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Season 2 - Episode 230 - We can choose to respond or react · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So today we are going to be
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  talking about living in response or reaction.
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  So fundamentally, human beings are wired to react because as
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  I've said before, and as you've probably heard from other
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  people, because it's very true, we are hardwired to find what's
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  wrong. And that's that's just an
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  organic mechanism in us that helps us stay alive as a, as a,
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  as a species. That's what happened.
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  We just basically we're wired for it.
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  And if you see what's wrong, technically you can really react
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  quickly and jump into action and if you see what's wrong, you're
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  actually empowered because you can navigate around it, so to
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  speak. The problem is our world now has
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  changed so significantly that we are not about to be killed by
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  pterodactyls every moment. And being in reaction is
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  stressful and it causes that fight or flight syndrome to go
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  off in us and it keeps our adrenal glands on high alert all
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  the time. And so we constantly have
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  chemicals flowing through us that are not necessarily great
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  for our everyday lives. Now.
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  Now, sure, there are times when. You have to have that reaction
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  quick, You know, you've got to go through something like I'll
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  use a chicken coop example because I'll we're here.
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  And you know, I love to use my chickens as an example because
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  it's so weird how there's so many great parables out here.
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  But if I hear a hawk, instantly, instantaneously something inside
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  of me goes off where I have to go OKI need to go check now,
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  even though that's the big boy as you can hear him in the
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  background. That is his job, to go out and
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  protect them against the Hawks, which he does do an excellent
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  job at. That doesn't mean we don't have
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  loss, and it doesn't mean some things don't happen when the
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  Hawks are around because the big girls do the best they can
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  protecting the little ones, and he does the best they can.
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  But every so often it goes off. But my brain is.
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  Is now wired. Every time I hear that hawk
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  screech, I will whatever I'm doing meander quickly over here
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  so that I can put myself out there because the hawk won't
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  come down if there's a human around.
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  So and I don't even have to think about it.
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  It's just a complete and quick reaction.
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  Now response. Response is thoughtful, so when
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  you take a pause, you collect your thoughts.
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  Is it necessary for me to run? Is it necessary now?
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  If they're all inside the coop, it's not necessary for me to
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  run, but my brain still has that immediate reaction.
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  Does that make sense? So you can feel it even though
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  there's no threat? There's a reaction, but there's
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  no threat. And we tend to be very reactive
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  in our world right now. As human beings, we don't tend
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  to be thoughtful and respond. So some we'll hear something on
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  the news, something will go off and we don't pause and we don't
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  pull ourselves back to actually think about all the different
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  scenarios that could be going on in this.
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  So let's say you hear something in the news and and it doesn't
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  go the way you wanted it to go. You have strong beliefs about
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  it. There's nothing wrong with that.
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  But having your body go instantaneously into reaction,
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  it's just not healthy for you. Sure, you can do it for a short
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  period of time, but the trick is to realize you can't just stay
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  in reaction state because it's just absolutely psychologically
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  unhealthy. And it's physically unhealthy
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  because the two are intertwined. You can't separate the two.
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  So if you are constantly in a state of that fight, fight,
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  fight and reacting in an absolutely toxic way for your
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  own health, it will go that way and all that.
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  Acid so to so to speak, that you pour into your body emotionally
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  will have effects on you as we know.
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  Stress, you have to use that one word.
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  Doctors love to use that one word.
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  Stress related illness. Well, stress related illness all
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  comes really down to one thing. It's an emotional illness.
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  Now the word stress has different meanings for us, as we
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  each interpret it differently because we interpret everything
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  differently. But stress is that emotional
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  reaction and us not getting rid of it quick enough and it stays
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  in reaction mode and therefore everything we are reacting to.
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  So you become a hair trigger and things that will normally not
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  drive anybody crazy all of a sudden, drive every, every bit
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  of you crazy because you've been in that hair trigger mode and
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  all of a sudden you can't get out of it.
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  So I'm going to challenge you guys to start thinking about am
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  I responding where I can pause? And thoughtfully think through
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  all aspects of what I'm hearing, interpreting, experiencing.
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  Or am I just in a state of pure reaction where I'm in that fight
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  mode and I'm not willing to see anything else?
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  Because I will tell you this, my friends, the most important
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  distinction about our talk today is you do have a choice to at
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  least just totally take a respite from it.
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  Pull back. And say, how do I want to
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  respond? What are the different ways I
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  can view this before I respond? And that's actually the power of
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  having the the ability to think through things.
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  That's our ability as a human being to think this is.
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  A huge gift when you can actually sit and discern all the
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  different aspects of things. So today I'm going to ask you
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  guys to think about the difference between your
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  responses and your reactions, because they're powerful and I
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  will see you all tomorrow. Have a great day.
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  Bye.