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Love Is Patient · Have A Little Faith with Delilah

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to have a Little Faith with Thelilah. Oh
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Speaker 1: my gosh, are you enjoying this podcast series as much
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Speaker 1: as my producer Janie and I are enjoying bringing it
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Speaker 1: to you. I feel unfettered. I feel free. I have horses,
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Speaker 1: and when I was younger, I used to love to
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Speaker 1: take my horses to the beach, to ocean the shores
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Speaker 1: and run on the sand as fast and as far
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Speaker 1: as we could go along the edge of the water,
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Speaker 1: the surf crashing, the waves crashing, the horses running free.
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Speaker 1: I would let go of the reins, I would hold
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Speaker 1: out my arms and I would just run with the
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Speaker 1: wind in my hair. The horse loved it. I loved it.
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Speaker 1: It was such a feeling of abandonment. When I picture heaven,
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Speaker 1: when I picture the rapture, when I picture joining my
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Speaker 1: Lord and my sons and my brother and my parents
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Speaker 1: and everybody I love that's gone before me, that's what
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Speaker 1: I imagine it will feel like that total freedom, powerful,
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Speaker 1: no reins, no reins holding the horseback, no reins holding
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Speaker 1: me back. And I got to be honest, that's kind
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Speaker 1: of how I feel in this new podcast where I
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Speaker 1: am free. I am free to say that the Lord
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Speaker 1: loves you unconditionally for eternity, and he tells us this
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Speaker 1: through his word. Today, I want to share a scripture
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Speaker 1: with you that most of you, regardless of your religious affiliation,
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Speaker 1: you have probably heard at a wedding, at an event.
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Speaker 1: But guess what. It's not just something that applies to marriage.
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Speaker 1: It applies to our relationships with everybody in our life,
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Speaker 1: our children, your parents, your friends, even complete strangers. It's
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Speaker 1: First Corinthians thirteen four through seven. I know you've heard this.
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Speaker 1: Love is patient, Love is kind. It does not envy,
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Speaker 1: It does not boast. It is not proud. It does
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Speaker 1: not dishonor others. Love is never self seeking. It is
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Speaker 1: not easily angered. Actually, in the original text, it doesn't
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Speaker 1: say it is not easily angered. It says it is
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Speaker 1: not provoked. It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does
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Speaker 1: not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It
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Speaker 1: always protects, always trust, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love
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Speaker 1: never fails. What does all that mean? Even break it down?
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Speaker 1: You want to break it down, you want to talk
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Speaker 1: about it, Let's talk about it. Love is patient, doesn't
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Speaker 1: rush you, It doesn't insist on having its way. Love
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Speaker 1: waits until the time is right. Love is kind. It
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Speaker 1: does not envy. It does not boast. If you are
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Speaker 1: in a relationship with somebody and you're envious, you're jealous.
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Speaker 1: You're jealous of the time they spend with their family,
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Speaker 1: You're jealous of something they have or don't have, you're jealous.
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Speaker 1: Love does not envy, and it doesn't boast. It doesn't brag.
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Speaker 1: It isn't proud or arrogant, and it does not dishonor others.
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Speaker 1: If you are mocking someone you love, if you are
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Speaker 1: putting them down, if you are speaking ill about them
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Speaker 1: behind their back, do you really love them? No, you
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Speaker 1: don't even like them. Love is not self seeking. It's
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Speaker 1: not selfish, it's not self centered. It is not easily angered,
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Speaker 1: or like I said in the original, it is not provoked.
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Speaker 1: It's not provoked. When you love someone, you know that
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Speaker 1: you love them. It keeps no record of wrongs. O.
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Speaker 1: When you hold your behavior up to this standard, it's
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Speaker 1: hard to say you love people. Huh, especially that one
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Speaker 1: right there, keeps no record of wrongs. When you're arguing
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Speaker 1: with someone your adult child, do you bring up the past?
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Speaker 1: Do you throw it in their face?
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Speaker 2: Well?
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Speaker 1: What about the time you said this, What about the
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Speaker 1: time you did that? What about the car he crashed?
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Speaker 1: What about blah blah blah. No, that's not loving. That's
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Speaker 1: not love. When you are keeping a record of someone's wrongs,
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Speaker 1: you are not loving them. Love does not delight in evil,
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Speaker 1: but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always, it always trust,
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Speaker 1: it always hopes, it always hopes, and it always perseveres.
