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How To Have Better Orgasms: Single Or Not · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

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  SPEAKER_00: Alright guys, welcome back to another episode of the Live Well podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today we are talking all about how to have better orgasms.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um I thought this would be like I had this idea on a walk.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think it was on Valentine's Day, or maybe it was Friday.
• 0:16
  SPEAKER_00: No, it was Saturday or Sunday.
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_00: I can't remember.
• 0:18
  SPEAKER_00: I was on a walk with Akasha.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sorry, I just want to take a sip of my decap espresso.
• 0:22
  SPEAKER_00: I was on a walk with Akasha and I was like, Valentine's.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, ooh, we need to do self-love.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, well, I did a self-love podcast already.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, wait, no.
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  SPEAKER_00: Orgasms.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's all learn how to have better orgasms.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I realize this is also coming up with my one-on-one clients.
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  SPEAKER_00: A few of them have said to me, but I'm not in a relationship, so I'm not having orgasms.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, um, what?
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh just because you're single or you know not dating does not mean you cannot have a full-body orgasm.
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  SPEAKER_00: So today we're really touching on how to have better ones, whether you are single or not.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so I break down a lot of tips, a lot of tricks, a lot of everything.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_00: And like I said, I'm currently sipping on my decap espresso.
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  SPEAKER_00: I treated myself, well, actually, I treated myself over the holidays to a Breville Bambino Plus espresso machine, but then it was back ordered, then it was cancelled.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had to reorder it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyways, I just got it like I feel like two weeks ago now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and there's something on I really love a decap espresso after dinner.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not a decap coffee, but like a decap espresso.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just to me it's a vibe.
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  SPEAKER_00: So uh yeah, I've been drinking my decap espresso.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have my pyrite crystal with me to bring me abundance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Akasha is sleeping.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_00: Um we are struggling a bit behavior-wise, I'm not going to lie.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's been, she's been a lot, guys.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, we are having a bit of like behavioral aggression issues.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's been biting me, making me bleed uh a bit, just to put it lightly.
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  SPEAKER_00: So um I'm getting her more training and like getting her the support that she needs and learning how I can love her more and give her more of what she needs so that you know learning how to communicate with her and all of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But needless to say, we are uh it's always a learning, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: She's she is my she's a gift, but she is quite the a challenge as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm excited to dive into this episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't really have any more uh catch-ups from me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, by the time you are listening to this, um, I do have a new healthy dessert ebook out, which if you haven't picked up is free.
• 2:25
  SPEAKER_00: Um I kind of revamped my old one to include my top healthy recipes.
• 2:30
  SPEAKER_00: There's over 20 recipes all in one place, pictures, instructions, etc.
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  SPEAKER_00: So go grab that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, yeah, just head to my Instagram.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, I really hope you guys enjoy this episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: I really hope that if you are not engaging in self-pleasure, that you definitely are by the end of this episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and that, you know, uh something I said has taught you to have a full body orgasm.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we really dive into it all.
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  SPEAKER_00: We talk about tantra, yoni eggs, better orgasms, edging with partners, without partners.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um yeah, it's a really, really good episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: So with that being said, let's go ahead and dive in.
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Live Well Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: This podcast is designed to help you live well, body, mind, and soul.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Liv, a natural health and wellness expert.
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  SPEAKER_00: And each week you will walk away with the insights, tools, and tips to truly live your best life.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are looking to live well, you are in the right place.
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  SPEAKER_00: A new episode starts now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hello everyone, and welcome back to another episode of the podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today we are talking all about orgasms.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, how to have better orgasms, whether you are single or not, you can be having mind-blowing full-body orgasms.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, if you don't know, orgasms are triggering some of the most deepest regions of the brain, like your amygdala and your hypothalamus, to produce these wonderful neurotransmitters that cause pleasure, they release dopamine and oxytocin, all of these wonderful things.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, scientists say that an orgasm is the most powerful event that can happen in the brain shortened of an epileptic seizure.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that is like pretty insane when you think about if you were to brain map an orgasm while you are having one, it would be similar to an epileptic seizure.
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  SPEAKER_00: That really shows you just how powerful they are, and also why I thousand percent engage in orgasmic meta manifestation, which I will get to later in this episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: But so basically, what happens is we have this potent cocktail of you know neurochemicals, both the neurons and our organs, you know, our breathing speeds up, our pulse races, and the conscious part of our brain dealing with stress and anxiety really grow quiet.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then, you know, what comes is the the gong, as they say, of the orgasm when all else in your mind kind of disappears and you get this avalanche of sensation, and there's ample medical evidence that orgasms are good for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So for a woman, having regular orgasms can really help to boost the immune system, improve digestion, regulate menstruation, relieve pain, and even make her look a decade younger.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if those weren't enough reasons to convince you, I don't know what would be.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then for a man, the benefits are similar.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you might even want to press pause on this and you know, or show this, you know, send this episode to your significant other because for a man the benefits are similar.
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  SPEAKER_00: So regular orgasms can reduce levels of stress, improve memory function, reduce depression, improve sleep, lower the risk of heart attack, and even lower your risk of prostate cancer.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, a man who has three or more orgasms a week, as opposed to the national average of like 1.5, adds three years to their life.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, guys, whether you're like tell your significant other, if they're a man, tell your guy friends, your boyfriend that like three orgasms a week, three more years of life, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So if he has the the will and stamina also of having an orgasm a day, it will add a fourth year.
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  SPEAKER_00: Crazy, guys.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like having more orgasms will make you live longer.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, but an ordinary orgasm, as we know, it isn't particularly lasting, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, sure, the eyes close, the lips part, your breathing increases, your muscles get tense, and suddenly all of the you know body floods with that soft, dreamy, syrupy sensation of pleasure, and it goes through about eight to twelve involuntary spasms or contractions that occur actually in only eight tenths of a second apart.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then it's over, and you're kind of left where like, is that all there is?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, is there more?
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  SPEAKER_00: And guys, there is more.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is just the that is just the tip of the iceberg, I guess it least to say.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm also going to be running through all the different types of orgasms because another thing of how to have better orgasms is to have multiple different types.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, in the world of sex, climax is basically referred to as a genital sneeze, which is like weird, yes, but that is what it's called.
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  SPEAKER_00: So those brief few seconds of pelvic contractions and peak pleasure are typically triggered by focused clitoral stimulation.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that sharp rise of pleasure or energy followed by that expulsion of energy that's like a sneeze.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that brings us to our first type of orgasm, which is a clitoral orgasm.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this is called like the thunderbolt because the clitoris actually has 8,000 nerve endings, which is a lot more than a penis has, let me tell you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there are a lot more power there than for us ladies than there are for guys, and activating these nerve endings really creates an incredible amount of electricity.
