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The Lonely Connected · Cannabis School

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  I'm Brandon. And I'm Jesse we're.
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  Cannabis school having cannabis infuse conversations with
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  everyday people. Cannabis companies.
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  Celebrities. And your mom?
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  Welcome to Welcome Back Kids. Oh, Heidi Ho.
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  We're doing a room. What's in my bowl?
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  It's a mix of things. We've got OG Kush and Halle
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  Berry. Oh fantastic, I love Halle
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  Berry. Those purpley notes.
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  I think I've got some Northern Lights and Tiger King.
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  Northern Lights? Where'd you get that?
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  I was donating this bag of flour so.
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  From the fairy. Yeah, from the cannabis fairy,
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  which, you know, like they say, no one gives away free drugs
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  ever. Never happened, you know that's.
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  Kind of funny because, like, you know, people I, I used to work
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  with, like, if I gave them like, or, you know, I gave them like
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  half a tube. Let's see.
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  There you go. Half of one of these tubes.
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  Yeah. They would always, like, pull
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  out their phone ready to Venmo me.
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  And I'm like, what are you doing?
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  They're all well, I need to pay you for this.
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  No, you don't. It's part of the culture.
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  Here you go, man. Have a little.
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  That's how you get them hooked. Right.
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  Well, it was like. Come back to me.
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  I What was it? The ice cream cake or whatever
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  it was I gave you. So that came from the little
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  gift of bag of gifted goodies. And I was like, well, there's so
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  much and I don't need all of it. So there was a buddy of mine, he
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  recently busted his knee doing something at work.
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  Now he's out of work for four to six weeks and he's going to
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  school like all this stuff. And I was like, man, that's
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  brutal. So I gave him like a gram of
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  concentrate. I gave him a little thing of
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  some flowers. I'm like, and he's like, oh,
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  thank you. I'm like, yeah, I just, I don't
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  know what to do with it all. Like, yes, I could smoke all of
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  it, but like, why? But.
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  There's a point. Yeah, I'd much rather share it
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  with people and go, oh, hey, you could use this and you could use
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  this and you could use this and just gift a little around
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  because I don't need to smoke that much.
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  I definitely have enough for me to smoke.
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  You know, well, you know, it's, it's like, it's like sharing a
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  joint. Like, I swear, dude, sharing a
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  joint makes it so much better. I love smoking a joint on my
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  own, don't get me wrong. But it's something about that
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  passing it, you know, to the left and, and, you know, just to
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  join the company. Yeah.
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  And then you light another one and you pass it around.
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  And I was telling my wife I'm like, yeah, these are really
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  meant. Like cannabis can be enjoyed on
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  its own, but it's really meant to be enjoyed with others.
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  Truly, I have the. Experience, yeah, like it's a
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  very connected. I did a joint this morning
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  before the episode and is on my own and it was fine.
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  Like it was a nice peaceful morning.
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  Me and Penny were just sitting out back and grass is green,
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  it's bright and sunny and it was a beautiful morning.
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  But it's not the same as sharing that connection that no passing
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  it back and forth. So I don't know what you guys
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  are smoking on this morning or tonight or today or whenever it
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  is that you guys are listening. Are you smoking a joint?
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  Do you smoke joints on your own or is that for you a community
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  experience as well? Well, and it's cool too, because
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  it depends on what you're smoking.
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  Like last night I smoked some of the ice cream cake.
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  Fantastic. I mean, it, it just, I call it
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  the time travel machine because before I know it, it's morning
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  and dude, it's like last night. Like I found this really good
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  book on recent studies of human sexuality and you know.
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  Because that. It's called sexfician sex.
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  Sex. I can't fucking pronounce it.
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  It's by Doctor Deborah so and it's just fascinating learning
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  about like just the lack of human connection that has gone
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  on and the quick blaming of Internet.
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  But the thing that kills a lot of it, they they were going over
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  what what this doctor was going over is the it's not the use of
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  porn, it's the over abusing of porn.
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  I learned about guys that are called goons.
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  Have you ever heard of that? I mean I've heard the term goon
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  but not in knowing what that might.
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  I have no idea what's it. Referring to these are these are
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  guys that can just jerk their gergen to no finish and they
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  just do it for hours just. For the dopamine pleasure that
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  they feel while they're Nope. They never come.
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  Yeah. Don't you still feel dopamine
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  during the experience? No, you get dopamine and
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  epinephrine. And I know there's a shift and
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  upon orgasm, but there's still pleasure through the entire
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  experience though. So I'd be curious about like
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  what levels of dopamine are being released?
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  Well, they've done. I mean that that's kind of hard
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  to be able to go through. The they'd have to test it in
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  the moment and I'm. Sure.
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  Well, they did brain scans. They did a lot of like FM RIS
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  and stuff like that, but. What is that test?
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  What is an FMR? On the brain, it shows the
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  activation inside the brain. So there are certain centers
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  that will light up during certain things, pain, pleasure,
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  etcetera. And so from eating things to
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  experiencing those things. But these guys are goons that
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  they got a death grip. They don't even feel anything
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  anymore. And the massive drop in
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  testosterone since the 80s and then and that's and she's like
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  that's not coming from porn, that coming from chemicals and
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  processed. Food and everything we eat and
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  put in our body that yeah. But it's just interesting going
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  through because the biggest point that she makes is that
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  humans aren't are built for connection and they're
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  disconnecting more than ever. Women are shifting roles with
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  men and it's not working out our our marriage rates show that and
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  and it's not even the idea of being married, it's the idea of
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  having children, which is very important for our ecosystem to
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  continue to sustain itself. What do you think has made
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  having children so unattractive? It kind of goes.
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  It's a bunch of different things.
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  You'll see across cultures that if there's a consistent war that
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  marriages go, that birth rates go down.
