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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: On Manifestation, Setting Goals That Scare Me & Sharing Them Out Loud · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, Emily Abadi here, you are listening to five
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  Speaker 1: Minute Friday from Herdle. Before I get into the meat
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  Speaker 1: and potatoes of today's episode, I want to talk up
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  Speaker 1: some stuff that's going to be going down in Boston
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  Speaker 1: next week. Whether you're running, whether you're hanging, whether you're
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  Speaker 1: just local. I hope that I get to see you
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  Speaker 1: Marathon Monday, they open at twelve. You can expect happy hours,
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  Speaker 1: shakeout runs, post race portraits, and so much more. So
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  Speaker 1: definitely go check out bandit at one nineteen Newberry and
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  Speaker 1: then got to give some love to the team at Nike.
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  Speaker 1: I'll be joining them at next weekend for a slew
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  Speaker 1: of fun things, including their Women's Community Night at Nike Boston.
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  Speaker 1: At Saturday, April thirteenth. It starts at eight pm. We'll
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  Speaker 1: be celebrating the starting line, Women's running and the Nike
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  Speaker 1: Running Community, a panel featuring Nike athletes, bites, drinks, they
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  Speaker 1: have an orange carpet, so much more so I hope
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  Speaker 1: to see you there. I'll also be tagging along for
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  Speaker 1: a few other fun things that Nike has on deck
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  Speaker 1: next week, So I'm gonna link all of this in
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  Speaker 1: the show notes. This is your opportunity to come together,
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  Speaker 1: and I'd love to come together with you. Now, let's
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  Speaker 1: talk about the week. This has been a week for me.
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  Speaker 1: It's been a week for me because of a few things.
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  Speaker 1: It's been really nice to be home and really nice
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  Speaker 1: to be in a routine. I joined a gym not
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  Speaker 1: all that long ago, and I've really really enjoyed getting
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  Speaker 1: back out to the gym for context. I do have
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  Speaker 1: a gym in my building and I've used it ever
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  Speaker 1: since I moved in in twenty twenty one, and I've
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  Speaker 1: loved it. However, it doesn't have all of the bells
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  Speaker 1: and whistles or all of the equipment that I want
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  Speaker 1: to be using, primarily different weights and barbells, and so
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  Speaker 1: I decided why not, let's try it. So here I
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  Speaker 1: am in my little routine, going to the gym four
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  Speaker 1: times a week and really enjoying it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm finding my fast.
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  Speaker 1: I'm calling this spring the Spring of Speed as I
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  Speaker 1: gear up for a ten k in June, and all
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  Speaker 1: of that has been really great. But candidly, work has
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  Speaker 1: been a little bit frustrating for me lately, and it's
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  Speaker 1: to be expected. This happens for me when I come
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  Speaker 1: off of things that really excite me, bigger projects, and
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  Speaker 1: the group of hurdlers that ran the La Marathon, that
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  Speaker 1: project was a really exciting project for me. And so
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  Speaker 1: now as I have this little bit of lull, I'm
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  Speaker 1: feeling a little confused, and I find myself falling into
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  Speaker 1: the comparison trap situation, the comparison trap period, I look
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  Speaker 1: at my socials and open Instagram and feel as though
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  Speaker 1: I'm not doing enough. I see people that are doing
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  Speaker 1: things that I want to be doing, and it's not
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  Speaker 1: at all that I'm not excited for them. I do
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  Speaker 1: believe that there's room for all of us at the table,
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  Speaker 1: and the best people that I know, the people that
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  Speaker 1: are my closest people, They're the kind of people that
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  Speaker 1: lift others up as they rise to knowing there is
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  Speaker 1: room in the harbor for all of the ships, all
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  Speaker 1: of the metaphors. You get what I'm saying. But it's
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  Speaker 1: just been really frustrating because I have some goals and
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  Speaker 1: things that my sites are set on, and I sit
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  Speaker 1: here and I think about how I felt this week,
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  Speaker 1: and I worry that this feeling will only be amplified
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  Speaker 1: if I don't get to the place that I envision
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  Speaker 1: that I will be the place that I am manifesting
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  Speaker 1: the things that I am after. And I'm living in
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  Speaker 1: this place of duality, this place of both, this place
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  Speaker 1: of knowing and appreciating and remembering that there is so
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  Speaker 1: much that I have in my life that I wanted now,
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  Speaker 1: and also there is nothing wrong with wanting more. I
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  Speaker 1: am so grateful for everything that I have now, so
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  Speaker 1: much of it that I didn't even dream of, I
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  Speaker 1: didn't even fathom. But then there's also this person here
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  Speaker 1: that wants to keep leveling up, that wants to keep
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  Speaker 1: striving for more, and so one big exhale, I will
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  Speaker 1: say this in the Weekly Hurdle this week. It's the
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  Speaker 1: newsletter that comes out every Friday that I write shared
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  Speaker 1: the strategies that I used on Tuesday when I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I was in the prime of this little frustration
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  Speaker 1: session situation I've been in that I used to get
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  Speaker 1: through this, that I used to really pull myself out
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  Speaker 1: of the comparison trap, come back to gratitude. And so
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  Speaker 1: for those head on over to the Weekly Heard. All
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  Speaker 1: of the link is in the show notes. My listener
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  Speaker 1: prompt for you this week, and thanks always for letting
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  Speaker 1: me share.
