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The Why Not Today? Podcast - Season 3 - Episode 9 with Stacey Lauren, Podcast Host and Community Builder, Do The Thing · Why Not Today? with Leslie Kane

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  Welcome to the Why Not Today podcast where we celebrate courage, determination, and the
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  power of saying, Why Not Today.
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  I'm your host, Leslie Cain.
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  In each episode, we dive into the inspiring stories of individuals who have taken bold
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  steps, faced their fears, and embraced the possibility of today.
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  From entrepreneurs to artists to dreamers or doers, we explore the moments when they
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  said, Enough waiting, Why Not Today.
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  Guide me as we uncover the heartwarming, the audacious, and transformative, whether it's
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  pursuing a lifelong passion, overcoming obstacles, or simply choosing joy, or get fair their
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  journey and inspire us all.
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  I started this podcast in honor of my father, Patrick Cain, who often said, Why Not Today.
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  And I always say, remember, you're just one decision away from changing your life.
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  And my guest today is Stacey Lauren, and she has a fun in Facebook group movement called
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  Do the Thing.
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  And that's so aligned with Why Not Today.
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  And I first discovered Stacey because Laura Carney, who has been on the podcast when I
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  talked about Alvin, who's actually our guest at a luncheon, she was on a bucket list challenge
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  with Stacey.
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  And I started watching following Stacey, and then Stacey actually introduced me to Leslie
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  Cooster, who will be on the podcast as well.
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  And we've connected, and it's just so fun.
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  And I think through you, I met Wendy Taylor.
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  So it's fun just to see the connections and just how deep they're going.
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  And so I'm excited to have you on the podcast to hear about Do the Thing.
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  So Stacey, why don't you introduce yourself a little bit about you and a fun fact, and
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  we'll get into the courage discussion.
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  Yeah, hi, I'm so glad to be here.
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  My name is Stacey Lauren.
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  And yeah, I have the podcast called Do the Thing, where I help people take action on
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  the things they want.
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  I've dissected a formula and then embedded it to my community, which is the Do the Thing
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  community.
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  And my fun fact is that I was a clown a very long time ago.
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  Oh, really?
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  Yeah.
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  That's fun.
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  Yeah.
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  I guess my dad was a clown.
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  Oh, really?
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  Yeah, I think so.
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  And now Steve's doing this whole thing about being like fairy and going to kids' birthday
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  parties.
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  It was kind of fun how that's evolved.
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  That's fun.
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  That's actually what I, yeah, that's what I did back in the day.
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  I was in high school and then I was, I'd go to kids' birthday parties and did the whole
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  tinkerbell and then the clown and all that stuff.
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  And if you're watching live, you can see Stacey has beautiful red hair, which I guess
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  because of Ronald McDonald, you think of clown, you think of red hair.
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  Is that your natural hair?
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  It's beautiful.
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  No, it was actually my gateway to like coming out of my old life was, you know, adding the
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  red, you know, where I was like very traditional and really ordinary and then I just wanted
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  to kind of mix it up a little.
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  Okay.
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  I bet there's a story behind that story.
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  It's a story behind that story, yeah.
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  Yeah, it's a fine everybody has those.
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  So, yeah, you do the thing.
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  So, so in line with why not today.
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  So let's start with how would you define courage?
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  What is your courage definition?
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  Yeah, it's the, it comes back to when I was in college and I went door to door sales.
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  Oh, no.
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  Yeah.
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  And I think it was just this, this one like line that I learned back then, which was action
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  cure sphere.
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  And I just, that's courage, right?
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  Just being able to take action, even though you're scared and I think at every phase you
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  go in life, you're scared again, you know, like every level, it's like, I'm scared again
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  and you don't want to do it.
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  And then you just take a little bit of action and see how you feel.
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  And then if it feels good, you could take another step.
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  So that's probably how I define courage is with action cure sphere.
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  Right.
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  And love that.
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  And it's, it's not always, people think of courage and we talk about this a lot, obviously
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  in podcasts, it's big, big thing, but everybody I talk to it's just a little step of courage
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  that we do and take the next one.
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  Mel Robbins talks about five second rules that you just go five, four, three, two, one and
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  then do it or somebody else shared on the podcast.
