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Relationships Series 2024 - Part 2: Youth Session | Andy Yeoh, Kanesh Varmaa, Wee Kye & Yap Ken-ji · Generations Church

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  Hey there, you're listening to the Generation's Church podcast. We pray that the
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  word of God today will challenge, change and channel you into your God given
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  destiny. Now, let's get started. To start off, I want to
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  say that we believe in relationships. We are four not against relationships. Okay.
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  Sometimes people think Christians or Christian leaders or churches are against relationship because we're
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  always telling you don't date, don't date, don't date, don't date.
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  Now that's not necessarily true all of the time. All right, we are
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  four relationships because God made relationships. It's his idea. He made it.
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  And if he made it, it must be a beautiful thing, right,
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  because God makes only beautiful things, as you can see. Yes, okay,
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  so God makes beautiful things, relationship beautiful. So we don't want to
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  mess up this beautiful thing that God made. Simple as that. If God
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  made something as beautiful as relationships to be enjoyed, to be a blessing,
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  we don't want to corrupt it and mess it up and then it becomes something
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  ugly and something we have to like struggle with understand, So, how do
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  we keep this beautiful thing beautiful? And how do we know we are ready?
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  Because none of you say okay, maybe next year, Okay, fine,
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  how do you get yourself ready for that one day to come and get
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  that I don't know that guy or that girl and then move on to marriage.
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  So that's what we're gonna talk about in a nutshell. Cool. Great,
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  So I'm gonna hand the time over to our first speaker, which is
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  can you help? And he's gonna bring us through the first point today.
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  We have five points right okay? Before I handed him, we're five points.
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  You may have heard of the five seas before. Have you heard of
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  the five seas before? Or is that like my generation like for now that
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  people will say to have a successfulationship, you must have five seas, cash,
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  condo, car, credit card, club membership or something like that.
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  Oh, if you have all these five things, you're ready for relationship with
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  these nonsense, because now I've got cryptocurrency. Okay, so supposed to be
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  six. No, just kidding. We have a different five seas to present
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  to you. We also say you are ready for relationship when you have these
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  five seas in place, but it's not cash, credit card, condo,
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  CA or c membership or cryptocurrency or creep. No, So we will present
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  a different five seas to you to present the first five. First of the
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  five seas, let's put all hands together for qgo thanks fast all right before
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  we begin. So this five seaes supposed to take. What is these are
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  basically indicators of a healthy relationship. Everybody says center, that's the first see
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  everybody says center, a center, So what does it mean to what does
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  he mean to have for God center relationship? Is God really the center of
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  relationship? So the definition of that is that is God your focal point.
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  It's got your focal point in your relationship. So I know everybody here say,
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  oh, most bodily you get together with a Christian, that's most important.
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  But even if you get together with a Christian, sometimes in a relationship
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  you can get unhealthy because your focus is no longer on God, biys on
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  other things, whether it's on each other, whetherason how much you are getting
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  from each other. So this is the worst that we're going to reference for
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  this point. It says in Embessions, chapter four, verse two, the
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  six this is my wedding scripture, AH praise God, sharing your ah oh
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  verse two. Always be humble and gentle, be patient with each other,
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  making allowance for each other's fault because of your love for make every effort to
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  keep yourself united in the spirit, binding yourselves together with peace full. For
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  there is one body and one spirit, just as you have been called to
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  one glorious hope for the future full Verse five. There is one Lord,
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  one faith, one baptism, one God, and five of all, who
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  is over all and in all, and living true all Amen. So this
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  is actually the us means God is actually the center of all. And because
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  God is the center of all, we always have to exhibit that. Let's
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  go to the next one. So these are basically just three thoughts. Number
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  one final say, does God have the final say in your relationship? Something
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  for you to think about, which means both of you are guided by the
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  word of God. I know there is actually this thing about like, oh,
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  if both are consented, you consent to certain things for both sides,
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  and then it's fine. Like for example, the guys like, oh,
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  hey guy, hey girl, can you touch me all over? And then
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  the girl's like, oh, sure, I'll touch you all over. That's
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  consented. But then that's against the word of God because the Word of God
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  says that's sexual immorality. Does God have the final say in your relationship?
