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How To Share Your Story With Kate Motaung · She Speaks Life - Christian Women, Strengthen Your Faith, Bible Study, Grow Spiritually In Christ

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apply to your life today. Okay, I'm super excited to have
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with Me author Kate Motong of Share your story, The
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Transforming Power of Telling Others What God Has Done.
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Now, if you've been listening to this podcast for a while, then
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you know that this right here is the purpose of the show.
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It comes straight out of Revelation 12/11.
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And I'm paraphrasing here that we have triumphed over the enemy
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by the blood of Jesus and by the word of our testimony that we
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didn't love our life so much that we shrunk back or were
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afraid to proclaim Jesus is the only way truth in life.
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There is so much power in our story of how God is faithful
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because it not only builds our faith but encourages others that
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they are not alone. And what God did in and through
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us, he can do it for them. I'd love in this episode how
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Kate covers the how, what, why, and when to share our story and
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how nothing is too small or too big to be a voice to help others
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know that God is for them. I love this conversation so
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much. Make sure you hit the links in
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the show notes below and check out her resources that Kate
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offers. Okay.
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Here's my conversation with my guest, Kate Motong.
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Hi Kate, Welcome to She Speaks live.
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I am so excited you have come on this show today.
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Thanks so much for inviting me, Jamie.
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This message, Oh my goodness is the heart of this podcast.
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So as soon as I saw this book that you wrote come out, I'm
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like, Oh my gosh, I gotta have Kate come on here and share her
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story. As to why you wrote this book,
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and it's called Share your story, The Transforming Power of
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Telling Others What God has Done.
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And I just love it because that is the why.
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Behind those podcasts is to share what God has done, his
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faithfulness through a woman's struggles and their experiences,
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and then sharing those encounters that they've had with
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the Lord and how he brought them through.
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So I Without others sharing their stories, I wouldn't have
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this podcast. So I just love that you wrote
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about it to give people the confidence and the clarity that
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they can share their story. So before we dive in deeper to
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this, I would love for you to share your favorite scripture
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verse because I just love how you can get to know somebody so
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much better by just hearing what their life verses.
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Yes, thank you. Well, one passage that really
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became meaningful to me when my mom was dying of cancer over 12
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years ago is from Second Corinthians, chapter 4, verses
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16 through 18. It says therefore we do not lose
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heart, though outwardly we are wasting away.
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Yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day, for our
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light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal
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glory that far outweighs them all.
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So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen,
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since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
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And that is just, you know, became really meaningful to me
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all those years ago when I was literally watching my mom waste
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away outwardly and yet the Lord. Sustained her faith during that
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time. And I could just see that
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inwardly she was being renewed in the midst of her illness.
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And I I would often kind of balk at that part that says for our
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light and momentary troubles. Because I thought, Lord, this
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doesn't feel anything like light or momentary, you know, it feels
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heavy and lingering and it won't end.
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And yet, in the grand scheme of things, our troubles in this
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life are truly light and momentary.
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Compared to what the verse says, the eternal glory that we can
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anticipate. And so just the idea of helping
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me to remember, not to fix my eyes and what is seen, but to
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ask the Lord to help me fix my eyes and what is unseen because
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that is truly what is eternal. I love it.
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And Kate, like, I've got just these goosebumps all over my
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body right now because I just read that scripture verse this
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morning. It it wasn't planned.
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I was just flipping through the book of Second Corinthians and I
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landed on that verse and I read it and I prayed over it and I'm
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looking at the benefits of going through troubles.
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What that means you know that we we glorify God because others
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can see God's power through us in our faith and how they're
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temporary and it's the eternal rewards that we gain far passes
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anything else. And there was five of them and I
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wish I had it right here. But there was 5 benefits in my
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little footnotes that you read at the bottom of your Bible.
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And it really was just some reassurance and some just
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reinforcing that that that is what truly matters, is us fixing
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our eyes on the Lord and not our troubles.
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Because our troubles are nothing but a vapor, right?
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It's just like it passes. And so it's hard to think that
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way when we're going through, like you said, some heavy things
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like that terminal illness or just things that totally turn
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our world upside down. But to really read what God
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promises just gives us that assurance and that comfort that
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we need when we go through trouble.
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So I love that you just shared that, Kate.
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That is so God. That is so God.
