaller details
1:02:41
they're looking at tone they have to look at
1:02:43
your body language because you might attack them
1:02:45
you might rape them you might hurt them understanding
1:02:49
that she's paying attention to your tone more
1:02:51
than she is with your words and that's what changes
1:02:53
i tell you know i'm in a kink world and i don't
1:02:56
know about you but you know i am um i am a sigma
1:03:00
which means i have alpha in me i do talk crazy
1:03:03
to some women but the context is it's like i'm
1:03:06
i'm saying like Get on your knees. You're going
1:03:12
to worship this king's dick right now. As opposed
1:03:16
to, bitch, get on your knees and suck their dick,
1:03:18
hoe. Now, some women like both of them things.
1:03:21
I was about to say, because this. But certain
1:03:25
women will be like, hell fucking, a lot of nerdy
1:03:28
kinkster women that I like ain't going for that
1:03:30
shit at all. Oh, not at all. Right? But LaQuisha
1:03:32
from Compton might love it. Or. Julie from corporate
1:03:42
might love it, but it depends on that individual
1:03:46
person and that tone and the context and all
1:03:49
these other things. You understand that about
1:03:52
human beings, you good with women, bro. You good.
1:03:54
Very true. It gets crazy once you start realizing
1:03:59
how to talk to certain people or even when they
1:04:01
let you know that's how to talk to them. You'll
1:04:04
see the reactions. Wonderful thing. I love it.
1:04:09
So we're going in there, man. This was better
1:04:11
than I thought. I have to compliment you, brother.
1:04:13
Yeah, yeah. You think the way I do. You know,
1:04:17
your mentality is the questions you ask are practical
1:04:20
things. And that's why I wanted you on here.
1:04:23
And this is what I want for you guys. You know,
1:04:25
you can hit me on Telegram. It's SocratesLS69
1:04:28
or SocratesLS, I think, on Telegram. Email thebullbrotherhood
1:04:32
at gmail .com. We're on Telegram. The Bull Brotherhood.
1:04:37
I mean, we're on Instagram, all these grams.
1:04:40
I want your questions. I want your pushback.
1:04:43
But we're trying to make this simple. I'm trying
1:04:45
to use simple ideas and concepts like how you
1:04:48
carry yourself around, you know, tu abuela, your
1:04:51
grandmother, as opposed to how you carry yourself
1:04:54
around your boys, right? You know, things like,
1:04:58
hey, you know, you don't need to have a grandiose
1:05:01
vision of your life, but if you had one for the
1:05:02
end of the date. especially in a kink scene you
1:05:06
better have a vision for how that goes yeah right
1:05:09
you're gonna you know you're gonna get somewhere
1:05:11
and being self -sustained it's like everybody
1:05:13
knows god helps a child that that helps itself
1:05:17
right or that's god's own i think it's a statement
1:05:19
right we understand these concepts it's just
1:05:22
lining them up and understanding how to translate
1:05:25
them and interacting with women so with that
1:05:28
i'll say i don't know if you got anything else
1:05:30
chris i'm good all right man thank you so much
1:05:32
and um You guys are going to be hearing Chris
1:05:35
for the rest of these episodes. I do have some
1:05:37
other ones that are coming up that I'm going
1:05:38
to do some solo stuff on, but I'm really excited.
1:05:42
And I can't wait to hear from y 'all. I'm out.