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Speaker 1: I have a few calls I want to share with
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Speaker 1: you today that address the need to follow these beautiful words,
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Speaker 1: these principles that God gave us. When I apply these
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Speaker 1: principles to my relationships, I have to admit that I
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Speaker 1: I fall short. Ooh do I fall short? I fall short?
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Speaker 1: And that means I need to go back to the
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Speaker 1: Lord in prayer and say, help me, help me to
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Speaker 1: be more loving, Help me to honor others, Help me
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Speaker 1: to not be selfish. Help me with my temper so
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Speaker 1: I am not angered. Help me not to keep a
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Speaker 1: list of other people's wrongs. Help me to rejoice with
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Speaker 1: the truth. Help me to protect those that I love,
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Speaker 1: Help me to trust and give me hope. When I
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Speaker 1: look at those standards, I have to go back to
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Speaker 1: the Almighty and say help me. I want to love
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Speaker 1: like that. I want to have that kind of love
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Speaker 1: in my heart, but I fall so short and I
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Speaker 1: have to pray Lord, help me, help me to love
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Speaker 1: as you have called me to love. Up First, we
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Speaker 1: have a call from a very sweet young woman named Penny.
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Speaker 1: Her mom is struggling with the empty nest in a
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Speaker 1: big way. Penny is struggling with the patience for that.
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Speaker 1: Penny is young, she wants to fly, she wants to
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Speaker 1: be free. She also wants to honor her mama. Let's
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Speaker 1: hear from Penny right now. Hi, Penny, welcome. What can
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Speaker 1: I do for you tonight?
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Speaker 3: I guess I could kind of use a bit of
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Speaker 3: your famous advice.
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Speaker 1: All right, tell me you are Delilah dilemma, Penny, what's
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Speaker 1: going on? And I will see if I have any
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Speaker 1: wisdom on the subject.
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Speaker 3: Well. Thanks, Well, basically, it's the Eagel teenage story. I
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Speaker 3: guess I just became adult, so it's a lot scarier
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Speaker 3: than I thought it would be. Like, Man, I don't
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Speaker 3: know how you'll do it.
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Speaker 1: Adulting is hard, isn't it. So you just turned eighteen
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Speaker 1: or twenty one.
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Speaker 3: I just turned eighteen and I moved out onto my own,
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Speaker 3: like right after I turned eighteen, like not quite, like
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Speaker 3: maybe half a month after, and it's still quite the adjustment.
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Speaker 1: Why did you exit stage right? Was there abuse or
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Speaker 1: drama at home? Why why did you move out?
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Speaker 3: No, man, there is nothing bad at home. It's just
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Speaker 3: I really feel like I've been sheltered my whole life,
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Speaker 3: and I really wanted to spread meanings and fly, you know,
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Speaker 3: and I felt like this was the perfect time to
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Speaker 3: do it, Like I might as well make the jump now.
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Speaker 1: You know, we're the only culture that expects eighteen year
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Speaker 1: olds to be able to live on their own and
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Speaker 1: stand on their own two feet.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just been kind of hard because I know
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Speaker 3: it's really difficult on my mom home, Like I don't
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Speaker 3: really know how to juggle how much to talk to her,
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Speaker 3: and I'm just scared that, like I don't want our
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Speaker 3: relationship to be tense because you know, we're talking too
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Speaker 3: much in her two up into people each other's business,
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Speaker 3: and I'm afraid I've heard her so deeply these past
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Speaker 3: few days and I just feel like a complete jerk,
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Speaker 3: you know, And I hate hearing my mom cry, and I.
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Speaker 1: Just okay, so tell me what you mean when you
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Speaker 1: say you feel like you've been too sheltered.
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Speaker 3: I don't know. My mom. She tells me all the
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Speaker 3: bad things in the world, and she doesn't let me
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Speaker 3: do things that are pretty safe, like things that so
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Speaker 3: many people do.
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Speaker 1: I have a sixteen year old daughter that's not allowed
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Speaker 1: to have a cell phone, so she probably thinks I'm
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Speaker 1: pretty old fashioned and pretty sheltered. But there's a reason
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Speaker 1: for that. Yeah, I know how scary the world is.
