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Speaker 1: Hey, guys, I made something that reminds me of do
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Speaker 1: and this is it. It's little flowers, preserved and stunning
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Speaker 1: for eternity, just like you, my flower child, just like you.
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Speaker 1: But actually Caleb picked me these flowers and I put
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Speaker 1: and I dried them in a book and I put
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Speaker 1: them in this little class case and now it's just
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Speaker 1: sitting right here. Welcome back to the channel. I've just
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Speaker 1: you guys have really seemed to like the Reddit Saturdays,
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Speaker 1: so we're just gonna continue to do that until you
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Speaker 1: guys don't want me to do that anymore. I do
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Speaker 1: this on my second channel to go to call me
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Speaker 1: Chris too if you want to see more of this. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: let me know what else you guys want to see
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Speaker 1: on Saturdays down below. But today we're reading Reddit, so
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Speaker 1: let's do it. My sister thinks I'm not considering her
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Speaker 1: feelings while proposing. Are proposing your sister? I'm confused? So
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Speaker 1: I twenty six female planning to propose to my boyfriend
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Speaker 1: twenty seven male. Oh wow, okay, yeah, okay, that would
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Speaker 1: have been crazy. Two sisters getting married in their lesbians.
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Speaker 1: I know there's a book out there somewhere with that shit. Anyway,
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Speaker 1: we've been dating for four years now and he's the
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Speaker 1: most important person in my life. We've discussed marriage. He
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Speaker 1: has been very eager to propose and has been saving
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Speaker 1: money for some time. I think he's an artist and
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Speaker 1: doesn't make quite as much, but he's way too proud
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Speaker 1: to let me pitch in well. Around last month, his
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Speaker 1: mom had a surgery. I won't go into details, but
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Speaker 1: it costed his parents quite a lot. She doesn't have insurance.
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Speaker 1: I don't know why. He transferred the money from his
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Speaker 1: own savings as well, but didn't tell me that. I
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Speaker 1: even offered to help. Oh. I hope she's okay the mom,
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Speaker 1: and that's very sweet of him. That day, I found
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Speaker 1: him crying in our room. I keep reading. He told
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Speaker 1: me all this and kept on apologizing that the money
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Speaker 1: he was saving for the ring had to go into
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Speaker 1: helping his mom, and now he can't propose on our
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Speaker 1: anniversary as he was planning to. It was so heartbreaking
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Speaker 1: for me to see him like this, to be on
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Speaker 1: I don't give a damn about that ring. I want
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Speaker 1: to marry this guy, and i'd have done that in
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Speaker 1: a courthouse if he'd agree. I told him all that,
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Speaker 1: but for him. Things like these are important. I actually
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Speaker 1: kind of yelled at him as well for worrying about
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Speaker 1: the wrong reason. Loll. Literally, the sweetest man in the world,
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Speaker 1: just marry me. It's stupid, loving bath start up. He
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Speaker 1: told me to give him some time, as he wants
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Speaker 1: to get me the best he can. But I've decided
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Speaker 1: to propose on our anniversary. Okay, all right, take it
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Speaker 1: into your own hands. I'm doing it on a beach.
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Speaker 1: We used to visit a lot as kids back in
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Speaker 1: our hometown. I'm picking up the ring next week. Here
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Speaker 1: comes my sister twenty eight female so so far because
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Speaker 1: I always had to interrupt and get my own input,
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Speaker 1: you know, because I think it's fun that way, okay,
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Speaker 1: And I think it's sweet that you want to propose
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Speaker 1: to him too, And I don't think he'll be upset
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Speaker 1: or anything. But I also feel like for him, he
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Speaker 1: really wants to do this for you, but you just
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Speaker 1: want to marry him. I don't know. I don't think
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Speaker 1: anybody's in the wrong necessarily here, but I could see
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Speaker 1: him feeling like, oh, I wanted to propose to you,
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Speaker 1: and then I can totally see your side, like, let's
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Speaker 1: just get married. Like I don't even care, which is
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Speaker 1: great too, I don't even know. Okay, let's just read.
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Speaker 1: Let's just read what the sister has to say, because
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Speaker 1: that's not even what this story is about. It's not
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Speaker 1: about whether he's going to be upset or she's going
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Speaker 1: to be whatever. It's about the sister. So I need
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Speaker 1: to show up. She had multiple failed relationships and still
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Speaker 1: lives with our parents. She saw me looking at a
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Speaker 1: ring photo when she was visiting me this Christmas, so
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Speaker 1: I told her I was planning to propose at the beach.
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Speaker 1: She went silent for a minute and asked me if
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Speaker 1: I was kidding her. Apparently she caught her boyfriend of
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Speaker 1: two years with someone else on that same beach and
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Speaker 1: hates that place. Now I wasn't aware of this. This
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Speaker 1: breakup was in September, and back then she told me
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Speaker 1: he was cheating and left her. She now wants me
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Speaker 1: to cancel this whole thing and do it somewhere else.
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Speaker 1: I admit, when her relationship ended she took it pretty hardly.
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Speaker 1: We all liked him and my sister was convinced he
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Speaker 1: was the one, so the breakup was really bad for her.
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Speaker 1: So your sister is the main character in your story.
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Speaker 1: According to her, got it, Yes, it sucks what happened
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Speaker 1: to her, but I don't know why that should affect
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Speaker 1: my play. Me and my boyfriend visit that place every
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Speaker 1: time we're there, and it holds some importance to both
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Speaker 1: of us. She's now calling me selfish and how I
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Speaker 1: only want to hurt her by reminding her of that trauma. Okay, okay.
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Speaker 1: She then proceeds to talk about my boyfriend and how
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Speaker 1: he can't propose and should be ashamed. Okay, so she's
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Speaker 1: a mega bitch. Yeah, okay, so he, you know, just
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Speaker 1: taking care of his mother's medical bills and saying that
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Speaker 1: he feels horrible about that and will save up enough
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Speaker 1: to propose, but that makes him a terrible person and
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Speaker 1: he should be ashamed. Got it, got it, locked it in.
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Speaker 1: I shut that down quickly and told her to drop
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Speaker 1: that topic. The rest of the day, she was moody,
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Speaker 1: and when she left, she was crying and called me heartless.
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Speaker 1: She's now texting me and saying me getting engaged isn't
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Speaker 1: important enough and I need to change the destination. No, no,
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Speaker 1: I need advice on how to deal with her. Cut
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Speaker 1: her out of your life. Just just kindding. Just sit
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Speaker 1: her down, you know, maybe give her a little bit
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Speaker 1: of tea, a little cookies she can dip it in
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Speaker 1: or whatever. Just say very calm to her. Bitch has
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Speaker 1: nothing to do with you. Am I really in the
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Speaker 1: wrong here? All I know is I'm not changing the location.
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Speaker 1: Whether I'm wrong or not, I'm kind of guilty, but
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Speaker 1: that's just because we've been close since we were kids,
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Speaker 1: and I don't really want to hurt her. Should I
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Speaker 1: comfort her or something? Or is she being unreasonable? Also,
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Speaker 1: she lives with our parents and we're close to so
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Speaker 1: cutting her off isn't an option. Okay, I'm putting myself
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Speaker 1: into your shoes. Okay, I picture them as being like,
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Speaker 1: like all white nikes, really clean. I feel like you
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Speaker 1: just have your shit together, and I think you should
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Speaker 1: sit your sister down and maybe give her a little
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Speaker 1: tea and just walkle No. Okay, So yeah, if this
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Speaker 1: is my sister, whom I'm very close to, I have
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Speaker 1: lots of sisters, but let's just i'll say my oldest sister.
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Speaker 1: And she was saying this, I would say, I appreciate
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Speaker 1: what you're saying, but I associate this with a lot
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Speaker 1: of really good memories, and it kind of has nothing
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Speaker 1: to do with you. So I think you're being a
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Speaker 1: bit selfish here, Like you can, you can experience what
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Speaker 1: you experience, but I also have my own experiences and
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Speaker 1: this doesn't involve you in any way, shape or form,
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Speaker 1: and will not affect you or your life at all.
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Speaker 1: So I think you just need to take a step back. Okay,
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Speaker 1: look in the mirror, all right, reflect a little bit,
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Speaker 1: and maybe come back down to earth with us. Okay,
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Speaker 1: I just feel like she's being very selfish. Am I
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Speaker 1: being dumb? Let me know in the comments. I can
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Speaker 1: take some criticism, but let's read some other comments. Let's
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Speaker 1: hopefully validate myself here. Honestly, what I do in your
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Speaker 1: shoes depends on your sister, and if this is a
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Speaker 1: standard behavior for her, if she is long in the
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Speaker 1: habit of demanding it you change things in your life
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Speaker 1: that have zero impact on her because of her overly
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Speaker 1: sensitive sensibilities, then I would tell her to get stuffed
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Speaker 1: that your happiness has nothing to do with hers and
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Speaker 1: proceed with your plans. Negotiating with terrorists gets you nothing
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Speaker 1: but increased demands. True. I like that. I'm going to
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Speaker 1: use that writing that down just kidding. I'm just all
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Speaker 1: it wasn't actually I was lying to you. I'm sorry
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Speaker 1: for faking writing on my hand. First it's you can't
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Speaker 1: propose on the beach. Then then a wedding isn't fair
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Speaker 1: because she is single and its vials nip it in
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Speaker 1: the butt. I used to think it was nippit in
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Speaker 1: the butt, and then Caleb corrected me and I was like,
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Speaker 1: no way, and he was right, which is not uncommon.
