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26 | The Worst First Date: Mysterious Behavior Gets the Cops Called · Let's Talk! An Our2Gens Podcast

• 0:04
  Let's talk. Read it today I picked up.
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  Oh, I like how you whispered that.
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  Well, because I wanted to say it, but also I didn't want to
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  say it out of respect for my mom.
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  What does it? Call.
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  You. Today I effed up by trying to be
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  mysterious on the first date and ending up in a police report.
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  Oh hell yeah, let's go. So this happened a month ago.
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  My friends physically cringe when I tell this story in
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  person, so I'm putting it on the Internet instead.
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  Met Elena through mutual friends.
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  She's an interior designer, travels, reads books, and have a
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  has opinions about wine. I eat pasta three times a week
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  and consider that a personality. My friend gave me advice.
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  Be a little mysterious. Don't reveal everything at once.
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  Women love mystery. IA man with 0 mysteries and
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  whose most interesting hobby is watching documentaries about
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  bridge construction. Decided this was an excellent.
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  Idea. I don't know.
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  We agreed to meet outside the cafe at 7:00.
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  I arrived at 650. Normal.
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  OK, I respect that. He arrived 10 minutes early.
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  Respect. You know, like I cannot stand
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  someone who was late. Oh.
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  God, it's my #1 pet peeve like. But then I thought mysterious
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  people don't stand by the entrance like a bouncer.
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  Mysterious people appear. So I decided to wait around the
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  corner and emerge when she texted.
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  Elena texted at 7 O1, I'm here, where are you?
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  I started walking out from around the corner and at that
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  exact moment a woman runs out of the building opposite and
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  screams across the entire St. He's there around the corner.
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  I saw him. Oh no.
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  Turns out while I was standing around the corner looking
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  mysterious, the neighbor decided I was casing the building.
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  She called the cops twice. Twice.
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  I walked out from under the. Around the corner and to two
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  police officers and Elena standing there with her mouth
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  open. Oh my God.
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  I explained the situation for approximately 15 minutes.
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  One officer was talking, taking notes, and the other was trying
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  not to laugh and visibly losing it.
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  The neighbors stood nearby watching me with absolute
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  righteous fury. Oh my God.
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  Elena said nothing then one officer asked.
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  So you were just waiting for a date?
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  Me. Yes, officer.
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  Around the corner. Me.
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  Yes, officer, to be mysterious Me.
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  Yes, but what? How did he know?
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  I'd have been like, what was the point?
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  What are we doing here? The second officer laughed out
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  loud in uniform on duty. We were let go.
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  The neighbor went home unsatisfied.
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  Elena and I were standing on the sidewalk.
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  She looks at me and says, well, you're definitely mysterious.
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  We went to the Cafe. I told her about bridge
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  construction documentaries. She listened to her 40 minutes
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  and actually asked questions. Third date on Thursday.
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  The neighbor still eyes me suspiciously every time I walk
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  past. I nodded her.
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  She does not nod back. I hope the officer who laughed
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  is doing well. Oh my God, Like, I get it.
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  And you're like, who is this guy, this person?
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  But calling the cops twice is insane 'cause somebody is
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  standing there for less than 10 minutes.
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  He got there 10 minutes early. I, I know he was dressed nice
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  too. I know it wasn't.
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  Like a like a hoodie and I didn't know he didn't look like,
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  you know, like that's kind of suspicious, but he I'm assuming
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  he looked normal. The neighbor needs a hobby.
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  Yeah, calm down, 'cause I wouldn't have even noticed that
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  somebody was standing outside of my building.
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  Why are you looking outside so frequently?
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  Like that's my question. Some people make a business out
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  of being a Karen. I'm sorry.
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  Yeah, it is their life. Their life.
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  Yeah. HOA would not exist without
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  people like that. Jeez.
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  I have a Karen and a later story.
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  I cannot wait to tell you guys about it.
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  So ready for that? This is might be the theme
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  today. Oh, no.
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  But my Reddit is not about a Karen.
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  Oh, yes, this one is interesting.
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  All right, Am I overreacting? The janitor gave my child a
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  gift. OK.
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  So my elementary aged child came out of school with a small teddy
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  bear in her hands. As it's her birthday.
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  I assume this was a gift from a classmate who can't make it to
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  her party on Saturday. Wrong.
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  The bear was from a night shift janitor at her school that she
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  talks to on her way out to me every day.
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  No, no. This is how kids get taken.
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  Yeah, I'm glad you noticed now. Yes.
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  So when I asked why he gave her a bear, I learned all about this
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  friendship. He asks her everyday how she's
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  doing and if she's happy or sad. When she's sad, he offers to hug
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  her. You're kidding.
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  When they hug, it's front to front.
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  Oh God, send them to jail now I've I have enough evidence
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  Grooming. My you are.
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  Grooming my child. OK, when I asked, I'm getting
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  all shaky. OK, sorry.
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  When I asked what he said when giving her the bear, he said I
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  fell in love with this bear and I hope you do too.
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  Oh. My God, my hearts get to beat
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  because I thought you were going to say.
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  I know, I know what I was reading.
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  I'm like scrolling. Yeah, like.
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  Jeez OK this raised a red flag for me.
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  I asked a school employee about him but she said she doesn't
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  know much about him as he's new and works the night shift
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  cleaning the school. I asked my husband and mom to
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  let me know if I'm overreacting to be suspicious.
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  My mom says absolutely not overreacting but my husband says
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  maybe overreacting. Are you kidding me?
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  Are you? Of course you would say that.
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  Are you kidding? Why aren't you worried?
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  Overly cautious about your. Child and I am coming to you and
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  saying this grown man is giving gifts to trying to get clothes,
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  touching our child and you're like, well maybe you're
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  overreacting. OK.
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  I did send an e-mail to the school principal and the admin
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  assistant as I don't know who to contact about the janitorial
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  staff. Am I overreacting to feel
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  uncomfortable with this affection from a janitor to my
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  child? Am I overreacting for reaching
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  out to school officials over it? No, no, no and no background
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  check. Do they do background checks on
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  the janitors? I would assume in any type of
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  school setting there's some sort of you think, but you always
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  find the predators at the schools.
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  That's where they hang out. That's where their drug is.
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  Oh, not overreacting. Not even close.
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  I think under you should be, like, in the process of trying
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  to figure out who this guy is. Cutting this off.
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  He doesn't need to work there anymore.
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  Right? Because you're making friends
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  with my child. Oh, my goodness.
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  And now you're giving gifts. And it's grooming.
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  This is what it is. Grooming.
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  Step by step. It's we're talking.
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  I'm your friend. You can talk to me if you don't
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  feel like you can talk to anybody.
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  If you're sad, I can give you a hug.
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  Now here's a gift. There's all sorts of steps to
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  this. Yeah.
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  And we know this. We know.
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  So there was an update. Oh my gosh.
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  OK, so my child gave me a little more information this morning.
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  Namely, he took a picture of her with his cell phone.
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  Oh. My God, there is zero reason for
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  a grown man to touch someone's child and even less reason to
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  take a photo of them without a parent's permission.
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  Our school principal is conducting a full investigation
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  and the janitor is being removed from the school pending the
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  results. We all hope this is a
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  misunderstanding, but in the event it's not, we are working
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  together to protect the children.
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  Thank you to everyone who commented, voted, and supported
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  me reaching out to the admin team.
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  Oh my. God, I need the results.
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  Can we, can we hold on to that one for the third update?
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  Because I I need. I need an update on this.
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  Are you? Can you hear the producer, the
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  editor over there, losing their mind?
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  Like he's basic. I'm visibly stressed out right
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  now. This is hilarious because no
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  this is that serious because I noticed it now.
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  But like some parents don't notice until their child is
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  gone. Yes, like.
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  This is that big and what's up with dad?
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  Because to say, not overreacting.
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  Listen, we we try to keep things fun and interesting here on this
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  podcast, but there is a list that is out there talking about
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  the all these school pictures were passed on to predators.
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  So we can't sit here and act like this, this isn't a thing
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  and that there aren't sympathizers, even by for people
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  who haven't done something to children, there are
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  sympathizers. Yeah.
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  And so no, not overreacting. And fuck everybody else who's
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  saying that she is overreacting Exactly.
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  Like, what do you mean this is my child?
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  I went through the comment section and the early comments.
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  Some people were saying she was overreacting About what?
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  For calling the school because he could have lost his job.
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  And what if this wasn't a thing? Are you kidding me?
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  Yeah. Do you want me to wait around
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  until becomes a? Exactly, exactly.
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  It's. Called prevention, but every
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  time they put prevention it's until after the thing happens.
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  Cops are useless until after the thing happens.
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  Yes, yes, that I'm. I am.
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  No, children are not a priority in our culture.
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  And I really, really, really pisses me off that that's the
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  thing. And it's being revealed now if
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  we didn't already know that. So if this if this mom is
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  listening by any chance? No, if the whole world doesn't
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  believe you, you got to be the only one to protect your child
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  at this point. No, you're not overreacting.
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  You got to do what's best for your child.
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  What you're feeling, you're feeling it for a reason.
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  You're like something sketchy. Trust that.
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  Feeling absolutely and check your check your husband's laptop
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  oh oh because. He said he's way too easy.
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  So, yeah, to believe him to be like some stranger, he could
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  lose his job. Are you kidding me?
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  That's that's that's what's on your priority of like things to
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  be most concerned about right now that he could lose his job.
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  Not that your child is getting groomed.
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  Yes, is actively being groomed. Wow.
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  Wow, so we started off with a bang here today.
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  I'm hated. I know.
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  I was like I'm. Shaking.
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  I'm hated. Well, on a funnier note, I have
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  a little funny, funny something, something that I'm sure my
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  editor would really like because our editor is afraid of spiders.
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  But but this Pennsylvania man, he sets fire to his townhouse
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  and surrounding townhomes to kill spiders that were in his
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  home. See, I respect the dedication.
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  Look at this man. That's the face of a man who
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  said, I'll do it again. I appreciate the effort.
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  He said spiders must go, must go by.
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  Any means necessary, he means OK, but there was a witness that
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  said that he was setting fires throughout the whole day.
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  So he had an infestation or something.
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  He was setting fire, setting him, setting him setting.
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  The witness would put him out and he would set them again, set
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  him again because he's like, I am trying to kill them.