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Speaker 3: My mom has a really good intuition, and if like somebody,
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Speaker 3: like she can tell what somebody's not well. Like for example,
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Speaker 3: she's letting me go in October over to a guy
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Speaker 3: friend's house, like his family is here, of course, and
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Speaker 3: they have a spare bedroom. He knows him really well,
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Speaker 3: and she feels comfortable with me doing that, like because
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Speaker 3: he his family lives at a beach house and he
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Speaker 3: invited me to come today, like he's just a friend,
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Speaker 3: but like she's I don't know. I think the main
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Speaker 3: thing that I've been struggling with is she tells me
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Speaker 3: all the bad in the world, and I just end
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Speaker 3: up feeling so scared inside, you know, and it's hard.
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Speaker 1: Well, there is a lot of bad in the world.
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Speaker 1: There's also a lot of good in the world, and
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Speaker 1: hopefully you have an opportunity to explore that and focus
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Speaker 1: on that. But my daughter Blessing just left home for
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Speaker 1: the first time, and she's twenty one, and she's coming
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Speaker 1: back and she'll be home for two months before she
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Speaker 1: takes off to go to Bali with some friends for
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Speaker 1: a month. But some of my adult children left as
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Speaker 1: soon as they were adults, as soon as they turned eighteen.
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Speaker 1: They left because they thought I was too strict. And
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Speaker 1: that's okay because in my house, I get to make
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Speaker 1: the rules. If you don't like them, you can leave
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Speaker 1: once you're eighteen, and I support that. I don't stay.
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Speaker 1: I'm not angry, I'm not bitter. I have one daughter
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Speaker 1: that left two months after she turned eighteen and moved
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Speaker 1: in with one of my friends, a woman that I
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Speaker 1: had hired to tutor her, and was there for a
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Speaker 1: couple of months, and then she broke her rules, and
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Speaker 1: that woman said, sorry, you can't. You can't stay here.
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Speaker 1: You're going to break the rules. You're not going to
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Speaker 1: come home at night, You're not going to tell me
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Speaker 1: where you are. You don't get to you don't get
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Speaker 1: to stay here and she finally came to her senses
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Speaker 1: and stopped making bad choices and met a nice man
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Speaker 1: and married him. And she's traveled all over the world
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Speaker 1: because he's in the military, and that is where doubt
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Speaker 1: wonderful for her. But uh, there's no way I would
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Speaker 1: tell an eighteen year old to move out and have
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Speaker 1: to pay rent and pay utilities and pay insurance and
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Speaker 1: pay car payment bills because you can't make enough money
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Speaker 1: to live comfortably.
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Speaker 3: I don't know. It's just I feel like so many
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Speaker 3: new things are happening and it's like a bucket of overwhelming.
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Speaker 1: And so how often do you talk to mom?
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Speaker 3: Well, she's been calling every day. I have a grandmother
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Speaker 3: who calls in text too much. Like she's really smothering,
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Speaker 3: Like everybody thinks for her smothering. Like there's not one
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Speaker 3: person who think she doesn't smother and where all she
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Speaker 3: has and like except for family, I think because she's
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Speaker 3: pushed people away from coming on. She's strong.
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Speaker 1: And I don't know, you are not here to meet
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Speaker 1: your mother's emotional needs. We do not have children to
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Speaker 1: meet our emotional needs. We have children or adopt children
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Speaker 1: so we can meet their emotional needs and as they grow.
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Speaker 1: The two things we must give our children are roots,
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Speaker 1: so they always know they're grounded, They always have a
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Speaker 1: safe place to land, They always have somebody who's got
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Speaker 1: their back and wings to fly into their future. We
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Speaker 1: don't get to go into their future. We get to
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Speaker 1: create our life and watch them fly, but we don't
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Speaker 1: get to go into our children's future.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, as it right now, it just kind of feels
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Speaker 3: a bit only, you.
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Speaker 1: Know, overwhelming and lonely. How do you set boundaries and
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Speaker 1: at the same time keep the love lines open? That's
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Speaker 1: the big question. Yeah, So how how often do you
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Speaker 1: call your mom? Oh?