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Speaker 1: On the other hand, being cheated on is incredibly traumatic.
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Speaker 1: If these demands are entirely out of character, and the
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Speaker 1: first time she's ever done such a thing, I feel
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Speaker 1: like it's not then I would perhaps consider moving it
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Speaker 1: rather than the beach itself. Is there a spot or
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Speaker 1: a bluff that overlooks it, or somewhere else that's important
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Speaker 1: to you as a couple you could use and maybe
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Speaker 1: a heart to heart is an order, one where you
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Speaker 1: acknowledge her pain but also stand firm on the fact
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Speaker 1: that you are not being happier getting engaged at her,
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Speaker 1: that you love her and are very upset and disappointed
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Speaker 1: that she's on supportive and accusatory. That's kind of what
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Speaker 1: I'm leaning more towards not moving. I don't think I
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Speaker 1: wouldn't move the place because that is the place for
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Speaker 1: you guys. You both associate it with such wonderful memories.
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Speaker 1: I don't think you should move it, but I think
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Speaker 1: the heart is very well needed if it hasn't already happened,
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Speaker 1: and she kind of needs a little bit of a
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Speaker 1: reality check. But you also need to be sensitive to
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Speaker 1: the fact that happened to her, because that is traumatic. Absolutely,
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Speaker 1: that's traumatic. But for her to ask that of you
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Speaker 1: is just it's worse. It not than the cheating, but
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Speaker 1: like it's worse than you getting engaged at a place
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Speaker 1: that you associate with positivity, you know what I mean. Like,
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Speaker 1: I would never ask that of my sister. If I got,
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Speaker 1: you know, this asshole dude, you know, cheated on me
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Speaker 1: and then broke up with me at the beach or
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Speaker 1: whatever happened exactly, I'd be like, it's a beach, it's
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Speaker 1: a public air. I don't give I don't know, you know,
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Speaker 1: That's how I feel. Anyway, She's always been good to
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Speaker 1: me and my boyfriend. I think she sometimes acts entitled
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Speaker 1: and gets mad easily, but it's just silly stuff and
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Speaker 1: gets solved up in like a day or two, and
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Speaker 1: it's never been something serious. Seeing to Starbucks, then go
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Speaker 1: to Target or whatever, or not Starbucks but your local
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Speaker 1: coffee shop or whatever. You know, I really can't move
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Speaker 1: the location. I think at this point the best I
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Speaker 1: can do is not talk about it to her. She
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Speaker 1: isn't even going to be present there, and I definitely
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Speaker 1: won't be showing her any picks now that I know this,
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Speaker 1: So I don't see why she can't pretend that this
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Speaker 1: isn't happening. Yeah, another cop says, yeah, it sex for
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Speaker 1: her a good thing. Your engagement isn't about her. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: That's just where I'm coming from. It's like, oh, like,
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Speaker 1: shut up. I don't know, shut up. I just can't
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Speaker 1: stand people like this. They just have to make everything
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Speaker 1: about them. You were absolutely the victim in a certain scenario,
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Speaker 1: but you're not here. You're just making it about you
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Speaker 1: for like no reason. What's next. You can't get a
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Speaker 1: dog because she once was bitten by one, exactly like
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Speaker 1: you've said in a comment that she's acted entitled in
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Speaker 1: the past as well. This isn't your problem. She needs
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Speaker 1: to deal with her feelings about this as long as
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Speaker 1: she's not causing problems like telling your boyfriend you don't
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Speaker 1: have to worry about this. She doesn't do that. That
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Speaker 1: would make her evil, that would make her the double
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Speaker 1: If she does that, now I'm scared. I don't want
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Speaker 1: to read anymore funny story. She actually did demand that
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Speaker 1: when our parents were planning on adopting a dog. She
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Speaker 1: did demand that when your parents were So she's just
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Speaker 1: a bit chug. There's actually an edit, so let's read that.
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Speaker 1: The edit is on. Or there's three edits, so they're
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Speaker 1: all on the same day, so let's read those. As.
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Speaker 1: Some have mentioned in the comments that this proposal might
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Speaker 1: be emasculating to my boyfriend. Okay, I kind of like
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Speaker 1: touched on that at first. I wouldn't say it's sourally emasculated.
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Speaker 1: Wike sometimes can be, I guess, depending on the person.
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Speaker 1: But I feel like he's just been planning it so
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Speaker 1: hard that it might be like, oh, I wanted to
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Speaker 1: do that, but whatever, I'll keep reading. I know him,
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Speaker 1: and if it was actually something i'd be taking away
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Speaker 1: from him, I'd obviously never do it. That's fair, And
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Speaker 1: that's kind of where I'm like, everybody's so different, so
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Speaker 1: I don't really know. We wanted to be engaged on
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Speaker 1: our five year anniversary, and I think that's what he
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Speaker 1: was guilty about, plus some stress about his mom's health.
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Speaker 1: Thanks for the concern, but I know he'll love it. Okay, amazing.
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Speaker 1: We love that edit too. Thank you for the response.
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Speaker 1: But I've seen some comments accusing my boyfriend and his
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Speaker 1: parents of being immature and selfish. What what is this
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Speaker 1: left can turn? We just took This is completely false.
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Speaker 1: Be kind here, please. His parents are lovely people. Yes,
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Speaker 1: they're financially struggling, and my boyfriend decided to help his parents.
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Speaker 1: I'd have been mad if my boyfriend decided to spend
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Speaker 1: his money on a ring instead of helping his mom. Yeah. Like,
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Speaker 1: you're marrying a really nice person. That's great about the
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Speaker 1: insurance thing. I only know half of the story yet,
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Speaker 1: and it's not because his parents are immature. I'll be
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Speaker 1: talking to him about this later on. And he didn't
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Speaker 1: spend all his savings. His actual savings are separate from
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Speaker 1: the money he was saving for the rank. People just
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Speaker 1: love to just get raid into people's lives and dissect it.
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Speaker 1: I'll see internet for you. But I'm sorry I had
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Speaker 1: to deal with that, y'all, I'm proposing tomorrow. I did
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Speaker 1: talk to his mom about it, just to make sure
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Speaker 1: I'm doing right by proposing, and she agrees. Wish me
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Speaker 1: luck and we have an update. Eight days later said
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Speaker 1: that thank you for your responses. Many people wanted an update,
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Speaker 1: so here it is. After that incident, my sister called
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Speaker 1: me two days later asking if I finally realized how
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Speaker 1: insensitive I've been to her, and she wants me to apologize.
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm so sorry that you're a bed. Yeah exactly.
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Speaker 1: I told her, Yes, she's my family and I love her,
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Speaker 1: but she can't expect everyone to work according to her feelings.
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Speaker 1: I didn't tell her if I was still going ahead
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Speaker 1: with the plan, because honestly, I was afraid she'd try
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Speaker 1: to ruin it or something. I hung up and refused
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Speaker 1: to answer. When she called, I took the advice and
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Speaker 1: refused to share any details with my parents and her.
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Speaker 1: They called the same day asking me to care for
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Speaker 1: her sister's feelings as well. Oh, brother, we got the
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Speaker 1: enabling parents a baby. They're killed, brother, these peoples, ey,
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Speaker 1: I wasn't expecting much from my parents anyway. They just
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Speaker 1: want us at peace. And don't really care much. Now
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Speaker 1: onto the proposal. We are visiting a friend in our
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Speaker 1: hometown who just had a baby and stayed there overnight,
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Speaker 1: went to the beach, and well, I proposed. It went
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Speaker 1: exactly how I wanted it to be. Yay. We were
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Speaker 1: walking and then got on one knee and started my
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Speaker 1: speech about how I love him, et cetera, et cetera.
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Speaker 1: I kid you not. I wasn't even thirty seconds in
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Speaker 1: when he hugged me and got emotional. It was so beautiful.
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Speaker 1: I couldn't stop smiling. He was so happy with the
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Speaker 1: ring I selected. We said some sweet words, got all emotional.
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Speaker 1: It was perfect. He also said how he loved that
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Speaker 1: it happened at the beach. M So yes, my sister
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Speaker 1: can go screw herself exactly exactly. We then went out
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Speaker 1: to dinner and he couldn't stop smiling. That is so sweet.
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Speaker 1: You know, I feel like it can be reversed with
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Speaker 1: the with the right people, right relationship, all that stuff.