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  But these are in war-torn areas like Kosovo and HAD.
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  Tons of war. Not on our not on our continent,
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  but when it's done on there, that's where you start seeing a
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  drop. So they're like, OK, well, what
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  is it? So a lot of it is just truly
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  it's not being physically connected to the next person.
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  It the the statement in there. I mean, and I'm, I'm not halfway
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  through it. It's great book, but she she
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  goes into like the the big issues by being able to live in
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  a fantasy life online, by being able to do that starts to
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  diminish your testosterone and drive to even want to have sex
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  or meet other people. And more people today are lonely
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  than they've ever been. Here's the crazy thing too.
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  We're in a sex recession. People are having less sex these
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  days. Kids are having less sex these
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  days and they're like, well, great.
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  That. Well, it's.
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  But here's having sex. No, but kids are exposed to porn
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  extremely early. And they get into younger and
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  younger and yeah, Oh yeah, and my and it.
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  Sets unrealistic expectations for them about how porn should
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  be choking or. Sex.
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  How sex should be, Yeah. Well, like that one, but the
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  choking thing, like she goes into choking and how in Europe
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  there's been, I mean, quite a few deaths because girls are
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  they kind of think that guys like to.
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  Choke the same with the auto erotic asphyxiation and stuff.
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  And, and there are, there are some level of BDSM communities
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  where I'm sure there are and the 50 Shades of Grey and that shit,
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  you know, kind of put a very shitty portrayal, I think of
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  what BDSM might be. The movie series was pretty
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  garbage. And I've never watched it.
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  I had never until Emily and I were like, what do we watch one
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  day? And she was like, what about
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  this? I'm like, yeah, I've never seen
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  that. It sounds horrible.
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  I think a bottle of wine was involved.
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  So it made we made it through it.
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  But it was this thing of like, yeah, I understand that
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  everyone's got their kinks and, you know, like the great prophet
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  Ruth, don't yuck someone's yums. But I don't know.
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  It's not my, it's not my thing. And, and I don't think it's
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  everyone's thing. And like you said that porn
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  often gives these people with disconnected understandings of
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  connection a weird viewpoint of what sex sex is supposed to be.
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  So they go into it going, oh, this is this is an orgasm or
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  this is how I do it. The woman just likes me to pound
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  on her. And you're like, it's just a
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  very disconnected thing from the reality of like what a connected
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  sexual close relationship would feel like or be like.
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  And so it just like I said, it creates very unrealistic
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  expectations going into. It and the discussion in there.
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  And again, I mean I'm not quoting it, I'm just
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  paraphrasing it. But the biggest issues with that
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  is that it starts to be more violent and that's typically
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  associated with sociopathic behavior.
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  But it's because it's been deep seated a lot of these, you could
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  say that so. Do is it saying we have more
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  sociopaths now or what? No, no, you got to be able to
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  see like it's monkey see, monkey do.
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  So when I was growing up, porn was not readily available.
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  Like the most you could get on that was you had a friend who
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  had Playboys or something and and porn back then is considered
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  tasteful today. And it would be good.
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  Well, right. And but The thing is, it's like
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  you've got guys that believe that women should look and act a
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  certain way during sex because of their consumption of porn
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  since they were really young. Girls are open to doing
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  everything because it's just now socially acceptable.
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  But this is the weird thing. If sex is so open now, like it's
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  more open and more readily available to be able to watch
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  it, why are the rates of sex going down?
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  Why are the rates of the? World disconnected.
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  Well, that's why The thing is, is that none of them the there
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  was a really good point. We weren't taught Gen.
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  Xers, millennials like like you and and Steph, you guys weren't
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  taught connection. We modeled it and I was like,
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  OK, what does that concept mean? Well, the idea of modeling is
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  that we observed it, but nobody actually taught us.
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  They didn't say this is how you do this.
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  We observed and we did that because what happened back in
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  the day when you were a kid and you're like, hey, Dad, I, I, I
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  think I want another drink and go, go to the counter and order
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  your own drink. Here's the money.
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  Go, go order it. *** I don't want to do it.
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  Well, then you don't get it right.
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  Like that was probably some of the most teaching on
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  communication, but it was good because what did it do?
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  It taught you to be able to go. It's not scary.
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  I'm talking to another person and and there's a great fear of
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  people nowadays that. Have my kids struggle with that.
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  That's been something that for years and years has been
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  something I have been working on with them where it would be
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  like, all right, we're going to dinner.
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  You have to order your own drink.
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  All right now. No, you need to order your own
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  meal. Like it at first, you know, and
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  I understand my kids have had some very traumatic experiences.
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  So I was lenient in certain aspects of like, hey, we're
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  going to start and you're just going to order your drink.
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  I'll order your food, but you need to order your drink.
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  And then after a while of them getting comfortable ordering
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  their drink, it was like, all right, now I need you to order
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  your food and your drink. And just, you know, it is it's
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  that thing of like, no, I'm not going to baby you and walk you
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  through this, but I need you to just learn these simple things
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  on how to interact with another person going, Hey, I can go out
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  to a store and talk to someone and not be afraid that they're
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  going to do something scary. Like I can interact with human.
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  I don't think they're dude, they're worried about something
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  scary. It's more on the concept of
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  judgement on themselves. Am I going to say something
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  stupid? Am I going to be a dumb?
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  Are they going to think I'm a loser?
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  That's the only reason why is because they're worried about
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  what the other person would say, react to do.
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  It's like oh I'm afraid of whatever.
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  Because if they didn't care about what that other person
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  thought, they would 100% just be themself.
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  And look at it in the social aspect though, how many views
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  did I get? How many likes did I get?
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  I didn't get enough likes. Oh, I got some laughing emojis.
