Latest / Travel Agency in a Year / DAY 290 | Why Travel Advisors May Feel Relief Instead of Joy After a Win
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- Rachel: Welcome to the Travel Agency in a Year podcast. I'm your host, Rachel K, and I am also a travel agency owner. Whew! Doing this podcast, and I have two ways to help you over at elevatewithrachelk.com. If you'd like to check it out, it is a group coaching on an annual basis. Everyone's on the same week, or custom one-on-one mentoring. Today is day 290. Champions don't get excited when they win. What? And it's more neuroscience stuff. What what do they feel? Well, you better listen up. we've been building up like upon this across several episodes. Let's get a little quieter, let's be a little more grounded when we do our celebrations, our wins, our achievements, let's celebrate other people. GG, if you don't know what that means, it means good game. Celebrate your competition, thank your competition, all that fun stuff. Today let's make the theme explicit with real documentation from actual champions about what winning really feels like. Trust me, I've been there. No I'm kidding. I win at everything in life. I'm kidding. We're talking about like big, big champions. this has been reported repeatedly by journalists who've interviewed like championship-level athletes, Olympic athletes. Over the years, the dominant emotion and the moment of winning for these champions is overwhelmingly described as relief, not the pure exhilaration or jubilation that outside observers often expect. So, like, Allison Felix, who's an Olympics sprinter here in my notesy poos. When she won the individual gold at the twenty twelve London Olympics after coming close in like past competitions, described the moment as joy, but said it was, in her words, mainly relief. Relief to finally have that moment happen after years and years of building towards it. Olympic rower, Andrew Triggs Hodge said the same thing after his win in Rio, saying the first emotion was relief, only followed afterwards by elation. this shows up across interviews with elite champions. It's just a recognized observation within the sports journalism and psychology alike. The achievement when it finally arrives often feels like an explosion of pure joy. Like less like that, and like more like the release of the enormous sustained weight, the relief of that the sacrifice you're making, the training that you've done, the years of effort, they did it. And champions tend to win over and over and over again. Non-champions, and this is where the complacency comes in, this is well okay. The non champions are like the high school football trophy winners that won state their senior year of high school. You know the stereotype in film and TV that's all over or was when in the twenty tens. They think they're hot shots. They get into complacency, they do nothing else with their lives, and you know, in the media, like in film and TV, they're portrayed as like the w the untouchable most popular guy in school as an example. And then flash forward to the first high school reunion, they're still wearing the Weddleman's jacket. They've probably gained forty pounds with a beer gut, and all they can talk about is that championship game from ten years prior. That is the loser mentality when they win. They are just like, that's it. And this is what I've talked about in past episodes. Like, you do not stop at that first goal. And this is why I say you do not stop. I say 100 to 150k a year gross revenues is great. That is not a stopping point. That doesn't mean you stop selling travel and start selling two travel agents. No. It means you can still keep going. That is a baby step. That's like winning your high school championship. And also, if that's all you have to sell to travel agents for years to come, you will be in 10 years. That guy. Anyway, no shade to anyone selling stuff. I'm just saying, like. like seeing that in marketing messaging. I don't like seeing like I've done this tiny, I won a high school. That's that to me, when I see agents saying, you know, I made this a full time career, or I've made a hundred and fifty thousand dollars a year working part time or I booked a million a year and all I did was work twenty hours a week, that to me is giving I won the high school state championship and I've done nothing else with my life since then and it I just it's a big turnoff for me. So the other way is you go Olympic level, Super Bowl, like past the Heisman Trophy, like you keep going, keep going, keep going. Those people that win over and over again, when you win that first time and you get that complacency, then you're stuck there, right? So I I'm just going off on tangents in these episodes. If you take the champion's mentality, you could be excited for that very first win and then you get that dopamine and you're like, I'm gonna go for more and have those continued challenges and continued progress. And then every single time you overcome that bigger, bigger, bigger challenge, which is demonstrated In sports, you s you start to just feel relief because you're like, I did it. I defeated that monster on to the next one. I defeated this next monster onto the next one. I got to the castle and got the I don't know orb of awesomeness. I got that. Now I gotta take that to the next mountain and defeat all these other monsters. Like you start to feel relief instead of being like, I did it! Hooray! My life stops here. Alright. This also echoes the arrival fallacy from day two fifty, which I don't know why it just came into my brain the high school state championship winner that just like lives with that forever. But it's the expectation that a major goal will produce lasting euphoria. Think of that stereotype. The movie. If you if you're like, bitch, what are you talking about? Go watch the movie Just Friends. Go watch the movie Can't Hardly Wait. there's so many movies I grew up with. in my formative years that reflect that like Rome Michelle's high school reunion. I just watched that this morning. Go watch that. that was a big message. Like the complacency you develop when you become homecoming king and prom queen and you won the state championships and then your life really doesn't move after that. You don't have that lasting euphoria. Okay. Anyway, this also connects back to the brain neuroscience, the dopamine. I've talked about this a lot. So if you've ever achieved something significant in your own life or your business and felt something quieter than you expected, like relief, exhaustion, a kind of settling rather than pure celebration, this is normal. Don't worry about it. That's that's a good thing. And it's exactly what the documented pattern of champions described to. You're you're not doing achievements wrong if a major milestone in your life or your travel agency feels more like exhaling than fireworks. That's what hard won achievement tends to actually feel like. So I remember the first time I went to an award ceremony, I was like just like I can breathe for like four days and then I gotta get back to it and do more. not that I'm a champion. I've been through I've you don't know my story, but I was way up getting up high there with all the achievements, and then I fell off the cliff. Now I'm rebuilding. I've been rebuilding. Alright. When we talked about the personal wins, the appreciations of anyone on your team, which includes your friends and family who are cheering you on, mentors, anything like that, and the mean girls convo, we've talked about that the last few episodes. And honest, I did the thing I set out to do and it took everything I had is way more accurate and a more sustainable way to hold your achievements than chasing the constant high that even elite champions really don't report feeling. You get that relief instead. All right. Do you see the understanding? Do you see the point I'm making here? Don't do the arrival fallacy if you can avoid it. And if you check yourself before you wreck yourself. Ch chickadey check yourself. Okay? So when you do hit your achievements. at first great, you are gonna be like, I'm winning at life, and you are gonna get that dopamine feedback loop and then it should become an expectation of progressing I don't know how to say this, progressing your greatness. and you'll make More sound business decisions if you get to that point where you're just like, okay, what do I do next? What's the next goal? And you have that big, big plan. we're gonna do a new year readiness check tomorrow so that you're prepared before the holidays get crazy. Have a wonderful day. I'll see you tomorrow.