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27 Signs You're Absolutely an Alpha Female! Or possibly just an arsehole. | Maintaining Frame 53 · Honey Badger Radio

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  Hello everybody, and welcome to Honey Badger Radio. My name is Brian.
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  I'm here with Allison and this is maintaining frame number fifty three twenty seven signs
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  you're absolutely an alpha female or possibly just an ours whole where we will be
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  looking at an article from the Lovely Mystical Raven. That's her name, it's
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  her website. I mean, like, I know, I think it's on
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  her birth certificate, like yeah, okay, yeah, well it's on her
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  voter registration card. M but yeah, okay. I just I like how
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  you sort of averaged out asshole and arsholder. Yeah. I wasn't really sure
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  like which one was better, So I was like, I'm just gonna say
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  something in between. Yeah, yeah, a little doing a little improv a
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  little bit of whose line is it? Anyways? Okay, sorry, go
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  ahead, No, it's okay. So I just want to remind everyone that
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  we are doing our monthly fundraiser. It's off to a little bit of a
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  slow start, so if you are going to help out, please consider going
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  to feed the Badger dot com slash support and putting a few shekels in the
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  hat. Very much appreciated. I might consider doing some arm twisting at the
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  a in a bit after we've gotten deeper into this list, as it were.
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  But once again, if you want to make sure that we're able to
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  continue to do this work, it's very unique work, shall we say,
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  of actually holding women accountable and maybe not just saying everything is to blame men.
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  Men are to blame for everything, either through patriarchy or because apparently they
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  will become weak, which I don't know. Last time I checked, men
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  are still keeping the lights on, so I don't know. I'm not exactly
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  sure where the whole weak men create bad times is coming from. Um,
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  from where I'm sitting there, they're still keeping the roads paved, keeping the
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  sewers working, keeping the traffic lights on, keeping yeah, I know,
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  a typical man ma maintaining. Yeah, so weak anyway once a year because
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  it's like you got the you got how to blame men? Feminist edition,
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  just describe it to the patriarchy, how to blame men? Conservative addition,
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  just describe it to this amorphous weakness, you know, and cowardice. It's
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  like, I really doubt the guys who were saying things like oh, bad
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  time or sorry, what was it? Strong men create good times? Yeah?
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  Good time, good time. Good times create bad times. Bad times
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  create strong men. Yeah, I doubt them. The people who are saying
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  that are actually the ones bringing the harvest in or repairing a broken sewer line,
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  or keeping a fact, you know, working in a factory somehow,
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  because if they were, they might realize no beer, Oh wait, men
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  don't brew beer anymore. Women started that somehow. Yeah, women have taken
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  that over. Yeah, they know they started it. They started they were
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  they were the we was brewers and shit, you know, and and it's
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  it's like that that whole statement. Well, okay, but men are still
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  keeping everything running, as far as I can tell, more than ever,
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  because now ninety five of all the industries that provide our basic standard of living
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  are run by men. Yeah, for maybe nursing. Yeah, all right,
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  anyway, are you finished with your opening? Yeah? Okay, And
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  yeah, if you want, if you want to support us, because let's
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  face it, m this is not a message that people like to hear.
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  I mean, it seems like our favorite cultural sport and around the world even
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  is just to be like, yeah, there's a problem, Well let's blame
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  men or just use men to fix it. Yeah, women can't be to
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  blame. And it's not just because of feminism. It's also because, you
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  know, if women are to blame, that means that there's some aspect the
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  world that isn't touched by men's agency. You have to sort of concede that
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  to women. And I've noticed that this is really really difficult for people.
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  It's not just difficult because you know, feminists are like, wow, we
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  can't you know, we can't judge women. It's also difficult because once again,
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  that means that we have to recognize that men might have a weakness or
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  a blind spot. Evan forbid, you know, and Heaven forbid. Yeah,
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  yeah, okay, I didn't I tell you shocked? Well not that
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  shot. And it's like, if we do recognize that, then there's an
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  aspect of trust that needs to be applied. And I can really understand why
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  men are not willing to trust women at this point. But it's ultimately,
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  I think, in the end of the day, it's an abusive dynamic.
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  It is a dance that we've gotten into that has spiraled downward. The only
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  way is for somebody to be like, you know, this, this sucks,
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  but there are good things that we want to keep and uh, and
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  I would prefer that we keep the lights on. So let's stop this abusive
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  dance. Let's and take some responsibility. And unfortunately, I think it's going
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  to have to be women at this point. But anyway, I wanted to
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  thank Meredith Meredith G because she put through one hundred dollars. Oh wow,
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  yeah, that's nice, thank you. And I should also give a shout
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  out to Hansi who put in twenty five dollars over the weekend. So thank
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  you, Hansie. Oh thank you. Oh yeah, hmm, I'll still
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  maybe do some arm twisting at the man. Let's get into this. Let's
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  let's find out this list list of how you become an alpha. So yeah,
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  I didn't know there was such a thing as an alpha woman because I
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  thought being alpha was a bad thing in general. Oh no, only when
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  it's men, I see. Okay, But well, first of all,
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  how do you be an alpha woman with alt beta women? So wouldn't it
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  be more even more there has to be beta women as well? Yeah,
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  exactly, And you have to define what beta women are unless it's one of
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  those things where you know how like on the whatever podcast or one of these
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  dating podcasts where they have women on they ask them to rate themselves, and
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  all the women, regardless of what they look like or what personality they have,
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  will say that they are ten. Maybe all women are alpha's, but
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  some women embody it more overtly than others, while others keep their alphast on
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  the inside. Okay, but here we go, right here, mystic raven
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  has created a list mystical raven. Mystical raven. She can't even go for
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  like an actual activity, you know, like mystic raven, like a a
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  maybe beta women. Oh yeah, okay, yeah, that makes sense.
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  Yeah, but she didn't even go for like an honorific like a mystic you
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  know, somebody who's who engages in mysticism. She's just mystical. Yeah you
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  know what I mean? Like, yeah, but it's like it's a passive
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  thing. She just has a passive trait rather than having pursued an active um
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  an active discipline. Yeah, you know, meditating in a in a yurt
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  for for However, people might notice that woman is engaging Oh no, at
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  the body snatchers. That woman has agency. She's not a puppet. Okay,
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  let's get into the article. So switching now to to this switching,
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  we need switching music. I have the sound. It's the anyway. So
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  this is a website called Mystical raven dot com. I guess she writes about
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  relationships, maybe other things. I don't know. I couldn't be bothered to
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  look into it. Um And this uh particular article is entitled twenty seven signs
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  You're an absolute You're absolutely an alpha female And it's essentially a list. So
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  let's find out what it means to be an alpha female. Here are twenty
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  seven signs. Um. Okay, just before we get into it, I
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  just want to point out that she has a quote from Malala. Yeah.
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  I was going to read that one quote from Malala you soft side you soft
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  side as follows. We should not wait for someone else to come and raise
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  our voice. We should do it by ourselves. We should believe in ourselves.
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  Yes, we can do it. One day you will see that all
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  girls will be powerful, all the girls will be going to school. And
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  it's possible only by our struggle, only when we raise our voice. You
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  know is this? Uh? I think I know who this is. Yeah.
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  She was shot by the Taliban for advocating for women's education. Now there's
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  a there. Okay, let's set aside what the Taliban does to men,
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  because the Taliban is pretty you know, you know, let's go into it
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  a little bit great. Yeah, it's not. It's not really good for
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  boys either, not the greatest, although you could argue that at very least
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  the Taliban gets rid of bacha bazzi, which is basically the rape of underage
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  boys in order to make money. U what and Karen one of Karen's anecdotes,
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  um is basically a underaged like a twelve year old boy having to find
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  it familiar in order to support, you know, the women in his family,
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  you know, that kind of thing. And they put put an end
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  to that stuff. Um. But on the other hand, there's other,
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  you know, pretty significant narrative negatives to it. They don't like women or
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  actually men getting educated in the West in the Western tradition. Um, they
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  think that women should give birth to babies and raise them in a very strict
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  interpretation of Islam. And I think that boys should have guns in their hands
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  and protect their their women folk. So it's it's like a pretty traditional and
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  it's not it's not great for either. It's not great for either. But
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  you know, I but I will give her this. She stood up for
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  her beliefs and despite significant pushback. Yeah, I wish that her beliefs were
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  a little less exclusive of how men and boys are treated by the Taliban,
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  But you know whatever, she had her stand and she took it and she
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  suffered for it. Probably considered standing up for you know, everybody, but
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  yeah that if you incluse men, then you're you're actually going to get less
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  support and sympathy. Yeah, that's the other thing. It's entirely possible that
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  she did stand up for everyone against the Taliban, but that part was just
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  purged because it doesn't play as well in the West, like a lot of
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  stuff that ends up getting purged. And but my overall point is this woman's
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  struggles have absolutely fuckall to do with Raven, mystical Raven, and her life.
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  Yeah, as if Mystical Raven started from a quote from Harriet Tubman and
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  then said, you know I am as I am her. You know,
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  we could all be here, We could all be Harriet Tubman. You know,
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  we could all we can all have we could all compare ourselves to the
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  struggles of Harriet Tubman against slavery, even if we're a white ciss had feminists
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  from Portland, you know we could. I'm like, what the how does
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  this work? Exactly? How does that work that you get to say this
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  you this woman got shot and you get to say, oh I am a
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  Malala. No you're not. No, you know you aren't. Full stop.
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  Nothing you do and nothing you say will ever get you in a position
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  where you're facing down a gun for one, I mean hell, and nothing
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  you do or say, mystical raven is ever going to get you facing the
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  stuff that I've faced saying what I say much less Malala or Harriet Tubman.
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  Yeah. So funny how they how they think that, you know, like
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  being allowed and vocal feminist is somehow dangerous for you. Literally the mainstream attitude
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  you you're you are part of the establishment. You realize that, right,
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  You're not the underdog. There's nothing brave about all right, let's let's get
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  into it. I just I'm actually sort of offended on behalf of not offended,
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  but I'm just like boggling at that to just sheer arrogance, because it'll
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  get it'll get ridiculous. Yeah, yeah, as you go, all right,
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  let's go, all right, let's continue. Are you allowedmouth a feminist,
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  an unapologetic malala. If so, congratulations, woman, you are the
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  strong and powerful force that makes the world go round. But also you have
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  no agency in your an underdog. Um you're somehow both of these things.
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  You are a god and you are an insect. All right, yes,
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  so now we'll get into the list. Here are twenty seven signs you are
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  an alpha female. It's weird that it's like that number, Like, don't
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  people normally do top ten, top five, top twenty, top twenty five,
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  twenty seven. I don't know. Is that a prime number? Maybe
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  that's why? Yeah, I think no, wait, wait, no,
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  no it is Okay, maybe that's it. Yep, number one. You
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  know what you want to achieve today, this month, and over the next
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  five years. Okay. So if you're a woman who just goes with the
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  flow, you're definitely not alpha. Yeah, you're just like yo, I
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  take every day as it is. Like Emili Earhart. Definitely not alpha.
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  Oh god, yes, I mean she didn't work for as well old but
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  but she wasn't like she took what came. Shall we say, are you
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  the type to plan? Are you the type that that is cautious? Well,
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  then you're not alpha you have to just well, no, you have
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  to plan. Actually, I'm sorry, you have to know what Okay,
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  this is at all times, this is this is our I think this is
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  more like a list of the twenty seven things that um, mystical Raven thinks
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  is awesome about herself. Yeah, and she wants to control everything, because
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  that's what I'm getting right off the bat. That's just number one. Okay,
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  okay. Number two, you truly believe that hardship makes you stronger.
