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You've Got Decisions: C0rn May Be Ruining Me! Help! · Decisions, Decisions

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  Speaker 1: If you would like to have us answer your questions.
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  Speaker 2: If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or
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  Speaker 2: a terrible throuffle, guess what you've got.
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  Speaker 3: Decisions, you got decision hey gods, Oh there we go
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  Speaker 3: see look, okay, okay.
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  Speaker 4: Do it again? Do the little jingle since you want
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  Speaker 4: to see here and out saying me by.
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  Speaker 2: The way, by the way you have them was bad. No,
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  Speaker 2: the redemption yours on my redemption was bad.
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  Speaker 3: I agree because I am a baritone singing bitch. I
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  Speaker 3: am a te boz Tony Braxton type of gal.
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  Speaker 2: You know, if we're bad and you're up today, Hanny,
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  Speaker 2: we t I don't know where you've been.
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  Speaker 4: Don't do me. You ain't got that.
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  Speaker 1: That Saint bar tripped me to happen tomorrow.
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  Speaker 3: It's happening at the end of the month. I mean,
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  Speaker 3: I did New Orleans, so oh.
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  Speaker 2: Tell us about essence fast because I don't know why.
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  Speaker 2: It looked more fun than the year we went. There's
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  Speaker 2: nothing for me to tell you. I worked Friday and Saturday,
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  Speaker 2: and then my man came Sunday. We said it nextra day.
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  Speaker 4: I was there.
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  Speaker 3: I was there Friday to Wednesday. I worked, I ate
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  Speaker 3: and I went out. I did not go to the concert.
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  Speaker 3: I did not go to any I went to one
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  Speaker 3: Essence parties. It's called Queer Space and it was really fun.
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  Speaker 3: It was hosted by Monica Sampson who came on our
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  Speaker 3: show with Kendrick Sampson.
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  Speaker 4: Wait it was.
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  Speaker 2: They both don't have the last same last name Monica
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  Speaker 2: is Sampson wanted Simpson Samson and Simpson. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't even remember that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so that was cool. But I can't tell you
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  Speaker 3: all about Essence. My man came down and it was
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  Speaker 3: given my man, my me and my man.
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  Speaker 4: Everybody I said I was gonna link up with.
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  Speaker 1: And didn't Instagram status.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, Mandy, I be DM and now so
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  Speaker 2: she pops up on my Instagram thing and I saw.
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  Speaker 3: And selling love and I was like, I say when
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  Speaker 3: I say New Orleans is now our city, Uh, we
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  Speaker 3: love live music. It's funny because I'm gonna I'm gonna
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  Speaker 3: invite you that Monday that I said I'm coming to
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  Speaker 3: New York. We're gonna take you and your bull to
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  Speaker 3: art spot in New York.
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  Speaker 4: Uh, we got spots. That's really dope.
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  Speaker 1: No New Orleans.
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  Speaker 2: Remember after I was a should movie here. Speaking of
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  Speaker 2: a movie here, bitch, Texas is out for me. I
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  Speaker 2: don't know what the fuck I was thinking. I don't
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  Speaker 2: know what I smoked that day I said I would
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  Speaker 2: get a house to Texas.
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  Speaker 1: I lie.
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  Speaker 4: No, you know what New Orleans is out of city
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  Speaker 4: I would ever want to move to. But I enjoy it.
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  Speaker 4: I enjoy the food.
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  Speaker 3: I enjoy the live music, the talent, the creativeness that's there.
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  Speaker 3: I will say, I was real, isn't it hearing the
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  Speaker 3: white people speak creole? I don't know why. I thought
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  Speaker 3: that was a black thing, but it's not. It's like
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  Speaker 3: everybody in New.
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  Speaker 4: Orleans thing and the white people.
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  Speaker 2: Right, they was throwing me for Asian people. What they
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  Speaker 2: be saying Asian creole?
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  Speaker 3: But no, baby, like it was, they just sounded black
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  Speaker 3: and I know it's creole, but I couldn't do it.