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  SPEAKER_00: So in tantra, this is type of like orgasm really travels like up the front of the body and feels like a high note.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, how to have one?
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  SPEAKER_00: So there's multiple different strategies: there's circling, there's tapping, there's tugging, rolling.
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  SPEAKER_00: All of these are great techniques to play with.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and basically, you want to be like circling the tip of it with your finger to really stimulate arousal and try moving from smaller circles to larger ones, you know, varying the pressure from a featherlight touch to pushing down harder.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you push down and make like small push and pull strokes, this also builds more in terms of the nerve endings.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and using like one as opposed to several is obviously going to have a huge difference as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you actually can do this on your own.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, ladies, a lot of people, you know, I had a client tell me last week, she's like, Oh, I'm not in a relationship, so like I haven't been, you know, having any sex.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, um, why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, you do not need to be in a relationship to be having orgasms, and this is like one of the perfect explanations as to why.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, as you learn, you know, other techniques in yourself, you might actually find that this is a great gateway type to other ones.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, this is not the only one that you can have.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, that brings us to the vaginal orgasm.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, your vagina is almost often called yuck your yoni, and we're gonna get all more into yoni eggs later in this episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, that's gonna be a fun part of the conversation, but it loosely translates to sacred space.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, in tantric philosophy, you approach the vagina from the place of utmost love and respect.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, engaging in yoni massage is actually intended to honor like the person who has the vagina, whether it is you or whether you're having it done to you, um, and really give gives a form of selfless pleasure, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So the vaginal orgasm centers around your cervix, which is energetically both physiological and spiritual.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it is full on like no holding back orgasm.
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  SPEAKER_00: The energy of this one really travels through the center of the spine and activates the heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it feels more like a deep bass drum compared to the clitoral one, which felt more like a high note.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, like, we're starting to differentiate now the different types and how they can feel different.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, how to have one focus on like tantric kegels and breath work.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, you want to be relaxed, comfortable, breathing deeply, and use your bliss breath.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna explain how to do this.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, when you are constricting the back of your throat, inhale and create like a whispering sound, and then exhale and release that sound again, and continually take these like deep oh, Akasha, do you want of course you're barking at this point in the podcast, and you want to continually take these deep, slow, audible breaths, and this really helps to spread the orgasmic energy throughout your whole body.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, for this type of orgasm, you don't want the energy just in your clitoris.
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  SPEAKER_00: This really, like by engaging in this deep breathing, it helps to move that energy from the yoni to all parts of your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then, of course, we have the kegel.
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  SPEAKER_00: So a kegel requires squeezing and releasing, which is like the tensing and relaxation of your vaginal muscles.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can do these even while you know you are working, returning emails to practice, but it is a secret to putting like the breath and body together to really release this like awesome orgasm to you know squeeze and visualize during the the Kegels and then rising from the cervix up to the crown of your head as a white light.
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  SPEAKER_00: Guys, do not underestimate it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know these instructions sound simple, um, but they really go a long way.
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  SPEAKER_00: And even just breathing and squeezing, but not just squeezing around your like vagina or like lower womb area, but allowing it to actually travel all the way up your spine to the top of your head is kind of what makes it go off and like blast off to another planet, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright, so let's move on to the next one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me take a sip of my cacao first um before we move on to the G-spot orgasm.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, from what I've learned, this actually stems from the Karma Sutra, which specifically refers to this erotic area of the vaginal wall um called the G-spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the G-spot is less of a spot, really, and more of an area that feels good when stimulated for some vulva owners.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, not everyone, um, but again, we want to be learning all the different types we can orgasm to have better ones, multiple ones, a bunch at the same time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, let's get spicy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, to find the G-spot, you really want to curve your first two fingers kind of like the letter C and then slide them into your vagina.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can do this on yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I always encourage my clients and people working with me to explore yourself first and get to know yourself before you expect somebody else to know you, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so you want to feel for like a little soft, spongy species of skin behind your fluttorious, and you can massage it by making kind of like a come hither movement with your fingers.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, like I, you know, when you're signaling someone to come here, that's what you want to be doing with like these curved fingers.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh also cut your nails because I can otherwise hurt.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, be careful not to have sharp nails or like make sure they're filed and do that come hither moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you want to vary between like fast and slow strokes.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can also like tickle other areas simultaneously.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, putting pressure above or on the pubic bone also helps.
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  SPEAKER_00: And do not be surprised.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am like gonna be perfectly blunt here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do not be surprised if this type of stimulation leads to a sudden like explosion of wetness, let's just say.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is the type of liquid that accompanies some orgasms that it's called in Tantra Amrita, which is like nectar of the goddess, and it is considered sacred.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, I mean, I'm not gonna go too much into that, um, but that's like the just a warning of what can happen with like a G-spot stimulation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, next we have the nipplegasm.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, sensual breast massage.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_00: Ladies, if we are not massaging our breasts in a sensual way, let us start, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: It is so good for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's considered really an empowering activity for people with vulvas, um, you know, back in you know, tantric times.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is considered the tantric goddess of the heart, and it's really said that arousing pleasure through like both the breasts and the nipples really awakens that goddess responsible for love and bonding.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this has been actually backed up in many ancient traditions and studied scientifically, and actually suggests that like nipple play activates the same nerve cortex as clitoral and genital stimulation.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you can absolutely have like orgasmic pleasure just by stimulating your nipples only.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you can use this again, self-pleasure, like massaging yourself with coconut oil, or you can bring it into the bedroom with your partner.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, again, that little brief how-to if you haven't done this before and you want like a brief synopsis.
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  SPEAKER_00: So begin by like, you know, touching your abdomen, start with stroking, your rib cage, and then work your way up to your breast and like really tease yourself, like you would expect your partner to do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the way you want to be showing love to yourself, and really take the time to stir up that really sexual energy before actually getting to like the nipples themselves.
• 15:53
  SPEAKER_00: And the biggest secret for this, and we're also gonna get into this more, is edging.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, which is finding like the pace of pleasure and then teasing just until the body responds by like begging for more and then backing off.
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  SPEAKER_00: So go slowly, don't pressure yourself to really get to an end result.
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  SPEAKER_00: Once you can't wait anymore, basically, start tracing like the areola with a featherlight touch, and then you know, start going from there.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when your body starts responding, keep going while doing the Kegels and everything else that I mentioned in the previous ones and keep drawing on that energy up.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want to be drawing again energy up from the base, from the sacral, from your root, all the way to the top of your head.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want to really imagine it squeezing it all the way up, guys.
• 16:38
  SPEAKER_00: You if you've ever done um, I forget which one of Joe Dispen's meditations this is, but you do this in one of Joe Despen's meditations.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's tuning into new potentials.
