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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just: The Power of Respect and Priority 11.12.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  He got to this point yesterday and that is area of respect.
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  That's a great level of Hasidut. And can the bully respect the
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  rabbi? You respect the books, respect
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  the scrolls, respect those who learn and respect when you learn
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  and where you learn, which means smell of the room.
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  The fact that they shouldn't get anything appropriate around all
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  these things indicate levels of respect.
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  We said a person has to get out of their mind both of Tara when
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  they go to the restaurant position and have these
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  thoughts. While it's an indication of lack
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  of respect and the opposite of forms of respect and it brings.
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  We know the Fasuk stand up and father the elderly give respect
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  to those who are Zakan and Zakan means meet all, but it also
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  means Zakhoner Hochma, a person who's acquired wisdom as they
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  can. Hence to in fact, the Gemara
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  talks about a discussion of a Yanique Herham.
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  What's the Yanique herham? A little kid, Tami Herham, you
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  have an 18 year old, a 15 year old, even a 25 row, even a 35
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  row though a young. Do they deserve the respect when
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  they just simply have not lived so much of life or have so much
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  experience when they do have a lot of total knowledge and they
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  gonna talk about how there is a need for such respect A yanique
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  Herham as again, that's kind of from the word zacchaeus.
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  I can't mean it's old, but it also means ZE cornet, someone
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  who has acquired wisdom. But the reason we're giving them
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  respect, that's very clear. It's not to blow.
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  There you go to build them up, to build that person up.
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  In fact, I think about this all the time.
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  And that is if you give an elderly orb, now you have a
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  rabbi respect and you expect of him to remain humble.
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  How's it going to work? How's it going to work?
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  Then when he walks into a room, everyone stands up and he
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  remains humble. How's it going to work?
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  When they say his name, they title it with Hadalbagh on.
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  He remains humble. How does it work?
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  It works and you realize this. Your respect is not that there's
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  so much respecting him to respecting the outcome of what
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  he became or more importantly, the Torah that is inside of him.
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  He's very bustle. Yeah.
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  Now the reason I want to say it's only respecting the gods.
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  Also respecting kind of him is because a rabbi at that point,
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  any person who learns a lot his Torah and himself associate upon
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  impasse. He and his Torah will do one,
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  which means any random opinion that he gives a socially
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  representative of his Torah, and he actually that he does a
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  representative of his Torah, any movie makes any has he does any
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  kind of work he does. Those are all forms of his
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  development of his Torah. And because of that, the respect
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  that he's giving him is not solely for the Torah inside of
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  him. It's kind of that that thing
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  that became one of his fused together, the Torah and him
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  combined, which became one in the respect of that entity.
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  But that entity is still not the body.
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  It's still not the real person. That part doesn't need respect.
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  The part that need respect is the development of this great
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  person based on his Torah and his Torah learning and
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  dedication to it. That's what calls for respect.
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  And that does not create arrogance.
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  That retains humility. Such a logic, because that
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  retains humility because you're not trying to impact him.
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  You're not trying to respect so much his body, his original self
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  in respecting his Torah developed self.
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  That's the spiritual modest physical, even though his
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  virtual goes into his physical, as I'm trying to say, his mind,
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  which might be a physical entity as well, and his opinion and his
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  advice and his kind of say those all those kind of physical
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  things, but they became his entity through his total
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  learning through his life, living to that combination.
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  I think of this following way and it's an important point.
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  AI, AI, some people like it, some people are not too into it.
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  So with that, the more you learn it, the more you watch it, the
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  more impressed you are in a sense.
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  Obviously you wear real dangers, but AI for every person really
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  is kinda an AI existence. That means you European Nike,
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  you're a combination of your parents upbringing, your life
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  experience, the work you live to, the people you dealt with,
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  children raising in a combination of your education,
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  the schools you went to, people around you.
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  It's what all you've learned, the ups and downs of life and
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  all that you put into a mix. And when I asked you a question,
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  you spelled an answer. And that answer comes from all
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  that, right? You are.
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  And AI existence and every person is the own, not
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  artificial intelligence, life intelligence for every person is
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  that. And so are you and so are you.
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  And that's why we all have 3 answers to anything.
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  If I ask anything politically, even sports related, I have
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  anything about life, about money, how to make money, what
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  kind of business to what? Oh, you think of this?