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And I even felt like the Holy Spirit said bring your Bible in
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with you. And that's the interview.
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And I could have opened it up and Oh well, so you're an
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author. You are in many publications.
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You have a writing and editing service called Refined Services.
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You host A blog called 5 minute Friday Writing Community and I
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first found out about you because you co-authored with
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Shannon Popkin and I had Shannon Popkin on here and we talked
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about influence building a platform that elevates Jesus and
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not me. And I loved reading like back
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and forth what Shannon said, what you said in the book.
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It was just so good. And then I found out you wrote a
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memoir called A Place to Land, A Story of Longing and Belonging,
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which I'm sure is just fabulous. So today we're going to talk
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about your newest book called Share your story.
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And so how did the Seed get planted in your heart to write a
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book about sharing our story? Yes, it well, as you mentioned,
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I do have a memoir called A Place to Land and this newer
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book Share your story was kind of birthed out of my experience
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in writing that book because in that book I did tell my story of
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moving from Michigan to Cape Town, South Africa, where I met
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my husband and we had our children and.
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I thought I was going to stay in Cape Town for five months and
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ended up living there for 10 1/2 years.
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I came back to Michigan now about 10 years ago with a
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husband and three kids in tow. And during the time that I was
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in South Africa was when my mom was sick with cancer and ended
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up passing away in Michigan. And so the memoir is is sort of
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revolves around the theme of home and asking the question,
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where is my home? And after my mom died, you know,
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she was a believer. Praise the Lord.
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And so the Lord used that to really help me see that I
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shouldn't actually find my true home in this life and in this
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world, whether it's in Michigan or South Africa or anywhere
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else. Because as a believer, our true
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home is with the Lord. And so that's sort of the theme
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of the memoir and. So after that book came out in
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2018, I started doing more speaking on that topic.
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And I didn't want to just go to speaking events and talk more
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about me and my story because they could.
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People could already read it in the book.
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And so I really wanted a message that could be helpful and
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applicable to those who are listening.
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So I tried to talk about some of the benefits that I learned from
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sharing my story and how that can actually help.
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We can use our stories to. Number one, give glory to God
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for what he has done. And #2 hopefully bless and
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encourage other people who may be able to relate or, you know,
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able to find similarities in some way.
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So it was really through speaking on the topic that I
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realized, oh, this is something that people are interested in.
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They want to also share their story, and sometimes either
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they're nervous about it or they feel.
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Uncomfortable Or they don't know where to start or it's
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complicated story and other people are involved and they
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don't know when to share it or where to share it.
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So I just wanted to to put something together, a resource
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that could help guide people answering some of those
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questions. And that's actually how I laid
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out the structure of the book. Was trying to answer those who,
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what, where, when, why questions when it comes to sharing your
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story from a Christian perspective.
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With the goal of giving glory to God so good.
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I know when we share our story it's that feeling like we are
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not alone and what we go through and it's you know stories go all
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the way back in the scripture Bible times.
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I mean a story after story, and we learn through stories and we
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can relate with stories and there's power in our story and
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what God has done through us. And so This is why the podcast
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began, was the Lord had put this idea in my heart, this dream of
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his that said, you know, you're gonna do your own podcast now.
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I listened to a couple podcasts when I go on a walk or a jog.
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But when I got this little inner, you know, tug, those
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prompting in my heart to start one, I'm like, what?
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I have no idea what I'm doing. And then he brought back this
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remembrance of when I first started women's ministry.
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There were women that would come on and share their testimony.
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And I just remember being so impacted by that and just it
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just made God seem so real as I was growing.
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And I'm discovering my personal relationship with Jesus and how
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vulnerable these women were. And I'm just going, Oh my
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goodness, how did they get this courage and this boldness to
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just get on stage and just share the most personal things that
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they had gone through? But just to see and hear
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actually what God did through their life and the
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transformation that happened that only God can do, only God
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can heal, only God can mend that marriage and whatever it is that
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they were sharing. And I just remember being just
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moved by it, even more moved than if somebody was to get up
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there and do this prepared message, you know, and the and
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the the woman's director, you know, coming up and giving a
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prepared message, I'm like, no, no, no, bring those, you know,
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testimonies back on. And the Lord reminded me, this
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is do you remember how much this changed you?
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This is what you're going to do on the podcast.
