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253 - HD Profile Series: Line 3 - The Martyr · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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  helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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  flow without sacrificing results.
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  Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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  according to your human design.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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  Nicole Laino: Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and we are here today continuing
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  our Profile Line series.
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  We are moving on today to Profile Line 3.
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  If this is the first time you're joining us in this series, go back
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  and listen to the other two that we did on the Lines 1 and Line 2.
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  And keep listening with us for the next three episodes after this,
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  because we're going to finish it out.
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  We're going to do all six lines.
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  And I'm so excited about this because profile is one of the pieces that I
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  work with the most in human design.
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  Obviously, when we look at an individual's chart, there are so many pieces and
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  I'm always looking for the things that stand out about that person.
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  But profile is something that I never skip.
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  I always go into this one and things always come back to profile
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  because it is essential to you being authentically you in the world.
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  Not just knowing what these things mean and then, okay,
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  now I'm going to go be that.
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  It doesn't really work that way.
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  Doing leads to being, actually experimenting.
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  And we're going to talk a lot about that in this episode because line
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  three is definitely in alignment with experimenting, but you have to go out
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  and use this stuff in order to become it, because profile needs to be embodied.
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  Profile is essential to us living in alignment, because all of those
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  things, the incarnation cross, your purpose, walking your purpose path.
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  If you've been trying to build a business by your human design, if you're not
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  living in alignment with your profile, nothing is really going to work correctly.
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  It's all going to always feel a little bit off.
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  And then you wonder why.
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  I'm doing all the things.
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  I'm showing up.
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  I'm putting things out there.
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  Nobody's responding the way that I want them to.
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  Or, I'm not really putting out as confident a persona.
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  I'm not putting out as confident an identity.
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  I'm not being as confident and embodied in my life.
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  So people are reacting to me in a way that I don't want.
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  Maybe people aren't saying, yes, you're saying all the right things.
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  You feel like your sales page is all tuned up.
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  Everything seems to be working.
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  You have all the boxes ticked, but you are not in alignment with
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  what it is that you're selling, how you're putting yourself out
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  there, and people pick up on that.
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  Profile can zoom you right in to what is off, what is not really coming through.
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  And in my experience, nothing gives you more confidence than that human
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  design trifecta, that I talk about all the time, which is your human design
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  type, your authority, and your profile.
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  Those three core pillars are what your entire design stands on and that is what
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  the mechanics of your design are built on.
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  Profile though, as far as showing up in the world and being like, this is me,
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  love me or leave me, this is who I am.
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  And not being swayed by other people's opinions of you, profile's the key.
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  I hope you're enjoying this series.
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  We have a free guide for you.
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  If you are building your business by design, if you are curious about
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  building your brand around your design and your profile, we've actually
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  created a free guide for you because I always say that your profile is
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  that key into what your X factor is.
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  And I did a masterclass on this a while ago, but I've actually
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  created a PDF guide on this.
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  This is specifically on your brand voice, not just what the lines mean, which is
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  what we're going to talk about in this show, we're going to dive into that, but
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  what your brand voice might be hinging on based on your particular profile lines.
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  If you want that guide, please DM me on Instagram.
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  I'm @NicoleLainoOfficial and DM me the word X factor.
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  That's the letter X and then factor all one word.
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  DM me that.
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  And we will send you the guide.
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  And if you just prefer to go and download it yourself, go to
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  nicolelaino.com/xfactor, same thing, X, and then factor all one word and
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  you can download it there yourself.
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  We also have a fun contest for you.
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  If you'd like to be a guest on this show, have your human design
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  chart read by me on this show.
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  Ask me the human design questions you have burning on your heart.
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  Then all you have to do, we're running a fun contest.
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  All you have to do to enter is subscribe to the show right now.
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  Click that follow button, take a little screenshot of the show,
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  put it on Instagram and tag me.
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  That's all you have to do.
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  Tell us why you're loving this series.
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  Tell us why you're loving this show.
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  Let everybody in your audience know how much you're enjoying this and
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  the value you're getting from it.
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  And you can be a guest on the show and get a little free reading.
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  It'd be really, really fun.
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  I hope that you will enter, and tag me so that we can have a little chat.
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  And we can dive into your design and I can give you a little insight
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  into what's working for you, what's not, the little tweaks that you
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  can make to make your business feel more authentic and aligned for you.
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  Okay?
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  So without further ado, let's talk about today's line.
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  This episode is dedicated to the line three in profile.
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  That means that if you are a 1/3, you are a 3/5.
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  If you have a 3/6 or a 6/3, this episode is for you.
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  If you are any of those four profiles, 1/3, 3/5, 3/6, 6/3 any of those,
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  this episode you're going to want to pay very close attention to.
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  Also take a look at your family's charts.
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  Your kids, your partner, your friends, your mom, the rest of your family.
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  Take a look at what they are.
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  It's very interesting to see if you have common numbers.
