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Adult Autism Symptoms 7 You Don't Know You Had · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  What's up guys? Here's they have an Oval autism
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  symptoms, traits or characteristics that you didn't
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  even know you displayed. I can guarantee you do.
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  All right guys, let's get into it.
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  Hey guys, what's going on? Welcome back to the MSV world.
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  My name is Dan. I have autism, ADHDOCD and
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  dyslexia, and I make weekly videos all about this stuff.
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  So if you're new around here and you want to learn more because
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  And if you're watching on Facebook, just be sure to give
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  this page a follow and we'll see all the videos I put out.
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  So many people on the autism spectrum will have traits that
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  they kind of know about, you know, like, Oh yeah, social
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  skills. And there's things that we know
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  about, but there's also things that we don't even know about
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  that we do. And you probably don't even know
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  you do these things. And I'm so glad you're here to
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  watch this video because it's really interesting as an
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  insight. And this is the second time I
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  recorded this. I just recorded 10 videos guys,
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  and not one of them had working audio.
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  So yes, here we go. His his thing too.
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  Anyway, The funny thing about this is that I actually help
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  free. You're welcome from yours truly.
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  OK, another one, the lack of empathy in autism.
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  Now you display this trait, but not in the way you think.
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  People always say that you can't see something from another
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  person's perspective, which means you have no empathy, which
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  means you can't understand how they feel.
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  Somebody's sad about an event that happened and they feel like
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  you don't understand why they'd be sad.
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  This is incorrect. What actually happens is you
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  can't put yourself in their shoes and see from their
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  viewpoint outwards, OK? Because like a Fantasia, like
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  how are you supposed to think about how somebody else sees the
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  world? It's quite a difficult thing to
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  do, but you can conceptualize the idea that if these things
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  happened in an algorithmic pattern, what would be the
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  outcome? Well, the outcome would be that.
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  And then we would decide if my my car broke down there to walk
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  to work, my shoes broke, I get to work, offices closed, it
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  starts snowing, I come home late, I've got blisters on my
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  feet and I feel like garbage. Well, yeah, if you lifted out
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  all those things for anybody, you're going to feel garbage.
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  So you don't need to see from that person's point of view to
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  understand why they're like that.
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  So if people say autistic people don't have empathy, what they
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  actually mean is that autistic people can't put themselves
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  hypothetically in someone else's shoes.
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  That does not mean you don't have empathy.
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  It just means you can't put yourself like aphantasia.
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  You can't put yourself in somebody else's shoes to see it
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  in their viewpoint. Super interesting, Very, very
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  apparent. Interrupt this video just to
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  It's an education that transforms so you can help
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  others transform their lives as a mentor, right?
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  And this is through live Q&A, live teaching.
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  Debbie's amazing. She does this with you live in
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  neuro CBT, which is absolutely something just, it's so
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  interesting. It's so new, like I was so taken
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  back by it. All you need to do to get the
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  certification is go to the the link in the card or the
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  description of this video and I'll try and leave AQR code on
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  Debbie's course. It's amazing.
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  Please check it out. OK, number 2 is the love of
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  strict structured routine. Now you might be an autistic
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  person. He's like, look, I don't have
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  strict structured routine. I'm an adult and I don't have
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  routines. Oh no, you do.
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  You just don't even realize it. Every time you go for that
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  coffee, you are getting the same thing every single time.
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  I know it. How often do you go to
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  Starbucks, Tim Horton's, whatever it is, wherever you go?
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  How long do you go there and order a different drink?
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  I can guarantee you never do because you have that one drink
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  that you know the predictability, you know that
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  it's happening and it gives you that strict structured routine.
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  But why? We thrive off routine because
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  routine allows us to have a predictability and it takes away
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  the chaos of the choice of something that's about to
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  happen. And this is quite interesting.
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  So if you look at Elon Musk again someone's autistic and
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  Mark Zuckerberg, again someone who's autistic, both huge tech
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  company guys. Now they have this like 2
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  examples. Mark Zuckerberg had a had a
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  closet full of just the same T-shirts, same pants, the same
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  hoodie. Why?
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  Because the choice when he gets up to try and choose what he
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  wanted to that time taken to choose the clothes he needs to
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  wear for that day was something that was unimportant to him.
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  He just wanted to get on with work and do the other things.
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  So to save those few minutes, he just prepped the fact that he
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  had just the same clothes, just pick out the same clothes every
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  single day. Nothing changed.
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  And Neil Musk has a decision where when he wakes up in the
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  morning, he has a routine that says if something comes a crop,
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  if he runs a through an algorithm, if it doesn't get him
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  closer to putting a person on Mars, he doesn't do it.
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  So he's like, he cuts himself, Hey, is this meeting I'm going
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  to somebody's requested a meeting with me.
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  Does this meeting get me closer to putting somebody on Miles?
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  If the answer is no, he doesn't do it right.
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  Because we all have strict routines.
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  It just looks a little bit different when you're a kid and
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  you like wearing the same thing and you like eating the same
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  food every day. We still do eat the same food
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  every day as autistic adults. And what I'm trying to say is
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  that your routines change a little bit.