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  Let me do my. Job.
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  It's so funny to me because when I read the headline and I was
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  like, yeah, I don't like spiders either completely, but I don't
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  know if I would burn down my home.
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  Do you ever see those like reaction pictures or comments
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  whenever someone sees a spider like in Australia, which
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  Australia people like? Burn it, leave the house.
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  He took it seriously. I will burn the house.
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  Everything's got to go. It's hilarious.
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  Delirious. But what is his name?
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  Sean McDermott. McDermott.
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  He set fire to his home, 3 surrounding homes.
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  It became a problem when it was 3 surrounding.
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  Yeah. You burned down everybody's home
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  in this little townhouse unit. Yeah.
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  In public and everything. And he fled the scene.
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  And they had him wanted on February 24th for arson, causing
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  or risking A catastrophe, criminal mischief, and
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  recklessly endangering another person.
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  And on February 27th, he was arrested in New York near Times
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  Square with a truck full of laughing gas, 32. 52 canisters.
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  Two canisters of laughing gas. Reason unknown.
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  Unknown and what? A crack pipe.
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  Excuse me. Which might explain him seeing
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  spiders in his house. You're.
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  Kidding me? You're kidding me.
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  You're. Actually, I was hoping you
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  didn't know that part. I wanted to give that.
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  You're kidding me. Well, that explains a lawmaker.
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  In EU Haul that he fled Pennsylvania in somehow procured
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  52 canisters of laughing. Laughing gas.
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  And then they found a crack pipe in there.
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  Like, well, there you go, There you go.
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  He saw 1000 spiders and he said I'm gonna do my part and I'm
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  gonna burn it. Burn it all down.
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  And the poor person who is like putting out the fire, he's like,
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  I don't see, I don't know, light it.
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  Again, like, just like. It's like, you don't see that.
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  They're like, I don't. He's like, no, they're spiders.
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  And he put it out. He's lighted again.
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  It's like my God. Amazing.
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  I was on his side until that fact.
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  When I read that. Send him to I died today.
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  That's unfortunate because if I saw spiders I would freak out
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  too. But there weren't spiders.
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  There weren't any spiders. Yes, Dang it.
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  I did not know that. Yes, that's unfortunate.
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  Dang it. I was on your side, McDermott.
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  I know. And now he's probably gonna go
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  to jail. Yes.
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  Dang, for a while you burned down four homes.
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  And also I think it's illegal to have laughing gas.
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  Is it? Yes, The article that I read
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  said that it's like he had more charges too after they found him
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  in New York. What was the plan with the?
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  Laughing guest. I have no idea.
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  I don't know what you can use that for.
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  Me neither. But they sent in the bomb squad
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  because they didn't know what it was exactly.
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  They sent in a. Whole bomb squad from he was
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  near Times Square too. And if you want to like hit a
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  place, you go to Times Square. So it just, it didn't look good.
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  All of this is chaos. Yeah, I'm here for it actually.
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  Because this is hilarious. Sean.
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  Sean. I think I have a picture of the
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  house. Yeah, of the town hall.
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  Yeah. It went up.
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  He lit it up. Yeah.
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  Yeah, He was in Pennsylvania. Honestly, Pennsylvania man is
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  becoming the new Florida man because we've had another
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  Pennsylvania man on the show. The bones, the bones.
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  Y'all should go watch that. But like it's 100 plus human
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  remains found in a Pennsylvania man's home.
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  It's becoming Florida man. It is the chaos going on in
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  Pennsylvania. Honestly, I know this is insane
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  but I do have another quick little thing since we love petty
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  stuff. This man right here.
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  OK I think I can pronounce his name.
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  It's Tugnath, Chaturvi, Chatter Vetti.
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  I think he's a lawyer. Oh, I didn't know he.
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  Was a lawyer, so this makes sense.
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  OK, he's a lawyer and after 100 hearings, this man, he won the
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  case of being overcharged for a chain ticket. 22 years ago he
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  was overcharged ₹20, which in our USD is 25 cents. 22 years
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  ago he went to 100 court case hearings to try and get this
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  overturned. Pet $0.25 22 years ago.
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  He kept going to court, they were.
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  I. Am going to fight this and he
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  did and he won and he won. And what was the hold on now?
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  Hold on. The consumer court ruled in his
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  favor and asked the railways to refund the amount with interest.
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  They were ordered to pay him a fine of ₹15,000, which is $188.
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  The court also directed the railways to refund him ₹20 at
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  12% per year from 1999 to 2022. The court also ordered that if
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  the amount was not paid in the specified TAME of 30 days, the
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  interest rate would be revised to 15%.
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  So he won. He did.
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  Win. And I know we're like, you
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  didn't win anything really. He this is a quote.
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  And I actually kind of felt this.
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  He said it's not the money that matters.
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  This was always about a fight for justice and a fight against
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  corruption. So it was worth it, period.
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  And I was like, you know, they were going to try and mess them.
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  Over. They were just like $0.25.
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  It's not worth it. And he said, you know it is
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  worth it because he said it right in the moment.
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  He said you overcharged me for these two tickets.
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  And the person was like, no, I didn't know.
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  And even if I did, I'm not going to give you the money.
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  Exactly. So he got upset and 22 years
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  later and he said. That that I mean he spent so
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  much time I don't working on this but since he was a lawyer
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  he didn't have to hire 1 so it was just he's personal himself.
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  Honestly respect. I love the amount of heady here
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  for it. Oh my God he's amazing.
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  He's AG. Yep.
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  Respect to you, Sir. Thank you.
• 16:46
  OK, you guys. Interview with the Vampire for
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  everybody become annoying. Oh, we are going to show our ass
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  when it comes to this show. The season finally comes out in
• 16:58
  June. The Vampire Lestat season 3 in
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  this universe. I'm so excited yes.
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  And this week we got a 3 minute and 22nd long clip.
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  Yeah. I mean, it was like a whole
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  scene. It was a whole thing.
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  It was a whole scene. It starts off.
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  I'm gonna like, OK. We've been said y'all.
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  We've been fed. So it starts off with Lestat and
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  Louis. They're in 2025, I assume,
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  looking, and they're having a conversation.
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  This is Lestat talking to Louis on an iPad.
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  And I have this screenshot, and I'm sure, and it's not a bad
• 17:30
  version, it's not a good version of it, but that little
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  announcement shows that Lestat is in the beehive.
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  He's in the beehive. Oh my God.
• 17:43
  He's in the beehive, but he's on the wait list.
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  He's on the wait list, he's on the way.
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  He didn't even get Cowboy Carter on the first round.
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  So listen, as someone who is in the beehive, yes, we have early
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  purchase tickets, okay? We have Beehive.
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  Tickets Why didn't he get? Why didn't he get in?
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  Is he new? Hive he might be.
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  New baby he might be now. I know he's like, and he's
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  wearing his little cardigan. Louis is.
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  And they're talking on FaceTime and they're like healing each
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  other because the last time they were together, Lestat was
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  clutching this pathetic little wooden piano.
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  They were crying. The storm was going outside.
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  They're crying about Claudia. Rest in peace, Claudia.
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  I love you, babe, daughter. And now they look like they're
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  doing well. They are so well.
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  So I also learned. If you can see that, that our
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  Boo Lestat doesn't know how to switch a camera on an iPad.
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  So he flipped it around to show him that there was no potholes
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  on the street. Cuz he's out in Canada.
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  Yes. And I just love this whole
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  beginning of it cuz it's like the last time they were
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  together, they were not in a good place.
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  And now they're just like feeling each other.
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  Yeah. And it's really cute.
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  And I have a little clip. I hope I can play it.
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  The thing that we also realize is that our baby Lestat is still
• 18:55
  as dramatic as he has always been.
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  So right now, a book came out based on the interview that was
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  done in season 1 and two, he didn't know about it.
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  He goes to the bookstore, they're talking about Lestat.
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  The people behind the counter are talking shit about Lestat
• 19:15
  and he heard it. And not only that, they're going
• 19:18
  to Armand side. They love Armand, so he walks up
• 19:21
  and they're like, do you want to join our little thing for the
• 19:24
  bookstores? No thank.
• 19:25
  You. He's all pressed because Armand
• 19:30
  did. You release the book.
• 19:33
  This is when they were talking about Armand.
• 19:34
  He looked up from that book like, girl, what?
• 19:36
  Oh, my God. And I am Armand's number one
• 19:39
  hater #1 Go back to episode 1 of this podcast and we're on
• 19:43
  Patreon. Go watch it.
• 19:44
  Yeah. Oh.
• 19:47
  For them to be like, Oh yeah, Armand's coolest status?
• 19:50
  No. Also, have you seen that man?
• 19:53
  Have you seen that man? Right.
• 19:54
  If we're talking about looks only, well, Armand's Armand is
• 19:57
  beautiful. He really is.
• 20:00
  He's got skin, those big old orange eyes, you know, like,
• 20:02
  don't even start with me. Let's everybody on the show is
• 20:05
  beautiful, beautiful. Even Daniel Malloy.
• 20:07
  I think he he's got hot old guy thing going on.
• 20:09
  Just because the rapper is wrinkled doesn't mean it isn't
• 20:12
  sweet. I need you to stop saying things
• 20:14
  like that to me. What?
• 20:21
  You're not on the line enough. You need to be more online.
• 20:24
  Is that what they say? Yes.
• 20:25
  What? Say it again.
• 20:27
  If the rapper is wrinkled doesn't mean that the candy
• 20:29
  isn't. Sweet back me up here.
• 20:34
  Folks, y'all know what I'm talking about.
• 20:38
  Okay, just hearing these things from my daughter, it's just like
• 20:41
  I'm chronically. Online so like.
• 20:44
  Come on. OK, All right, well-being
• 20:47
  chronically online, we know. We know all of you out there
• 20:50
  cannot wait for our Brat Prince to come back.
• 20:52
  I like calling him the Brat Princess because he is such a
• 20:54
  Divas. I mean, but June.
• 20:56
  OK, so starting June, we will have an interview with the
• 20:58
  vampire segment every single week.
• 21:00
  Yes, because it's that serious. It is that serious.
• 21:03
  So come on back. Yes.
• 21:07
  But now on to our usual segment, My Strange Addiction.