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  You don't let life's challenges bring you down. They truly believe doesn't sound truly
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  never believe. Okay, you know what, I'm pretty sure she knew that
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  we were criticizing her. She would call it her asthment, an attempt to
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  get us knocked off the airways. So I doubt that, but you know,
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  maybe maybe she maybe she's she's okay with criticism. Um, personally,
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  I think we I think this one is a she wished she wants to be
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  seen this way and probably isn't. Yeah, okay, Um, number three,
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  you share your values, beliefs, and opinions, even personal ones,
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  with confidence. You know, none of this sounds particularly No, it doesn't
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  get that bad, you know, it's it's you know, the first few
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  is okay, I mean I'm saying, don't sound they don't really sound like
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  alpha traits, like, oh, you have opinions, Yeah, everybody has
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  opinions, like everybody. Um, and sharing your opinion with confidence is just
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  maybe the base level of actually being able to change people's minds. Yeah,
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  Um, sharing your opinion with eloquence and sophistication and the ability to formulate an
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  argument that is both on personal level and also on a you know, in
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  terms of its evidence. That's that you know, that would be that would
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  be more of an alpha trait. Although I don't know, I'm really adversive
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  to this alpha thing. But regardless, I mean, it's I mean,
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  the first three are pretty blanned. Um, it's a bit of a strong
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  emphasis on people who are control freaks. True. Um yeah, I really,
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  I really doubt that she totally is down with two because I'm pretty sure
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  she's well, we'll find out if she's the kind of person who uses victimhood
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  to advance a cause. But here you share your values, beliefs, and
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  opinions, even personal ones, with confidence. I can't even say that,
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  you know why, because last time I shared this in public in a context
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  that I had any kind of vulnerability. I was of course kicked out of
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  a convention for it, you know, and I didn't share it with confidence.
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  Then you could hear the fear in my voice, would think that,
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  um, you know, if this person is a feminist, she would be
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  totally on board with people like you sharing your opinions. But obviously it was
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  feminist that kicked you out because they didn't they didn't opinions. She's not the
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  feminist who did that, No, she's no, but she yeah, well,
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  you know what, let's keep going. Let's keep it. Number four,
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  you promote support and encourage other women. You realize you have nothing to
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  gain by watching them fail and everything to gain by helping them succeed. No,
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  okay, no, I'm not going to support other women just because they're
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  women. And you don't either, like Honestly, if you, if you're
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  a feminist, you mostly like don't don't support other women either. You support
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  them if they have the same ideological basis that you do, but otherwise you
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  you probably probably ignore them or actively fight them. So this is ridiculous,
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  And it's even ridiculous even if we were talking about not an ideological stance,
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  you just blanket support every other woman. Well, what if they don't have
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  the skills that are necessary for the job that they're seeking, are like,
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  you know, immoral or something. Yeah? Yeah, what if what if
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  they want to put a nuclear bomb in the center of the earth. You
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  know, what if they want to blow up the moon? What if they
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  want to steal your cat and rape your husband? Like you still support them?
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  No, And this is this is on its face, requires you to
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  think of women as having not being moral agents capable of doing bad shit.
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  It's like no, h And also what is a woman? What is a
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  woman? Is a woman? I think it is? What is it to
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  you? That's what? All? Right? You know what? I would
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  be glad if the whole concept womanhood just disappeared and then we can't even talk
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  about you know, like women's rights everybody like, but that's transportable because I
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  think that's where we're headed. So yeah, you know what, just just
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  they can all disappear, like, disappear the entire concept, theoretical, social,
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  legal concept of womanhood. Just disappear it and see how the world changes.
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  I'm gonna I'm gonna have my wife, I mean, life partner transphobic,
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  make me the make some popcorn. Yeah, I wouldn't want to be
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  not inclusive. So my my, my, my counterpart my. Oh no,
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  you can't say that that's binary. Oh yeah, you're right. Shit,
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  you're you're homogeneous companionship unit. That could be my dog. So I
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  guess I'm I'm married to both. Um. I mean that's that's pretty inclusive.
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  So anyway, carbon based companionship yeah, carbon based humanoidion chip. Yeah?
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  Okay, number five, Change is not scary to you. In fact,
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  you find it exciting and invigorating to be faced with a new challenge.
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  This sounds like a dating profile to me. I like, I like change
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  and excitement. I like supporting women. I could see that this is.
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  This sounds like something on Tinder or something. Oh god, yeah, this
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  is a little bit bland. It's going down by some like some slimy tapioca.
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  I hope there's some spice somewhere. Come on, could you please,
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  could you please throw us at least a little bit of feminist spice so that
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  we can enjoy this a bit more. Yeah, yeah, let's see if
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  there are some some spicier things. Okay, number that was Number six,
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  No. Number six is I'm sorry you are not afraid to take a risk
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  when the reward is something valuable to you. I don't depends on the reward,
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  I guess. And what's what are you? What are you really risking?
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  I don't know. These are nothing statements. Yeah, there's pretty empty
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  nothing statements. We need some like inspirational cat photo. I mean this might
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  sound mean, but I just don't see women doing this stuff, Like I
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  don't see them taking risks. I see them getting men to take risks for
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  them, but I don't see taking It depends on what counts as a risk.
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  You mean, like you know, applying for a job and maybe not
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  getting it. Like, yeah, no, that's very true. That's very
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  true. Like a lot of the women's lack of advancement is lack of risk
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  taking and also, um, the inability to really take criticism without losing heart.
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  Um and on face that too, because I'm like editing my story and
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  holy shit, it is a painful process. I think the only thing keeping
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  me moving forward at this point is just sheer pig headedness. But yeah,
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  anyway, um, I didn't want to say a little bit more to number
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  four. No, No, number four because it just occurred to me.
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  Yes, women who say stuff like this are terrifying. Yeah, And the
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  reason why is because what they actually mean is that you promote support and encourage
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  me regardless of what I do. And you don't want to be around women
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  like that because they are actually looking at the world in terms of personal resource
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  acquisition. And if if they don't actually recognize whether or not a woman has
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  merits, they essentially mean that they have the merit and you should give what
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  they want to them. This is this is how I've seen it play out
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  over and over and over again. Yeah, anyway, let's keep them.
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  Number seven. You enjoy learning from other people. You realize you're not the
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  expert on everything. Oh, we need a lotle cat for for to illustrate
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  this. I'm gonna get you some hute photos of kittens and in some kind
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  of kittens in peril, hanging in there, kittens hanging in there. Yeah,
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  that's the one. I remember that, I remember that. Here we
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  go. I'm sending it to you. I just feel like this is this
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  list is incomplete without this image right here, all right, I'm getting in
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  now. Mhmm. You are receiving it. This essential. It's up there
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  you go, all right, hang guys, eight ladies hanging there? Yeah,
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  okay, so back to this I'm just looking okay, no, um,
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  all right, so next right number eight. You often avoid relationships because
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  you prefer the sense of freedom and independence that your single life provides. Okay,
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  and now we know why her wisdom appears to be a collection of inspirational
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  posters that you'd find in an office building. Yeah. Sure, you know
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  what, if you want to be single, all power to you. But
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  you don't really grow as a person unless you open your life to other beings.
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  I'm sure she's more of a cat person. I've noticed this, like
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  like when you have to make compromises with other people, when you have to
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  lose your freedom in order to gain compare apanionship and or and when you value
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  that person's companionship over whatever thing that you think you're not getting by being with
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  them, you actually have to grow up and become a better person or or
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  a person who recognizes more than yourself. I notice that that's true. That's
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  true about having a human companion, and in many cases a canine companion,
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  because can't because dogs have some of the same emotional needs as humans. I
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  don't think cats do. I mean, cats have emotional needs, but they're
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  much you know, they're much clearer, and they're much more something you can
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  they can live without. You know, a cat can really bond to to
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  you and be a really close companion. Or a cat can sort of be
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  mobile furniture. I think in a lot of ways, the women who end
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  up with cats end up with kind of the mobile furniture. They're just they're
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  just occupying the same space. They don't really have a relationship with the cat,
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  even if they pet it and feed it. The cat really doesn't give
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  us get a sense that they really understand it as its own independent entity.
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  But a cat can live with that. You know, a cat can be
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  perfectly happy with that arrangement. Dog I don't think is as happy with that
• 27:15
  arrangement, and men tend to not be happy at all with that arrangement.
• 27:19
  Ye, So what you've said here actually explains the first seven entries to this
• 27:29
  list because they don't have any really in depth wisdom to them and no specificity
• 27:36
  either. I think they seem go ahead, that's okay, okay, Well,
• 27:42
  I was going to say they seem to read more like what mystical Raven
• 27:45
  thinks she's like and wants other people to see her as Yes, yes,
• 27:51
  that's what I'm getting from it. Um. I think that the cat and
• 27:55
  dog thing is interesting because dogs evolved with us from back when we were hunter
• 28:02
  gatherers, right like, they'd follow us around and like eat the scraps that
• 28:06
  we left behind. And after a while we found that they were useful,
• 28:11
  so we domesticated them and that was like, you know, while we were
• 28:15
  still roaming and shit. But cats came along when we started to settle,
• 28:21
  and you know, agriculture started happening because cats would kill, you know,
• 28:26
  like the various pests that would try to eat our crops, and so cats
• 28:33
  came. They they they joined us later than dogs, but they're also because
• 28:38
  of the way they operated. They were really independent, so they evolved to
• 28:41
  be you know, sort of around humans and comfortable with humans, but they
• 28:47
  maintain a certain distance, I think, and dogs can be like even needy,
• 28:53
  Not not that that's a bad thing, but it's just the way that
• 28:56
  we grew up. And I wonder how much of that is about making the
• 29:02
  case because I'm probably wrong, but I wonder how much of that is reflected
• 29:07
  in our own differences between men and women, So um, I would I
• 29:12
  honestly, I actually think there's something to be said for that the psychology of
• 29:18
  animals. But the thing is that like cats, I think women like this
• 29:26
  end up with cats, where they end up with those little dogs, and
• 29:30
  they're really like deranged, um because they really don't know how to compromise emotionally
• 29:38
  with another being. And a cat will tolerate a person who doesn't do that
• 29:42
  as long as they feed them and don't over their food, and and and
• 29:48
  the dog. You know, if it's a small dog and it loses its
• 29:51
  fucking mind, you can still pick it up and throw it against the wall.
• 29:55
  Yeah, you know, that got a little dark. So I think
• 30:00
  that's why they end up with animals like that. But really, honestly,
• 30:03
  they as soon as I know that you are like, oh, I'm single
• 30:07
  because blah blah blah, because other people are inconvenient, I'm like, yeah,
• 30:12
  you shouldn't have a creature that can't get away from you legally at all.
• 30:18
  Period. That includes a husband, that includes a dog, that includes
• 30:21
  kids. If you can't, if you can't human with someone who can walk
• 30:26
  away from you, you don't deserve a life that can't. All right,
• 30:33
  all right, So number nine, people and especially other women, tend to
• 30:41
  look to you as an example or role model. Oh Jesus Christ, Well,
• 30:48
  I mean I think it's kind of true because well because feminists have basically
• 30:53
  like propagandized women to only look to other women for inspiration. And of course
• 31:00
  the women that they were supposed to look to are the ones that they deem
• 31:03
  worthy of that. So there's nobody saying, like, you know, be
• 31:07
  more like um, this woman that that you know holds like that cares about
• 31:12
  man or holds like some different position. Be more like this woman, you
• 31:17
  know, be more like um, I don't know, just women that we
• 31:21
  approve of, like, you know, be more like Lizzo, Be more
• 31:23
  like Cardi b. Be more like Hillary Clinton for example. Oh oh oh
• 31:27
  boy, here it comes? What the spice is coming? Okay, Okay,
• 31:33
  So I'm just I'm just like slowly a big gob smacked by the arrogance.