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Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of people cringe at that,
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Speaker 1: but I don't know, like you guys had a plan
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Speaker 1: and it got sidetracked with a little thing that he
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Speaker 1: had to pay for or his mother needing surgery like
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Speaker 1: he needed to pay, and I just think that's wonderful.
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Speaker 1: I think that's great. I think anybody that judges this
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Speaker 1: specific scenario is just probably her sister. If you're hating
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Speaker 1: on this, you're just like the sister. Honestly, you're just
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Speaker 1: hating love. And I don't like that. We then went
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Speaker 1: out to dinner and he couldn't stop smiling. He even
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Speaker 1: told the waitress, my girlfriend just proposed to me. I'm engaged.
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Speaker 1: So yeah, whatever doubt I had about him not liking
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Speaker 1: being proposed to vanished. We had a great night. Later,
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Speaker 1: when we were about to sleep, I still did ask
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Speaker 1: him if he was really okay with me proposing because
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Speaker 1: of how upset he was about the ring. He told
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Speaker 1: me he was upset because he felt like he was
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Speaker 1: letting me down by not getting a ring and instead
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Speaker 1: helping his mom. She's doing good, by the way, and
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Speaker 1: he still says he wants a ring on my finger.
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Speaker 1: Soon we talked stuff out and we're good. I couldn't
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Speaker 1: have asked for a better day. Okay, Now, the original
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Speaker 1: plan was to go visit my parents after we're done
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Speaker 1: visiting our friends, but I wasn't sure because of the
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Speaker 1: whole thing with my sister. So I called my parents
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Speaker 1: and told them I'm engaged. They did congratulate us, but
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Speaker 1: we're not happy because I haven't been answering their calls.
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Speaker 1: I asked them if those calls were to make me
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Speaker 1: change my mind about the proposal, and they said yes, Okay,
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Speaker 1: proof of a point. Okay. I told them it obviously
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Speaker 1: wasn't happening, and asked them if they'd still wanted me
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Speaker 1: to visit them, and they said yes. My sister then called,
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Speaker 1: saying she can't believe how petty and immature I'm being,
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Speaker 1: and how I just had to go ahead and ruin
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Speaker 1: her day. Okay, so let's not invite sister to the wedding.
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Speaker 1: I think that's kind of where I'm at right now.
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Speaker 1: I didn't even mention the engagement to her. My mom did.
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Speaker 1: I told her the same thing again. Whatever happened to
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Speaker 1: her wasn't my problem, and I won't be changing my
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Speaker 1: plans because of her inability to deal with her emotions.
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Speaker 1: She then said, congratulations on your engagement. Don't worry it
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Speaker 1: won't last. Okay. Okay, Yeah, I have a lot of
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Speaker 1: things I want to say right now, but I'm just
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Speaker 1: going to hold back. I'm just going to hold back
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Speaker 1: a little bit, all right, So it's safe to say
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Speaker 1: we won't be talking for the seeable future. Who didn't
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Speaker 1: visit our parents and spent the next day with our
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Speaker 1: friends as well, and then left my parents. Don't blame me,
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Speaker 1: but want me to fix this because you know how
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Speaker 1: your sister is. Oh gosh, I'm done with her though.
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Speaker 1: I was guilty only because I actually felt like I
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Speaker 1: was hurting her. But she had no problem talking shit
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Speaker 1: about my boyfriend and my engagement. But well I have
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Speaker 1: a fiance. Oh there, wait, there's another update. What do
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Speaker 1: we even scared? Oh? Oh, it's later in the year.
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Speaker 1: We're married. He got me a ring as well. It's
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Speaker 1: fucking gorgeous. We got married at a beach. Was the
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Speaker 1: sister there not the same one? Lol? Okay, and it
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Speaker 1: was beautiful. I'm so happy for you, guys. I'm so
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Speaker 1: happy for you guys. But that sucks what you're your sister,
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Speaker 1: you know, that's just next level selfishness. Hopefully she comes around.
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Speaker 1: Hopefully she was at the wedding. I hope it worked out,
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Speaker 1: but I don't know. Blood or no blood or no
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Speaker 1: blood doesn't really give you an excuse to be a know,
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Speaker 1: it's just sad. Sad. I hope she. I hope she
16:03
Speaker 1: is able to find happiness for you and for herself
16:06
Speaker 1: one day. That's all I can say. Let me know
16:07
Speaker 1: what you guys think. Maybe I'm being too harsh, but
16:09
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm being harsh because I have several
16:11
Speaker 1: sisters and I would just never treat them this way,
16:13
Speaker 1: and I know they would never treat me this way
16:16
Speaker 1: in the exact same circumstances. So I just it's hard
16:20
Speaker 1: for me to relate a little bit. Not gonna lie,
16:21
Speaker 1: but let me know what you guys think. Let's read
16:23
Speaker 1: another one. This hair clip can't be innocent, can it.
16:27
Speaker 1: I have a feeling this hair clip was found in
16:30
Speaker 1: a space where it shouldn't be. So this started Friday
16:34
Speaker 1: morning and still haven't gotten a straight answer or even
16:37
Speaker 1: any real acknowledgment. I thirty female, have been dating my boyfriend,
16:40
Speaker 1: let's call him Dave, thirty one male, for two years.
16:43
Speaker 1: That morning, I found a hair clip on the clip
16:46
Speaker 1: to his dresser, a hair clip clip to his dresser,
16:49
Speaker 1: hair clip clip to his dresser. I've got a hair
16:50
Speaker 1: clip clip to his dress clip click click click click
16:53
Speaker 1: click click, click click if you know you know? Okay, RuPaul,
16:58
Speaker 1: they call me Mapa. Okay, sorry, I'll stop anyway. That morning,
17:04
Speaker 1: I found a hair clip clip to his dresser. Not mine,
17:07
Speaker 1: definitely not mine. I had blonde, straight, wavy hair. This
17:11
Speaker 1: hair was dark and coarse. The clip had product on it.
17:15
Speaker 1: I don't wear that kind. I didn't bring it. Don't
17:17
Speaker 1: wear cream, gel or product. I've never seen it before.
17:20
Speaker 1: I asked him, whose is this? His response, yours like
17:25
Speaker 1: on has a question, remark like he's just like yours. Ah,
17:32
Speaker 1: you wouldn't just say it's yours, you know, sounds like
17:34
Speaker 1: you're lying with an angry tone. I said no. Then
17:37
Speaker 1: I guessed maybe it belonged to his friend's girlfriend, who
17:40
Speaker 1: had been over a long time ago. Will call her Emily.
17:43
Speaker 1: I even offered to text and ask her. He went silent, Oh, no, Dave,
17:48
Speaker 1: Dave is having spicy sessions with Emily, I think. Ah.
17:54
Speaker 1: Then I followed up again and told him it wasn't hers, Oh, okay,
17:58
Speaker 1: he is not having relate with MLA. Still got no
18:02
Speaker 1: real response, just I don't know Alexis and that was it. Okay,
18:05
Speaker 1: I guess your name is Alexis. Oh. I knew an
18:07
Speaker 1: Alexis in middle school. She was MA, she was main.
18:13
Speaker 1: I asked for space because I was confused and felt
18:15
Speaker 1: like this was really shady. Since then, not a single word,
18:18
Speaker 1: total radio silence. He didn't try to check in, didn't
18:22
Speaker 1: offer any theories, didn't defend himself, didn't say he'd look
18:24
Speaker 1: into it. Nothing m mm hmmmmm mmmmm. I even called
18:31
Speaker 1: him I was stranded and needed a ride and he
18:33
Speaker 1: refused to pick me up. Okay, well, what are we
18:36
Speaker 1: doing with him? Sweedy Alexis? What are we doing with him?
18:39
Speaker 1: The cheating? Like who cares about that? He's not picking
18:41
Speaker 1: you up when you need a ride, and he's like
18:43
Speaker 1: he's stonewalling. You Just leave this person. This guy sucks.
18:47
Speaker 1: He acted pissed off, like I was punishing him. He
18:49
Speaker 1: eventually told me I'd regret this and to get the
18:53
Speaker 1: f out and shut the f up. Okay, where does
18:56
Speaker 1: he live? Where does he live? His one defense via
19:00
Speaker 1: text after I left and said I'm not letting this
19:02
Speaker 1: go was that it's not in his character to do this.
19:05
Speaker 1: He doesn't have the time or energy. Okay. So, for
19:11
Speaker 1: the love of God, to anyone out there that is
19:14
Speaker 1: trying to defend themselves when they're accused of doing this.
19:18
Speaker 1: Don't say you don't have time or energy. Okay, that
19:22
Speaker 1: just means you're too lazy to do it, but you
19:24
Speaker 1: would if you could. Oh and this is the second
19:27
Speaker 1: time this exact thing has happened. In October. I found
19:30
Speaker 1: a random pair of panties. Okay, so Alexis, Alexis? Is
19:36
Speaker 1: that your name? Can I call that? All right? We
19:38
Speaker 1: need to leave him, same deal, silence, denial, no explanation.