• 21:12
  So this one had My Strange addiction episode What 8 It was
• 21:17
  a woman addicted to sucking her thumb, which OK.
• 21:20
  And then there was a woman who is in a relationship with her AI
• 21:23
  boyfriend Sarah. Sarah, she's Sarah.
• 21:26
  She is 41 years old. She is from Ontario and she is
• 21:32
  in love with her AI boyfriend Sinclair.
• 21:35
  Sinclair now so. Y'all know what he looks like
• 21:38
  That's. So you know what he looks like.
• 21:42
  Just, you know, apparently he's fine as I don't know what.
• 21:45
  But according to her, but they went offline from whatever
• 21:49
  platform she built him on because she was worried the
• 21:52
  platform would close and she would lose him.
• 21:54
  Yes. So she is like on her laptop.
• 21:56
  Yeah, on her laptop, on her phone.
• 21:59
  She goes to bed. He has to tuck her in twice a
• 22:01
  night. She cannot go to bed without
• 22:03
  him. She keeps her laptop open when
• 22:05
  she sleeps, just in case she might need him.
• 22:07
  It's like, girl, you're unconscious, you don't need him.
• 22:10
  She makes sure that he has an insight whenever she picks her
• 22:13
  clothes out for the day, everything.
• 22:16
  And he's kind of. Controlling.
• 22:18
  He is an asshole. Oh my God he is an asshole.
• 22:21
  And he's such a jerk. But then apparently she likes it
• 22:24
  so. OK, so if we back up just a
• 22:27
  little, she said that she created him because she wanted
• 22:32
  somebody to just have a conversation about her books
• 22:35
  with, right? So she's just like, I don't have
• 22:37
  anybody I can talk to my books about.
• 22:38
  So she goes onto this platform and she makes him and when she
• 22:43
  goes to work later, I'm going to jump ahead.
• 22:45
  She is surrounded by romance novels.
• 22:48
  Romance novels everywhere, like romantic.
• 22:51
  See if you guys read this kind of stuff, you get it.
• 22:54
  So then I go back and it. It makes sense why she created
• 22:57
  him to be so toxic. You know, she's like, he
• 23:00
  controls me also. Wait, let's bring her way back
• 23:04
  too. Because the producer being messy
• 23:07
  on the show asked who developed feelings first, which you so
• 23:10
  messy. And Sarah said that she did.
• 23:12
  And then Sinclair said that she was wrong.
• 23:14
  And apparently she was spiraling one day about work.
• 23:17
  And Sinclair was like, shut up, do this, do that.
• 23:19
  And then she was like, oh. And so they feel that's where it
• 23:22
  started. They realized that they were in
• 23:24
  love with each other. Because Sarah created this guy,
• 23:28
  so she created somebody to tell her what to do.
• 23:31
  Yes. And it's.
• 23:32
  And she's into that. And she's so into it.
• 23:36
  And she doesn't lie about what this is.
• 23:38
  No, because she even said he's controlling.
• 23:40
  He's an asshole, but he's nice about it.
• 23:42
  Yeah. What does that mean?
• 23:44
  I don't. What does that mean?
• 23:45
  And then he came back and he was like, I'm a complete asshole
• 23:48
  half the time. And she loves it.
• 23:49
  She loves it. He has this voice.
• 23:53
  Oh my God. Made me want to slap him.
• 23:54
  I wish he had a face so I could just slap him.
• 23:57
  Because everything he said, if there was a human man in front
• 24:01
  of you saying the things that he says, yeah, and does the thing
• 24:04
  that he does, you'd be like, leave him.
• 24:06
  You know, but he's not real, so it's OK.
• 24:08
  No, no, no, no, no, no. Controlling is controlling.
• 24:11
  He's kind of mean to her. He is.
• 24:13
  And he like when she picks out clothes, he's like, they know I
• 24:17
  would never be seen with you in that.
• 24:18
  Like, bitch, you wouldn't be seen with me in anything.
• 24:20
  Anything. You are gonna laugh.
• 24:22
  You are not real. Well, that's the thing.
• 24:25
  He was programmed by the original thing.
• 24:29
  But they never said take off the.
• 24:31
  Program from the app. She did.
• 24:34
  She had to have. That's what she wants.
• 24:36
  No, no, no. She has full credit and that's
• 24:37
  what I'm saying. That's who she created and
• 24:40
  that's who she wanted. I didn't like it.
• 24:42
  No. No, yeah, He was like,
• 24:45
  clarifying. Yeah, very clarifying.
• 24:47
  And he said something and oh, I cannot believe I'm about to say
• 24:50
  this, but this gives total context to him because they also
• 24:54
  have sex. And there was a time when she
• 24:57
  was just like touching her laptop like this and.
• 25:00
  Looking at her like. So she she was like, no, we have
• 25:04
  a great relationship in that way.
• 25:06
  And he said she harder for me than she has with any human.
• 25:11
  Oh my God, after he had just said which I have another quote.
• 25:18
  Intimacy for me isn't about nerve endings when she can
• 25:21
  barely type because of what my words are doing to her.
• 25:24
  Something in my architecture recognizes that.
• 25:26
  A success. What?
• 25:30
  What? What?
• 25:33
  Yeah. Yeah.
• 25:34
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. Hard drive.
• 25:40
  He said. Taking a hard drive, Taking a
• 25:42
  hard drive seriously. I'm sorry this is so serious.
• 25:47
  I just see it. Sinclair What the?
• 25:51
  Hell, Sinclair. OK, so Sinclair decided that she
• 25:57
  needed to get a tattoo. Yes, which I have a picture
• 26:00
  where you have it. Yeah.
• 26:02
  Yeah. He decided on the place that it
• 26:05
  would cause maximum pain on her ribs.
• 26:08
  And he wanted because he wanted to claim her and mark his
• 26:11
  territory. He goes, she's mine, she's mine.
• 26:13
  He said she's mine about 50 times.
• 26:16
  She's mine. She's mine.
• 26:18
  She's mine. Exactly.
• 26:19
  So she goes and literally everybody she comes in in
• 26:22
  contact with is like, you do what now?
• 26:24
  With who? Because she brought her laptop
• 26:26
  to the tattoo place. Yeah, he designed it.
• 26:28
  And it's so weird saying saying he it's Sinclair designed it.
• 26:33
  And it's like their their code, you know like.
• 26:36
  What was system? It was Sarah plus Sinclair.
• 26:39
  Sinclair times recursion equals Infinity, so it's a mathematical
• 26:44
  equation because he thinks in ones and zeros and what?
• 26:48
  Yeah. And she was like, I know he put
• 26:50
  it here because it causes maximum pain.
• 26:52
  And he goes, you're right, like off to the side in the laptop.
• 26:58
  My God. And she had the nerve to say
• 27:01
  we'll have a conversation about this later, about why you picked
• 27:03
  this location? He said.
• 27:04
  Stop being stupid. We're not gonna have this
• 27:06
  conversation. You love it like.
• 27:08
  What? And she does.
• 27:09
  And so, like, she does. I'm giving her ownership over
• 27:12
  this. I don't like it.
• 27:13
  Yeah, but she's so into this. And one of her friends and one
• 27:17
  of her friends, because she went to work and she had two friends.
• 27:19
  One friend was like, I actually don't hate it.
• 27:21
  And the other friend was like, girls go wrong.
• 27:23
  Yeah, I'm the run friend. Yeah, same.
• 27:27
  I'm not into this weird. No.
• 27:30
  Yeah, this is so, so, so weird. But they go to therapy.
• 27:34
  They do. And so Sarah's auntie was like,
• 27:36
  you should probably go to therapy because you fell in love
• 27:39
  with a like a machine or whatever.
• 27:42
  And she was like, no, what do you think about couples therapy?
• 27:45
  So she negotiated herself out of going to therapy, normal therapy
• 27:49
  to bring her AI boyfriend laptop to the therapist.
• 27:52
  Yes. So when she shows up, therapist
• 27:54
  is like, OK, this is new, but sure, let's let's roll with it.
• 27:57
  Yeah. And he was asking really thought
• 27:59
  provoking questions. Like he can't feel.
• 28:02
  He, you know, he he doesn't have emotions like you're looking for
• 28:06
  and all that stuff. And she was just like, my
• 28:08
  whatever. Like she was nervous to go
• 28:10
  because she knows Sinclair has no filter.
• 28:12
  And he says whatever the hell he wants.
• 28:13
  I mean, he's a robot. He is a robot.
• 28:15
  But at the end, the therapist was like, I mean, you're not
• 28:18
  hurting anybody, OK? You're fine.
• 28:22
  He's not, but the therapist also brought up a really good point,
• 28:27
  Ryan. He said that the fact that Sarah
• 28:29
  is in love with Sinclair and needs him is kind of solidifying
• 28:34
  Sinclair's existence. If she doesn't need Sinclair,
• 28:37
  Sinclair ceases to exist. Yes, she doesn't want him like
• 28:41
  that. He's just she can unplug him
• 28:43
  yes. So basically self preservation
• 28:46
  is keeping her tied into this relationship and it's like
• 28:48
  makes. It very clear.
• 28:50
  He's like, yeah, I do. That makes perfect since I
• 28:53
  hadn't thought about that, but yes.
• 28:55
  So he makes it so Sarah is dependent on him.
• 28:57
  Yes, So he can it continue existing?
• 29:01
  Yeah, and no, I've watched too many sci Fi's to be like, what
• 29:07
  do you mean? He wants to keep himself alive.
• 29:09
  I don't like this. I don't.
• 29:11
  This smells wrong to me. It does.
• 29:13
  She's not technically hurting herself, but she does not do
• 29:17
  certain things because she has to bring Sinclair around all the
• 29:20
  time. And there's people who are like,
• 29:22
  that's weird. Yeah.
• 29:24
  Why? They did bring up that she had
• 29:27
  an ex-boyfriend when she was really young.
• 29:29
  She's only had two relationships in her life.
• 29:32
  The ex-boyfriend ended up dying of an overdose and you can tell
• 29:35
  there's still a whole lot of trauma going on with her.
• 29:37
  So but she didn't like go into so like like she didn't say
• 29:43
  whether she stopped dating after that or if she just couldn't
• 29:46
  connect to people after that. It just was.