• 31:37
  The arrogance, but also like, how is it the how are you
• 31:41
  simultaneously raising yourself above other women? Well here she is. Basically she's sang,
• 31:48
  I'm the alpha woman. Really okay, yeah, all right, keep
• 31:52
  going. Number ten. You sometimes find yourself being criticized, scolded, or
• 31:59
  missunder still it for behaviors that would have been praised if you were a man.
• 32:05
  No, you're gonna have to be specific, lady. Yeah, you're
• 32:08
  gonna have to be specific. But I have a serious doubt. But also,
• 32:15
  what was this about? You know, you truly believe that hardship makes
• 32:19
  you stronger, because now you're going into the you're a victim because you have
• 32:23
  had something happen to you, and your platonic ideal of the male life you
• 32:30
  figure that wouldn't include it. Like you look to your platonic ideal of the
• 32:35
  male life and say, oh, but a man wouldn't. Yeah, first
• 32:37
  of all, you don't know that. Every time I've questioned feminists on this,
• 32:43
  they never know what the situation for men is, or even have asked
• 32:46
  men. They always refer to this platonic ideal of the male life which includes
• 32:52
  absolutely no strife, which is absolutely goddamn ridiculous. Yeah, but all so,
• 33:00
  yeah, this is even if you ask men though, because men are
• 33:05
  conditioned to process, like, you know, their struggle differently from women,
• 33:12
  They're probably going to be like unable to actually articulate like whatever their issues are
• 33:19
  because they're they're supposed to bely that they don't have any So even if you
• 33:22
  ask men about their side, you might not get, like, you know,
• 33:27
  a right answer or a true answer, because they're gonna be giving it
• 33:30
  to you from their perspective, right. Like, I've spoken to men who
• 33:34
  have who have had gone through issues here in Virginia, people seem to be
• 33:39
  like the men seem to be open to talking about it, and if I
• 33:44
  tell them, they ask me what I do, and I tell them and
• 33:45
  they become interested. But they always downplay their own suffering, you know,
• 33:51
  like if they had a divorce, if they lost their kids or whatever,
• 33:53
  they always downplay it like, yeah, well I lost half of everything,
• 33:57
  but I kind of knew that going in that this might happen, you know,
• 34:00
  something like that, and it's like, you know, that's really traumatic,
• 34:04
  right like, but but it's not the same like a woman like a
• 34:08
  man reacts with more um. I don't want to say stoicism because it it's
• 34:15
  more like they're not even really like they haven't really processed it for something like
• 34:21
  losing you know, their I don't know, their assets, or getting like
• 34:25
  rejected hard by a woman or something any anywhere on the scale, and a
• 34:30
  woman will be appear more traumatized for smaller offenses because they're it's not because you
• 34:37
  know, women are weaker per se, it's because we've conditioned them to take
• 34:43
  everything that affects them in a negative way as seriously as possible. And we
• 34:47
  have conditioned men to try and like, you know, resist everything that hurts
• 34:52
  them, and so they may be hurt, but they won't share it.
• 34:57
  And and of course then they'll say, well, that's toxic man sculinity even
• 35:00
  though you did this, like you're beating it into men, and then you're
• 35:04
  blaming them for not talking about how you hurt them. Um. And meanwhile,
• 35:09
  you know women are like the you know, the princess and the pee.
• 35:16
  Does that make sense? That's my thinking anyway, Yeah, okay.
• 35:21
  And their favorite activity is to compare their life to men's, yeah, which
• 35:25
  they have no clue about because they don't really ask men, and they they
• 35:29
  completely discredit men's own opinion about their lives. So they just basically are comparing
• 35:35
  their life to a made up version of men's life. And uh, and
• 35:40
  then saying, well, men's life is better, well, yes, because
• 35:44
  it's a made up version of men's life. First of all, that was
• 35:49
  actually a really good example. What I'm getting at is circumcision. So a
• 35:52
  man who's been circumcised will defend what happened to him because he doesn't want to
• 36:00
  in front the fact that he was essentially mutilated. And but if a woman
• 36:05
  is circumcised, the fucking un and the White House and like celebrities, they
• 36:09
  all come together and they have like something to say about it, and so
• 36:13
  the woman is made to think, oh, yeah, this was actually really
• 36:15
  traumatic. Everybody's telling me that it is. It's coming from everywhere. Meanwhile,
• 36:20
  men are like, well, apparently nobody cares, so I guess it's
• 36:22
  not a big deal, you know. Yeah, that's a that's a point.
• 36:27
  Although in the cultures where women do practice it, they don't regard it
• 36:30
  as being like an like this a huge imposition, of course, because they
• 36:36
  they're conditioned, I think. And also there's also a bit of a catch
• 36:39
  too, because if they find if they start to internalize all of this sort
• 36:45
  of catastrophizing about their sexuality, then they will lose what they do have is
• 36:52
  which is interesting. So it's it's like a it is a catch twenty two.
• 36:57
  I mean there's the recognition of the harm, but at the same time,
• 37:00
  there's like the the obsessive expectation that they've suddenly been I don't know,
• 37:07
  completely destroyed as a woman, you know, and that's that that can be
• 37:12
  that can be a real problem for them. Yeah, for women who've experienced
• 37:15
  that and don't want to lose, you know, the sexual function that they
• 37:19
  do have. Um, okay, let's go to number eleven. Oh god,
• 37:24
  it's just more inspirational cat bullshit. Well I'll just read it number eleven.
• 37:31
  You are very intentional and caring for your body, mind, and soul.
• 37:34
  You undertake frequent projects, athletic training, immersion in new books and ideas,
• 37:38
  service projects to develop all three of these things. So are you saying
• 37:43
  that Lizzo is not alpha because she indulges in her weight. I mean,
• 37:47
  I'm not I'm not making a judgment, you know, live however you want.
• 37:52
  You're the one saying that a woman that takes care of themselves as alpha,
• 37:55
  so Lizzo must not be alpha. I'm I'm just saying, like,
• 38:02
  yeah, I mean, to be honest, it's not a bad philosophy to
• 38:07
  actually read and service and athletic training. It's just it seems like this is
• 38:10
  just I don't know, well it's but I think it's cherry picking because if
• 38:19
  you said to her, you know, do you think that, like,
• 38:23
  what do you think about Lizzo? She would say that she's awesome. She
• 38:27
  wouldn't, she wouldn't. None of this would come up because now she has
• 38:30
  to like construct her opinions based on what the response is going to be instead
• 38:35
  of her actual view. So she's gonna say, oh, yeah, no,
• 38:38
  she's she's a boss. She's girl bossing it all over the place.
• 38:42
  You know, she's taken up space like literally, yeah, and she has
• 38:45
  to exclude a woman who isn't like who's on her ideological side. Then then
• 38:52
  the acrobats come out, the acrobatics come out. Yeah, all right,
• 38:55
  exactly, Okay, I just want to go ahead. I just want to
• 39:00
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• 39:19
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• 39:24
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• 39:29
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• 39:36
  you, Cube. I don't know if I really want TikTok to replace it,
• 39:39
  because there's something worse than than like thirty minute um videos from from young
• 39:49
  feminists full of inaccuracies, but at least they're thinking, you know, yeah,
• 39:54
  I don't know what the hell you're doing on TikTok. Oh No,
• 39:58
  I just you're brotting your brain out. I mean, I always you know,
• 40:02
  there's something worse than feminism because at least, when you're a feminist,
• 40:07
  you're actually thinking about things, even if you're thinking about things through a lens.
• 40:13
  Well, okay, I don't know about thinking. That's I don't know
• 40:19
  about that. It's easy to say a button like these are all platitudes,
• 40:22
  honestly, and there's not like a lot of depth here. So there's there's
• 40:27
  platitudes mixed in with some of some self reporting, yeah, some some self
• 40:35
  victimization, shall we say, And it's just like this is a complete false
• 40:38
  accusation you sometimes for behaviors that would have been praised if you were a woman.
• 40:44
  You're making a false accusation here. You haven't even substantiated it with what
• 40:47
  behaviors? Can you give me an example? Yeah, so we can improve
• 40:53
  to you that you're wrong, because yes, Like, look, women are
• 40:58
  like getting more degree, they're more successful in school, they're getting better jobs,
• 41:04
  they're they're getting paid more. Like what exactly are you talking about when
• 41:07
  you say that? You know, like, um that you know you're you're
• 41:14
  you're being scolded or misunderstood for behaviors that would otherwise get a man praise,
• 41:19
  Like what what are you talking about? I mean you could, like you
• 41:22
  could be a woman walk into the office and slap a man on his ass
• 41:24
  and keep your job, Like you know, I'm serious, Like it's just
• 41:32
  ridiculous, all right? What is it? What is it that you can't
• 41:37
  do? Yeah? Yeah, I mean what is it that men get praised
• 41:40
  for that you get scolded for? That's what I want to know. I
• 41:44
  don't I don't think there is such a thing. I think that as far
• 41:46
  as like what men actually do get praised for, women can get more of
• 41:52
  it easier in probably every single category, with one exception maybe the w NBA.
• 41:59
  But even then, like you know, they get they get promoted a
• 42:01
  lot, even though they don't make as much money and they don't get like
• 42:05
  as much of an audience. Like like Britney Grinder came back from Russia and
• 42:08
  she played in the game, and she was like the most famous w NBA
• 42:13
  player like every because because of what happened to her in Russia. And then
• 42:17
  they played a game and like the stadium was less than half full. It
• 42:24
  like I'm you know why, Well, the w NBA isn't that interesting to
• 42:29
  watch. Plus I think a lot of people were angry at Britney Grinder too
• 42:35
  because of what happened. And also, uh yeah, just like not even
• 42:39
  women don't watch the w NBA, That's what I'm saying. Like it's it's
• 42:44
  not that it's like unpopular because sexism. It's unpopular because women don't even watch
• 42:47
  it. They're not interested anyway. Okay, Number twelve, You don't apologize
• 42:54
  when you're not sorry. The integrity of your word means something to you.
• 43:00
  But what if you're wrong. You cannot be sorry and do something wrong.
• 43:05
  Mm hmm, yeah, Like it's it's about a feeling. If I don't
• 43:08
  feel sorry, I don't have to apologize. Yeah. Wow, that's a
• 43:12
  little bit sociopathic. Yeah, exactly, Like do you like these are just
• 43:17
  like I don't know they're they're not they're badly worded if I'm being as charitable
• 43:22
  charitable as possible. Because when you say you don't apologize when you're not sorry,
• 43:28
  that doesn't mean that you weren't wrong. It means you don't feel wrong.
• 43:32
  That's that's not the same. Yeah, it should be. You don't
• 43:37
  apologize when you haven't done You don't apologize when you're you haven't done something wrong.
• 43:42
  Now that would be acceptable, but this is you don't apologize when you're
• 43:45
  not sorry. Well okay you could. You could, I don't know,
• 43:51
  rape someone lady, and then you're like, you know, I'm not sorry
• 43:53
  about that. Yeah exactly. Okay, Like what when when teachers rape their
• 44:00
  students? Um, do they say do they feel sorry? I mean,
• 44:07
  if you feel but if they don't. Yeah, Like there's this one woman
• 44:10
  who who who shot her her son point blank, five year old son with
• 44:15
  a shotgun and she's like, I'm not sorry, okay, Like so she
• 44:23
  shouldn't have to apologize. Well, I mean really, but when I think
• 44:28
  apology doesn't even cut it? But really, like this is not the test.
• 44:32
  Yeah, it's not how you feel that matters with an apology. It's
• 44:37
  whether or not you're wrong. Yep, yes, not framing around your feels.
