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S21, #4: Ben’s Parents and Ashley’s Cry for Help · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Benn and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with i R Radio. Ashley, I have some incredibly special
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  Speaker 1: guests with us today, my parents, David and Amy Higgins.
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  Speaker 1: They are sitting here with us, so excited to be
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  Speaker 1: around us today. Um. They're here because I am running
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  Speaker 1: my very first half marathon and so being the supportive
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  Speaker 1: parents they are, they are coming out to watch us.
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  Speaker 1: And as they come out to watch us or watch me,
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  Speaker 1: I guess run because actually I don't. I don't see
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  Speaker 1: you um running? Do you do you run? Actually? Heck no? Um?
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  Speaker 1: When I was in high school is the last time
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  Speaker 1: I actually had to run? And let me know if
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  Speaker 1: this is too crazy, because I've always thought it was
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  Speaker 1: my high school. You didn't get an A in Jim
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  Speaker 1: unless you could run two point five miles in twenty minutes.
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  Speaker 1: That's insane. That's like seven, isn't it something? First off? Ashley? Um,
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  Speaker 1: two point five miles in um twenty minutes is not
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  Speaker 1: seven minutes and thirty seconds? What is it like? Is
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  Speaker 1: it eight minutes? Uh? A little bit over? Yes, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm running the mile right now. My goal for this
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  Speaker 1: half marathon is to be under two hours, and so
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  Speaker 1: I think that's about a nine a little bit under
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  Speaker 1: a nine minute pace. And how long have you been
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  Speaker 1: training for? Oh? I'm just exhausted hearing about my whole life,
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  Speaker 1: training my whole life for this moment. So my parents
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  Speaker 1: came out here today and then along with that, my
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  Speaker 1: mom for some reason another said she's so proud of me,
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  Speaker 1: and I think she wants to tell us why. Okay, Ashley,
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  Speaker 1: first of all, thanks for letting us hang out today.
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  Speaker 1: But I have the best story that I think that
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  Speaker 1: you will enjoy and the listeners will enjoy. After last
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  Speaker 1: week listening about all of the viewers are the listeners
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  Speaker 1: that we're calling in about Bin's mispronunciation, it dawned on
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  Speaker 1: me I have like something that is going to make
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  Speaker 1: so much sense to everybody now, Okay, and so here's
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  Speaker 1: just a quick little story. When Ben was just just
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  Speaker 1: a toddler and started to talk, Uh, it was more gibberish,
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  Speaker 1: and it went through that way for many years and
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  Speaker 1: then many years, many years, when did you start talking? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: let me finish, because it's it's it's quite complicated. At
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  Speaker 1: four years old, Like any good mom would do, I
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  Speaker 1: sent him to pre k for to get ready for kindergarten.
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  Speaker 1: We went through the whole year, and at the pre
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  Speaker 1: K graduation, his preschool teacher called us aside his father
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  Speaker 1: and I and said, Mr. And Mrs Higgins, I would
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  Speaker 1: really like to have you consider having your son go
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  Speaker 1: through pre K four again. She said, he just does
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  Speaker 1: not have a strong command of the English language. I know,
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  Speaker 1: look at him now, like he's just the master of talking. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: So we we did pre K four again, send him
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  Speaker 1: off to kindergarten, and for the next six years, through
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  Speaker 1: his elementary years, he did speech therapy like twice a
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  Speaker 1: week where all through sixth grade. And so I got
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  Speaker 1: to laughing after last week, and I'm thinking, there's nothing
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  Speaker 1: unusual about him receiving like advice on how to speak,
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  Speaker 1: because he's done his whole life, and I'm so proud
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  Speaker 1: of the fact that after all those challenges, look at
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  Speaker 1: him now. That so funny because Ben is just known
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  Speaker 1: as the best spoken bachelor, you know, the most well
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  Speaker 1: spoken bachelor. And when I think of Ben's radio voice,
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  Speaker 1: it's just it's wonderful. It's like he was made to
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  Speaker 1: speak publicly well. I think a lot of that comes
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  Speaker 1: from all the years of him being so intentional about
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  Speaker 1: the way. Yes, that must be it. Um, that's a
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  Speaker 1: that's the story my mom wanted to share so you
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  Speaker 1: can join us today. Yeah, I used to say, just
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  Speaker 1: for anybody to know it's um, I used to say,
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  Speaker 1: tweet wabbit. Um. You know, anything with an R was
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  Speaker 1: a w to me. And so if anybody out there
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  Speaker 1: else is struggling, please message me or tweet about your
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  Speaker 1: issues with the English language and make sure you hashtag
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  Speaker 1: almost Famous podcast because I would love to read your stories. Um.
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  Speaker 1: Before we go on, I have a question, what is
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  Speaker 1: something that like you grew up thinking the word was
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  Speaker 1: different than it actually is. It's like I used to
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  Speaker 1: think it was girl cheese, not grilled cheese, because only
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  Speaker 1: girls would eat girl cheese grilled cheese. Girl. Um, so
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  Speaker 1: maybe especially you know, I don't I don't know if
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  Speaker 1: I ever realized that's not how you say it until
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  Speaker 1: you know, recently, as as I said, when people started
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  Speaker 1: to re least pointed out. So I think that's probably
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  Speaker 1: a good, uh, a good example of that. Speaking of
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  Speaker 1: something especially good, you told us last time that you're
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  Speaker 1: going to the New Kids on the Block concert right
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  Speaker 1: after we've filmed this podcast with Luke Pell from Joe
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  Speaker 1: Joe's season of The Bachelor at Chris Strandberg from Caitlin
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  Speaker 1: season The Bachelor, who you both you and I both
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  Speaker 1: are really good friends with and we're still trying to
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  Speaker 1: figure out if you maybe a little bit more than friends.