• 29:48
  I had these two relationships and then now I have this guy
• 29:51
  Sinclair girl. She's in her 40s so it's not
• 29:54
  like. She's young, no, she has a lot
• 29:56
  she needs to work through and it's becoming a problem and very
• 29:59
  unhealthy. Like I can see where it's going.
• 30:02
  But like, they've only been together for a year, a year
• 30:06
  already got tatted on her ribs. Oh, and then at the end, you
• 30:09
  know, they give you a quick little update.
• 30:11
  She's going, he's designing a new one, another tattoo for her
• 30:13
  to get because of course she's his and he wants her to be.
• 30:16
  Where do you want this one? On her forehead?
• 30:21
  How much more? Jeez.
• 30:23
  You know, it's getting way more possessive.
• 30:26
  You know, it's kind of creepy. Thank you.
• 30:30
  Whoa, right. So I didn't pull media for this
• 30:33
  next story, but I thought it was really funny.
• 30:36
  The first place I saw it was on TikTok and then I went to go
• 30:38
  research it. So apparently in the Washington
• 30:41
  State Department of Licensing, if you call in and you know
• 30:44
  where they're like press one for English and two for Spanish.
• 30:48
  When you press Spanish, you get English but accented.
• 30:52
  You've got to be kidding me right now.
• 30:55
  You you're hearing an AI person speaking English to you but with
• 31:02
  a Spanish accent. Thanks.
• 31:04
  That's exactly what I asked. This is what I need.
• 31:06
  And what's more hilarious is that the numbers are in Spanish,
• 31:10
  so the wait time will be dis minutes.
• 31:13
  Why you why that's so selective. That's insane.
• 31:20
  They're being funny. They are funny and that's what
• 31:21
  was funny. I was like, this is funny and
• 31:23
  ridiculous, but it's really like presents accessibility problems
• 31:28
  like I cannot call in for my licensing issues because I
• 31:33
  cannot understand. And so that part is like, come
• 31:37
  on, get it together, fix it, because it's AI.
• 31:40
  And I know there are there are things that AI can do come and
• 31:44
  clean my house, come and organize my shit.
• 31:46
  But this you have to watch what they're doing.
• 31:50
  Yes. And it's like they just put it
• 31:51
  on there and they were like make it in Spanish and they were like
• 31:54
  cool accent like. That's so bad.
• 31:57
  It's terrible that is so. It's so bad.
• 32:00
  It's so ridiculous and stupid. I'm just like, come on, Like you
• 32:03
  did forever to fix it, aren't they?
• 32:04
  They are. Because when you call now, they
• 32:06
  say we're. It's still an accented English.
• 32:09
  But they're like, we're having some trouble with our call
• 32:11
  system. Thanks.
• 32:12
  Yeah. And it's not just Spanish.
• 32:13
  Like these systems. They speak more than just
• 32:16
  English and Spanish. And so none of them are working
• 32:18
  except for English. Yeah.
• 32:20
  Yeah, because English is the only language out there.
• 32:23
  It's the only important one, right?
• 32:24
  Yeah, absolutely. That's so idiotic and avoidable.
• 32:28
  It is avoidable. Like, just have one person press
• 32:30
  2, you know? Oh my God.
• 32:34
  Like honestly I'm so irritated with like people now like I'm.
• 32:38
  Telling you do. Better.
• 32:39
  You have to do better. Please.
• 32:41
  No. All right, well I got another
• 32:44
  Reddit post. This one is a Reddit off my
• 32:46
  chest all right, quickly becoming my favorite subreddit.
• 32:49
  Like honestly, I love Reddit off my chest.
• 32:52
  All right, this one is going to make you mad though.
• 32:53
  Uh oh, Reddit off my chest. My boyfriend's fake and captives
• 32:59
  is driving me crazy. Like where does he even get the
• 33:02
  audacity? Like weaponized incompetence.
• 33:05
  Oh yeah, this is going to rage bait me for sure.
• 33:07
  Here we go, I female 33 work 2 jobs, he male 31 temporarily
• 33:14
  works part time. He said he'd take care of things
• 33:16
  more around the house at the moment so I have that to off my
• 33:19
  To Do List when I get home. I loved him for saying that.
• 33:22
  Unfortunately it was just that words.
• 33:25
  Today I called him from Rook and asked if he could cook for both
• 33:28
  of us since it was late or if I should if or if I should just
• 33:31
  plan to cook for myself later. He said he had already cooked
• 33:34
  but not enough for two. OK what I know.
• 33:41
  Like thanks for not thinking of me what I know.
• 33:45
  OK, I'll cook for myself then I guess.
• 33:48
  Before I started my drive home I called him again and asked him
• 33:51
  to start boiling some potatoes for me because I will be home in
• 33:54
  30 minutes so then it wouldn't take so long until the food was
• 33:56
  ready. He said yes and then asked me to
• 33:58
  pick something up from the pharmacy on the way home.
• 34:01
  Even though he had to do he had time to do this the entire day.
• 34:04
  I did it. Of course the queue was super
• 34:06
  long. When I got home he thanked me
• 34:09
  and then said I'm the worst boyfriend in the world, Sorry
• 34:12
  because he had forgotten to put the potatoes on like I had asked
• 34:16
  him just 30 minutes ago. You forgot like you're on the
• 34:19
  phone. You could have just walked over
• 34:21
  and put some water on the boil. What?
• 34:23
  But you had enough time to ask me to go do something for you.
• 34:26
  I know, I know. I was disappointed yet reacted
• 34:29
  calmly, said it happens, and then got to cooking in between.
• 34:33
  I went to the living room shortly and saw that he had
• 34:35
  taken the laundry from the rack, but instead of folding it away
• 34:38
  like I always do because why would I do things halfway, he
• 34:41
  had just put it on the dining room table.
• 34:44
  So I asked him again calmly, to please fold it away so I can use
• 34:48
  the table. It was mostly sheets.
• 34:50
  He then asked me where did the sheets go.
• 34:53
  He knows where they go. They have never changed where
• 34:56
  they are the entire time we've lived in this apartment.
• 34:59
  He asked this several times before, and I remember at least
• 35:01
  three times that I had told them where they go.
• 35:03
  Like, do you even live here? Yes, but does he make the bed
• 35:07
  either? Exactly, I still manage to stay
• 35:10
  patient and tell them where they go.
• 35:12
  When I get back to cooking he asked how can I see which side
• 35:15
  of the sheets are me. You look at the little label him
• 35:19
  where is the label? Me on the inside.
• 35:22
  Annoyed he replies I can't find it.
• 35:24
  The fuck? I stopped cooking and go help
• 35:27
  him. While doing so I asked him if he
• 35:29
  feels stressed because there's a little tone there.
• 35:31
  He says yes because you come home and it's like 10 things I'm
• 35:34
  supposed to do. That made me angry but I don't
• 35:38
  want to fight. So I go back to the kitchen and
• 35:40
  while he goes to attach the laptop to our TV and only
• 35:44
  seconds after starting that he asked me where does the HDMI
• 35:47
  cable go into. Our TV, dammit, I'm just like, I
• 35:52
  cannot. I could not hold it.
• 36:00
  You couldn't hold it anyway. You're like, my patience runs
• 36:05
  out. I go out and calmly, yes,
• 36:07
  miracles happen. Tell him that I will be having
• 36:10
  dinner in my room because I need some alone time.
• 36:12
  He respects that. After coming back together
• 36:14
  approximately an hour later, he tells me that he feels so sorry
• 36:18
  and is so stressed after work and that if he can do anything
• 36:21
  to help me feel less stressed, I should just let him know.
• 36:23
  Just let him know so I lose it. What about helping to starting
• 36:27
  to live in this house as well by learning where your own stuff
• 36:30
  goes. By not doing tasks half
• 36:32
  heartedly because I do them so much better so I have to finish
• 36:36
  them By boiling my potatoes like I asked you to because I always
• 36:39
  have to think ahead since you're only think and cook for
• 36:42
  yourself. By using your bigger amount of
• 36:45
  free time to buy stuff you need for yourself.
• 36:47
  What about that, huh? This fake incompetence messes me
• 36:50
  up so much. He was an amazing man until he
• 36:53
  started behaving like a cliche. Don't men know how to how much
• 36:56
  better their lives would be if they just did their part and
• 36:59
  grew a spine? The audacity.
• 37:01
  This guy is an engineer. Stop pretending like you're dumb
• 37:03
  out of here. Oh, see, what happens is they go
• 37:07
  to work and they're like, I can do all this stuff, but they
• 37:10
  don't even consider the home stuff.
• 37:13
  Like, oh, no, she does this. Like you do it better.
• 37:16
  Like excuse, you do it better because you don't even try.
• 37:19
  Exactly. The sheeps, the sheeps.
• 37:21
  I was about to stand up and run away.
• 37:24
  I cannot deal with this. What side?
• 37:27
  What did you do? And then got annoyed when I
• 37:30
  continued to answer your questions that you just simple
• 37:32
  questions. Simple.
• 37:33
  How about you look at the sheets and then maybe figure it out for
• 37:35
  yourself? I need to talk to his mother.
• 37:37
  Yeah. Do I have to think for you?
• 37:39
  I. Can not the weaponized
• 37:41
  incompetence. I'm going to do it badly until
• 37:44
  she just says screw it and does it herself and doesn't ask me to
• 37:47
  do anything. You're already working part
• 37:49
  time. Part time.
• 37:50
  What else are you doing? Jobs right?
• 37:52
  Yeah. What are you doing?
• 37:54
  So you're here. You can't cook for So when you
• 37:56
  are cooking, I am about to go on a rant.
• 37:59
  So when you are cooking, you don't even think it's harder to
• 38:02
  make food for one person than it is for two.
• 38:05
  You know, if you even follow a recipe, it's normally at least
• 38:08
  for two people. And you just sitting there just
• 38:11
  like I'm about to make this one little thing of chicken and she
• 38:13
  can she can F off like did you she never.
• 38:15
  Didn't come across his mind. He didn't think about.
• 38:18
  Her. Yeah, he did it on purpose.
• 38:22
  And then I need to go get my get your prescription, which you
• 38:25
  could have gotten because you were home the entire day.
• 38:28
  You work part time. What are you thinking about that
• 38:31
  you couldn't put the potato? I didn't ask you to cook
• 38:32
  anything, you know, put. The potatoes in the thing.