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  SPEAKER_00: I forget which one.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm a big fan of his meditations.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but you do this in one of those, and like he really teaches you how to channel like the kundalini energy, and this is similar to that.
• 16:57
  SPEAKER_00: And of course, I want to touch on multiple orgasms um because tantra or sex itself is not just about having one big orgasm and you're done to have better orgasms.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can teach yourself to have multiple, and multiple, this is one of the cases where like more can be actually better.
• 17:14
  SPEAKER_00: More is better than one, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So using the techniques I just talked about um and layering them on top of each other as opposed to like going for it is really going to help with having multiples.
• 17:25
  SPEAKER_00: Women with bulbas are actually more likely to orgasm when they engage in a variety of sexual acts, specifically a mix of both oral and vaginal.
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_00: So that means not just penetration, but you know, using your mouth.
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_00: I are you excited about this topic like it?
• 17:41
  SPEAKER_00: I know boo-boo.
• 17:42
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, we're gonna move on, guys.
• 17:44
  SPEAKER_00: Calm down, sweet pea.
• 17:46
  SPEAKER_00: Um, well, actually, one more thing before I move on.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you are teasing yourself and like edging yourself to pleasure or your partner's edging, and you are really moving that kind of orgasmic energy throughout your body, your orgasms can become like waves that go through every single vertebra of yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this is going to be huge, especially if you want to be having better ones.
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  SPEAKER_00: You really want to be channeling it up to move through every vertebrae, and then allow that kind of like full body and multiple.
• 18:15
  SPEAKER_00: And then, of course, there are energy orgasms, and I want to talk about this as like the sixth orgasm type to have.
• 18:21
  SPEAKER_00: And simply put, energy orgasms happen when you have unlocked that like kundalini sex energy, and it is like freely flowing on command, and it's really about creating multiple waves of that orgasmic feeling and not just about writhing in physical ecstasy when, like, you know, you're stuck in traffic.
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  SPEAKER_00: So remember that tantric methods aren't just a about a quick orgasm.
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  SPEAKER_00: You really have to learn to engage your body and mind and focus on pleasure, moving energy, and you'll be able to release all of that like higher level orgasm.
• 18:53
  SPEAKER_00: So, orgasm, of course, isn't the goal of every sexual encounter.
• 18:58
  SPEAKER_00: I do want to mention that in this episode, in fact, I actually highly recommend spending more time engaging in foreplay without a main event.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_00: And if you listened to the episode of the podcast I did with one of my best friends, Dr.
• 19:11
  SPEAKER_00: Erin Lush, we talked all about this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so go back and listen to that episode.
• 19:16
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I think in the title, you'll see sex in the title.
• 19:18
  SPEAKER_00: So just go back to the other episode that has sex in the title, and that will be the one.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you have to remember that not all women experience orgasm the same way.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if an orgasm is your goal, you want it to be like energizing, transporting, fulfilling, connected, and undeniably pleasurable, right?
• 19:36
  SPEAKER_00: And if not, then you actually might be experiencing a climax or a genital squeeze rather than your full orgasmic potential.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there are many ways to shift from being like climactic to being orgasmic.
• 19:50
  SPEAKER_00: And this is where I want to stress again um one of the great ways to do this and to have better orgasms is editing because it really prolongs that versus making it climactic to making it orgasmic.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this happens when you really consciously increase your pleasure by approaching the climax as a way of ease before like trying to, you know, it's a it's a marathon, it's not a sprint, let's put it that way.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yes, it takes practice, but mostly because climax can be tempting because we live in a world with instant gratification, right?
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_00: Like all of social media is an instant gratification, we want everything and we want it now, and then the moment we start engaging in sexual activity, it's like, okay, let's go, we want it and we want it now.
• 20:34
  SPEAKER_00: I actually encourage you to step away from that mentality if you want to have better orgasms, because by repeatedly approaching the point of no return and then like backing away from it, you really increase the amount of energy in your body.
• 20:49
  SPEAKER_00: You actually also improve your overall health, but like we'll get into that.
• 20:52
  SPEAKER_00: And the more you can build this sexual energy present in your body, the stronger and longer your orgasms will be.
• 20:59
  SPEAKER_00: You might actually find yourself experiencing orgasmic pleasure outside of what you originally defined as an orgasm.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, again, the key to this is becoming aware of like your pre-climax signs, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then using them or using one of the following techniques I'm about to mention to draw yourself away from it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes a little um verbal communication is needed if you are engaging with this with a partner.
• 21:26
  SPEAKER_00: So pace yourself.
• 21:27
  SPEAKER_00: I've said this many times, but again, I will say it again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Slow and steady wins the race, but also slow and steady gets a much more delicious winning out of it.
• 21:39
  SPEAKER_00: Let's put it that way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, pause.
• 21:42
  SPEAKER_00: Like it is really easy to go for the prize, but there is nothing wrong with a little stillness when you are engaging in pleasure or making love, whatever you are doing.
• 21:51
  SPEAKER_00: Switch it up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Avoid staying in your getting off patterns.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_00: If you know, okay, let me go clockwise to the left and then I'll start small and then I'll go.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: And you just know, like when you're a woman, you know your body and you know exactly like what it is, you get into that routine, you need to start switching it up, start exploring new parts, new areas, new positions, doing all these things, different, even settings, and make it so much more than just like rubbing or getting off or like getting that instant gratification.
• 22:23
  SPEAKER_00: Next up, relax your whole body, and I mean from your tongue all the way down to your toes.
• 22:33
  SPEAKER_00: As we approach climax, the tendency is to really clench and tighten as the pressure builds, right?
• 22:37
  SPEAKER_00: Because it's building and building, your body's getting more tense.
• 22:40
  SPEAKER_00: If you want better orgasms, you want to relax your whole body, lock the energy into like the you know, I'm mostly it's women who listen to this, like into your like you know, glodotaurus, your vagina, and bring yourself to climb that way.
• 22:56
  SPEAKER_00: And the relaxing really allows the energy to flow throughout the whole body.
• 23:00
  SPEAKER_00: If you are too tense, you are gonna concentrate your orgasm just to that area, and you're not gonna get that like head back, bite your lip.
• 23:08
  SPEAKER_00: I traveled to Piades and back, you know, on this orgasm.
• 23:11
  SPEAKER_00: So you want to be doing more of that.
• 23:13
  SPEAKER_00: Also, deepening your breath.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_00: We briefly touched on this, but breath tends to become short and restrained when we are near climax, right?
• 23:20
  SPEAKER_00: We go and it gets like more rapid.
• 23:23
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 23:24
  SPEAKER_00: Take deep belly breaths.
• 23:26
  SPEAKER_00: And if you are unfamiliar with belly breaths, I also tell my clients to do this to have better digestion.
