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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: So, I Decided to Spend Christmas Alone · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everyone, emia body here bringing you another installment, a
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  Speaker 1: five Minute Friday from Hurdle. If you're new to this
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  Speaker 1: weekly segment bonus part of Hurdle. On Five Minute Friday,
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  Speaker 1: I chat through a story, something I'm going through, something
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  Speaker 1: that's happening in my life. I share a thought prompt
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  Speaker 1: to take you into the weekend, and then offer up
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  Speaker 1: some of my content picks, some of the stuff that
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  Speaker 1: I think is really awesome that I want to share
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  Speaker 1: with you this week. Tis the season I'm chatting about Christmas.
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  Speaker 2: Now. I don't know about you, guys.
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  Speaker 1: I grew up in a a nominational household, so my
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  Speaker 1: mother is Jewish and my father is Italian, and I,
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  Speaker 1: for my adult life, as long as I can remember,
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  Speaker 1: have been splitting my time between the two of them
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to Christmas time. So I've done the
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  Speaker 1: exact same thing on Christmas Eve forever.
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  Speaker 2: I usually go out east.
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  Speaker 1: My grandmother lives out near the Hamptons, and I go
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  Speaker 1: out east and I spend Christmas Eve with my dad's
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  Speaker 1: side of the family, and we eat all of the
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  Speaker 1: seafood because we're Italian, and then we drink eggnog. I'm
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  Speaker 1: pretty sure my Grandmother must put at least like three
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  Speaker 1: different types of alcohol in the eggnog.
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  Speaker 2: It's always super boozy.
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  Speaker 1: And then we open gifts and all this is on
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  Speaker 1: Christmas Eve, and it's just so special because I feel
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  Speaker 1: like life is just so hectic, especially in recent years,
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  Speaker 1: and it's just such a beautiful opportunity for me just
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  Speaker 1: time with my family. There's also like other small traditions
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  Speaker 1: that we enjoy on Christmas Eve. I have been tasked
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  Speaker 1: for some time now to be the person who now
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  Speaker 1: makes Grandma's signature Italian tricolor cookie recipe. They are my favorite.
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  Speaker 1: I can't wait to make them. I think I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to make them this weekend. We also always eat a
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  Speaker 1: bunch of stuff that we typically buy at Arthur Avenue
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  Speaker 1: in the Bronx.
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  Speaker 2: If you've never heard of Arthur Avenue, it is amazing.
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  Speaker 1: It is this street uptown from where I am that
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  Speaker 1: has all of the classic Italian shops, Like there's one
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  Speaker 1: place that you buy Mutzaurel, There's another place that you
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  Speaker 1: buy olive bread. There's another place that you buy Canoli's,
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  Speaker 1: like there's a certain specific shop for each of these things,
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  Speaker 1: and we eat all this stuff from there on Christmas Eve, So.
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  Speaker 2: That's Christmas Eve.
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  Speaker 1: Then on Christmas Day, I usually take the port Jeff
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  Speaker 1: Ferry back to my mom. My mom is in Connecticut,
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  Speaker 1: and we do the entire Jewish Christmas stick. We pick
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  Speaker 1: a movie to go see, and we order in Chinese food,
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  Speaker 1: and I literally our biggest decision for the day is
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  Speaker 1: like what pair of spandex am I going to wear?
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  Speaker 2: And how Golton is I want to be with my
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  Speaker 2: Chinese food order.
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  Speaker 1: I myself am more of a chicken and broccoli person,
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  Speaker 1: but growing up I was a general so's chows. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I've heard it both ways. Anyway, I always
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  Speaker 1: ordered that. I don't do that so much anymore, I digress.
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  Speaker 1: This year, I'm not doing either of those things. I
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  Speaker 1: actually literally last night had this conversation with both of
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  Speaker 1: my parents, and, like many of you, I mean, this
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  Speaker 1: year has had its fair share of ups and downs,
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  Speaker 1: and I think it just got to a point when
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  Speaker 1: I was starting to think about Christmas and like making
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  Speaker 1: all this happen and what would have to go into
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  Speaker 1: making all of this happen, that I just kind of
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  Speaker 1: accepted that I wasn't going to be able to make
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  Speaker 1: everybody happy and that the right decision for me was
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  Speaker 1: gonna be to stay in New York. And as you know,
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  Speaker 1: staying in New York for me means being in my apartment,
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  Speaker 1: and being a single woman in my thirties, that means
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  Speaker 1: me staying in my apartment by myself. You could choose,
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  Speaker 1: A person could choose to feel some kind of way
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  Speaker 1: about this, like I could choose to feel depressed or upset,
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  Speaker 1: and of course, like it's natural, I'm sure it points
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  Speaker 1: throughout this experience that I'm going to feel lonely. But
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  Speaker 1: I think that twenty twenty has taught us a lot
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  Speaker 1: of stuff, and for me, it's really been just one
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  Speaker 1: continuous lesson in focusing your energy on the things that
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  Speaker 1: you can control. And this is just how it is now.