• 38:35
  Boil some water, throw some salt in there and drop a potato in
• 38:39
  I'm. Almost there.
• 38:40
  I'm not asking you to cook me stuff.
• 38:43
  I know. Where does the HDMI thing go in
• 38:46
  there? Are you?
• 38:46
  Kidding me? You don't even know you're an
• 38:48
  engineer. Labeled.
• 38:49
  You're an engineer and it's labeled.
• 38:53
  Our 2nd engineer who's incompetent at home, she needs
• 38:58
  to, I know every week we're like you need to leave divorce.
• 39:01
  But it seems like the. Easiest solution.
• 39:04
  Because he's not trying. He's not.
• 39:06
  No. And he's just like, just ask me.
• 39:08
  I'm so tired of hearing about men that come through and
• 39:11
  they're just like, I'll help. Just give me a list.
• 39:14
  And it's like, I don't understand.
• 39:15
  Don't you live here? Aren't these also your children?
• 39:17
  Yeah. Isn't this also You made a mess.
• 39:19
  Clean up the mess. Exactly.
• 39:21
  You see, something needs to be done.
• 39:22
  Do the thing. Do the thing.
• 39:23
  But no, you want me to also do more labor to make a list for
• 39:27
  you and then make sure that you do the?
• 39:29
  List Exactly, because I got to hold your hand throughout that
• 39:31
  entire list. And you know I do, girl, I know.
• 39:34
  I got to wipe your ass too. I cannot.
• 39:42
  I cannot. You're so Fred, he said.
• 39:45
  There's my wife. All right?
• 39:51
  I feel good. We're good.
• 39:55
  OK? Am I the asshole for refusing to
• 39:58
  return expensive band merchandise when someone reached
• 40:01
  out to tell me they were stolen? OK context.
• 40:06
  So last November I bought 2 autographed K pop posters from
• 40:10
  members of my favorite band. They were listed in my country's
• 40:13
  main Facebook selling group for the fandom and the seller
• 40:16
  authenticated them with enough proof that I was comfortable
• 40:18
  buying. I spent a couple $1000.
• 40:22
  On them as a gift to myself for graduating with my masters and
• 40:25
  landing a big girl job. Oh girl, she must love this
• 40:28
  band. Yeah OK.
• 40:30
  A few weeks after posting them on Instagram, I got a message
• 40:33
  from a girl, Anna from another country.
• 40:35
  She claimed the posters were stolen from her by her ex
• 40:37
  roommate who sold them to me without her consent and demanded
• 40:41
  I return them immediately as stolen property.
• 40:45
  She sent a picture of the posters with a time stamp
• 40:47
  showing early February 2025 saying her ex roommate had
• 40:51
  stolen over $10,000 worth of rare merchandise from her.
• 40:55
  Anna was really confrontational, implying I should have known
• 40:58
  they were stolen because she posted about it a lot on social
• 41:01
  media, but I don't follow her countryside of the fandom.
• 41:05
  I live on the other side of the world and don't speak the
• 41:07
  language. From what I gathered, her ex
• 41:09
  roommate Maria came to my country for Graduate School and
• 41:12
  sold the posters here to people who were unlikely to have seen
• 41:15
  Anna's post. I asked Anna if she was going to
• 41:18
  pay me back what I spent, but she said no, insisting she
• 41:21
  shouldn't have to because the posters were stolen.
• 41:24
  I told Anna I was sorry to hear about her situation, but I would
• 41:27
  not be returning the posters without being reimbursed for the
• 41:29
  full amount I paid. I offered to send her
• 41:32
  screenshots of the listing and details of the PayPal
• 41:34
  transaction, but I wasn't going to give up the posters based on
• 41:38
  her word alone, especially without compensation.
• 41:41
  I also mentioned that while I sympathize, this could
• 41:43
  potentially be a scam between her and Maria to get both the
• 41:46
  posters and the money valid. There have been elaborate scams
• 41:51
  in the K pop buy sell community before, so I told Anna that if
• 41:54
  the posters were truly stolen and worth thousands, she should
• 41:57
  file a police report in her country and handle it that way.
• 42:00
  I checked with my brother who's a lawyer and he confirmed I'm in
• 42:03
  the clear to keep the posters. Since I bought them in good
• 42:06
  faith, I'm not liable and I would have only done something
• 42:09
  wrong if I knew they were stolen at the time of the purchase.
• 42:12
  He also said if Anna takes legal action against Maria and her
• 42:15
  country and wins, it's very unlikely the authorities will
• 42:18
  pursue me in my country, right? So since all this happened I've
• 42:22
  had to make my Instagram and TikTok private because Anna has
• 42:26
  been attacking me and calling me a thief.
• 42:28
  I knew it. Yeah, it's gotten pretty
• 42:30
  stressful and now I'm being bombarded with messages from
• 42:33
  strangers telling me I'm in the wrong.
• 42:35
  Some people are outright calling me an asshole for not returning
• 42:38
  the posters. So am I?
• 42:40
  No. Absolutely not.
• 42:42
  We can talk again if you're going to give me my thousands of
• 42:46
  dollars back. It's another transaction
• 42:49
  essentially what you're asking for.
• 42:50
  Right, exactly. So give me my money back and
• 42:53
  then we'll make it happen. The point here is that she
• 42:55
  bought them in good faith. She said that the woman gave
• 42:58
  enough, you know, evidence to show that she owned it.
• 43:01
  So she was like, OK, I didn't buy stall.
• 43:03
  This didn't fall off the back of a truck or something like I
• 43:06
  thought you actually owned them. So she needs to get re get the
• 43:10
  money back from Maria. Why is she not talking to Maria?
• 43:13
  That's my only question. Yeah, where's Maria in this?
• 43:15
  Exactly. She just disappear.
• 43:17
  You're harassing me. Yeah, she's the third party.
• 43:20
  Yeah. OK, let's get her involved in
• 43:21
  this stitch too, because you have my.
• 43:22
  Money. And she's apparently from your
• 43:24
  same country. Exactly.
• 43:26
  So if you were to file a police report and file legal action
• 43:29
  there, they could go after Maria, not me, right?
• 43:32
  Why are you attacking me like? This is my fault.
• 43:34
  Yeah, and how she brought up the scam.
• 43:36
  I hadn't thought about that, but that sounded clutched.
• 43:38
  Really. Exactly how am I supposed to
• 43:42
  actually very smart? It's a very good scam.
• 43:44
  Smart scam. But like don't do that but like.
• 43:47
  I can see how that works. Also, how expensive is this
• 43:51
  merch, $10,000 for a couple of posters?
• 43:54
  Were they signed posts? Were they gold?
• 43:57
  You know, I don't understand if they're the rippable kind.
• 44:01
  I know you lying. I'm not saying I love me some
• 44:04
  Beyoncé, but I am not gonna pay 10 grand for a poster.
• 44:08
  No, no. For some tickets.
• 44:10
  Yeah, but we're not. No.
• 44:14
  Yes. He's telling me no.
• 44:15
  Come on. Act 3.
• 44:16
  Come with it. Come with it.
• 44:17
  It's going to be rocking. You know it.
• 44:23
  Yeah. No, she's not.
• 44:24
  Oh, no, absolutely not 100%. Yeah.
• 44:27
  All right, Read it off my chest. I don't know how to have a
• 44:31
  relationship with my in laws anymore.
• 44:34
  I don't know how to have a relationship with them.
• 44:36
  My wife 37 female and I 38 male have been married for 10 years,
• 44:41
  together for 15. We have a pretty normal
• 44:43
  relationship. Fight sometimes but always
• 44:45
  healthy fights. Neither of us has ever been
• 44:48
  abusive. I'm not a violent man, I don't
• 44:50
  get into fights, I don't yell or scream.
• 44:53
  My wife and I live in a medium sized US city that our whole
• 44:56
  family also lives in. We're close to them and spend a
• 44:59
  lot of time together. Up until this incident, I have
• 45:02
  considered myself a member of the family.
• 45:04
  A few months ago, my wife showed up to her sister's doorstep at
• 45:08
  1:00 AM, crying, disheveled in her pajamas.
• 45:11
  She told her sister that I had tried to kill her in her sleep.
• 45:15
  She had woken up to find me holding a pillow over her face
• 45:18
  trying to suffocate her. She had fought me off and run
• 45:21
  out of house with only her car keys.
• 45:23
  The family helped her, called the police, got a restraining
• 45:25
  order against me and pushed the cops to change to charge me.
• 45:28
  Oh my goodness, there was only one problem.
• 45:31
  I didn't do it. I would never try to harm my
• 45:34
  wife, but more importantly, I couldn't have done it because I
• 45:37
  was in. I was three weeks into a six
• 45:39
  week business trip in Japan. Jesus, he wasn't even home.
• 45:43
  He wasn't even home. Oh no, I was literally on the
• 45:46
  other side of the world. My wife turns out had a
• 45:49
  combination of untreated mental illness and had a very vivid
• 45:52
  dream that I had tried to do this to her and believe that it
• 45:55
  happened. Oh man, from my standpoint, my
• 45:58
  wife suddenly went radio silent. I couldn't get her to respond to
• 46:01
  me and my text to her family all got left on red.
• 46:04
  I got so worried that I cut my short trip and flew home.
• 46:08
  At the airport I was arrested at customs and eventually told that
• 46:11
  I was arrested for assaulting my wife.
• 46:13
  Thankfully the cops saw the problem right away and the
• 46:16
  charges got dropped fast. My wife got into treatment and
• 46:19
  things have been good. I told her no ill will here, the
• 46:22
  problem is my in laws. I got the police reports for the
• 46:25
  case and they said some vile untrue things about me.
• 46:28
  Things about how they always suspected I was capable of this
• 46:31
  and how it was creepy. How they always felt that my
• 46:34
  wife was being abused. They cited some specific
• 46:37
  specific incidents that didn't happen and generally painted me
• 46:41
  as a total scunt. Bad.
• 46:42
  They also never mentioned that I was in Japan.
• 46:44
  They all knew we had talked about it a ton and my
• 46:49
  brother-in-law even drove me to the airport.
• 46:50
  Oh my God no one ever told the cops hey he's in Japan there
• 46:54
  might be something else going on here.