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  That sucks. They think I'm stupid.
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  That's how much our time is invested into the social realm
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  versus the physical realm. But The thing is, is that you
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  and I, we come from a time where we can do that.
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  We know how to do that. This is almost like embedded in.
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  People in our generations that. To be totally because they got
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  no no. But I mean, I'm saying like we
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  can default back too. Like we can have conversations.
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  People my age have conversations, they go, what
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  happened? Why don't people talk about
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  that? That's what.
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  They do 'cause they're not used, they're still used to having
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  that, but they're. Younger but younger people,
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  right? Early 30s, you know, going down
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  into their 20s. They don't know other than that.
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  They don't. They don't know a life of that.
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  They don't. They don't understand that
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  there's ways to be able to connect and there's this huge
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  drive for connection. Like every single like I, I
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  really got into a lot of the stuff, you know, because of
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  things that I'm involved with and just hearing a lot of these
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  like not just experts, but individuals who have struggled
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  with just that art of connection and being able to.
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  And now it has to be an art because it before it was just
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  something you did. Because again, right, we, we
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  memorized all, I memorized all the phone numbers of my friends
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  and my family everywhere. I mean, I knew exactly what it
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  was, right? I, I didn't need a calendar.
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  I knew when I had shit going on. Is it Tuesday?
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  Oh, I got to be here at 3:00, right.
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  Like your job, Like I remember having a job in the 90s where
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  you got your schedule for the month and nobody texts you.
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  There was no reminder. You just, you just knew your
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  schedule. You knew when you worked and
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  when you didn't. Yeah.
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  And and you know, the world was not much different than it is
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  today. And, and The thing is, is that
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  digital communication and digital connection is not the
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  same as physical connection. We release chemicals when we
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  actually are physically by somebody.
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  The. Well, you can feel their energy
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  from. That person.
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  If you're within that distance, you can actually feel it and
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  it's like, oh, you don't feel energy through your phone?
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  Yeah, exactly. You know, But, you know, it's
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  like that whole thing, like where businesses will do Zoom
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  calls, but they're actually pushing to have people back into
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  the office. Why?
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  I mean, it's like that. Hybrid model I think after many
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  years and I love remote, don't get me wrong, but there's
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  something about in person connection that you can't
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  replicate across sitting at your desk at home on a zoom meeting.
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  It's not the same. Well, yeah, take this for
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  example. Like, you know, everybody know
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  that? Well, they'll know now, You
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  know, I lost my job. Oh, well.
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  But. So we're both hunting now.
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  Yeah, yeah, I've got, I've got, I mean, the, the Connect by
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  shape thing is blowing up. I mean, I've got a ton.
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  I've got some businesses that already want me to come and do
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  things with them. So you know what, there might be
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  a silver lining there. But the thing was, is this like
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  at my work, I was the old guy there and I think like the
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  oldest person there was 34 maybe.
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  And then there's me and my boss. My boss is like 53 and I'm 47.
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  And so it was funny because when I worked there, like I like to
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  enjoy people I work with. So doing the shapes thing, I
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  even told them I'm like, look, I'm going to try and read
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  everybody and I want to know them and I want to see if I can
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  adopt to their communication style in real time.
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  And we're great. And the day that that that I had
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  to leave, right? I got let go.
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  My boss was really upset and so are the rest of the people I
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  left. I didn't say anything.
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  I only said things to a few people and I said, hey, it's not
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  a big deal. I just let go.
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  I just want you to know everything's cool, we're going
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  to keep in touch. Gave them a hug.
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  That was it. It was just two people because I
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  didn't want to make it a big deal.
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  Grabbed all my shit quietly put it in my bag and I walked out
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  like I didn't, I didn't cry. I wasn't pissed.
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  I was just like, you know, oh, well, I mean, it was, it was a
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  tough gig, dude. I mean, insurance is saturated
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  and very difficult to learn, but it was it was great, right?
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  But what's funny is the text messages I've been getting lady
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  lately. Now all of these kids are like
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  zoomers and zoomers. Well, they're born around a
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  certain period of time. Like you're you're born like.
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  Is that a Gen. Z is a.
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  Zoomer Yeah, yeah. Never heard that one.
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  I, I, I'm learning so much stuff from this book.
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  This lady's like dropping, dropping acronyms of today.
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  So I'm like, oh, I didn't know that's what it was, but yeah, it
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  it's funny because I get text messages from my ex and my, my
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  former Co workers and all of them are all this place sucks
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  without you here. Weird.
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  Like, well, then just talk to each other.
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  No, no, no. You were always the one who
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  started everything. A lot of these Gen.
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  Z ers don't even understand how to do that in a closed space.
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  And yeah, and a lot of it is it comes down to a lot of self
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  judgement, more self judgement than anything else.
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  And then the social pressure of screwing up, like just
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  completely feeling like a tool. Like you see, they, they link
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  those people who, who record at gyms and they're like angry if
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  somebody walks in front of it, that they probably have a severe
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  mental illness of bipolar because they need this constant
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  attention from the world. But maybe like 5 people are
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  looking at it. Somebody goes by and likes it.
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  And, and they've even learned from Facebook, YouTube that they
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  inflate the numbers. They inflate the numbers to make
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  it look bigger than it is. So when you see something go
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  viral, it's on purpose. It's on purpose.
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  It's like the hawk to a girl. Like honestly, I mean, how many
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  other girls said anything that was way nastier and funnier than
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  that? And then you got some buck too
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  skinny girl over there says Haktu and spit on that thing.
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  And then what happens? She becomes a millionaire and
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  then gets. She gets into.
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  A. Crypto scam and now.
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  There's so many of those. And now she's doing, oh, because
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  she's trying to pay the bills to live the lifestyle that she
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  thought. That's the thing.