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  Do you think of that? It's all going to come out
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  differently based on your version of your mix, Yes, of
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  your developed intelligence. A rabbi, a Twitter person is
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  also in a very strong sense a creation of all his life
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  experience, all his throughout learning in a certain sense, AI,
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  it's a full intelligence, not official, but full built on all
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  these different things going on. Yeah, I used to think that when
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  I went, I people would say when he went to Koloa, he started to
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  become Ravine. And the answer is no.
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  I learned that Koloa pretty much does not alleviate the coming of
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  Ravine directly. Directly.
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  Some of it does, a lot of it doesn't, right.
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  Not directly, but sitting and learning does somewhat and being
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  rabbi. All the time.
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  When you go back, I haven't seen.
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  Have we talked for one rabbit? No.
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  The rabbit has tremendous respect for his rabbit.
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  Harabi, right? Like his father?
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  Yes. Yes, yeah.
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  Mike, His father. Yes.
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  Yes, sure. Everybody would send that.
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  Oh, really nice. So have you.
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  So the idea is and he has a Mama has a life vision, a lot of the
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  game of his rabbi, his parents, his parents, and this is all of
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  us. So I pointed them back to the
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  Cole idea. I don't think Cole directly.
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  Everything I learned can be translated to giving a speech
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  probably cannot, but being around certain people disgusting
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  to certain people learning, you know, trying to learn enough.
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  These things are are adding to your life vision and they play
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  into your role and a lot of other things do as well.
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  Don't discount the. The SOAP question from the.
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  Grandparents. Grandparents.
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  Parents experience witnessing, learning, making mistakes,
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  fixing them up. All that goes into your
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  intelligence and all that is what you respect.
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  When you see a person of honor person represents to the you
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  expect you respect and honor that.
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  Not the body, not the person, not his charm, not his name.
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  That's all we're going to add to bloating cover all to either.
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  Rather, you respect this other entity inside that person that
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  can't just say is to the alone. It's rather his entire newfound
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  existence through his life experience and his influence and
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  his trial learning and the people around them and the Musa
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  that he's put on himself and his life's mistakes and his life's
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  fix UPS. All those go into the creation
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  of this new person. And that's what caused for
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  Kavoor. Follow me Dave.
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  That's what caused for. So I'm out to be part of
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  everything. Is the truth and honesty maybe
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  that too. You know, when you be, when you
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  have a situation where you could, you could benefit by not
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  being honest. You have to think of that Sham
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  is watching me, you know, you know, I do this.
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  You know, I was in a situation yesterday where I could have I,
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  I was in a situation where I could have made money.
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  I made a mistake honestly. And somebody pointed out to me
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  is, you know, so I, I, I mentioned it, I was with other
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  people. OK, but why'd you do that?
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  It was really done. I really have to keep this.
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  It was the right thing. I, I couldn't benefit from this
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  thing that I did. You know, there's I really, I
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  didn't make the mistake, but somebody pointed out to me that,
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  you know, just. Let me ask you a question.
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  If you didn't have life experience and if you never run
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  a business and if you didn't have the right upbringing and
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  the right people around you and all that, you've gone through
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  life. Do you think it would have been
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  that much of A knee jerk reaction to be honest?
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  Or you've been much more tempted to think about the ignoring it
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  looking the other way? It all comes from life
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  experience. It all comes to everything.
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  And that really in the sense sense is every person's, I call
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  that their Torah in the sense is it's their mixture that came out
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  the right way. That's really what it is.
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  And that's when it comes to a great man, an elderly person,
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  the fact that the chemosis we stand up for seniors.
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  Why? Because they have that
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  experience and they have that development and that's in a
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  certain sense their Torah. And that's where their advice
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  comes from as well. And their influence and their
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  opinion. It comes from that we look at
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  the world a certain way. You have an opinions about these
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  a certain way, you know, right from wrong.
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  And more than most, it all comes from that.
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  And when it comes to standing here for agreeing, May it's
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  based on that as well and that and treating that the right way.
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  Like give me an example on that point.
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  The fact that we have to, we give respect to elderly people
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  and the fact that today we know this, the world today likes
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  young. Everything's about the young.
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  Everything's about the coaches are 35 years old, 33 years old.
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  The mayor of New York is 34 years old, future mayor.
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  All these things are based in the fact that people like young
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  when they believe in young, right?
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  There is one flaw in that system.
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  And that one flaw is if you've watched, and I've watched from
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  the coach carousel and sports, if you watch how many of these
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  young people who seem to come up and they're like rising stars of
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  nobody business and he's saying what?
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  Based on what are you looking and saying based on what?
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  How good could this coordinator be?