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And so I love that the heart of what you're sharing and the IT
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really is the transformational power that God can do through
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our stories. And what's incredible too, is
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sometimes we hear stories and this is how incredible a Holy
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Spirit will, will, like, speak to us that maybe like that
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person, demons say that, right? It was just like, you know,
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something that the Holy Spirit was downloading in them through
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our story. But maybe it was, you know, it's
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not even that topic or it's not even something that they're
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talking about. But that's how incredible our
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Lord is, is that he will meet that woman exactly where they
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are in that moment to encourage them and to strengthen them and
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to say, you know, I've got you, we're gonna do this together.
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So I love it. OK, So I know that this is a
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little bit of an issue because I was talking to my daughter at
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the time she was in high school, and she's like, Mom, you have
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all these testimonies and you have all the, you know, stuff to
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share. And so I know she's not alone in
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this. I think a lot of women may
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struggle with not having feeling like they don't have this
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dramatic or exciting story to share.
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So what would you say to that woman to encourage them if
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they're feeling doubtful? Yeah, I think that is very
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common. I do hear that a lot like, oh,
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my story's just boring and my life has always been the same.
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Nothing dramatic has happened to me.
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And yet, for anyone who knows the Lord, I would just encourage
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that person that. If you are a Christian, your
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story is a rescue story. You have been rescued from
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darkness to light, and that is not a small or insignificant
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thing. And so even if you can't
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necessarily pinpoint to your conversion, you know, to the
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moment of your conversion where some of us maybe grew up in a
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Christian home or we went to Sunday school or the Lord.
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Drew us to himself over a period of time.
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It was a slow progression, even. So there was a point when you
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were separated from him and you were his enemy and he plucked
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you out of that state and made you his own.
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And so that that's dramatic, you know, and people think I don't
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have a dramatic story. But actually if we know him,
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it's a dramatic story and I I can't help but think about.
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So many of the popular movies and TV shows and and books today
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like we as consumers love a good rescue story.
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You know, we love it when there is a conflict and a problem and
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someone who kind of swoops in and saves the day and and
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there's a hero at the end and and that is what has happened to
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us. Like that is the story of our
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salvation. And so.
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I would just encourage that person.
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Like if you are in Christ and you belong to him like you do
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have a dramatic and an exciting story.
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And I think sometimes it's easy for us to downplay that or
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minimize that if we don't have a what a lot of people would
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consider to be dramatic. Maybe there was drug addiction
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or, you know, some kind of poor choices that were made and we.
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Our behavior really went from night to day overnight.
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You know, we don't have to have a testimony like that in order
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for it to be powerful or to be used by the Lord.
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Yeah, I know. That's exactly what I told my
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daughter. And I'm like, honey, just give
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it some time, too. You're young and I'm sure you
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don't go through some experiences and I know now she's
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got a handful of testimonies that she could share about
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disappointment in life and how she thought it was gonna go one
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way. But God comes in and there's a
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little detour and but knows and rests in what he has is the
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best. And you know all that's a
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learning experience to really put your trust and your faith in
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the Lord to know, OK, you've ordered my steps, not me.
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So OK, I'm writing a book and I hear different podcasts, you
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know, different speakers saying wait until you have gone through
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what you've gone through to write about it.
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I've heard one lady say it's great to write while you're
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going through what you're going through.
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So it just seems like there's like two sides to this.
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So what would you say is the right time to Share your story?
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What do you think? Yeah, I think, I guess for one.
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I see two categories in the sense of 1.
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Category would be just when we're talking to another person
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face to face in a casual conversation.
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And another category could be for those of us who are writers,
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who do write either on blogs or, you know, we post on social
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media or we're trying to publish a book that those two things are
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slightly different in terms of when it's a good time, more
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because I think when it comes to writing, you can't.
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Take that back. Obviously even in conversation
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you can't take it back. But when the writing is out
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there, it can just keep spreading and spreading or be
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sort of solidified and it's hard to withdraw that.
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Yeah. Whereas if it's in a
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conversation, you could go back to that person and sort of have
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a follow up conversation or that type of thing, so.
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Anyway, in both cases though, I I would really encourage people
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to pray for the Lord's wisdom and guidance and direction, and
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for a peace, to know when it is the right time, and just
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trusting that he will give that peace and that direction and
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that he will open our closed doors as appropriate according
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to his will. I think another important thing
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is to really for us to search our hearts and to ask ourselves.