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  That's the thought for you. Second one and courage, do you guys both
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  remind each other of the word of God? So like instead of like,
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  hey, you know, do you check out the latest movie? You know
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  you check out the littlest yet whether that means, hey, you know,
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  let's work work on our wrist, you know, our mewing. Do you
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  guys actually talk about the word because I feel that that's actually quite rare these
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  days when you actually come together as a couple, do you actually communic kid
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  like, hey, you know, I read this scripture. This is what
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  I learned. This is cool, this is how I great. This is
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  my testimony. Do you have that? Second off for you? Final thought
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  for whether your relationship is God centered is how you behave? Do you actually
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  live out the word of God? For example, like, yes you are
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  in a relationship, Yes you love each other, but the Bible also says
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  that you should love for neighbors as a self. So both of you as
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  a couple, you actually go and love other people? Are you just by
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  yourself? So you walk by the streets, both of you like holding hand
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  ladi da, I'm happy happy, you know, kissing, kissing, you're
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  making out there and then there's someone there who fell on the floor and they
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  go like, oh no, never mind, okay, can you making out?
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  No. Bible says love your neighbor as your self. Help people,
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  be there for other people. So you as a couple, are you really
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  being a blessing to people around you? So Tree thoughts, Tree thoughts.
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  Some people, I know you get together. People hate your guts because you're
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  really annoying. So some time for you to hear think about yourself. According
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  to the world of God, you love your neighbor as your self and other
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  things as well. Do you actually leave it out? So I know I
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  have a really shot of time. But just to share a quick story for
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  me, the first one actually hits the most different, I mean hits the
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  hardest for me because at one point I was in a reladiingship. We both
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  consent to it, it's great, yay, And then finally God told me
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  I really loved a lot it was my ex. And then God told me,
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  you know this is not the girl for you. I go like,
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  what, how how you asked me? I honestly cannot ready explain it.
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  But it's like a loud voice in my ear and say this is not the
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  girl for you. And I was already in a relaionship. What after that
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  I broke up with here? It's really painful, and then I find many
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  reasons to justify that. Why that is for many years never understood. But
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  until the day I got married, until the day I found Funny, I
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  finally realized why God said no for my life. Right now, it's quite
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  impossible to have any other people in my life except for Funny, because if
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  you want to know about it, I can talk to you about it later.
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  It's a hard life for me and for me only Funny could actually walk
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  this life with me and not anyone else. So if I were to was
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  in the old relationship and got together, I think life will be already tough.
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  So that's one of my learnings. God has to final say trust God,
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  because at the end of it, you'll always be good. When cool,
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  move on to who's the next person our pastor all right? Cool?
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  Now, all of the seas have to work together. Okay, it's not
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  in isolation. If you have one sea and not the other four we have
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  two seasons on the other three, it doesn't quite work. And remember again
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  I repeat, we're trying to help you answer this question basically because I think
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  one of the most popular questions in any relationship talk, especially with young people,
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  is how do I know when I'm ready? How do we know we
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  are ready for this relationship? And to take this to the next step.
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  Okay, Now, if you it depends on who you ask, right,
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  it depends on who you ask, you get different answers. Okay, we
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  are providing these answers based on the world of God. Why do we go
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  to the Bible, such an all thousands of years old book. How can
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  that speak to our modern day relationship? You will be surprised because our God
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  is a timeless god. When he wrote this back then, he was already
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  in twenty twenty four at the same time. You get what I mean.
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  So, as far as God is concerned, it's not a few thousand year
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  old book. As far as concerned, Hey, I am eternal, and
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  what I say applies then and applies now. Okay, So these are principles.