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  Speaker 4: I was so thrown.
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  Speaker 2: Now, that's why New Orleans is one of my favorite places,
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  Speaker 2: because everybody kind of sounds saying.
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  Speaker 1: It's not easy to me.
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  Speaker 2: And there's not many places in the world where niggas
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  Speaker 2: gonna sound the same.
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  Speaker 4: Like white people. Asians. Bro, there were Asians that sounded
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  Speaker 4: like that.
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  Speaker 2: No, that's not me telling you when I got my nails,
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  Speaker 2: and it was like Vietnamese creole.
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, what is happening?
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  Speaker 2: So anyways, I am actually got I'm gonna use New
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  Speaker 2: Orleans as one of our date nights. So y'all know
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  Speaker 2: how my man and I playing each other a date
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  Speaker 2: night that no one knows about.
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  Speaker 1: He's been to New Orleans, but he's never seen.
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  Speaker 2: A second line before, and there on Sundays, So I'm
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  Speaker 2: a planet around then, and just tell.
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  Speaker 4: Our date night is gonna be like two days.
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  Speaker 1: And then we're gonna jump on the plane. So I think.
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  Speaker 2: He's he's okay, okay, because I love second Line.
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  Speaker 4: I loved it. I loved it. It was incredible.
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  Speaker 2: Uh he would then it must have had a very
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  Speaker 2: strong word as If y'all can only see the video,
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  Speaker 2: head on over to patreon dot com back Slash Decisions.
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  Speaker 1: This is ridiculous.
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  Speaker 2: It was.
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  Speaker 4: It was great. It was like mind you so good?
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  Speaker 3: Like we like both decided to say an extra day.
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  Speaker 3: We were supposed to leave Tuesday. We're like, we're gonna
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  Speaker 3: leave wednesday. Then we thought we were gonna leave wednesday morning.
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  Speaker 3: He's like, let's do like five or six. So then
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  Speaker 3: we left Wednesday night. Oh bitch, we was.
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  Speaker 4: It was kipt.
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  Speaker 3: It was really nice. Let me take this bang outside
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  Speaker 3: of my face. Okay, anyways, guys, Yeah, can I talk
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  Speaker 3: about my bag ice?
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  Speaker 2: She?
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  Speaker 4: I mean, I thought you did on the Patreon nobody else.
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  Speaker 1: Let me let me give you a wee listening.
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  Speaker 2: We judged bitch, I had to cut a hole off
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  Speaker 2: about my vacation.
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  Speaker 4: Why.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if I all the way cut her off,
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  Speaker 2: but I got so mad. So get back from vacation
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  Speaker 2: or whatever. We're all at a little La dinner. I
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  Speaker 2: ain't that cool with her whatever. I was invited to
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  Speaker 2: the dinner and by somebody else, okay, near her talk
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  Speaker 2: casually and one of the girls there was like, fuck
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  Speaker 2: Cammy's Cammy Crawford's bachelorette party was in Saint Barnes. My
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  Speaker 2: other homegirl was doing can line so and so it
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  Speaker 2: was traveling. She's like, I feel so left out, and
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  Speaker 2: she's like, I think my next trip is gonna be
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  Speaker 2: Visa Weezy, tell me what it was like. So okay,
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  Speaker 2: I started talking right and bitch, let me tell you
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  Speaker 2: how we're gonna bring this back to the milk and
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  Speaker 2: melligan an episode with.
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  Speaker 1: The black and white couple.
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  Speaker 2: So I said, Joe, this is my four tongue going
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  Speaker 2: And it was the first time I really saw the daylight.
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  Speaker 1: And I think it's because I was in a couple.
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  Speaker 2: Like you know, Diza is very party till night in
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  Speaker 2: the morning type shit, and then you go out at night.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm telling my homegirls, yeah, I really fucked with it.