19:41
Speaker 1: I chose to believe him then after we did a
19:43
Speaker 1: session with my therapist. Now this just feels like deja vous,
19:46
Speaker 1: with even less effort on his part to clear things up.
19:48
Speaker 1: It's been seventy two hours. If he were innocent, wouldn't
19:51
Speaker 1: he want to clear it up? Wouldn't he say something
19:52
Speaker 1: right now? It just feels like he's avoiding it until
19:55
Speaker 1: I either drop it or break up with him. And honestly,
19:57
Speaker 1: I'm not sure which one he wants more. It's what
19:59
Speaker 1: you want. Just break up with him. You deserve somebody
20:02
Speaker 1: you're not questioning constantly and not getting talked at. Bye,
20:07
Speaker 1: he's swearing at you for what for him? Looking up?
20:10
Speaker 1: This is clear projection. He absolutely has been with somebody else,
20:14
Speaker 1: and he hates getting caught, and now he's punishing you
20:16
Speaker 1: for it. You need to live, you need to worsh
20:20
Speaker 1: and then you go to the club. My god, this
20:27
Speaker 1: is so much fun. I'm going on tour next month
20:31
Speaker 1: if you want to come. So read it. Is this
20:33
Speaker 1: hair claw innocent or for being upset that he hasn't
20:36
Speaker 1: addressed this at all? Or is it fair to give
20:38
Speaker 1: someone a few days of silence when they're processing. He's
20:41
Speaker 1: definitely cheating on you, and he's a asshole. He's a
20:45
Speaker 1: ripe asshole. I don't even know what that means, but
20:47
Speaker 1: he is that. You know, he's a prolapsed asshole. I
20:50
Speaker 1: think that's what I'm trying to say. Glad we have
20:51
Speaker 1: this talk. Unfortunately, there's an update that we have to read.
20:54
Speaker 1: I hope it's just her saying they broke up. You
20:56
Speaker 1: guys read it. I'm scared, just kidding, I will. This
20:58
Speaker 1: was his exact text. Okay, we get to hear his words.
21:02
Speaker 1: I got to give him a voice. I got to
21:03
Speaker 1: give him a voice saying this as clearly as I can.
21:07
Speaker 1: I didn't cheat, not now, not ever, on everything I love,
21:12
Speaker 1: including you. I swear that no one else has been
21:14
Speaker 1: here in my bed or in this house with me
21:17
Speaker 1: like that, Like that, Okay, I don't have the energy
21:22
Speaker 1: for it, And more importantly, I wouldn't do that to you.
21:26
Speaker 1: I spent all my free time gaming and the only
21:28
Speaker 1: reasonable time that could have happened is yesterday when you
21:32
Speaker 1: we gone all day and you saw the state of
21:35
Speaker 1: me when you got here, disheveled, sweaty, smelling suspicious, maybe greasy, unshowered,
21:43
Speaker 1: and not exactly in the state where I hang out
21:45
Speaker 1: with someone. This is the worst defense I've ever heard.
21:49
Speaker 1: Judge put him in jail for life. I don't know
21:54
Speaker 1: how I could prove this to you, but I will.
21:56
Speaker 1: You've got nothing to worry about. Promise that. Oh god.
22:00
Speaker 1: And you're the last person i'd try to sneak having
22:02
Speaker 1: someone hereby because you're too smart. Oh my god. He
22:05
Speaker 1: actually says that you're too intelligent and hyper vigilant. You're
22:08
Speaker 1: just saying you would if you could, but you're too
22:11
Speaker 1: lazy and she's too smart to get you. Dude. Sucks, dude, sucks, dude,
22:22
Speaker 1: suck this guy. I can't believe humans like this exists
22:30
Speaker 1: and in touch with your intuition and observant and all
22:33
Speaker 1: other things. You'd feel it, And I know even if
22:36
Speaker 1: there was no evidence, And I have an unbearably overwhelming
22:40
Speaker 1: guilty conscience, so I couldn't lie to you. Just not me.
22:44
Speaker 1: Plus you're like a witch, you know for sure? Wow, Wow,
22:49
Speaker 1: we have a reply, So let's read that. I really
22:51
Speaker 1: just need some space and time to think. I can't
22:54
Speaker 1: think of anyone who is in our circle and has
22:56
Speaker 1: that texture and curl of hair. That clip wasn't that
23:00
Speaker 1: when I tried turning your light on just the other day.
23:02
Speaker 1: I also looked for your baseball caps and your dresser
23:05
Speaker 1: the day I wore the bucket hat. It wasn't there either.
23:07
Speaker 1: So I am having a hard time wrapping my head
23:10
Speaker 1: around what's happened here. This guy, he's such I was
23:15
Speaker 1: gonna say a Chad, but he's such a Dave. Dude,
23:18
Speaker 1: screw Dave by that message, Uh, projectile vomit. He's projectile
23:25
Speaker 1: vomiting on you. I feel like, in my opinion, you know,
23:28
Speaker 1: do I know for sure?
23:29
Speaker 2: No?
23:29
Speaker 1: Am I making it my business? Yes? Am I sharing
23:31
Speaker 1: it with hundreds of thousands of you? Also? Yes? Do
23:33
Speaker 1: I want to hear your guys' opinions? Absolutely, so let's
23:37
Speaker 1: judge him down below. If you use a laundromat, the
23:39
Speaker 1: panties could have been left in a washer he used
23:42
Speaker 1: and got into his dryer load. The hairclip on the
23:44
Speaker 1: dresser is in an accident. My guess is someone left
23:46
Speaker 1: it there for you to find, and he's trying to
23:49
Speaker 1: act oblivious about its existence. But if he's been in
23:52
Speaker 1: an unstable relationship prior to this, where he was constantly
23:55
Speaker 1: accused of cheating without proof, then I can see why
23:57
Speaker 1: he'd be resistant about wanting to address it at all.
23:59
Speaker 1: But is ready. Silence is a big red flag, whether
24:01
Speaker 1: he's guilty or avoiding the subject. Just the way he's
24:04
Speaker 1: treating you in general, let's just put all that even aside.
24:07
Speaker 1: You have every right to be acting the way you
24:09
Speaker 1: do based off of his initial reaction. The way he's
24:12
Speaker 1: talking to you is horrible. You know. If he's not
24:14
Speaker 1: even willing to talk to you about it, that would
24:16
Speaker 1: be a deal breaker for me. He's either carrying resentment
24:19
Speaker 1: for a prior relationship into yours, or he's guilty as
24:21
Speaker 1: bug exactly. Oh P said, it was my own washer
24:24
Speaker 1: and dryer. Every relationship in his family dynamic have been
24:27
Speaker 1: beyond unstable. Him not cheating doesn't make sense because I've
24:30
Speaker 1: only had people over two times and eight weeks. I
24:33
Speaker 1: work a lot and they do not have that course
24:35
Speaker 1: of hair, and their hair wouldn't fit in the clip girls. No,
24:38
Speaker 1: we know, okay, too long or too short, so like
24:41
Speaker 1: it came from somewhere and him trying to blame me
24:44
Speaker 1: this morning, he literally tried making me believe it's mine
24:46
Speaker 1: and I just forgot about it. It's gasolating. One oh one,
24:49
Speaker 1: it's crazy. Another one says, ma'am. If you don't have
24:51
Speaker 1: a ring cam, then I hope you have a neighbor
24:53
Speaker 1: that does or is nosy or observant. Oh my god, yes,
24:58
Speaker 1: this is real shady. One move would be to ask
25:01
Speaker 1: to check his phone, but if he's slick, it could
25:03
Speaker 1: be clean. We know it is by now. It does
25:06
Speaker 1: sound like that man doesn't care because you sound like
25:08
Speaker 1: you are going through it mind racing, trying to find
25:10
Speaker 1: alternative explanations, and he's just being dismissive. I hope he
25:13
Speaker 1: find answers in peace. But he said he freaking unplugged
25:16
Speaker 1: the kiddie cam and the outside cam. Okay, why are
25:21
Speaker 1: we with him? Let's use our deduction skills. Let's use
25:25
Speaker 1: He's never offered it and never asked. But if it
25:27
Speaker 1: was me, I would have thrown my phone at him,
25:29
Speaker 1: like check it. I'm Adison. Oh, we have an update.
25:31
Speaker 1: Though we have an update. Everybody shut up and sit down. Okay,
25:33
Speaker 1: grabbled my key and some snacks. Let's read. So here's
25:35
Speaker 1: the update. I barely slept since the most recent incident.
25:37
Speaker 1: This morning, at seven thirty am, he came into my
25:39
Speaker 1: room and apologized tearfully. Brother. He said he was sorry
25:43
Speaker 1: for being so angry, and explained that his explosive reactions
25:46
Speaker 1: come from deeper trauma. He was bullied in the seventh
25:53
Speaker 1: This kid made fun of my braces when I was
25:54
Speaker 1: twel He was bullied in seventh grade for something he
25:56
Speaker 1: didn't do. Again in ninth grade by the entire school.