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  If you have a 3 and somebody else has a 3 in their design, usually you kind of vibe.
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  There's something about you where you're like, I get you on a deep level.
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  A lot of my friends are fives.
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  I am a five one.
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  I have many fives in my life.
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  My whole family, my husband, my son, all of us are fives.
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  I have them throughout my life.
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  The people that I tend to just get along with the best have a
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  five somewhere in their profile.
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  So without further ado, let's talk about what it means to be a three line.
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  Now, like I said at the beginning, doing leads to being.
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  So what we're going to talk about is what does it mean to be a three?
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  And what do you do in order to start being more of it?
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  So in traditional human design, the three line is called the martyr.
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  And like I've said, the traditional names for a lot of things in human
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  design aren't terribly appealing or make you feel good about yourself.
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  The line three is no exception in this.
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  No one really wants to be called a martyr.
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  If you look up the definition of martyr, what does it mean?
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  It means someone who is consistently suffering.
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  Someone who is always in pain.
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  Now, where that comes from, is Ra, the transmitter, the original
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  creator of the human design system.
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  Ra, was here to shock people.
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  He definitely spoke more to the shadow elements of human design,
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  the things that we're going to fight against, the not self.
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  And trying to get people to wake up to what they need to do.
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  I'd like to think that he was trying to tell the line threes that
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  they have to be resilient against failure in order to fulfill the
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  purpose that they are here for.
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  Because the line three, I call it the scientist, or sometimes I put
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  in parentheses the mad scientist.
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  Because I do think you really need to have some fun with experimenting.
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  I used to call it the experimenter because that definitely speaks
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  to more of what you're doing.
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  But the scientist, as far as an archetype, as far as who you need to
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  be, the scientist really speaks to the core of what this line is about.
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  It's about searching for something new.
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  It is about digging into life, into things, into whatever it is that
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  interests you, getting to the core of how it works, and being able to then
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  potentially manipulate it, change it, and turn it into something brand new.
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  That's the magic of the three line.
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  So, when I teach this inside my business by design mentorship, when
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  I do readings with people, when I'm working with somebody longer term, I'm
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  talking about this, that you have to be the scientist, that's what you do.
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  And then the brand becomes, and the archetype I have for this is the
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  innovator, and we work on bridging that gap, bringing you over from the doing
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  to the being, because in order for the brand to really have that identity,
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  you've got to embody the identity.
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  So that's the work that we do in long term coaching.
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  In walking the path of your design, not just hearing about
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  it and learning about it.
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  Even on shows like this, where I give you a lot of information, but the rubber,
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  where the rubber hits the road is when you're using it, when you are actually
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  putting it into practice and then you become it, then it is who you are
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  truly, not something you think you are.
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  And that's the big difference, where a lot of people disconnect there.
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  Oh, I'm an innovator.
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  Okay.
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  So I've got to go out and do these things.
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  Yeah, but not really.
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  There's a certain way that you're going to find yourself in this life.
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  You're going to find your purpose.
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  And if you have a three, there's going to be something about getting your hands
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  dirty, not being afraid to fail, really being resilient, really being curious.
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  Curiosity lies at the center of the three line.
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  If you're not curious, if you aren't looking to something
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  saying, I think I could do that.
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  Let me get my hands on it and see what I can come up with.
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  There has to be an element of that in you.
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  There has to be this fearlessness fearlessness at the core in order to have
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  the resilience to deal with the fact that you will not get it right all the time,
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  that there might be a lot of things that go wrong in your life and that's okay.
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  It isn't how many times we fall, it's how many times we get back up.
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  That is the three line, essentially.
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  How well do you get back up?
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  How quickly do you get back up?
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  What do you do when you get back up?
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  That's the three.
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  I fell down, but I figured out that if I fall this way, or if I do this,
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  or if I build this contraption, I'll never fall off again.
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  That is where the three line is a very practical line, it's
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  always looking to what's next.
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  The three is always interested in what's new.
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  The three is always interested in trying to figure out what is new, what
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  is different, what can I make here?
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  I don't want the old thing.
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  I want the new and improved.
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  I want the next best thing.
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  The three always has the newest gadgets.
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  The three always is creating something new.
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  It is very creative in that sense that it's always moving.
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  So that curiosity has to be nurtured in a three line or you're
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  never really going to step into what it really means for a three.
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  They've got to embrace the unknown.
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  If you're a three, you have to embrace the unknown, but you also
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  have to trust what you do know.
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  Gotta put it out there.
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  You've gotta trust your instincts.
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  Because trailblazers can't be waiting for somebody to validate anything.
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  Trailblazers can't be waiting for other people to do it.
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  Otherwise you're missing being a trailblazer.
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  You're following.
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  There is, the way that a three is gonna lead is going to be through
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  trying the things that nobody thought of, or nobody had the guts to do.
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  It's gutsy.
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  Three's a rebel.
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  So I think one of the best examples of a highly functioning
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  three line is Sarah Blakely.
