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Scotty & Abby ask a 'cult leader' if they're good enough to join! · Scotty and Abby UNFILTERED

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  Speaker 1: Tampa Bay's best music is Jadge nine.
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  Speaker 2: It is another episode of Scotty and Abbey Unfiltered. Now,
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  Speaker 2: this is gonna be fun because you are now seeing
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  Speaker 2: the behind the scenes of how anxious Abby and I
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  Speaker 2: get when we go out to a new event.
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  Speaker 1: Social anxiety is not afraid of us. We were afraid
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  Speaker 1: of it.
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  Speaker 2: So we're literally using this opportunity to have a little
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  Speaker 2: in on a new club that we want to check out.
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  Speaker 1: And what's the club, Abby? It is run club for
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  Speaker 1: motherfuckers who don't run.
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  Speaker 2: And that's why we actually wanted to just jump right
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  Speaker 2: in by bringing on the founder of this club on
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  Speaker 2: the podcast. And so La, Welcome to Scotty and Abbey Unfiltered.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks for taking time out of your morning to chat
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  Speaker 2: with us.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely, I appreciate you guys for having me.
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  Speaker 2: Man, this is going to be super exciting because Abby
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  Speaker 2: and I have been talking about joining mfors that don't
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  Speaker 2: run for a while. I think if you've been listening
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  Speaker 2: to the podcast, you've heard us talk about it, probably
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  Speaker 2: an entire month ago. We saw that you all saw
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  Speaker 2: it on your Instagram. We appreciate the repost, but we
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  Speaker 2: did want to have like a little bit of an
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  Speaker 2: inside of like what to expect?
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  Speaker 1: What is this? Some people say cult? Would you say
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  Speaker 1: this is a cult?
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  Speaker 2: In La Listen?
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  Speaker 3: I funny, you know if I had somebody send me
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  Speaker 3: a podcast clip and then I had somebody send me
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  Speaker 3: the cult video on the Instagram reel and take talk,
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  Speaker 3: it made me laugh though, one hundred percent. But no,
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  Speaker 3: you know, it's it's all about just getting out there
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  Speaker 3: and you know, trying some new It's been pretty cool.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like we've kind of become the thing for
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  Speaker 3: people to do on Wednesdays, and especially the people that
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  Speaker 3: just moved to Tampa. With how many people, you know,
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  Speaker 3: move every week. That's what I've learned is people just
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  Speaker 3: come here, check out some new locations around the city
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  Speaker 3: and meet new people.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's crazy, Like, you guys are so popular. Every
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  Speaker 2: time I look on Instagram, I see everybody I follow,
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  Speaker 2: They're like, oh, Wednesday night and they got their outfit on.
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  Speaker 2: They're taking a stroll down the street with this massive group.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, Okay, that's that's a hell of a group
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  Speaker 2: right there.
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  Speaker 1: It's a posse. So when did you start this, how
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  Speaker 1: many people did you start with? And approximately how many
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  Speaker 1: people come every week, like, when we show up tomorrow,
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  Speaker 1: what kind of crowd should we expect?
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely, so started mid June, and it originally threw with
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  Speaker 3: like mid twenties and it was just you know, a
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  Speaker 3: couple friends. But then honestly we kind of had some
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  Speaker 3: random people show up as well on week one and
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  Speaker 3: you know those people I definitely still talk to this day,
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  Speaker 3: and you know, they helped me out here and there
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  Speaker 3: as well with you know, controlling this thing. As far
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  Speaker 3: as the amount of people, it definitely fluctuates depending on
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  Speaker 3: the location, the weather, you know, daylight savings, right, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: you try.
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  Speaker 2: To be humble right now in La just I know
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  Speaker 2: they be honest. Over under one hundred.
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  Speaker 3: Over one hundred for sure, It'll always be over one hundred.
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  Speaker 2: It will always be Oh boy, does that way let
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  Speaker 2: me abby? Does that make you more excited or more
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  Speaker 2: anxious to think of that many people?
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  Speaker 1: It makes me willy? Nov this a lot of people.
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  Speaker 1: Stott loves a crowd. I do.
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  Speaker 2: I love entertaining a crowd, but walking up into a
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  Speaker 2: new crowd, I think this is what's cool. Because there's
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  Speaker 2: been so many different clubs that have popped up, running clubs,
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  Speaker 2: walking clubs and why I wanted to talk to U
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  Speaker 2: la is because you could give us the rundown of
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  Speaker 2: like what somebody could expect when they're walking up into
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  Speaker 2: this club, because is it the same group of people
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  Speaker 2: every time or is it a whole bunch of new
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  Speaker 2: people that you've noticed coming, Because if you're new, it's
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  Speaker 2: nice to know that there's other new people there as well,
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  Speaker 2: Like what are you getting the gauge on every Wednesday?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah? Absolutely, So it's both. We have a good amount
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  Speaker 3: of consistent you know, just people that are coming that
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  Speaker 3: I've now you know, know their names and their faces, right,
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  Speaker 3: they've been coming every week. But I've also recently been
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  Speaker 3: putting like a lot of money into ad spend right
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  Speaker 3: on social media to continue attract all the new people
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  Speaker 3: that are moving here, like what I was saying earlier.
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  Speaker 3: So it's it's truly a good mix. And in the
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  Speaker 3: beginning too, I make sure to ask, you know, hey,
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  Speaker 3: how many people is at your first time here? You know,
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  Speaker 3: everybody raises their hands, so I get a good gauge
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  Speaker 3: for that, and then I start to even ask how
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  Speaker 3: many people have come by themselves, and you know, every
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  Speaker 3: week we get at least like fifteen to twenty people
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  Speaker 3: that you know, come by themselves and truly just come
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  Speaker 3: and meet new people.
