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What Are You Saying? - Part 3: Not From Mars or Venus, From God's Design · Couples’ Journey Podcast Channel

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  Welcome back to our series entitled, What Are You Saying? Today,
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  Rey shares a personal reflection that challenges the common misconception that
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  men and women are fundamentally from different worlds.
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  What if the real difference lies in God's purpose for both?
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  Stay tuned, because this insight could change how you view your marriage. Here's Rey.
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  You probably heard the popular metaphor, women are from Venus, men are from Mars.
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  It's so well known that we often cling to it as a reason when we can't seem
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  to find any other explanation for disagreements and frustrations we experience in our relationship.
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  This metaphor suggests that women and men think, feel, communicate,
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  and behave so differently, almost as if they come from a different planet.
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  We tend to use this idea as a comforting excuse when we're at odds with the
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  opposite sex, especially our spouse.
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  It helps us justify the frustration as if their difference are just part of
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  their nature and there's no way around it.
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  I used to buy into this metaphor myself until I started reading the Bible and
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  learning about how God compassionately created both men and women with their unique roles,
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  not from the perspective of Venus or Mars, but from God's wonderful design where
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  each has a purpose and a place,
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  meant to complement each other.
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  Recently, I encountered a situation with our household that almost triggered
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  me to be impatient with my wife.
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  On June 10, 2025, I scheduled my wife to renew her military ID.
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  We were told it takes about four weeks to get an appointment.
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  So I immediately looked for a slot that fit my work schedule.
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  I did the booking online just like I was supposed to and took a screenshot of
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  the appointment details.
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  I then texted her the date and time. Her appointment was set for July 28, mid-morning.
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  Fast forward. On July 23, during dinner, I reminded her about her appointment
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  and asked if she remembered the time. She said, no.
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  I told her I sent her the screenshot of her schedule, but she insisted I hadn't.
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  My patient was starting to wear thin.
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  However, I should scroll back to our messages, and sure enough,
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  I found the screenshot I sent her.
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  I resented to her, And that moment reminded me of the 1 Corinthians 13, 4-7.
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  It says, Love is patient, love is kind.
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  Love does not envy or boast. It is not arrogant or rude.
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  It does not insist on its own way. It is not irritable or resentful.
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  It does not rejoice at wrongdoing.
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  But rejoice with the truth. Love bear all things, believes all things.
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  Hope all things, endure all things.
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  That moment didn't just highlight my wife's shortcomings.
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  It presses deeper into my heart, revealing God's truth that He has been shaping within me.
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  As I commit daily to His Word, morning and evening, I see how quick conflict
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  can start over small things.
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  A wrong tone, an unpleasant reaction, all it takes.
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  Without grounding ourselves in God's Word and relying on the Holy Spirit,
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  Our flesh weakness can easily take over, causing pain instead of love.
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  I thank God that He saved me.
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  I wouldn't understand this perspective without Jesus Christ and my ongoing relationship with Him.
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  I know I still have a long way to go in improving, but little moments like this
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  are the testimonies of God's presence and work in my life. All the praise and honor belongs to Him.
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  My prayer is that more husbands will be willing to put down their walls and
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  accept Jesus Christ as a constant companion on this journey of transformation
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  toward a stronger marriage.
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  Before we close, we want to invite you to engage with us and support the Couples
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  Journey blog series podcast.
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  By following this channel, leaving comments, and sharing episodes with your family and friends.
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  You're helping us in our mission to transform marriages today.
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  Your support encourages more couples to seek God's guidance and grow stronger together.
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  Learn more about this movement on the website www.couplesjourney.org.
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  Thank you for being part of this journey. Together, we can make a difference.
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  Here's the final part of today's episode.
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  Thank you for joining us for part three of this series. Rey's story reminds
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  us that love rooted in God's word and empowered by the Holy Spirit can truly
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  transform our hearts and relationships.
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  Be sure to stay tuned tomorrow as it's Annie's turn to share her reflections for this series.
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  Until then, keep seeking God's guiding love in your marriage.