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Speaker 3: Right now, it's been a bit tricky because you know,
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Speaker 3: my mom will call me and then I'll feel like
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Speaker 3: like I won't answer right away or something. And then
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Speaker 3: because it's like I kind of want to leave a
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Speaker 3: little bit of space so that I can kind of
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Speaker 3: set those boundaries because I'm the kind of person that
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Speaker 3: and people are too clingy. It kind of pushes me away.
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Speaker 3: But she's been calling about twice a day.
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Speaker 1: Are there other kids in the family.
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Speaker 3: No, I'm my MoMA's only.
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Speaker 1: Ah. Yeah, that just answered all my questions right there.
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Speaker 1: You are your mother's only and you are her whole world.
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Speaker 1: You are her reason for breathing, you are her reason
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Speaker 1: for being, and it's going to be very, very very
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Speaker 1: hard for you to set boundaries.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, and she's not married either, Like she's a single pringle,
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Speaker 3: So that makes me even more of the center of attention.
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Speaker 1: And you just described several people in my life. I
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Speaker 1: have one, two, three, four people in my life who
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Speaker 1: are single moms with only children, and it's very very
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Speaker 1: hard when the kids grow up and the mom is
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Speaker 1: no longer needed to take them to practice, to take
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Speaker 1: them to games, to take them to prom to take
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Speaker 1: them shopping, to take them to school to and their
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Speaker 1: moms are like, I don't know what to do with myself.
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Speaker 1: My whole world has revolved around this person for the
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Speaker 1: last eighteen years.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like I'm doing something wrong. I try
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Speaker 3: to be super respectful about it, like why don't you
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Speaker 3: let me call you? Were Like, I try to be
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Speaker 3: open and honest that I'm terrified that she'll be like Nonna,
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Speaker 3: and I think that have been true.
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Speaker 1: But you don't need to worry about her being like anybody.
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Speaker 1: You just need to say right now, I'm trying to
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Speaker 1: become independent. I don't want to be dependent on you
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Speaker 1: or upon my dad. I want to develop independence. I
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Speaker 1: want to grow into womanhood. And you have given me
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Speaker 1: a firm foundation of love and that's that's enough. But
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Speaker 1: you're not here, honey, to meet her emotional needs.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. I've tried to tell her things like that, and
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Speaker 3: it kind of feels like I'm talking to rick Wall
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Speaker 3: and she'll start crying again or talk about how she's
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Speaker 3: feeling really hurt.
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Speaker 1: Sounds to me like she's just really having a hard
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Speaker 1: time with the empty nest. Yeah, and this could be
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Speaker 1: very good for her. It's going to be hard to adjust,
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Speaker 1: but now she's got time to go discover who she
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Speaker 1: is again and to make her own friends, and to
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Speaker 1: travel and to do all the things she put on
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Speaker 1: hold while she was raising you exactly.
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Speaker 3: Like she's been mountain biking a lot and like ticking
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Speaker 3: me fitness classes and it's like, I don't know, she
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Speaker 3: just she's always had lots of friends and acquaintances. So
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Speaker 3: I feel like once we get over this hump together,
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Speaker 3: I mean, correct me if I'm wrong, But it is
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Speaker 3: supposed to be awkward, is uncomfortable at first, right, this
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Speaker 3: whole process.
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Speaker 1: Oh, it's very awkward and uncomfortable.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, this part is just so difficult and it feels
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Speaker 3: uncomfortable and wrong.
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Speaker 1: And I think you are right where you're supposed to be,
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Speaker 1: and I think you are doing a wonderful job.
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Speaker 3: Thank you.
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Speaker 1: You're trying to set boundaries. You're trying to honor and
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Speaker 1: respect the people you love. You're trying not to support
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Speaker 1: generational dysfunction. Penny, I think you're amazing.
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Speaker 3: Oh, thank you.
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Speaker 1: You are delightful.
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Speaker 3: Thank you, And I'll also go blow my nose, good night,
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Speaker 3: good night, Thank you again.
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Speaker 1: You're welcome. You know a lot of people when they
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Speaker 1: hear my name, first off, they sing my little jingle
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Speaker 1: de la Lah. A lot of people think I love
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Speaker 1: to talk, and I do, there's no doubt about that.
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Speaker 1: But mostly on this show, I love to listen. And
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Speaker 1: I don't just listen to your words. I listen to
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Speaker 1: your voice. I listen to the pitch and the timber.