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  Speaker 2: We had such a beautiful time. I was like, y'all know,
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  Speaker 2: I'm a party girl, but like the exploration we were doing,
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  Speaker 2: the boats we were taking during the day. It was
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  Speaker 2: just such a beautiful city that I've only experienced through
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  Speaker 2: partying before. I was like, I was seeing a different
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  Speaker 2: DJ every night. I saw all my favorite DJs and
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  Speaker 2: the girls at the table and she goes, yeah, but
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  Speaker 2: to the person.
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  Speaker 4: As you know, I wouldn't go if I were eat.
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  Speaker 2: Because you like the black experience and you know, Weezy
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  Speaker 2: will stay in Europe, and I just don't find that
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  Speaker 2: white shit is really for us. So mind you let
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  Speaker 2: me preface this by saying, we're all eating at.
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  Speaker 1: A Soho house and you white, you talking about.
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  Speaker 2: How white shit ain't for us, Bitch, What the fuck
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  Speaker 2: are you talking about? There's the gathering spot in LA
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  Speaker 2: and I don't see any of us linking up to
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  Speaker 2: go there. I ain't see anybody bringing up a black
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  Speaker 2: olded restaurant. And you're the one who picked where were
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  Speaker 2: you supposed to fucking go. So I was like, excuse me,
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  Speaker 2: but you think I had to drag my Nigerian ass
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  Speaker 2: black ass man to a place he ain't want to
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  Speaker 2: be till we could be the outcast. She's like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I know you listen to that white shit. I said, girl,
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  Speaker 2: I didn't see one white DJ. I was in Evitha
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  Speaker 2: for five days and saw nine black DJs, intentionally two
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  Speaker 2: on accident. I don't understand what the fuck your problem
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  Speaker 2: is with me. I was like, but maybe that's some
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  Speaker 2: shit you can do, because I'm gonna be honest with you.
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  Speaker 2: Don't matter where I fucking go, there's gonna be white people,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm going to make my fucking space. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 2: travel the world not dependent on what anybody thinks is
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  Speaker 2: gonna happen on how I want to fucking move.
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  Speaker 4: So fuck you.
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  Speaker 2: So we didn't get into this conversation where I bring
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  Speaker 2: it up again, and I'm like, you know what really
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  Speaker 2: pisses me off about what you just said about me,
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  Speaker 2: I said, Mandy, and I had a guest on who's
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  Speaker 2: a black girl in her twenties dating a six year
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  Speaker 2: old white man, saying that black men didn't share interest
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  Speaker 2: with her, and I felt sorry for her because I
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  Speaker 2: can only imagine how much it sucks to have such
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  Speaker 2: a closed mind where you think black people can't exist
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  Speaker 2: in places that you want. When I tell you, I
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  Speaker 2: ran into six people I knew any visa that were
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  Speaker 2: black that I knew from New York, LA. I ran
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  Speaker 2: into Hella fans every single night. I was texting you
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  Speaker 2: about it. Yeah, it's not hard for me, bitch, because
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  Speaker 2: I put myself in the fucking places I want to be.
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  Speaker 2: I don't need to constantly go to a Jamaica or
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  Speaker 2: a Johannesburg to hope that I have a black experience,
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  Speaker 2: because I'm going to find it, because it's intentional. When
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  Speaker 2: I land in a place, I'm going to fucking google
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  Speaker 2: black parties. I'm going to follow the black influencers there
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  Speaker 2: and see where they're at. It's available to us. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: we have the Atlanta, the DC's and the Houston where
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  Speaker 2: it's easy and we can be around each other and
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  Speaker 2: we're not the minority. But that doesn't mean that I'm
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  Speaker 2: not going to find a space for me, because I
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  Speaker 2: know it's there.
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  Speaker 4: And I get in the car Mandy and she texted
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  Speaker 4: me and.
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  Speaker 2: Said, girl, you got me feeling a little bit bad
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  Speaker 2: for what I said below. Key, I just find that
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  Speaker 2: biracials really find way to find the blackness.
