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Happy Hour #104: The Chicken Dance (SATC S2, Ep. 7) · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and I I welcome to
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  Speaker 1: really hate blues fancy. Okay, but yes, we are watching
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  Speaker 1: another episode of Sex in the City. Y'all. We are
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  Speaker 1: we get I love it all right. So Annie, can
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  Speaker 1: you give us a recap of what has happened thus far? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: so the end of season one, Carrie and Big broke up,
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  Speaker 1: and now in the last episode there's been a lot
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  Speaker 1: of like Carrie trying to figure out this being single
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  Speaker 1: and dating in New York again. But then we find
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  Speaker 1: out that she is kind of going behind her friends
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  Speaker 1: backs and is back with Big. They do not approve
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  Speaker 1: with reasonable reasons, I think, Um, but as she has recommitted,
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  Speaker 1: I guess. And then they were talking about why they
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  Speaker 1: broke up and like can't we be together? All of
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  Speaker 1: those things. I would say, that's the main the main issue.
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  Speaker 1: And then you've got a lot of conversation around. We
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  Speaker 1: talked a lot about like queer spaces in the last one, um,
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  Speaker 1: cheating and how to define it, you know, those general
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  Speaker 1: relationship questions. Still going on. Yeah, very good, very good,
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  Speaker 1: thank you, very proud of you, thank you. All Right,
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  Speaker 1: So we are on a season two episode seven for
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  Speaker 1: those who are trying to keep up. In the title
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  Speaker 1: of this one, the Chicken Dance, you said it several times,
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  Speaker 1: and I've been like in my mind trying to process
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  Speaker 1: what this could be. The Only thing I can really
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  Speaker 1: think of is like going through social cues that we
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  Speaker 1: all do and know, but they make no sense, um,
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  Speaker 1: like going through the motions because that's what society expects,
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  Speaker 1: but we don't really know why, and we all think
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  Speaker 1: it's ridiculous if we actually stop and think about it.
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  Speaker 1: I wonder if, because now they know that big is
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  Speaker 1: back in the picture, if it's kind of that thing.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to get this one so wrong. It's kind
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  Speaker 1: of that thing where you your friend you talk trashed
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  Speaker 1: about the person they broke up with, and then they
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  Speaker 1: get back together and you have to be like, you
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  Speaker 1: have to dance around the question. We don't like this guy.
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  Speaker 1: I know I'm gonna get it so wrong. That's an
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  Speaker 1: interesting take. I like this. Okay, Okay, we'll come back
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  Speaker 1: and I'll give you a grade on a scale that
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  Speaker 1: doesn't exist. But that hasn't been consistent as we've been doing.
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  Speaker 1: Let us begin. Okay, the chicken dance. Oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 1: I have no idea. Really are doing well. I can
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  Speaker 1: tell by the look on your face. I'm trying supportive.
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  Speaker 1: I appreciated it, kind of confused. Most single people in
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  Speaker 1: Manhattan do not buy furniture or hang pictures until faced
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  Speaker 1: with the arrival of an out of town Okay, that's
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  Speaker 1: a great by the way, A hard thing to do
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  Speaker 1: is not the perfect furniture. Yes, because of the pandemic.
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  Speaker 1: My couch has got literally a dance and I think,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, can I prop it up from the bottom
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  Speaker 1: the cushion? If you can't, I can't flip the cushion,
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  Speaker 1: and it's a too cheap of a couch. Jeremy is
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  Speaker 1: coming to visit Miranda, so she has a whole designer
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  Speaker 1: and she's got dancing frogs as are to go with
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  Speaker 1: this new sofa. This is so funny because this guy,
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  Speaker 1: my ex boyfriend, thought he in his mind we were
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  Speaker 1: dating for a lot longer than I thought we were dating.