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_00: So here we go, we're having better digestion and better orgasms by belly breathing.
• 23:35
  SPEAKER_00: But you're gonna put your hand over your belly or your boom space and drop in.
• 23:40
  SPEAKER_00: And you want to breathe so that your belly expands and your chest does not move.
• 23:44
  SPEAKER_00: That is belly breathing.
• 23:46
  SPEAKER_00: You will encourage relaxation in the body and create room for more orgasmic sensations to expand all the way from your clitoris, which is like the base, and spill out through your entire vagina and your body.
• 23:59
  SPEAKER_00: Take your focus off the climax and the orgasm in general.
• 24:04
  SPEAKER_00: When an orgasm is in the finish line, you really allow your whole body to kind of relax, enjoy, be present in the moment, and making the whole experience of sex more pleasurable.
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_00: And like, who doesn't want more pleasure?
• 24:17
  SPEAKER_00: Um, some more things on actually edging alone because many people actually learn and practice edging on their own before they do it with a partner, and I highly suggest that so that you start to learn your own body first.
• 24:30
  SPEAKER_00: So you can use, you know, your hands, or you can use a toy, and you can increase like your arousal through different types of vibrations, slow down, breathing deeply, lower the intensity, and then go back up and like practice all the things that I have been mentioning in this episode so far.
• 24:48
  SPEAKER_00: And you can repeat this several times up, down, up, down, up, down.
• 24:53
  SPEAKER_00: So by edging with a vibrator, not only will you learn how to tease yourself into like mind-blowing orgasms, but you'll also collect some kind of like kinky intel that you can pass on to both current and future partners.
• 25:06
  SPEAKER_00: And again, go back and listen to this first episode on the podcast where we talked about sex with Dr.
• 25:10
  SPEAKER_00: Erin Lesh.
• 25:11
  SPEAKER_00: She has a recommendation for her favorite one.
• 25:14
  SPEAKER_00: I forget what it's called.
• 25:15
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so go back and listen to that or just send me a DM on Instagram and I'll remember to get the name from it from her.
• 25:23
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but yeah, we're gonna go over some methods for edging with a vibrator that will make masturbating like orgasmic for much longer.
• 25:31
  SPEAKER_00: And I also will say is that you can definitely be in a relationship and still engage in self-pleasure, right?
• 25:37
  SPEAKER_00: Because the better you know your body, you know yourself, the more you are actually going to get out of it all.
• 25:43
  SPEAKER_00: So the first method is called hierarchy edging.
• 25:46
  SPEAKER_00: And so this is allowing yourself to touch yourself and allow your arousal to reach like a level of five or six and then go down to about a three.
• 25:56
  SPEAKER_00: And then rile yourself up to a seven, drop down to a three.
• 26:00
  SPEAKER_00: Follow it up to an eight, drop down to a three.
• 26:04
  SPEAKER_00: Go up to a nine, you see the hierarchy in this, drop down to a three, and then go up until you're ready to go over the edge.
• 26:11
  SPEAKER_00: If you don't take pleasure scales so seriously, um, you know, it might take all of the pleasure out of this exercise.
• 26:18
  SPEAKER_00: So make it more of a feeling than like a tsunami, if that makes sense.
• 26:25
  SPEAKER_00: The next method is to use your hands so while your toy is doing its things, you can actually also use your hands to bring yourself closer and then further and then back to the edge and away.
• 26:35
  SPEAKER_00: So touching, playing, stroking to increase arousal, and then take yourself away.
• 26:41
  SPEAKER_00: Again, we can also apply the hierarchy to an eight or nine, retreat down for one or two, and then go back up again.
• 26:47
  SPEAKER_00: And you could employ some of the things we talked about previously as like things that you can do with your hands.
• 26:54
  SPEAKER_00: The next one is to make it a little bit kinky.
• 26:58
  SPEAKER_00: So, one way to make edging even spicier is to really pour your imagination into it and to fantasize that someone is like denying you your orgasm, and you can do this all while you using a toy, and this really helps to heighten the feelings of both like dominance and submission, as well as allow you to play with the elements of objectification, surrender, etc.
• 27:20
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and learning what you like.
• 27:22
  SPEAKER_00: So the mind is a powerful place, right?
• 27:25
  SPEAKER_00: Like, we can think ourselves sick, we can think ourselves rich, we can think ourselves into an orgasm.
• 27:29
  SPEAKER_00: Don't be scared or shy about using imagination and fantasy in this scenario.
• 27:36
  SPEAKER_00: The next method is exploring the wild, wild west of multiple orgasms.
• 27:42
  SPEAKER_00: So multiple orgasms, as we know, are not a myth, especially when you have a sex toy on your side.
• 27:48
  SPEAKER_00: So, for many women, the first orgasm they have in a section, um, section.
• 27:53
  SPEAKER_00: I combine session and sex into one word, guys.
• 27:56
  SPEAKER_00: A section.
• 27:57
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, makes sense.
• 27:58
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so the first one they have it becomes a higher arousal platform with which to move to the next one.
• 28:04
  SPEAKER_00: So that's the thing.
• 28:05
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it's not like when women we have an orgasm and it's done.
• 28:08
  SPEAKER_00: Like, no, no, this is the building blocks so that the next one is going to be easier to reach and more intense.
• 28:16
  SPEAKER_00: So if you are game, put your vibrator to work once, twice, I mean, but not too many times, but you know, more than once, and you'll know what I mean.
• 28:27
  SPEAKER_00: And the last method I want to give you guys in terms of edging to really help you is to mentally edge throughout the day.
• 28:34
  SPEAKER_00: So there is nothing like anticipation, right?
• 28:37
  SPEAKER_00: Anticipation for anything, but let alone, you know, in this kind of scenario can really heighten the pleasure and arousal as the dopamine levels rise and you anticipate pleasure.
• 28:48
  SPEAKER_00: And they can be twice as high during the anticipation phase if the path to the reward is unpredictable.
• 28:55
  SPEAKER_00: So throughout the day, let your mind wander of what you and your toy or you and your partner are going to get up to later.
• 29:03
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so I wanted to share with you guys some more tips, ideas to really add, I'm gonna say texture.
• 29:11
  SPEAKER_00: I always talk about adding texture to our meals to make them more delicious and aesthetically pleasing, and adding more, you know, some nuts for some crunch and some herbs for some freshness.
• 29:21
  SPEAKER_00: And guys, we are now gonna be adding texture to our self-pleasure routine.
• 29:26
  SPEAKER_00: My gosh, thank goodness my mom does not listen to this podcast.
• 29:29
  SPEAKER_00: So we're gonna go back again, similar to edging but not quite, is to deny yourself an orgasm.