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  Speaker 1: This storyline has seemed to exist through the last four
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  Speaker 1: weeks of this show, and I'm excited to see how
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  Speaker 1: this goes down. And then Amy Sugarman, who was a
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  Speaker 1: producer on our show um or on this podcast all
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  Speaker 1: of you went to the New Kids on the Block
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  Speaker 1: concert in Los Angeles, and I'm excited to hear how
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  Speaker 1: did this go down? How was it? And was Chris
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  Speaker 1: showing signs finally of a little bit more than just friends?
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  Speaker 1: All right, well, let me start off just talking about
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  Speaker 1: my passion and my love New Kids on the Block.
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  Speaker 1: I have been too over. I'm gonna say over twenty
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  Speaker 1: five New Kids on the Block concerts within the past
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  Speaker 1: eight years. We're getting reactions in the room. It's like,
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  Speaker 1: it's undescribable. What happened. I don't have happens to me
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  Speaker 1: or what happens to the whole arena. The entire thing
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  Speaker 1: is crazy. Ashley and her sister no, every word to
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  Speaker 1: every song and every dance move. Then the New Kids
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  Speaker 1: on the Block are somewhere between chippendales and singing. And
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  Speaker 1: at one point this sums it up. Jordan's from New
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  Speaker 1: Kids on the Block sang an entire song with his
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  Speaker 1: creepy tank top pulled up to his neck. Yeah, that
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  Speaker 1: is where Jordan's loves one show off his vocals like
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  Speaker 1: he will never let a show go by where Joey
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  Speaker 1: is the only one with a solo. It's like, no,
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  Speaker 1: if you have a soul, then I have a soul
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  Speaker 1: and I'm gonna be super dramatic about it. I will
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  Speaker 1: take off my shirt. I'm gonna like wiggle my hips
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  Speaker 1: like he does the exact same moves for legit the
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  Speaker 1: past twenty eight years of his life, and they're still
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  Speaker 1: on point. He looks great, they sound great, and they're
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  Speaker 1: they're so self aware. They're very self where they know
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  Speaker 1: exactly what they're doing. They know there's an element of
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  Speaker 1: silliness to it. But all of us in the crowd
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  Speaker 1: of twenty thousand, they're going nuts. We buy it, we
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  Speaker 1: love it. We are screaming because we are actually feeling
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  Speaker 1: you know, I didn't know whether to smile, laugh or
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  Speaker 1: cover my eyes. By the way, if anybody out there
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  Speaker 1: is wondering, who, uh the young lady chiming in the
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  Speaker 1: back is, that's Amy, who also went to the concert
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  Speaker 1: with Ashley, the New Kids on the Block concert. Um. Actually,
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  Speaker 1: I'm first off, can we slow down for a second
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  Speaker 1: because you've been to twenty New Kids on the Block shows? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: just I had no idea they had done that many
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  Speaker 1: shows in the last all right, well, I'm gonna give
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  Speaker 1: you a little brief synopsis of why I am a
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  Speaker 1: twenty nine year old New Kids on the Block van
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  Speaker 1: because I kind of missed the ship, you know, I was.
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  Speaker 1: I was like really born during their heyday. Their hey
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  Speaker 1: day would have been from eight to and Um, I
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  Speaker 1: lived in Boston, which is where they were from when
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  Speaker 1: I was three, and I'm still angry at my mom
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  Speaker 1: for not taking me to concerts during their peak at
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  Speaker 1: the Boston Garden, Like that would have been the best
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  Speaker 1: first concert experience ever at three years old. Anyway, Yeah, so, um,
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  Speaker 1: there was a boy band route during the early to
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  Speaker 1: mid two thousand's, This Real Um in Sync had basically,
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  Speaker 1: you know, broken up, even though they pretended to go
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  Speaker 1: just a hiatus and back Straight was on an actual hiatus.
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  Speaker 1: They came back. Um, So, my sister and I were
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  Speaker 1: watching v H one and they kept trying to reunite
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  Speaker 1: the New Kids in the Block, but they're like, no,
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  Speaker 1: we're not going to reunite for this show. But my
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  Speaker 1: sister and I had these songs stuck in her head forever,
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  Speaker 1: and that went from downloading their entire catalog on iTunes
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  Speaker 1: to buying every single piece of vintage merchandise on eBay
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  Speaker 1: and then, oh my god, what's happened? Living in our
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  Speaker 1: kept them in business, and you're the one that kept
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  Speaker 1: them in business. So wait, so wait, I'm gonna see
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  Speaker 1: this up. But like I used to live in my
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  Speaker 1: own New Kids on the Block world with my sister
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  Speaker 1: um during two thousand four. I would go to high
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  Speaker 1: school my junior year with an orange New Kids on
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  Speaker 1: the Block lunchbox and this amazing acid wash um jean
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  Speaker 1: jacket that I actually got so much attention for the
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  Speaker 1: other night at the concert. And I lived in my
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  Speaker 1: own little world and we never thought we'd ever be
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  Speaker 1: able to experience Nukids on the Block. But four years later,
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  Speaker 1: united and now I've been to five concerts since and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, and I'm friendly with the bank, find you
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  Speaker 1: a date today, Like there was something we're gonna try
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  Speaker 1: to do that may be impossible. Now I think you
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  Speaker 1: might have shared a little bit too. That was crazy.
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  Speaker 1: This is why I'm single because I shared too much
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  Speaker 1: of everything. Ben I just like that she said it
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  Speaker 1: was a boy band drought. Drought like this is a
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  Speaker 1: sad time in Ashley's life and it's not two thousand eight.
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  Speaker 1: The markets didn't collapse like absolutely good moment that changed
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  Speaker 1: her drought. Well, you know in two thousand and eight.
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  Speaker 1: Actually it's when the drought was replenished with water with
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  Speaker 1: the Jonas brothers and the reunite and the reuniting of
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  Speaker 1: Nucas on the post currently or now that we have
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  Speaker 1: been without one direction for over a year, Yeah, we're
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  Speaker 1: getting We're gonna need water soon. There's that show on
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  Speaker 1: ABC that you're gonna be able to watch called boy Band.
