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Do Narcissists eyes really turn black when they are angry · The Mental Healness Podcast

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What is going on, beautiful folks?
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Today we're going to be talking about the black eyes of a
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narcissist. Do a narcissist's eyes really
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turn black when they go into narcissistic rage, or are they
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possessed by demons and whatnot? Look into my eyes as a diagnosed
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narcissist. If you do hear my name, this is
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Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist.
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Welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Goes.
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Boom. Welcome back, Welcome back,
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welcome back. What's going on, folks?
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Yes. First off, Merry Christmas Eve.
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Is that something people say? If not, Merry Christmas
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tomorrow, happy holidays and whatnot.
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If you're not celebrating, happy holidays, take a break, get rest
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and whatnot. Respect your decision.
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Do do you do you Boo? Ain't that how they say it?
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But yes, narcissistic people y'all Do their eyes really go
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black? I know a lot of people have a
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lot to say about this topic and I don't know.
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I've done a video previously on this a couple years ago about
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the black eyes of a narcissist and this for me personally,
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y'all, for me personally, what inspired this video today?
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Y'all, I was literally going through my comments section.
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I read the comments like I know people say don't read the
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comments, y'all part of my what I do is reading the comments and
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responding to it, right? So I read, I read the comments.
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Somebody said, Lee, I can see your eyes are you're dead behind
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the eyes, but that's OK. You give good information.
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I was, I was like, OK, Oh, that's hilarious to me.
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It it's funny because I know my eyes are not dead.
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I know people, people go to jump in conversation will leave.
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They have a point. No, they don't have a point.
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You cannot tell if they by my eyes.
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So that's not part of my belief system, right.
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I don't believe the narcissist's eyes are black or soulless or
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whatever, because typically the only time you notice that is
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when they're going through something.
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Because if the eyes were a window to the soul, a lot of a
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lot of people would avoid narcissists just based on their
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eyes at the beginning of the relationship.
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Am I right? Am I wrong?
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You see what I'm saying? More people just like I don't
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like, I don't like the way your eyes look, bucko.
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I'm out of here. You know what I mean?
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So I don't necessarily believe in that.
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But again, this is not me trying to chastise anybody's beliefs.
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This is not me trying to put anybody's beliefs down because
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we all share our own separate beliefs system, right?
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But yeah, So Ken Narcisson's eyes pupils become dilated and
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huge and scary looking. Absolutely yes, but is that from
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a demon possession? Is it?
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Is that from Lucifer finally getting a chance to take over
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and play with the narcissist? Like a puppet, right?
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Like puppet string, like man, guess who the narcissist got
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you? Be a puppet.
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I own you. I belong.
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You belong to me. You know what I'm saying?
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Is that what actually happens now?
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Me, I don't believe that y'all. I know again, I'm not trying to
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put anybody's beliefs down. If that's part of your belief
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that narcissist or demon possessed, hey, if that helps
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you heal, helps you heal, right. But for me, I don't think I've
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done video previously on this, but I don't think narcissists
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are demon possessed. And people when people say that,
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when you say that you're taking the, I feel like you're taking
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the responsibility away from the person, like for their own
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behaviors, because I feel like you think if you can get rid of
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this demon, they wouldn't act right.
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They they have no control over themselves, right?
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I just don't that's that's my personal belief right there.
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I respect your beliefs, respect mine.
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Let's keep it, keep it respect, respect me.
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I respect you. That's how we do it anyway.
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That's how we do it over here. We respect.
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We respectful, right? Be full of respect.
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With respect. Full be full of respect.
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But as I don't think it's a demon possession.
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But what could happen? What you're seeing right then
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and there is yet they could have a heightened sense of fear or a
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heightened sense of like you're attacking them and their eyes
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could become wide as hell and they could they change colors in
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the light or something like that.
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Possible. Yeah, I'm not denying that that
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could happen, right. But for me personally, what I've
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experienced is when the eyes go black, it's not a demon taking
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over. It's literally a psychotic
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break. Well, again, throughout when I
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describe it, I know it's going to sound like a demonic
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possession. I already know it.
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And you're going to be like, we'll leave you count your
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point, kind of collapsed in on itself like a neutron star,
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right? No, listen to me.
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Believe me, feel me, understand me, you know what I mean?
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Because this is how it goes right here.
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You're dealing with a manipulative person or an
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abusive person or narcissistic person, right?
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You look at my cat keeps going. That's the reason I keep keep
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checking my phone 'cause my cat is running by the Ring doorbell.
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Like setting it up on purpose, like he's a little devil.
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He's a devil. He's possessed.
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If I follow me on Snapchat, y'all see Loki all the time.
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Just losing just outrage. Loki is crazy.
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But what happens y'all is that like narcissists can have
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psychotic breaks? Like when they are not getting
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this somebody my my therapist described it because I have had
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a psychotic break before. I've had one before, right?