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  Speaker 2: Dang good for them showing up. See, that's what I
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  Speaker 2: was trying to tell Abby. I was like, yeah, just
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  Speaker 2: show up. She's like, absolutely not.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I thought about going by myself one week. I
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  Speaker 1: think it was I think y'all were at like a
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  Speaker 1: pizza place or whatever, and I was walking on Base
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  Speaker 1: short and I was like, you know, it would just
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  Speaker 1: be so easy for me to just take another twenty
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  Speaker 1: minute walk. I could show up, maybe make a new friend.
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  Speaker 1: But it's really intimidating going by yourself. So I love
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  Speaker 1: that you ask who's here by yourself because they feel
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  Speaker 1: like those people will then find each other and create
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  Speaker 1: a little group.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, actutely and honestly, it's one of the things I'm
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  Speaker 3: working on right. It's still a new thing, so it's
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  Speaker 3: only been since June. So one of the biggest things
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  Speaker 3: I'm trying to work and I'm I'll take your guys feedback.
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  Speaker 3: You know, after two is being able to intermingle you know,
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  Speaker 3: people a little more too, and you know, get more
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  Speaker 3: people to meet each other, even if it's not just organic, right,
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  Speaker 3: because some people are a little shy. That's cool, but
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  Speaker 3: definitely you don't want to continue to grow it and
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  Speaker 3: evolve it and make everybody feel comfortable.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it seems like you all do a
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  Speaker 2: good job because that's why it keeps growing as people
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  Speaker 2: are finding their comfort and their community in this club.
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  Speaker 2: What is the vibe on let's just hypothetically on singles
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  Speaker 2: and dating. Is there like a dating scene that's been
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  Speaker 2: happening with your club slash cult?
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  Speaker 1: Scotty's asking for himself, No, wow, you.
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  Speaker 2: Know, just for the people that are looking to you know.
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  Speaker 2: Actually side note, I talked to so many friends now.
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  Speaker 2: I was just talking to my brother. He's like, man,
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  Speaker 2: I don't even know, you know, what the right place
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  Speaker 2: I could meet somebody that I'm interested in. I was like,
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  Speaker 2: you got to just try these events because yeah, you
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  Speaker 2: can go out on a Friday night at a bar,
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  Speaker 2: but it's really loud and it's kind of hard to
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  Speaker 2: have a good conversation. This is a walking club. What
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  Speaker 2: a great time to have a conversation. You're walking, you
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  Speaker 2: look over, you see a dolphin. You keep talking.
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  Speaker 1: What a bond? So like?
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  Speaker 2: Is that you notice like a lot of people potentially
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  Speaker 2: getting a little relational.
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  Speaker 1: Hell.
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  Speaker 3: I would say it's like anywhere being in the wild,
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  Speaker 3: you know in Tampa, where there's going to be a
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  Speaker 3: lot of people. Some of them may be singles, some
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  Speaker 3: of them not. I take it as I never want
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  Speaker 3: to push that narrative, right because I know there's some
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  Speaker 3: events that they are singles events, right, and those work.
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  Speaker 3: That's fun. I like it to just be an open environment.
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  Speaker 3: You know, people want to come. You know, maybe they
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  Speaker 3: organically do meet somebody, maybe they don't. It's just, you know,
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  Speaker 3: more about just being social and just letting it kind
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  Speaker 3: of happen.
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  Speaker 1: I like that, Scott, Just like with all those shirtless humans,
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  Speaker 1: there's no way people are not.
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  Speaker 2: I know people are looking for other ways to find
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  Speaker 2: that special someone. And I'm telling you right now, like
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  Speaker 2: love is in the air at these run clubs. It's ridiculous.
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  Speaker 1: We're gonna find out. I think we're gonna walk in
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  Speaker 1: and we're gonna smell the.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, I try to smell them.
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  Speaker 1: Desire La. Are you from Tampa born and raised or
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  Speaker 1: did you move here?
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  Speaker 3: No? So, I was born in Queens, New York, and
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  Speaker 3: then I grew up in Orlando. For the most part,
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  Speaker 3: I went to UCF and everything over there, and I've
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  Speaker 3: been here for like five years now.
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  Speaker 1: Nice.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so you're the founder that actually decided to kick
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  Speaker 2: this thing off, and I will say, man, I applaud
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  Speaker 2: you for starting it in June to seeing what it
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  Speaker 2: has grown to, it's very impressive. And if you're talking
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  Speaker 2: to somebody right now, and it might not be for
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  Speaker 2: mf ors that don't run, but maybe it's just for
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  Speaker 2: any club in general, like, what do you like to
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  Speaker 2: say to people that are like on the fence about going.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, one, I appreciate it. Thank you. It's been a
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  Speaker 3: lot of fun to learn, and you know, to to
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  Speaker 3: build this thing up to words something that everybody enjoys.
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  Speaker 3: And if people are just deciding to come or not,
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  Speaker 3: I would say, I mean give it a chance. You know,
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  Speaker 3: you do it one time and pick a location that
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  Speaker 3: you feel like, you know speaks to you, that you
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  Speaker 3: feel like maybe you haven't been to before that you
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  Speaker 3: want to check out and then go from there. And
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  Speaker 3: you know, I'm always around walking making sure I'm interacting
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  Speaker 3: with people, picking up suggestions like that to just make
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  Speaker 3: it a better overall vibe for everybody. So definitely come
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  Speaker 3: check it out.
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  Speaker 1: For sure for the people like me who prefer to
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  Speaker 1: come in prepared. What's a good opening line when you
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  Speaker 1: go to the run club to bump into a group
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  Speaker 1: or to somebody else. What's a good conversation starter at
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  Speaker 1: a run club?
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  Speaker 3: Hey, I came by myself? What's your name?
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  Speaker 1: Classic me overthinking things?