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Why do we want to share this story now?
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Why is it important to me that it gets out now versus later?
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And it might be if we're honest with ourselves that we actually
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want attention, or we want people to be impressed with us
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for doing something, or we want them to feel sorry for us.
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Like, you know, it's not always the case, but sometimes there
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can be hints of that. And so to really.
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Search our hearts about why we want to share.
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I am a big fan of writing privately during the trial.
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I think that's so therapeutic and so helpful to be journaling
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and you know whether it's a private blog or just writing at
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home that. For me it's it's so helpful to
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get out those raw emotions in the moment, but it doesn't
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necessarily mean that that's the also the best time for me to put
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it out there publicly. Maybe it is, sometimes it is,
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but not always. And so one piece of advice I
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share in the book is, in the terms of writing to press pause
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before publish and just hold it for a minute.
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You know, maybe if it's a social media post, it might only be for
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an hour. Or if it's a blog post, you
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know, wait until the morning. Or I'm not saying hold it for
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months, but just sit on it and and maybe not make a rash
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decision in the heat of emotion that you may regret later, you
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know. And so I would just say like
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press pause before publish. And in some cases it might be
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months, it might be years. And I'm not saying that that's
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true in your case. But if if someone has had a very
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difficult story that that is, that's they're still right in
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the thick of it, it might take some time before they really
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have had the opportunity to actually process what happened
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and to reflect and to see things with some perspective and
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distance in order to communicate it in a way that would benefit
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other people. But I would still really
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encourage people to write in the moment because I also relied on
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a lot of that. When I did eventually put my
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memoir together, I went back to old journals and old blog posts
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that I had really only told three people about.
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You know, it was like this kind of secret blog.
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But it was really helpful for me to actually be able to read what
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I had said in those moments and for to kind of bring that back
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up to the surface when some time had passed.
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So I think ultimately it is a willingness to trust the Lord's
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timing and to be okay if it takes him longer than we want.
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I signed my book, so my mom passed away in September of
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2011, and then I signed a book contract in October of 2015.
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So about four years later was when I had put together a
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proposal to write this book, and the book only released in April
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of 2018. So it was about 3 1/2 years
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later before the book actually came out, after several delays
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for multiple reasons, and it was tempting for me to feel
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frustrated and thank Lord what's the point This is dragging out.
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Is it even worth it? Why did you make me go through
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all of this? And yet I kept sensing that he
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was trying to, to remind me that it will come out exactly when
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the people who need it will have access to it.
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You know, I didn't say that very well, But basically, whoever
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needs to read your message, they will get it at the time that
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they need it, and the Lord will make sure of that.
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So I had to keep reminding myself of that truth as well,
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that he can still use it even if it's later than what I had
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hoped. Right, because that's kind of
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that's one of the enemies tactics is to say.
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We're behind in time we're you know not moving fast enough.
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This message it it seems old to us.
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Is it going to be beneficial and.
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So recognizing that that is clearly the enemy's lies and
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God's timing, as it's obviously not our timeline, his timing is
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perfect. So good.
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And I love how you touched on it's the heart posture.
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So watch our heart posture and see what position we're in and
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how many times. Have I been upset or frustrated
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and and I just write you know I'll I'll do like notes in my
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phone if I'm thinking I'm doing a social media post you know
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because then you can you know cut and paste and and then I I
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do that pause because I mean that takes some maturity to do
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that right is to go OK like. Maybe I shouldn't be blasting
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this out, you know, where am I at right now?
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I'm, I'm a little bit on that bitter side still.
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And there needs to be a little bit of healing here before I
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just start, you know, blasting how I feel.
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Because our emotions are our feelings feel.
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They're so real to us and they seem like facts.
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And if you just wait. And have a good night's sleep
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guarantee that is not going to be something that you post on
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social media the next day, right?
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So I love how you said to, you know, pause before you publish
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because that is so important. So, and then how do you think
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someone should approach their story if it involves others?
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You know, there's people who've had some very traumatic
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experiences in their life. And yeah, may bring up some
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stuff in the family that they are hesitant to share, right.
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Right. Yeah.