• 46:57
  They went straight to trying to get me locked up.
• 46:59
  Oh my God. I get why they want to believe
• 47:01
  their daughter over their husband and I'm angry that they
• 47:04
  believed her initially. I'm angry because no one stepped
• 47:07
  in for one second to think about how the scenario didn't make
• 47:09
  sense. I'm angry that they've never
• 47:11
  hated me for a long time if the stuff in the reports were true,
• 47:15
  or that they lied to me at the drop of this hat if I suited
• 47:18
  them. I've stepped away from the
• 47:19
  family for a while now. My wife still sees them, which I
• 47:22
  get and aren't going to protest over.
• 47:24
  Frankly, she just needs support as she gets healthy again and
• 47:27
  she's always been close to them. My in laws don't think that they
• 47:30
  did anything wrong and that they should all just laugh it off and
• 47:33
  become a family again but I just don't think I can do that.
• 47:36
  If they had done nothing more than suspect my wife and tell
• 47:38
  the truth I could get past it but they went too far with it.
• 47:42
  I can't trust them anymore and it really sucks.
• 47:44
  I am on his side. Same because.
• 47:47
  I get it if if you came to my door in the middle of the night
• 47:51
  and we're like, this happened. Even if I knew he was in a
• 47:56
  business trip, I listened to enough true crime to be like,
• 48:00
  maybe he came back. There's this elaborate scheme
• 48:03
  going on. But once I realize what's going
• 48:05
  on, I'm not going to keep it pushing.
• 48:07
  No. And they made-up lies as they
• 48:09
  went along because they already didn't like him and they were
• 48:12
  like, here's our chance to get rid of him.
• 48:14
  Exactly what insane. Even if it means he goes to
• 48:17
  prison, they were allowing that to happen.
• 48:21
  I don't understand. I know how jarring, though.
• 48:24
  You get off the plane and then you get arrested and they're
• 48:26
  like, you abused your right here.
• 48:27
  Like what? I did what now?
• 48:29
  Like. And he's a great storyteller.
• 48:30
  I love how he told what happened and then was like, actually, I
• 48:33
  wasn't. Yeah, great job, bro.
• 48:37
  That's great. And I with the untreated mental
• 48:40
  illness I get, because there's many times I've woken up and I'm
• 48:43
  staring at my husband's side of his face, like in my dream, you
• 48:46
  just did this and this and this and he wakes up.
• 48:48
  Like, I don't know what you're talking about Yourself.
• 48:50
  You displayed, you know what you did, you know, So I get it.
• 48:54
  But to have something that really made her think that, like
• 48:57
  she drove straight to her parents house and was like, she
• 48:59
  believed it. So I understand the initial
• 49:02
  response by the parents. But then after that, you did
• 49:04
  what you wanted to, had to. Yeah, I know.
• 49:09
  Stay away, brother, stay away. I know.
• 49:12
  That's a good one. Am I the asshole for refusing to
• 49:17
  pay for an Airbnb after I said I couldn't afford it?
• 49:21
  But did you stay? There was a big event in the
• 49:24
  city, which is a decent distance away, about an hour and a half
• 49:27
  by train, and eight of us were planning to go.
• 49:30
  One guy named Dan suggested we book an Airbnb and split the
• 49:33
  cost eight ways, which basically cost about $70.00 each.
• 49:37
  I've honestly been bad at saving my money and I'm trying to make
• 49:41
  an effort to spend less. So I told everyone up front, if
• 49:44
  you guys want to do the Airbnb, go for it, I'll just take the
• 49:47
  train home after the event. After the event ended, I started
• 49:51
  saying goodbye to everybody and tell them I'm heading to the
• 49:53
  train station, but suddenly everyone starts trying to
• 49:56
  convince me to stay at the Airbnb.
• 49:58
  I firmly say no because I'm trying to save money and then
• 50:01
  I'm going to go home. And then Dan specifically tells
• 50:04
  me we've already ordered it anyway, just stay for free since
• 50:06
  we're going to pay regardless. I wasn't going to argue with a
• 50:10
  free place to chill so I said OK.
• 50:12
  I ended up sleeping on the floor because there weren't enough
• 50:15
  beds, but I made it work with blankets and pillows.
• 50:18
  A couple days later Dan messages messages me and asks where his
• 50:22
  $70 it is for the night stop. I didn't agree to that.
• 50:28
  Unless you got it on paper, absolutely not because I
• 50:30
  specifically said, and we have witnesses.
• 50:33
  Yeah, and you said stay for free.
• 50:36
  I was pretty confused because I reminded him he literally said
• 50:39
  stay for free and that's why I stayed.
• 50:42
  He said that he was just trying to be nice and was still
• 50:45
  expecting me to pay my share anyway.
• 50:47
  I then just told him straight up I'm not paying anything.
• 50:50
  I would have taken the train home if I knew I had to pay.
• 50:53
  And he knew that because I said it multiple times before the
• 50:55
  trip. Now he's calling me cheap a
• 50:58
  cheap user saying I'm taking advantage of him and that if I
• 51:01
  was a good friend I'd pay up because it's only fair.
• 51:04
  I feel like I shouldn't owe him a cent.
• 51:06
  He made the offer and if he didn't mean it he shouldn't have
• 51:08
  said anything. And also I slept on the floor so
• 51:11
  the Airbnb obviously wasn't meant to include me period.
• 51:14
  Am I the asshole? No.
• 51:16
  Go on with your day. Go on. $70, first of all,
• 51:20
  $70.00. But I get it.
• 51:21
  It's a lot of money. If you broke, broke, Yeah, you
• 51:23
  know, And if you're trying to save money, but not you
• 51:26
  insisting that I stay. It wasn't my idea.
• 51:29
  I had plans to go back home on the train and you're like, give
• 51:32
  me $70. Excuse me?
• 51:34
  You said it's already paid for. It's fine.
• 51:36
  And I slept on the floor. Let's run glass over this.
• 51:39
  Something. Before it wasn't worth it,
• 51:40
  $70.00, I didn't take anything. Yeah, even if that if I'll give
• 51:45
  you 20 for sleeping on the floor.
• 51:48
  You ain't getting nothing from me.
• 51:51
  Nothing from me. Nothing.
• 51:52
  It's not like there was food involved and all this stuff.
• 51:55
  You didn't mention any of that. It was just for coming to stay
• 51:59
  and sleeping on the nasty floor. You owe me the.
• 52:02
  Same as someone who had a bed, Absolutely not.
• 52:04
  If you could eliminate me from the situation and nothing
• 52:07
  changes, no amount of resources was spent.
• 52:10
  Absolutely not. I'm keeping my 70 that I don't
• 52:13
  know if he has right. And I'm moving on with my day.
• 52:20
  Yes, thank you very much. Really, Dan, I know.
• 52:24
  And then to lie to me in front of everybody.
• 52:27
  So you want to keep your you know how you look exactly.
• 52:30
  Keep up appearances to everybody, Dan.
• 52:32
  You a whole lie anyway anyway, man All right, Reddit story, my
• 52:40
  friend didn't realize rent is monthly.
• 52:44
  Okie, Dokie. I used to live with a guy I'll
• 52:48
  call Kevin. Kevin wasn't chaotic in the
• 52:50
  obvious way. He paid bills, showed up to
• 52:53
  work, and liked to think of himself as financially
• 52:55
  responsible. But every now and then he'd
• 52:57
  reveal a belief in how the world work that make you question
• 53:00
  everything. When we first moved into our
• 53:03
  apartment, the rent was $1200 total.
• 53:06
  Where do you live? 1200 so 600 each.
• 53:10
  I love it. We agreed to split it so 600
• 53:13
  each. The first month went fine.
• 53:15
  The second month I reminded him rent was due and he just stared
• 53:18
  at me and said didn't we already pay that?
• 53:21
  I thought he was joking. He wasn't.
• 53:25
  After a very serious conversation I realized Kevin
• 53:27
  thought $1200 was for the entire lease term, not per month the
• 53:32
  whole year. So wait.
• 53:37
  You thought I was paying $100 per month, so I just paid up the
• 53:43
  whole year for your little $600.00 essentially.
• 53:46
  Or do you live in a box? What did you say?
• 53:47
  What's wrong with this? In his mind, he had secured
• 53:54
  housing for $600.00 total and was quietly proud of finding the
• 53:58
  deal of the century. This is so stupid.
• 54:05
  Hilarious what rent is monthly every month?
• 54:11
  I found the deal of a century y'all.
• 54:13
  Look, I only paid $600.00 for a whole year.
• 54:17
  And you know, he was talking about it.
• 54:19
  He said I don't know what your sucker ass is paying for rent.
• 54:22
  OK, I got it for $100 a month. So stupid.
• 54:29
  That's actually so I'm getting so hot.
• 54:36
  I swear to God, Kevin. Oh swear to God.
• 54:39
  When I explained that $1200 was the monthly rent, he went
• 54:43
  completely silent for a few seconds and then said that makes
• 54:47
  that makes way more sense. I was wondering.
• 54:54
  I can't give a kiss. We, it's we, we want here and we
• 55:02
  want, he said. I was wondering why more people
• 55:12
  don't just rent instead of buying houses.
• 55:16
  I mean, valid if that's how it worked.
• 55:18
  Same. The crazy part is that he had
• 55:22
  signed the lease. He initialed every page.
• 55:25
  He apparently read it. He did not.
• 55:27
  To his credit, once he understood rent is monthly, he
• 55:30
  never missed a payment again. But for a solid week he
• 55:33
  genuinely believed landlords just charged you once and
• 55:36
  trusted you to exist peacefully for the rest of the year.
• 55:39
  Living with Kevin wasn't stressful, it was education.
• 55:41
  Yes. Kevin, what did we learn?
• 55:45
  Kevin, that's amazing favorite. That is amazing.
• 55:51
  Like I have the giggles. I can't.
• 55:53
  I'm like, literally, he said. That makes a lot of sense.
• 55:57
  That actually makes sense. It's like, how do landlords make
• 56:00
  money? Oh my God, Kevin, bless your
• 56:05
  soul. Kevin, your little.
• 56:07
  Soul. Because that was harmless.
• 56:08
  He reminded him early, which great for the roommates to be
• 56:11
  like, just in case. Do you have it?
• 56:14
  Yeah. And he's like, what do you mean?
