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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Don't Renege On The Contract With Yourself · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily a body here. You are listening to
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  Speaker 1: five minute Friday from Hurdle. I am deep in the
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  Speaker 1: thick of it.
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  Speaker 2: We are.
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  Speaker 1: It's Friday, Saturday, Sunday, two days out from my fourteenth marathon,
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  Speaker 1: my seventh New York and the events are in full swing.
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  Speaker 1: What a special time it is to be in New York.
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  Speaker 1: And I understand that I am very inside baseball, like
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  Speaker 1: I am immersed in this community, so that is why
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  Speaker 1: it feels so hectic. But I would say, whether or
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  Speaker 1: not you are a runner, this is the most special
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  Speaker 1: time to be in this city period. I'm so grateful.
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  Speaker 1: Yesterday I had the opportunity to volunteer at the expo
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  Speaker 1: and I got to meet some hurdlers as they were
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  Speaker 1: picking up their bibs, and that's something I've never done before.
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  Speaker 1: And to see the different people that were coming up
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  Speaker 1: to our booth and their excitement was so contagious, and
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  Speaker 1: it just felt so awesome to be a part of
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  Speaker 1: such a special moment for them. People coming from oh
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  Speaker 1: my goodness, Singapore, I checked in, people from Australia, truly
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  Speaker 1: all ends of the earth.
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  Speaker 2: It was so special.
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  Speaker 1: I was talking about a lot of the events that
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  Speaker 1: I went to, and one of the events that I
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  Speaker 1: went to was a community dinner that was put together
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  Speaker 1: by Nike and English Gardener was at the dinner, and
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  Speaker 1: if you don't know English, she's one of the fastest
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  Speaker 1: woman period. She's an Olympian and a Nike athlete. And
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  Speaker 1: she was in conversation at the dinner with my dear
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  Speaker 1: friend Rebecca talking about this contract that she made with herself.
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  Speaker 1: And I want to share some of these sentiments here
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  Speaker 1: because it really resonated with me. She talked about how
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  Speaker 1: when she was on the come up in her sport,
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  Speaker 1: she made this contract with herself and she refused to
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  Speaker 1: go back on the terms of that contract. And I
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  Speaker 1: found that terminology, that metaphor to be so powerful. She said,
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  Speaker 1: you are the only person who will show up for
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  Speaker 1: yourself the way that you deserve it each and every time.
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  Speaker 1: And I do feel like that's a little bit it's
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  Speaker 1: scary to think that way, right. There are going to
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  Speaker 1: be people in your life, and there are currently people
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  Speaker 1: in your life who will do anything and everything for you.
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  Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, English has a point,
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  Speaker 1: you can truly rely on yourself because you know what
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  Speaker 1: it is that you're after and what you're willing to
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  Speaker 1: do to get it right. And so this concept of
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  Speaker 1: having a contract with yourself and signing it in hypothetical ink,
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  Speaker 1: knowing that you are worthy of sticking to that contract,
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  Speaker 1: that your goals are worthy of non negotiables. I thought
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  Speaker 1: that was really special, especially right now on the cusp
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  Speaker 1: of such a big moment that I myself have really
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  Speaker 1: invested in that I have truly taken on a chunk
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  Speaker 1: of opportunity cost and it's because it makes me feel
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  Speaker 1: like my best self.
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  Speaker 2: And what an awesome opportunity that truly is.
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  Speaker 1: For those of you that are going to be out
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  Speaker 1: there this weekend, I wish you the best of luck.
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  Speaker 1: For those of you that are listening at home, I
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  Speaker 1: really hope that I have some awesome stories for you
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  Speaker 1: next week. I talked about it on the show previously,
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  Speaker 1: but I am chasing a feeling, and damn I am
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  Speaker 1: so looking forward to this dance around my favorite place
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  Speaker 1: in the world. My listener prompt for you this week,
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  Speaker 1: what is one thing that you want to sign a
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  Speaker 1: contract with yourself on. What's a goal that you're going after,
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  Speaker 1: and what are you willing to undertake that opportunity cost
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  Speaker 1: to go after. What's one goal that you have on
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  Speaker 1: the horizon that you want to sign a contract with
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  Speaker 1: yourself on, knowing that you should not go back on
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  Speaker 1: the terms of the contract that you make with yourself.