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  Like that's another thing man, why they're so disconnected.
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  I I was thinking about that just change of lifestyle with income
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  changes and how when I mean, granted I was young and still
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  married and that, but I went from what I would consider
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  poverty level to at the time what I would consider or being
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  like actually decently well off in that moment.
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  Yeah. And it was this wow, good mix up
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  there, what the fuck was I talking about?
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  You're talking about, Oh shit, what were you talking about?
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  Damn it, Marijuana. Oh my gosh, you went.
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  From making nothing and then you started having a comfortable
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  living. Oh change of lifestyle and how I
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  had gone to a point that I could no longer afford to work where I
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  was working because they had gone from where my pay was 1900
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  a week to where it was 400 a week.
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  And and keep in mind guys, this is a long time ago, so this was
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  good. Money.
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  This was 2013. Yeah.
• 20:26
  So I was, you know, like there's no way I can provide for my
• 20:32
  family in this life that I've built and created now on 400
• 20:37
  dollars a week. There's no way in hell.
• 20:39
  And so it was this way of I had to go look and find somewhere
• 20:43
  else to try and keep my lifestyle the same.
• 20:46
  And it's weird to think of how often we change our lifestyle
• 20:52
  from like, oh, hey, we're comfortable here and truly we
• 20:54
  don't need all this extra shit. But then it's income changes and
• 20:58
  it's like, oh, but look at all the things that I could buy now
• 21:02
  that I couldn't buy then that I now have the money for and you
• 21:06
  get all that shit again. Most of the time it's this will
• 21:09
  make me happier. This will you know, I always
• 21:11
  wanted this. And then you get it and you're
• 21:13
  like, oh, OK, well that was cool.
• 21:16
  I guess it didn't really change much from the last TV, phone,
• 21:19
  game system, you know, random pair of shoes or whatever shit
• 21:23
  that it is going, oh, this will make my life so much happier.
• 21:27
  But then like at the same time, what do you do with your money
• 21:30
  if you're not spending it? Well, he should be, you know,
• 21:34
  putting aside some for flour. Yeah, and some for dads and some
• 21:38
  for edibles. And dad some.
• 21:41
  For like travel 401K and like, but I don't know, I passed that.
• 21:46
  Like what do you do if you're not spending your money then
• 21:49
  because you can only save so much and if you only need so
• 21:53
  much? I mean, it's at that point it's
• 21:55
  just starting to give shit back to everyone else going hey, I
• 21:59
  have more than I need but like, well.
• 22:02
  It's like in the book Fight Club and in the movie Fight Club,
• 22:05
  where he talks about like he really doesn't have a life.
• 22:08
  We don't talk about that. But he he talks about like how
• 22:11
  his apartment is a certain amount of money and he got these
• 22:16
  dishes that are handmade and the only reason why you know,
• 22:20
  they're handmade because they were hand blown dishes.
• 22:24
  You can see the bubbles in the glass.
• 22:26
  Just to let you know that that. So they spent, he spent all this
• 22:29
  money on that. He goes, I've got the best TV,
• 22:32
  best couch, best bed, best everything.
• 22:35
  Yet my fridge is full of condiments because I never eat
• 22:40
  at my home. Yeah.
• 22:42
  And I spend all my time alone. And he's an insurance claim
• 22:46
  adjuster. And so he just goes out and
• 22:48
  details Rex. So when he's doing that, he's
• 22:52
  just like, all the time. He's just alone, traveling from
• 22:56
  one city to the next. Kids does this thing.
• 22:59
  Yeah, yeah. It's super lonely.
• 23:00
  And so it's like, you know, what do these people do that are
• 23:03
  lonely? Well, they buy lots of random
• 23:06
  shit. They do a lot of like travel,
• 23:09
  which is great, but when you're traveling alone, that's not
• 23:12
  cool, right? It's kind of, I mean, unless
• 23:15
  that's you, if you're a lone wolf, like you feel better
• 23:18
  having a cabin in the woods and telling everybody else and like.
• 23:21
  Just you and your dog or your cat or whatever on your van
• 23:24
  traveling around the country. Like, yeah, whatever.
• 23:27
  That's fine. Cool.
• 23:28
  That's you. A lot of us don't aren't used to
• 23:31
  that. They need that connection with
• 23:33
  people. They want to be around that.
• 23:34
  That's why I've always loved cities.
• 23:37
  I just love being around people and meeting new people and
• 23:40
  getting new experiences and all that fun stuff.
• 23:44
  And it, it really is just that that's just the way I am.
• 23:47
  I'm I'm very social on that side, but I can see why people
• 23:51
  are are struggling really bad right now.
• 23:53
  I can see why it's not their fault necessarily.
• 23:55
  And we could say the meteor and like that.
• 23:57
  It's it's the new thing, dude. And the new thing.
• 24:01
  Is being lonely. Yeah, I I just finished a book
• 24:04
  by Brené Brown. Is daring to lead or something
• 24:09
  like that. Leading greatly, something like
• 24:11
  that. But she was talking about how
• 24:13
  she did a talk and a bunch of C level and she was really afraid
• 24:18
  to go and actually do this talk because she didn't realize that
• 24:22
  it was a bunch of C level people.
• 24:24
  So when she got in there and realized who it was, she was
• 24:28
  like, my thing is on loneliness and feeling inadequate and short
• 24:33
  come like not living up to what you're like, all of that.
• 24:36
  She went and talked to the person before and they're like,
• 24:40
  no, no, no, You don't think everyone out there has like felt
• 24:44
  inadequate or short or whatever it is that came from there or,
• 24:49
  or lonely. And she was like, oh, and she
• 24:52
  peeked out behind the curtain and she saw this guy that she
• 24:55
  had known from a a years ago when she'd gone through that.