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And then like when that narcissist has a psychotic
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break, they are not themselves, right?
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It's like the narcissism takes over, like the narcissistic part
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of them, the the damage in a child, there's all the defense
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mechanisms kick in and the person kind of shuts down the
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person that you know, kind of goes away and a narcissist, the
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toxic, the toxicity takes over right in my own personal
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psychotic break, like I didn't mean my wife.
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I don't remember it, but this is from my wife's perspective.
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What she told me before is that we were arguing and I wasn't
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listening. I wish she wasn't getting her
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point across. And I just got tired and fed up.
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And I think she just said something about about my
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parenting style of my oldest son or something, something about my
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mom. Now I just don't remember from
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that point forward, right? I remember this last thing I
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remember is her saying something about my mom or my son or
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something like that. And then the next thing I know,
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like I'm opening it, I remember the police being right there.
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Like what's going on, Sir? I was like, what the, you know,
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I'm confused as hell. I'm like, what the hell are the
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police doing here? Who called the police?
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Why the how did y'all get here? You know what I mean?
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How did you appear here? You know, I was like, what the
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hell happened? What, what, what, what is this?
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What is going on here? Right?
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And like she, her aunt had called the police because she
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had told her aunt that I was like losing my mind.
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I was going through the house whistling and taking pictures
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off the wall and I cut up a, there's like this canvas picture
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that we, I took like you know how you get your pictures put on
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canvas and put them on like for a post on the wall.
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I had cut that up with a pair of scissors or something.
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I was whistling through the house.
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I do not remember any of that. And I got a lot of really did
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lose control in that circumstance right there.
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Like in that position, I did really did lose control of like
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my mental faculties. I had no idea what was going on.
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And she, and like I said, my wife, she was like, yeah, you
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were, you know, you kind of logged out.
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And I was like, damn, you're right.
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So I talked about it in therapy. And the only reason I knew there
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was this highlight break because I didn't know about the picture.
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I forgot. Yeah, I didn't even realize.
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I didn't know about the picture. Two years later, the canvas
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picture because it was sitting in my closet upstairs.
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We've we've recently just threw it away out.
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We literally recently just threw that picture away a couple of
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weeks ago and like it's time to, it's time to retire this
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picture. And the reason why that picture
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came up, the picture was so important, right?
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Like I didn't, I thought like, y'all for the longest, I'm being
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real with y'all. For the longest time, I thought
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my wife had cut that picture up. And I told her I was like, I saw
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that picture in my son's closet, right?
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Because she had moved out and she came back.
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I thought she had cut the picture up like as a way to just
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being like, this relationship is over.
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I'm cutting the picture up. So I don't want anything to
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remember you by. So yeah, for years at that
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picture sat in the closet and I was just like my wife, She got
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throw this picture away. I like maybe you know, I didn't
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throw it away because I feel like she should throw it away
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because I thought she cut it up. I like maybe when she's ready or
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when I when I earn it, she'll just throw it away.
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But then I asked her one night, but I told I talked to my
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therapist about it. I was like, like their picture
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they cut up picture in the closet is really bothering me.
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And she was like, well, maybe it's time to talk about that.
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This can be this. This can be an exercise where
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y'all work on your communication.
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I was like, OK, I was like, OK, I'll talk to her about it.
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So we were laying in bed, y'all and I, we were laying in bed and
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I was like, hey, when are you going to throw that canvas
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picture away that you cut up in Kingston's closet?
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Hey, y'all, she look that she gave me when she rolled over,
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she was like, what? The picture that I cut up, I
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like, yeah, The picture you, you cut up and put in Kingston's
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closet. She was like, you cut that
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picture up. I was like, no, I didn't.
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You did. You put it in the closet.
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You cut that picture up and you put it in the closet.
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And she was like, no, the hell I didn't.
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I have proof. And she went through her phone
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and she showed me the message to her aunt.
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And she had sent her aunt about he's going through the house
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whistling, cutting the cutting. He's going through the house
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whistling and cutting the picture.
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Like, took a picture and cut it up.
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I was like, Oh, my God. And I told my therapist that.
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And she's like, yeah, it's because you don't remember that.
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It was a traumatic, very traumatic experience, of course,
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for your wife, but for you as well.
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Your mind shut down. Like none of your needs were
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being met. So the only way you know how to
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be like, the narcissistic part of you took over, not a demon,
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the narcissistic part of you, the unhealed part of you, the
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traumatized child. And you took over and you took a
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back seat. You don't remember what
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happened. You had a psychotic break.
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And my wife said she told me during that time period, like my
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eyes, my people were my people. My pupils were extremely dilated
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and they were bigger than normal.
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And she was like scared. So, you know, it sucks an
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embarrassing moment in my life, but there was actually a
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psychotic break right there. That's when my eyes did change
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in that moment right there when I had a psychotic break.