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  Speaker 1: And now a listener question. Hey Emily, I hope you're
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  Speaker 1: doing great and resting up ahead of the NYC Marathon.
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  Speaker 1: Wishing you all the best for this weekend from Argentina,
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  Speaker 1: my question for you relates to content creation. I have
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  Speaker 1: a nine to five desk job, but also do have
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  Speaker 1: a pretty active lifestyle and I'm a certified run coach.
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  Speaker 1: I want to start building a presence online, but struggle
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  Speaker 1: to actually identify what of my normal slash boring routine
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  Speaker 1: I could actually capture and share. You seem to have
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  Speaker 1: a knack for showing what you're up to so organically.
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  Speaker 1: Do you have any tips on getting started with that?
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  Speaker 1: Sorry if that was a mouthful, Thanks again, Macarena. All right,
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  Speaker 1: first of all, digging the name, I will say this
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  Speaker 1: about sharing online, I think what's important is that whatever
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  Speaker 1: you're sharing is off the dick to you, right, So
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  Speaker 1: for me, I actually despite sharing a lot of my
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  Speaker 1: day to day and pretty strategic with When I'm doing that,
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  Speaker 1: my morning routine feels very authentic to me. It's something
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  Speaker 1: that's very important to me. It's something that I have
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  Speaker 1: a lot of boundaries around and really protect, and it's
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  Speaker 1: something that makes sense for me to dive all in on.
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  Speaker 1: But once I get home and kind of get into
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  Speaker 1: the meat and potatoes for lack of a better term
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  Speaker 1: of my day, I'm not as active on social So
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  Speaker 1: I would recommend that you ask yourself what is it
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  Speaker 1: that has value here? I think there should always be
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  Speaker 1: a why to what it is that you're putting out
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  Speaker 1: into the world. So to get comfortable with sharing more authentically,
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  Speaker 1: ask yourself, what is it about what I do that
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  Speaker 1: could be useful or helpful to another human being? And
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  Speaker 1: you mentioned that you're a run coach, right, so maybe
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  Speaker 1: when you're programming your coach for the people that you're
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  Speaker 1: working with, you have lessons or insights that you can
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  Speaker 1: instill in others.
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  Speaker 2: I would say that's very useful.
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  Speaker 1: Or perhaps in your own running, in your own training,
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  Speaker 1: you've learned things that can help other people. Strategies, warm ups,
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  Speaker 1: cool downs, how to go about organizing your training, how
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  Speaker 1: to implement the different types of runs into a regular routine.
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  Speaker 1: The more I'm talking here, the more I think you
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  Speaker 1: can understand that you have a skill set, you have
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  Speaker 1: knowledge that can be useful to others. So it then
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  Speaker 1: becomes your opportunity to expel that there is only one
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  Speaker 1: you at the end of the day. And when you say,
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  Speaker 1: like my mundane day, a lot of people are living
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  Speaker 1: mundane days. I don't want you to think that every
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  Speaker 1: day that I'm living is really fun and exciting. In fact,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of days are me going about my morning routine,
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  Speaker 1: coming back and sitting in the studio right and getting
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  Speaker 1: work done and planning and working and pitching and so
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  Speaker 1: on and so forth. Mundane is relatable, vulnerability is relatable,
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  Speaker 1: portraying this aura of perfection that ain't it. So embrace
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  Speaker 1: whatever it is that your life is. Know that there's
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  Speaker 1: only one you, and that sharing that you has value.
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  Speaker 2: Period.
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  Speaker 1: Make sure you're following along with us over on social
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  Speaker 1: It's at Hurdle Podcast. I am over at Emily Abadi
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  Speaker 1: and Last Little Hit. If you are in the New
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  Speaker 1: York area, I'm doing a live but with Saline Flannagan,
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  Speaker 1: the one the only at the expo. Anyone can enter,
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  Speaker 1: whether you are running or not. It's on the Citizens
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  Speaker 1: Stage at ten am on Saturday, and I'd love to
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  Speaker 1: see you there. That's it, another hurdle conquered and a
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  Speaker 1: big one on deck this weekend.
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  Speaker 2: We've got this. Catch you guys next time.