• 29:36
  SPEAKER_00: So orgasm control, also known as orgasm denial, is done by edging or again, bringing yourself, Osha, sweetie, calm down.
• 29:44
  SPEAKER_00: Um, or bringing yourself close to orgasm, then stopping.
• 29:47
  SPEAKER_00: Now, to get kinky with orgasm control during solo sex, edge yourself three times with at least three minute breaks in between each time.
• 29:58
  SPEAKER_00: Then allow yourself to experience the magic of the orgasm.
• 30:02
  SPEAKER_00: Um, otherwise, like this can really well, it's going to help you really like reach new heights of pleasure because the buildup over time is going to make them stronger and more powerful by doing this.
• 30:15
  SPEAKER_00: The next one is to be sexual with yourself discreetly in public.
• 30:20
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I know we are under lockdown now, but things like movie theaters, um, you know, in the back of an Uber, you know, find a remote control one that you can wear and like use your phone to play with and wear those, like I think they have panties that do that.
• 30:34
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like this was in a movie.
• 30:35
  SPEAKER_00: I forget what movie this was, but like they were oh, hi, sweetie.
• 30:39
  SPEAKER_00: They were in a movie and they were like, she was wearing them.
• 30:41
  SPEAKER_00: Guys, if you remember what movie this is, please DM me on Instagram, let me know.
• 30:45
  SPEAKER_00: But um, I know this was definitely in a movie.
• 30:48
  SPEAKER_00: And so this can really help to oh I know you're very excited about this episode.
• 30:54
  SPEAKER_00: Akasha, why are you really excited about orgasms?
• 30:57
  SPEAKER_00: This is hilarious to me, guys.
• 30:58
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and so being like sexual with yourself discreetly in public is really going to raise that kind of anticipation.
• 31:05
  SPEAKER_00: The next one is to experiment with sensation play.
• 31:09
  SPEAKER_00: So, sensation play is all about using different items to achieve various kinds of stimulations, and these can be like household items, these can be tissues, ice, you know, even some whipped cream, um, hot and cold, anything like that.
• 31:26
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you can be engaging in self-pleasure with one hand and then rubbing ice on a different part of your body with another.
• 31:33
  SPEAKER_00: So you can also allow like the ice to stay in one spot until it stings and like see how long you can tolerate the stinging.
• 31:40
  SPEAKER_00: There's really so much room here when it comes to sensation play.
• 31:43
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so we talked about sensation play.
• 31:46
  SPEAKER_00: Now we are going to talk about sensory play, also called sensory deprivation, and this is where you remove one or more of your senses, and this really results in the other areas of your life or other areas becoming more heightened.
• 32:01
  SPEAKER_00: And the flip side of sensation play is sensory play, like as I said, and it really involves subtracting rather than adding something to heighten your pleasure.
• 32:12
  SPEAKER_00: Now, this can be tricky with self-pleasure rather than partnered play because it's not so easy to like tie yourself up.
• 32:18
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, unless you're like a skilled contortionist, in which case, amazing, good on you.
• 32:23
  SPEAKER_00: However, you um might have to get a little creative with this one, um, or use a sleep mask, a blindfold when you are engaging in self-pleasure.
• 32:32
  SPEAKER_00: But you know, allow your imagination to run wild with this one.
• 32:37
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, the next one is to allow another person to control over your climax.
• 32:43
  SPEAKER_00: So this is going to be obviously when it involves somebody else, and for mutual masturbation, basically, or like self-pleasure, whatever you want to call it, um, giving your partner control by asking permission to touch yourself in front of them or asking permission to make yourself orgasm.
• 33:00
  SPEAKER_00: So even though solo play is like obviously handling the job yourself, it doesn't mean that you can't like, well, especially in COVID times, phone a friend and make that kind of like combined edging and fantasy and handing it over to someone else and combining so many of the techniques that I've already mentioned in this episode.
• 33:20
  SPEAKER_00: And one thing I do also want to say is to know your limits.
• 33:24
  SPEAKER_00: So give yourself a sexual check-in um if things go into kind of unfamiliar territory.
• 33:30
  SPEAKER_00: You know, be sure to always pay attention to your body and stop at any signs of unwanted discomfort.
• 33:36
  SPEAKER_00: Always, you know, offer yourself some TLC, you know, after all this, um, and really like kind of take care of yourself.
• 33:42
  SPEAKER_00: But definitely knowing your limits, like experimenting, but always, you know, whether you decide it's a word or whether you're engaging with it by yourself.
• 33:50
  SPEAKER_00: So appreciate your body, ladies.
• 33:53
  SPEAKER_00: This is something else I want to touch on.
• 33:55
  SPEAKER_00: If people do not like their bodies, they will probably be thinking about how they look during sex rather than being in the moment.
• 34:02
  SPEAKER_00: And I think this was, yeah, this was something my friend Erin, I think I got it from her.
• 34:05
  SPEAKER_00: I'm pretty sure I did.
• 34:06
  SPEAKER_00: Go back and listen to the episode, guys.
• 34:08
  SPEAKER_00: It was gold.
• 34:08
  SPEAKER_00: But it's something now I now tell to my clients.
• 34:11
  SPEAKER_00: Guys are just happy to be having sex with you.
• 34:13
  SPEAKER_00: Like, they are just happy to be doing it.
• 34:15
  SPEAKER_00: They are not noticing all the things that I promise you think they are noticing.
• 34:19
  SPEAKER_00: They are just not noticing.
• 34:21
  SPEAKER_00: So obsessing over your body's flaws is really gonna interfere with that sexual response.
• 34:26
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and like most men really get turned on by in someone who's like turned on themselves and someone who is like having a good time.
• 34:37
  SPEAKER_00: You will have better orgasms if you really get get out of your head and get out of your own way and really just allow yourself to enjoy and know that they are not noticing or not looking at the things that you think that they are looking at.
• 34:51
  SPEAKER_00: So, like, why do women find it, you know, that's one of the reasons women can find it difficult to get an orgasm, but there's also some, you know, other reasons why women find it difficult to get an orgasm.
• 35:01
  SPEAKER_00: So very few women have problems reaching climax by stimulating the clitoris.
• 35:07
  SPEAKER_00: However, with vaginal orgasm, the situation is different.
• 35:10
  SPEAKER_00: And of course, any orgasm is great, but many women simply want to experience, you know, some sort of climax during sex with their partner, um, that that everything else kind of goes out the window.
• 35:20
  SPEAKER_00: So theoretically, every woman can have a vaginal orgasm.
• 35:24
  SPEAKER_00: However, this practice may look different.
• 35:27
  SPEAKER_00: So basically, no orgasm happens without the influence of the clitoris.
• 35:31
  SPEAKER_00: So this includes not only the outer and visible areas, but also, you know, the much larger area that is, you know, inside and can be stimulated by penetration.