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  He's only been the years and they just talking and talking
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  and building it up. The issue is that when you
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  compare that to someone who's older, yes, and it comes to
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  sport, sometimes the game pass you by.
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  Sport's not the most perfect example.
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  And politics as well. You know the.
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  People, how to handle the people, the young and I, how to
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  handle them. Good experience.
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  So all the issue with the world going pro young is that they not
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  really trusting or caring about this moment we just put out,
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  which is the development of knowledge, the development of
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  life experience, the development of a new type of intelligence
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  based on everything you witnessed is not there when
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  those young and they don't deserve therefore the same
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  respect that the older deserve. And that's the challenge with
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  everything going to young. And by the way, I say
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  everything, I mean everything. I mean rabbis, I mean teachers,
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  I mean all that, right? I'm in a position that years ago
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  some of my I would not have had. I can't.
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  Maybe it's because of my father's son, but it's also
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  because the world is more productive and a person like
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  myself has to see that and be aware of that and not think of
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  themselves in a certain light because they're younger than the
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  most and younger than those these positions would be as
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  you're. Using this parents every day you
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  yeah, but every day you learn something different.
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  Absolutely do absolutely and I'm not definitely not there yet.
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  I definitely I I there's a lot more than I'll hopefully get to
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  witness inshallah and it's a whole different picture and as
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  years go on year by year, the whole and I in the sense the
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  Torah he told just a different entity and the cardboard should
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  be based on that. That's the point.
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  When I from here we learn you call me Nekovo.
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  We're going to all sorts of honour share sharla solahim that
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  can be done to those represent Torah, share OU valdai la casil
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  Garcia. Someone who wants to put Torah
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  on a pedestal should give that kind of respect as much as he
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  can to these kind of people. You should give respect to those
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  Zeo E Shabbat mellahrida. For example, Sir, in King
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  Shakevan Jayaru ET al Miraham, when he saw a rabba haya omed
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  mikiso, he'll get up from his chair.
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  I say rabbi. He'd hug the rabbi and give the
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  rabbi a kiss. This is a king rabbi, Rabbi Mori
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  Mori, my rabbi, my rabbi, my master, my master.
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  An example of an extreme level of honor.
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  Another example where honors played up 'cause she was too
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  tired, too weak to learn. Isn't the Batman dash 2 weeks
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  learn? What do you do when you're 2
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  weeks learn? He put himself and say he puts
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  up a chair to the door of the show.
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  Every rabbi walks in, every colloga walks in.
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  Every learning person walks in. He stands up, sits down, stands
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  up, sits down. So he sat in that position right
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  next to the door that he can stand up for people so he can
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  give honor. If all he can do right now, you
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  can't learn. If I can't learn, I can give
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  honors. I have this question for you.
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  That's my question. Why is 1 replacing the other?
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  He wants to learn. He can't learn.
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  Instead he decides to give honor.
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  So you could say that was the option at the table at the time.
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  What else can he do? But the truth is, is my answer,
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  the best way of getting to Torah #1 is to learn.
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  Number two, Number two way of getting towards Torah and
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  getting action more to try on your system is respecting it.
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  Because if you respect it, you value more.
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  And then the next time you go back to learn, you take the
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  words that you're going to hear and then you do hear and then
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  you develop, you take them on a greater, more powerful level and
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  you would have prior. So if he can't learn, he does
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  second best, which is building up learning so that when he gets
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  the next opportunity, he's going to take the words that he learns
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  more seriously. It wasn't just a backup, it was
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  another angle to the same approach.
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  So so. So what's the?
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  What does he use for respect? He's the.
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  He'd sit there by the door and every rabbi walked in, he'd
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  stand up for him and that would be in his mind, not realizing
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  it. Rabbi's a big deal.
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  Rabbi's a big deal. That was a big deal.
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  You did this for your chosen, too.
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  Are you respected, Robin? In front of your children, you
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  didn't realize you were saying this.
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  Robin's a big deal. When you asked someone a
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  question, Robin's a big deal. When you went over after
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  speaking, you said something. Robin's a big deal.
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  It doesn't make a difference, by the way, if you had a comment to
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  make, you had a compliment to make.
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  You had an interest in repeating it doesn't really matter as long
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  as you weren't highly cynical of a rabbi.
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  Anything but that. That's challenging.
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  Anything but that. He built up a rabbi.
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  You didn't realize it. By making him part of the
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  conversation. I'm bringing your home.
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  By making him something that cuts in your Shabbat table, What
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  he said, what he did, what happened.