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  What Kenji was trying to say is one of the ways you know,
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  Yeah, this is not playplay anymore. This is not popular. This is
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  not just trying out and see what happens. I know I'm ready when we're
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  able to put God in the very center of our life. That means all
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  your decisions, all your considerations, everything goes through this center called God.
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  Yeah, you don't just think about what I want and what's best for her,
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  only you think about what does God want? Would he want me to
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  touch her? There? Like? If God was sitting right here and God's
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  watching you, is he comfortable with you touching? Like? There? You
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  know what I'm saying. Right? Do you have that? You don't have
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  that? Don't touch it? You don't have it? All right? Okay,
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  in this day andish, you cannot touch what you have. It doesn't
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  belong to you. Okay, everything is like God is at the center.
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  You refer to God all of the time. That's what you just trying to
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  say. Okay, we can process that. If you don't know what it
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  means, we can talk about that later. I am now bringing you the
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  second See it's called clarity. Clarity of vision. Vision may not be something
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  that generally younger people talk about. You'll hear older ones or like company owners
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  or church people or people who talk about vision. Right now, I think
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  it's important that young people like you think about vision. What's vision? Vision
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  is what you can see, but it's in the future. It hasn't happened
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  yet. Okay, what you can see this is right now. It is
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  called sight. I can see a blue chair. That's site, that's not
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  just vision. Vision is wow. I wonder what I can do with this
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  blue chair. I can make it into a robo or a vision. You're
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  clear now, you know you are ready for a relationship, not just when
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  God is in the center of everything. You know you already when you have
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  clarity of vision. That means that both of you, guy and girl have
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  a vision for your life. There is an imagination about the future. But
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  it's not just wild imagination. It's an imagination that you know is possible.
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  Clear. A lot of people get together and I don't think you talk about
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  the vision. Just talk about I feel right now? Do you feel for
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  me? Yeah? Let me get yeah right like what we just we just
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  like right now. But we want to encourage and challenge you. Can you
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  think about the future and can it be clear? God says GNA, I
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  know the plans I have for you. God knows the plans he has for
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  you, and the plans is for good. And that plan is not for
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  disaster, to give you future and a hope. This scripture is powerful.
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  This is God. God has a vision for us, and that vision is
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  for good, not to destroy, not for disaster. It's future and a
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  hope. Now, if God can have a vision for our lives, I
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  think that's how he wants us to relate to other people to We have to
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  have a vision for our relationships. And that vision cannot be a disaster.
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  You cannot plan to destroy yourself. So for example, if you don't plan
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  to not have sex before marriage, that's not a good plan. There's a
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  disaster plan because you know you're not ready. If the girl gets pregnant,
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  you don't know what to do. Gotta be am I too real? Okay,
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  right, you're all old enough, right, So it's gotta have a
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  You gotta have a vision. From the scripture, we learned three things.
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  God is a god of vision. Yes, yes, plans, these good
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  plans. God's vision is clear, very clear. It's for good, not
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  for disaster. God's vision is a good vision because it's for good, not
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  for disaster. So we must also be like God. Aren't we all here
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  as Christians trying to be like Jesus. Yes, therefore we must also be
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  a people of vision. Our vision must be clear, and the vision must
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  be good for relationship. Yeah, I want to show you a bunch of
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  scriptures about how God says we all must have a vision for our lives and
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  definitely for our relationships. Yes, okay, the Lord answered me, write
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  the vision. Make it plain so when you run, even when you're running,
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  it's so clear. Sometimes when you're running it have to see you,
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  right, But God is saying, make your vision so clear the even while
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  you're running you can see. That's how clear. Our vision for relationship and
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  weddings and marriage should be good planning and hard work lead to prosperity, but
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  hasty shortcuts leads to poverty. Now you know why some of us do so
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  badly in relationships. We always end up with the same wrong guys. We
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  always fight over these things and it's always you know why now, because we
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  did spend enough time to have good planning and we work towards and hard work.