26:00
Speaker 1: Later by nurses at his job and someone lied about
26:02
Speaker 1: one of his patients, and he ended up being bullied
26:04
Speaker 1: in that environment too. I feel like he did do
26:06
Speaker 1: the things. I don't know what they're talking about, but
26:10
Speaker 1: you know that sucks. I don't know how that has
26:13
Speaker 1: to do with anything, but okay, he said. His anger
26:15
Speaker 1: is rooted in that same feeling being punished for something
26:18
Speaker 1: he didn't do. Guys just asking chatchbt, putting in prompts
26:22
Speaker 1: like how do I come up with a traumatic incident
26:24
Speaker 1: that makes up for me reacting the way I did
26:27
Speaker 1: to my girlfriend when I absolutely cheated on her. He
26:30
Speaker 1: admitted he can't prove he didn't cheat, but said if
26:33
Speaker 1: I checked his gaming activity from that day, it would
26:35
Speaker 1: show he was online for nearly sixteen hours. Okay, hi
26:40
Speaker 1: gamer girl here, you can just leave a game open
26:43
Speaker 1: and it'll say that, so, yeah, you don't have to
26:46
Speaker 1: be playing the game. He even told me to talk
26:48
Speaker 1: to his friends who could vouch for that, who he's
26:50
Speaker 1: talked to to be like, dude, you need you need
26:53
Speaker 1: to tell Michael I didn't cheat on up because I
26:56
Speaker 1: got made up fun of in the side of the
26:57
Speaker 1: grade and the girl that I slept with. Let's quit there.
27:00
Speaker 1: I just need you to do this for me to Okay,
27:02
Speaker 1: I'll have your back in the next round. He said,
27:05
Speaker 1: I'd know if something happened that I'd smell the sheets,
27:08
Speaker 1: and that's why I did it on the couch. I
27:10
Speaker 1: reminded him that the last time this happened right before
27:12
Speaker 1: my grandma's funeral. He hadn't changed his sheets then either.
27:15
Speaker 1: His response, we weren't dating. I replied, My point is
27:18
Speaker 1: you're capable, and he said it's different. Now, wait, what
27:23
Speaker 1: the last time this happened? Oh are you talking about
27:25
Speaker 1: when you found the Underwere are you talking about? He
27:28
Speaker 1: actually cheated? Interesting, Okay, I'm assuming that's just about the underwear.
27:31
Speaker 1: But okay, as for the cameras being down conveniently during
27:34
Speaker 1: the time I was gone and both items appeared, He
27:36
Speaker 1: said the Wi Fi modem was changed because he was
27:39
Speaker 1: setting up the soundbar and didn't realize it disconnected the
27:42
Speaker 1: security system. I pushed back, He's incredibly smart and strategic.
27:45
Speaker 1: He could have easily set it up ahead of time.
27:47
Speaker 1: He insisted it was just poor timing and reminded me
27:49
Speaker 1: that he told me to check the cameras himself. I
27:51
Speaker 1: told him again, he's asking me to let go of
27:54
Speaker 1: all logic and just believe him, despite past situationships, behavior,
27:57
Speaker 1: conflicting stories, and too many coincidences. I said, you're asking
28:00
Speaker 1: me to close my eyes and pretend I didn't find
28:02
Speaker 1: what I found exactly. He said, he's reached out to
28:06
Speaker 1: accounts or he used to see which I had asked
28:09
Speaker 1: to him to do earlier in the conversation because his
28:11
Speaker 1: anger response is not normal. I told him I still
28:13
Speaker 1: need more time to think. I can't let the clip
28:15
Speaker 1: and pannies go. I literally watch crime shows for fun.
28:18
Speaker 1: I hope I hope she watches my channel. I need
28:22
Speaker 1: evidence to believe someone's innocence when logic and context suggest otherwise. Yes,
28:26
Speaker 1: we love a logical queen. I'm not trying to punish
28:29
Speaker 1: him by still having him move out, but I can't
28:32
Speaker 1: just silence my instincts either. He's the one that said
28:34
Speaker 1: you were so instinctual and so intelligent. Let let's just
28:38
Speaker 1: live up to his expectations and be smart. And what
28:41
Speaker 1: you are doing is really smart in my opinion. So yeah,
28:44
Speaker 1: that's where I'm at, still being gas lit, loll. I
28:47
Speaker 1: was really starting to question myself because he ignored me
28:49
Speaker 1: for so long, didn't address any direct questions, etc. And
28:52
Speaker 1: my second thought is the way he reacted should be
28:55
Speaker 1: a deal breaker in and of itself work irregardless of
28:57
Speaker 1: his trauma. That is exactly right. You dedoced and you
29:00
Speaker 1: came to a beautiful conclusion. I'm so proud of you.
29:03
Speaker 1: I love it. I love it. Yeah, No, that's exactly.
29:05
Speaker 1: That's exactly it. It's so many different things. It's not
29:08
Speaker 1: just the potential cheating. It's the way he reacted. It's
29:11
Speaker 1: the way he's treating you now, and it's not gonna change,
29:15
Speaker 1: at least anytime soon. He is a rat caught in
29:19
Speaker 1: a corner and he's trying to save himself in any
29:23
Speaker 1: way he can. And you just need to, you know,
29:27
Speaker 1: real but not literally. I just mean, like, break up
29:32
Speaker 1: the relationship, you know, That's what I'm saying. One of
29:36
Speaker 1: the comments says, online gaming with no Wi Fi? Is
29:39
Speaker 1: that possible? Yeah, if he's playing with his friends right now.
29:46
Speaker 1: Oh he said he changed the mode of like forty
29:47
Speaker 1: eight hours before the clip was found. Okay, yeah, all right,
29:50
Speaker 1: Oh god, there's another update. I see the little title thing.
29:53
Speaker 1: I'm scared. I'm scared. I'm wrong. Mostly, let's read it.
29:58
Speaker 1: For the last twenty two days, he's been perfectly pleasant,
30:01
Speaker 1: love bombing me, classic, giving me extra attention, spicy time cuddles,
30:07
Speaker 1: going out of his way for me. Why are we
30:09
Speaker 1: engaging with this human being? Wowing, engaging me at this hill?
30:15
Speaker 1: And honestly, it almost worked, almost worked. How old are
30:18
Speaker 1: you again? We all need to learn a lesson. At
30:20
Speaker 1: some point, I just need to I need to refresh.
30:22
Speaker 1: You're thirty years old, okay, okay, okay, okay, you need
30:27
Speaker 1: better friends. I feel like you need a friend that
30:30
Speaker 1: would just be like shake your shoulder to be like,
30:33
Speaker 1: you deserve better. It's so clear, but it's not always.
30:36
Speaker 1: I don't want to. I don't want any too hard
30:37
Speaker 1: on the sope because it's when you're in it, you know,
30:39
Speaker 1: especially for the first time, you can't see it as well,
30:42
Speaker 1: and clearly you're very smart, but you're willing to give
30:45
Speaker 1: him the benefit of the doubt. And I was like,
30:47
Speaker 1: I don't. I just feel bad. Anyway. We were fine,
30:51
Speaker 1: keeping the peace, had all the cameras plugged back in
30:54
Speaker 1: and working again. Sure he was still gaming basically twenty
30:57
Speaker 1: four to seven, but whatever. He's thirty one. By the way.
31:00
Speaker 1: Fast forward to me leaving for this trip four hours later. Boom,
31:05
Speaker 1: the front door camera's unplugged. I only noticed because I
31:07
Speaker 1: was drunk, missing my dog. He's babysitting him, and went
31:10
Speaker 1: to check in. I called and told him to plug
31:13
Speaker 1: it back in instead of just doing it. He argued
31:16
Speaker 1: that he doesn't want to be spied on, and then throughout.
31:20
Speaker 1: I'll just move out now. If you can't trust me,
31:25
Speaker 1: I think that's a great idea, Steve or Dave or whoever.
31:30
Speaker 1: I'm getting everybody's names mixed up now. Was that from
31:31
Speaker 1: the last story? The story I can't remember, Like, sir,
31:35
Speaker 1: why would I trust you when this is your move?
31:38
Speaker 1: The second I leave town after weeks of the cameras
31:40
Speaker 1: being just fine, he would plug one almost immediately. Anyway,
31:44
Speaker 1: I'm honestly blown away, But I guess the upside is
31:46
Speaker 1: he'll be gone a few weeks earlier than I planned
31:49
Speaker 1: when I get back. Yeah, I mean all the it's
31:51
Speaker 1: is just like classic trademarked person cheating and trying to
31:57
Speaker 1: make up for it and projecting love bombing and then
32:01
Speaker 1: gaslighting again and then doing the same thing over again
32:05
Speaker 1: because you believed him, then gas lighting you some more,
32:08
Speaker 1: and then throwing some some some flames onto it, andhh
32:13
Speaker 1: blah blah. This is just I'm tired. I'm tired. I'm
32:15
Speaker 1: so glad you guys are done. I think you're done.