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  Speaker 1: I told them, I was like, if I don't have
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  Speaker 1: a role in the show, I'm going to be very
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  Speaker 1: disappointed in new ABC. Um. Rob Mills is totally he
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  Speaker 1: totally knows what's going on. So just you know, I
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  Speaker 1: just came up with the show idea, Ashley I am
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  Speaker 1: still on board with Ashley I as the next Bachelorette. Thanks,
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  Speaker 1: I believe. Here's here's where you're gonna get really excited.
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  Speaker 1: Here's my idea. Every single suitor is a part of
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  Speaker 1: a boy band. That's a good show. Wait, I'm getting sweaty.
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  Speaker 1: Somebody copyright that really quick, because I actually really like that.
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  Speaker 1: I have to say. Then, you know what's really funny
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  Speaker 1: is that you know my in your intro card, like
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  Speaker 1: they have three facts when you are when your blue
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  Speaker 1: pictures come out for the Bachelor the Bachelorette, then can
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  Speaker 1: you explain that we don't know? Yes, yes, okay, so
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  Speaker 1: on Facebook or at least with my season on Facebook,
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  Speaker 1: when the cast was announced, they had the blue pictures
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  Speaker 1: up on you know, different um Instagram posts and then
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  Speaker 1: next to our faces on the blue picture, there's three
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  Speaker 1: interesting facts about the person. One of my interesting facts
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  Speaker 1: was that I had been too over twenty five Jonas
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  Speaker 1: Brother concerts. I had a lot of fans immediately though,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of girls are like, I'm gonna like this
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  Speaker 1: Ashley I. So let's hear about this new kid on
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  Speaker 1: the block. Yea, yeaheah, I'm sorry we've left last track.
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  Speaker 1: I just wanted to tell you the meting pretty far
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  Speaker 1: and your history of of boy bands, and I think
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  Speaker 1: it's time to move now into Okay, how did this
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  Speaker 1: concert go? Was it special for you? How? How was
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  Speaker 1: the people around you? Did you and Chris happen to
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  Speaker 1: lay one on each other? So I'm very particular about
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  Speaker 1: who I bring to these concerts because they are sacred advents.
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  Speaker 1: So it was like quite something that my sister and
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  Speaker 1: I brought Luke and Cupcake and Amy. I mean, Amy's
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  Speaker 1: allowed everywhere, but you know, Cupcake a love interest to
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  Speaker 1: a boy band concert. Didn't really know how I felt
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  Speaker 1: about that. And I have to say, like, I'm pretty
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  Speaker 1: darn sure that Chris and I are just friends, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure I'm totally fine with that. I think
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  Speaker 1: our chemistry is very friendly, it's not romantic, and I
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  Speaker 1: just how do you think that? Um? I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: I really don't know. I just vibe that I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I have no urge to make out with him? And
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  Speaker 1: do you have an urge to make out with Luke? Though?
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  Speaker 1: Oh well, apparently so did other people. Apparently so did others.
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  Speaker 1: So get this vent and I don't know if you've
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  Speaker 1: heard this yet. It's very, very funny. So I was
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  Speaker 1: staring at Luke. All the girls around us were staring
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  Speaker 1: at Luke, including our waitress. So we had a little
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  Speaker 1: box at the Hollywood Bowl, and um, she was with
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  Speaker 1: us for the night, the waitress, and at the end
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  Speaker 1: of the night, during the last round, during the last
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  Speaker 1: few songs, she slipped this little note in with I
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  Speaker 1: think our check and it said you're hot. And she
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  Speaker 1: handed it to Luke. That so that said, you're hot.
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  Speaker 1: My name is this, here's my number? Really, yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: thought it was a little I thought it was a
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  Speaker 1: little aggressive. Oh I would have done it. That seems
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  Speaker 1: like a pretty bold move from a female. I want
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  Speaker 1: to ask my my mom actually this. I want to
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  Speaker 1: know what they think. Yeah, she's she's from a different
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  Speaker 1: time period, not that long ago. But have you ever
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  Speaker 1: or would you ever pull that move on somebody? Would
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  Speaker 1: you ever come up approach a man and hand him
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  Speaker 1: your number if you had no clue who he was
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  Speaker 1: and he's around for other women? You know, that's interesting.
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  Speaker 1: I with a cocktail waitress and a waitress in a
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  Speaker 1: pretty significant area of this world, and uh, I had
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  Speaker 1: never crossed my mind. No, it seems like a lot.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, my only thought is that she possibly believed
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  Speaker 1: Luke was single because she saw Ashley and Amy and
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  Speaker 1: Ashley's sister drooling over new kids on the block the
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  Speaker 1: whole time, so they thought, there's no way this guy
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  Speaker 1: has a chance, Like he's he's mine tonight. It was
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  Speaker 1: a little rude, like, how does she know that's not
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  Speaker 1: my boyfriend or my husband or yours or something. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know, well, because he's none of us are wearing rings.
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  Speaker 1: That's why. So I normally am pretty timid when it
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  Speaker 1: comes to like making moves. If you've ever watched The
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  Speaker 1: Bachelor Bachelor in Paradise, Like, I can be either very
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  Speaker 1: aggressive and obsessive or I can be really scared and
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  Speaker 1: nervous and in a shell. Um. But if I were
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  Speaker 1: to see Luke and I was like tending to him
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  Speaker 1: all night, I would have probably done the exact same
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  Speaker 1: thing the waitress did. To be honest, Yeah, And can
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  Speaker 1: I throw in something because there's one time, you know,
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  Speaker 1: you know, there's like that miss connections thing on Craigslist
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  Speaker 1: and like other apps. Now I had a misconnection. Hold on,
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  Speaker 1: hold on, there's there's a connection page on Craigslist that
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  Speaker 1: you've been a part of, not that I've been a
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  Speaker 1: part of. There's a there's a page where if you
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  Speaker 1: have some sort of romantic connection, whether that's a glance
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  Speaker 1: or like a nice conversation, but you didn't ask the
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  Speaker 1: person their name or number, you can go and talk
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  Speaker 1: about your experience on this message board on Craigslist. And
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  Speaker 1: then if that person felt the same way and they
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  Speaker 1: thought of the same thing to do, then they go
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  Speaker 1: on Craigslist and they find you. What the heck? I
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  Speaker 1: actually stay away from it. It is becoming clear and
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  Speaker 1: clear to me why Ashley does not have a boy.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I wait a second. Now, I have
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  Speaker 1: never ever gone on this message board. I'm just aware
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  Speaker 1: of it as the other people are in this room,
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  Speaker 1: are amy, right, Okay, we're getting knots, all right, But
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  Speaker 1: I need to tell you the story. Okay, keep you
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  Speaker 1: I'm listening to Okay. So I was at this sandwich
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  Speaker 1: place on Melbrose It's called Sack. This was back in October.