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  Hello, exact clear, relationship is not just feelings, it's hard work,
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  it's good planning. The opposite leads to poverty. You will be a
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  bankrupt in relationship. You will be so bankrupt in your emotions, So break
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  up in your mind you feel like you're empty. We don't want that,
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  right because we have four relationships. We want you to have healthy, beautiful
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  ones. Okay, So these are some questions you can ask yourself. All
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  right, So this is why I call it a clarity check? Do I
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  have a clear vision? Ask yourself these questions and try to answer them when
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  you're on your toilet bowl and pooping. You can. You can do this
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  all, you know, or just before you tell the guy you like him,
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  think about these things. Do you have a personal vision, aspiration or
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  dream? Where do you want to live? What's your dream country? Stuff
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  like that Koreer soul or like you know Lelan, you know, what's your
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  dream? Where you want to work? One day? Like you want to
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  work? Like shift's kind of job? You know, always wake up at
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  night, sleep in the morning or what? All these things are important because
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  the person you're gonna be with have to live with you, and if they
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  don't like what your dream is, it's very hard to live together. Yes,
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  So do you have a personal vision especial dream? What is your visual
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  of a successful marriage? What does a successful marriage look like? To you,
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  you gotta have a visual of a sexiful marriage. I'm married now seventeen
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  years and only last week or two weeks ago, my way asked me what
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  do you need in your marriage? And I really couldn't answer it, and
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  that is the source of some problems our relationship. So I want to give
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  you wisdom so that you can prepare yourself for that is the cool. How
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  do you see the ball? You're serving the law together? How do you
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  in vision raising your children? How do you like to raise your children?
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  I know you're like past I'm thirteen years old. I challenge you think about
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  this. It will make you more prepared for relationship. All right. Vision
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  is important because without it, one is directionless and will not know where one
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  is hated to in life. You don't know where to go, you don't
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  know where you're hating. You need vision and you work towards your vision.
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  Okay, cool? How do you get there if you don't know where there
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  is? Makes sense? You need to know you're there. When one likes
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  vision or in time loser side of that vision, it can affect the growth
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  and development of the relationship as well as the future. When you don't have
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  vision, you actually don't know what you're building on. Okay, so you
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  might be You both might be in a relationship building different things, and that's
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  why it doesn't work out. Two people who share a vision for the present
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  and their future will have a more satisfying journey together as they discover God's plan
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  together. Imagine building the same jigsaw puzzle together. It's more satisfying rather than
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  like, actually, you're trying to fix the juice puzzle, but you're fixing
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  two different ones. You get very frustrated. We can make our plans,
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  but the lot determines our steps. That's why it's so important to have God
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  in the center, because you can make your plans where you still if they
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  go back to God and say, hey, God, is his plan good?
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  And God says no. God says no to Kenji. Now he has
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  a better one called fani hah. All right. Finally, next point is
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  commitment. Now you know you're ready for the relationship, when you're able to
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  have this big c call commitment, you're not. It needs just for the
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  fun, you know, it needs just for the time being. You know,
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  he need just to test test test water. You know, it needs
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  just to mess around, you know, and once something. When when dude
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  gets serious, you do it the way. It's not a sorry. You're
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  committed because love is discipline. The Bible says, commit your actions to the
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  Lord, and your plans will succeed. You know how your relationship will succeed
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  your actions. You are committed to certain actions to God. You're committed to
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  things that will grow the relationship when you're ready for this, you're ready for
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  relationship. How do you get there if you don't know, if you don't
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  keep hating there just now, it's how do you get there? You don't
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  know where there is? Commitment is how do you get there? If you
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  don't keep getting there, If you don't work through soul vision and don't change
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  your mind every once in a while, change guys, change girls, change
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  user names once in a while, How do you get there if you don't
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  have commitment? Right? So, the Bible says, whatever you do,
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  work at it with all your heart as working for the Lord. That means,
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  even when you're doing relationships, treat it as unto the Lord, not
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  just for you. You are doing this for God. That may change your
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  attitude to a relationship. So, whether you eat or drink something as simple
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  as that do it. Listen to the Lord. Want more something serious relationship.