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  Speaker 1: So I get why that happened for you.
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  Speaker 3: Wait, she didn't apologize. She went into the biracial bag
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  Speaker 3: of it all.
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  Speaker 2: I all, she might be right, maybe mixed me to
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  Speaker 2: be doing too much to try to beat on the
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  Speaker 2: other side. But no, no, I just couldn't believe you
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  Speaker 2: didn't apologize because she really tried to embarrass me.
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  Speaker 4: Mind you, I know you didn't even stake She didn't
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  Speaker 4: feel bad for what she said. Oh. I called her
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  Speaker 4: on the phone. She didn't answered.
• 9:30
  Speaker 2: She said it hit you back. I said, don't worry
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  Speaker 2: about it, and blocked her. So then she text all
• 9:34
  Speaker 2: the other friends trying to figure out why I did that,
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  Speaker 2: And I'm like, yo, I flew to Europe to go
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  Speaker 2: to Afro Nation, a black fucking festival in Portugal. I
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  Speaker 2: did other shit around along the way. Is as black
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  Speaker 2: as I could if I chose to. But the thing
• 9:47
  Speaker 2: that really got me upset is I hate the monolithic
• 9:51
  Speaker 2: idea that we can only be one way, and that
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  Speaker 2: episode that we had makes me think about it so
• 9:57
  Speaker 2: fucking much because when she said it, you know, I
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  Speaker 2: want this level and I liked her, but I just
• 10:03
  Speaker 2: think that's a cop out. Look, I want everyone listening
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  Speaker 2: to this show to know we do cater to the
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  Speaker 2: black experience. We're speaking from the black woman experience. We're
• 10:14
  Speaker 2: speaking from the lens. Most of the stories, at least
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  Speaker 2: on my end, are black, at least on many and
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying, are black men, bro, Listen, all of our
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  Speaker 2: and most of the stories are most of our experiences are.
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  Speaker 4: But all my stories black men. Child, But I had
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  Speaker 4: I had a stin. I just want to say all
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  Speaker 4: of them.
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  Speaker 2: Had a sugar daddy in a in a tender white
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  Speaker 2: stinp Look, I still really want to reject this idea
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  Speaker 2: that I can't be pro black and do whatever the
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  Speaker 2: fuck I want. And I'm genuinely not in a place
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  Speaker 2: where I want to keep anybody around me that's going
• 10:45
  Speaker 2: to act like I'm a sellout or on phony or
• 10:48
  Speaker 2: ooh you be doing this on Instagram, but you go
• 10:50
  Speaker 2: to you besa, I be only on Instagram, bitch.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, trap house is also the house music. It's mainly black.
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  Speaker 4: Some of the fucking song be a little white. What
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  Speaker 4: the fuck we played at Jeff Carlow.
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  Speaker 1: I'll be a throwing a all.
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  Speaker 2: Right, fine, And it really bothered me, and I just
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  Speaker 2: kind of feel like, I don't know. I want everybody
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  Speaker 2: around me to be excited for who I am. I
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  Speaker 2: want all my bougie black homegirls to not give a
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  Speaker 2: fuck when I play Kodak, you know what I'm saying,
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  Speaker 2: Because some of my la holes be a little too
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  Speaker 2: boogie when I want to do ghetto shit or go
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  Speaker 2: to some trap shit, or they won't even hang with me, Mandy,
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  Speaker 2: when I want to go to there's a spot called
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  Speaker 2: the District that Amber and Jacob put me on too,
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  Speaker 2: and it is a little hood and sometimes I want
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  Speaker 2: to go, but in the boogie black girls don't want
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  Speaker 2: to go, So what the fuck is it?
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  Speaker 1: Then?
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  Speaker 2: Y'all only want to hang around athletes today?
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  Speaker 4: Can we not all?
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  Speaker 2: Man?
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  Speaker 1: Can we not do it fucking all?
• 11:43
  Speaker 2: And that's how, just like you were saying, the friend
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  Speaker 2: group gets like this tiny the older we get.