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  Speaker 2: My listener prompt for you this week.
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  Speaker 1: What is one goal that you have that you're working
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  Speaker 1: toward right now, and what is something that's within your
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  Speaker 1: power to get closer to that goal within the next
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  Speaker 1: seven days. What is one goal on your horizon right
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  Speaker 1: now and what's something you can do over the next
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  Speaker 1: seven days to get closer to it? And now a
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  Speaker 1: very appropriate listener question.
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  Speaker 3: Hi, Emily, it's Salita. My question for today's I've noticed
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  Speaker 3: your dedication to journaling and consistently achieving your goals, so
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  Speaker 3: I wanted to know what is one goal that you're
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  Speaker 3: most proud of accomplishing and what are you currently manifesting.
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure that I've said this on the show before,
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  Speaker 1: but if you were to ask me this question five
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  Speaker 1: years ago, I would tell you my most proudest accomplishment
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  Speaker 1: was being featured in the New York Times.
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  Speaker 2: And as awesome as that was.
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  Speaker 1: The article is truly framed in the studio here, I
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  Speaker 1: realized that there was both hard work and luck involved
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  Speaker 1: in that, And so I reflect on the things that
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  Speaker 1: I've done purely hard work and what that has resulted in,
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  Speaker 1: and candidly, one of my biggest accomplishments is being a
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  Speaker 1: woman in her mid thirties who can afford her own
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  Speaker 1: two bedroom apartment rental, Like this is something that I
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  Speaker 1: worked really hard to get to a place where I
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  Speaker 1: could make this happen, and it wasn't easy, and it's
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  Speaker 1: not easy regularly work my butt off to have this
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  Speaker 1: space and to feel happy in my space, and so
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  Speaker 1: that truly is something I am so proud of myself
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  Speaker 1: for Beyond that, man, I mean, I really want to
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  Speaker 1: be in Paris this summer, and it feels sometimes like
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  Speaker 1: I'm supposed to just make these things happen and share
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  Speaker 1: them with all of you and not show the behind
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  Speaker 1: the scenes. But right now I have nothing lined up.
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  Speaker 1: I have nothing lined up, and it's not for lack
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  Speaker 1: of trying. But none of my ideas thus far have clicked.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that there's a lot more that I
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  Speaker 1: can go after and ideas that I can concept and
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  Speaker 1: people that I can talk to. But in the meantime,
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  Speaker 1: right now, I'm trying to trust the process and believe
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  Speaker 1: that if I am meant to be working in Paris
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  Speaker 1: this summer during the Olympics, and it's going to happen.
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  Speaker 1: And I really struggle with this manifestation hands off approach.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a type a person. I go after the things
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  Speaker 1: that I want. I make big asks. I'm so used
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  Speaker 1: to the word no, and getting used to the word
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  Speaker 1: no has been one of the best things I have
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  Speaker 1: done for myself because it's enabled me to pitch some
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  Speaker 1: really crazy things and do things beyond my wildest dreams.
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  Speaker 1: But I would be remiss if I didn't sit here
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  Speaker 1: in front of this microphone and be honest about the
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  Speaker 1: fact that I feel so scared that I have shared
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  Speaker 1: this big goal with so many damn people and what
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  Speaker 1: if it doesn't happen, you know, like what if I
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  Speaker 1: quote unquote fail, what if I come up short? I know,
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  Speaker 1: like there will be other opportunities, but it's hard not
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  Speaker 1: to wow. I didn't expect to get so emotional talking
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  Speaker 1: about this. It's hard not to get down on myself
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  Speaker 1: in moments like this and ask myself, like, what more
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  Speaker 1: could you have done? But I trust it, Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: really do. I trust that if it's not Paris, then
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  Speaker 1: maybe it's La. And if it's not La twenty eight,
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  Speaker 1: then there's something else waiting around the corner for me.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if I've ever told this story on
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  Speaker 1: the show before, but I was up for a really
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  Speaker 1: big opportunity a few years ago during the pandemic, in
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  Speaker 1: which I would have been a global ambassador for a
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  Speaker 1: brand that is a very big part of my life.
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  Speaker 1: And when that opportunity fell through, I truly felt like
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  Speaker 1: I had lost everything. I felt as though I was
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  Speaker 1: never going to find the right thing. I felt that
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  Speaker 1: this was the launching point and it slipped through my
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  Speaker 1: fingers and I didn't really know how to move forward
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  Speaker 1: from that. But the truth is that I did, and
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  Speaker 1: when I did, I was met with so many opportunities
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  Speaker 1: based on my hard work, and ultimately those opportunities in
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  Speaker 1: retrospect were a lot more for me, a lot more
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  Speaker 1: in line with where I want to go, who I
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  Speaker 1: want to be than maybe that big global ambassador opportunity
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  Speaker 1: ever would have been talk about a vulnerable five minute Friday.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just here doing me in this studio in Brooklyn
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  Speaker 1: that I really once dreamed of having and now that
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  Speaker 1: I do. There are so many silver linings. There is
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  Speaker 1: so much good if only you choose to see it.
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  Speaker 1: Make sure you're following along Over on social I'm at
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  Speaker 1: Emily a Body and also over at Hurdle Podcast Another
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  Speaker 1: Hurdle conquered.
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  Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time