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  Speaker 1: So for me dwelling on this decision which has been
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  Speaker 1: made me dwelling on this decision, and giving my energy
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  Speaker 1: to feeling maybe upset about this decision, that's not going
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  Speaker 1: to get me anywhere. And I'm sharing this with you
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  Speaker 1: because I'm sure that this shift in things not being
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  Speaker 1: how we wish that maybe they could be is something
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  Speaker 1: that you are dealing with as well. And it's interesting actually,
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  Speaker 1: because I feel as though I'm being a little selfish
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  Speaker 1: with my decision and that maybe there was some way
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  Speaker 1: that I could have figured out the right things to
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  Speaker 1: do to quarantine, to navigate to be with my family
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  Speaker 1: on Christmas Eve. But at the same time, I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I'm not being selfish. It's both because I am
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  Speaker 1: not putting other people at risk to do the thing
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  Speaker 1: that in other circumstances I would have done without any question.
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  Speaker 1: I am okay with being a little selfish, and to
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  Speaker 1: be quite frank, I honestly don't believe that I have
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  Speaker 1: ever said that when it comes to my family, I
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  Speaker 1: have just always, always always wanted to do as much
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  Speaker 1: as I can to make everyone happy and to be
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  Speaker 1: there for everyone, even if that meant putting myself out
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  Speaker 1: in working harder or longer to be somewhere at the
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  Speaker 1: right time and at the right place, and all these things.
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  Speaker 1: This year a huge lesson having some grace with myself,
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  Speaker 1: understanding that I'm truly doing the best I can to
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  Speaker 1: stay afloat, to keep moving forward, and in the holiday
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  Speaker 1: season right now, I think it's really really important that
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  Speaker 1: we find the silver linings, we find the gratitude, we
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  Speaker 1: take joy in the small winds and so for me
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  Speaker 1: right now, I myself am looking forward to figuring out
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  Speaker 1: exactly what Christmas movies I'm going to watch. I'm all
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  Speaker 1: yours for your suggestions, and also where I should order
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  Speaker 1: from for Christmas dinner and Christmas Eve dinner. So again,
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  Speaker 1: suggestions are welcome. If you feel this way, we're on
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  Speaker 1: the same page. My question for you this week have
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  Speaker 1: you felt at times like you've had to be a
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  Speaker 1: little selfish to take care of your own well being?
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  Speaker 1: And if so, what did that I feel like and
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  Speaker 1: how did you navigate that?
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  Speaker 2: Again?
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  Speaker 1: Have you had to be a little selfish over twenty
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  Speaker 1: twenty to take care of your own wellbeing? And what
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  Speaker 1: did that look like for you? Highlights of the week
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  Speaker 1: links to all of this in the show notes. Check
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  Speaker 1: out the Rambling Runner Virtual Summit. My good friend Matt,
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  Speaker 1: host of the Rambling Runner podcast, is hosting his first
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  Speaker 1: ever Rambling Runner Virtual Summit this coming January January fifteenth
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  Speaker 1: to seventeenth, and if you are a runner, the array
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  Speaker 1: of content that he is putting out over this time
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  Speaker 1: period is unbelievable and so so helpful. It's going to
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  Speaker 1: feature a bunch of different thirty to forty five minute
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  Speaker 1: video sessions featuring Mario Frioli, Jared Ward, and so many
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  Speaker 1: more awesome people. They're talking a bunch of topics that
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  Speaker 1: affect runners everywhere, from training when races are canceled, to
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  Speaker 1: injury and how to choose the right sneaker. So definitely
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  Speaker 1: definitely check it out. Tickets for the multi day event
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  Speaker 1: from NPR, A therapist's take on getting through a pandemic
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  Speaker 1: holiday feels pretty appropriate for what I'm talking about here
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  Speaker 1: on frid minute of Friday, it's the season to be jolly.
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  Speaker 1: Many of us are feeling a little unsure about that,
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  Speaker 1: so I really appreciated, you know, the perspective and the
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  Speaker 1: takes from this episode, many of which I kind of
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  Speaker 1: incorporated into where I'm at.
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  Speaker 2: So give that a listen.
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  Speaker 1: Also a really great article if you are on the
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  Speaker 1: hunt for some last minute gifts, or maybe you're just
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  Speaker 1: someone that's super indecisive. This read from Marie Claire Virtual
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  Speaker 1: Gifts and Gift Ideas for when you can't be there
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  Speaker 1: irl is a good one. And if you even can
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  Speaker 1: be there, Irl, there's some good suggestions in here if
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  Speaker 1: you've been in a pinch. And lastly, Christy Evanson shout
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  Speaker 1: and events and services, as well as a sales page
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  Speaker 1: I am offering another goal setting workshop in January and
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  Speaker 1: I would love to see you there. The link to
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  Speaker 1: sign up. It's January sixth at seven pm Eastern is
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  Speaker 1: And that's it for this week. Happy holidays, y'all. I'll
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  Speaker 1: be back plenty, so don't worry. I'm not gonna let
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  Speaker 1: you miss me. Tag me over at Emily Body and
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  Speaker 1: at Hurdle Podcast. As you're listening today, I appreciate you.
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  Speaker 1: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.