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  So you just need 10 or seven seconds of courage just to do the same as you say.
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  So I was just going to say, I think a lot of people think they have to do this like big
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  move, you know?
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  And so it's even scarier, but that like small micro step is just as powerful because that
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  helps you at least get started and gets a momentum, which is how you can actually get
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  it done.
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  Yeah.
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  And where you start and where you finish are just so far away sometimes.
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  And you think you're taking that step towards a and you end up at X, you know, in the past,
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  it's just, it's so fun to watch everybody's past and journeys with courage.
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  So let's talk about do the thing.
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  Where did that come from and how did that evolve?
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  And I know you've grown it pretty darn fast and you had a different path and let's talk
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  about your courage and all the things.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  So I had, I had gotten divorced and then I had owned my business with my ex-husband.
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  So we tried to keep the business together.
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  And then after a few years, I just exited the business and pretty much was told by a
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  coach that I was working with at the time.
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  Do not open another business at least for a year, which is hard, right?
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  For being an entrepreneur because you're used to all this noise and all this stuff.
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  And so I decided I was, I would write a book.
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  So that was kind of like my first step.
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  It was originally going to be about sales because I love sales and I love what it, what
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  it can do for people.
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  And then at the same time I started dating and I realized that a lot of my skills, sales
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  skills applied to dating and I don't mean like, you know, how you look or any of that
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  stuff.
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  I was just following rejection and positive thinking goal setting.
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  And so I was in my mastermind and all of a sudden I just kept saying, like, I just want
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  to help people do the thing.
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  And so that's how do the thing was born.
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  And I had a book strategist I was working with at the time and she said, in order for
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  it to be a good book, I had to have my hero's journey.
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  Like what was my struggle, the story of when I didn't do the thing.
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  And, you know, when I ended up being able to do it, at the time I had no struggle story,
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  like in my mind, because I've always done the thing.
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  So she said, well, I had to interview 10 people get their struggle story of how they couldn't
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  do the thing and then they were able to do it.
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  And so that's how my podcast pretty much started.
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  What to give the end story to that the funny part is, so do the thing isn't really about
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  just doing the thing.
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  What my struggle story really is, is that I did the thing for everyone else and like
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  whatever one else what I thought people needed or wanted and didn't really tap into like
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  what I wanted.
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  And so that's really what do the thing is it's finding your own voice and then being
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  able to like kind of capitalize on that being able to get it out into the world in that
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  way.
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  That's awesome.
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  And that's so true.
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  And that's one of the kind of the sweet spots I've been finding is, you know, especially
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  women, we do so much for so many other people.
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  And we don't ask for the money for us.
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  We don't do the things for us.
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  We're so ready to jump on and help somebody else but not take care of ourselves.
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  100%.
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  Yeah, it's still, I mean, I think it's a work in progress, right?
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  We're still working on it.
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  But I think the difference now is I recognize it before I didn't.
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  It was totally unconscious.
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  And so now I notice, okay, you know, I've got to do something for me or I'm going to
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  get burnt out.
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  Yeah.
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  Okay.
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  I was just going to say, and the cool thing is I didn't even know it until I like was
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  in the middle of the podcast.
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  I was like my 11th or 12th interview and I was like, wait a minute, this isn't just
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  about doing the thing.
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  Like doing the thing, you know, it's about really tapping into who you are, what you
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  want and doing the thing for you.
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  Yeah, that's so true.
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  Somebody I was reading a book recently and they talked about the golden goose philosophy.
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  Have you heard of that?
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  No.
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  All right.
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  So if you have a golden goose and that is your family's income, this golden goose produces
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  these golden eggs, like how would you take care of that golden goose?
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  Like if it was sick, you take it to the doctor immediately, you'd make sure it got sleep.
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  It's eating the right thing and all those, you know, you'd treat this golden goose like
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  gold, you know, but we're the golden goose, especially as an entrepreneur.
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  And yet we don't always go to the doctor.
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  We put ourselves last.
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  We don't take care of our health.
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  And so, and one of those things, just a whole mind shift to, all right, how are we going
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  to take care of me?
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  So good.
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  Yeah.
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  And I'm going to start with a question for what I want.
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  So, all right, so you start a podcast and it's called do the thing.