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This is a question I get often and it's a tricky one because of
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what you're saying that there are so many complexities and
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dynamics involved. And the reality is, even if
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someone that you know who's involved with your story, even
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if you go to them and ask for their permission to share your
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perspective on the story, and they give you that permission,
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they might change their minds later and be upset about it
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later. And so we really can't control
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how other people will respond. I do think whenever it is
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possible, it's important and ideal to ask for people's
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permission first if we are going to be publicly sharing in a way
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that would make them identifiable.
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But I realize in many cases it's not possible.
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And so I would say the principles are are the similar
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to the previous question we were talking about in terms of just
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really measuring our motives behind it.
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And one, you know, one passage that has been helpful for me in
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this regard, it comes from James.
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Three and it's It's about a paragraph long, but I think it's
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helpful if I just read it out, because there's so much in here
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that we can apply to this issue. It says who is wise and
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understanding among you by his good conduct.
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Let him show his works in the meekness of wisdom.
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But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your
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hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth.
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This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is
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earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish
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ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile
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practice. But the wisdom from above is
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first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of
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mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere, And a harvest of
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righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.
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And so, you know, this passage is really has been helpful for
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me to almost make a checklist for myself and to pull out those
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themes that are in there and to ask myself, OK, if I want to
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tell a story that involves someone else, do I have any
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bitter jealousy or selfish ambition in my heart as I'm
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preparing to share this? Am I boasting what I'm telling
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this story? Is there any way that I'm being
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false to the truth? Like, even in a small way, you
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know? And then positively like, am I
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depending on the Lord for wisdom from above?
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Am I seeking to share this story from a pure heart?
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Am I being peaceable and gentle? You know, we just kind of make
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our way through the list. Am I being impartial?
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Am I being, Am I being sincere? And so those are good principles
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that we can use to measure our motives, because it is very easy
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to want to share out of hostility or out of bitterness,
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and to frame ourselves more positively than maybe things
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actually happen in reality. And so this is something that is
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very difficult to navigate and it's the the biggest area that
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can cause fractured relationships and can
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potentially do damage in our relationships with others.
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And unfortunately, I I have had experience with this where I
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really tried to, you know, ask for permission and to paint the
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picture as objectively as possible and to measure my
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motives and not have hostility or bitterness in my heart.
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And there's still fractured relationship that was resulted.
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And so it's it's not a clean thing.
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It's it's a messy, it can be messy.
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And so in some ways we have to also weigh up.
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Are we willing to take that risk?
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And I don't mean am I willing to throw away a relationship just
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so I can tell this story, but rather, am I convicted enough
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that I believe the Lord wants me to share this because he can use
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it positively to benefit other people?
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That even in the event that a relationship is damaged, would
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he still be able to do good out of my sharing this?
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Or is this just going to damage a relationship and have no, no
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other, you know, no benefit at all?
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So sometimes we have to kind of weigh up the risks and decide if
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we we might decide no, it's not worth that risk.
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I'm not willing to risk this relationship just for the sake
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of sharing this story. I would rather not share the
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story just to be safe. And sometimes we have to make
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that decision. But sometimes the Lord can do
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amazing things through a story that gets shared when we are
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doing it with the right motives and believing that he, you know,
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has led us to share it in a way that could glorify him and to
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bless others. Even if perhaps someone who's
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not a believer doesn't understand what we're doing or
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why we're doing it. And they might take offense
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because they don't share the same worldview or convictions.
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Right. Oh, so good, Kate.
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Yeah, I mean, right on with all of that.
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And again, it's going back to praying about it and allowing
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the Lord to really give you that green light and, you know,
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saying it's OK and that conviction that you shared.
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It's so true, too. Sorry to interrupt, Jamie.
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I would say too, it's it's worth getting input from other people
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who know you well. And if it's something in
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writing, you might even ask other people to read it and say,
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hey, can you just tell me, like, does this sound like there's any
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animosity in it? Does it sound like I'm being
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neutral? Does it sound like I'm favoring
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one side or another? Does it sound like I'm throwing
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someone under the bus? You know, just right, get input?
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I'm not saying from the whole world, but just a few trusted
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friends and ask for their honest opinion to help you discern
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whether what you're sharing or about to share is something that
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could glorify God. Or if maybe you need to make a
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few changes before you share it more publicly.