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  Speaker 1: He as he kept staying over at night and he'd said,
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  Speaker 1: on my couch. So I got a sleeping couch because
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  Speaker 1: I'm an idiot and thought like, I didn't realize, but
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  Speaker 1: I still have it amazing. Instead of him sleeping in
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  Speaker 1: your bed with you, you're like, have Aansia couch, enjoying
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  Speaker 1: a new couch and you can sleep on it. The
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  Speaker 1: next night, when Jeremy arrived, he was even more adorable
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  Speaker 1: than Miranda remembered, I love your flat, thanks, so how
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  Speaker 1: the hell are you? Especially when he said I'm tired
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  Speaker 1: of dating. I'm ready to get married. All right, So
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  Speaker 1: Jeremy the Phone has come hang out with Miranda and
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  Speaker 1: he wants to get married to Miranda. No. Just in general,
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  Speaker 1: it's like he came in of nowhere. No no, no.
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  Speaker 1: But I think she's trying to aim for it. I
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  Speaker 1: hope you like this. Here comes a decorator with an
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  Speaker 1: end table. I was thinking, oh, hi, sorry, interrup, that's beautiful,
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  Speaker 1: is it? Biedermeyer inspired by me My Love at First
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  Speaker 1: Sight Jeremy Madeleine. I think it's interesting when you kind
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  Speaker 1: of decide like it's time to get married, and then
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  Speaker 1: it just becomes like not, I don't know, like a
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  Speaker 1: task you have too complete, as opposed to something Well,
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  Speaker 1: I've talked about friends that I've had that like they
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  Speaker 1: had like a schedule, like I'm at this age, I
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  Speaker 1: need to be married, I do this, and I feel
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  Speaker 1: like that used to be an old school thing as
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  Speaker 1: of late, and thank god to the new gen z
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  Speaker 1: or so like noah, we're good, good on you keep
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  Speaker 1: that mentality, because yeah, it feels like if he's a chore,
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  Speaker 1: you're always going to make that mistake. Yeah, well I'm
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  Speaker 1: pretty beat. Did you want to go No? Not? If
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  Speaker 1: you're well, I can find my way back. And of
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  Speaker 1: course Miranda's a third will not a fun feeling I forgot,
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  Speaker 1: especially when it's your friend that you have a crush on,
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  Speaker 1: you're watching them fall in love with some else. You
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  Speaker 1: were like insecurities of that alone. I always was the
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  Speaker 1: friend that I watched my friend get together with a crush.
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  Speaker 1: I haven't A few times to me, actually yeah a
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  Speaker 1: few times. Yeah it's not fun, it's I feel traumatized
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  Speaker 1: right now. It is funny though, because like, looking back,
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  Speaker 1: I never wanted to date like anybody. There was one
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  Speaker 1: guy who dated everybody my friend group of me, and
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  Speaker 1: I was offended by it, even though I didn't want
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  Speaker 1: to date him. Are you going around but everybody but me?
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  Speaker 1: I don't, Dan, I need a visual. I don't know
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  Speaker 1: a top strapless denim. She's kind of sex talking. Yeah, big,
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  Speaker 1: this is about the level I would ever be able
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  Speaker 1: to do. It's like, yeah, we're like, I'm too literal.
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  Speaker 1: This is too ridiculous. How can you believe in love
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  Speaker 1: at first sight in a city where people jerk off
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  Speaker 1: in this subway? I'm thinking a hard fist. Do you
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  Speaker 1: believe in love first sight? Four? Now think I think
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  Speaker 1: there's a way I could justify, like I get feeling
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  Speaker 1: it immediate attraction that leads to something that is love.
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  Speaker 1: But I don't think you can just be like, oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I'm in love. But that could just be how I
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  Speaker 1: understand love. I feel like it could be dangerous because
• 10:29
  Speaker 1: oftentimes when you do that, you have blinders to the
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  Speaker 1: red flags that will like make you think or excuse
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  Speaker 1: it and or allow it, and then it grows old
• 10:37
  Speaker 1: because you've not dealt with it right, and like that's
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  Speaker 1: that's the only thing you've seen and sometimes you can't
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  Speaker 1: see it, if that makes sense, Like yeah, yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. Yeah, I know it's a romantic idea. I
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  Speaker 1: get why it's romantic. Of course, we all want to
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  Speaker 1: be swept off our face. Like there's like a level
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  Speaker 1: of romance to that. Why did I agree to this?
• 11:03
  Speaker 1: I write about sex, not love, but I know about love.