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  Speaker 4: I want to be every single fucking person.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, that's why I love that I met Asia,
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  Speaker 3: Like none of my friends think that Juve even looks
• 11:58
  Speaker 3: excited like the Carnival experience. I love reggae, I love soca,
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  Speaker 3: I love dance hall like hello, and then experiencing Jube
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  Speaker 3: the way that I do, They're like, it looks dirty.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, so don't worry.
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  Speaker 3: No one's told me I'm gonna go by myself, and
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  Speaker 3: luckily I have Asian now to enjoy it with.
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  Speaker 2: So I mean, I think that's that's dope. Though, that's
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  Speaker 2: just where if you put you onto your frightening day?
• 12:24
  Speaker 2: So you met her there?
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  Speaker 1: Did she put you onto?
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  Speaker 4: The No I met her? We both were booked for
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  Speaker 4: Saint Croy from pass.
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  Speaker 3: But okay, let's get into.
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  Speaker 4: The question of the day. And this comes from a man.
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  Speaker 3: M m Horn maybe ruining me.
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  Speaker 4: Boy, Let's get into it.
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  Speaker 3: What's up, Mandy and Weezy been a fan for years
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  Speaker 3: and truly enjoyed your book. I'll make this as quick
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  Speaker 3: as possible. I think I've consumed so much porn that
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  Speaker 3: it's now affecting my sex life, and I think mentally
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  Speaker 3: I need a factory reset. Somehow, It's to the point
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  Speaker 3: where I can casually watch porn without having the urge
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  Speaker 3: to masturbate. Thanks to my Twitter feed slash algorithm, I
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  Speaker 3: can watch it like.
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  Speaker 4: It's an Instagram reel or a YouTube short on a
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  Speaker 4: daily basis.
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  Speaker 3: I'm happily married man, and my wife knows I watch porn.
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  Speaker 3: But now my bigger concern is the last couple of
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  Speaker 3: times we've had sex, it took longer than normal for
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  Speaker 3: me to come, almost like I'm becoming desensitized to sex
• 13:37
  Speaker 3: with my wife. I've been married for sixteen years, and
• 13:41
  Speaker 3: for the first time in our marriage, I had to
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  Speaker 3: think about a recent porn scene I saw in order
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  Speaker 3: for me to climax. My immediate idea is to take
• 13:50
  Speaker 3: a long break from watching porn. Also, my wife went
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  Speaker 3: through the same thing mentally, except it was the overuse
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  Speaker 3: of her toy instead of porn, and now she no
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  Speaker 3: longer uses her toy at all, so she can fully
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  Speaker 3: be present when we have sex. Have either of you
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  Speaker 3: experienced something like this, and if so, what did you do?
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if we're going opinion okay, but mine
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  Speaker 2: is that porn is absolutely ruining it. I encourage and
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  Speaker 2: welcome porn to everybody, but I do absolutely, one hundred
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  Speaker 2: percent believe that the expectations for sex can get higher
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  Speaker 2: with porn. I had a conversation with my man about
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  Speaker 2: porn specifically, and he said to me, like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: when I was younger, I was watching that shit so much.
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  Speaker 4: Like you know, you're a kid, you want to jerk
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  Speaker 4: off all the time.
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  Speaker 1: You could do it, not stop.
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  Speaker 2: And he's like, because I can't get enough, like it's
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  Speaker 2: a game. He's like, so, as an adult, I can
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  Speaker 2: only imagine that that exact same thing would happen to me.
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  Speaker 1: And even though I don't.
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  Speaker 2: Believe that's true because we have more self control as adults,
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  Speaker 2: I understand because his horniness, like in small situations with us,
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  Speaker 2: goes up. I could brush by him, I could say something.
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  Speaker 2: And I do notice a difference with him compared to
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  Speaker 2: other partners I've had that watch porn regularly or jerk
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  Speaker 2: off regularly.