• 44:44
  Um number thirteen. You don't like to conform with those around you.
• 44:51
  As alpha woman, Judy Garland wrote, always be a first rate version of
• 44:54
  yourself and not a second rate version of someone else. I mean, that's
• 44:59
  decent advice, but Judy Garland kind of banged the whole rat pack, so
• 45:01
  I don't know if that's alpha. So well maybe I guess in a way,
• 45:09
  I mean maybe, I mean like I don't know, Like I just
• 45:14
  know that you know Frank Sinatra and the Gang ahead of time, So um,
• 45:20
  always be a first rate version of yourself. I mean yeah, that's
• 45:22
  again that's not advice as unique to women, so I guess it is.
• 45:31
  Yeah, Like like if if if, if, if mystical raven doesn't tell
• 45:36
  you as a woman what you should be, that you should be doing this,
• 45:39
  then like you're obviously not going to do it, Like you're not going
• 45:43
  to figure that out? What does it even mean to be a second rate
• 45:46
  version of somebody else. You can only be a better version of yourself or
• 45:52
  a worse version I guess. M hm. Anyway, um, you're what
• 46:01
  just thread fourt okay, number fourteen? You are you? You are usually
• 46:07
  asked to be the leader when given a group project? Are you? But
• 46:12
  how old are you? Mystical? Like? Oh, group projects like snowflakes
• 46:19
  from construction paper. Who's gonna lead? Like, Oh, here's the thing.
• 46:23
  If you're a real leader, no one asks you to be it.
• 46:29
  Yeah, you just sort of do it and then people follow. Is you
• 46:34
  know what I've seen? Yeah, right, exactly. You're not given leadership,
• 46:37
  you earn it. Well, you're not even just earning it, like
• 46:43
  often you're not even in a position where there's a metric by which you could
• 46:47
  even ascribe that. Yeah, you know what I mean. It's it's like
• 46:52
  it's the difference between being in a sandbox and and the sandbox the sandbox head
• 47:00
  person says, Okay, you're in charge of making them filling the buckets,
• 47:08
  and actually not being in a place where there's anyone higher than you in the
• 47:13
  first place. You know, That's what I'm talking about, you know,
• 47:16
  Like, if if you're going out and you're actually doing something new that you
• 47:21
  are leading in a way that you're not if you're just in the sandbox being
• 47:23
  directed to be the leader of filling the buckets. You know what I mean?
• 47:31
  Well, and it's funny how she's she frames this in the context of
• 47:37
  something that is already walled. And okay, bear with me, because I
• 47:42
  know this is going to get strange. But the way that this person thinks,
• 47:46
  she thinks like she's in a harem behind a wall, right, and
• 47:52
  she does not see what happens outside of it. So someone gives her leadership
• 47:59
  because she's already within something contained, all right. She thinks that men's lives
• 48:04
  are this because she's never really thought about men's lives or considered them. She
• 48:08
  has no bloody clue what they are. As far as they know, they
• 48:12
  are just basically the romanticized stories that filter in from from outside the wall.
• 48:20
  Yea. And everything is about how she feels because somebody else is taking the
• 48:25
  risks to make her life that fucking comfortable. Yep, yep, all right,
• 48:34
  all right. Number fifteen, You own your sexuality, erotic erotic.
• 48:42
  You won't be pressured into doing something that you don't want to do. You
• 48:46
  won't be shamed for doing something you did not that you did want to do
• 48:51
  you wait wait, wait, wait wait wait wait what if the person you
• 48:53
  did want to do it with didn't want to do it? Oh? I
• 48:57
  don't think that matters, because yeah, the way that that's that's okay.
• 49:01
  You own your sexuality. You won't be pressured into doing anything you want,
• 49:06
  but apparently your partner if they're like, yeah, I don't like that.
• 49:09
  Yeah, if they because I can't even understand the context. You won't be
• 49:15
  pressured into doing something you don't want to do. You won't be shamed for
• 49:19
  doing something you did want to do. Okay, who's who's doing shaming?
• 49:22
  All right? All right, who's doing the shaming? Are you telling me
• 49:25
  you do something to presumably your male partner and he's like I didn't like that,
• 49:30
  and you're like, you won't shame me? Yeah? Yeah, you
• 49:35
  have to submit otherwise feeling and now take this this fleck but his homemade butt
• 49:44
  plug that I created a bit razors? What is this? Yeah? Did
• 49:52
  you but did you see that? Is? Everything is about how she feels
• 49:55
  about it. I'm sorry, that's not you're not owning the negative consequences of
• 50:00
  your sexuality. There, lady, you're not allowing your partners to be like,
• 50:04
  you know, I'm not into this, because that would be shaming,
• 50:08
  that would cause you to have a negative emotion. Yep, and we all
• 50:13
  know that you you are. You are not allowed to feel sorry. If
• 50:15
  you don't feel sorry, if it makes everything okay, So you are not
• 50:21
  sorry, That's what I'm saying. If something is uncomfortable to you, that's
• 50:24
  someone else's problem, you know. So if somebody your sexual partner says no,
• 50:29
  I'm not into that, that suddenly becomes there a problem that they aren't.
• 50:34
  You know that they're saying to you that for some in some situation,
• 50:37
  your sexual interest isn't acceptable. That's shaming. M hm. So she doesn't
• 50:45
  own her sexuality because she does not accept the possibility that her sexuality could be
• 50:52
  negative. Well, that's hard, that's hard. Yeah, that's hard.
• 50:58
  That requires understanding that people exist aside from yourself. You think mystic Raven would
• 51:04
  would be able to mystically at the very least if she thinks that she has
• 51:07
  access to mystical realms like other senses and dimensions. But she has she doesn't
• 51:14
  seem to be aware that there are other minds. Yeah, all right,
• 51:20
  you get a prism and commune with it or whatever it is you do.
• 51:23
  Um, all right, the rest of number fifteen. You won't be a
• 51:27
  shamed for doing something you did not want to do. You dress and conduct
• 51:30
  yourself in a way that makes you feel beautiful, comfortable, and confident.
• 51:37
  Okay, fine, I mean like, yeah, well it's beautiful. Then
• 51:43
  in the shade of the yeah, yeah, I mean honestly, Brian,
• 51:47
  like in in the lee of that gigantic uh, disrespect for her, Like
• 51:55
  I don't even want to say disrespect. I mean here, here, here's
• 52:00
  the thing. What did she say not to staying contempt for the feelings of
• 52:05
  her sexual partners? Like? What did she say about men? Uh?
• 52:09
  Misunderstood for behaviors that would have been praised if you were a man. Can
• 52:13
  you imagine a man saying, I won't be shamed for doing something you don't
• 52:19
  want media to a woman? Oh my god, that is that is a
• 52:25
  That is a man who's going to end up in jail. And she has
• 52:29
  the audacity to say, oh, when men would be praised? You think
• 52:32
  men are praised like they tell somebody should should do a sketch of that,
• 52:37
  like you know what feminists think being a man is like. And it's like,
• 52:42
  yeah, you know, like guys are bragging about their uh bragging like
• 52:45
  loudly about their sexual conquests that sound weirdly like rape or even like overtly and
• 52:52
  other men and cops and like you know, paramedics, first responders giving them
• 52:57
  high fives and shit like that's that's what they think, right, So he
• 53:00
  gets the key to the city and then you know, he like he goes,
• 53:05
  he joins local office. He becomes like president of the Earth. You
• 53:08
  know. It's it's like that whole that that's like their their fever dream that
• 53:15
  they think men live in. Yeah, like literally, this is this is
• 53:17
  this seems to be where she's going. Like a man will be like I
• 53:22
  I don't let women shame me for doing things I want to do if they
• 53:27
  don't like it, Like all right, I mean that isn't they keep bringing
• 53:32
  up Trump's line grab him by the pussy they let you. I mean that's
• 53:37
  they let you. That's consent, right, this is this is this line
• 53:42
  is they don't like it, they don't want you, and you are shaming
• 53:47
  them or you're not you're not allowing them to shame you. M yeah.
• 53:53
  Well and again, like you know, he said that one of the richest
• 53:58
  men in the world in a in a private environment, he didn't do it
• 54:01
  around women to make them uncomfortable, and that I mean like they basically turned
• 54:07
  his life upside down based on that, like yeah, it's pretty thin girl,
• 54:12
  and yeah, right here we have even you have something so called mra
• 54:15
  types. Even they were like, well, I think he probably did it.
• 54:20
  And I'm like, what are you talking about? Did what people all
• 54:27
  the time like, I'm not talking about like any significant rape allegations. No,
• 54:34
  no, I mean I remember that some some uh some what was it?
• 54:43
  Reporter said, well, what do you think that about Trump saying that?
• 54:46
  And I said, would you be okay with Hillary saying that? I'm
• 54:49
  like, if Hillary said grab him by the dick, they let me,
• 54:53
  they let you, Like, well, i mean it's yes, like she
• 55:01
  could. That would be the cover of her new book. Yeah, I
• 55:05
  grabbed him by the dick, then the cover, but probably on the front.
• 55:08
  Yeah, it's crude, and it's sort of like it's not something that
• 55:13
  you really it's not a it's not a it's not a a witty and lofty
• 55:19
  sentiment, shall we say? But that needs conversations with people. I mean,
• 55:24
  because I would you crucify her for saying that, no, I don't
• 55:28
  care that fun maybe they do. Let you just considering the possibility that they
• 55:32
  might not let her. Yeah, you know it's in there. They'll grab
• 55:37
  him by the dick they let me. Okay, Well that's good, Hilary.
• 55:40
  At least you're you're considering the possibility that I might not and since they
• 55:46
  do, you know, let all power to you. Yeah, I mean,
• 55:51
  like it's so, it's so the thing is like my my point is
• 55:55
  it's so small a thing that we have had to hear about four years and
• 56:04
  so like this is this is the amount of impact you know, that a
• 56:07
  man can have. And it's not it's not something that actually happened as far
• 56:13
  as we know. It's some it's talking shit, that's it. Like men
• 56:15
  do that. See, Like men can't have the kinds of conversations that men
• 56:21
  have, Like you know, they called it locker room talk, right,
• 56:23
  and why why do they do that? We'll be yeah, because men do
• 56:25
  talk like that in locker rooms, in spaces where there's only other men,
• 56:30
  unless, of course, a female, like you know, reporter is in
• 56:34
  the locker room with a bunch of like firstly women, athletic dude. Women
• 56:38
  talk like this in front of other men. They just openly just talk about
• 56:45
  it. They don't care if it makes a man uncomfortable. But once again,
• 56:46
  let's go back to that that sentence. Just imagine I, as a
• 56:52
  man, won't be shamed for doing something I want to do even if my
• 56:57
  female partner doesn't want me to, Like, because I can't see a I
• 57:02
  can't see a scenario where shame. I can't see a scenario where she's being
• 57:08
  shamed outside of actually doing it with someone and them saying I didn't want you
• 57:14
  to do that. Yeah, Like, where where else does this work?
• 57:20
  Um? I mean this is this is this is an action in the moment.
• 57:23
  So she's talking about something that she's doing in the moment. The only
• 57:28
  person who's going to have an opinion upon that in the moment is going to
• 57:31
  be her partner. Yep. And she's basically just said in Scotland, a
• 57:37
  man literally can go to jail or for exactly that, for talking shit about
• 57:44
  sexual conquests. M if women share it, they get upset. Yeah,
• 57:51
  like what what is it that? What is it that? And that's going
• 57:52
  to come everywhere you know that Oh yeah, it's I mean it's it's it's
• 57:57
  gonna be an Ireland in the UK next, and then Canada. That's going
• 58:00
  to be in Canada, and then it's going to be in the US yep.