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  That already is making rabbis conversation and therefore
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  making them important and building them up.
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  That's the idea. Now to rabbis, rabbis the only
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  is the goal just to be conversation.
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  No, the goal is a you liked it to that too, but just bring them
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  on a pedestal already found. It gets easier, all right, Gets
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  on your way. The robbers should be good with
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  the people though. It's for sure I've been with the
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  people. That's absolutely just I'm.
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  Very other way too. It was the other way.
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  These are all ideas. He's all the ideas different
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  ways and we can see these Asham wants.
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  These are things Asham wants and these are things that God
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  considers Naha through him. OK, once again to now we're
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  talking about these things. So giving these items respect or
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  people respect, or giving respect to things that Hashem
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  likes. We all want to make our sham
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  happy is we're giving respect to the right people, is giving
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  respect to things that kind of values.
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  It's important to build all these practices to give more
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  respect to rabbis, to give more respect to, to give more respect
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  to Shabbat, all these different things.
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  Those are things that sham values and those are things that
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  should become number one in your mind because they're valuing
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  God's eyes. The idea is, is that priorities
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  and what we care about and what we value are unbelievably
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  significant. You can never downplay how
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  important a priority is. Why?
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  Because later on, like somewhere in life, someone is going to
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  have a debate between one thing and the other.
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  You expect the rabbi's word? Ignore his word.
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  What's going to decide how much Rabbi's position matter to him
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  in the 1st place? What is a rabbi to him?
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  Respected Tada says or ignore it.
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  The side based on how much Tada is part of also his life or how
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  much it's a little bit antiquated to drop.
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  Depends on that, right? Respect something he sees care
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  about honesty or example or not. I basically secure a certain
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  future over a different one. That's all I'm going to decide
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  on. How much honesty is a thing in
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  his home? I can give you a rationale.
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  There's someone to tell you how being dishonest in different
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  ways is perfectly kosher. You can do it in a Hoffy.
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  He can be dishonest with the government.
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  He can be dishonest with taxes, be dishonest with the law, be
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  dishonest in business, and he can rationalize everything right
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  and I've spoken to. Beautiful, I've spoken.
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  To people who talk that way, and you know, it's funny, if you're
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  in that conversation with them, you almost hear their point for
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  a second. They go down this angle, down
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  this road. Ready.
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  The road is pay taxes. What's going to pay taxes but
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  two with regularly if you all up and up, you know what they do
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  with my money, They come you see what they're spending on you can
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  justify anything. You could justify it the second
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  they give your money to illegals.
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  Look at the government. They give me into illegal and
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  you can go down that road and before you know it and almost
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  makes partial sense then oh good.
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  Check out that guy's son. That guy's son is cheating,
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  strangling and scamming all over the place.
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  Why his father didn't really say anything that was so crazy on
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  paper face value The answer is he chose dishonesty.
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  He chooses honesty. Any angle there you go that's
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  the rest right. I I know from my father.
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  My father was almost I'd say like this almost like why you
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  say this right away almost extreme and.
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  Always do the. Black came honestly.
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  I always do the right. He almost never bothered me,
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  obviously, but it almost seemed like, you know, if he knew the
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  real world and he knew how people do things, he wouldn't be
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  that way. But that's how it was.
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  And, and the reality is when you grow up and I grew up, I have so
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  many opportunities to be dishonest.
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  They all do. And if you're in any position of
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  any control of money, you're with the all money.
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  Well, your father was in business.
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  And they said a batting, it was the straightest, a straight
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  like. And I spoken to all the battens
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  and they've they've told me, yeah.
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  He's actually a straight as an arrow.
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  It was a style of life and it played out.
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  And where did it play out? It played out because whatever
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  he's involved in, whether it be building a shul, the funds for a
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  shul family, we all have these different challenges of money.
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  And he's very, very honest. And to you never say the word to
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  a fault, but to a complete level.
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  And for me, I hope, I hope I can learn.
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  I never face the challenges, but if I do.
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  Nowhere to go. You told you had to do the right
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  thing. I always do the right thing.
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  You chose your. Priorities, right?
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  Forever. It's not bad people, exactly.
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  That's called choosing your priorities so that the idea
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  beside the shame is telling you, you don't realize how much you
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  giving respect to something. We're valuing something and
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  giving it. You know, a high on your list
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  made not on the list makes a crazy difference to you your
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  future life. I definitely have chosen like
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  whether it be Rabbi, Shabbat, honesty, Tiffila, whatever it
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  may be, it carries with. Let's start with this.