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  And is it you just talking or do you interview people?
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  Yeah, it's just, it started with me wanting to dissect a formula for how people do the
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  thing.
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  So I was interviewing successful people or people that I met that looked like they had
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  done, you know, extraordinary things.
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  There was a lot of people from my life, kind of like you said in the beginning, it's like
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  once you kind of like start the spider web of talking to people, it sort of just takes
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  on life of its own.
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  And so, so I was dissecting these patterns from people on what led them to success.
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  And by the 80th episode, I identified the patterns.
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  And so now that I've dissected the patterns, now it's more of just, I just honestly bring
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  on anyone that I want that I feel like has a really great story of either them doing
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  the thing or even sometimes like I'll bring on people who have put their jobs right after
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  20 years because I that's really tapping into being able to overcome that fear.
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  So it's sort of evolved over, over time.
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  Yeah, I think my this podcast as well, it's kind of growing and changing.
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  And again, the kind of sweet spot I'm finding just what she said, people that have worked
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  for a job for years owned a business for years, been a mom, people are I think unsettled and
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  looking for some what's next, like create ourselves and figure out what that natural
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  genius and be able to make money doing 100%.
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  Yeah.
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  And especially like, yeah, like that thing, especially like I turned 50 this year, last
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  year, last year, I turned 50.
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  And it was like, great, because that that was this moment of just realizing, you know,
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  I'm finally doing what I want to do.
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  You know, I mean, I'm not like, I don't care what people think, I don't care what they
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  say.
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  I'm just like so tapped into who I am.
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  And it's really the first time in my life that I've like felt this way.
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  And so I don't know, there's something about that.
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  I think maybe once you hit 45, 47, and so I'm finding people, I mean, many are much older,
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  but I'm finding people in like that over age range where it's like, we're done, you know,
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  we're like ready, it's our time, you know,
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  I totally agree.
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  I'm finding the same thing.
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  It's kind of like my age range 45 to 65.
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  And you know, it's that magical zero birthday.
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  So I hit the zero birthday one, 10 more than yours.
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  I hit 60 last month.
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  And they even did a podcast episode of lessons of celebrating 60.
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  And you know, we've accomplished a lot.
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  I know when I turned 30, I got my master's in third American business.
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  So it's like that zero birthday.
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  Think people often look at life and like, what's next?
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  Am I doing what I really want to do?
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  And I think as we get older, we don't care what people think we want to do what we want
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  to do and take care of us.
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  Yeah.
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  And I think like, so I had my business, it was 20 years I owned that business and I gave
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  up, I sacrificed everything for that, you know, but it wasn't for the money.
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  It was because I had 60 employees, 600 extra employees.
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  And I just felt like I was responsible, you know, for everyone and their needs and wants.
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  And I lost myself in the process.
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  And then when I exited, you know, I set up systems and all that.
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  So it was like some people had left after I exited.
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  It was just this realization that like, it wasn't my job, you know, to keep people working.
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  They could have easily gotten other jobs, you know, like many of them did after I left.
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  And they're fine.
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  Some of them have opened up their own business and they're doing great.
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  But I just like took this responsibility that didn't have to be mine.
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  And so it just, yeah, it's been a, it's been a really interesting kind of re-identification
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  of who I am since I was able to let that go.
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  Yeah, that mess is like, keep hearing over and over again.
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  I've been reading the book, Profit First, have you read that before?
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  Oh, no.
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  Oh, highly recommend it.
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  It's funny, somebody recommended years ago and I kind of ignored it.
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  And now everybody I talk to, it's in books, people are talking about it.
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  And it's about paying yourself first.
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  And we're talking about an analogy of this company, they had two employees and the employees
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  were making more and more money than the owners because the owners felt responsibility.
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  And yet they weren't making any money.
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  And the owners, it's like, you know, we need to make money as owners of businesses and
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  not feel like we have to take care of everybody.
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  Yes, great that you've grown, that you have employees and you can afford a place, but
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  not sacrificing you in the process.
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  So let's talk about your patterns.
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  What did you find out?
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  Do the same pattern?
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  Oh, yeah.
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  So it's an acronym.
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  And it's I'm game.
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  And each letter stands for a pattern.