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  Speaker 1: Where not everything excites them.
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  Speaker 2: If I put on a T shirt, then he start
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: being like, ooh, you got panties on, Like he's thinking
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  Speaker 2: about it now. If you're watching porn frequently, maybe you
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: need to see more nakedness and nastiness. Maybe you need
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  Speaker 2: a t shirt open and my legs spread to have
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  Speaker 2: more of a visual.
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  Speaker 1: It's almost like Instagram.
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  Speaker 2: How the more we see nudity, the more we're desensitized
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  Speaker 2: to the body.
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: Right, Where like covered up girls.
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  Speaker 2: Or cheating the look is sexier, porn is the exact
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  Speaker 2: same way. So what he's experiencing from porn desensitizing him
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  Speaker 2: is the same thing that women can experience when overly
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  Speaker 2: using vibrators in different type of toys like the Rose,
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  Speaker 2: because then it becomes harder to achieve orgasms.
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  Speaker 4: So, yes, you are.
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  Speaker 1: And my suggestion to you would be do not.
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  Speaker 2: Cold turkey because you're already at such a high level
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: of watching it, right, So I would give you a
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: challenge of watching and cutting it down. If you're at
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: seven days a week to half and then from that
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: half the days that you don't watch it, try to
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: enjoy your partner in the way that you're enjoying porn.
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: YEP, I have a different take, right because I watch
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: porn daily and sometimes when I'm at home, sometimes twice
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: a day, I watch it. To go to sleep, I
• 16:36
  Speaker 3: have to watch it while I put my my little
• 16:38
  Speaker 3: womanizer to my coach it and then that's how I
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: go to sleep.
• 16:42
  Speaker 4: Literally, maybe I feel like you gootter to prove my point.
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: Because you need niggas to nut ten times first off,
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: but I not.
• 16:51
  Speaker 4: It don't take me no.
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: I maybe if you weren't masturbating and watching porn so much,
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: you wouldn't.
• 16:58
  Speaker 4: I've never been on one.
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: I want to keep going like I think that that's why,
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: like so for me, I get off visually. So because
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: I get off visually, I wonder where it's something where
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: maybe your wife isn't dressing up for you anymore, maybe
• 17:16
  Speaker 3: she's not dancing, maybe she's not giving you a thing
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: like for me, even when I'm with my partners, like
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: I love just looking at them. They I be leaking
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: just from looking at them. But visual stimulation is a
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: big thing for me. Now, I will agree with you
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: in watching porn does create more than you.
• 17:37
  Speaker 4: Want in your mind sexually, like so much so.
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: To where y'all I'm into AI hints, I like, I'm
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: watching these and I'm into taboo porn now, oh my god,
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: like very taboo, like like.
• 17:53
  Speaker 4: It's cartoon versions of like.
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: Dad's fucking their sons fucking their sons, fiances and moms
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: fucking the boyfriends of the daughters, and all taboo porn
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: but cartoon versions. So there's if they be like forty
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: minutes long.
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: My homegirls recently told me she was into Henti and
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: she's so square that I was like, what does it
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: do for you? And she literally said, which I thought
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: was kind of interesting of a take, She's like, sometimes
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: I get really insecure about watching other women if I
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: think their bodies look better than mine. That okay, Hentai
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: feels like fantasy.
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: Well, I don't feels like level. So I would say
• 18:39
  Speaker 4: I think that that's what helps me as well.
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: I watch gay porn, so to me, I don't feel
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: distracted from my heterosexual sex like with a man, because
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: it's me and a man. I would suggest opposite of wheezy,
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: I would suggest a few different things.
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: I would suggest.
• 18:56
  Speaker 3: Maybe bringing your wife into watching porn with you, or
• 19:01
  Speaker 3: seeing what porn she enjoys. I would suggest whatever you
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: enjoy about the porn, maybe finding ways to recreate that
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: in your relationship. And then I would I would say,
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: just find a way to discipline yourself with it, like
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: if it's if it's Twitter, there's a for you tab,
• 19:27
  Speaker 3: and there's a following tab. Go more in the for
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: you tab. The for you tab is more of like
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: current events, what people are talking about.