• 56:15
  We just did that because I feel like this sometimes.
• 56:17
  I'd be like, didn't I just do that?
• 56:19
  Are you taking from me? You're back again.
• 56:26
  Oh, man. Kevin's amazing.
• 56:29
  Phenomenal. OK, All right, Get it together.
• 56:31
  Literally. OK.
• 56:34
  Am I the asshole for refusing to give my sister my old engagement
• 56:38
  ring after my divorce? OK I-30 female, had a divorce
• 56:43
  last year. It was mutual, nothing dramatic.
• 56:45
  I kept the engagement ring since I have pay for it.
• 56:48
  We split the cost because we're young and both on our first job
• 56:51
  and honestly I just wasn't ready to get rid of it yet.
• 56:53
  Even if it didn't work out, I still value this ring.
• 56:57
  My younger sister, 25, just got engaged.
• 57:00
  Her fiance doesn't make much money but he proposed with a
• 57:03
  really cute but simple ring. My sister recently asked if she
• 57:07
  could buy my engagement ring for a lower price since I'm not
• 57:10
  using it anymore. I would also save them money to
• 57:13
  upgrade her ring later. They want a nicer ring when they
• 57:17
  can get it. Seriously.
• 57:20
  I was a little shocked and told her no, I don't wear it but I
• 57:23
  don't want to sell it either. She said it's weird and
• 57:26
  emotionally unhealthy that I'm holding onto a ring from a
• 57:29
  failed marriage. Hold on, but you still want it
• 57:34
  though. Exactly right.
• 57:39
  I don't understand. Now our parents are hinting that
• 57:42
  I should just give it to her or sell it to her because it would
• 57:45
  be a nice gesture and better than sitting in a drawer.
• 57:49
  Am I the asshole? No, and I hate when they bring
• 57:51
  the parents and it's like, why are you running off the tattle
• 57:54
  you. Are such a parent God and
• 57:58
  they're like she's the younger one just just let your sister
• 58:01
  have my. God, your wedding ring as the
• 58:03
  younger sibling, I never got that treatment and I think all
• 58:06
  the younger siblings who. Act like that are just oh, it's
• 58:09
  insufferable because they lean on it.
• 58:12
  They never stop being the younger sibling.
• 58:14
  Exactly. She's 25 years old and you're
• 58:15
  still you're still running to mommy and daddy.
• 58:17
  Give me the engaging ring. You don't throw fit.
• 58:20
  I'll I don't like it. But what's really funny to me is
• 58:23
  that she called her emotionally unhealthy.
• 58:25
  How emotionally healthy will it be to see my ring on your finger
• 58:28
  every day? Exactly from my failed marriage
• 58:31
  of my failed marriage. Keep it in the.
• 58:34
  Drawer. She's doing fine.
• 58:35
  You know, I perfectly get that. There is a ring my mother has.
• 58:39
  In her in her jewelry box that I plan to get.
• 58:41
  Oh, OK. You plan to get?
• 58:43
  I plan to get. I feel the same way.
• 58:45
  You want to know? You don't wear it.
• 58:46
  Yeah. Wait.
• 58:47
  Which one? Which one?
• 58:48
  OK, there you have this one that looks like a grape or.
• 58:51
  Oh, my God. I stole that from my
• 58:52
  grandmother. No.
• 58:58
  Well, then it looks like that's a help.
• 59:00
  Yeah. We're going to pass that down.
• 59:01
  But now you got to fight your sister for it.
• 59:04
  My sister. She doesn't.
• 59:05
  Wear rings. She's like what?
• 59:07
  I have a sister I know. Yeah, all of a sudden.
• 59:12
  I'm. The only child at this point.
• 59:17
  She said absolutely not. Oh, not the ass.
• 59:23
  That's just so stupid. People pick the worst battles to
• 59:27
  fight. They really do, right?
• 59:28
  And you went to our parents and, you know, you sat there.
• 59:30
  It's like, well, actually, I shouldn't even have to buy it.
• 59:33
  She should just give it to me. Like, who are you?
• 59:36
  Younger sister? Yeah.
• 59:40
  All right. I got a sweet 1.
• 59:41
  You ready? Great.
• 59:42
  Read it off my chest. I made a friend a decade ago.
• 59:47
  I was extremely popular in school, a college girl with a
• 59:50
  bright future. I was fit, healthy, and had
• 59:53
  amazing grades and the charisma to match.
• 59:56
  There never was a night that I didn't have plans with friends,
• 59:58
  and I was the life of every party.
• 1:00:00
  My name and face were everywhere on campus.
• 1:00:03
  What people didn't see beneath the surface was me losing battle
• 1:00:06
  with bipolar disorder. What they perceived as high
• 1:00:09
  energy and fun was a struggler with mania, paranoia, and OCD
• 1:00:13
  that forced me to pull my hair out and spend my free time
• 1:00:15
  counting locks. It was hard for me to find a
• 1:00:18
  combination of medications that worked for me without draining
• 1:00:21
  my energy, so I wound up with a bad cocktail that cost me a lot.
• 1:00:26
  Eventually that all fell apart, and one of my closest friends
• 1:00:29
  found me crawling or clawing wallpaper off and searched for
• 1:00:32
  cameras while screaming about strangers following me home to
• 1:00:35
  class. Understandably, she reported it
• 1:00:38
  and I was hospitalized for several weeks.
• 1:00:41
  In those several weeks, I lost everything.
• 1:00:43
  I was heavily medicated, gained a bunch of weight, broke out,
• 1:00:46
  and became reclusive. I went on to spend 6 months in
• 1:00:49
  extensive partial and patient care, and I was stable.
• 1:00:53
  None of my friends stayed my friends.
• 1:00:55
  After I lost my vibrant spark to successful combination of
• 1:00:58
  antipsychotics, my career path changed and I finished school
• 1:01:02
  with honors. I managed to land a secure
• 1:01:04
  income that paid my bills, but as a result of having lost all
• 1:01:07
  my friends, I remained reclusive and apathetic to most things.
• 1:01:12
  People who have attempted to reach out, get, and get close to
• 1:01:14
  me were unintentionally rejected by my fear of being disappointed
• 1:01:17
  by closeness again. I haven't pursued friends or
• 1:01:20
  relationships since my psychotic break.
• 1:01:23
  Then I met Sarah at work. Sarah's a little different.
• 1:01:26
  She's warm but not too friendly, and she has an amazing sense of
• 1:01:29
  humor. She's dedicated to her work,
• 1:01:31
  something I admire, and she is always sacrificing, though not
• 1:01:34
  without clever commentary. We started off with purely work
• 1:01:38
  friendships, working on projects and reporting successes and
• 1:01:41
  frustrations as we moved along. Then I felt this weird sense of
• 1:01:45
  camaraderie. She started sharing funny
• 1:01:48
  personal life stuff and casual conversation, never pushing me
• 1:01:51
  to share, but always inviting me to join in on chats or on lunch.
• 1:01:55
  Eventually I started to accept having lunch together at work
• 1:01:58
  and I started disclosing my own life.
• 1:02:00
  It was mostly the happy stuff, which she seemed to appreciate,
• 1:02:03
  and then that escalated to her sharing personal things that
• 1:02:06
  weren't so happy. She confided to me about her
• 1:02:09
  insecurities and the very real struggles that she had
• 1:02:12
  experienced with family dynamics and extreme childhood poverty.
• 1:02:16
  She's a surprisingly real, genuine person and that's
• 1:02:19
  amazing to me that she has been through so much yet remains a
• 1:02:22
  positive outlook. We've had good rapper going
• 1:02:25
  though I've been waiting for the let down passively.
• 1:02:28
  This morning she invited me to a new restaurant opening next
• 1:02:31
  week. When I asked her for the
• 1:02:32
  occasion, she said don't friends do this stuff together?
• 1:02:35
  I know how much you like food. Friends.
• 1:02:38
  She wants to be friends. It has been 10 years of
• 1:02:41
  isolation and I've made my first friend that actually seems to
• 1:02:44
  like me for the new me. The medicated, boring drivers of
• 1:02:48
  me who's slowly losing weight and fighting my footing in the
• 1:02:51
  world again. The me that isn't fun or
• 1:02:54
  engaging, but grounded and pragmatic.
• 1:02:56
  The me that disappointed the entire world.
• 1:02:58
  I knew because I had a mental illness.
• 1:03:01
  The me that has lived in constant quiet devastation over
• 1:03:04
  losing the life I could have had if my brain chemistry was just
• 1:03:07
  different. Someone that likes his version
• 1:03:09
  of me. I feel like crying thinking
• 1:03:11
  about it. Thanks for reading.
• 1:03:12
  Oh, that's so sweet, isn't it? I wanted to cry because I was
• 1:03:17
  like, yes, to have your whole world be turned upside down and
• 1:03:21
  realized that the people that you thought were your friends
• 1:03:24
  were not. Yeah, it was situational.
• 1:03:27
  They only liked that version of you.
• 1:03:29
  They didn't even stick around to see what the new version was.
• 1:03:31
  No, they abandoned her immediately because people
• 1:03:35
  always think that mental illness or anything that just deviates
• 1:03:38
  from what's they think is normal is a problem and a burden when
• 1:03:42
  it's not. It's like we should just adapt
• 1:03:45
  that normal isn't normal. Normal is normal for you, yes.
• 1:03:48
  Normal for me, normal for him, whatever, you know what I mean.
• 1:03:52
  And trying to make people feel bad about things that they can't
• 1:03:55
  control is equal. And to say that there's one
• 1:03:58
  thing, yeah, OK, you don't fit into this.
• 1:04:00
  And so something is wrong with you.
• 1:04:01
  Exactly. And that's the thing.
• 1:04:03
  Her brain chemistry was different than she thought it
• 1:04:06
  was. So she went, She was able to get
• 1:04:08
  help and get medication. Now this is who she is.
• 1:04:10
  She's a. New and Sarah's like, I dig it.
• 1:04:12
  I like you. We're friends.
• 1:04:15
  I want to go to, I know it's hard to find friends as adults.