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  Speaker 3: People make tiktoks like where they came by themselves and
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  Speaker 3: just kind of went from there.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like nice hokahs. Where'd you get your shoes?
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  Speaker 1: Nice shortness say, I really like your your aloe said.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like can I get a discount code? Are you
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  Speaker 2: a fitness influencer? Well that's super sweet? Well, la, I mean,
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  Speaker 2: that's so cool that you're doing something so local and
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  Speaker 2: I'm glad that we get to go check it out
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  Speaker 2: this week. I'm excited. I'm sure it's going to be
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  Speaker 2: a staple that we get to do more and more.
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  Speaker 2: But just keep crushing it, man, Like, we're super excited
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  Speaker 2: to be out there with you.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you, Thank you that you're checking it out and
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  Speaker 3: you're speaking about it, and I definitely look forward to
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  Speaker 3: meeting you guys.
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  Speaker 2: What is the Instagram so we could check you out?
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely? So it's at run club, the number four ms
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  Speaker 3: that don't run.
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  Speaker 1: I love it man anyway. But the last question, how
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  Speaker 1: long is this walk? Like?
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  Speaker 2: I got to make sure I'm about to get my
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  Speaker 2: steps in? How long is the walk?
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  Speaker 3: Oh it's easy, one and a half miles.
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  Speaker 1: Come on now, about to get our steps in? And
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  Speaker 1: then what is it like a little social hour afterwards? Oh?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely, So basically we send everybody off. I do
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  Speaker 3: like the real runners, you know, and then I do joggers,
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  Speaker 3: and then the last one is the bigger group, the
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  Speaker 3: walking yap crew. So it's real quick one and a
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  Speaker 3: half mile as they come back, and then everybody does
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  Speaker 3: the post run social hour. We have you know, drink specials,
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  Speaker 3: food specials this week? Is that sparkling morph right? So
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  Speaker 3: you got you know some bowling inside of splits fill
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  Speaker 3: everything like that.
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  Speaker 2: Hell yeah, I'm excited, Abby, How are you feeling about it?
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  Speaker 1: I'm so ready to mingle Scottie there, you are so
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  Speaker 1: excited stemming with that Aura ring. We're gonna be good. La.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you for taking time out the chat with us.
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  Speaker 1: We'll see you tomorrow, man, Absolutely, I appreciate you both.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, see you later, dude, see you so abby. How
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  Speaker 2: are you feeling now that we got to have a
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  Speaker 2: little insider Do you feel like you got all the
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  Speaker 2: answers you needed?
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  Speaker 1: I'm excited. I didn't realize it was only one and
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  Speaker 1: a half miles. Yeah, why, I was fully expecting it
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  Speaker 1: to be like a four mile walk and run.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's like a hike. You're gonna be
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  Speaker 2: out there forever, I know.
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  Speaker 1: But I mean, like with all the shirtless dudes, I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to see you shirtless. I want to
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  Speaker 1: see you shirtless running and g listen in well.
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  Speaker 2: I think they will be. Luckily, we're about to get
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  Speaker 2: into that hot season where it's like anytime you go outside,
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  Speaker 2: you're gonna be listening. I'm curious, though, do you have
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  Speaker 2: an outfit ready for the run Cult tomorrow?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? I have my aloe set ready to go the
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  Speaker 1: alo set. See, I don't have an alo set.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have any shorts.
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  Speaker 1: Go get one, go to the International Mall.
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  Speaker 2: No, I can't do that and buy a whole outfit
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  Speaker 2: for a club.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah that's what you do.
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  Speaker 2: No, I'm gonna wear I have fabletic shorts and I'll
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  Speaker 2: probably wear a tank top.
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  Speaker 1: What if your wife is there, she might be.
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  Speaker 2: I think my wife would just accept any outfit that
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  Speaker 2: I'm in. She'd be like, man, I like his personality
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  Speaker 2: more than a short.
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  Speaker 1: Don't you think your wife would expect more of you? Scotti? Mmmm,
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  Speaker 1: a well put together outfit, whether it be from Marshalls
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  Speaker 1: or Targe or the Walmart.
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  Speaker 2: I gosh, now I'm gonna start overthinking what I should wear.
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  Speaker 1: I know how am I gonna roll up looking fly
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  Speaker 1: as hell? And then I got raggedy hand next to me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be a raggedy ass hand.
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  Speaker 2: No, I just gotta be like you know, I'll look good.
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  Speaker 1: I look good. I'm gonna spray to hand. I'm getting
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  Speaker 1: a facial that day.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm gonna get my hair. Dude, I'm
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  Speaker 2: gonna get petticure. I don't know why you do need
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  Speaker 2: to get your hair done easy. I'm gonna look good,
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  Speaker 2: But I might put on a hat put it on backwards.
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  Speaker 2: That's like the douchey Scott.
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  Speaker 1: Look, you gotta do the flat bill hat that all
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  Speaker 1: the tramp of bros do.
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  Speaker 2: I can't do that. You have to I turn into
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  Speaker 2: a straight douche. Like there is a certain look that
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  Speaker 2: when I do it, I'm like, some people will love it,
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  Speaker 2: But I look at me and I'm thinking to myself,
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  Speaker 2: I would fight me to be fair.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody looks like a douche wearing flat bill hat.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I think some people pull it off more than others. Like,
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  Speaker 2: do you have if you want to look like a battie?
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  Speaker 2: Is there something that you wear, something that you a
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  Speaker 2: necessory that you add, Like if I want to look
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  Speaker 2: like the frat dude, bro guy, that's how you know
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  Speaker 2: I'm not one bro guy. I throw on a hat
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  Speaker 2: and I put it on backwards. I can't even take
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  Speaker 2: myself seriously. But if I keep a stern face like
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  Speaker 2: I don't think people think like, oh, I can't fuck
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  Speaker 2: with that guy.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what the female equivalent of a backwards
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  Speaker 1: hat is, because a backwards hat has the power to
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  Speaker 1: completely change your orders.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell you what it is. It's sunglasses.