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: Now.
• 19:35
  Speaker 3: If you're on Twitter and you follow a whole bunch
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: of porn sites, that's what's gonna constantly show up in
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: your algorithm. But like for me, there's a way for
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: me to get away from it when I'm seeing a
• 19:45
  Speaker 3: timeline of a whole.
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: Bunch of people I don't follow.
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: So that would be my suggestion to you, Weezise, I
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: think is gonna take time.
• 19:54
  Speaker 4: I think cutting in half is really hard.
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: So half, I would say maybe taking If you do
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: seven days a week, go down to five.
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: If you do five days a week, go down to three.
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: Like if you're doing twice a day, But do you agree,
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: gotta go down?
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: I go twice a day. Like again, if I'm napping,
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: I'm masturbating him. Before I go to sleep, I'm masturbating.
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: So I mean, yeah, I I I understand.
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: The concern, but I think that there's a way to
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: just incorporate it into your marriage in a way where
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: you find desire to do it with your partner.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: And I do think that again, porn is such a
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: visual stimulant. Maybe just make things more sexy in the bedroom,
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: like I've been doing that.
• 20:46
  Speaker 4: Oh my god, I've been doing that.
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: Like if that's the thing, though, he does have to
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: cut it a little, so we both agree there that's number.
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: One, depending on the amount, Like if you're only doing it,
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: you know.
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: Five days a week, I don't say that. Nothing wrong
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: with that.
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: I ain't gonna hold you by now you got Are
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: you telling me something's wrong with me right now?
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: No, I'm talking about if he's experienced an issue with
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: needing more from his wife or not being able to
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: get off.
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: It's saying it's taking him longer to come. But that's
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: where I'm like, to me, I think you need to
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: add more of a visual stimulant into the bedroom. So
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: like even with foreign foreign bay.
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: Oh my god, I was leaking on the back of
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: his thigh because I was massaging.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: Is like cracking what I was leaking.
• 21:34
  Speaker 3: Bit And then like for me too, I stood on
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: the bed the other day in between rounds and just
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: gave him a little dance like so like to me,
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: it's like finding a way to have fun in between
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: the rounds. Like that's the thing too. A round can
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: go longer as long as you're both having fun in it. No,
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: it's already going long, but he's saying it's going long
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: based on how long it's taking him to come. But
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: like bro, you also have to get into like, don't
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: let coming ruin it.
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: Like I like, even in New Orleans, we were baby,
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: we was on Molly, we was on shrooms. We had
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: been drinking. I think maybe Twill the Knights.
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: He didn't even come and we woke up the No, yeah,
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: I don't, Oh my god.
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: But that's different though, because this is he's having a
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: different conversation. This isn't marathon. Let's have fun orgasm in
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: the is in the goal. I'm assuming this person is
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: talking about, Hey, we're about to go to bed, let's
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: get off. And that's so.
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying.
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: Maybe he should just feel as though, okay, you don't
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: the pressure of nutting doesn't have to happen all the time.
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: Agreed.
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: Agreed.
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: So maybe your your focus here needs to also be
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: making sure that she's pleased and then going in the
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: bathroom and waiting off to the.
• 22:51
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• 22:54
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• 22:56
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• 23:00
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• 23:02
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• 23:06
  Speaker 2: us what you think, what you've researched, and if you'd
• 23:09
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• 23:11
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• 23:13
  Speaker 2: know if you did the cutdown and how it worked.
• 23:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah, let us know. Anyways, I hope that helped.
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: I feel like Weezy's trying to tell you something's wrong
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: with you, which means something would.
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: Be wrong with me, and I don't like that because I.
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: Don't see nothing wrong with a little watch and poor Oh.
• 23:32
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• 23:35
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• 23:38
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• 23:52
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• 23:56
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