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  So the I is identify the Y, which, you know, a lot of people think like, you just have
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  to do this once, right?
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  Like identify why you want to have your, you know, do something, but it's really for everything.
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  It's identifying the Y for anything you want to do.
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  And so the M is mindset.
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  And there's two pieces of mindset that I really like.
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  One is what are your excuses and how will you overcome them?
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  I do that before every do the thing challenge.
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  I have people basically it's a dare and I have them do that exercise where they speak
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  it out loud into the community.
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  And then my second mindset piece is fun.
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  Kind of how we started was telling us something fun about us.
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  And so, yeah, so infusing fun, because if you're not having fun, I mean, what's it worth?
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  You know, it's not, it's not worth doing anything.
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  And then the G is gold.
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  And so I do this through my challenges.
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  I do dares and that's really fun.
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  So I like to tell people, because a lot of people get stuck in like smart goals, right?
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  And that's great.
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  If you know exactly what you want to do, but you know, you could also have a rough draft
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  goal.
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  It doesn't have to be like a whole specific thing.
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  It could be an idea of what you want to do.
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  But I also, once you know, then you have to just break it down into these little small
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  steps.
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  And then the thing that I like to do the dares is that's what those are.
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  And then the A in game is accountability.
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  And you know, a lot of people, they don't realize, this is what I've realized, because
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  as I've identified the patterns, I do keep exploring the patterns through my community
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  and through the podcast and through the different programs I have.
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  But if you're, let's say you're struggling or you're stuck doing something that you
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  want to do, sometimes people will think something's wrong with them, right?
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  But if you have a game, if you have that do the thing for a minute.
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  And you start seeing something that you're familiar with, then you're able to look at
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  it and say, Okay, am I, how am I doing with accountability?
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  Like for me, I don't need any accountability with business.
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  I am like, completely, like a little too consumed with that.
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  But with like fitness, like I have to have accountability.
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  And so if I'm ever like not meeting my goals with that, then I can look and say, Oh, it's
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  because I don't have a group that I'm with, they're like, I'm not involved with an accountability
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  partner.
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  Right.
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  And then the M in game is my people, which is surrounding yourself with people who have the
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  same goal. So it's different than just being around supportive and encouraging people. This is
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  like specific to whatever that thing is you want to do. And then the E in game is educate. And that's
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  two parts. So educate is like learning from others and podcasts and videos. And it's great
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  that you guys are listening to this podcast because of how much you're able to learn from the
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  different people Leslie brings on. But the second part is doing what I'm doing today,
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  where you get to educate others, right? And coming on your podcast and being able to
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  contribute by education. And so that's where the fulfillment comes from. And that's when you
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  really feel good about what you're doing because you're then you're then feeling like you're making
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  a difference too. Right. Love it. And I can see how all those things apply to, you know, doing the
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  thing and having the courage and saying why not today. Yeah. And so many areas of life. And it's
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  just interesting how all these things, Chris Cross that I listened to and read and people I
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  talked to, the same messages and I, and you know, I call them Godwings coincidences, like there's no
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  accident and the people are put in your path for a reason. Definitely. You know, I say I look at
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  Laura Carney and she's been the connector for a lot of connections and it was a random car on TV
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  and just reached out and you know, you just never know. Isn't that great? I say that too with her
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  because she changed a lot for me. I didn't even listen. The guy that owns my podcast platform,
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  he told me he heard about her on NPR and then I was like, oh man, I have, I'd love to interview her.
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  She's doing the thing. And at the same time, as I reached out to her at the same time, I had an
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  expert panel it was putting together for people that had started books or had books. And so I
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  brought her on that. And that's when the idea for the bucket list challenge had been infused.
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  And she changed a lot in my community because I think, well, you know, right, having a,
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  having something be for someone else in the way that she did with her dad's bucket list, right?
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  Like, I think it brought this level of meaning that just hadn't, you know, that opened up all
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  these portals for the people in the group. And so it's been really cool to see the effects of that.
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  Yeah, I love the things she's done and how it just keeps evolving. I was talking to somebody yesterday,
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  I do a monthly luncheon now, and she came down from, she was on her way from Nashville back to
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  New York and stopped in Virginia. We only get speaker last month, which was so fun to have her.