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Speaker 1: I listen to everything. I can hear stress in your voice,
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Speaker 1: I can hear love in your voice. I can hear
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Speaker 1: regret in your voice. I can hear anger or unforgiveness.
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Speaker 1: And sometimes people will call and I hear nothing but
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Speaker 1: pure joy and then they tell me their stories, and
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Speaker 1: I'm thinking, why do I hear joy in your voice
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Speaker 1: when your story is so tragic? And I think it's
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Speaker 1: because some people face life with faith, with grace, and
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Speaker 1: with love and they're able to find the joy in
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Speaker 1: every situation. Such is the voice of my next caller.
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Speaker 1: Tragic story, but so much love and happiness. Stay tuned
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Speaker 1: for that coming up next. Hi, you've called the Delilah Show.
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Speaker 1: Who is on the phone line.
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Speaker 2: Oh, my name's Sarah.
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Speaker 1: Hi, Sarah, you sound excited. What can I do to
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Speaker 1: make your night more exciting?
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Speaker 2: Well, my husband has Parkinson's and he's forty two and
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Speaker 2: Friday we got to go all day to try to
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Speaker 2: get tests done because you may have to have surgery
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Speaker 2: to try to help stomach issues. And it's just been
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Speaker 2: hard for us both and I've had to take golf,
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Speaker 2: quit work so I could take care of him, and
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Speaker 2: it's just been a little struggle. But we're getting better things.
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Speaker 2: Things are starting to look up a little bit.
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Speaker 1: Wait a second, when I answered the phone, I heard
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Speaker 1: nothing but joy in your voice. You're telling me that,
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Speaker 1: in spite of the fact that your husband is fighting
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Speaker 1: for his life, if you still have joy or I
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Speaker 1: miss misinterpreted your voice.
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Speaker 2: You like, I've listened to you since I was a
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Speaker 2: little girl. You've always made me feel better, Like everything
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Speaker 2: that every time I've been down with my mom when
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Speaker 2: she passed, I mean anything that made me said. You
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Speaker 2: were always like what I listened to and it just
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Speaker 2: always made everything me feel better. So actually talking to
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Speaker 2: you just blows my mind.
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Speaker 1: You want to know something really cool. Yeah, as popular
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Speaker 1: as I might be, or as popular as my show
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Speaker 1: might be, honey, I am nothing compared to the strength
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Speaker 1: of you.
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Speaker 2: Oh sometimes I wonder how I can do it. But
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Speaker 2: like I said, every time I listen to you, it
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Speaker 2: just makes everything feel a whole lot better.
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Speaker 1: Do you know that God adores you and thinks the
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Speaker 1: world of you and trust you more than he does me.
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Speaker 1: You know how I know that to be true because
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Speaker 1: He knows that I could not stand up under the
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Speaker 1: challenges that you are facing with Grace.
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Speaker 4: I said, some days it's easy.
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Speaker 2: Sometimes we try to get jokes kind of, you know,
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Speaker 2: but it's been up and down battle. I mean there's
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Speaker 2: some days he can't even walk or stand up, and
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Speaker 2: that's day that I have to actually be like a
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Speaker 2: CNA and transfer him and do everything for him. And
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Speaker 2: then there's days that he's not too bad. I mean
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Speaker 2: there's some days that he can walk and do okay,
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Speaker 2: But when he has a spell, it's just horrible, And
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Speaker 2: I try my best to be strong for him, because
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Speaker 2: I mean, it's got to be hard on him. I
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Speaker 2: can't imagine not being able to stand.
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Speaker 1: Or walk or do anything for today. Sarah, you my friend,
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Speaker 1: are my hero.
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Speaker 4: Oh thank you?
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Speaker 2: Like I said, your like my favorite. I've called how
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Speaker 2: many times try and talk to you at least once
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Speaker 2: in my life.
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Speaker 1: What's your husband's name? Rgil And he's forty two how old.
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Speaker 1: When he started getting the parkinson symptoms.
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Speaker 2: About twenty nine, I was pregnant with my son, and
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Speaker 2: he went down and we didn't know what it was.