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So if you deal with a narcissistic person, they had
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snaps like they a lot of times what they say is they blacked
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out or they were seen red and they don't remember it.
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And that's dangerous right there, y'all, if they're, if
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they keep having these incidents and they don't remember it or
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they don't see there's, they're seeing red or whatever, that's
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what happens right there. They're they're having psychotic
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breaks, which are scary. Psychotic breaks are scary.
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Those are, those are not something you want to be around,
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y'all, You know, mate, those are not some things you want to be
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around. And because you might not live
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to tell the tale, so to speak, right?
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You know what I mean? Because this is what happens.
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They, they snap. You don't know what they'll do
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to you in those moments because they're out of control.
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If I can't control myself, what if I have no control over
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myself, my faculties, my mind or anything like that?
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Then how in the hell am I supposed to make things work?
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How much the hell? How, how the hell am I supposed
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to keep in control of my life at any moment in time?
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Because if I'm not in control, this could happen again.
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And that's one of my biggest fears, y'all, that one of my
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biggest fears is having another psychotic break, have my eyes go
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black or something like that. So I work on it.
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That's why I go to therapy. That's why I try to communicate
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better because when lack of communication happens, my needs
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are not being met. Whatever they are.
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I've ran out of options. My mind takes a back seat and
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the narcissism takes over. That's literally what happens.
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My mind took a back seat and the narcissism takes over.
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So if you deal with a narcissistic person, toxic
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person, psychopath, dangerous person, that could possibly,
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possibly be what happened right there.
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Their minds took a back seat for whatever is going on in the
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situation. And that's what happened.
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Yeah, man, I know y'all see my eyes darting around.
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I was looking for that. I took a picture of that thing
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before I threw it away. I was trying to show it to
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y'all, but it's. I took so many pictures.
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I had so many videos of my phone.
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I probably went better to find it.
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But yeah, that's what happens, y'all.
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But I don't think it's a demonic possession.
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I know people. Again, y'all, you are more than
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welcome to argue your point, but you're not going to change.
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This is not something to change my mind though.
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Like you just, you know, I'm not trying to change your mind.
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I'm just trying to give you my perspective.
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If it changes your mind, so be it.
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You mean? But I'm just not trying to do
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like go all above. Like it's not, it's your beliefs
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are fake, your beliefs are foul. And this is that.
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I just don't want you to just put it all onto a demonic
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position and take the responsibility or the
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accountability away from the abusive person in your life,
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right? It can't all be the devil.
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Sometimes the person that you're with, it's just a horrible human
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being. Sometimes the person that you're
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with is just an awful person. That's what happens.
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Like sometimes you do, you do just get a horrible human being
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for a partner and that sucks. It's not fair.
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It's not fair at all. That really does suck.
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That's one of the things that I hope that so many people have to
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go through and experience because you just want to live.
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You want to survive. You want to love this person.
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You want to show love, and you want to receive love at the same
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time. Which makes sense to me, Right?
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So you're dealing with the danger of that person like this,
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y'all. You have to be careful.
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You mean you don't want to get to the point, y'all, in these
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relationships where you're always walking on egg shells?
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Because that what? Yeah.
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What fun is it being in a relationship where you can't
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you, you, you have 0% chance of actually being yourself.
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Like your whole relationship is predicated about predicated
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around you being safe and stepping around somebody and
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making sure you don't upset this person down.
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That's a born ass sad life. You know what I mean?
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I would say, do you want that life for yourself?
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Do you want the life for your kids?
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Because if you have children in an environment as well, that's
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part of it. Like, you're not the only one
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getting abused in this relationship.
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You know what I'm saying? They are as well.
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So there's something you really have to consider.
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Yeah. If I find that picture, I'm
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gonna put it. I'm gonna find that picture.
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I'm gonna put it. I'm probably gonna find there's
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just so many pictures on my phone.
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But that's part of the dynamic. Yeah.
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That's part of surviving. It's part of thriving.
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It's understanding that this person has to take
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accountability for their actions, right?
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If their eyes go black, it could be a psychotic break.
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I talked to. I talked to some people very
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recently and I thought it was a person very recently that said
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they didn't remember doing the stuff that they did, like
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dangerous. Like, yeah, dude, they hit his
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partner or did something, did something horrible to his
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partner when he had a psychotic break.
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And I told him I was like, he's like, I don't remember doing it.
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So I don't know. I was like, I don't remember
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even doing any of that. I was like, it's more dangerous
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if you don't remember it and you're not trying to work on it,
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you know what I'm saying? So it doesn't happen again.
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Because if you can't control it, what's stopping it from
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happening again, you mean? And his his partner said his
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eyes did go. His eyes got became big.
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Why I like this and what not Y'all, I'm losing my voice.
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So y'all let me hop off this thing.
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My voice is like cracking and whatnot.
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