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  Speaker 1: There was a very beautiful man. He looked like Aladdin.
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  Speaker 1: He was so my type and I would never think,
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  Speaker 1: you know, oh, I'm going to give him my number.
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  Speaker 1: But then he started kind of talking to me a
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  Speaker 1: little bit, just like a little bit. I had my dog,
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  Speaker 1: he had his dogs, so we're just like, what's their name,
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  Speaker 1: how old are they? What breed is it? You know,
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  Speaker 1: like that. And then I'm texting my sister. I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: this is the hottest guy and he's talking to me
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  Speaker 1: and I don't know what to do and I know
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  Speaker 1: what to do, and she's like, I don't know what
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  Speaker 1: you do either, you know. So then I sorry, it's
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  Speaker 1: a long story. So then I walk away. I leave
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  Speaker 1: the sandwich place without you know, engaging further. And then
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  Speaker 1: she's like, turn around and give him your number. Go
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  Speaker 1: and turn around and just say, this is so crazy
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  Speaker 1: of you, but you think you're really you think he's
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  Speaker 1: cute and this is your number, and then you walk away.
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  Speaker 1: So I sat on the block for like four minutes
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  Speaker 1: trying to decide whether or not to turn around and
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  Speaker 1: do this. But then I chickened out and I didn't
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  Speaker 1: do it. But then guess what I did. Guess what
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  Speaker 1: I did. I went to the lady, the cashier, I
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  Speaker 1: went back to the sandwich place, and I said, do
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  Speaker 1: you happen to know that guy's name and his name
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  Speaker 1: was Gabriel. So this is my misconnection Gabriel who lives
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  Speaker 1: in West Hollywood and goes to sag on Melrose. I
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  Speaker 1: thought you were really cute. You had like a published dog,
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  Speaker 1: and if you're listening to this, I like to meet you.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, Ben, how do we help her? I have
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: a great idea on how we have helped Ashley later
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: on in this episode. I've came up with this master
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: plan that I'm super excited for. Right, Okay, We're gonna
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: have a segment now called Awkward Ashley and Awkward Ashley
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: speak more about this later. Is it's simply this. We're
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: gonna try to put Ashley in the most awkward situations
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: every week from here on out to the end of
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: this episode, and the first Awkward Ashley segment is going
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: to be about finding Ashley a blind date. So before
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: we get to the Awkward Ashley segment where we're gonna
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: try to find Ashley a date, we need to give
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: a quick shout out to one of our sponsors and
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: just tell them thank you because ash and I actually
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: both really liked this sponsor. Um. The sponsor is Zeal
• 18:26
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• 18:28
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  Speaker 1: love it, um, and I wonder if our next color
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: loves it. So we have a caller on the line
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: who I believe is a fan of Ashley I and
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: The Bachelor and Bachelor at Mike, are you out there? Uh? Indeed,
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: I am here and I'm a ZAL fan too, Yes, perfect, Okay, Mike,
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: I I have to hear something from you. You've probably
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: heard bits and pieces so far of this story that
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: Ashley and Amy. You know, our producer is so flustered
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: over Um. They went to a concert this weekend with
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: a guy named Luke Pell. Luke Pell was on The
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: Bachelor at UM last season with Joe Joe and the waitress.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: At this concert, they went to gave Luke her number
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: in front of all the girls. Okay, so they're claiming
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: this is in a very aggressive move on the part
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: of the waitress and a little bit disrespectful to the
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: girls around him. What's your thoughts. I mean, frankly, I
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: kind of applaud the waitress. Um, I do you too, Yeah,
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: I don't have any problem with that. I think that
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: a guy like Luke doesn't come around every day. You
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: do not see that. He's beautiful inside and out. Really,
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: he's like, just like he's walked out of a Nichols
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: Sparks movie. He is the war vet. He went to
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: West Point, he went to war, he came back. He's
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: a cowboy and he's a country singer. Like that is
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: a Nicholas Sparks book. I'm just breaking it down. Let's
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: say it was just you and Luke. You're the only
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: two people at the concert in the box, and she
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: didn't have done it. Yeah, that would have been a date.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: That would have been that would have looked like a date. Yeah,
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: she might have still have done it, and maybe give
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: her more credit for that. She's really I'm so sorry.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: You only live once, and can I tell you this story?