• 24:59
  And she was like, oh, but he's out there and I know his story
• 25:03
  and his struggles. And yeah, he's felt that way.
• 25:05
  So I guess if he has, there's a good possibility that all these
• 25:09
  other really successful people have felt lonely as well.
• 25:14
  And it was this thought of like, you know, how many of us, Gen.
• 25:17
  Z, Gen. X, Gen. whatever, are feeling
• 25:20
  lonely right now, feeling disconnected, whether it's
• 25:23
  technology or just the way the world is or the fact that we
• 25:26
  just don't feel like we have a connection to anyone anymore.
• 25:29
  Yeah. Like that's it's got to be this
• 25:32
  horrible epidemic of global like scale if we truly are all so
• 25:37
  lonely as as people. Well, and, and some of the
• 25:41
  argument is, is that during COVID we learn to just self
• 25:45
  regulate as much as we could. And because of that we saw huge
• 25:51
  decline in children's retention of education or anything like
• 25:56
  that. Learning has gone down there.
• 25:58
  Less people are even trying to graduate high school.
• 26:02
  Yeah, sure. I mean, we can argue that school
• 26:04
  is bad, but, you know, there's still people that are coming out
• 26:07
  of it with something. But boys are more likely.
• 26:11
  They're four times less likely to graduate high school, four
• 26:14
  times less likely to go to college or anything like that.
• 26:17
  Boys. Boys.
• 26:19
  Then what? Like a time frame or when?
• 26:22
  Oh, OK. Against women because women are
• 26:25
  going back to. School, they're way more.
• 26:27
  Educated, but we also have a lot of 30 something year old women
• 26:32
  who are unmarried, don't even have a boyfriend and they're mad
• 26:36
  because well, these guys don't make as much money as I do.
• 26:41
  When we see a big drop in a lot of men feeling like they have
• 26:45
  any purpose and so the it's unevenly disproportionate
• 26:50
  because now we have really rich guys.
• 26:51
  I'm not defending poor guys from that side.
• 26:54
  What I'm saying is, is that when it's unbalanced like that,
• 26:57
  because typically women look at men as protectors and providers,
• 27:00
  not by some social construct, but just by nature alone.
• 27:04
  You'll see that in the animal world and everything like that.
• 27:07
  They're always looking for that. Subconsciously they want to know
• 27:11
  if they can be protected and be provided for.
• 27:13
  It doesn't always mean like money in cars and things like
• 27:15
  that, but just the basic necessities.
• 27:18
  That's it's a typical attraction that a woman will have for a
• 27:21
  man, right? And that is based on those
• 27:23
  studies, not me just pontificating and waxing
• 27:27
  poetically here, right? But I'm I'm even you're looking
• 27:30
  at that now where you start to see a massive drop on these
• 27:34
  things. It's disproportionate and women
• 27:36
  will never marry down, but men will marry down.
• 27:40
  Like you can see a millionaire marry some girl from McDonald's
• 27:44
  or the girl was like a a bartender or worked at, you
• 27:47
  know, Red Robin as a waitress, yet she married this millionaire
• 27:52
  out of nowhere. And it's.
• 27:53
  Weird to like think of classism within marriage and that too.
• 27:58
  And you know how people are like, Oh, I don't break out of
• 28:00
  this because it's it kind of hasn't broken away in some
• 28:05
  aspects. I was, I watched Ridgerton with
• 28:08
  Emily, which is this like European colonial times thing.
• 28:12
  And it is very much so of like, oh, you don't marry outside of
• 28:17
  your class, outside of your status and and where you're at,
• 28:20
  you kind of stay in your lane. And it's interesting to see a
• 28:24
  lot. I mean, I guess there are
• 28:26
  sometimes celebrities you see that have like a random ass
• 28:31
  person, nobody on their arm who who was that?
• 28:34
  It doesn't happen always, but it does.
• 28:36
  Like you do see it sometimes and you're like, holy shit.
• 28:39
  Like that's not common in the world we live in.
• 28:43
  But it's kind of cool to see when you do see it because
• 28:45
  you're like, hey, that's someone who doesn't give a shit about
• 28:48
  this like hierarchy or how much dollar bills you got in your
• 28:52
  pocket. It's more about the human
• 28:55
  probably, than it is about status or the title or the brand
• 29:00
  that comes attached with that. Oh yeah, no, recently I heard
• 29:04
  about Lana Del Rey. Which, OK, yeah.
• 29:07
  She married a construction guy. Whoa.
• 29:10
  Right, she's with this construction guy and they keep
• 29:13
  their life private. I do like her voice, she's got a
• 29:16
  pretty voice. Yeah, but I think.
• 29:18
  It's that's cool though. That it's, you know, and that's,
• 29:21
  but that's a rare thing. That's a rare thing because this
• 29:24
  idea of, and it's, I mean, they could even say it's genetic
• 29:28
  where there's this caste system that you look at like, you know,
• 29:33
  back in the day, if you were part of a tribe and you couldn't
• 29:35
  defend or fight or or hunt you, you were worthless as a man.
• 29:40
  In the tribe, yeah, he'd be a scavenger or like, dude, I don't
• 29:43
  know what. They would.
• 29:44
  They would kick him out. I mean, if you couldn't provide
• 29:47
  for the community in one way or another.
• 29:50
  Like if you can't do something. Right.
• 29:53
  And it's it's typically that, but when we have a world of a of
• 29:57
  this perceived abundance because it is perceived abundance.
• 30:01
  So it's I was explaining it to my son.
• 30:03
  I'm like, isn't it crazy that a bunch of stacks of paper, not
• 30:07
  even anymore, it's just numbers on a screen.
• 30:09
  It's not even real. It's.