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Speaker 2: And we went for thirteen years trying to find some
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Speaker 2: doctor that would actually listen and try to figure out
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Speaker 2: what's wrong with him. And we just found them out
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Speaker 2: about three years ago that it's Parkinson's completely now. And
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Speaker 2: sometimes he has almost like a seizure where he'll be
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Speaker 2: on the ground shaking and everything and can't move or
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Speaker 2: walk or nothing.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, Parkinson's is one of those things that they they
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Speaker 1: kind of have to rule everything else out before they
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Speaker 1: come to the diagnosis. They're like, Okay, well we'll cut
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Speaker 1: on your back, we'll cut on your neck, we'll try this,
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Speaker 1: we'll try that, we'll try everything, until they finally go, oh, well,
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Speaker 1: all that stuff we tried, nothing, nothing help because it's Parkinson's.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and then he's on parkinson that they give for
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Speaker 2: normal and he's been doing better on it, and he
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Speaker 2: was and we have two wonderful children that are eighteen
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Speaker 2: and almost sixteen. And it's just been up and down
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Speaker 2: all the time, trying to keep positive about everything.
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Speaker 1: Can I say a prayer with you?
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Speaker 4: Oh?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, Father God, I thank you Lord for allowing Sarah
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Speaker 1: to get through on the phone lines tonight. And I
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Speaker 1: thank you for the joy that I hear in her
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Speaker 1: voice when she mentions her children. Lord. Her voice sparks
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Speaker 1: with joy, with deep joy. When she speaks of her husband.
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Speaker 1: I don't hear in her timbre, in her voice, in
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Speaker 1: her the modulation of her voice. I don't hear grief
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Speaker 1: and terror and fear. I hear love and joy and
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Speaker 1: happiness in spite of their circumstances. Father, I thank you
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Speaker 1: for being with them. I thank you for doctors who
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Speaker 1: finally did a proper diagnosis. I know how hard that
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Speaker 1: is with Parkinson's, and I thank you for the doctors
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Speaker 1: that he will be seeing in the near future. Lord,
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Speaker 1: I'm bold enough to ask for a complete and total healing,
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Speaker 1: for a complete and total reversal of all the symptoms,
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Speaker 1: of all the side effects of this disease. Your word
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Speaker 1: says you have not because you ask not. In other words,
24:05
Speaker 1: just ask me, ask me boldly. So I'm asking boldly
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Speaker 1: for Sarah and Virgil. I'm asking boldly on behalf of
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Speaker 1: their children, that you would bless this man and heal him.
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Speaker 1: Heal him from the top of his head to the
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Speaker 1: bottom of his feet. Heal him and give him strength
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Speaker 1: in his legs, strengthen his extremities. Heal him God, and
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Speaker 1: let him stand, let him walk, let him run, Let
24:33
Speaker 1: him feel your energy, your power, your holy spirit surge
24:39
Speaker 1: through every muscle of his body. Father, I pray that
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Speaker 1: you would continue to shower him with your grace. That
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Speaker 1: you would bless this family, Bless their time together, Bless
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Speaker 1: their conversations, Bless their walk with you, Lord, Bless them,
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Speaker 1: Bless them that they would draw near to You, Father,
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Speaker 1: no matter what I ask all of this in your
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Speaker 1: precious and holy name. Amen. Amen, Well you have a
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Speaker 1: great rest of your summer, the little bit that's a
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Speaker 1: left of it, and a good rest of twenty twenty five.
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Speaker 1: And I'm just gonna I'm going to believe that God's
25:17
Speaker 1: going to do a miracle. And when that miracle happens,
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Speaker 1: I want you to call me back so we can
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Speaker 1: share it with the world. Okay, I sure will. Thank
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Speaker 1: you for calling, honey. Thank you for your love and
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Speaker 1: your enthusiasm, your goodness. You have a good heart.
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Speaker 4: Thank you. I've let some people think so you do.
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Speaker 1: I can tell you have. I've listened to voices for
25:39
Speaker 1: fifty one years. I have been doing this show for
25:42
Speaker 1: forty one years, and I can hear in people's voices
25:47
Speaker 1: when they're faking it, when they're lying, when they're pretending
25:51
Speaker 1: to care, but they don't really care much. And there
25:54
Speaker 1: is nothing but honest, supportive, unconditioned love in your voice
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Speaker 1: for your family. Yeah, there is.
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Speaker 4: I got said that, there are everything to me.