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  So let's not get tired of doing what is good. Commitment, It
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  is good, keep at it means. For example, I committed to Jay
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  when we were caughting not marry yet, that I will not kiss her on
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  the lips until our wedding day. That time, when we made that promise,
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  it was going to be two years. I taught myself two years a
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  canta han. Suddenly it became three years. But the year I really was
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  each year I really really wanted to kiss on the lip until that time,
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  I only kiss on the chicks knee, and I really cannot the honey day.
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  So I moved to the year trying to get there. But she remindered
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  me, and I reminded ourselves we have a commitment, So we stopped ourselves,
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  and so only on the wedding day, fifteenth September two thousand and seven,
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  I kissed Jay on the lips for the very first time in my life.
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  Three years later. That's a commitment. Those are kind of things you
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  and I'm not saying you have to also do the exact same thing. I'm
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  just saying you have to have commitments. And work towards it and keep at
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  it. All right, Cool, Nothing shapes your life more than the commitments
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  you choose to make. Your commitments can develop you or destroy you. Either
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  way, they will define you. If you commit to vaping every day,
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  it will destroy you. If you commit to exercising every day, it will
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  develop you. Simple as that. Either way, it will define you.
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  Tell me what you are committed to, and I will tell you what you
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  will be in twenty years. So many your commitments right now, I'll tell
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  you where you'll be in next year. Very simple, because you you will
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  become whatever you are committed to. Yes, if you eat rice every day
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  and do exercise, you become what rise bore right, chicken rice? Yeah?
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  Simple? So in relationship, same thing. Whatever you're committed to,
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  you become you commit to good, beautiful, pure relationship. You get that
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  at the end. All right, I know I take an extra time.
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  I'm not going to pass the time to carnage. Who will share the next
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  sea? Yo? Well, thank you for sent cool. Okay. The
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  fourth c we're gonna talk about is conversation. Okay, now, just to
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  give you context, the topic that we're talking today is how to build a
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  healthy relationship. Okay, how to build a healthy or rather, what is
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  a healthy relationship? So we talk about a healthy relationship having Christ in the
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  center. A healthy relationship. Number two, it's having clarity of vision pass
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  and they covered that. Having good commitments Okay, having good conversations. Now,
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  let me give you some statistics. Teristics from the US. Okay,
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  lack of communication leading cause of divorce. Do you want to know how many
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  percent gets divorced due to communication in the US, It's say sixty five percent
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  there, miss, every couple that got divorced, five percent of that problem
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  is because of communication. Okay, that's my half. Next one, let's
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  look at Malaysia as I studies communication failure. Now main cause of marriage break
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  downs in Malaysia? Okay, how many percent is twenty five percent in Malaysia?
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  Okay? Out of out of four couple, I guess divorce one couple
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  is because of bad communication. Okay, Next life, what type of conversations
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  do you have with your partner? That is very important? What type of
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  conversations do you have with your partner? Or if I can change these questions,
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  what leads your conversation with your partner? Okay, let me ask you
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  some questions that you can reflect on. Okay, you don't need to answer,
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  but just reflect reflect. Okay. Is your conversation flirtaitious with your partner?
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  Lah? Okay, it's a conversation flatitious, baby baby, yeah,
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  sexy? If yes? If that is your type of conversation everytime you text,
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  every time you text? You know? Okay? If yes, what
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  is the goal of that kind of conversation? What are you trying to get
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  out of it? Okay? There's a conversations only reverse around front jokes and
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  memes. I do that too, I always you know, score through instat
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  reels. Oh, it is really funny. It's really funny, like China
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  China and I forget Wow, you know, show my my wife then you
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  laugh together. Okay, cool, good conversations. But is that all to
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  it? Okay? Some things to think about. There's a conversation includes gossips,
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  or rather, there's a conversation includes people and putting people down a lot
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  of people and building people up. Do you have that kind of conversation?