• 35:41
  SPEAKER_00: So you're gonna have to find out what is good for you, and that's why self-pleasure is the first step.
• 35:47
  SPEAKER_00: So we also going along with that, coming down to a strong pelvic floor.
• 35:54
  SPEAKER_00: And I actually am gonna be having um my friend Erin back on the podcast to talk about pelvic floor, um, because she is um an expert in pelvic floor therapy, pelvic floor this, um, both in terms of sex and otherwise.
• 36:06
  SPEAKER_00: But this goes back to during sex, women often kind of tense up their whole body and become aroused.
• 36:12
  SPEAKER_00: And you might notice that even like your jaw is tensing or you're holding your breath.
• 36:17
  SPEAKER_00: And while this tension is good for orgasm, relaxation is also part of it and can make it a lot more pleasurable.
• 36:25
  SPEAKER_00: So with a trained pelvic floor, you can really specifically like tense and relax the muscles in this area.
• 36:31
  SPEAKER_00: And the more trained your floor is, the easier it will be for you to reach climax and the sensation will really be strengthened and the blood circulation kind of stimulated, all which makes you and your nerves more sensitive and intensifies your feelings.
• 36:46
  SPEAKER_00: So, next up, I want to talk about yoni eggs.
• 36:50
  SPEAKER_00: So, guys, oh no, guys, ladies, get yourself a yoni egg.
• 36:54
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, they can be made of rose quartz, they can be made of jade.
• 36:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yoni eggs are magical little, I mean, they're crystals that you put in your hoo-ha.
• 37:02
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna lie, it's literally a crystal you put in your hoo-ha, but it is magical.
• 37:06
  SPEAKER_00: Um, they are said to cause like emotional, sexual, physical, and spiritual transformation and healing.
• 37:13
  SPEAKER_00: I can attest to it like a thousand percent agree.
• 37:16
  SPEAKER_00: I like a great stomping stopper for like don't wait till next year, but like hands down, um, if you are a female, yoni eggs are amazing.
• 37:24
  SPEAKER_00: They're also a common alternative to kegel exercises, and so they also help to strengthen the vaginal muscles.
• 37:31
  SPEAKER_00: Not only that, but they work to decrease incontinence, um, retoning post-childbirth, and like I said, increasing orgasms, which is you know what we are talking about all in today's episodes and how to have better ones, right?
• 37:43
  SPEAKER_00: So with a yogi egg, you can really train and strengthen your pelvic floor, and you can wear it daily for a few hours, um, or even once a week, and during this time, your pelvic floor muscles have the task of not like quote unquote losing it.
• 38:00
  SPEAKER_00: So in doing so, the muscles are consciously and often also unconsciously tensed and strengthened in this way.
• 38:08
  SPEAKER_00: And so you really train these muscles just like you train any other muscle during exercise.
• 38:14
  SPEAKER_00: And you can also practice relaxation with this yoni egg.
• 38:18
  SPEAKER_00: So, yes, we're tensing, but we're also going to be relaxing.
• 38:20
  SPEAKER_00: And as we learn, relaxing is one of the things to have a full body orgasm.
• 38:24
  SPEAKER_00: So, guys, if you after this episode, you should all be at least practicing to have full body orgasms right now.
• 38:30
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so continuing on, um you can consciously tense and then relax the muscles again, practicing more with this yoni egg, and it gives you something to not only like tense and relax on, but then you get the properties of either the jade or the rose quartz.
• 38:46
  SPEAKER_00: I personally love rose quartz, um, because rose quartz has to do with love and um you know compassion and even self-love, etc.
• 38:54
  SPEAKER_00: And so to me, it resonates more, but you can always get one.
• 38:58
  SPEAKER_00: I believe they come in other crystal types besides rose quartz and jades, but those are the most popular ones that I have seen.
• 39:04
  SPEAKER_00: Um and in addition, it also kind of massages your fascial tissue in your vagina and relaxes it.
• 39:11
  SPEAKER_00: This actually increases the sensitivity in this area and makes it easier not only for you to connect with your yoni, but let's face it, if we are more sensitive, that feels more delicious, right?
• 39:22
  SPEAKER_00: So the emotional blockages and feelings of guilt can also be released more easily.
• 39:28
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you get more confidence in your body, etc.
• 39:31
  SPEAKER_00: So not only is it like physiologically therapeutic in terms of pelvic floor, but in terms of emotional, spiritual the blockages, feelings of guilt, shame can also um really be released when we are using a yoni egg.
• 39:45
  SPEAKER_00: Just do not use a yoni egg during your cycle.
• 39:47
  SPEAKER_00: So do not use it the week that you are bleeding.
• 39:50
  SPEAKER_00: Another thing that you can do with your yoni egg is sacred yoni breathing.
• 39:55
  SPEAKER_00: So this is the practice of connecting with your yoni and your sexual energy, and all you have to do is insert the yoni egg into your room space, into your vagina, and begin to really inhale and exhale with your mind and focus and visualize your yoni.
• 40:12
  SPEAKER_00: And at the same time, as you inhale, squeeze those vaginal muscles and on the exhale, release them.
• 40:19
  SPEAKER_00: And as we've learned, when we're squeezing, we are not just squeezing locally, we are squeezing all the way up the body, up the spine, up towards the crown of the head, and a big light is shooting out the top of our head, alright?
• 40:32
  SPEAKER_00: We're on our way, guys.
• 40:33
  SPEAKER_00: We are on our way to a full body orgasm.
• 40:36
  SPEAKER_00: So neurochemically, you know, we all are familiar with the fact that an orgasm releases the hormone oxytocin, which promotes those good feelings.
• 40:45
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but it also leads to that like comfort and safety and caring, and you can have this on your own as well.
• 40:51
  SPEAKER_00: I also want to keep stressing in this episode that this all this can pertain to you, whether you have a partner or not, whether you are radic solo or you have someone, either way, you can do like most of these practices.
• 41:05
  SPEAKER_00: And not only that, but orgasms and all these emotions that come with those feel-good feelings from the release of oxytocin really help to decrease our levels of cortisol, um, which we all know are harmful, and a lot of us have high levels of them right now.
• 41:19
  SPEAKER_00: And it also increases our levels of the beneficial hormone DHEA.
• 41:24
  SPEAKER_00: So the more stronger orgasms we have, the more benefits we are getting from the orgasms again itself.
• 41:32
  SPEAKER_00: So I want to talk about a little bit more about like tantra, conscious loving, spiritual union.
• 41:39
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I think I do want to do a full other episode on like a tantrum, but we're gonna we're gonna give you guys a little a little bit right now, and then if you guys want more, um I can do a full episode.
• 41:49
  SPEAKER_00: But so conscious loving is basically the enhancement of the orgasm through a loving communion.