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  Speaker 1: Sunglasses, but men do that too. What's something exclusively for
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  Speaker 1: women look totally different?
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  Speaker 2: Well, I would say one, y'all sunglasses are different too.
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  Speaker 2: But if you put on like an earring set but
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  Speaker 2: also three like you said, like that that outfit the
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  Speaker 2: what is it a out.
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  Speaker 1: Like a matching set, like an athleisure set, like a
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  Speaker 1: legging and sports broth ye. But I mean I was
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  Speaker 1: walking around Sat Pete today and I was like, I
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  Speaker 1: need to cover up.
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  Speaker 2: That's a fierce look.
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  Speaker 1: That's how I felt. I was like, I'm nude right now.
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  Speaker 2: Well, that's like if you go to crunch, like that's
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  Speaker 2: what everybody's wearing.
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  Speaker 1: I know, and I would say that that makes me
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  Speaker 1: feel a little baddy esque. Yeah, I would feel like
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  Speaker 1: a battie because I guess it's socially acceptable underwear, you
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  Speaker 1: know what I mean, You're just wearing that out and about.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's I like it because I'm like, if
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  Speaker 2: you feel good, like you could literally tell the people that. Like,
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  Speaker 2: I think, we're out on a Friday night in downtown
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  Speaker 2: Saint Pete and everyone's dressed up slightly, I don't think,
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  Speaker 2: compared to what you're expecting abby. But then I see
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  Speaker 2: somebody walk by in their athleisure wear and it's like
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  Speaker 2: the leggings and the tank top and they owned every
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  Speaker 2: effing step. They just walked like they knew people were
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  Speaker 2: appreciating that, and everyone is.
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  Speaker 1: Death dead ass.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. But it's like she knew it too. It's like
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  Speaker 2: she walked and she knew what she was doing. And
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  Speaker 2: to that, I said, I salute you. I want that
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  Speaker 2: kind of confidence in a workout set because right now
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  Speaker 2: it's just a tank top and some shorts.
• 13:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, or backwards hat for you.
• 14:00
  Speaker 4: Hmm.
• 14:00
  Speaker 2: I can't do it, though, I really can't. I feel
• 14:02
  Speaker 2: like such a dick.
• 14:04
  Speaker 1: I really do.
• 14:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not really, it's not because you're gonna get
• 14:07
  Speaker 2: the wrong impression. If I did that tomorrow, it would
• 14:09
  Speaker 2: give an entire different impression of what people would expect
• 14:12
  Speaker 2: from me.
• 14:12
  Speaker 1: But that's the thing though. You would approach and people
• 14:14
  Speaker 1: would be like, oh my god, he's such a douche,
• 14:15
  Speaker 1: and then you would open your mouth and they go,
• 14:17
  Speaker 1: oh my god, he's so sweet.
• 14:18
  Speaker 2: But I don't want somebody to knock me off just
• 14:19
  Speaker 2: because they think I'm a douche. Like, I want to
• 14:21
  Speaker 2: be as approachable as possible.
• 14:22
  Speaker 1: But women kind of like a little douche.
• 14:24
  Speaker 2: That's where it's so complicated, That's.
• 14:26
  Speaker 1: What I'm saying. It's like, maybe you shouldn't shy away
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: from the douche uniform.
• 14:30
  Speaker 2: Gosh, but then they're gonna hear me talk and they're
• 14:32
  Speaker 2: like that guy is not a douche, he's a dork
• 14:34
  Speaker 2: like and then I just completely flip their emotions all around.
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: No, you're giving them the yes, and you're giving them
• 14:39
  Speaker 1: two things they wouldn't typically find in that boy. Yeah,
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: and he's kind of nice. It's like salty and sweet. Yeah,
• 14:46
  Speaker 1: you're like a twigs bar. That's right, a little crunchy,
• 14:48
  Speaker 1: get a taste, no things. I'm excited. I'm your coworker.
• 14:53
  Speaker 2: I'm excited. I'm really hoping though, that we walk up
• 14:55
  Speaker 2: and I see somebody I know so immediately it could
• 14:58
  Speaker 2: just be an inner, an easy interdut.
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: I mean, maybe we should post that we're going, and
• 15:02
  Speaker 1: anybody that follows us is like, oh my god, maybe
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: I should go because Scott Nabby are going.
• 15:06
  Speaker 2: I think we'll do that after we post this podcast,
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: we'll put it up there.
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: We're going to run club for if I who don't
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: run that's right.
• 15:13
  Speaker 2: Is this going to mean that we have to do
• 15:15
  Speaker 2: more of them? Check out all of them, because we should.
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: If we're going to talk about one, we should do
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: the others.
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but the other ones are in the morning. This
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: is like the one that's at night.
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: Well, they got Panella's run club on like Thursday nights.
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: Okay, we could do that one.
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: We got what is the other one that does Saturday mornings. Yeah,
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: but I like to, oh girl, how late do you sleep?
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: And I'm very curious.
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: We'll sleep it until like nine on the weekends. Nine
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: are times.
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: See, I can't even do that. I know that's immediately
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: at seven, as soon as that sun hits my window.
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: If it's a weekend, I'm like, well, I'm up, even
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: like if I was up all night, I'm a sleepy
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: go see get your rest. I can't. I wish I could.
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: But the nighttime run clubs I'll do.
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: That's where I'm opposite. I'd rather get up. I'd rather
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: there be a four am one.
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: But I mean during the week on a Thursday.
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and settled in. So that's why I've never gone
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: until now. You're the reason I'm going to this. You're welcome,
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: You're thank you.
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: Just pushing you out of your comfort zone. Yesterday we
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: were talking it.