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  And if you ever come to Virginia, let me know. We'd love to have you. But she was talking at,
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  we were obviously talking about bucket lists and had everybody introduce themselves with their
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  money is no object. What is the biggest bucket list thing? And there was one guest there that
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  at first she couldn't think of anything, which just kind of broke my heart. But once we all started
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  talking, she came up with something. But I saw somebody yesterday that was there. And she said,
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  after we started talking about things she wanted, and she has a family trip she always
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  want to do with she to accomplish. She's like, I'm good. You know, she had a couple of things.
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  But after between the last three weeks, a friend reached out and invited her and is paying for her
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  to go on a cruise to Italy. Oh my God. I'm like, so, you know, and I know that I know that I know
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  you just got to throw it out there and have those intentions, whether you write it down,
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  tell somebody or just in your heart have those intentions of the bucket list, the things.
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  And the universe just moves and puts those people in your path and connects you to people and the
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  right person at the right time or the right message. But I think, and I talked about this on my
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  episode on my lessons I learned on my 30th birthday is we have to be open to it, you know,
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  be looking for somebody said one time things don't fall in your lap unless your lap is out there.
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  Oh yeah, I love that. And so yeah, looking for those things. Yeah, I love that money question
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  to you because I do that in one of my challenges find your voice but because I think a lot of
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  people can be blocked by that and they can't dream big enough because that that like I can't do it
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  because of this comes up, you know, and so yeah, I love I love that question. I love that you're
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  doing that. I think that's a really good way to expand people's minds. Well, we were talking I
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  was interviewing Laura or Leslie, I'll be Laura and Leslie and Leslie Lauren and all. So I was
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  interviewing Leslie, which is so funny Leslie another Leslie case felt the same way Leslie
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  Cooster. And we were talking about you know her pivotal moment when she's like, All right, I'm
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  done making what I'm making I want to make more and I deserve to make more. And we're talking about
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  how you know where she started and where she is are so far apart. And when we start the thing
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  we can't possibly see where we're going. And I think I mentioned this on her podcast too,
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  but I read something or heard something the other day about when you do a vision board
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  to leave space, don't fill it up. Because don't know what could be what God has planned to put
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  in those spots. And so leave it open because we don't know what we're capable of. But we're just
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  we're capable of saying why not today or do the thing or just start and then see where it goes.
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  So let's talk about some of your challenges or Derek what are you doing with those those are fun.
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  Yeah, so I do all kinds of stuff with that. It's funny a lot of times nothing's really planned it
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  just comes intuitively from the community it's sort of birthed by what people are needing and then
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  I get to see what's activating in me so it's kind of fun in that way but I've done like a dating
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  dare challenge I have a singles group that I do those with. I've done I do find your voice that's
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  a kind of a what is that called like a constant you know every couple times a year I'll run that
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  challenge which which is great it turned out to be it started with me wanting to help people like
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  find their own voice kind of what I was saying earlier where like we've raised our kids we've
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  done everything for everyone else now it's time to like figure out who we are. But the accidental
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  part of that challenge is that it also gets you really good on video and and like so a lot of
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  coaches and entrepreneurs like to do that challenge because it helps you show who you are
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  with where you're not nervous anymore. Right and yeah so there's that one and then I have
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  done a start a book challenge the bucket list challenge a go live challenge and then right
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  now I'm in the middle of launching or doing I'm running it right now I have 23 people in the
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  audience accelerator program and that is like yay my most I would talk about uh why not today and
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  courage that's it's been a lot you know because once you're it's now I'm helping people really
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  kind of like create their own online platform build their own audience and uh and kind of yeah
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  just like being leading that group and the people that are in there because now I'm working I mean
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  I think everyone is kind of like your peer right in a way but like they're like literally my peers
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  now you know and so we're getting value from each other so it's been interesting to see what
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  that's been doing to me as I'm like growing as you're growing people. I love that. Leading a
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  group and I noticed this the other day I keep saying oh does that make sense like I feel like
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  I'm getting an imposter syndrome as of because like why are they all listening to me like you
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  know what I mean because they're all so freaking good and I'm like oh my gosh they're like really
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  all listening like they want to know what I have to say it just feels weird I don't know it's just a
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  new new thing. Oh I think sometimes as coaching people we're guiding people we're coming alongside
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  of them. Yeah it's exactly what it is. And to just give them confirmation and they always say
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  too when the student's ready the teacher comes and you know you're a learned just like you said
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  in your formula like you're teaching and learning. Yeah and I think what it is like I'm actually
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  learning I go through something on my podcast if you guys want to listen it's life assets it's a
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  specific kind of exercise that you could do I interviewed one of my old coaches and I give
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  that dare in the program and what I realized that I'm running this program is it like pulled out
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  like why I'm good at helping people build a warm audience and why I'm good at creating community
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  and it pulled out all my past you know experiences and so it's coming out so I do know like I've got
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  you know skills or whatever but it still just feels weird to be in that space you know so it's
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  just new that's all it's just different. Right well and when you're natural genius is building
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  community or collecting people which is one of mine it just comes so naturally that's when people
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  I was talking to some of the other day and they're like I started lunching and got up one morning and
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  had it planned in 48 hours and by the people they start signing up she's like how do you do that?