• 41:57
  SPEAKER_00: So it includes kind of like that valley, which is the longer lasting and continuing waves of like energy that moves throughout the body, and it's at that heart level, right?
• 42:06
  SPEAKER_00: It's something you experience in your heart when it is happening.
• 42:10
  SPEAKER_00: And this can also be like formed as a like a spiritual union, kind of whatever you want to call it, whether it's conscious loving, spiritual union, etc.
• 42:18
  SPEAKER_00: It is the ecstatic, like expanded experience that really produces, and I'm not gonna lie, that altered state of consciousness.
• 42:26
  SPEAKER_00: So it really encompasses that cosmic orgasm, that timeless, boundless state where the orgasmic waves move through all of your energy centers, all of your chakras, all the way up into the cosmos, and like off I don't even know where, like, I don't even know about other dimensions, right?
• 42:47
  SPEAKER_00: Um and this cosmic orgasm can and it does happen to to anyone, but as a practice, it can really replenish the life force with release through the crown of your head, which is the top of your head.
• 43:01
  SPEAKER_00: So the truth is we're all capable of experiencing like orgasms in multiple dimensions.
• 43:07
  SPEAKER_00: So your energy centers, again called your chakras, um, are not anatomical structures in the body, however, they are clusters of oscillating energy, so they can be measured um energetically because they are able to sense energetic centers in the body where energy is more concentrated and they're they're given off as ways and like measure energy is measurable, right?
• 43:29
  SPEAKER_00: So think of chakras as functioning like energy electrical transformers, and they really lower like the vibrating rate of life force energy.
• 43:38
  SPEAKER_00: This is called prana.
• 43:39
  SPEAKER_00: Prana is like your life force energy, your qi, Chinese medicine, um different names for it.
• 43:43
  SPEAKER_00: But you want to really enable this to flow through the body, right?
• 43:47
  SPEAKER_00: And so we are actually kind of an organized combination of like several energy systems that are around a unifying field.
• 43:55
  SPEAKER_00: So if we could see all like the subtle little light bodies around us, we Would look like little luminous bodies, like little little luminous beings kind of just hanging out.
• 44:05
  SPEAKER_00: And so this electrical energy that can be combined on during an orgasm can really allow that to travel through all the energy centers and make it more than just a physical release, it can make it an energetic release as well.
• 44:19
  SPEAKER_00: So this kind of leads me into the brief synopsis I'm gonna do about like tantric and tantra, which is the philosophy, the physical technique um practiced largely through breathing techniques, um, that usually is concentrated and like then pulses through different areas of the body, and as a result, you get this like full body orgasm.
• 44:40
  SPEAKER_00: And again, instead of that localized general release, it's that prolonged series of like that subtle, continuous, wave-like pulsations that spread throughout your entire body that basically make you feel like you are just melting into your partner or melting into the toy or whatever you are using, right?
• 45:00
  SPEAKER_00: And so the way you get there is to stop stimulation as soon as like as you are about to peak, you breathe the sexual energy up through the chakras.
• 45:10
  SPEAKER_00: Again, we briefly learned this, but now we're gonna talk about it more from an energetic, spiritual, tantric chakra kind of way.
• 45:16
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you're gonna breathe this through this episode, like you're building, you're building, you're building.
• 45:20
  SPEAKER_00: We I feel like I have Monica and friends, and I'm about to be like with the numbers, and she goes, seven, seven, seven.
• 45:26
  SPEAKER_00: Um, that is like, oh my god, there's also seven chakras of the body.
• 45:30
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so let's work our way up.
• 45:31
  SPEAKER_00: So we're at one, we're at one, maybe a little two, two, we're going to three, four, four, far, five, five.
• 45:37
  SPEAKER_00: We're going to six, and we're going all the way up to seven, right?
• 45:42
  SPEAKER_00: And so you want to breathe it all the way up and then rest and feel the energy, and then start the stimulation again.
• 45:49
  SPEAKER_00: So it's like the hierarchy that we learned, but we're doing this now instead from an energetic chakra standpoint.
• 45:56
  SPEAKER_00: And channeling this energy from like your your yoni all the way to your head actually stimulates the brain cells and creates a bridge between the left and the right hemispheres, which are the different like two sides of your brain, and fuse the intellect of the left hemisphere with the intuitive faculties of the right.
• 46:17
  SPEAKER_00: So it is this fusion that really creates the experience of ecstasy, which in the body, mind, and heart and spirit, they kind of all participate.
• 46:26
  SPEAKER_00: So that is the science for all everyone thinking this is too woo.
• 46:30
  SPEAKER_00: No, no, this energy literally goes all the way up.
• 46:33
  SPEAKER_00: You fuse on your atmospheres.
• 46:35
  SPEAKER_00: We got the left, the right, and then we get that like ecstasy feeling, right?
• 46:40
  SPEAKER_00: So, tantra is associated with kundalini energy, that electric kind of energy that runs through the spine.
• 46:46
  SPEAKER_00: And yes, you can raise um like Kundali energy through yoga and simple breath work, but you could also do it um, you know, through self-pleasure, sexual experiences, and the full body orgasm that can result from this type of practice is like the release or movement of energy in the body, and it's going to feel like waves that last for minutes or when you get good at it, hours.
• 47:12
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, hours.
• 47:15
  SPEAKER_00: It can be achieved alone or with a partner, with touch or without.
• 47:22
  SPEAKER_00: Again, you can achieve this without a single finger, a single thing being laid on you.
• 47:29
  SPEAKER_00: Alright, guys, I'm just gonna leave it there.
• 47:31
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna let you know that like a thousand percent I don't say this without knowing that it's true.
• 47:37
  SPEAKER_00: Just gonna say that and I'll move on to what I was gonna say next.
• 47:40
  SPEAKER_00: But we're gonna leave it there.
• 47:41
  SPEAKER_00: So for guys, it really like it's a slightly different than for women, um, because it's more women is more about surrender versus like men, it's more about the discipline to resist.
• 47:51
  SPEAKER_00: So this really involves um if you want to like talk about this with your partner and they are you know of male gender, um, it's really on allowing them to focus on the discipline to resist and then coming down, so focusing on these sensual pleasures um throughout their body and engaging the whole thing, and then kind of dancing between that instinct to tense up and the relaxation, and then like clenching and holding as like a squeeze and then release, and this creates that like tension that we were talking about for ourselves, and this will help it if you are doing with a male partner.
• 48:28
  SPEAKER_00: You can also learn to have or like give full body orgasms to your partner, but I would suggest to do it first with yourself and really get to know yourself and what that feels like and how to do that before um necessarily focusing on someone else.
• 48:44
  SPEAKER_00: Also, as females, we do not receive more.