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Speaker 1: Well, you have a wonderful night and we will be
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Speaker 1: in touch. That call from Sarah actually touched my heart
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Speaker 1: so much. Sarah and her husband and their children have
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Speaker 1: so much joy in the midst of some pretty big challenges.
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Speaker 1: God bless you, Sarah, know that you are in my prayers.
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Speaker 1: The last call I want to share in this episode
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Speaker 1: is from a young man named Evan. Evan and the
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Speaker 1: love of his life are going through some difficult times,
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Speaker 1: but he is showing love and patience. Let's listen to
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Speaker 1: Evan right now. Evan, welcome. What can I do for you?
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Speaker 3: Well? Do?
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Speaker 4: I would love to dedicate a song to my girlfriend tonight.
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Speaker 4: We've been going through a really emotional season in our relationship.
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Speaker 4: We're taking a little break in our relationship right now,
26:54
Speaker 4: and through it all, you know, I still feel so
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Speaker 4: much love and hope for us, no matter you know,
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Speaker 4: all the all the turbulent time it's been. I just
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Speaker 4: wanted to know that I'm believe in what we have
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Speaker 4: and I'm still here choosing her each and every day.
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Speaker 4: You know, we usually take evening drives in the nighttime
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Speaker 4: and with our dogs in the back, and we listened
27:14
Speaker 4: to the Delilah Show and we find ourselfs smiling and
27:17
Speaker 4: appreciating each other in the life we built together. So
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Speaker 4: I don't know if she's listening to the show tonight,
27:22
Speaker 4: or or what she doing.
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Speaker 1: But okay, so what what category is she and wife? Girlfriend?
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Speaker 1: What are we taking a break from?
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Speaker 4: Well, she's my girlfriend of almost four years next month.
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Speaker 1: And whose idea was it to take a break?
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Speaker 4: It was Carly's idea.
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Speaker 1: And when she said take a break, did she like
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Speaker 1: put a beginning, a middle, and an end on this break?
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Speaker 1: Did she say take a break? And we're still gonna
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Speaker 1: like talk every day? Like what are the parameters of
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Speaker 1: take a break?
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Speaker 4: She said, We're going to take a month long break.
27:57
Speaker 4: We're not really in contact at all. We should her
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Speaker 4: house together, but she she said that we're gonna take
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Speaker 4: that break and you know, spend time working on ourselves
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Speaker 4: and come back and compare our lists we've made to
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Speaker 4: improve ourselves and in aspects of our relationship. She's you know,
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Speaker 4: she's going through a tough time emotionally and mentally right now,
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Speaker 4: and I want to always support her. You know, I'll
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Speaker 4: be here waiting for.
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Speaker 1: How does that work if you're sharing a house.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's it's been tough. You know. I'm I'm staying
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Speaker 4: with one of my friends right now and she's there
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Speaker 4: at the house and I'm giving her the space she needs.
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Speaker 4: At the moment, I don't. I don't blame her. I know,
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Speaker 4: I know she she's pushing out loved ones in her
28:43
Speaker 4: life right now. But it's it's not because she's, you know,
28:46
Speaker 4: just a hateful person. She's she's the most awful person
28:49
Speaker 4: you'd ever meet. I swear. It's just she's she's going
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Speaker 4: through it mentally right now, and she's really trying to
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Speaker 4: get through it.
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Speaker 1: So what kind of things is she hoping that you
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Speaker 1: will be working on.
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Speaker 4: She would like me to, you know, work on some
29:06
Speaker 4: of my opinions, and you know, thinking a little bit
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Speaker 4: more when I when I speak, because she is, you know,
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Speaker 4: quite sensitive, and I love that quality about her. And
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Speaker 4: I get talking and don't realize that I might be
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Speaker 4: flapping my jaws and say something that might actually, you know,
29:23
Speaker 4: be intensitive. Whether it's a new paint color in the house,
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Speaker 4: or whether it's a new piece of furniture we have
29:30
Speaker 4: or something like that, you know, certain things like that.
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Speaker 4: But she's she's more or less just quite overwhelmed right now.
29:37
Speaker 4: I think she just needs space from everything right now.
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Speaker 1: So you're staying with a friend's house. Do you own
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Speaker 1: the house together or are you renting together?
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Speaker 4: We are working towards owning it, yes, a mortgage.