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. I have so many when it comes
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: to stuff like this. I was on a cruise in
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: January and I was sitting at one of like the
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: karaoke bars, and this guy came up to me. He
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: gave me a business card or what looked like a
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: business card, and it said, you want the most Beautiful
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: Girl in the Room Award. Because of this, you get
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: a free lunch on me. Here's my number and email.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: And I actually thought that was super cute. Did you
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: give him? Did you text them? And he's got a
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: gross out so creepy. I think it's actually hute. I mean,
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: I think it's cute because the guy was nice looking.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: I mean, he wasn't a stunner, but he was definitely attractive,
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: and I was like, it was good enough for a
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: free lunch. For a free lunch, I thought it was
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: kind of a nice way to hit on someone without
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: being super super aggressive. I hate it when a guy
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: comes up to me and they kind of expect that
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: I should want to give them my time of day. Mike,
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: what's your thoughts so far on this season The Bachelorrette, Um,
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: I really haven't watched too much of the show. I
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: spent more time listening to Your Guys podcast than I have. Yeah,
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: you know so so. Frankly, I watched the show. Both
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: of them. The bat watch it with um, the whole family,
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: you know, mainly the daughters, the two daughters that I have,
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: Emma and Lucy. Lucy is had a dog, but his
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: daughter two daughters. Sorry, my dog's name is Lizzie, if
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: you remember she was in the Clouds of Paradise. Yes,
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: So I get two daughters that I watched with um.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: And then I have an older son who's uh who
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: frowns upon it me watching it with them, and and
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: then my my I don't think my wife's very pleased
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: with me watching to see there, but together, you know,
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: we're into this. We watch it. I think there's a
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: lot of teaching moments in the show. Frankly, a lot
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: of dads have told me this, please explain. Let me
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: put it this. I like to be a little bit
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: more optimistic and positive. Um. So, like I looked at Ben.
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: I you know, it's like I thought Ben in his shows,
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: I thought he was a very real, honest person. Uh,
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: And I thought that was you know, so you're sitting
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: with your daughters, It's like, that's the type of person
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: that you should look after. You should go after something
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: like that. You know, you kind of what you see
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: is what you get. UM, and then you see somebody
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: uh you know, creepy or a dumpster fire. You know,
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: you you continue to say, that's that's not something we
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: want to seek out. You know, there might be some
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: attractive he or she may be a good looking but
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: you go a little deeper, you know, runaway type of thing.
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: And so that's kind of the way we look at
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: the show. Um, I'm a big fan of dumpster fires
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: and and and there. There certainly are the fair share
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: of dumpster fires on the show, but I also think
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: that there's a lot of good things you can get
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: out of it, which which I try to focus on,
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: especially you know with the the younger daughters. Definitely, how
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: how old are your daughters? Uh well, Astley met him
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: the other day. There U sixteen and fourteen. Okay, yeah,
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: they're They're perfect age to watch the About fourteen, I
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: would say, is the most when I when I talk
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: to people as the age they pretty start they start
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: watching the shows about fourteen years old. I think that's
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: when Chris Harrison started letting his daughter actually watching. Yeah,
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: they I mean they were, they were, They had a
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: really good time. They all and I mentioned they all
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: got their deal um massages. My wife was there, and
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: there was a couple other Evan was there and and
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: Chase was there at this uh viewing party in Arenda.
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: Uh this very next place Jason, Jason, Evan and Carly
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: and yeah, so anyway, it was the family had a
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: really nice time. That's awesome. You know. I think it's
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: always uh, I admire somebody like you who can admit, hey,
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: I watched this show. Um, because a lot of times
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: I get this reaction from guys. They'll come up to
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: me like, hey man, can I get a picture for
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: my girlfriend or wife? I don't really watch the show,
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: And then right when the picture is done, it's always
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: the same question, so like is it really that real?
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: Like did you? Did you really like that? Girl? You've
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: watched the show too, So I admire you for admitting
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: like it or maybe not even like it, but watch
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: it and then I do like it, And then you
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: talk to your daughters about it. You use it as
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: a platform just to speak about topics, which I think, um,
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: it does allow that, Like you said, you know, you
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: can speak about topics like sex and drugs and you know, um,
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: dealing with somebody that maybe doesn't exactly treat a woman
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: or somebody doesn't treat a man correctly. You can bring
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: that up based on it being shown on the show.
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: That's why I like you, Ben. You're a straight shooter.
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: If I had a kid, if I had a daughter,
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: I'd be wanting her to watch a guy like Ben
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: and then say like, that's the kind of guy you
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: want to find. Yeah, this segment is not about me, guys.
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: This this segments about Mike and and his amazing parenting skills. UM, Mike,
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: thank you for joining us today. Thanks for telling us
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: about the way you watch a show. Please tell both
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: your daughters, UM, that they have a great dad. Thank you.
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: Guys have kids fifteen years down the road. You give
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: Uncle Mike a callback and I'll give you some more.
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: But well, I definitely can't my fifteen years. I'm gonna
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: next year. Okay, Sorry, Hey, thanks Mike, So Steve, Mike,
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: thank you. So. Ashley asking Mike if his if his dog,
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: if if Lucy was his dog is the perfect example
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: of why we're having a segment now called awkward Ashley
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: do the music, but no, And here's this week's segment. Okay,
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: So we've talked over and over and over again about
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: Ashley's love life. We have talked about former Bachelor contestants
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: that she's been so attracted to, from Jared to Chris
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: Stranburg to Luke Pell. Now we can continue to go
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: on that list. No no, no, no, no, no no no,
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: that's not what we're saying. We're actually we're actually gonna
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: help you out here, actually, I think so. We've set
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: it up today where we have callers who are on
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: the line now. At least I hope a couple of
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: callers called in um to set you up with somebody
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: they know on a blind date that will happen this week.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: I'm hoping these dates go really well and that they're
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: never awkward. But I know there's some viewers out there
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: that maybe have a little darkness in their hearts, and
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: the next week you ship a story of complete awkwardness.
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: So we do have our first caller. We have Marissa
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: and Mackenzie online four. Marissa and Mackenzie, are you out there?
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: We are here? Hi? Hi, guys, good, How are you
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: so good? You're so excited to talk to you? Oh
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: my gosh, this is insane. And Benz there too. Hey, everybody, Okay,
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: so let's just dive into this. We need to set
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: Ashley up, don't we like, she's too good to be
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: single right now because she desires to find a man.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: She desires to be in relationship right now. So um
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: mersa mackenzie, you have somebody in mind, correct, we do? Yeah,
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: please don't be like he's you, We promise, And then
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: I look at his Instagram and then I have to
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: be like, oh, yeah he's cute when I'm really just
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: lying to you. No, no, he is. Yeah, he's a model.