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  Sarah Blakely is the creator and founder of Spanx.
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  She's definitely one of the first, if not the first female billionaire.
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  She is obviously a highly successful woman and an inspiration to most
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  female entrepreneurs because she just seems very relatable.
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  And she has shown her work, right?
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  She's not afraid to tell us all the times she screwed up.
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  In fact, that's what a lot of her brand is built on.
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  You gotta get back up.
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  Keep trying.
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  You know how many times I failed?
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  You know how many doors were slammed in my face?
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  You know how many manufacturers laughed me off the floor?
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  You know how many people told me no?
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  I just didn't accept it.
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  She also talks about this relationship that she had with her father and how her
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  and her brother were taught by her dad every day when they came home from school,
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  the family would sit around and they would talk about what they failed at that day.
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  And she talks about how that changed her relationship with failure, that her
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  dad instilled in them that the only way to fail was to not try, that without
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  failure they didn't learn anything new.
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  So I have my own sneaking suspicion that her father was also a three line, but
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  I, but what a gift to a three line kid who can have the opposite experience
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  where parents are always asking you why you screwed up all the time or
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  why you're doing this or why you're always in trouble because you're kind
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  of feeling your way through life that way and that's how it works for you.
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  Instead, her dad said, you should be failing.
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  If you're not failing, that's the real failure because you're
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  not really pushing the envelope.
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  You're not thinking outside of the box.
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  You're playing it too safe and that's not how you're going
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  to be successful in this life.
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  That's not how you're going to be a successful human.
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  Go out there and taste life and see what happens.
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  And she credits her dad with changing her relationship to failure.
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  And it's her relationship to failure that allowed her to show up bigger,
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  stronger, and more determined every time a door was slammed in her face.
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  She didn't just say, oh, I'm just a girl and I don't know.
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  These manufacturers who have been at it all of these years say that this
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  isn't possible and they can't make a fabric like I'm explaining, and it just
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  doesn't exist, and it'll never work so I should just take their word for it.
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  She doesn't say that.
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  She just keeps showing up saying, try it this way, do this.
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  I want it this way.
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  I don't care what you think will work.
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  I will pay for it.
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  I will continue to go after this.
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  I will continue to push because I believe.
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  She trusted what she knew.
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  She trusted that she was innovative.
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  And what happened?
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  I think we all know the story.
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  She's one of the most successful women in history.
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  And she seems to also have her feet on the ground in the sense that
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  she's well aware of her effect and she's well aware of showing the work,
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  like I said before, that she doesn't make it look like a rosy journey.
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  She doesn't make it look like she got it perfect all the time.
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  She recognizes that she has an influence on other people by showing
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  the fact that she fell down a lot.
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  There were a lot of times where she had a lot of setbacks and it was
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  those setbacks, it was those no's that got her to the product that
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  was the hell yes to the customer.
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  And that's what innovators do.
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  They keep getting up, they keep trying, they keep getting curious.
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  That's the difference.
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  So if you're a three line, get curious, be resilient.
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  Don't let the man get you down.
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  Don't let the nose get you down.
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  That book Go For No, that's a very three line concept.
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  Now we all have all the lines.
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  When you look down your chart, we're talking about the sun and earth on
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  the conscious and unconscious side.
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  In this series, we're talking about those.
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  Anywhere you see a three in your design, when you look down those
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  columns on the right and the left of your chart, and you see gate numbers
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  and a decimal point and then a number, one through six, those are the lines.
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  So anywhere you see a three, you've got to have that it's okay to run fast
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  and break things kind of mentality.
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  You've got to have that resilience.
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  You have the potential for great resilience, for change,
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  for innovation in those places.
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  This is what makes this so fun.
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  Really start to know yourself.
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  This is why, even if you're not a three line, this very
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  well may resonate with you.
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  Maybe you've got a lot of them in your design, it's just not
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  your sun or your earth on your conscious or unconscious side.
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  So I hope you found this fun.
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  I hope you found this interesting.
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  I hope you share it with your friends and you enter our contest.
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  Remember, follow the show, subscribe to the show, and take a screenshot
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  that's how you get entered.
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  You can win a little reading with me here on the show.
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  We can dive into your profile, your conscious sun, your mercury gate,
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  your whole design, whatever it is that you want to focus on, we can
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  do here on the show if you win.
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  So I hope that you enter for us, and if you'd like that free guide on Finding
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  your X Factor by design, finding your brand voice through your profile lines.
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  Just DM me the word X Factor, X, the letter X, and then the word Factor, all
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  one word, on Instagram, and we'll send it to you, or go to nicolelaino.com/xfactor,
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  and you can download it right there.
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  Thank you for being here.
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  Thank you for making it all the way to the end of this episode.
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  We appreciate you.
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  And remember, in order to have an unshakeable business, you must
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  first become an unshakeable human.
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  So thanks for letting us help you on your journey of becoming
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  unshakeable with human design.
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