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  Speaker 1: I might have to get married now, what that guy
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  Speaker 1: I picked up at Miranda's. Alright, so Carrie is now
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  Speaker 1: being asked to like read for her wedding this girl
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  Speaker 1: that no one really knows, which, By the way, I've
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  Speaker 1: been in so many weddings. I just suspise weddings actually,
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  Speaker 1: like because of that I despised weddings because I was
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  Speaker 1: in so many weddings before before five that I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm done. I think I had kind of like ten
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  Speaker 1: to twelve weddings that I'm I had been participating in
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  Speaker 1: or had like help in that. I'm like this is
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  Speaker 1: awful and I hated. Yeah, maybe that's why I don't
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  Speaker 1: like marriage in general. Like in general, I hate the
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  Speaker 1: ceremony of it, So don't make me do this. I'm
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  Speaker 1: almost too loud. I feel like I offend people, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm definitely not gonna get married and definitely
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  Speaker 1: new madding wedding like tough oft that, right. I think
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  Speaker 1: people can take that personally, which I also get. It's
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  Speaker 1: not it's not my own experience of like I'm never
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  Speaker 1: doing us right, I don't even want to participate. Right. Well,
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  Speaker 1: it's funny because I a friend of mine, I'm also
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  Speaker 1: the same way beautiful ceremony. I was there and I
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  Speaker 1: was like crying. I was like, oh my god, I
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  Speaker 1: love is real. Marriage can work. And then the cup
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  Speaker 1: to four like within a year, and I was like,
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  Speaker 1: oh no, and we're not laughing at It's just like
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  Speaker 1: that level of like, oh, no, it's because it was
• 12:22
  Speaker 1: like my first time. You're like, oh, yeah, me too. Actually,
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  Speaker 1: my my heart got destroyed watching this couple. They're so
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  Speaker 1: perfectly and he did everything to woo her and everything
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  Speaker 1: was beautiful. It was God matched, like literally in my head.
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  Speaker 1: And then I went to like hang out with him
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  Speaker 1: and they was in the middle of the worst time,
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, what is happening? And I affected
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  Speaker 1: me for a damn year, like because I could not
• 12:44
  Speaker 1: stop thinking about it, Like if they can't make it right,
• 12:47
  Speaker 1: who can? Yeah, And I think a lot of us
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  Speaker 1: have been through that with like parents, where you're like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: they seem so good and then they're not, like yeah,
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  Speaker 1: And like you know, a lot of times in these
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  Speaker 1: kind of things, we see the romantic part of the relationship.
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  Speaker 1: Relationships are hard work, they're not always pretty. Yeah, But
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  Speaker 1: then wedding is supposed to be kind of the like
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  Speaker 1: showcase of our love. But I think about it all
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  Speaker 1: the time too, because I was like, oh, my gosh,
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  Speaker 1: this is beautiful and then yeah, do you know where
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  Speaker 1: they want the gifts? Excuse me, I'm not the gift person.