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: All right, keep talking. It's not Luke Pell, is it now? Lupel? Yeah? Unfortunately,
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: don't know do that. We've never really met him. We
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: almost met him. He was at the viewhouse day the
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: day to watch The Bachelor when they do a viewing party.
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: We almost went to meet him, but we got two tired. Here.
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: The boy we think that you should be set up with.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: His name is Seneca. It's actually Seas's brother. He looks
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: like Aladdin and I know that you like that because
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: you have the jazz thing. Um, he's so right now.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: He's getting his masters in um musical performance. He's a
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: professional opera singer. So yeah, he has a year left. Um.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: He's in Italy, but he's going to be back, um
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: this months, So I mean that's kind of I don't know.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: What else do you want to know about? Is the
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: Italian No, he's not Italian. Um, we're half white, half Mexican.
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm like really into Mexicans. That's my type.
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: I was one time told I was fetishing them. So
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: it's like not appropriate to say, but like, I just
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: want to let you know that, Like my track record
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: includes actually, this could be a future daughter in law. Alright,
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: sister in law, this could be your future sister in law,
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: and you're telling her that you're fetishing over Oh my god,
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: cut it, okay, So um please, what's tell me his Instagram?
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: Where does he live? So right now he is he
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: lives in Italy right now, but where where is he
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: going to live when he comes back to America? So
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: he has one year left, he's going to be in
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: Houston and then he comes back to Colorado. Oh my god.
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: So when I visit Ben, I can go of see
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: him exactly. So he has enough to plans after gradspool
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: like where he's going to go wherever his tale it
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: takes them. So that's kind of all up in the air.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: So let's lock his love life down with you first. Okay?
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: How old is he take decisions? He is going to
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: be this year? Okay, that's doable. I'm into it. So
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: what was his sign? Oh god, it's January eighteen. I
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: don't know. I can't follow the whole body acting. Would
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: would he have a problem with the virgin thing? No? No,
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: I can't, I can't. I can't. He would not be upset? Okay, Okay,
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: So here's the deal. We have Seneca, who is cultured,
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: good looking, and talented as our first candidate, Ashley, I
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: think you're gonna get like, very hot and bothered here.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: You're gonna keep asking them questions because I think Seneca
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: sounds really great. We have other callers in a line
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: to try to set you up with some people like
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: this isn't just first call. Let's go tweet his name
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: and then okay, I'll tweet you right now. Okay, thank you. Okay,
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: make sure you hashtag almost famous podcast on there too. Okay, Okay,
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: no problem. You guys are the best. I'm so excited
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: that I may have found my husband and I can't
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: believe that we're doing and Ashley I is the bachelor addition,
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: on the almost podcasts, I'm into this. Yes, it's great,
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: Okay in law yeah, season all right? Thanks? Okay, now,
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: actually these we have to keep these a little bit
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: shorter than we have been so far because I know
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: you're excited, but we have a lot of colors. Okay.
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: We're gonna have a Joe Rogan podcast where it's four
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: hours over Okay, so just pull it back a little bit. Actually,
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: we have Nori online six Okay, Nori, are you out there? Hi? Hi?
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, we're excited to have you. Okay, I'm
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: gonna let Ashley take over here. She you're trying to
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: set Ashley up with somebody. You two need to talk
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: it out for a little bit. I'll try him in
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: when I feel like it's appropriate to move on, because,
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: as we figured out so far, Ashley gets very excited
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: about the idea of being set up on a date. Okay,
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: So I want to know the guy's name, his age,
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: and three interesting facts. Okay, Well, I think you know
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: him and you've definitely hung out with him, so I
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: don't think I need to give you the fact. Wait,
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: do you know him personally? No? I wish, And how
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: can you set me up if you don't know him personally,
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: and well, I mean like I've seen like your chemistry
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: with him on screen, so I just feel like it
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: could work. All right, go for it, um, Chris A. K. Cupcake, Well,
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: we were just talking about him. We're trying to get
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: away from him right now. We've been moving on. I
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: feel like when something I don't know, I feel like
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: you guys have this tension, and every time you guys
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: are on TV, it's like it's like I feel like
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: he's just confused. Are you giving him like the wrong
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: signal or something? I don't think so. I think he's
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: just confused by his own self. So when you guys
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: hang out, like, does he not enough for it with you?
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: And no, he's really flirty, but he's really flirty, but
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: like I really don't think I like him either, like
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: that like that really yeah, I wish because I really
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: like Cupcake and I really like, actually, I wish you
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: could work out. It doesn't sound like she's that into
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: it and he doesn't sound like he's that into it.
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: But we're gonna we're gonna keep this in mind. But
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: thank you, yeah, okay, thank you for calling. Thank you
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: so much. So after all this setting up and after
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: going on all these dates, I'm gonna need a massage.
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: It's gonna be so stressful. I was telling my sister
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: yesterday before I actually went another date, and you guys,
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: I don't go on that many dates. For some reason,
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: ever since his podcast started, I've been having a lot
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: of situations to talk about. But that's not normally the
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: case anyway. So yesterday, I'm like going out the way. Yesterday,
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: I'm like out the door on the way to another date,
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: and I said to my sister ago, I'm going to
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: go meet a stranger right now so that I don't
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: die alone. Like I'm gonna go talk to somebody for
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: an hour in the sake of getting married at some point.
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, this is really stressful. It's not fun,
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: Like just it's not fun to go talk to a
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: stranger and have four small talk. So I'm going to
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: reward myself with a zeal massage after this. Like I'm
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: not even joking. Ben, If you set me up with
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: these guys and I go on a couple of days
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: next week, I'm setting myself up for zeal massage at
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: the end of the week to just totally decompress. Well,
• 34:26
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• 34:30
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• 34:35
  Speaker 1: It's kind of creepy that they know where I live though,
• 34:38
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• 34:41
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• 34:52
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• 34:55
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• 35:15
  Speaker 1: we have a couple of callers on the line with
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: just some general questions for us. Our first callers online
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: nine Johnston Johnson, are you out there? Hey? So my
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: question was how you and Finn met, like, what function,
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: when it was, and then how you guys became close
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: strength after Oh I remember vividly when I met Ben.