• 58:02
  And then women like with us will still say men get praised no if
• 58:07
  they can go to jail for the same conversation. Just like you just uncritically
• 58:13
  said this without even thinking about what you were saying. You absolutely should be
• 58:19
  shamed. If you will not shamed, but at the very least, you
• 58:22
  should understand that your partner's consent is meaningful. Even even Okay, let's let's
• 58:30
  say she does something and her partner's like, I'm like that, does that
• 58:35
  qualify as shaming? Well? What if? What if? What if she
• 58:40
  did something and his partner was like, I don't like that and I think
• 58:45
  it's weird that you do. Yeah, well, it's this Still the point
• 58:52
  is that you've done something that he doesn't like, and even if he's supposedly
• 58:57
  shaming you for it, it stops there. Oh anyway, it's just and
• 59:05
  just just to plainly say this and just hide it in there like that a
• 59:09
  go, I've beat that point to the to death. Yeah, hopefully consentually
• 59:15
  with the point. All right, Number sixteen, You don't waste time chasing
• 59:22
  after people who do not show you the respect and consideration that you deserve.
• 59:29
  You are known to have a very low tolerance for that kind of bs.
• 59:34
  Okay, how do you know you deserve respect and consideration from others? Well,
• 59:37
  what does respect mean to her? Who knows? I mean, well,
• 59:42
  I can guess, I'm not I'm not ashamed to take a guess.
• 59:45
  I'm okay with being wrong if it turns out to be the case. But
• 59:47
  it seems to me that whenever you hear women talking about how they deserve respect,
• 59:52
  it's not respect, it's just abject blind praise. Because respect is something
• 59:58
  that women that people just women. It's something that is earned. The only
• 1:00:04
  thing that you you might like, you know, would it would be a
• 1:00:07
  good idea for people to get, is courtesy. But that's not respect,
• 1:00:10
  that's courtesy. So people don't owe you respect or consideration aside from politeness,
• 1:00:19
  like they don't even know you politeness. They just owe you neutrality. Okay,
• 1:00:22
  you do. You don't come into the room deserving anything from anyone,
• 1:00:28
  yep, And it's not alpha to demand it. It's actually it's actually pretty
• 1:00:31
  weak sauce, like why don't you respect me? Well, you haven't earned
• 1:00:37
  it? Why should I give me a reason? Is? This is the
• 1:00:43
  infuriating thing. What do they mean when they say respect women or respect women?
• 1:00:46
  What do they respect them? They mean? Listen to them? Do
• 1:00:50
  they what are they praising? That's what I'm saying. What are they praising?
• 1:00:54
  Their existent? They just praise the fact that you you who are a
• 1:01:00
  being? Because I guess that no longer we can't praise the boobs and the
• 1:01:05
  uterus because that's that sense. So we're just praising the fact. Oh you
• 1:01:09
  identify as a woman, praise be yep? Do you not even yep?
• 1:01:19
  What is this? Okay? I identify as a woman. Please give me
• 1:01:23
  the respect and consideration that I do. But you not do it? Okay?
• 1:01:30
  Yeah? Do they know something we don't? They live by a woman?
• 1:01:35
  What does a woman know? Jesus? Oh? What is a woman?
• 1:01:39
  How can you do? You have no definition of what a woman is?
• 1:01:43
  How can you know what a woman knows? Alright? A woman?
• 1:01:46
  All right? Um? Number let you see number seventeen. You have strong
• 1:01:55
  and well developed political views. You often take political action to further causes you
• 1:02:00
  care about. Well, and that doesn't include you, Alison, I'm sorry.
• 1:02:05
  Like caring about men, that's not one of the things. You have
• 1:02:07
  to be mad and wear a pussy hat and rant about Rovie Wade or rape
• 1:02:12
  culture. Transphobic yet? Is it transphobic? Yet? I think they're transphobic?
• 1:02:19
  This sounds kind of yeah, because you're talking about women. Well,
• 1:02:22
  this whole thing start off transphobic. Shame on? You're right, yeah,
• 1:02:27
  this must be a t okay. I think i'd like to be a woman.
• 1:02:32
  Um do you remember that Monty Python? Remember that? Yes? Okay,
• 1:02:37
  prescient they are? Yeah, really it's prophetic in fact. Um,
• 1:02:44
  all right, let me see has there been no Okay, guys, give
• 1:02:46
  us some love, man, send us a super chow or um, you
• 1:02:52
  know, maybe support the fundraiser. Every little bit helps and then leave us
• 1:02:57
  a comment. Let us know you guys think about this list so far are
• 1:03:00
  If you want to look at it yourself, you can go to the link
• 1:03:01
  in the description. Just be warned. For some reason, this website loves
• 1:03:07
  ads, which is why I haven't been strolling and just reading from them from
• 1:03:13
  a copy pasted list. So anyway, and feed thebadgeer dot com forward slash
• 1:03:19
  just the tip to send a superchow or feed the badger dot com forward slash
• 1:03:22
  support. Yeah, that's the other thing, Like this is not this.
• 1:03:28
  This list isn't a list that's going to make any woman's life better. In
• 1:03:31
  fact, I would guarantee it's the opposite. It's just a list to keep
• 1:03:35
  your eyeballs on there to sell your shit. Yeah, and it's also a
• 1:03:38
  really good way to drive men away because like if they if they see that,
• 1:03:44
  even though you know she's claiming I'm an alpha woman, an alpha bitch
• 1:03:47
  or whatever she it sounds extremely high maintenance. So it's ironic because you know,
• 1:03:55
  um, on the one hand, oh, I'm an alpha woman,
• 1:03:59
  look at all these look at all these positive qualities. But a man will
• 1:04:01
  look at that and say, why is there a list? What do you
• 1:04:06
  expecting from me? It's not even just not the high maintenance thing. Okay,
• 1:04:13
  my dog is winding up, so I'm gonna have to deal with that.
• 1:04:15
  But I just wanted because he's a little high maintenance. He's a little
• 1:04:17
  high strung. It's like the dog version of a cross rocket. Um.
• 1:04:21
  But what I wanted to say to this is it's not just high maintenance.
• 1:04:27
  It is she doesn't seem to be aware that other minds exist aside from hers.
• 1:04:32
  If this is a person and not just AI generated salestock copy, you
• 1:04:40
  know, yeah, because that that's actually sort of creepy. Maybe we're maybe
• 1:04:45
  we're She strikes me as somebody that's going to like always like compete with her
• 1:04:51
  man and men don't want that compete and simultaneously expect service. Yeah, and
• 1:05:00
  that's basically somebody who I mean, at the same time as she expects him
• 1:05:04
  to have the achievements necessary to compensate for all of her frailties, she will
• 1:05:09
  resent him and compete with him for those achievements, which is just it's just
• 1:05:14
  a recipe for misery. Yep, okay, ye, all right, are
• 1:05:19
  you go deal with the dog? Nope? Husband, did it all right?
• 1:05:24
  Jonathan did it all right? Number eighteen. You have more willpower and
• 1:05:32
  determination than most people. You may even be accused of bulldozing others on occasion.
• 1:05:38
  You mean being a bitch. What do you mean by bulldozing other like
• 1:05:44
  you know, like like you won't say it in my way, or you
• 1:05:46
  won't link. There's a link. Maybe we can find out. Oh yeah,
• 1:05:50
  let's see. Let's see. Hold on, I will scroll down to
• 1:05:55
  what is that? Oh, healthy relationships? Don't be a bulldozer. Don't
• 1:06:00
  be a bulldozer? Oh accused of? Yeah? Okay, so this is
• 1:06:05
  what she thinks she's been accused of. Have you ever met a bulldozer?
• 1:06:09
  I mean a dominating personality type who tried to get their way in bulldoze over
• 1:06:13
  you. Have you ever been a bulldozer to someone else? I'm sure if
• 1:06:15
  you're like me, you can answer yes to both of these questions. Remember
• 1:06:18
  how it feels to be bulldozed over by another person. You feel a bit
• 1:06:21
  violated, disrespected, ignored, and dehumanized. It's not a very nice feeling,
• 1:06:27
  nor does it endear you to the person. Okay, so this is
• 1:06:31
  basically a unisex conversation, like a unisex blog post on not being an abusive
• 1:06:39
  asshole, and she is saying that that's what she's referring to. So let's
• 1:06:43
  put it in its proper context. You have more willpower and determination than most
• 1:06:48
  people. In other words, you're more willing to get violent and abusive to
• 1:06:54
  get what you want. Ye, you may even be accused of bulldozing others,
• 1:06:58
  so being violent abusive towards others on occasion. All right, So this
• 1:07:02
  is basically at this point we're talking about being an ours whole. Yeah,
• 1:07:11
  I mean like you like Basically she's saying you may even be accused of bulldozing
• 1:07:15
  others, which is basically to say that it's undeserved someone. Yeah, it's
• 1:07:21
  yes, And she's linking to something talking about don't do this. Yes,
• 1:07:27
  and it's it's it's gender neutral. It's not even pointing out men or women.
• 1:07:30
  It's just an article about being mindful of well, okay, being mindful
• 1:07:35
  of the people around you and your effect on them. No wonder she hates
• 1:07:39
  it, so God forbid she'd be aware of other people. Yeah, but
• 1:07:45
  don't forget Okay, you don't apologize when you're not sorry. No, you
• 1:07:49
  don't like to conform around those around you. But those are good qualities,
• 1:07:55
  and you should are being of bulldozing. Okay, lady, you don't even
• 1:08:00
  deserve a plant. No, no, you don't. No, not even
• 1:08:05
  like one of those plants. It's like so easy to go. We need
• 1:08:10
  a scale, you know, we need a scale for women that goes from
• 1:08:16
  you don't deserve a man if you're not like And the reason why I say
• 1:08:21
  that is, if you're going to have contempt for masculinity and the male identity
• 1:08:27
  and what men bring to a relationship, why should you be in a relationship
• 1:08:30
  with one. Maybe you just don't like those things. Some people don't like
• 1:08:34
  chocolate. Those people are freaks and deserve to die. But you know that
• 1:08:39
  that is a preference. Um, that's okay, you just don't want it
• 1:08:43
  in your life, that's fine, okay. If the problem comes when you
• 1:08:46
  have that level of contempt and judgment towards men, when you think things like,
• 1:08:50
  oh, men construct a society for their own benefit at the expensive women
• 1:08:55
  another that other anti human trash, when you mostly directed that men, when
• 1:09:00
  you think things like men's againities are toxic or whatever. Else. When you
• 1:09:04
  behave in this way towards men and you still want a relationship with one,
• 1:09:09
  therein is a problem, Like why don't you just become a lesbian separatist and
• 1:09:13
  go off in your commune and leave live doing whatever lesbian separatists do, probably
• 1:09:17
  killing each other, and just leave men alone, right, Or if you
• 1:09:25
  just don't like masculinity because you just don't like masculinity. There's certain parts of
• 1:09:29
  masculinity I will never fucking understand, like jacked up trucks and blaring goddamn country
• 1:09:36
  music at two. Ye I guess you shouldn't come here. Yeah, I
• 1:09:43
  won't ever go to virgisn. He's more interested in getting a truck than I
• 1:09:46
  am. She's like, I want to get it better. Yeah, yes,
• 1:09:49
  that's fine. I don't understand it. I probably never will. But
• 1:09:54
  luckily there's all kinds of other masculinities to appreciate. And if you don't appreciate
• 1:09:59
  any of it, that's fine. Go be a lesbian, not in a
• 1:10:00
  lesbian separatist community, which means you're more likely to actually enjoy your life with
• 1:10:04
  your elisabian partner. But regardless, I'm talking about the women, and the
• 1:10:11
  women who have absolute contempt for men's identity, who talk about toxic masculinity and
• 1:10:15
  patriarchy and rape culture and all of that other jazz which is just virulent hatred
• 1:10:21
  towards men's identity and masculinity and men, and yet still want a relationship with
• 1:10:27
  one just don't. Okay, So we need what I was getting at,
• 1:10:31
  is we need to scale from. You do not deserve a man, and
• 1:10:35
  this is just for the women who want one but apparently have utter contempt for
• 1:10:40
  them too. You don't deserve a fucking plant to maybe you don't deserve your
• 1:10:44
  intestinal parasites. For God's sake, I feel sorry for your tape worm.