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Speaker 1: So I have to wonder, if you've spent that much
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Speaker 1: time building a life together, why you're not married.
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Speaker 4: The only reason I haven't asked her to marry me
29:58
Speaker 4: yet is because I haven't bought her ance rain yet.
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Speaker 4: And that's yeah, I'm sure she didn't want to hear that,
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Speaker 4: but I had said that before I worked. I work
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Speaker 4: a full time job, and I work in the evenings,
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Speaker 4: and between all the bills and everything, it's it's been
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Speaker 4: kind of hard to gave up that extra money. But yeah,
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Speaker 4: in my mind, you know, she's my life partner. We're
30:18
Speaker 4: already we're already committed to each other for life. So
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Speaker 4: it's it's just the next step is asked in that question.
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Speaker 1: Okay, but you say you have a hard time sometimes
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Speaker 1: that you sometimes say in sensitive things or you don't
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Speaker 1: realize how she's feeling that she's very sensitive. Do you
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Speaker 1: think maybe she would I don't know, I don't know her.
30:39
Speaker 1: I'm just shooting from the hip here, but do you
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Speaker 1: think maybe she feels like she's waited four years?
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Speaker 4: You know, perhaps we we talked about marriage, and uh,
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Speaker 4: there's there's never been any kind of rush to get
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Speaker 4: married on both ends of it, because we've we've we've
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Speaker 4: talked about, you know, every subject under the sun pretty openly,
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Speaker 4: and you know, we both have acknowledged that we want
31:06
Speaker 4: to get married, and we both acknowledge that we're not
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Speaker 4: in any rush either, because you know, we have such
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Speaker 4: a we have had such a steady moving life together.
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Speaker 1: And how old are you, Evan?
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Speaker 4: I just turned twenty six, and how old is she?
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Speaker 4: She's twenty six as well, graduated high school together.
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Speaker 1: Actually, ah, so you got plenty of time.
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Speaker 4: I hope to spend the rest of my life with her.
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Speaker 1: You sound like such a sweetheart. Obviously I don't know
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Speaker 1: you from Adam, but you don't sound like an insensitive jerk.
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Speaker 1: You sound like a sweetheart.
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Speaker 4: Thank you.
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Speaker 1: You sound like she is the love of your life
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Speaker 1: and that she is.
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Speaker 4: Everything sure is with that a belt.
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Speaker 1: Well, I hope that she finds the love and support
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Speaker 1: she's looking for, that she's able to process what she's
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Speaker 1: going through, and that you guys can work this out,
31:56
Speaker 1: because I feel the love you have for hermating through
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Speaker 1: the phone lines.
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Speaker 4: Well for that as well, Thilah, thank you so much.
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Speaker 1: Young man. My prayer for you is simply this. Let
32:09
Speaker 1: God guide you. I have heard nothing but love and
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Speaker 1: patience from you, and I sincerely hope this works out
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Speaker 1: for you. God, bless you, bless you, bless.
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Speaker 4: You, Thank you, Thank you as well.
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Speaker 1: When the Lord came to us in human form, when
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Speaker 1: he lived on this earth for thirty three years, when
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Speaker 1: he walked on this earth, he didn't just treat his
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Speaker 1: family or his favorite people with the kind of love
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Speaker 1: that we talked about that we read about in First Corinthians.
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Speaker 1: God didn't reserve that kind of patient, supportive, non judgmental, protective,
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Speaker 1: hopeful love with just his inner circle. He treated everyone
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Speaker 1: that way. Everyone. My heart breaks every day with the
33:06
Speaker 1: crazy stuff going on in this world, the division, the cruelty,
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Speaker 1: the unkindness, but especially the division. God doesn't want that.
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Speaker 1: I don't care what political party you affiliate with. If
33:22
Speaker 1: you are hateful, if you are hurtful, if you are
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Speaker 1: spewing vulgar hatred, you are not loving the way God
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Speaker 1: calls us to love. He says, love your enemies, bless
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Speaker 1: those who persecute you. He calls us to a higher
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Speaker 1: standard of love. Thank you for sharing your time with
33:45
Speaker 1: me today, and never take that for granted, and until
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Speaker 1: next time, remember to have a little faith, to share
33:53
Speaker 1: a little faith, and to slow down and love someone.
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Speaker 1: God bless you, del