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  You know what? That guy are w the shirt here? Whah double with
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  four holes? Wah? Right? Are those the kind of conversations you have?
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  Let me see what else I have here? There's a conversation only has
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  How are you? I'm fine? Have turned What are you doing right now?
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  There's no reply for ten minutes, I miss you, no reply for
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  another half an hour? Anything wrong? What is it? And then again
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  I'm fine? Is that the conversations you're having? So what I want to
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  talk about in regards to conversation is what is leading your conversations? Not that
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  everything I mentioned earlier is wrong, not that everything I mentioned earlier is wrong.
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  But maybe a question to reflect on is that is that all it is
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  to having good conversations in a healthy relationship? Okay, back to the five
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  sea that you're trying to connect everything to. Let me ask you more questions
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  that you can reflect on. Do you talk about Christ bring in the center
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  of your relationship? Can you talk about having God as a final say?
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  Do you talk about that, Hey, this I don't know. PlayStation is
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  really nice to purchase, man, you know, if I buy it,
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  I get to be happy and all that. Do you have that kind of
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  conversation? What do God think about that? Do you have conversations revolving around
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  compleitment? Hey, I'm not going to kiss you until the day of my
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  marriae. Do you have that kind of conversation? Do you commit to it?
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  Because why all these conversations are also a form of accountability. Right,
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  do you talk about how you're spending your money? Or maybe are you are
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  the age of talking about that? Because why it promotes accountability in your relationship.
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  Do you talk about things like that? Okay? Things that build your
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  relationship. So use conversations to build relationship. In Problems eighteen twenty one,
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  it says the tongue tongue, meaning our tongue. Whatever we say right when
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  we talk, when we speak, the tongue has the power of life and
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  death. This mouth right can bring life, can also bring death. The
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  time is the power of life and death. And those who love it well,
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  it is full. If you like to proclaim life, eat the fruit
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  of life. If you like to gossip, tear people down in your relationship,
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  it's all about being negative, okay, you also eat its food.
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  Okay. So use conversations to build relationship, build godly principles. Christ bring
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  the center, build vision, the vision that you've talked about. Talk,
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  continue talking, continue talking. It's not a one time you know, our
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  vision is a good marriage it's not a one time conversation, okay. Continue
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  to build on it, all right, Build commitments that will help the both
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  of you grow. What kind of commitments that you have? Are you talking
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  about it? Don't just write it into a list and then leave it at
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  the site. It's a word away. When me and my wife Klein,
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  when we were dating before we get marriaged, we got into this whole program
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  called before marriage counseling or something like that. Okay, it's called pre marriage
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  counseling, okay, And we had to write down things that we're committing to
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  each other, and we meet every once for two weeks to talk about it,
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  really talk about it, like if I marry with you are, how
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  am I going to treat my mother in law until that level? Okay?
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  And then am I going to keep my word to it? Okay? And
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  then today, now that we're married and I actually have a marry in law,
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  we continue to talk about it. So conversations, because if you don't
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  talk about things like that, the divorce rate is highlight because everything you talk
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  about is oh, baby, baby, you look so good today. All
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  right, Okay, So don't be committed because you want to hold hands Don't
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  be committed because you want to touch someone. Don't just do that, Okay,
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  be committed because you want to protect them and protect them from what God
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  has in stall for you and for that person and for your relationship. Passing
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  on to wiki on the fifth se Okay, so this is the last series.
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  It's I have a question first before the sea, So what are some
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  characteristic evidences of real love? Class? So if if I can rephrase that
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  question, what is true love? And how do you identify true love?
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  Okay, so we can move to the fifth point. It's called charity.
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  Charity is is actually an English translation of the Greek word agape. So later
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  on we canna read First Corinthians chapter thirteen. Actually, when Apostle Paul,
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  Apostle Paul wrote First Corinthians, the thin the love that human was charity.