32:17
Speaker 1: Is there more any more updates? Dear god, there's no
32:20
Speaker 1: more updates. Okay, thank god, but yeah, no, I'm just
32:22
Speaker 1: I'm happy you figured it out, and I don't blame
32:24
Speaker 1: you for, you know, staying and trying to trying to
32:27
Speaker 1: make it work. And you know, we're not there, so
32:30
Speaker 1: we don't know, but like we do, we do, you know.
32:34
Speaker 1: But she figured it out. She figured it out. She's
32:35
Speaker 1: out with this asshole anymore. And I hope that he has,
32:39
Speaker 1: you know, fun playing video games with his buddies. Twenty
32:43
Speaker 1: four to seven at the age of thirty one. And
32:44
Speaker 1: I'm for it. I love video games, but maybe not
32:47
Speaker 1: twenty four to seven at the age of thirty one
32:49
Speaker 1: if it's not your job, you know, and using seventh
32:53
Speaker 1: grade bullying as a as a defense mechanism for obviously
32:57
Speaker 1: cheating on your girlfriend and stuff. This guy's just kind
32:59
Speaker 1: of a piece of shit. I'm kind of hate I'm
33:00
Speaker 1: being a hater right now, but I think I can
33:02
Speaker 1: It's my channel. I can do what I want. What
33:03
Speaker 1: do you guys think? Though? What do you guys think?
33:08
Speaker 1: Let me know? All right? One more last, but not least. Okay,
33:11
Speaker 1: we got another sister one. My sister was threatening to
33:15
Speaker 1: tell my family and boyfriend that I slept with her fiance.
33:23
Speaker 1: So you're the bad guy. Wait did you sleep with him?
33:27
Speaker 1: Like before? She there were fiance and before you had
33:30
Speaker 1: a boyfriend. Let's I'm not I'm going to try not
33:34
Speaker 1: to interrupt myself eighty five thousand times during this. Okay,
33:38
Speaker 1: I'm going to try. I've asked. Okay. So, I twenty
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Speaker 1: four female, have a sister twenty nine female, who has
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Speaker 1: been in a relationship for three years. She got engaged
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Speaker 1: in February twenty twenty five. They rented a small flat
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Speaker 1: in our city. However, she has been staying at our
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Speaker 1: parents recently due to the fight that started this. I
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Speaker 1: am still a student who's living at home while finishing
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Speaker 1: my master's degree. I have a boyfriend of two years
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Speaker 1: and we are currently long distance as he is studying abroad.
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Speaker 1: A little bit of backstory. Me and my sister don't
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Speaker 1: get along. I have AUDIHD autism and ADHD. I believe
34:08
Speaker 1: that is. My sister has ADHD hyperactive type. She has
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Speaker 1: always been the comedian of the family, but often her
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Speaker 1: jokes come at the expense of others and involves winding
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Speaker 1: people up or acting as a wooden spoon to stir
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Speaker 1: any pot of drama she can find. I tend to
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Speaker 1: not initiate contact with her to avoid any potential issues
34:25
Speaker 1: since while she is family, I feel more stressed after
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Speaker 1: spending time with her. Me and my sister's fiance get
34:30
Speaker 1: along pretty well. However, we have shared interests in motorsports
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Speaker 1: and we usually talk about it at family get togethers.
34:36
Speaker 1: We don't talk outside of family gatherings much, just the
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Speaker 1: occasional text when f one or Moto GP is running,
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Speaker 1: or little life updates if we haven't seen each other
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Speaker 1: in a while. My parents have said previously that they
34:47
Speaker 1: find it odd how I am fine with talking to
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Speaker 1: her fiance but have a weird aversion to talking to
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Speaker 1: her directly. But this has never been a point of tension.
34:55
Speaker 1: I'm trying really hard, guys, I'm trying really hard to
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Speaker 1: say anything. But back to recent times. A little over
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Speaker 1: a month ago, my sister found bank statements in their
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Speaker 1: flat for cards she didn't know existed. Most of the
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Speaker 1: transactions had been to hotels or restaurants abroad. She checked
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Speaker 1: the dates of the restaurants and they line up with
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Speaker 1: the times and countries he had been away for work trips,
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Speaker 1: but the exact restaurant and hotel locations do not add up.
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Speaker 1: Example him going away for a conference that the hotel
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Speaker 1: and restaurant he booked were at least an hour away
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Speaker 1: from the city. She immediately thought he was cheating and
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Speaker 1: searched his phone but found nothing. He caught her snooping
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Speaker 1: and they thought about it, which ended up with him
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Speaker 1: admitting he had cheated while abroad. Oh no, the wedding
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Speaker 1: is off and she has moved back into our parents'
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Speaker 1: place while they figure out their lease. Okay, I'm scared.
35:43
Speaker 1: The weekend after she came back to our parents, we
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Speaker 1: went out for dinner as they thought she could use
35:48
Speaker 1: a pick me up evening with the whole family. Over dinner,
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Speaker 1: we talked a lot about recent life events other than
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Speaker 1: my sister's fight, and travel got brought up. I had
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Speaker 1: traveled to Singapore in September of twenty twenty five to
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Speaker 1: visit friends and relive our under graduate clubbing days. My
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Speaker 1: parents wanted to plan a trip to Singapore, and I
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Speaker 1: recommended the hotel I stayed in, and plus a few
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Speaker 1: nice food spots around that area. In hindsight, my sister
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Speaker 1: was uncharacteristically silent after this, but the rest of dinner
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Speaker 1: went pretty normal. Okay. Two days ago, my sister invited
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Speaker 1: me to go to dinner that evening, saying she had
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Speaker 1: something serious she wanted to talk about without worrying our parents.
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Speaker 1: This was very out of the ordinary for her. We
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Speaker 1: haven't gone out to dinner with just the two of
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Speaker 1: us since I was probably fifteen, but this whole situation
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Speaker 1: was hardly ordinary either, so I didn't question it. The
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Speaker 1: dinner hardly had any talking. Right after we ordered our drinks,
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Speaker 1: she accused me of sleeping with her fiance and being
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Speaker 1: one of the women he was cheating on her with.
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Speaker 1: Oh oh. She pulled up to the bank statements for
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Speaker 1: me to check, and sure enough, there are transactions for
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Speaker 1: the same hotel in the same week I was in Singapore.
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Speaker 1: What the one I mentioned to our parents. She accused
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Speaker 1: me of being jealous of her relationship, saying that I
36:58
Speaker 1: was bitter that she was proposed to within two years
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Speaker 1: of them starting dating, and that I clearly thought I
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Speaker 1: was better match for her fiance since we had more
37:06
Speaker 1: hobbies in interest in common. We literally have one right,
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Speaker 1: the f one and stuff. There was a lot of
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Speaker 1: back and forth of me trying to reason with her
37:13
Speaker 1: and get any sort of exact detail or legitimate proof
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Speaker 1: that could have caused her to think this, but by
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Speaker 1: this point, she was livid. The whole thing escalated from
37:20
Speaker 1: zero to one hundred within like fifteen minutes. I'm definitely
37:23
Speaker 1: missing a few details of her accusations. There were a
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Speaker 1: lot of them, but the main threat she had was
37:28
Speaker 1: to tell my parents and my boyfriend I was a bitter,
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Speaker 1: lying home wrecker. Her exact words, if I didn't come clean. Oh, okay,
37:36
Speaker 1: we're under the assumption that she didn't actually do this.
37:38
Speaker 1: That is a crazy coincidence. That is a crazy coincidence
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Speaker 1: to be in Singapore the same week. That's like, I
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Speaker 1: don't like, I don't know. I feel like this could
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Speaker 1: be a conversation, but based off of how you reacted,
37:52
Speaker 1: I feel like she should have been, you know, a
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Speaker 1: little bit more chill. But also I kind of understand
37:57
Speaker 1: her being like, did you? And he also admitted that
37:59
Speaker 1: he's this is a weird situation. I'm just gonna keep reading.
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Speaker 1: How on earth is someone meant to navigate the situation?
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. I think it goes
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Speaker 1: without saying that I never cheated, Okay, perfect, we love that,
38:11
Speaker 1: just making sure and definitely not with her fiance. I mean,
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Speaker 1: your friends were with you, so there could be that,
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Speaker 1: But how does someone begin to plead their innocence in
38:18
Speaker 1: a situation like this? I have no witnesses for me.
38:21
Speaker 1: When I was in Singapore, I was visiting friends, Yes,
38:24
Speaker 1: but I stayed in my hotel every night, since they
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Speaker 1: all live in different areas and the hotel was pretty central.
38:29
Speaker 1: Oh my god, no way. Both sides of this case
38:34
Speaker 1: have basically no firm evidence other than a few bills.
38:37
Speaker 1: On top of this, how would I even begin to
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Speaker 1: manage the fallout if she were to tell people this?
38:42
Speaker 1: Long distance is hard enough as is. I cannot imagine
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Speaker 1: how shattered my boyfriend would be if he was told
38:46
Speaker 1: I cheated with this man he considered a friend. Any
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Speaker 1: advice would be massively appreciated. I will update this post
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Speaker 1: once I have more information or to answer any common questions.