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: I guess I mean I've been pushing myself out of
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: my comfort zone in a lot of areas, always beneficial.
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: How about pushing yourself into the comfort zone or out
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: of the comfort zone of being in a relationship. What
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: are you talking about of joining a relationship now, of
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: being it? No, I mean I'm making a joke that
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: your comfort zone is to be in a relationship. Oh yes,
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: not that I'm discouraging you from dating anybody, but I'm
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: just you know, calling it like, well, yeah, I'm just
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: being friendly.
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: We talked about that I'm seeing what I like, and
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: I've gotten to see a lot that I like. Doesn't
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: mean i'm dating. This means that i'm seeing.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: Oh you're dating, you're not in a relationship. Oh, that's
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: what we need to talk about. How are you going
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: to break up with that girl you don't like?
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: Oh? My god, Actually I think I'm getting ghosted right now.
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: No, you're nice.
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: I'm telling you right now, I'm getting ghosted.
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: So do you say something to her? Yes? And did
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: she not respond? Correct? Okay, then you don't need to
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: do anything. That's what I'm saying. Do you think she
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: listens to the podcast?
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: No? I know.
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: I feel kind of bad. Why because I was not
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: shitting on her yesterday, but I was making it very
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: obvious that you'd had no interest in her.
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: Well, okay, there's a okay, I think we said it
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: very smoothly yesterday where it's and it's never them. It's
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: just literally a match that. Yeah, it's a chemistry things.
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because I don't know this girl, I have no no,
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: I literally have no judgment for this girl. I just
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: know how you talk about your experiences with her.
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: Well, I'm not looking for anything serious, or at least
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: that's what I think.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: And she proposed marriage this weekend.
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: Exactly, and now we're getting married. I had no idea. No,
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: I wasn't looking for anything serious. But then I also
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: noticed that I went on another date and immediately I
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: was like, all of a sudden like considering it, and
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: I was like, oh Jesus, okay.
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: So it is literally a chemistry thing. That's the difference.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: Like when you feel that way, lean into it. But
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: if you don't feel that way, then you're just wasting
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: everyone's time.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: Well yeah, but also at the same time, and ah,
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: this is where you got to examine everything. This is
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: called overthinking. Where I'm thinking to myself. I said, literally
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: after my last breakup, I was going to take time
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: to just enjoy being single, get anything that I needed
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: out of my system. Sounds weird, don't take it like that,
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: and then I would look at seriously dating. But then
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: after you go on an amazing date, which I think
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: you should do single anyway, you start thinking to yourself, well, shoot,
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: I think I really like this, but again, not looking
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: to do anything serious. Soon I'm gonna interest it and
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna enjoy it, and I'm gonna see where it goes,
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: and we're gonna be honest and always open about where
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: we're at. That's the goal. Because I could still get
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: ghosted by her too.
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: You could.
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: I could theoretically, I'm telling you right now, the one
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: that you say break up with one. There was nothing
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: ever serious, and I always told her that I wasn't
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: looking for anything serious.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: She liked you though she liked you.
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: Okay, I guess she's not ghosting me.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: She texts you. What did she say?
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: Actually, I can't say because then it could reveal who
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: it is if they do.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: Listen, Okay, what did this person say?
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: They didn't say anything.
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: They did not.
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: I could show you the message right now, you take
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: a bite of yogurt. This is why I like the podcast.
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: It's so casual. The audience demands, okay, don't read the
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: rest of the back okay, I don't care.
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: What Wait, were you guys sexty? No, we weren't sexty,
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: and I don't think so.
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: Just look at the last message, now I want to
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: know what. No, don't look at the rest of the messages.
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: Just look at her response. No, not, Oh my gosh,
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: just that's the last message. So that's kind of like
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: a whatever. Right, that's kind of like a that's not
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: even a response. All right, give it back, you're.
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: Looking too much. Yeah, No, she gave you the middle finger.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: That's exactly what I'm She liked you so.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: To fill the audience in. She's definitely a listener. She
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: definitely listens.
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: There's no way there's yeah one, h okay, I don't
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: think so. She would tell me. No, she wanted Actually,
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: here's the thing about doing this job. And now, I mean,
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: we could talk about this, and I'm curious on your
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: side of this, Abbey doing radio, being on a podcast,
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: being open about my life life has gotten me in
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: so much trouble in this part of my life of dating,
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: of starting new relationships, of family relationships. So one, I
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: don't regret anything that I talk about. I'm an open book.
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: I always say I'm an open book if you asked
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: the right question. This is my place to be as
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: open and honest as possible, because look, at the end
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: of the day, like it ain't that serious, it's life.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: And I could say these things hopefully to the people
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: that I'm also dating, that if you were to get
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: in a relationship with me, we don't have to air
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: out all of our laundry.
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: But like, it's going to be part of my life
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: that I share.
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: You know that my first relationship, I remember we broke
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: up and she was like, you know, I just really
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: not really like the career of path that you're going on.
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: I'm like, there, Jesus, I get that. But like she
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: was literally with me when when I started this. I
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: wish that would have been expressed a little earlier. But
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: I also I revealed so much of our relationship.
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: What was the most revealing thing you told you?
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: Oh, I used to air out our huge fights. He's
• 21:00
  Speaker 4: the biggest fight you guys got in all out.
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: Now I'm gonna air it again. I doubt she listens anymore.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: She doesn't know. It doesn't matter. I mean, things have
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: moved on. She's moved on. It's fine. But she got
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: a gift once from a guy that we were like,
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: you know, I was intimidated by and up.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah.
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: I would still say that to this day because I
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: asked her about it.
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: What was the gift? A piece of jewelry? Yeah, that's
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: like linga Riye. It was like her gift or some
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: girl gifting you Tommy John's.
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: And it wasn't necessarily right because at the time she
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: wasn't living here and I kind of.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: Just I was so mad.
