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The Daily Mess Do You Brown Nose The Boss Plus Work Place Trust Is Down · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: Enjoy your exploration. Hey, it's me, that question guy. You know,
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  Speaker 1: fun to do the research for answers. What are the
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  Speaker 1: consequences of being the boss's best brown noser? Plus, when
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  Speaker 1: trust becomes a serious issue at work. My name is Arrow.
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  Speaker 1: This is the daily mess. What are the consequences of
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  Speaker 1: being the boss's best brown noser? You know what it is,
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  Speaker 1: the brown noser. You know, the one or two or
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  Speaker 1: three who do all they can to agree with the boss.
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  Speaker 1: Good thing or bad thing? Well, just know the benefits
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  Speaker 1: of being a brown noser is short-lived. But mental health
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  Speaker 1: professionals say being a brown noser carries significant long-term consequences. What? How? Why?
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  Speaker 1: Sit down. We got to talk here. Brown nosers lose
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  Speaker 1: the trust of their coworkers. And then you become isolated
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  Speaker 1: and oh, oh, the reputation takes on an added weight.
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  Speaker 1: Then it happens. You get blamed for everything going wrong.
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  Speaker 1: Your reaction is going to be resentment. And then you
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  Speaker 1: become dependent on everybody else's approval. Well, let's give you
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  Speaker 1: a break here, right? And let me give you an example.
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  Speaker 1: A healthy employee would say, I understand what you're trying
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  Speaker 1: to accomplish here. Let's work on this together. Now, here's
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  Speaker 1: what the brown noser does. Oh, that's so incredible. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: this is so perfect. They're actually saying, oh my God,
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  Speaker 1: this sucks so bad. So how can we learn from this? Well,
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  Speaker 1: the strongest position to take at work is to be loyal,
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  Speaker 1: but not blind. It's okay to support your managers. Just
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  Speaker 1: don't sell out your identity and credibility. This very little
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  Speaker 1: disagreement can actually make your agreements with other people more valuable.
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  Speaker 1: Just don't brown nose the top dog. It's visible. We
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  Speaker 1: see it. Why don't you? Coming up next, when trusted
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  Speaker 1: work becomes the issue. Hey, thanks for coming back to
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  Speaker 1: The Daily Mess. When trusted work becomes the issue, is
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  Speaker 1: there ever really a solution? Yeah, it can happen, but
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  Speaker 1: only if the people involved are willing and fully able
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  Speaker 1: to rebuild it. We've got to break this down. Workplace
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  Speaker 1: trust has three parts. Reliability, I can trust and I
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  Speaker 1: can count on your approach. Number two, integrity. Ooh. That
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  Speaker 1: right there, that's truth over all things. Number three, consistency.
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  Speaker 1: When people, that would be you, when people expect a
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  Speaker 1: lot from you and you show up, the outcomes are
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  Speaker 1: very interesting. Trust can be rebuilt, becoming more functional and
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  Speaker 1: relationships are made to be repaired. Now, When we don't
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  Speaker 1: get there, what happens? Well, you've seen it. Distance, boundaries,
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  Speaker 1: a transfer, or total departure from the job. When trusted
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  Speaker 1: work becomes the issue... It's really worth looking into. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: we're talking about ending the silence associated with other people
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  Speaker 1: through manipulation, retaliation, and taking credit for everything. Basically, you're
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  Speaker 1: undermining other people. Wow. This is getting pretty heavy to hold.
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  Speaker 1: Here's what we got to do. We got to stop
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  Speaker 1: trying to convince people how trustworthy you are. Can I
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  Speaker 1: say that again? Stop it. Stop trying to convince people
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  Speaker 1: how trustworthy you are. The real mission is to give
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  Speaker 1: them a consistent pattern of great behavior. please do all
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  Speaker 1: you can to stay away from the freaking gossip. That
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  Speaker 1: right there. And here are the exact words that I wrote.
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  Speaker 1: When you can't break free of the gossip, that is
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  Speaker 1: going to kill trust at the drop of a hate.
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  Speaker 1: I could have put hat, but instead I said it
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  Speaker 1: will kill trust at the drop of a hate. And
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  Speaker 1: if things implode again, always remember your best reaction is
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  Speaker 1: is having no reaction. I'm Errol, and that's The Daily Mess.