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: But Johnston, your phone sucks so We're gonna hang up
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: on you while we answer that question. Okay, I'm sorry,
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: no JOHNSONID Hey Johnson, thanks for calling in. Yeah, thanks
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: for taking my call. Is so good to talk to you.
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: It's gonna talk to you. Listen to the next podcast
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: and you'll hear your answer because he won't know until then. Well.
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: I was at mentel all following my taping of my
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: first season of Bachelor in Paradise. It was going to
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: be the day that I saw Jared for the first
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: time since leaving him in Paradise. And I was very
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: nervous to meet Ben and Jared because well, Jared, you
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: know that was gonna be awkward. And Ben because I
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: thought he was the other most wonderful person on Kaitlin season.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: And um, we just talked a little bit at the
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: party and then he came back to my hotel room
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: with ten others and then we just we just talked
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: for a little while there. We had like a little
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: after party in my hotel room until like three in
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: the morning. It was fun. I remember that night because
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: I learned something for the very first time. What was that?
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: So when I walked to your hotel room, Uh, you
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: all were so incredibly nice to us. Right, we were
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: all kind of shell shocked. We we we were just
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: getting off a mentel. All. Uh, none of us had
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: really been a part of this bachelor family. Yes, we
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: really didn't know what the world was gonna off. Um,
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: and you invite us back and it was a great time.
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: But I remember something sitting on the floor in your
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: hotel room that totally threw me off. And this was
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: a box. It was a box full of makeup. I've
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: never seen anything like this. Can you please explain exactly
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: what that was? Because I'm not saying it's abnormal now,
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: I'm learning that that exists, and that you have to
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: travel with certain necessities when it comes to makeup and
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: lotions and product. But your box has like lights. It's
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: it's a whole get up. Yeah. People saw it on
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: Paradise and I got so many tweets and emails about
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: this box. I don't remember the sight I got it from,
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: but they were very sweet and sent it to me
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: because I reached out to a couple of makeup box
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: companies before Paradise and I said, hey, the lighting in
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: the Bachelor mansion was the very worst. Plus, all the
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: girls are fighting over mirrors in the mansion because there's
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: really only like five mirrors, right, So I said in Paradise,
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: I'd love to avoid this problem and have my own
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: mirrors and lights and something to carry all of my
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: makeup in for all of my different Paradise looks, and
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: that they sent me in this wonderful box and uh yeah,
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: my cloths in it. It's like a vanity box. You
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: open it up and then it folds out your makeup.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: It looks like a carry ons case and it's really
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: professional makeup artist box and then the top flips up
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: and it has a mirror and six lights. It's wonderful.
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: It's great for traveling. No, it's great. So so anyways,
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: that was my first interaction to Ashley. Ever since then
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: we became we were we've been friends. Um, we've ran
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: into each other off and on then at different events
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: or when I've been in l a uh and and
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: every time Ashley has, and I said this in the
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: first episode, done nothing but be incredibly sweet to me,
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: make me feel better about my off than I deserve.
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: And so it only made sense for us to sit
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: down and talk like this on a podcast. And and
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: really that's where our relationship exists and it's it's still growing.
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: I want everybody know that Ashley and I are still
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: going to know each other. It's funny, um and fun
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: talking to her about her dating life, about you know,
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: her sister and family, and about her sweet dog that's
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: now up in the clouds because I'm learning all these
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: things we go. So, speaking of speaking Ashley, we we
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: need to team up here. Okay. We got a big
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: caller coming in and it's gonna take both of our efforts.
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: So so I'm gonna let you handle this at first,
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: because you always seem to give better advice than I would. Um.
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: But we have Lara from Philly Online seven and she
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: has a question for us that I think we'll both
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: have to have to really think through. So, Lar, are
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: you out there? Hi? Yes, I am. How are you guys? Hey?
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: We're great. How are you? I'm okay? Um? Okay, yeah,
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: I'm okay. How are you like? What's going on? So?
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: I've been dating a guy for a little bit over
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: four years now. We met in college freshman year and
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: have been together ever since. Um, So I just I
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: don't know if the fires out or or what. I
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: don't know. He's my best friend. You know, I love
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: him as a friend, I feel like more than a
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: boyfriend at this point, and I just can't tell if it.
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: You know, I'm in law school, so I'm busy. I'm
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: in my first year right now. I just finished, and
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: so I don't know if maybe the last year being
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: super busy has just made my you know, attention not
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: beef right to him, and so I lost some of
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: the chemistry, or maybe we really are just kind of
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: winding down and I don't know what you know, what
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: to do or how to think about it, and I'm
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: just so confused, and you guys are like amazing. So
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: you guys, I want your advice. Oh man, this sounds
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: like a question better suited for Ben to answer, you think, Okay,
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: well you have a good shot. Um, So so here's
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: the deal. Uh, first, let me lay out some things
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: that you already know, and I know our listeners already know. Um.
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: Relationships start out that and and there's this kind of
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: euphoric feeling, right, everybody's very excited. It's new. Um, it's
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: you're learning things about each other. You're still kind of
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: like trying to impress each other. You don't want to,
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: you know, embarrass yourself in front of the other person
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: yet and that's a really fun time. I'm not going
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: to claim it's the best time of the relationship, but
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: it's a really fun time because everything's new. Over time,
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: it's the honeymoon period exactly. Over time, it's natural for
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: those feelings to kind of fade and and not that
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: they ever completely go away, but the the euphoric feeling
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: the honeymoon, the feeling that the newness does go away.
