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Season 3 - Episode 294 - Are dark thoughts OK? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  If you hear some lots of baying from goats in the background and
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  some banging, that is because my neighbor's farm, his goats are
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  out very early this morning and they apparently are having a
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  quite a little squabble among themselves.
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  So if you're banging, it's just male goats arguing anyway.
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  OK, so let's talk about darker thoughts.
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  I've had lots of conversations recently with clients who have
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  brought up being around people or themselves having what they
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  would describe as darker thoughts.
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  And how do I describe a darker thought?
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  Well, I think it's just when we're not being on the positive,
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  we're being towards the negative.
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  We can call it a darker thought. But if you're having really dark
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  thoughts and they're extended for a really period, longer
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  period of time, you really do need to go talk to somebody and
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  get help for that. Because darker thoughts are part
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  of our process. Yes, we all have them, myself
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  included. But keeping them hanging on to
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  them and letting them become part of my normal philosophy and
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  headspace is not never a good idea.
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  Letting them take up residency in my head is never a good idea,
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  Never a good idea. It will drive you to a place
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  where you will not become healthy.
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  And that's why I'm saying if you're having those, then go do
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  something about it quickly because that is definitely
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  something to think about. Now I'm talking about normal.
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  Everyday these things just pop up.
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  I don't hang on to them for most of the day.
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  They go. They might pop up over time.
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  Over the course of a week or so. You might have them a few times
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  or you might be in a situation where you're dealing with one
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  person and over the course of a month those thoughts keep coming
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  up with that person. Over the course of a lifetime,
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  sometimes when you're around some people, thoughts come up.
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  Is this normal? Yes, it's very normal.
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  Our minds are not linear. Our minds are very circular, and
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  things will rotate through our minds.
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  We have to remember that. So it's incredibly important to
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  realize that your mind has the ability to heal itself, torture
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  itself. It's an amazing, amazing tool
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  and it can make us wonder, well, why do I keep looping back to
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  this? The real, the reality is it
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  comes back because we're trying to solve a problem.
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  We're trying to figure something out.
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  Problem solving is a huge part of what our brains do all day
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  long. And I mean, they keep us alive
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  for sure because they're running all the other functions in our
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  body that we don't think about. Breathing, you know, heart rate,
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  all of this. It all happens from that point
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  and what we have to recognize is that it's trying to give us
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  information when we are trying to solve a problem and it will
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  keep bringing us back to the emotion because the emotion is
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  part of the guidance system. So when you feel it, when you
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  are feeling that pull, when you are feeling that tug, when you
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  are feeling the negative source coming up, always, always,
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  always debrief yourself and say, where do I project this is
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  coming from? What is this trying to tell me?
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  What information is it sharing with me?
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  And once you get that portion out of your head on paper
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  somewhere, record it. I don't care what you do with
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  it. But once you get it out, then
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  you can actually sit and ask yourself, is this real or
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  perceived? Is this something that I need to
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  pay attention to or am I making this up?
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  And sometimes we do need to have other people tell us, no, you're
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  not making it up. That's not normal.
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  I've had more than one client over my course of, you know, 26
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  years of doing this, 27 years of doing this now that are very
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  clear on the fact that I gave them the freedom by telling
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  them, no, that's not normal. That's not a normal thing to
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  experience When they have, you know, a person in their life
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  that's doing something to them or providing them with, you
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  know, information about them themselves, saying, oh, well,
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  you're this and you're this and you're this.
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  But you know that that's not what that person is doing.
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  And I've said, no, that's not normal.
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  That's manipulation. And then they go, oh, OK, But if
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  they hadn't told me about it this whole time, they would have
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  thought that they were the person that was, you know, in
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  the wrong. And sometimes just talking about
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  it to somebody relieves the pressure, gives you the
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  information. I know for me that is freeing
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  that that's why I have a coach because I can go out and I can
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  speak to him and I can tell him. And he says to me, well, I don't
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  I don't find that that to be in line.
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  He's very, you know, as am I not right and wrong, but it's is it
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  in line? And sometimes you just have to
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  say, no, this is not in line. This is not normal.
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  And he will say that and he will say that needs to be looked at.
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  That needs to be course corrected as do I tell my
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  clients that? So the beginning of handling
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  these thoughts is recognizing where they're coming from.
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  They're normal unless they're overbearing.
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  And then you need to go get help outside of here listening to
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  this, you should seek other help.
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  But for the most of us, we can do this by debriefing it and
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  potentially, you know, talking to somebody else.
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  That's a neutral source for yourself.
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  But get it out of your head. Don't let it sit in there
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  because that's never helpful. OK, my friends, I hope you have
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  a blessed day and I'll see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.