• 30:11
  Ones and zeros. Yeah, exactly.
• 30:13
  But I said isn't that crazy how you can get this month and they
• 30:16
  go, well how much do you want for this vehicle?
• 30:18
  We would like a stack of of paper dollars this high.
• 30:23
  OK, yeah, I can provide that. And you give them that and they
• 30:25
  go, all right, that's a fair trade for metal and glass and
• 30:30
  electrical components. That sounds great.
• 30:34
  Thank you for this stack of paper and.
• 30:36
  These ones and zeros. Yeah, that was just one of the
• 30:39
  zeros. Could you, could you transfer me
• 30:40
  some ones and zeros? That would be great.
• 30:43
  And it's literally like living in the matrix at that point,
• 30:45
  right. But I said it's it's so funny
• 30:48
  how we define value today compared to how value was 100
• 30:53
  and 5200 years ago. Value then was based off of what
• 30:57
  you could do in the community. What?
• 31:00
  What could you offer? Yeah, like, like how many
• 31:03
  blacksmiths do you know? I I know one and he lives in
• 31:07
  Florida. You OK?
• 31:08
  I was like, you know, a blacksmith.
• 31:09
  Holy shit. Yeah, I know a blacksmith.
• 31:12
  I mean, he's a he learned it on his own.
• 31:14
  He used to have a catering company and he just got sick of
• 31:19
  the grind and he started learning how he made it.
• 31:23
  He had a whole forge built in his backyard and he got really
• 31:27
  into it. And then he had this, this
• 31:31
  trigger. And he goes, fuck it.
• 31:33
  I'm selling my company. I'm moving to Florida and I'm
• 31:35
  building a farm. I'm just going to live off the
• 31:37
  land. He's like, because he he
• 31:39
  realized that through smithing, where at first they were crude
• 31:43
  and ugly, by the end he was making beautiful masterpieces.
• 31:48
  Yeah. And back then, like if you were
• 31:51
  a blacksmith, you were, you're a big deal, like and people and
• 31:56
  how did you live over there? It wasn't coins.
• 31:58
  It was like, we've got 5 chickens and a couple eggs.
• 32:01
  Can you fix our acts? You know, And it's like, yeah,
• 32:04
  yeah, no problem. Like I get it's all.
• 32:06
  Bartering of just like I'll trade you this shit for this
• 32:08
  shit. But but it wasn't shit for just
• 32:11
  shiny shit, right? It was like.
• 32:13
  Because it wasn't ATV or a phone.
• 32:15
  It was like I need this to live or to build this or to create
• 32:18
  this. Will you do that?
• 32:20
  And if that's what we were doing is putting our money into I'm
• 32:24
  building, creating, doing instead of like random shit,
• 32:28
  we'd probably feel more fulfilled.
• 32:30
  Our life would feel we'd have less shit and clutter in our
• 32:34
  homes and we'd be doing something that we probably
• 32:37
  really love, whether it's on the side or whatever, because it's
• 32:41
  and then again, mastery of, oh, I did this and now I bought a
• 32:45
  home and that's what I do. You might find that that hobby
• 32:50
  is now your full time thing. We'll we'll think about that,
• 32:54
  man. I mean, how many people out
• 32:55
  there do their thing and people give them money for it?
• 32:59
  And they're just like, you know, I, I want that.
• 33:01
  And they want to live vicariously through those
• 33:03
  individuals saying, well, if like Gary Vee, right, one in
• 33:07
  particular, you go back five years and he's like, fuck that
• 33:11
  and fuck this. And if you're not fucking
• 33:12
  working 18 hours a day and sleeping one hour, then waking
• 33:15
  up to study the rest of the three, then you're a piece of
• 33:18
  shit. And then now he's like, they
• 33:20
  have tea with Gary and he's like, what's what's going on
• 33:22
  with your feelings? How are you doing?
• 33:24
  You're like what the fuck is this like?
• 33:26
  Tea with Gary, Yeah. They flip flop, they start flip
• 33:30
  flopping because people want to live vicariously through
• 33:33
  somebody else because they're just like, well, I want to be
• 33:36
  that one, but I don't have the courage to do it.
• 33:39
  It's like influencers. Influencers are ridiculous,
• 33:42
  right? Because they they don't do
• 33:44
  anything. They don't do anything.
• 33:47
  And everybody wants to make fun of them because they got into
• 33:49
  it. Like the saddest thing I've ever
• 33:51
  seen. You ever heard of the Island
• 33:52
  Boys? Maybe is that a man got.
• 33:56
  They're just these random kids and their hair all weird and
• 33:59
  shit, tattoos all over their body, face and everywhere.
• 34:03
  And they started doing like weird random tik toks and stuff
• 34:07
  like that and they got a little famous from it.
• 34:09
  Then they started getting really famous and then.
• 34:12
  Sacred lives of island boys. Well dude, I'm not you're,
• 34:17
  you're not fucking far. What happens is they go from
• 34:20
  peak fame to then people making fun of them, then celebrities
• 34:24
  making fun of them and then people clowning on them that
• 34:27
  they start to lose all their money.
• 34:29
  But they're addicted to this life that they think is sports
• 34:33
  cars and big houses. And So what do you do when
• 34:37
  you're not making that money and you're a little slow in the mind
• 34:41
  and you got tattoos all over your face?
• 34:43
  Well, you do the best thing you can.
• 34:44
  You create only fans contact with your brother.
• 34:47
  Oh boy, they were and they were, you know, they're just like
• 34:51
  doing it for the. Ground.
• 34:52
  But do they make a lot of money? Are they happy?
• 34:56
  No. Fuck out there bro.
• 34:58
  They're, they're just like, and, and they get clowned on every
• 35:01
  time. Like you see these like videos
• 35:03
  of them and, and social things and they're just like, fuck you.