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  Speaker 1: That's some other beat list friends. Oh christ, my re
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  Speaker 1: runs here of course he's here. You met him at
• 13:33
  Speaker 1: the engagement party. So apparently all the girls except for
• 13:37
  Speaker 1: Samantha are a part of this. But sam has met
• 13:41
  Speaker 1: someone that she had had sex with very previously, forgot
• 13:43
  Speaker 1: about him until he had a specific kink and that
• 13:45
  Speaker 1: she's like, oh, I remember you now, and now she's like,
• 13:48
  Speaker 1: I have repeats after the movie. Get married. That's the
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  Speaker 1: only way, and those are the options. Yes, and oh,
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  Speaker 1: Charlotte came down with a bomb black dress. Apparently this
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  Speaker 1: is one of those weddings where the women and can
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  Speaker 1: pick their own prizemad dress, which is which was rarely
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  Speaker 1: at that point in time too, I mean for me
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  Speaker 1: too as well. Yeah, and when I once went to
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  Speaker 1: a wedding where I wore a black dress, not nearly
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  Speaker 1: it's nice. But they all thought I was a waiter
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  Speaker 1: and I ended up serving drinks and I made money
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, and I was like not, I think
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  Speaker 1: I was in college and they were like, I want
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  Speaker 1: a drink and I didn't know what it was and
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  Speaker 1: I'd just be like, make a drink. They're like I
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: asked one guy like, oh, and how do you think
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  Speaker 1: that this is the worst bartender ever? I made some money.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I was about to say. The dad kept
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  Speaker 1: to fill of Charlotte while they were dancing, and it's
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  Speaker 1: always heard me out this feeling at weddings when you
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  Speaker 1: dance with the older man and it's almost like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: you're so pretty. He like really succeeded with you, Like
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, it's Charlotte tells him, Look, my parents
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  Speaker 1: have been married for fifty years. My dad would not
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  Speaker 1: cop a field just because some girl is wearing a
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  Speaker 1: slutty dress, her a slut Charlotte that Martin wasn't going
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  Speaker 1: to take her side now or after three or four kids,
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: or ever in the last four and a half hours
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  Speaker 1: being going to you. But you know this whole like
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  Speaker 1: taking the side Martin is gonna not going to take
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  Speaker 1: the side for her. That's the whole am I. They
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  Speaker 1: asked Reddit thread that the husband never takes the wife's side,
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  Speaker 1: that is always on the in law side. It's true,
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  Speaker 1: and I don't I don't have much experience with it,
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  Speaker 1: but what I have experienced, yes you are, oh yeah
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  Speaker 1: you fail. I feel like I would make an argument
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  Speaker 1: that I actually did well. Why because it was it
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  Speaker 1: was a performance. It was all about the performance of
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  Speaker 1: a wedding and going through the actions of what you expect.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to say wedding. Well I did say wedding,
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  Speaker 1: but I did say social things. And you also went
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  Speaker 1: towards the friend judging. Big, there was judgment, but that
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  Speaker 1: wasn't the chicken dance. I won't. Yeah, I didn't. All right,
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  Speaker 1: then I'll give you a D minus, which is not
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  Speaker 1: quite passing, but it's not my failing. I'm sorry. I'm
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: going to see your D minus and take it as
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  Speaker 1: a D plus. I'll allow it. However. Yeah, so potentially
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: chicken dances referring to the infamous dance for weddings. Oh
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  Speaker 1: really yeah? Yeah? Have you never heard of the chicken
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  Speaker 1: dance and weddings? I mean I know that chicken dance.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know it was associated with weddings. Yeah, old
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  Speaker 1: school level like the wedding. Like goes to a New
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  Speaker 1: Girl episode one of the first I think it's like
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  Speaker 1: the first season, and they all go to a wedding
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  Speaker 1: and she's pretending to be nixt date who was about
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  Speaker 1: to see his ex that level um, and she said,
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  Speaker 1: when the chicken dance comes up, this is how I
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  Speaker 1: like to do it. So kind of associated with that.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's very old school, so think of it
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  Speaker 1: as the old school electric slide. Oh you know how
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  Speaker 1: that weddings have been different than this that I've been
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  Speaker 1: to really because it's a very white person thing. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like, sorry, might be wrong. I don't went to
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  Speaker 1: a lot of white weddings. That is why I said it. Well,
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  Speaker 1: but to be fair, I also went to a lot
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  Speaker 1: of weddings that didn't hell out dancing very religious, Yes
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  Speaker 1: they're very religious, or they didn't do dancing that wasn't
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  Speaker 1: a part of a thing. That's the other thing. But
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: all that to say, that's the reference, and that it's
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  Speaker 1: more about whether it's not biggest truly committing and her
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: dancing around asking about that, and then also like the
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  Speaker 1: other part is having Miranda trying to find thinking that
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: this person could work out. There was always a little
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: flirtation and oh this is the big moment and then
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  Speaker 1: being absolutely wrong. Yeah, I definitely had this moment. I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: are we flirting? I feel like we're floating, and then
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  Speaker 1: he dat someone else, I'm like, he's wrong. Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: have a like you know, those memories that keep you
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  Speaker 1: up at night. I have one where this guy and
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: I've told you this abant that you know about this,
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  Speaker 1: but basically I didn't know. It's sliding into D M. S. Mint. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know the thing though, and I hate to
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  Speaker 1: even admit this. I wasn't the person contacting him at first,
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: but it did spiral out of control and it became
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  Speaker 1: a thing. But I hate that that it wasn't me
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: and he thought it was, which is an old school trope.