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Yeah. That's good advice.
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Have somebody else read it. I mean, there's so many times if
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you're just doing a simple text and.
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You know, you're reading it to a family member.
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Hey, I'm texting those, blah, blah, blah.
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Oh, that's kind of sounds, you know, bossy or so you like,
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change the words. Because there's things that you
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you need that outside perspective.
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It's always good for somebody to proofread your stuff.
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So OK, what's an easy way for someone to?
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Get started with sharing their story, even if they're feeling
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nervous or uncertain or hesitant to move forward.
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Yeah. One thing that really helped me
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many years ago, I met a woman who we were just having a normal
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conversation and she kept talking about how the Lord
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helped her do this and the Lord enabled her to do that.
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And the Lord sent someone to help her fix the flat tire.
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And the Lord did this. And to me, it just stood out as
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such a impactful thing. And she was just talking.
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She wasn't, you know, it was just, we were just talking on
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the street. And so I thought, wow, why don't
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I do that more often? Like, why am I not giving credit
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to God? Because truly he is the one who
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is sending the rain and making the sunshine and you know,
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sending the person to fix my car.
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And so it was a challenge for me to to try to start doing that.
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And it felt very unnatural at first when I did.
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But over time it became more and more natural.
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And it it, I'm not saying I do it all the time, but it is
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easier than it used to be. And I think it's one way to give
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glory to God for what he is doing in the moment, you know
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that. And it's if if people listening
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have children, it's a great way to also help our children
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realize that it's God who's doing all these things for us
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and in us. And so instead of just saying,
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like, oh, I'm sick, I don't feel good.
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And then the next day, oh, I feel better, like the Lord
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helped me feel better, you know, the Lord healed me.
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And to give, give him credit for those things.
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And so again, it wasn't like a natural or easy thing, but at
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the same time, it's something that we can implement right away
34:09
if we want to find a way to start just interjecting mention
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of the Lord in our daily conversation.
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And that's one way that we can give him glory.
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Another thing that has helped me when I maybe don't know someone
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very well that I'm talking to, but I want to tell them what God
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has been doing, is actually to ask them how I can pray for
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them. And just by asking them how can
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I pray for you, they often will open up with things that are
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going on. And more often than not, there
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is some thread that I'm able to relate to in some way.
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And then the Lord opens that door for me to be able to share.
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Oh, I had a similar situation or you know, four years ago this
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happened to me. And this is how God carried me
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through that. Or this is how God provided in
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that situation. And so when I feel a little bit
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stuck, like, oh, what do I talk about now?
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If we open that door for someone else to share, often we can find
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ways to link our story with what they're saying.
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Not to draw attention to ourselves, but rather to give
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God glory for what he has done in us in a way that could
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encourage them when they're also going through something similar.
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Yeah, that's so good. Yeah, bringing it back to the
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Lord, right. And that foundation, I mean, his
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foundation is just an instant bond.
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I mean, you can go to a woman's Bible study and you can maybe
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know one person out of that whole group.
35:40
And then by the end of the time you you have together, you're
35:45
besties with all of them. You know why?
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Because you're all just. It's centered on Christ.
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You're all learning the his word together and it's just it's like
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that super glue, that instant glue, and it's supernatural.
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I just love it. I love ending our time together
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with the take away. Is there something you can leave
36:07
with our friend here that she can ponder on or take action in?
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I would just encourage you to consider the question, How can
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you steward your story well? So how can you take the story
36:22
that you have been given because you have been given a story?
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How can you take that and use it number one for God's glory and
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#2 as a way to bless and encourage other people?
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So good Okay where can people can connect with you?
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I know you've got a a bundle going on with Share your story
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and how can they reach you and get your other books as well.
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Yes, my main The website isfiveminutefriday.com so you
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can find my books in the shop there, and the Share your story
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bundle is currently available at fiveminutefriday.com/story
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You can choose between a paperback version or a digital
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feel free to head over there if you're interested in getting a
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You have a quiz and you give these elements of sharing your
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story. I mean, you Really.
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Articulate it well and break it down as to an easy way for us to
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really get that passion, that fire inside of us, to get that
37:56
story out with confidence and courage.
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So thank you so much for coming on here.
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Thank you, Jamie. It's been a great pleasure.
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And I hope God reveals himself through your own life story.