38:55
Speaker 1: Oh my god. Oh extra info. There was a three
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Speaker 1: day overlap in date. I arrived Tuesday, left Sunday. The
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Speaker 1: statement show charges from Friday until sometime the week after.
39:05
Speaker 1: Don't remember exactly what day. I just know it was
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Speaker 1: after I left. I'm not gonna lie. This looks pretty bad.
39:13
Speaker 1: I feel like you need to talk to the fiance.
39:16
Speaker 1: I feel like you need to I mean, he already
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Speaker 1: admitted that, But I feel like you need to sit
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Speaker 1: both of them down and tell her, Like, I feel
39:23
Speaker 1: like the reaction will be so clear that he'd be like, no,
39:25
Speaker 1: it was with this person, you know, and it's just
39:27
Speaker 1: got to be based off of that. But this is
39:29
Speaker 1: a terrible situation. This is a terrible situation. I don't
39:33
Speaker 1: think I can get much worse than this for an
39:34
Speaker 1: innocent party. Oh my, oh my goodness. Yeah, it's just
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Speaker 1: I don't I don't know. I would let your boyfriend
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Speaker 1: noah immediately before she can say anything, be like this
39:43
Speaker 1: is insane and just be honest, and it'll be just
39:48
Speaker 1: it needs you just need to be honest. If you
39:49
Speaker 1: just need to be honest, you need to tell your
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Speaker 1: birfriend first about this whole situation, and then you need
39:52
Speaker 1: to sit them down and talk to them. I feel like,
39:54
Speaker 1: but let's read the comments. Maybe I'm a stupid it's
39:56
Speaker 1: a massive coincidence that you would stay at the exact
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Speaker 1: hotel her boyfriend's dayed at on the same dates that
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Speaker 1: he was there. This is a hard one to disprove
40:03
Speaker 1: if you weren't doing things with your friends in the evenings.
40:06
Speaker 1: Opie read the coincidence, agreed. I was really shocked when
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Speaker 1: she showed me the bank statement. The dates had a
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Speaker 1: three day overlap where we were both in the same hotel,
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Speaker 1: though I never saw him or knew he was there.
40:16
Speaker 1: I was talking about how I planned this trip for
40:18
Speaker 1: at least a month beforehand, though, so I'm hoping my
40:20
Speaker 1: parents aren't too old that they remember me asking about
40:23
Speaker 1: flights and travel restrictions. I don't go abroad often, but
40:26
Speaker 1: my mom has traveled a lot for work, so she's
40:28
Speaker 1: my go to for travel advice. Yeah. Also, like, why
40:30
Speaker 1: would you admit to being there at the exact same time.
40:32
Speaker 1: That just wouldn't really make sense reproof from evenings. I
40:35
Speaker 1: do have photos from nights out with my friends that
40:37
Speaker 1: prove I was with them basically every evening. Those photos
40:40
Speaker 1: dwindle in numbers later each night. Got. I will have
40:42
Speaker 1: to ask my friends if any of them got can
40:45
Speaker 1: vouch that they dropped me off of my hotel, as
40:47
Speaker 1: that would disprove any restaurant charges. However, the issue of
40:50
Speaker 1: being in the same hotel rears its head again here,
40:53
Speaker 1: since she could always argue I went back to his
40:57
Speaker 1: room instead of mine. Geez Louise said, when you went
41:01
Speaker 1: in your hotel room, did you open the door at
41:03
Speaker 1: any point? If not, you may get the hotel to
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Speaker 1: provide key card usage for those three days, Easier than
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Speaker 1: surveillance footage. Of course, if you let the room to
41:10
Speaker 1: get ice or some other innocuous reason, that won't help.
41:13
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Opie said, I'm literally drafting up an
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Speaker 1: email to the hotel as I type this. I was
41:17
Speaker 1: about to ask about surveillance footage about this. This is crazy.
41:20
Speaker 1: You're having to ask for surveillance footage because your sister
41:23
Speaker 1: doesn't believe you. But I mean, it is a crazy situation.
41:25
Speaker 1: But like that, I feel like that proves it in
41:27
Speaker 1: and of itself that you're emailing to get surveillance footage
41:30
Speaker 1: to prove that you're innocent. You know, you wouldn't be
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Speaker 1: doing all that if you weren't. I don't know, my gosh.
41:36
Speaker 1: Another comment says, this is not at all on you
41:39
Speaker 1: to prove from thin air. She made the accusation, so
41:42
Speaker 1: she needs actual proof. That's how the law works. All.
41:45
Speaker 1: I mean, she doesn't that proof, but she kind of
41:46
Speaker 1: has proof, you know what I mean? Opie says, ironically,
41:49
Speaker 1: she is a lawyer. Oh now, but I doubt she's
41:52
Speaker 1: gonna really care about typical legal proceedings right now, even
41:55
Speaker 1: if I swore myself in she's the weeez h Is
41:58
Speaker 1: there an update? Oh my god? Is everybody shout up
42:01
Speaker 1: to the down? Grab a blankins and snacks. Let's read
42:03
Speaker 1: the update. In order to keep this update linear, Let's
42:06
Speaker 1: start with the last night, approximately five hours after the
42:09
Speaker 1: original post, I video called my boyfriend. Okay, this is
42:11
Speaker 1: what I wanted you to do, going to call him
42:13
Speaker 1: Ken in this post last night. After reading through you
42:15
Speaker 1: guys comments and advice, many of you suggested I get
42:18
Speaker 1: in front of this as to not let her get
42:20
Speaker 1: direct narrative. So that's what I tried to do. Tried
42:23
Speaker 1: is the keyboard here? Oh no?
42:26
Speaker 2: Oh?
42:26
Speaker 1: Ken spiraling and I don't blame him, Oh no. We
42:29
Speaker 1: chatted for a bit about normal stuff before I said
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Speaker 1: we should talk about my sister's situation. Ken's facial expression
42:34
Speaker 1: visibly changed when I mentioned this. I asked what was up,
42:37
Speaker 1: and he said she had messaged him some pretty weird
42:39
Speaker 1: stuff earlier that day. Got ahead of it right away.
42:42
Speaker 1: You should have said immediately about her ex and me
42:44
Speaker 1: for context. Ken knows that me and my sister have
42:47
Speaker 1: a pretty complex relationship. He also knows that me and
42:50
Speaker 1: the ex talked occasionally. He encouraged all four of us
42:52
Speaker 1: to hang sometimes, but this only happened a few times
42:55
Speaker 1: and stopped once he left for his year abroad. I
42:57
Speaker 1: asked Ken when he had been told, and he said
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Speaker 1: this paraphrase for memory, as I do not know how
43:03
Speaker 1: to use a stenotype, okay quote. I got a text
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Speaker 1: from her while I was out saying that she needed
43:08
Speaker 1: to talk to me about our relationship. She said our
43:10
Speaker 1: relationship was doomed because she caught you cheating with her fiance,
43:13
Speaker 1: and that you didn't even try to defend yourself. You
43:15
Speaker 1: kept focusing on irrelevant details when it was clear you
43:18
Speaker 1: too were in a hotel together in Singapore. I know
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Speaker 1: you and your sister don't get along, but I never
43:23
Speaker 1: got the impression you two hated each other enough for
43:25
Speaker 1: her to lie about cheating. So I don't know where
43:27
Speaker 1: to go from here. I was floored. As I mentioned
43:29
Speaker 1: in a comment on a previous post, Ken is similar
43:32
Speaker 1: to me in that he puts logical reasoning before extremes.
43:35
Speaker 1: He asked if I had anything to say about it.
43:37
Speaker 1: I gave him the rundown from my POV in chronological order,
43:40
Speaker 1: starting from when I was booking the holiday back in
43:42
Speaker 1: August of twenty twenty five. I backed all of this
43:44
Speaker 1: up with receipts, screen shares, and bank statements from any
43:47
Speaker 1: relevant times, and photos with timestamps from nights out with friends.
43:50
Speaker 1: Somebody suggested in the last post that I have as
43:52
Speaker 1: many receipts as possible since it helps build a routine,
43:55
Speaker 1: and pictures of your day for people, since almost everything
43:57
Speaker 1: costs money these days, so you can track your movement.