• 1:10:50
  You know, we need not even that pet if you want you freaking tape
• 1:10:58
  word. Yeah, you don't even deserve a tape worm. Um. This
• 1:11:02
  woman has moved past you don't deserve a plant. Yeah, she's starting to
• 1:11:08
  move into like I feel sorry for your tape worm territory. Okay, I
• 1:11:14
  do. I do feel sorry for your tapeworm. Um. I don't know,
• 1:11:18
  Like, I don't know if they really like ho hoes that much.
• 1:11:21
  But uh, And when I say ho hoes, I'm not talking about the
• 1:11:25
  woman. I'm talking about the snack. Consider. I'm consider what this woman
• 1:11:30
  is likely ingesting and and the level of cortisol in her blood stream. My
• 1:11:35
  god, that the level of cortisol in this woman's bloodstream would fry a tape
• 1:11:40
  worm. Yeah, oh, okay. Number nineteen. You don't mind spending
• 1:11:45
  time alone. You value and enjoy your own company. Good, because that's
• 1:11:51
  all you deserve. M what Oh God, just get to number two just
• 1:12:00
  like that. I mean, I don't get how that's an alpha trait um.
• 1:12:03
  Number twenty Yeah, well, I mean I'm like that. I can
• 1:12:09
  you know, I can be happy by myself for periods of time. Yeah,
• 1:12:13
  me too. Number twenty. You don't engage in jealousy. It doesn't
• 1:12:15
  suit you. Oh, somebody's somebody's a side chick. Somebody's going after the
• 1:12:25
  alpha, the alpha, not just a side piece, like multiple side dishes,
• 1:12:30
  like the man has gotta go to buffet plate and she's just one item.
• 1:12:38
  Um. Yeah, this is the Yeah, I'm this is what I'm
• 1:12:41
  sensing from this. Yeah, it does. You don't engage in un Oh
• 1:12:45
  no, I didn't send you. I thought you said, okay, no,
• 1:12:49
  don't worry about it. So, yeah, you don't engage in jealousy.
• 1:12:55
  Number twenty one. You've been accused of being stubborn. No, you've
• 1:12:58
  been accused of being stubborn. It's very difficult to change your mind once it's
• 1:13:01
  been made up. So you're hardheaded. What if like, what if they're
• 1:13:09
  trying to save you from yourself? What does that even mean? I'm stubborn,
• 1:13:14
  that's not How is that alpha female shit? How many women are willing
• 1:13:19
  to change our mind? How many women are willing to admit that they're wrong?
• 1:13:24
  Do you realize how hard that is not just for women but for most
• 1:13:27
  people. Yeah, Like that's actually really that's sort of you know. What's
• 1:13:33
  really interesting is this attitude that I've had to cultivate, and again, I'm
• 1:13:39
  going to just appeal to writing a story attitude that I've had to cultivate where
• 1:13:44
  I accept criticism and have a tantrum about it, integrate it, and just
• 1:13:51
  keep moving despite the fact that when you receive criticism, you feel like you're
• 1:13:57
  doing something stupid and dumb, and you just like, should I continue to
• 1:14:02
  be doing stupid and dumb things? Should I just give up and do something
• 1:14:08
  that's more productive? And so you have to hold on to that feeling like
• 1:14:12
  you're actually doing something of worth while allowing that it's not doesn't have that much
• 1:14:17
  worth, you know what I mean. It's a really it is a very
• 1:14:20
  painful situation to work through. Writing is okay When when a writer says that
• 1:14:28
  writing is like opening a vein, they're not fucking kidding. It is if
• 1:14:33
  you want to write crap, it's fun. But if you actually want to
• 1:14:38
  write something for people, holy shit, it is a painful process. It
• 1:14:45
  is absolutely excruciating. And again you have to you have to be simultaneously willing
• 1:14:48
  to take criticism but at the same time not let it batter you into a
• 1:14:53
  sense of despair. So you have to be stubborn as fuck. You know.
• 1:15:00
  Honestly, I think everything that I've experienced sort of led me up to
• 1:15:03
  this point. Um, because I am a stubborn person, Like I am
• 1:15:09
  bullheaded, I am sort of like, um, I don't try not to
• 1:15:15
  waste time chasing after people who don't have an interest. Yeah, you know,
• 1:15:21
  you know, I'm like, there's there's some aspects of this list that
• 1:15:25
  I am. But at the same time, as I try to take criticism,
• 1:15:32
  it's sometimes very difficult. Yeah, sure, I get it. We
• 1:15:35
  all struggle with that. Yeah, And and I try to think about how
• 1:15:41
  other people feel. Yeah, you know, I mean me, Me and
• 1:15:45
  the dog Scipio. We we've we've there's been some rough patches because he's had
• 1:15:53
  he's he's really he really is high energy, you know, and he's got
• 1:15:59
  these dryis that are very powerful to chase, to neutralize things and to respond
• 1:16:04
  to stuff because he's he's a he's a shepherd and that's what they do.
• 1:16:10
  Yeah, and he's unbelievable memory for things. So sometimes it feels like it's
• 1:16:15
  a constant struggle with him. And you know, yesterday I had to sit
• 1:16:19
  and really think about things and about how he's experiencing this. So I went
• 1:16:26
  into the room and he was sort of looking depressed, and he'd been having
• 1:16:29
  trouble eating for a bit, and I was worried about him, and I
• 1:16:31
  said, you know, And it was after we'd had sort of a stressful
• 1:16:34
  walk where literally every dog in the town was joined ape shit for some reason.
• 1:16:40
  And then he was he was like on the edge and he barked at
• 1:16:45
  a girl who was skipping rope, and so we were I don't know,
• 1:16:51
  well she she she stopped skipping rope and started hitting the fence, So I
• 1:16:56
  don't know. She's a rural girl, so maybe maybe didn't even phase her.
• 1:17:00
  Yeah, And he was on leash scares off coyotes or whatever you guys
• 1:17:03
  get up there. Perhaps she probably has like a sling shot to scare off
• 1:17:09
  coyotes. Yeah, but um, And also we were going past in the
• 1:17:13
  alley and someone was pl like a bunch of boys were planking a a used
• 1:17:17
  or an old refrigerator. So it's just like they're shooting it with like a
• 1:17:20
  bby guy. It was making a weird sound that he was making them nervous.
• 1:17:25
  So it was a rough day, a rough a rough walk. And
• 1:17:29
  I knew that, yeah, and I knew that well, you know.
• 1:17:33
  And the other thing is that rural women tend to have a higher level of
• 1:17:35
  masculinity and stoicism than urban women. Yeah, toxic masculinity thing is basically like
• 1:17:44
  elite you know, Manhattan City attitude. Yes, it's not just towards boys,
• 1:17:50
  it towards rural people. And it's even towards like, yeah, it's
• 1:17:55
  even towards like, um, black women who tend to have more masculine traits.
• 1:17:59
  Sure, you know, And I'm not saying that as a negative because
• 1:18:03
  god damn, I wish I had that kind of uh musculature. Yeah,
• 1:18:10
  just like really well developed shoulders, like athletic black women. Holy shit,
• 1:18:17
  Timothy oliphant Um, I think that's attractive, but I know other people might
• 1:18:23
  not. But anyway, so that that that condemnation of toxic masculinity you know,
• 1:18:29
  it hits masculine women, probably hits black women because it encourages that that
• 1:18:33
  kind of attitude towards masculine people. And then and where was I coming with
• 1:18:40
  this? So I was on this walk with a dog, and you know,
• 1:18:43
  I'm being really critical, highly critical because I'm highly critical period. And
• 1:18:47
  he looked and we got home and he looked depressed on the on the bed,
• 1:18:51
  and I'm like, you know, I need to think about this from
• 1:18:55
  his point of view. He's trying, you know, and he doesn't understand
• 1:19:00
  and how to act in these circumstances that I'm putting him in. So maybe
• 1:19:03
  he's stressed by the fact he doesn't know what he's supposed to do. And
• 1:19:06
  he says new and so I'm like, you know, I'm gonna I'm gonna
• 1:19:11
  try to protect. So I went into the room and I said, you
• 1:19:14
  know, you're a really good boy. Yeah, you're You're a great dog.
• 1:19:19
  You're a good boy. And I swear that dog. You know,
• 1:19:23
  the ears went back, not not not in a negative way, but you
• 1:19:27
  know that way that they have when they're they're feeling really submissive or yeah,
• 1:19:30
  I know, you know, and they want to be petted or cuddled and
• 1:19:36
  his eyes just grew huge. Oh yeah, just huge and sort of watery,
• 1:19:45
  not watery, but like you know what I mean. And he just
• 1:19:47
  he just he started to do that thing that dogs do when they get you
• 1:19:49
  know, they start to lick and and try to they go up underneath your
• 1:19:56
  chin against your chest, you know what I'm talking about, and I start
• 1:19:59
  licking, yeah, and he's he's just like I'm like, oh, it
• 1:20:03
  was just such an instantaneous change. Yeah. It's like, well that comes
• 1:20:08
  from being somebody who's got these really high standards, you know, and I
• 1:20:12
  really want him to achieve these high standards, but at the same time not
• 1:20:15
  paying attention to how they're affecting him. Then sitting down and thinking, okay,
• 1:20:18
  well how is this affecting him? You know, and yeah, really
• 1:20:23
  thinking about it, and then trying to extend myself to understand and I don't
• 1:20:28
  think this person doesn't always see his justifications for not caring about others. Yeah,
• 1:20:33
  and then calling that, you know, alpha behavior, which is like,
• 1:20:38
  well you don't you don't seem to understand, like you know, like
• 1:20:42
  what what what that looks like? If no? Yeah, any well,
• 1:20:46
  basically it's like I said, about men too, Like when when men say
• 1:20:49
  that they're alpha, it's like, if you have to say it, then
• 1:20:51
  you're not. So you know that you like it, doesn't it's not something
• 1:20:56
  that you need to share with everyone. Hey, by the way, guys
• 1:21:01
  that you know, I'm an alpha male. The same thing with women.
• 1:21:04
  If you have to say it, then no, that's probably not true about
• 1:21:08
  you. Well look at it this way, Um, was not the dog.
