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I Never Knew He Was Married - BBNaija Maria Benjamin Reacts to Husband Snatching Saga · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to the episodes of Bands with Lorenz
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  here. How are you all doing up?
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  You're doing great. For today's episode, I want to
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  talk about Maria Cheeky Benjamin.
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  Now Maria Cheeky went viral. She was a Big Brother.
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  She was in Big Brother house. But people, you know, she was
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  just Ajibo half cars kind of. So some people liked her, some
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  people did not like her. So she was cheerless, comes off
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  somehow, but she had fans now when she came out, news surfaced
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  that Maria Chiki was dating a married man.
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  And the person I think was in 2022 who made it popular was
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  Cubana Chief Priest. Cubana Chief Priest posted that
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  Maria's new love interest Kelvin was his sister's husband.
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  People were like your sister's husband.
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  Why is Maria flaunting a married man?
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  Why is Maria praising a married man?
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  Because according to Maria, at that point, Kelvin helped her to
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  get into Big Brother House. He literally prepared her,
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  bought her things because I think they were they met in
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  Dubai. So according to her, he was very
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  instrumental in her getting into Big Brother House and doing well
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  for herself. So when she came out being
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  appreciative, she was posting him.
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  She was, you know, talking about Kelvin, Kelvin Kelvin.
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  So Cubana chief priest came out and said, this is the married
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  man, this is my sister's husband that went viral.
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  Text messages and voice notes was actually just lover that
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  released text messages and voice notes of Maria calling Kelvin's
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  wife to threaten her to say, oh, leave my husband, leave my
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  boyfriend at some point when maybe because there were series
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  of text messages, there was 1 when she was saying that, oh,
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  leave him alone. And then there's another one
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  when she was explaining that she, she, she was not aware that
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  he was married, that he met, they started dating.
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  He told her that he had children, but he never said he
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  was married. I think they had a child
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  together. So according to Maria, she was
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  never aware that Kelvin is or was a married man.
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  So after that, the the wife, Kelvin's wife filed for a
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  divorce. Because I think Kelvin and his
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  wife, they got married in 2013 or 20.
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  They had a child. They did their traditional
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  marriage. They had a child in 2013 and
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  then they did their wedding in 2014.
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  They moved, I think, to Dubai in 2016.
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  And according to Maria, 2017, the marriage of 2018, the
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  marriage was already over and the wife then moved to to the
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  US. So maybe they were separated at
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  that point. Maybe the marriage had
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  officially ended, but they did not file for a divorce.
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  You know how all these couples having problems, instead of
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  sitting down to actually say, listen, this has ended, the
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  husband maybe will travel to a different place or the wife will
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  travel to a different place to family members.
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  They are still married. Yes, they know that something or
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  there's problems in the marriage.
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  But since they have not officially told anybody that
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  they are divorcing, people still ship them together.
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  But in 2022, Kelvin's wife filed for a divorce.
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  In 2023, Maria and Kelvin got married and then they had their
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  first child in 2024 and then the second child in 2025.
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  So these are, you know, since then they've been calling Maria
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  a home wrecker, a side check. She they have called us so many
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  things. And then in an interview with
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  Judy, truly ask Maria, like, what would you say regarding
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  those whole side chick drama that people have been shipping?
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  You like your name. Anytime your main name is being
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  mentioned, they always say that Maria is a side chick.
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  So he asked her what she has to say.
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  And this is her response to today.
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  Unfortunately, three things have happened that people had talked
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  about with regard to you and a married man.
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  Yeah, yeah. And I guess it's an opportunity.
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  I mean, I guess you cleared it. I don't know what you want to do
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  with that, but so it's become an insidious meme.
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  You know, first at the reunion, there was your fellow housemate
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  Angel saying that. Then I think there was a guy
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  called a Cubana high priest comes and sees that.
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  So think of yourself as an an audience, as you used to be
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  hearing all these stories and somebody says, wait, there's not
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  a lady they called me about. So there's not a lady that Angel
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  talked about. It's not a lady that Ubernachi
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  priest talks about. What's going on with her?
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  Yeah, what's happening in all the stories?
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  I haven't actually ever spoken about this the allegations that
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  I I am dating a married man or what I would say is, and I think
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  I keep saying the same thing and it's boring now, but I'm going
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  to try and just give a little insight.
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  I actually wasn't aware whether or not he was married when we
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  first started dating. There are personal stuff that
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  went on that I'm not because because I think you actually
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  recently did an interview as well with a lady and I watched
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  it and there was something she said because she's an actress
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  and because she shares her life like her personal like she
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  doesn't. And I've always said that in my
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  head. It was like she was repeating
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  something I would say because it's like I don't owe people my
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  personal life because I don't come out to say I'm a St.
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  I don't come out to say, oh, learn like I'm your role model.
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  Like no, I'm not anyone's role model.