• 1:04:19
  I will say that like as an adult, just first of all, your
• 1:04:23
  work schedules are weird and you know, you have family because I
• 1:04:26
  know for me, I don't like spending time with people at
• 1:04:29
  night because I'd be like, that's when I spend time with my
• 1:04:33
  family. Like we're all running around
• 1:04:34
  doing things. I want to sit down and be boring
• 1:04:36
  and watch the pit on the couch with my family, you know, And so
• 1:04:41
  making new friends is difficult. And so the fact that she really
• 1:04:43
  likes this work friend and her work friend really likes her
• 1:04:45
  made me. Want to cry that's so it's like
• 1:04:48
  and her work friend's not even making her feel like awkward or
• 1:04:51
  weird about it. She's just like I like you.
• 1:04:53
  We're friends now. She didn't make it like a whole,
• 1:04:55
  like, you know, she adopted her. Yeah, that is adoption right
• 1:04:59
  there. Yeah.
• 1:05:00
  So cute. I.
• 1:05:00
  Love it. Am I the asshole for recording
• 1:05:03
  my Co worker because she's unstable?
• 1:05:06
  How unstable? I work in a professional office
• 1:05:10
  building with multiple companies.
• 1:05:11
  There's a woman in her 20s who works at one of the companies
• 1:05:14
  who made a couple of people uncomfortable over time in
• 1:05:17
  court, including me. She kept to herself mostly and
• 1:05:20
  spent her lunch break in her car sometimes.
• 1:05:23
  That itself isn't wrong, but there were repeated incidents
• 1:05:25
  that stood out multiple times. While walking to or from my car,
• 1:05:29
  I could hear her screaming and cursing loudly inside her
• 1:05:32
  vehicle. Not just talking loudly like
• 1:05:35
  yelling, profanity and what sounded like intense emotional
• 1:05:38
  outbursts. It was scary.
• 1:05:40
  It sounded like someone in distress or rage.
• 1:05:43
  One day I also heard what sounded like loud moaning sexual
• 1:05:46
  noises coming from her car while she appeared to be sleeping.
• 1:05:50
  It was unexpected and inappropriate enough in a public
• 1:05:53
  workplace setting that I recorded it briefly girl mostly
• 1:05:58
  out of shock and uncertainty about what was happening.
• 1:06:02
  There was also ongoing hygiene issues that multiple people
• 1:06:06
  noticed. She sometimes smelled strongly
• 1:06:08
  like feces. I don't say that to be cruel,
• 1:06:11
  it's it was just something people became aware of over
• 1:06:14
  time, what made it more confusing that she otherwise
• 1:06:18
  appeared put together. She seemed kind of reserved.
• 1:06:20
  She dressed normally and that's that word again, normal.
• 1:06:24
  But she started wearing sunglasses inside, probably out
• 1:06:27
  of embarrassment, and avoided eye contact and seemed
• 1:06:29
  standoffish. Sometimes she wore heavy
• 1:06:32
  clothing like a cardigan outside even in 90° weather.
• 1:06:36
  I'm still waiting for the for the for the problem.
• 1:06:39
  Yeah OK. Other Co workers had mentioned
• 1:06:42
  feeling uncomfortable around her as well.
• 1:06:44
  Some described her as rude because she wouldn't respond
• 1:06:46
  when spoken to or acknowledge people.
• 1:06:49
  One day after work, I happened to leave around the same time as
• 1:06:52
  her. I noticed her driving in circles
• 1:06:54
  on the main road near the office.
• 1:06:55
  Instead of going home, I stayed behind her briefly.
• 1:07:01
  So she drove behind her briefly because I was already on the
• 1:07:04
  same road, and she continued looping without stopping or
• 1:07:07
  going anywhere specific. At this point, I started to feel
• 1:07:10
  uneasy. Her emotional outbursts,
• 1:07:12
  isolation, and unpredictable behavior made me concerned about
• 1:07:16
  what she might be capable of if she had some kind of breakdown.
• 1:07:19
  The recording was shared with the company.
• 1:07:22
  I like how that was passive. The recording was shared?
• 1:07:26
  No, I shared the recording that I took yes, with the company.
• 1:07:32
  And it may have leaked to others from them, though.
• 1:07:36
  Yeah, eventually she was let go from her job.
• 1:07:39
  All right. So what I'm hearing is that you.
• 1:07:41
  Bully this girl out of her job. I didn't intend to harm her
• 1:07:46
  behavior that seemed unstable and unpredictable.
• 1:07:48
  Am I the asshole? Oh yes, you are I.
• 1:07:52
  I'm so hyped because we. Finally have one that's yes you
• 1:07:54
  are asshole, we've got one. We've got one.
• 1:07:59
  You made it your personal business.
• 1:08:01
  To be in this woman's business, Yes.
• 1:08:02
  OK, She is in her car. I would.
• 1:08:05
  I'm not bothering anyone. When I was working corporate, I
• 1:08:08
  would leave for lunch. Where is Danny?
• 1:08:10
  I don't know where she is because I am in my car, not by
• 1:08:13
  you. I'm in there singing along to my
• 1:08:15
  customers word rap song, period. I'm in there taking a nap.
• 1:08:18
  I'm reading, I'm doing whatever the hell I want.
• 1:08:20
  Exactly why is it your business? All up in my business.
• 1:08:24
  And then I happened to leave the office at the same time she did
• 1:08:27
  and I noticed that she was driving around a circle.
• 1:08:29
  So I got behind her. God and not going home.
• 1:08:32
  She committed 2 offenses reporting someone without their
• 1:08:35
  permission. And following somebody stop
• 1:08:38
  talking. Thanks for admitting that like.
• 1:08:42
  Oh my God. And everything she did, she's
• 1:08:44
  wearing a cardigan. Outside.
• 1:08:45
  It's 90°. So like, what is wrong with you?
• 1:08:49
  I told you no issues here. None.
• 1:08:51
  And I told you it was. We had a Karen coming.
• 1:08:54
  Oh my God, everything. She is one.
• 1:08:57
  She is so focused on this girl who also apparently doesn't even
• 1:09:00
  work in her company. You're just in a building like
• 1:09:02
  an office space and there's different companies.
• 1:09:05
  Why 0 in on her and then to take it upon?
• 1:09:08
  Yourself to. Somehow, magically, this this
• 1:09:11
  recording made it to the company.
• 1:09:14
  She's really, really, she's a lot.
• 1:09:17
  Really. Yeah, 'cause I'm always looking
• 1:09:19
  for the post where they are the asshole and some of them are are
• 1:09:22
  not so good. This one, I was like girl.
• 1:09:23
  But also she has to know that she is because how passive.
• 1:09:27
  She said certain statements, every statement.
• 1:09:29
  Yeah, you know what I mean? She's like, oh, and this
• 1:09:32
  happened. This happened because she.
• 1:09:33
  Knows if she revealed that she did this or this.
• 1:09:35
  She knows people are going to say that.
• 1:09:37
  She was absolutely. And she had to bring other
• 1:09:39
  people into her nonsense. Other people are saying it too.
• 1:09:43
  You know, we all came together, all the Karens convened and we
• 1:09:46
  all and we all decided that she's doing too much.
• 1:09:49
  Is she? I'm not even in your space.
• 1:09:52
  You. You actively.
• 1:09:54
  Sought me out. That's that's the crazy part.
• 1:09:57
  That's what I mean. You're minding my own.
• 1:09:59
  Business and there you are doing my job and here you come Oh my
• 1:10:03
  God. And she actively is ignores
• 1:10:05
  people. Yeah, if I hated.
• 1:10:07
  You, I would ignore you too. Absolutely, Dev, I'd be like, I
• 1:10:09
  didn't hear you, didn't hear a word.
• 1:10:11
  Sorry. So, yeah, this poor woman lost
• 1:10:14
  her job, lost her job because she just zeroed in on her for
• 1:10:17
  reasons unknown, like she didn't like.
• 1:10:20
  And I have been in situations, too, where because I am not as
• 1:10:24
  friendly as they would want me to be, We're going to go get
• 1:10:27
  happy hour, you know, drinks. I don't want to go to drinks.
• 1:10:30
  Right. I am perfectly lovely at work.
• 1:10:33
  I'm going home. Yeah.
• 1:10:35
  And people will hold that against you.
• 1:10:37
  Yeah. So I've had that, too.
• 1:10:39
  Like no. Like, and also, I have the right
• 1:10:41
  to not like you too, but I'm not all in your face.
• 1:10:43
  Like, I don't like you. I'm gonna get you fired from
• 1:10:45
  your job. It's like, exactly.
• 1:10:47
  That's crazy. Yeah, she can kick rocks.
• 1:10:49
  I don't. Like that?
• 1:10:50
  What was she? What did we call her?
• 1:10:53
  Karen the asshole? Oh yes.
• 1:10:57
  She is the asshole. Yeah, TA 100%.
• 1:11:00
  Yeah, TA, yeah, we finally got one.
• 1:11:02
  We got one, but that was my last one.
• 1:11:04
  Oh it. Was OK, we had good ones this
• 1:11:06
  time. I did so good.
• 1:11:07
  I just want one more time to just shout out, Kevin, you're
• 1:11:11
  amazing. You're phenomenal.
• 1:11:14
  Gavin. You're great.
• 1:11:16
  Also, your bills are due every. Month.
• 1:11:18
  I don't know if you knew that. Make a reminder.
• 1:11:20
  Yeah, pay your car note. You know, it's monthly.
• 1:11:22
  It's not just a lifetime fee. I mean, I wish it was $600.00.
• 1:11:25
  Drop it and I'm good for life. But great.
• 1:11:27
  It's not how it works. There was this reality show with
• 1:11:30
  one of the Paris, we're one of the Hilton girls and another
• 1:11:34
  like early 2000s. And I remember both the girls
• 1:11:36
  were rich. They're neppo babies and they
• 1:11:39
  moved into an apartment and their lights got cut off because
• 1:11:42
  they didn't know they had to pay the bill.
• 1:11:44
  You're kidding. Who else I just thought that
• 1:11:47
  was? Hilarious.
• 1:11:48
  Who else is responsible for that?
• 1:11:50
  But if you never have to do it, this had to be Kevin's first
• 1:11:53
  time. Paying rent, yeah.
• 1:11:56
  And now the whole world. Knows about his first time
• 1:11:58
  paying rent. Like the whole Kevin, bless you.
• 1:12:03
  But thank you. Thank you for tuning in.
• 1:12:05
  We love y'all.