• 48:47
  SPEAKER_00: The female, the woman is supposed to receive, right?
• 48:50
  SPEAKER_00: So take some time to actually learn your body and like this electric kind of energy that you know can move through your body and get time to know that before you're necessarily worrying about, you know, making sure your partner's having a full body one or it's going, you know, through all their energy centers.
• 49:08
  SPEAKER_00: I will say also, when this happens, you do heal your energy centers.
• 49:13
  SPEAKER_00: So this actual energy is actually extremely healing when it moves up through your solar plexus, your heart, your throat, your third eye, it actually cleanses the whole system and removes like energetic blockages and healing effects.
• 49:26
  SPEAKER_00: So the more orgasms and the more healing you will do.
• 49:29
  SPEAKER_00: They are also important because spiritually they really get you out of your head and into your body.
• 49:34
  SPEAKER_00: And as women, we spend so much time in our heads and not enough connected to our body.
• 49:38
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like I tell every one of my clients, and most like when I do your guys' readings, most women who come to me I'm like, get in your body, touch yourself.
• 49:49
  SPEAKER_00: Um, because at the moment of orgasm, you really lose your ego and the sense of being like isolated from the source, so it really puts you back into that, and it's a very like high state of energy, and so the electricity that runs through your spine and your whole nervous system kind of gives you that qi charge, that sexual chi life force energy, and that orgasmic glow from the inside.
• 50:12
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, guys, we are not done yet.
• 50:14
  SPEAKER_00: I know this is a this is a long episode, but guys, I have a lot to say about this.
• 50:19
  SPEAKER_00: Um, we're gonna keep going.
• 50:21
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so orgasmic mediation manifestation, meditation manifestation, also pronounced um, like om, it really lies on changing the way that we respond to sensation, right?
• 50:35
  SPEAKER_00: So it changes your brain, it strengthens the parasympathetic nervous system as opposed to the sympathetic one.
• 50:41
  SPEAKER_00: It affects your metabolism, your heart rate, your blood pressure, respiration, brain chemistry.
• 50:46
  SPEAKER_00: It brings about you know relaxation.
• 50:48
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, it is actually quite similar to mindfulness practices like metaphysic uh meditation in yoga when you look at like your brain flow after an orgasm, it's like that huh kind of state.
• 51:00
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, there are two scenarios when you know a woman pumps out oxytocin, childbirth and orgasm.
• 51:05
  SPEAKER_00: So we can't have children every day, but we can orgasm every day.
• 51:09
  SPEAKER_00: So it really bolsters the happy hormones like oxytocin, dopamine, and prolactin, all of which we know are are good.
• 51:16
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, symptoms of low oxytocin include things like low libido, sleep disturbances, weight gain, depression, all of those kinds of stuff.
• 51:25
  SPEAKER_00: So it's really like preventative and healing to have yes, multiple orgasms, but also orgasms frequently.
• 51:34
  SPEAKER_00: And actually, the female orgasm may like when they study it historically exist purely for the purpose of like connection and connection to the body.
• 51:44
  SPEAKER_00: One last thing I want to talk about before we end up this episode.
• 51:47
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like I've gone on probably for almost an hour.
• 51:49
  SPEAKER_00: I've had to pause a few times because of a cause, but I feel like this episode is gonna be like an hour long about sex, which we are all here for, I'm here for, why not?
• 51:57
  SPEAKER_00: Is orgasmic manifestation.
• 52:01
  SPEAKER_00: Guys, if you are not manifesting while you orgasm, please let the last time you orgasmed be the last time that you do not manifest while you orgasm me.
• 52:13
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like my god, if I were to count the amount of times I've said orgasm this episode.
• 52:17
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and that's because it is the most potent life force energy, it is the most powerful energy on the planet for us 3D humans at the current, you know, time in 2021.
• 52:27
  SPEAKER_00: So using that and channeling that to bring about more abundance, whether it is a house, an income level, a job, a career, or even just manifesting like a loving partner, when you're on the brink and you are orgasming, allow it to flash before your eyes.
• 52:44
  SPEAKER_00: Make a visual picture, call in all the things you want to call in during that time because as that energy is running through, the energy behind the manifestations is that much stronger.
• 52:56
  SPEAKER_00: Because if you think about how strong and how powerful it is in your body, that feeling of an orgasm, channel that to manifest anything you ladies want to manifest.
• 53:07
  SPEAKER_00: Honestly, every time, every time I do it, every time I call in something, you can call in whatever you want.
• 53:12
  SPEAKER_00: You can even call for it to be like a sunny day tomorrow.
• 53:14
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, whatever it is, but yeah, orgasmic manifestation is huge because of the power behind the well all orgasms, but especially the female orgasm, especially if you are doing all the tips that I said in this episode.
• 53:30
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I know I jumped around a little bit.
• 53:32
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like because of kosh I've had to jump around a bit, but you guys get the gist of everything I said.
• 53:38
  SPEAKER_00: Manifest when you orgasm.
• 53:40
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, guys?
• 53:41
  SPEAKER_00: I can't tell you like how many times, well, I can, every time, um I do it.
• 53:47
  SPEAKER_00: I call in something I want.
• 53:48
  SPEAKER_00: I'm manifesting, I'm visualizing whether it's a a trip, a house, a scenario, this, that, call it in, do all the other things in this episode.
• 53:58
  SPEAKER_00: I hope you guys learned something.
• 54:00
  SPEAKER_00: I will I want to do a full episode dedicated to Tantra.
• 54:04
  SPEAKER_00: I know I touched on it um briefly here.
• 54:07
  SPEAKER_00: We're also gonna do one on Pelvic Floor um with my friend Aaron in the next like month or so, so stay tuned for that.
• 54:15
  SPEAKER_00: If you enjoyed this episode, um I would love for you to leave a five-star rating and review, or if you enjoy any of my episodes, it really helps to, you know, get more eyes on the podcast.
• 54:25
  SPEAKER_00: I can share more value, help more people, not only have better orgasms, but as you know, we talk about health, spirituality, skin, hormones, all of this stuff.
• 54:35
  SPEAKER_00: Um, yeah, and I just really want to I want to help everybody, but I also want to help women have better orgasms.
• 54:40
  SPEAKER_00: That's one of the things, and it's not talked about enough.
• 54:42
  SPEAKER_00: So share this episode with your friends, um, you know, your female friend or also your boyfriend, your partner, um, so that they can have better orgasms too.
• 54:52
  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, I'm so so grateful for you guys.
• 54:54
  SPEAKER_00: I appreciate each, every download, review, etc.
• 54:58
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you're all so so magical, and yeah, I'm so so grateful for you.
• 55:02
  SPEAKER_00: So with that being said, I will see you guys in the next episode.