• 1:21:14
  I mean, I hate to use the word. I really don't like
• 1:21:16
  using alpha beta for anything. Yeah, I know I don't either. I
• 1:21:19
  generally don't, but go ahead, Yeah, she's using it. Yeah,
• 1:21:25
  but you know when when when I did that for Scipio, when I understood
• 1:21:29
  where he was coming from and I recognized it, you know, and he
• 1:21:33
  offered that kind of I guess trusting submission, you know, does not not
• 1:21:41
  make me an alpha quote unquote you know and be my experienced Yeah, well,
• 1:21:48
  a good dog does have to act like a pack leader. Um,
• 1:21:53
  you know, otherwise the dogs will h they'll they'll try to like be the
• 1:21:58
  leader. So you do have to do that, but generally it's not that's
• 1:22:01
  like I don't know, that's different. That's about ownership, I guess dogs
• 1:22:04
  do want to please their owners as long as their owners are the leaders are
• 1:22:09
  pleasable. Yes, yeah, And but my overall point is that he's coming
• 1:22:14
  from this position when and this is a really smart dog, like insanely smart,
• 1:22:18
  and he's coming from a position where he's thinking he's he's unappreciated or he's
• 1:22:25
  not doing it right, and I'm telling him he is. And then he's
• 1:22:28
  offering instead of that kind of guarded you know, you know when dogs are
• 1:22:31
  sort of guarded. And then instead he's offering me this this kind of overt
• 1:22:36
  submission and submissive what they call submissive things. Because I recognized how he was
• 1:22:44
  feeling. And I think that this woman does not really understand the nature of
• 1:22:48
  what it is to be a leader in a species that's highly emotional, highly
• 1:22:54
  cooperative and integrated. Because I guarantee, like, if she's not unable to
• 1:22:59
  understand dan how people feel or creatures feel, or that there are other minds
• 1:23:03
  than our own, then she's no leader. Yep, yeah, exactly exactly.
• 1:23:12
  Jojo is really smart too. Just as an aside about it, anyway,
• 1:23:17
  all right, let's I'm speaking of dogs. I do have something I
• 1:23:20
  want to share. It's an image I think you'll like, but I'm gonna
• 1:23:26
  do it at the end. So because we're almost at the end, all
• 1:23:30
  right, let me see. You feel as though the spotlight is usually on
• 1:23:34
  you, whether you have asked for it or not. You gross? What
• 1:23:39
  do you again? Like if you if like how many people just think the
• 1:23:43
  spotlight is on them? What does that even mean? But like, what
• 1:23:45
  if you're just delusional? What if you think it but it's not true?
• 1:23:51
  You know, like you feel as though the spotlight is usually on you suggests
• 1:23:56
  that you're the only person that thinks that's happening. That's just narcissism. Number
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  twenty three. You're often the instigator in a new relationship. You're more comfortable
• 1:24:09
  pursuing a love interest in waiting for them to make the first move. As
• 1:24:14
  alpha woman. Chi Chima, wait Chima what? Ch Amanda Adici wrote quote
• 1:24:23
  of course I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who
• 1:24:27
  will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest
• 1:24:30
  in. End quote, Well, I guess I mean, like, could
• 1:24:38
  you imagine if men frames Oh yeah, let's okay. So uh Chris wrote,
• 1:24:47
  of course I'm not worried about intimidating women. The type of woman who
• 1:24:51
  would be intimidated by me is exactly the type of woman I have no interest
• 1:24:56
  in. It's like, to every woman who were Jackson, you're just intimidated.
• 1:25:00
  By way. When women are intimidating to men, it shows their girl
• 1:25:04
  bossness powers. But women, it's rape culture and they should be arrested.
• 1:25:12
  Okay, but like, literally, could you like it must be really convenient
• 1:25:15
  to say that everybody, every man who rejects you is intimidated by you because
• 1:25:19
  you're just too awesome. Every woman rejects me is just too intimidated my eyes,
• 1:25:29
  he's too awesome. Oh god, this deserves this attitude, deserves to
• 1:25:35
  be laughed at you. This is so cringe, man. This The beginning
• 1:25:41
  of this is fine, good if you're interested in man, pursue him,
• 1:25:45
  so what good? Good on you. That's good, make that agency,
• 1:25:48
  Make make an effort. But the second half is like, so, oh,
• 1:25:54
  if if I get rejected, it's because I'm intimidating. Yeah, a
• 1:25:59
  woman checks me, it's because she's too intimidated by my sit masklin, I'm
• 1:26:05
  just way too awesome for her. You can't Yeah, actually, yeah,
• 1:26:11
  Actually that would be okay. I think if it's just your way of overcoming
• 1:26:15
  the pain of having been rejected, then you don't genuinely believe it, like
• 1:26:21
  you don't you don't think that a man is some kow immoral because that's the
• 1:26:27
  framework here, because they're not just saying that this man is intimidated or they're
• 1:26:33
  they're essentially saying that any man who rejects them is how is morally illegitimate.
• 1:26:41
  They're part of the bad people who get who are intimidated by strong women who
• 1:26:45
  are bad men. It's like, I can understand it. They're just like,
• 1:26:50
  you know, he just doesn't appreciate my awesomeness, And I can understand
• 1:26:55
  of a man she just doesn't appreciate my awesomeness. But to turned it into
• 1:27:00
  he has a moral failing for rejecting me, No, that is that is
• 1:27:08
  definitely right b in my opinion, absolutely, Michael jam right away. Yeah,
• 1:27:15
  I mean, and it was. I'm starting to I'm starting to develop
• 1:27:17
  a picture of this person. If a if a partner makes her feel ashamed
• 1:27:21
  for doing something that he wasn't into, that's on him. If a man
• 1:27:29
  rejects her, that's also a moral failing on his part. Yeah, yeah,
• 1:27:34
  this is not Yeah, you're you're I'm feeling sorry for your tapeworm here,
• 1:27:41
  lady, not only should you not be not be allowed to have a
• 1:27:45
  plant, I'm thinking that you shouldn't be allowed to have a tapeworm. Yeah,
• 1:27:50
  okay, fair point, all right, I do have a couple of
• 1:27:54
  super chows. So thank you for that. An anonymous person, I don't
• 1:28:00
  know if you like meant to not give us your name, just sent fifty
• 1:28:03
  dollars and did not add any comment. So thank you for that, and
• 1:28:14
  thank you anonymous person. And Deadly do Right gives us ten dollars and says
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  lifted trucks are a cultural thing. They are mainly about the ability to drive
• 1:28:21
  in almost any conditions or terrain. It is also a sexual signal that these
• 1:28:26
  guys have either disposable income, mechanical skills, or both. Plus it's an
• 1:28:30
  expression of men's drive to constantly test and improve. They are trying to make
• 1:28:34
  a more capable machine and be able to drive it into tougher conditions and come
• 1:28:39
  out the other side. Thank you, ned do Right. I know I
• 1:28:43
  do like I do like trucks like I didn't when I lived in Chicago because
• 1:28:46
  it was impractical. But now that I'm here in Virginia, pickups do look
• 1:28:51
  pretty appealing, like Ford, you know, like like well whatever Ford's Dodges,
• 1:28:57
  whatever I do, I do like them because you know they're expensive,
• 1:29:01
  so yeah, and it's expensive, but also I maintain that, you know,
• 1:29:05
  I'm interested in something else. Um, and that's okay. Like,
• 1:29:10
  not every woman has to like every type, every expression of masculinity, just
• 1:29:15
  like every man doesn't have to like every woman. And if a woman isn't
• 1:29:19
  interested, if a woman isn't interested in masculinity is fine as as long as
• 1:29:24
  she's fine with other women God's speed. People shouldn't have to do or like
• 1:29:30
  things they don't want to do or like. But on the other hand,
• 1:29:33
  if you are interested in a relationship with a man, get the fucking chip
• 1:29:40
  off your shoulder about masculinity. And like, I'm not saying that this is
• 1:29:45
  a bad type of masculinity. I'm just saying that it it's not. It's
• 1:29:50
  not the masculinity that appeals to me, that's all I think. No,
• 1:29:59
  it's fine, I get it. I mean it's not for everybody. Number
• 1:30:02
  twenty that was number twenty three. I'm sorry. Number twenty four. You
• 1:30:06
  see obstacles as stepping stones rather than as roadblocks. I mean, that's not
• 1:30:14
  terrible advice. Sure, yeah, put up the cat, hang in there,
• 1:30:18
  fluffy kids, hang in there. Number that was number twenty four,
• 1:30:26
  Number twenty five. Whether you're making a speech at an academic conference or telling
• 1:30:30
  a story at the company Christmas party, you know how to get and keep
• 1:30:33
  the attention of a crowd. Oh good lord, So everybody who's afraid of
• 1:30:39
  making speeches need not apply. Yeah, all right, this is this is
• 1:30:43
  like a weird amalgamation of girl boss shit, victimization, shit, inability to
• 1:30:53
  recognize that men have their own minds and kind of you win. You imagine
• 1:31:00
  might be on a list for alpha male, which often is just as cringey
• 1:31:04
  as this, Except the only thing that doesn't make these the alpha male lists
• 1:31:10
  as cringey as this is because they generally don't play the victim. Yeah,
• 1:31:15
  and there's generally some kind of implicit acknowledgment that men that women have the right
• 1:31:18
  to offer or offer or withdraw consent without being immoral. Yeah. And also
• 1:31:26
  I think alpha males, like guys who claimed to be alpha males, they
• 1:31:30
  have to demonstrate it, otherwise they're discredited. Women don't They can just say,
• 1:31:34
  you know, like gorlocked a destroyer and if you know, but um
• 1:31:39
  gorlocked a destroyer. Some people might know was on the Whatever podcast and was
• 1:31:45
  basically just like I'm a ten and it's a vibe and you know, like
• 1:31:48
  you just if you know it, you know it. It was just a
• 1:31:50
  bunch of like BS sentiments, and um, you know what I was thinking,
• 1:31:55
  like, well, I guess I guess we don't need evidence of anything,
• 1:31:58
  like you're just telling us you're amazing and men just want you. So
• 1:32:02
  yeah. Um, and if she really was like leaning into the gore loock
• 1:32:09
  the destroyer, that could be interesting. Yeah you know well, I mean
• 1:32:14
  it certainly would. It's like it's like raising, it's like playing on expert
• 1:32:18
  or legendary. Yeah, it's you know, like speed running on legendary difficulty.
• 1:32:27
  Um. But yeah. Anyway, so these those sort of claims are
• 1:32:32
  they just seem kind of empty because no one's gonna say, you know,
• 1:32:35
  you need to make good on all this because they would only do that with
• 1:32:39
  men. That's why that's why, you know, um, I think that
• 1:32:43
  men are less likely to make those claims. Number twenty five. Oh no,
• 1:32:47
  I already read that one number twenty six. You get you set very
• 1:32:51
  ambitious goals for yourself, and you nearly always reach them. You truly believe
• 1:32:57
  you can accomplish anything. I think that if you're setting those, um,
• 1:33:03
  are you having any issues with my sound? No? Why? Okay,
• 1:33:08
  because they would you want a little bit robot. But maybe maybe that was
• 1:33:10
  just on me. Um, if you're setting but like it didn't do it
• 1:33:15
  since Okay, if you're setting such ambitious yeah, it's probably discord fucker.
• 1:33:20
  I thought we had that resolve, but whatever. Um okay, So if
• 1:33:26
  you have these ambitious goals and you're actually achieving them, they're probably not that
• 1:33:31
  ambitious. Yeah, they're probably not ambitious enough, right, That's what I
• 1:33:34
  was saying. You know. There's what's really interesting is that when you listen
• 1:33:40
  to guys who have I've achieved stuff, they often talk about dealing with failure,
• 1:33:48
  you know, and how to manage those kinds of negative emotions. None
• 1:33:55
  of that is in here. No, there's no practical inform nation about being
• 1:34:00
  an achiever. Yeah. No, I mean it's always self affirmation stuff.
• 1:34:10
  Well, that that's the that's the innocent stuff. That's the stuff we can
• 1:34:13
  put mister snuffles up. You know. The disturbing stuff is the stuff would
• 1:34:17
  suggests that this this individual thinks it's alpha not to regard other people as having
• 1:34:23
  minds. M h okay, let's let's do this all right? Almost done
• 1:34:30
  here? Yeah? Number twenty seven, the last one. You find it
• 1:34:33
  easy to love and respect others because of the deep sense of love and respect
• 1:34:38
  that you have for yourself. Oh, red flag, I mean like loving
• 1:34:44
  yourself. Okay. I know that there are people who would say, well,
• 1:34:46
  why why shouldn't you do that? I don't think it's quite the right
• 1:34:50
  way to put it. I think that we should have a sense of our
• 1:34:55
  self worth, right, But I don't know that when when I hear people
• 1:35:00
  say, you know that you should have a deep sense of love and respect
• 1:35:03
  for yourself, you know, it makes me make that face like like,
• 1:35:14
  I'm starting to think that you are the most important person in your life by
• 1:35:19
  far, so what are you doing for anyone else? And then you say,
• 1:35:25
  well, it's easy for me to love other people because I love me.