• 35:06
  And it's just like this idea that you've got to do everything
• 35:10
  you can to make a dollar, right? It's like, I don't think I'm
• 35:14
  going to suck my bro's Dick for like 20 bucks.
• 35:17
  Nope, Nope. It's not going to happen.
• 35:20
  And no. It's sad, it's sad and it's just
• 35:25
  and it and it's sad because like even the people that are are
• 35:29
  supposedly running the world right now, it's the same thing.
• 35:33
  They are a part of this sickness that all of us have.
• 35:37
  And it's just, I'm glued to what you're doing, not what I'm
• 35:42
  doing. I'm glued to what you're doing.
• 35:44
  And I'm ready to judge you and place shade on you, all that
• 35:47
  stuff. Like there's, there's never this
• 35:50
  lull of, well, you know, maybe people fuck up, right?
• 35:53
  Like just recently my son, he, he loves Hulk Hogan and, and the
• 35:58
  wrestling stuff, but he loves Hulk Hogan.
• 36:00
  And he's going to do this whole like presentation at a school
• 36:03
  about Hulk Hogan's life and stuff.
• 36:05
  And he's got a, a whole costume and a fake handlebar mustache.
• 36:09
  Like, he's got the whole stick, right?
• 36:11
  And then he found a YouTube video about Hulk Hogan, you
• 36:16
  know, the sleeping around on his wife and not being good to other
• 36:20
  people and being saying racist shit one time.
• 36:23
  And he was drunk and he was like really disturbed.
• 36:27
  And all I said to him, I was like, yeah, people make
• 36:28
  mistakes, but we don't need to judge them after they've done
• 36:31
  that. That's not for us to do.
• 36:33
  We're going to be sadly disappointed if we take a
• 36:36
  magnifying glass through all of our heroes lives because I would
• 36:40
  feel that every single human has said something stupid, hateful,
• 36:45
  angry, something in their life towards another human.
• 36:48
  They've done something that maybe wasn't their best foot
• 36:52
  forward and that's OK. That definitely happens to every
• 36:56
  single one of us as humans. Yeah, imperfect.
• 37:00
  We're I think that's what we do moving forward.
• 37:04
  Well, and that's that's what it is, right?
• 37:05
  I mean, even, you know, I won't go too far into this one, but
• 37:10
  the word sin is missing the mark and the word repentance is
• 37:15
  changing your mind. That's it.
• 37:17
  So you're changing a course. That's what those meaning of
• 37:20
  those words. I mean, those are the English
• 37:22
  translation. If you go into the Hebrew
• 37:23
  translations, it sounds much cooler.
• 37:25
  But you know, it's, it's this thing where we're always judging
• 37:29
  ourselves and judging others. So we're in this perpetual we we
• 37:33
  allow ourselves to get in this perpetual loop of negativity.
• 37:36
  And so we just start to assume that everybody's against us.
• 37:39
  We start to assume that the other persons views are wrong
• 37:42
  and minds right instead of just going, Hey, whatever, like
• 37:46
  you're really not affecting me. I mean, are you killing people?
• 37:48
  Are you beating babies? Like what, what are you doing?
• 37:51
  And it's, and then you start to miss the bigger picture and
• 37:54
  stuff starts seeming like conspiracies, like have you seen
• 37:57
  all the shit with the orbs? That's fucking nuts.
• 38:00
  Like metal orbs going around and people are taking videos of it.
• 38:04
  And here's another crazy thing, ticks.
• 38:07
  There is a huge outbreak of Lone Star ticks that are extremely
• 38:11
  aggressive and they're killing animals, and they're finding
• 38:14
  boxes in farms and they're finding boxes, like a box full
• 38:20
  of them just left there. And there's this, like, people
• 38:25
  are like, are they trying to do something?
• 38:27
  But just recently, there was a release of a patent that's
• 38:30
  coming out for a vaccine for Lyme disease.
• 38:34
  And then now we have this massive outbreak.
• 38:36
  Lyme disease, yeah. And these are super aggressive
• 38:39
  ones. That's why they the Lone Star
• 38:41
  tick was created like they genetically spiced it to be able
• 38:46
  to give off. Like it gives off scurvy things
• 38:49
  like you feel really lethargic, sick, you have pain all over
• 38:53
  your body. So here's another thing.
• 38:54
  When I worked with the Rising Health, learning that Lyme
• 38:57
  disease is typically misdiagnosed as Ms. or as what
• 39:05
  else is it the fibromyalgia? Is that because they don't think
• 39:09
  that that's a tick bite potentially?
• 39:12
  They don't know. They don't know.
• 39:13
  They sometimes they don't even know.
• 39:15
  And they'll go out. Like there was a guy, remember
• 39:18
  the trampoline guy I worked with years ago?
• 39:21
  So Dave, he in the 90s, he was up in the Redwood forest and
• 39:28
  he's just weird. And he was picking up pieces of
• 39:30
  wood to show his kids he could be strong and throw it.
• 39:33
  Yeah, one of these logs had a fuck ton of ticks and they fell
• 39:36
  down his shirt and he he got bit by like 9 of them and he by the
• 39:41
  time they got down the mountain he was so like sweating and just
• 39:46
  felt he was poisoned, right. So they get him to the hospital
• 39:49
  and they find out he's got all these ticks in his back.
• 39:51
  They remove the ticks and he lives this just like super, just
• 39:57
  lethargic life for a while. And then he's just like, OK, he
• 40:01
  starts working really hard. He starts getting getting back
• 40:04
  into shape and stuff. And then he's walking up these
• 40:07
  flight of stairs. And this guy had the worst luck
• 40:11
  back then. He's walking up his flight of
• 40:13
  stairs in Los Angeles to go to this networking group because
• 40:16
  the elevator didn't go past a certain floor, so he had to walk
• 40:19
  the rest of it. And he walked through this part
• 40:21
  of the building that was being done construction through it
• 40:24
  with asbestos. Everywhere.