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: I think it's a shakespeare inced trope. But it's not
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: the same as you wear. Someone is interested in somebody,
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: but someone else does all the flirting for them, and
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: they attracted into the writing, right, but they're not attracted
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: to Ye. That's true. Yeah, that is That is a
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: true that. It is disconcerting when you realize that you
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: thought you understood what a relationship was and then it's
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: not that thing. I've never really had what Miranda had
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: in this, but I've seen it happen with friends and
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: it's it's painful. I've definitely had things where from the
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: outside I'm like, oh, no, they're reading too much into this. Yeah,
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: they're gonna get hurt, but you can't talk them out
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: of it without you feeling like you're insulting them. Yeah,
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: it is very very tricky to like maneuver around those
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: things with friends where you're like, I don't think this
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  Speaker 1: is what you think it is. But if somebody is
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: really attracted to somebody or really into somebody, they're not
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: going to hear it, and and you're kind of like,
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: I think he might be a jerk. And then also
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: those are those moments where you do hang out with
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: people and it's the opposite sex and they're like, when
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: are you all getting together? Y'all really are from me
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: for each other. Y'all are so cute together, But that
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: truly friendships, Like, no, if we wanted to be together,
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  Speaker 1: we'd be together. I don't understand why you need this
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: to have it right. People do like trying to do that,
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: They like trying to put you together. With my ex,
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: we brought up a lot in this one. Apparently all
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: of the people in his life are telling him like,
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: you've been dating, you've been dating for a long time,
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: and I was like, I have platonic friendships with the
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: opposite sex, and that's just I don't see it that way.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: But apparently all of his reason it's concerning that's the
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: communication things that you had to communicate, and then the
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: conversation about being a teaser leading you on. It's a
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: fine line of who is the victim and who is
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: not the victim, Who is to blame, who's not to blame? Yeah, yeah,
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: And I one time somebody one of his friends said like, oh,
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: she wore this stress when you went out together. She's
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: trying to impress you. But like literally, as an a
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: sexual person looking back, I don't think of it that way.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: I don't see it that way. And I get it
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: because somebody explained it really well and something I was
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: reading like, essentially, what would be a neon sign for
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: somebody who isn't a sexual is not a sign at
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: all for me. So I I was just like, yeah,
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: I want to go to this restaurant. You have to
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: address restaurant. Well, essentially, that's the thing. It's like, what
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: if you're doing something special therefore not together, but that's
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: the person that you do things with. I had a
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: guy friend that we did things with. We were always
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: invited together even though we were never together, and we
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: always hung out. We always had jokes and we always
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: tease each other, and everybody assumed that we were always
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: going to be together, Like, oh, I don't understand would
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: I have I would take people as friends for days
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: because I just like I don't want to go about
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: myself and they were friends. Yeah, And unfortunately, sometimes as women,
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: if you don't want to be bothered by other men,
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: you're like, hey, will you please to your dude friends,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: will you please come so they'll leave me alone? But
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: then again, like women do read into it, like if
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: he says yes, it's true, like or women also have
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: that same level of like I just want to be
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: dressed up. I don't understand why you think it's a change.
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: It can go both ways. It's not just a gender
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: thing for sure. And then like not sure what to
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: say because this seems romantic, but we don't know if
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: it is romantic and trying to play that game that
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: chicken dance, that chicken dance. Okay, you and your d
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: minus your head plus imagination, all right, what do you
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: think of this episode? Oh? It was fun once again,
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: lots of good commentary came up. I loved the kind
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: of like you said, the kind of like I love
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: that they were supporting each other at this wedding and
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: we're like backing each other up. You know, I'm on
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: your side whatever it is, but also calling each other out.
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: But that was my favorite part. It's kind of them
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: complaining and being bitter and not picking up the book
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: like that, and I just stare at it and then
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: just walk away tomorrow. That's my favorite. It was pretty good.
• 23:02
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