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  So what is charity? Charity is actually a selfless, sacrificial love that stiks
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  the well being and happiness of others above oneself. So if a further explanation,
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  I think, if you read, if I go to the dictionary by
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  Brittannica, charity actually means it's the highest form of love, love which is
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  like a reciprocal love between us and God, and because of that love,
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  we can be able to love our neighbors unconditionally. So that's the meaning of
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  charity. Okay, we can we can start reading First Corinthians chapter thirteen,
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  very popular, worst and probably because it's really evergreen. It's timeless, and
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  so we're just going to go through it. Love is patient, love is
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  kind, So patient and kind. Ah. The great thing is, you
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  know, the food of the Holy Spirit. Love is part of it,
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  patient is part of it. Kind is also part of it. So quite
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  thankful that actually the Holy Spirit enables us to be able to love that way.
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  Actually, love is patient, Love is kind and patient. Another word
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  that people use for patient, I mean in the scripture itself, you go
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  different versions. It's also called long suffering. So that's actually amazing thing about
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  charity agape because the word that love, that the biblical love, is actually
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  able to suffer for the love true the sufferings. So patient love patient is
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  long suffering, and it's really amazing because it encompasses like commitment and or as
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  well. Right then it goes to It does not envy, it does not
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  bows, it is not proud, So love it is. So the first
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  part is like what is love? Right patient kind? The second part and
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  the worst five and the worst six. Actually this tree talks about that's not
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  what love is not. So the first part is what love is, and
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  the following part is what love is not. So it's not envy, because
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  do you you find that you're envy your partner sometimes if it you know,
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  if he's getting a promotion that you have, or he is, you know,
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  excelling more than you do, you sense that there is some kind of
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  envy. So that is not love, and we should strive not to have
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  that luck. And it does not dishonor others. It is not self seeking,
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  it is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongs. So
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  it keeps no record of wrongs. If I can elaborate that is that sometimes
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  love can start all right, but eventually deterior like because there are things that
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  you hide under the cupboard, or there are things that build started to build
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  up that you hide, or it's not well communicated, or it is just
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  not there's no solution to It wasn't soft, but it continued to carry over.
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  So it's it's essentially no record or wrongs. It's so it loves easily
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  for giftsler, right, And after that you said love is that's not delight
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  in evil, but rejoices with the truth. So even when we talk about
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  like not touching each other, I mean it's it's it's this detestable to God.
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  Los sin is detestable to God. And so love shouldn't delight in evil.
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  And even when we talk about communication, like do you gossip about other
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  friends in your conversation? So that is love does not delight in evil.
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  So the things that if do you do you come together to talk about crimes,
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  or if you come together talk about revenge towards another, I think that
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  is it shows signs of unhealthiness. And the last one, verse seven,
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  it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. So this
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  this is really the secret of a long lasting, committed lovelaw Okay, So
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  after reading First Corinthians, chapter thirteen, the last question that actually I have
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  with which element do you find easiest and hardest to apply? So there are
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  some fun activities if you go back to the worst I've seen, like fun
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  Christian activities like among harpers as well, like because actually this right, if
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  you replace love with the word Jesus. Jesus is patient, Jesus is kind,
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  Jesus is not envy. And so can you replace your name there like
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  Wiki is patient, Wiki is kind. It's quite difficult, right, So
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  if you put your name there, what is something that you really struggle with
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  and what is something that you know your strength is. I think there's a
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  good activity you can do yourself, even now, even before you enter into
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  a relationship. It's important to note that first contents, the thing is not
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  just for romantic relationships, lah, it also is for your family, for
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  your friends. So Paul write this letter, if for context sake, is
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  for the Church of Corinth korin Is in Greece. So that time the church
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  had a lot of conflicts, and it's actually addressed to solving conflicts in the
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  church, unity in the church, and asking the disciples to practice love among
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  each other. So this is quite universal in that sense. Thank you for
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