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, like you talk about you don't see
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: me mad. I was boiling because it was one of
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: those things where I felt like I was getting gas lit,
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: where I was like, this is obviously a dude that
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: likes you, and he's obviously trying to make a move.
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: Did they date after you broke up? I don't know.
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: I don't need to know.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: I think they screwed.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: I don't I don't know.
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: Maybe they ever screwed. Yeah, probably, I.
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: Have no idea, because I'll tell you one thing, like,
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: once we broke up, I'm not really good at being
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: friends with my exes, and we were going to try that,
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: but then I saw she went on a date and
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: I was like, Nope, can't do that. My heart just
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: broke into two.
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: Okay, so she didn't like the career path.
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because I would just talk about things. I would
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: talk about our relationship, I would talk about our fights,
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: I would talk about things that happened with us, and
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: not everyone likes that, which is so understandable. I've also
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: learned I was kind of an idiot back then because
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: I would just say everything, especially because I was new
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: into radio, so I wanted to just if I had
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: an opportunity to get on the air, I'm gonna get
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: on the air. And the stories were so entertaining, it
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: was amazing, But other people would get hurt because of it. Yeah,
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: So I had to learn that if I'm going to
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: bring up anything, one, I always run it by the
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: person first, and then two, I try not to let
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: them be at the end of the joke, the butt
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: of the joke, or the butt of the problem.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: I usually try to make sure that's me. Yeah, but
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: even still, sometimes people will find a way to be.
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: Upset by it aslutely, and that could be the situation
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: like right now, and I don't want anybody ever to
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: be hurt in us talking about this journey of life. Yeah, like,
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: because that's what I really want to dive in. If
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: there's somebody that I'm like, I'm going on dates with,
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: or like I talk to, I never want to make
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: it seem like they're in the wrong. Like that's why
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: we said the chemistry thing. It's like, literally, if it's
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: just a chemistry thing, then there's literally nobody did anything wrong.
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's totally fair. But if she listens in,
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: and if I was her and I listened in, I
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: would give you the thumbs up and bounce.
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's understandable. And I could see that and
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: she was like, you're a douche. I'd be like, I
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: get it.
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: So, long story short, Scotty asked her out and then
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: she gave him a thumbs up. And this was what
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: twenty four hours later.
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: M M yeah, more than that.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: But she listens, Hey, girl, I'm sure you're great. You're
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: just not Scotty's lady.
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, Oh my god.
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: I'm just not Scotty's lady.
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: Well again, but I'm not looking for any of that.
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: And they know that. The people that I'm going on
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: dates with know that.
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but no girl wants to feel like like she's
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: being used.
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: I wonder if there's a go. Here's the thing. If
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: you date somebody, do you tell them to listen? Because
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: I don't.
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: Well, I just know that I am under the assumption
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: that they listen, because there are people I would never
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: expect to tune in that tune in and I'm like,
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: why the fuck are you listening to this podcast?
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: Oh?
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: You know what I mean? So I'm I try to
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: use the rule of if I'm talking about them, if
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: they're sitting in the room, what would I say mmm?
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: And sometimes that still gets you in trouble.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it definitely will. Like again, I would have
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: these conversations in front of everybody I'm talking to. Yeah,
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: I think it's very open and honest. Again, like, that's
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: what I'm trying to do, is just be open and
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: honest about where I am. Now, if somebody gets hurt
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: along the way, I'm extremely sorry, Like that was never
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: the intention. But I also I can't always help how
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: things are talked about, because this is supposed to be
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: an open form. Yeah, kind of therapeutic. But yeah, so
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: it's always gotten me in trouble. So if this is
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: the case right now, if they are listening, damn it,
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: I got introuble.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: But this needed to happen. I felt bad for her.
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: I was like, I know, I could tell she was
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: catching feelings for you, and she can say to herself
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: that she can be casual, But I don't get the
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: vibe that this l wants to be casual. Yeah, that's understanding.
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: And also if you're catching stronger feelings for somebody else,
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be like your your runner up.
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: That's very valid, very valid.
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: So you know, a girl shout out to you for
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: thumbing up that message. Hell yeah, no, yeah, Scott, fuck Scott,
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: don't Fox s good but screw Scott, but don't screw Scott.
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: But yeah, you know what I'm saying.
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, and I think I would say the same thing,
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: like do what makes you feel the best? Mm hmm,
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: that's awesome. I'm gonna support that everywhere, every time, every time.
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: And if you were to give me the middle finger,
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: I get it. I don't know if I necessarily did
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: anything wrong, but I also understand how it could come
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: off wrong.
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: I'm Scott and I can have casual sex with no
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: consequences because I'm a man. I'm literally I'm not like
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: going out. I'm not hooking up, I'm not doing these
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: I'm joking. You are being as respectful as I've literally
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: just gone on dates. Yeah, I know, And so you're
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: being very respectful. You're telling the women straight up what
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: you want. I'm not saying anything you do is wrong.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: I'm just coming to you. I'm advocating for the women
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: in your life, absolutely, and I me too. No, you're not.
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: You're advocating for yourself, Scottie or else. Why would you
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: ask this girl that you don't like to hang out
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: on Thursday night?
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I do like her, I'm just not
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: looking for anything serious.
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: You don't like her as much as you like the
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: other girl.
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: I was kind of blown away by this other date.
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: I know that's what I mean.
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: But I'm also still not looking for anything serious.
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: But then I would also be pissed if I was
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: the girl, And you know, I would be pissed. If
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: I was the girl that you really liked and you
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: still went on a date Thursday with the girl that
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: you don't like, I'd be so mad. How do you
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: casually date? Then? Well, the thing is is, I think
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: you have You can casually date, but you have to
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: have an internal ranking system. So you can keep around
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: the person you like the most. But it's kind of
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: fucked up to really like somebody and then not really
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: like somebody and keep the person you don't really like
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: around just because you want to have sex.