• 40:26
  So he gets up there, he's having a hard time breathing hard, his
• 40:30
  lungs are fucked up, his back's fucked up.
• 40:32
  He starts bouncing on his trampoline and fixes his whole
• 40:34
  body like and he created all these workouts and now being the
• 40:37
  guy's like in his, he's probably in his late 70s, early 80s now
• 40:41
  and his body from his neck down still looks like he's like a
• 40:44
  triathlete and all he does is bounce every day, but he.
• 40:48
  Was able to but just reminds me of the trampoline that grandma
• 40:51
  and grandpa used to have in their front end some way.
• 40:54
  Always of like little tiny bounce aerobics one and yeah.
• 40:58
  It it was a big fad during then it came back for a little while.
• 41:01
  It's kind of around now. They have like these rubber band
• 41:04
  runs. And the guy was always telling
• 41:05
  me like, it's bad for you. But you know, you hear about
• 41:07
  that like that's a horrible thing to happen to somebody
• 41:09
  where you know, he's like, if I didn't do rebounding, I'm sure I
• 41:13
  would feel the effects. But when I worked with this
• 41:15
  clinic and they showed me hundreds of case studies of
• 41:19
  people coming in saying I have Ms. and and that's what the
• 41:24
  symptoms show. But then when they start doing
• 41:25
  other tests, it shows the Lyme disease and doing IVIV infusions
• 41:30
  with certain cocktails that they put within it, certain vitamins
• 41:33
  and all that other stuff and they blast it.
• 41:36
  They're able to get rid of it within about a year.
• 41:39
  And you see, like I have met four people that have been in
• 41:42
  remission of Lyme disease for over 8 years.
• 41:45
  And they're just like, they would come in because I would
• 41:47
  interview everyone. And that's, it's so nuts because
• 41:50
  you think about that like as we're distracted with the world
• 41:53
  that we're in right now. Even that even.
• 41:55
  Well, I mean, but it's like, what, what are what are those
• 41:58
  people doing in power, right? And it's not the government.
• 42:02
  I don't think it's, you know, I think a lot of it is, is
• 42:04
  companies that stand to make more money, right?
• 42:07
  There's no reason for them to do that.
• 42:10
  But people are like Nope. Yeah, and he asked me if the US
• 42:14
  has a mafia, and I thought about it for a second and I was like,
• 42:17
  probably businesses. Businesses.
• 42:19
  Yeah, well, the Mafia has never gone away.
• 42:21
  No, but like it's probably changed and a lot of that still
• 42:25
  comes through in businesses. So I would wager that with a lot
• 42:30
  of, like you said, a lot of the people behind things are
• 42:34
  businesses. So I think a lot of the people
• 42:37
  or things that would be in that realm are probably still
• 42:40
  businesses. Well, why do people typically
• 42:43
  kill? It's usually over money, right?
• 42:45
  Value something that they want in power.
• 42:48
  Yeah. You know, and that's, that's
• 42:50
  always been that way. But it and now it just seems
• 42:53
  like, I don't know, we're we're so fixated on what the other
• 42:56
  person has. We're coveting the other person
• 42:59
  here. We're really not trying to
• 43:01
  befriend the other person like I think it was.
• 43:04
  I don't know. I, I, I think it's funny.
• 43:06
  When I was growing up in the 90s, I always thought about like
• 43:08
  the future being so cool. Like they told us like, you
• 43:11
  know, we're going to have fucking flying cars and shit.
• 43:13
  We're. Going to Back to the Future,
• 43:14
  like I'm going to have a hot board.
• 43:16
  Yeah, yeah, yeah, dude. We all fucking thought that like
• 43:20
  it's coming out next year, dude. My parents are not going to get
• 43:22
  it for me, but it's it really is.
• 43:24
  It's just I, I just and I hate keeping beating this dead horse.
• 43:28
  And I promise guys, we'll talk about so we'll have a guest on
• 43:30
  next. But you know, it's, it's really,
• 43:33
  it's just crazy and it that people are taking connection so
• 43:39
  lightly, yet when they're alone, they're like, well, this sucks.
• 43:42
  And you know, that's part of like the cannabis community.
• 43:45
  Like you guys have this amazing ability to be able to make
• 43:49
  friends like instantaneously, like post up on somewhere
• 43:53
  saying, Hey, it's 4/20 at my place.
• 43:56
  Who's coming, right? And you show up.
• 43:58
  It's not like people are like who said they got 4:20?
• 44:01
  I'm going to fucking shoot them, right?
• 44:02
  Maybe, maybe you guys see the motherfuckers that are trying to
• 44:05
  do that shit, but still, like my majority of the people are going
• 44:08
  to be pretty chill. I mean, that's the way I look at
• 44:10
  it. And I've never been like around
• 44:12
  cannabis people. They were just like, yeah, we
• 44:14
  want to rob you. Yeah, they just.
• 44:17
  Want to be chill? They're just like, hey, man,
• 44:18
  this is cool. It, it, it just, I don't know,
• 44:22
  man. I I I think it's almost in this
• 44:24
  sounds funny, but it's almost a responsibility that we have
• 44:27
  within the cannabis community to be able to not just demystify
• 44:31
  like what they may think of as bad, but on the other side.
• 44:35
  It's just like, hey, well, if this is such a community thing,
• 44:38
  then why am I not part of a community?
• 44:40
  I mean, it's almost the easiest thing in the world to do is to
• 44:43
  be a part of community. Yeah.
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  Sweet part of ours TuneIn Tuesday.