• 1:35:30
  I don't know, I'm just saying maybe I'm maybe I'm off base,
• 1:35:34
  but oh god, yeah, you find it easy to love and respect others
• 1:35:42
  because of the deep sense. And yet you don't really give a sense that
• 1:35:45
  people have the right to reject you, either sexually or socially. You don't
• 1:35:50
  give a sense that you understand that it's not your feeling sorry, But whether
• 1:35:56
  or not you're wrong is the issue. When you should apologize, yep.
• 1:36:01
  And also you think that you intimidate men and that if you do that,
• 1:36:04
  these men are not worthy of your acknowledgement. So how is it easy for
• 1:36:11
  you to love other people? Do they have to be as self centered as
• 1:36:14
  you are? I bet that would actually create enemies. I don't know.
• 1:36:20
  I have a doubt that this twenty seven really is because the thing is that
• 1:36:27
  when you allow people to affect you, you have to recognize that you might
• 1:36:31
  have a flaw. And that's not loving and really respecting yourself. I mean,
• 1:36:36
  it may be respecting yourself enough to actually change. I mean I could
• 1:36:42
  have just said that, you know, I'm not the one who's doing it
• 1:36:45
  wrong. The dog is you know. When I extended myself to understand that
• 1:36:49
  maybe the way that I was approaching it was overbearing and he was feeling depressed
• 1:36:55
  because of that, I had to accept that I was flawed. How do
• 1:36:58
  you accept that you're flawed when you're just giving yourself universal love and respect?
• 1:37:03
  Now, maybe like, maybe you can do that. It says, your
• 1:37:05
  universal love and respect for yourself allow you to accept that you might not be
• 1:37:11
  doing the best thing that you are doing at the moment. That I think
• 1:37:15
  that's the real question. Can you Can you appreciate yourself while accepting your flaws?
• 1:37:20
  Very difficult, But if you can't, then you're not really safe to
• 1:37:28
  be around others because you won't be able to change to accommodate their needs.
• 1:37:36
  Yeah, you don't even deserve a tapeworm lady. No, No, okay,
• 1:37:41
  all right till there is like a little like danum at the end of
• 1:37:45
  this. Yeah, okay, so it's another quote, uh quote. After
• 1:37:50
  all these years as a woman hearing not thin enough, not pretty enough,
• 1:37:55
  not smart enough, not this enough, not that enough, almost overnight I
• 1:37:59
  woke up one more and thought, I'm enough. Declared alpha female Anna what
• 1:38:05
  owenden Owenland. An alpha woman knows she is enough in the face of a
• 1:38:11
  world that constantly tells her she isn't, and still she strives to become greater.
• 1:38:15
  She realizes that she alone carries the power to define herself. Wow,
• 1:38:21
  those are some really superficial things that you're worried about. Yeah, right enough.
• 1:38:27
  Not that weird that an alpha would be so worried about other people like
• 1:38:30
  opinions about her, well her, not just not opinions, but the difference
• 1:38:38
  is her effect on others versus their opinions of her. There's a difference there.
• 1:38:43
  Yeah, right, like you, if you care about how you're affecting
• 1:38:46
  others, you may not necessarily care too much about their opinion like us.
• 1:38:53
  An anecdote there was a Buddhist teacher who had a student who was being very
• 1:38:58
  aggressive to the other students, and he would defend that him and say,
• 1:39:02
  well, you know you got to you gotta give love unkindness. Until one
• 1:39:05
  day the guy just pushed the limit and he stepped The teacher stepped in and
• 1:39:12
  said, no, you can't do this anymore. This is you've given You've
• 1:39:15
  given it, You've been given enough chances. Now you need to leave and
• 1:39:19
  go. Yeah, And the people came to him and said, thank god,
• 1:39:25
  you finally figured out that that was an asshole. And the teacher was
• 1:39:29
  like, no, he's my best friend. I'm We're friends, I care
• 1:39:31
  about him and that when they talked to the man later, he said that
• 1:39:36
  that was the moment he realized he needed to change. So you can care
• 1:39:43
  about someone without being as concerned about their opinion of you. Conversely, you
• 1:39:47
  can compare care not a wit about someone and be very concerned about their opinion
• 1:39:54
  of you, because if they have a good opinion of you, you know,
• 1:39:59
  then you can steal it could be and you can bully them. Yeah,
• 1:40:03
  yeah, you know. You can steal from them. You can bully
• 1:40:06
  them, you can hoodwink them, you can calm them. As long as
• 1:40:09
  their opinion is you is good. You can treat you can secretly treat them
• 1:40:14
  like shit. So um and and everything that here is about people's opinions of
• 1:40:20
  these women thin pretty smart, Okay, those are opinions, ye right,
• 1:40:28
  Not how not how you are These women are treating others. Not about how
• 1:40:31
  they're treating others is how they're perceived by others. So nothing about am I
• 1:40:38
  am I? Lord? Am I honest? Do I have integrity? I
• 1:40:41
  acting consideration? You know? None of that? Just how am I perceived?
• 1:40:47
  Do I have the qualities that give me power over another person? Like
• 1:40:51
  being thinner? Being prettier, being smarter. So right there, they're telling
• 1:40:57
  you all you need to know about their central character. It's all about how
• 1:41:02
  people their opinion of these people, not how they affect people, like how
• 1:41:09
  how these women are seen, not how they affect others. Yep, yeah
• 1:41:15
  that's um interesting. Yeah, yeah, like I would say that I don't
• 1:41:24
  care how thin you are, how pretty you are, how smart you are.
• 1:41:27
  I care about how well you treat others. And sometimes, you know,
• 1:41:31
  we all have lapses, we all could be better about that. But
• 1:41:33
  do you hold your yourself to a standard of understanding others and recognizing that they
• 1:41:41
  have feelings and thoughts that you should be concerned about or care about how you
• 1:41:48
  affect them? Yep, you know, and maybe maybe hold yourself to a
• 1:41:53
  standard of being decent, you know. And that's not there is this this?
• 1:42:00
  This is this is a list that is either you know, mister stuff
• 1:42:03
  akins meaningless like just pop pap, or it is a list that's describing a
• 1:42:13
  rape sociopathic thug. Yes, yes, artist, Uh okay, so do
• 1:42:24
  you have any thankis to give? Is that the end of the artist?
• 1:42:28
  Okay? I will look, yeah, go ahead and check, and then
• 1:42:31
  I want to I want to share this story to like end it like we're
• 1:42:35
  gonna give this a really nice little chaser and this is this is a dogros
• 1:42:41
  story, so uh a pineapple chaser to too. Yeah, get your get
• 1:42:46
  ready because it's hut I mean to me, I imagine awesome. I imagine
• 1:42:54
  the taste of these women is sort of like that that that Bailey taste when
• 1:42:59
  you're sick. Yeah, in the back of your yeah say sort of metallurchy.
• 1:43:06
  All right, um no, I don't have any thank you's to give,
• 1:43:09
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  Com slash just the tip. Yeah, okay, we have a we have
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  some great a great video that I want to do. Um uh it's a
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  it's a classic response video, like we haven't done one of those in a
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  bit. This is a feminist giving her opinion of the men's movement. So
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  oh boys, it's going to be rage inducing. Like she okay, I'll
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  just say this, she is supportive, but we are not qualified to speak
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  on this issue. That's basically what I get from it. So it's not
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  it's it's not. It's far more insidious than just a feminist who hates the
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  men's movement and thinks that they're you know, they're just the people, the
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  first adopters, the people who have kept these issues in the public eye,
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  the people who refuse to back down and refuse to to I don't give up
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  fold, Yeah, who stand up against significant opposition, yep, to not
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  let people ignore this stuff. We are not the ones who are qualified to
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  speak on these issues that we care this much about. Yep. Well,
• 1:44:28
  of course, yeah. Interest. And the best part is is that this
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  is this this woman claims she basically this video comes from FEE, which is
• 1:44:36
  the Foundation for Economic Education, which is a libertarian source. Okay, so
• 1:44:42
  this is not like your typical academic, leftist feminist. This is someone who
• 1:44:46
  claims to be I don't think she is, but she claims to be a
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  libertarian. So we will we will get into that, maybe I don't know,
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  later in the week or something. A Meanwhile, I'll let me share
• 1:45:00
  this with Allison. Uh. This is a little story that I saw.
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  It's a screenshot of a story and here it is. So this is a
• 1:45:10
  service dog that received his master's degree in occupational therapy from Clarkston University after attending
• 1:45:16
  every class with his human. And you see him, he's got his little
• 1:45:21
  graduation cap and his little degree in his mouth. How good is this boy?
• 1:45:30
  That's what I want to know. How good is this boy? Um?
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  Do you see it, Alison? I do? He is? He
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  is the goodest of boys. Uh let me um unleash the dog? Oh
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  yes, uh so, I just you know, I just want to say
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  dogs are awesome. And this one I don't know what his name is,
• 1:45:56
  but let me get a little closer to here and see he's got his he's
• 1:46:00
  got his his accreditation. This is a more legitimate degree than most degrees.
• 1:46:08
  He's got a degree in being a good boy. Yes, he's got he's
• 1:46:12
  got a doctorate and being a good boy. Um So, anyway, I
• 1:46:15
  just wanted to share that. I thought you guys might find that wholesome.
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  And I like how this guy, like the guy who's giving them out,
• 1:46:23
  is applauding the dog, and the dog is just like It's just like,
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  do I deserve that? A very picture, the very picture of amused modesty.
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  Yes, that's right, it is. It is all right. Oh
• 1:46:43
  yeah, so I guess you can like take us out. People are saying,
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  pH dog, Oh yeah, um you I did. Should be okay,
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  feed the Badger dot com slash support, just make sure we can keep
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  bringing you. I would just you know what I think would This is just
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  common sense analysis. Yeah, it's just freaking common sense. You go through
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  and you say, what would we what would we think of men who say
• 1:47:12
  these things? You know, and you just apply it to this list,
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  and you realize at the end of the list you scrape away the woman is
• 1:47:19
  wonderful effect and what you're left with is a goddamn rape psychotic thug. And
• 1:47:28
  the and the thing is that the alpha lists for men, they don't have
• 1:47:33
  that level of sinisterness to them, like the impression that women who reject men
• 1:47:43
  just reject them, you know, not badly, just just say no,
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  are somehow immoral, or that a woman shouldn't be able to shame a man
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  whatever that means if he does something to her sexually that she is an interested
• 1:47:59
  in, because that's you read, you read a little bit between the lines,
• 1:48:01
  and that's what she's saying, or that a man should be able to
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  bulldoze everybody around him and be considered a boss bastard rather than an asshole,
• 1:48:14
  you know, and all of this other stuff just just strip away. The
• 1:48:17
  woman is wonderful effect. And ask yourself, how would a man be viewed
• 1:48:21
  if they asserted these things? Yea, and literally you would say this man
• 1:48:26
  should be around woman or dogs, or cats or tape worms. And I
• 1:48:31
  say yes, And now let us apply that to this woman, yes,
• 1:48:35
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• 1:49:09
  afraid If you want me to, I'll put it in the low bar.
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