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  I am for me. And like whoever appreciates or
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  loves me can try and want to follow my steps or whatever what
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  I'm going to stand by. And that's the gospel truth.
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  I didn't destroy any marriage. I have never and I would never.
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  I mean, I'm the woman. I know how it feels when
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  intruders come into a relationship or marriage.
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  I know how we women feel hurt like oh, my husband or my man is
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  having an affair or I know how it feels.
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  I would never even try and do that to another woman because I
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  wasn't the person who actually started all of this.
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  And I'm not even in the place this, there's just so many
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  persons stuff that would have to come out and I'm not ready for
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  that. And not my personal stuff, other
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  people's personal stuff. And it has nothing to do with me
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  like and I would never shed light on it because I don't owe
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  anyone that sort of explanation. OK, Maria Maria.
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  Maria Maria Maria has been explaining, explaining,
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  explaining, and the husband has not said anything.
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  I think this is the problem with or why some women will refuse to
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  marry a divorcee or marry somebody who had been married
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  before, because it just comes with a whole lot of baggage
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  somehow. They're going to accuse you of
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  being the one who attended the marriage.
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  You're going, they're going to accuse you of being a side
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  chick. They're going to accuse you of
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  being a home wrecker. Now, according to the story or
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  according to what people have said regarding Kelvin's
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  relationship with his ex-wife Onnier, they said that their
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  relationship was very toxic. They once loved each other.
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  I mean, for them to have gotten married and had a child, they
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  once loved each other. They did traditional marriage.
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  They did white weddings. So at some point they loved each
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  other. They were both young when they
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  got married. So the challenges of travelling
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  abroad, the challenges of, you know, trying to, that's why you
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  see a whole lot of abroad marriages end because at this
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  point, the woman is expected to work and also be a home builder
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  to take care of the home, while the man is also expected to work
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  to be the provider. But he's still the traditional
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  man whereby he's not expected to or he feels like he is not
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  supposed to do any chores because those are women's
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  responsibility. So most times those marriages
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  have challenges and most times what happens?
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  I mean, I know a whole lot of couples who according to them,
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  they've separated but they are still married.
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  Maybe the man will move from one state to the other, or the woman
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  will move from one state to the other or sometimes even move
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  from one country to the other. But they will not sit down to
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  say, OK, this marriage is no longer working.
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  Let us separate. Most times they just put
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  distance between each other. The two people in that
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  relationship knows that the relationship is no longer
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  working. But once one of them move on and
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  maybe the other one is not finding it funny with life, or
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  maybe have them find their footings, or maybe it's just
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  still salty because they were the ones that got left.
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  Then you start hearing stories of, oh, he left me after 15
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  years. After five years, we just got
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  married. He left me with all these debts.
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  Listen, I think the whole lesson is marriages end and for couples
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  who are married who think that they are no longer in love or I
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  would suggest go for go, go for therapy, go for counselling, try
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  to fix whatever the issue is. And if that issue is no longer
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  fixable, separate and separation sometimes will be making family
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  members aware because you can separate as a couple and then
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  your family members will be fighting you.
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  Because in this case, it was actually Cubana chief priest
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  that made it public. The wife, Kelvin's ex-wife never
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  came out and said anything. Yes, she filed for a divorce
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  because obviously he wants to then get married to to Maria.
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  So he needs her to file for a divorce.
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  But he he himself never filed for a divorce.
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  I think that is where the problem is.
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  Men are the problem. If you're going to get married
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  or if you're going to date somebody who had been married
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  before, ensure that they are divorced.
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  Ensure that OK, maybe because if I think the, the challenge there
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  is now, if you then come into the picture and ask him to go
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  and file for a divorce, you will look like the other woman.
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  So it, it is very challenging. It is very challenging.
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  We all know or one or two couples who got married, who are
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  no longer together, who that marriage had ended, but on paper
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  they are still married. Then if one of them then want to
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  get married, everybody will come back from the woodworks to say
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  yes, this is a married man or this is a married woman.
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  So it is very challenging. What would you do if you are
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  somebody approaches you, somebody you like and after some
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  time you realise that's OK? This this person was married
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  before or this man was married before or he's still married or
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  and this woman is still married but they are claiming that their
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  marriage had ended. Would you, before even going
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  into that relationship, seek confirmation from the other
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  partner? Or would you say, OK, would you
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  take them, take their word to say OK, yes, you say the
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  marriage has ended. I believe you.
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  Or if they say they are not even married, yes, they, they, they
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  have a child, but they are not married.
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  What would you do? Because we cannot sit down and
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  laugh and accuse Maria of snatching or for being a home
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  wrecker. But what if you were in her
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  shoes? What would you do?
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  Would you leave somebody you like who is telling you that
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  they are not married? Or would you continue and get
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  dragged online? Let me know what you think.
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