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  I'm like you just ask and you surround yourself and have a community of like-minded people and
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  and I think community is the key like we need to help people grow community connect be around
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  like-minded people so important. And doing what like you did I did you know with Laura even like
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  reaching out a lot of people are not able to do that without you know help or guidance and I think
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  that's especially in the algorithm age where people think their algorithm's gonna take them on you
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  know but you do have to it's nice to be able to reach out to people and connect with people.
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  Just that my dad always said you know what's the worst thing somebody could say yeah you know or
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  they don't answer but let's do it's like oh wow that's pretty cool. You're gonna be life changing
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  so what are your challenges? Did you say bugaboo? Oh no I think that was the bucket list probably.
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  Yeah I have like a million more but I'm like sort of on hold just because I'm so invested in this
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  audience accelerator program and I'm building it with the people and so it's a lot so I sort of am
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  not pausing I'm eventually I guess pausing I'm eventually gonna start up again but I have to
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  take a break while I'm building this program out. Yeah there's so many things that we can do and
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  all the ideas and it sounds like you're a creative person, an idea person, which I
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  know and I think that's why we connect it's like oh let's do this and let's do this and let's do
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  this and I'm like all right sometimes I just gotta sit still and land the plane. Yeah exactly
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  but it's kind of cool though when you have that when you're able to do that let's do this let's
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  do that because then all the dots eventually connect and you see that it comes into one thing
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  which is actually really cool too. Yeah absolutely and and you have that curiosity and it just
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  things just keep popping which is fun. So Stacy how would you encourage somebody else to be courageous
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  to do the thing? I so number one thing is you've got to surround yourself with people that are
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  wanting to do it too whatever it is that you're wanting to do that will actually just give you
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  courage by default because you're getting to see yourself in the other people that are doing it
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  and so like oh I didn't mention my start a podcast challenge that was another big one I got to see
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  this a lot in that because so many people were stuck with like oh my gosh am I going to be able
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  to figure out the tech and am I am an imposter and what am I even going to say but because the
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  podcast challenge they all saw each other doing it and you know some were further some were behind
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  but they were all doing it it like it created all these amazing podcasts because they got to
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  be a part of a group so I would just say that would be my number one piece of advice to get courage
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  is to put yourself in the environment with the other people that are being courageous like doing
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  whatever it is your goal is that you want to do. Yeah love that so while we're talking about it how
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  do you tie back and connect to my dad and I would say the one big thing is that you're just doing
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  the thing and you're an entrepreneur which he always was and just asking because you just never
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  know what people are doing so how can people find you Stacey? Yeah thank you so much go to my community
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  on Facebook and you could get to it by dothethingcommunity.com and that'll give you access
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  to everything YouTube and all that stuff's kind of listed in the group. All right perfect and
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  I'll of course share all your contact and everything in the show notes of how people can find you and
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  all your social things so well thanks for being our guests and sharing and so many cool ideas and
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  I'm ready to go do the things even though I do too many things probably I need to have the
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  outfit how can I cut down the things? I know right do the thing for you. So well thanks again
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  everybody for joining us on this inspiring journey remember every day is an opportunity to take
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