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: This is so philosophical.
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: Here we go.
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: Here's my question. And I know we talk a lot
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: about dating. So if you're tired of it, I'm sorry.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: If people are tired of it, I know, Well I
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: don't think so, because I think these are the different
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: chapters of it, because this is so the.
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: People say they're tired of it, and then it's like
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: our most downloaded episode.
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: Yes, again, you could always message us about this because
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: I want to hear your thoughts too. But here's where
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: I'm at because again, I wasn't X.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: Well.
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: I knew the person that I was going to go
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: on a date with. I knew there was a great
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: chance that we would have a great connection. So what
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: was I supposed to do? Just say? Literally, in my
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: head I was joking thinking I should put this off because.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: They date with the girl you really like. Yeah, I
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: was like, I should put this off so I can
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: obsex with the girl I don't like.
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: No, so I could just truly like, just be single
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: and enjoy this chapter. And it sounds like I'm about
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: to jump into a relationship. I don't know what the
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: heck the tomorrow brings, so let me not jump to that.
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: But what am I supposed to be?
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: Like, We're gonna put off our date because I have
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: a fear that we're gonna have such a good connection
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: that it might stop this whole single year thing. Mm hm.
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: But now we already went on the date, so now we.
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: To be fair. That was my fault because I did
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: wing woman you too hard, you.
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: Know, And this is where I got in trouble. Not
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: in trouble, but like, this is literally what happened last time.
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: I was like, well, I like somebody, and I don't
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: want them going on other dates, and I don't want
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: to really go see anybody else. So I think I'm
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: just gonna I think we're just gonna date.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: And we did.
• 28:08
  Speaker 4: Is that your last relationship? And so and look how
• 28:10
  Speaker 4: that ended? Well, I mean it was four years. It's
• 28:13
  Speaker 4: not like it was bad. It was a good four years.
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: It still ended, it's still ended. Oh my god. So
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: I guess that's the.
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: You could casually date as long as you're open about it,
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: because you're still kind of, you know, discovering what you want.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: I do think you can casually date if you like
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: everyone equally. That's valid. But when I watch The Bachelor
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: and I see a guy and he and I get
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: the ick when I'm on like week five, and I
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: can tell that he just has to entertain these girls
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: because the producers make you keep a certain amount of women,
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: and we just feel bad for those girls, you know.
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: And then there's only there's usually two girls that he
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: really likes somewhat equally, but one a lot more than
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: the other. And that's when he get engaged. He gets
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: engaged to for four months.
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: You know what, maybe I will just take a second
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: to step back. I'll just go with the stream of life,
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: and maybe I won't put myself in literal dating situations.
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: That makes sense, right, you're too far in Well, okay,
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna still you know what, as the updates come,
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: I'll update you. How are your dates going?
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: Abbey actually deleted the dating apps? Did I tell you that?
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: You deleted? Well, what ones do you want? I was
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: on bumble and hinge. I'm just like really not in
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: a good place to date right now.
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: You know, I'm just not what do you mean? Do
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: you just feel like this life's too overwhelming right now?
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Life is just too overwhelming right now. And I
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: also I just I just don't want to meet someone
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: on an app. I'm like, if it happens in real life,
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: which it won't.
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: Okay, that's first off, cancel that out. The universe is listening, Abbey, Well,
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: thank god, I know it is. The universe is like
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: Girl War three. Well, the only thing I'm gonna get
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: hit by is a nuclear bomb.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: Most likely.
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: I left because it's true. No, but okay, I think
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: we're about to step into a new era, like with
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: the in person life, because that's literally I did that
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: in January. I was like, Wow, this is where it's happening.
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: It's so much easier, more organic.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: I just feel I feel like there's something in the
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: air that I will meet somebody at some point in
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: real life. And I didn't feel anything. When I deleted
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: the apps. I was like, I've done this before once,
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: but I kind of didn't really want to do it.
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: I was like, I'll do it for like a radio
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: bit or whatever, but I wasn't thrilled by it this time. Literally,
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: I deleted them. I have not thought about them every
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: now and then I kind of go, oh, let's check them,
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: and I go oh, I don't have them, and then oh,
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: and then I don't think about it again. That's much better.
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: In steady you could go on like well, I was
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: going to say Facebook events, but you could yeah, and
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: then just go see what events happening and then just
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: go to the event.
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: I think I see more single people walking around because
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: I live closer to a city center, and I think
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: that makes me feel like I don't need to be
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: on the apps, if that makes sense. Yeah. Like I
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: was living out in the burbs in Atlanta, and the
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: only time I would see people is if I would
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: go on a walk around Chestain, which is like this
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: big park newar golf course anyway, But I feel like
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: I just see more people my age. So I think
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: it's gotten rid of that mindset of oh, I'm only
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: going to meet somebody if it's.
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think there's so many places to meet people now. Yeah,
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: like they were just doing a whole again. We talked
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: about the ice tub thing they did one outside of
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: you know, the hockey rink over here Benchmark International Arena.
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: I was gonna call it amily arena. But they just
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: did a whole entire like rave ice tub social event.
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: It was right by where you live. You could have
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: walked to it.
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: Was it this week It was like Sunday Sunday, this
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: past Sunday.
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: Oh, I couldn't have done it this weekend.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: We could have well with your family Amias in town. Oh,
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: or you can go sit at the tub, bring their
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: ass to the tub.
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: I could have gone. I mean I can go in
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: the future. I'll probably want to go in July when
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: it's eighty nine thousand degrees.
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: You know, you gotta follow Gateway subs. Have you had
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: Gateway sub yet? I'm gonna put you on.
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: Here we go. I'm not a big subgal.
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: They got more than subs. Do you like a rap
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: like a rap? You like a sub and a tub?