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: And don't be scared of that. Don't run from the
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: idea that, oh, I'm just getting comfortable here, that that
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: could be. And I think that I'm um past the
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: comfort because is I have thought about that, and I
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: feel like maybe like three years in, I was like, Okay, obviously,
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: you know, we're comfortable, and this is just it. The
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: honeymoon periods over. But at this point I almost don't
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: even know if I, like am sexually attracted to him anymore?
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: Life is we barely have atly honest um, like, you know,
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: I feel like I find myself like I would obviously
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: never cheat on him or talk to another guy, but
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: I find my eye wandering more, which has never happened
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: in my life, and I So I feel like that,
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: I feel that I know the answer, but I'm scared
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: of the answer because you know, you obviously can't be
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: friends with an next you know, I have right away,
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: but I don't know. I'm super confused, so I don't
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: know how to you know, he would be. I don't
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: want to hurt him either, but I guess staying in
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: too long is hurting him. Also. Is this your first
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: serious relationship? Yeah? Yeah, I mean I'm sure just the
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: thought of having to deal with a break up and
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: having to initiate it is probably very painful for you.
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: And like what Ben was saying, you know, biologically, there's
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: like something in our system that after two years the relationship,
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: that passion has to cool off or then, like people,
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: society just wouldn't be functional because we'd all be like
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: running around with like those hard eye emojis like all
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: the time. But it sounds like for you it runs
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: a lot deeper than that. It's yeah, yeah, so actually
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: I think, Lara, if you don't mind, you haven't heard
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: this yet, but we have some special guests with Ashley Day.
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: My parents who have been married for thirty six years,
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: so they've been listening and I think I'm gonna allow
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: both of them just to give their short advice to you. Right,
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: So they've been married for thirty six years, they've been
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: through this, So I'm gonna start with my dad, Dave. Dave,
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: do you have any advice for Lara in this situation?
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: You know, the love whatever you had initially, I assume
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: it's still there because I know each year, for thirty
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: six years, between my wife and I, it has continued
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: to get deeper and deeper and deeper. You'll get there,
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: I think, yeah, So I think you know I've seen
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: it with them. Uh, every year they they invest in
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: each other more in a different way. That that euphoric
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: feeling might not exist anymore, right, that that newnesses exist,
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: but the depth of it continue. So, Mom, what's your
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: what's your thoughts? Well, it's interesting that when Laura was
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: saying that, you know, they're best friends and the honeymoon
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: part is over. I remember probably midway through our thirty
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: six years. I remember the night vividly. We were getting
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: ready to go somewhere and I stopped and I looked
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: at your dad and I said, you know what, we
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: have got to quit being just best friends. We need
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: to get back to being lovers. So we are we
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: are just really great friends. We like to hang out out,
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: we like to do the same things, but we aren't
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: lovers anymore. And not that like there wasn't any sex,
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: you know, sexual chemistry. You can say that, mom, that's
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: weird and awkward for everybody, but you can say it. Yes,
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: but we had to try harder at it. We had
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: to get you know, we had to to um spice
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: it up a bit or you know. And because it, yes,
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: you do you get comfortable, you get you do you
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: like the person that you kind of um just prefer
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: to hang out with, you know, and you do lose
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: some of that the hot steamy, so you kind of
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: have to be then intentional about it. So I mean,
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: for for you, you know, you're still dating this guy, right, Yeah,
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: we're together. Yeah, you're still dating. You're in this boyfriend
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: girlfriend part of the relationship where there is you're instill
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: the exploratory stage. Okay, so there is a good thing
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: together though for two and a half years in college
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: like just us, no roommates, Like I feel like I've
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: already been married to him. And then when he graduated college,
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: I went to law school and he went home, So
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: we were long distance for a year and now we're here.
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: So I feel like because we genuinely lived I mean,
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: we were in college living together, but like we had
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: an apartment, you know, just us for two and a
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: half years. And you know, I feel like we've already
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: been through so many stages of relationships that year olds
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: don't always go through that I know, you know, I'm debating.
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: Like your mom said, I need to just put more
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: effort in and try again and make the time to
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: make some of that fire come back. Or is it
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: really just done? Because I just and I don't want
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: to drag it out longer. And girl, um, if you're
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: not missing him and you're living further apart, you just
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: shouldn't do with him anymore like my mom and actually
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: is ready to break up with your boy. Sorry, it's
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: just can you break up with him for me to
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: support me that we need to do it together? Okay,
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: I can. I don't know. I've never broken up with
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: anybody either. Well, hey, Larry, we really appreciate your call.
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: I think the before we move on here, Um, the
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: best question that I've ever been asked when it comes
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: to situations like this, because they're so confusing and sticky
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: is can you picture your life without him? And if
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: you can, and that seems to kind of either release
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: a burden or if being without him adds a burden
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: to your life. I think that's where you start, and
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: so that would be my only advices. Ask yourself that question, Lara,
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: Thank you for calling. Thank you for your honesty. I
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: hope my parents and Ashley and I hope you a
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: little bit. And if we didn't, don't tell anybody and
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: still listen to the podcast. We need you all right.
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: Well I'll be like they were the best even though
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: they weren't, but you were and your parents are amazing.
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: I love you guys so much. Ashley listened to your
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: I don't get it all the time. Thank you for
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: your time and I appreciate your comment. Make sure to
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: tweet at us and you can d m us if
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: you have any for their discussions you want to have. Oh,
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: I definitely will. We can catch up after the breakup.
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: That happens. How that sounds good and bad and sad
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: but not happy time, but it happens. Okay. Thanks, thank you.
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: By so you know, I think a lot of that
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: touched the line of awkward a little bit. I got
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: to hear my mom talk about the hot and steamy.
• 48:12
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• 49:02
  Speaker 1: of your season, which is really just bus in my opinion.
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: But this girl was dating Derek from Um Joe Joe
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: season of the Bachelorette, and he was just announced this
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: week as one of the original cast members of Bachelor
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: in Paradise this season, the one that's currently filming, and
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: he broke up with her for a very interesting reason.
• 49:25
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• 49:27
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