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  So that's what is sensory processing disorder.
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  But this is not. Everything's essentially
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  processing disorders. Oh, I don't like smells and
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  sounds and lights. And you may be like, hey, I'm
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  cool. I go to gigs and I don't mind
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  the sunshine and lights and dolls don't bug me.
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  I don't have this. Oh no, you do, you do.
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  And I'm about to call you out. Sensory processing disorder
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  acutely to environmental structure.
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  What this means is you can go to a restaurant, eat a lasagna, a
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  big plate lasagna, love it, smashed it.
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  You can go home, have the same lasagna.
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  You you never have it at home. You would never touch this at
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  home. This is an environmental factor
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  in the restaurant, the conditions that surround that
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  meal, that thing that you are consuming, the everything that
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  environment is, is created in that place and allows you to be
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  able to enjoy and eat that food there.
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  But then if you go home, your environment is never replicated
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  to or was the restaurant. You could never get that at
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  home. So the food is different.
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  Therefore you don't have it. This is a sensory processing
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  disorder because you're experiencing the sensors around
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  you in that moment in time. And I know this.
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  I can see you. If this is you give the video a
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  thumbs up. I've just called you out.
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  I can see you sitting there laughing behind this computer
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  screen saying, how does he know me so well?
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  I know you because I am you. I'm pinned there.
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  And so even my mother used to get these frozen pre made TV
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  dinners of spaghetti Bolognese and eat those and then she'd
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  make a spaghetti Bolognese for all of us.
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  Maybe we did a family dinner and then she wouldn't have any.
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  And I'm like, man, why are you having to split Molly?
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  She's like, I don't like spaghetti bolognese.
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  I'm like, what are you talking about?
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  Of course you do. You buy the you have the ready
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  meal. And she's like, no, yeah, I
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  suppose you're right. And it's like a penny job for
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  her. It's so interesting to see that.
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  So yeah, called you. OK.
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  Next one is unusual speech patterns.
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  So unusual speech patterns is basically people in the office
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  inspection will have so many thoughts racing through their
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  mind, charging 1000 miles an hour when they're trying to
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  structure a sentence together. You know what you want to say,
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  but it could come all jumbled up, right?
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  It could be like, you know, you could have a sentence to be
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  like, oh, I want to go and I want to go out for a run.
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  You'd be like running is what I really need to go and do right
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  now. So you're saying the same thing,
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  but you're not saying it in you wanted to convey it, right?
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  If you had this and it's so interesting.
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  It's kind of like tripping over your own words because you're
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  thinking too fast for the moment that you're trying to be in.
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  And I think that's really, really interesting.
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  Never find me sleep patterns and disturbed sleep patterns, sleep
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  issues. Oh my goodness.
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  Because I'm into chasing constantly 1000 miles an hour.
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  We have trouble relaxing, turning off those thoughts,
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  getting enough rest, let alone a decent amount of rest.
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  And you know, I was my partner always laughed because I'm never
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  in a really deep sleep. I'm always like a live sleeper,
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  just chilling on the surface and she'd be like babe gaff, I'm
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  like, yes, I'm up, I'm wide awake straight away from the get
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  go. I don't need no coffee, don't
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  need nothing. I can get up and drive an
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  aeroplane. I'm like I'm alert right when I
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  wake up, I'm awake. And so we have sleep issues.
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  Whether you like to believe it or not, you do have sleep
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  issues. OK, number six is difficulty
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  with eye contact. But why?
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  A lot of people would say autistic individuals have
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  difficulty with eye contact because they don't know social
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  conventions, but they do know social conventions exist.
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  But what we do is assisting individuals is we feel like
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  looking into somebody's eyes is like them looking into your
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  soul, pulling it out of your body and exposing it to the
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  world. It's horrible.
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  It's that weird feeling. It's like being thrown into the
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  street naked. That's what it feels like when
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  someone looks at you in the eyes for way too long.
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  You're like, Oh my goodness. And so that's an uncomfortable
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  feeling. And nobody wants to be
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  uncomfortable. We all just want to get on with
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  our life and not feel uncomfortable.
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  That is apparently it does happen.
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  The last one here is social rules that are unspoken.
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  And what this means is we don't tend to see the hints or they're
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  hidden between the lines. Conversations, if somebody says
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  something, we take you quite literally.
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  So in conversations, if somebody's hinting at something
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  or if somebody's trying to make you read between the lines,
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  ain't never going to happen. And it's so funny because
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  autistic people will be like, I know social rules.
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  I'm like, hey, you know, social rules to a certain extent.
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  And then it becomes crazy land where you have to read between
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  the lines and people aren't honest and it's all crazy.
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  Someone's being sarcastic and someone's trying to make a joke.
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  And you're like, well, I don't know what's going on here and
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  this is you. This is so interesting.
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  Now, whatever you've related to, drop in a comment down below.
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  If there's a glass shatter moment, I want to know because I
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  love this stuff. OK, now if you want to ask me
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  any questions, please do. I read every single comment and
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  I'll see you in the next video guys, peace.