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: How about a salad like a salad? I know I'm
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: not to give Gateway the they're flowers. I'm telling you local.
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: They they're big into these things. They're all always at
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: these clubs. So and you'll see them at you know,
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: the cold tub place. Given out subs. It's the perfect
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: way to meet someone. Tell that man to go get
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: you a sub. But don't tell him that you don't
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: like subs. This is what you actually have a chance
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: to talk to him.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: Just go give me a sub, you know, Like, why
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: aren't you meeting that sub I got you? Actually, I
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: don't like it. I'd rather have a rap. I'm like
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: that McDonald's ceola. I'm like, mmmm, that's so good. I
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: love the crispy onions.
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: I think it would blow you away. But I was
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: going to do the apps for like again a show bit,
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: just to see how it goes. But now literally everyone's
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: told me it's just a disaster, and I think it
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: would actually lower myself esteem if I did it.
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: I mean, I think you should try it if your
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: current relationships don't work out.
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: From your current girlfriends, oh my gosh, we're just talking,
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: but we are. There are other dates on the table, oh.
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: With other people that I haven't heard of yet.
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: Okay, no nobody, because again, I'm not trying to start
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: things new. I think that's the thing. I don't want
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: to start anything new. Let me go ahead.
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: And so that's why you invited out girl number one
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: to a movie night tomorrow and then she gave you
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: the thumbs up, and then you invited a girl on
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: a sun rise.
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: It was both of our idea and I was following
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: up with it. And if she does listen to the podcast,
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: she does, okay, well then I'm sorry.
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm sorry girlfriend number one, but now she's not
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: even girlfriend number one. No, girlfriend number one has been
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: shifted to girlfriend number two. What you really like? I do?
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: I do.
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: I'm excited to see what happens.
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: You really like girlfriend number one?
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: Now I'm intimidated by the idea of even setting up dates,
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: but we'll see. I think it'll be good. You already
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: have a date with her setup I know, because that's
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: what you're supposed to do, right. We can't just go
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: out once and be like, oh, that was great.
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: Well, we're just never gonna do it again. Yeah, yeah,
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: we literally that's what I do. That's horrible.
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: That might be a reason why it doesn't work out,
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: Like I wanted to be great, And if it's good,
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: that'd be so silly, foolish, some would say. Some would
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: say to not do it again. You could say that,
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: oh my god, all right, well we got to do
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: other things behind the scenes. We're about to have the
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: radio execs listen to our show.
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: And oh fuck, I forgot. We've been meeting to it toomm.
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: Hmm and rip through our audio and see if we're
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: horrible or not.
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: So what we're not good is coming to No, it's not.
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: It's literally just the beginning. It's kind of like when
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: you're running. For all my runners who listen, and it's
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: that first mile is tough and so you're just trying
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: to let that body loosen up. But then by mile
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: four or five you're.
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: Like, oh, I'm feeling good. We're still in mile one.
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: You guys have any idea what it's like to work
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: with this every day. I come in day one of
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: my period migrain in full blast, and here's Scottie, like, Rah,
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: that was all day to day.
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: What's that app that you have? Yeah, I'm gonna need
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: to get on the flow app because I can change
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: my energy based off of what somebody else is.
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: I'm sitting here like I don't know how to tell
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: this man to shut up.
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: You could do it just like that, like, hey, Scott,
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: migraine and on my period, you to just take a chill.
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: I didn't notice, though, I noticed that.
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: You noticed, and I was like, I'm glad he's noticing it.
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: But I think instead of adjusting, I think you got louder.
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: I think.
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: I feel like it might have felt like that because
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: I might have just tried to fill in space. Also,
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: you gotta remember I was doing the show in here
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: alone for like two years, and so I used to
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: just scream in the studio alone.
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: You live with a woman, know, Scotty. I know. And
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: now I need to get on the flow up. So
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna cycle sync with your Google calendar. Okay.
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: Then we'll just take a quick little re set before
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: a meeting and before I ask you to do more.
• 35:44
  Speaker 5: Things for how are you feeling, aby, I'm like not, well, Scotty,
• 35:49
  Speaker 5: I love this because eventually I'm just gonna know everything,
• 35:53
  Speaker 5: and I'm just gonna be able to know immediately, like
• 35:54
  Speaker 5: what's today?
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: Okay, got it?
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: He's making a note funny, just so.
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: I'm a where these are things you got to pay
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: attention to, trying to be a supportive co host over here.
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: You'll know I'm knowing now I know what to look for.
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: All right, let's get off of here. I appreciate you listening.
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: We'll be back tomorrow. Yeah, we haven't done the run
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: club yet, but when we do we'll make an.
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: Update on that. How are we going tomorrow?
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: Tomorrow? So tomorrow's episode will not be the run Club update?
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: Hell yeah, but we'll have other things. All right, Abby,
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: what is your social media?
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: The Abby Murphy everywhere?
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: You're still doing things. Anybody can hitch you up on
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: Facebook or TikTok.
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: Just oh, I'm getting coffee with someone on Saturday.
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: Oh, like a friend, a lady friend, but not like
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: a friend friend that's cool. Somebody that lives here, or
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: somebody you knew before, or somebody knew no.
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: Someone who just moved here. I don't know. That's why
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: I like doing these Tampa videos is it's putting me
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: on Tampa TikTok, and so people who live in Tampa
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: are like, oh, she looks fun and they want to
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: be friends with me.
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: Well, of course, that's why we have this amazing podcast,
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: because so many people are like, oh, I like Abby.
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: I don't know why, but come on, you know why
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: look at it.
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: She's madly you know she's likable.
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: All right, I'm at Scott Tavlin s C O T
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: T T A V L I N and check out
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: at Magic ninety four nine as well. Thank you for listening.
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: We'll be back tomorrow.