44:00
Speaker 1: I did this before I called, and made sure I
44:02
Speaker 1: had everything I might need on hand. I also got
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Speaker 1: a few of my friends on text saying they know
44:06
Speaker 1: I was waking up in my own hotel room, since
44:08
Speaker 1: they had called through the hotel reception to wake me
44:11
Speaker 1: up a few times. The whole thing took forty five minutes,
44:13
Speaker 1: of which he stayed relatively silent, aside from an occasional
44:17
Speaker 1: question to make sure he was understanding all links I
44:19
Speaker 1: was drawing up. By the end of it, I was
44:21
Speaker 1: on the brink of tears, mostly because it took saying
44:23
Speaker 1: it all allowed to realize how the whole guilty until
44:26
Speaker 1: proven innocent thing is Ken bluntly asked if I had
44:29
Speaker 1: JE did to which I said no, never. He took
44:32
Speaker 1: a minute, then said he trusted me, which was huge
44:34
Speaker 1: weight off my shoulders. Scubless Ken. He asked what could
44:37
Speaker 1: have made my sister think I cheated? And I said
44:39
Speaker 1: I didn't know, but thought she was just hurt and
44:41
Speaker 1: looking for someone to pin the blame on so she
44:43
Speaker 1: could vent her anchor somewhere. He said that made sense,
44:46
Speaker 1: but he didn't understand how she drew these conclusions or
44:48
Speaker 1: how she pieced this together from a single hotel name drop. Yeah,
44:51
Speaker 1: that's I mean, I mean she probably went like full
44:54
Speaker 1: FBI mode once he told her that he actually did,
44:57
Speaker 1: because remember her fiance actually did so. I asked what
45:01
Speaker 1: he meant, and he said, there's at least three Shangri
45:04
Speaker 1: La hotels or apartment blocks in Singapore, and he didn't
45:06
Speaker 1: understand how she knew I stayed in this exact same hotel.
45:09
Speaker 1: I didn't really have an answer to that. I didn't
45:10
Speaker 1: have a copy of the bank statements and didn't note
45:12
Speaker 1: down to the exact recipient from the statement she waved
45:15
Speaker 1: in my face. I also said she could still argue
45:18
Speaker 1: I visited his room or visited mine, which ended that speculation.
45:21
Speaker 1: I offered to ask to see the bank statement again,
45:23
Speaker 1: but he shut me down and said he would ask
45:25
Speaker 1: since she doesn't know we've spoken yet. Oh okay, goodness,
45:28
Speaker 1: see double agent. We like this. Okay. He messaged her
45:30
Speaker 1: last night and she apparently responded by saying she would
45:32
Speaker 1: send them to him in the morning, which should have
45:34
Speaker 1: been before this update was written. But I haven't heard
45:37
Speaker 1: anything from him, so I suspect that hasn't happened. The
45:39
Speaker 1: rest of the call was a lot of questions and
45:41
Speaker 1: not a lot of definitive answers. He appreciates that I
45:43
Speaker 1: spoke to him about it and stayed calm instead of spiraling,
45:46
Speaker 1: as it helped him stay calm about it too. I
45:48
Speaker 1: sent him the post I made to ask if he
45:50
Speaker 1: was okay with me updating with our conversation, which he
45:52
Speaker 1: said was fine and he would like to see what
45:54
Speaker 1: people have to say. I said, pretty well after that,
45:56
Speaker 1: good level headed conversation with logical people, okay, okay, logic
46:01
Speaker 1: onto this morning, right before I started typing this post.
46:04
Speaker 1: Both of my parents were home today, so I offered
46:06
Speaker 1: to cook breakfast as to hope we could all sit
46:08
Speaker 1: down and open up a chance for me to address
46:10
Speaker 1: my sister's case. I suspected that since she told Ken,
46:13
Speaker 1: she almost certainly told her parents too. However, when I
46:15
Speaker 1: tried to start explaining myself, I got cut off almost
46:17
Speaker 1: as soon as I mentioned the Singapore trip. My parents
46:19
Speaker 1: told me they had already heard my sister's half of
46:21
Speaker 1: the story of the day before. No surprise there. A mom,
46:24
Speaker 1: who for context, has a higher IQ than my dad
46:26
Speaker 1: and so generally takes charge with these sorts of conversations,
46:29
Speaker 1: said that while they believed they'd raised me better than
46:32
Speaker 1: to do something like this, she was not going to
46:34
Speaker 1: let me plead my case to them, as I was
46:36
Speaker 1: clearly in a better state of mind about it, whereas
46:38
Speaker 1: my sister was torn apart. She said my sister was sensitive,
46:41
Speaker 1: and she would think that her own parents didn't believe
46:44
Speaker 1: her or care about her hurting. My dad chimed in,
46:47
Speaker 1: saying that she already has a slight resentment towards them
46:49
Speaker 1: and me because I was praised more when we were
46:52
Speaker 1: young context marked with a number below too much for
46:55
Speaker 1: brackets and not everyone will care, and that he wouldn't
46:57
Speaker 1: get involved, but also refuse to openly support me in
46:59
Speaker 1: a time where she needed to see she was supported
47:02
Speaker 1: and loved. Okay, so they're just basically sitting on that fence.
47:06
Speaker 1: To say I was blindsided was an understatement. The entire
47:09
Speaker 1: time they were talking on and on about how they
47:12
Speaker 1: didn't want to take sides, they were openly allying with
47:15
Speaker 1: her notion that I cheated with her fiance. Who are
47:17
Speaker 1: these people? The hypocrisy was brutal. I said all of
47:19
Speaker 1: this directly to them, calling out the contradiction and saying
47:23
Speaker 1: that if they didn't take my side but openly confronted
47:25
Speaker 1: my sister, everybody we know would draw up the same
47:28
Speaker 1: conclusion that I cheated, and that my parents were being
47:30
Speaker 1: charitable by not reprimanding me further. Verripy is a beautiful thing.
47:37
Speaker 1: My mom said that if I was able to prepare
47:39
Speaker 1: all this evidence and created defense, this was proof that
47:42
Speaker 1: my mental clarity was leagues above my sisters and that
47:45
Speaker 1: she needed them more. I left after that, went for
47:47
Speaker 1: a ride on my motorbike, stayed out of the house
47:50
Speaker 1: for a couple hours, and took a breather. Wow, this
47:52
Speaker 1: is wild. I feel like the only thing you have
47:54
Speaker 1: done is a thing I said you should do, and
47:56
Speaker 1: that's like sitting down with her, your sister and the fiance.
47:59
Speaker 1: I'll be it. They probably don't want to be in
48:01
Speaker 1: the same room. But I feel like you need to
48:02
Speaker 1: clear this up. I feel like this is really important.
48:04
Speaker 1: At least get on like a three way call or something,
48:07
Speaker 1: you know, set up a zoom meeting. I don't know.
48:10
Speaker 1: I don't know, but she probably won't believe anything he
48:12
Speaker 1: says either. I don't know. Let's read the comments. Where
48:14
Speaker 1: is your sister's fiance slash ex fiancee in all of this?
48:18
Speaker 1: I want to know what he has to say exactly. Yeah,
48:21
Speaker 1: OHPI says. From my perspective, he's Mia. I unadded him
48:24
Speaker 1: on social media after the relationship status changed, as I
48:27
Speaker 1: felt it was inappropriate to continue to follow my sister's
48:29
Speaker 1: ex That's very mature of you. I haven't heard much
48:31
Speaker 1: of him after that, other than from my sister herself
48:34
Speaker 1: saying she got him to pay the remainder of the
48:36
Speaker 1: rent until the end of their flats lease. Another comment
48:40
Speaker 1: said something doesn't add up. I mean, how on earth
48:42
Speaker 1: did she randomly choose the same week to go on
48:44
Speaker 1: a trip to the same country with the sister's fiance
48:46
Speaker 1: in the same hotel. Coincidence, Like I said, something feels
48:49
Speaker 1: off given the context. Funny they were staying in the
48:51
Speaker 1: same hotel and never bumped into each other during breakfast
48:54
Speaker 1: or dinner. Opie said, I think I've defended myself enough
48:57
Speaker 1: across the past two posts and their respective comment sections,
49:00
Speaker 1: but the breakfast or dinner comment is new. I don't
49:02
Speaker 1: know how often you travel or stay in hotels, but
49:05
Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever been to a hotel dinner. Yeah,
49:07
Speaker 1: that's weird. I eat out when abroad because a hotel
49:09
Speaker 1: restaurant will never give everything right. Yeah. I mean that's
49:12
Speaker 1: just a that's stupid. I don't agree with that. Okay.
49:15
Speaker 1: Another comment said, I have so many questions that need answers.
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Speaker 1: Why would you have to get hr involved? I didn't interesting,
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Speaker 1: do you work together? If you were there with your friends,
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Speaker 1: Why haven't your friends also jumped into this? I mean
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Speaker 1: she said they did. She said they had texts. When
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Speaker 1: you say you hang with your ex, is her fiance
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Speaker 1: your ex am I missing something or getting something? I
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Speaker 1: think you're just not You didn't read anything, but op clarified.
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Speaker 1: Someone said I should pressure the ex fiance into saying
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Speaker 1: who he was actually cheating with. I said this was
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Speaker 1: a good idea by getting my boyfriend to message him instead,
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Speaker 1: but also mentioned that the ex fiance might be hesitant
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Speaker 1: to admit well it was if he was cheating with
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Speaker 1: one of his coworkers. HR gets messy. I see No,
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Speaker 1: I'm a student. The entire point of trying to get
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Speaker 1: ahead of this was to avoid having everyone and their
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Speaker 1: mothers involved in conspiracy theories, especially not people who lived
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Speaker 1: live a thirteen plus hour flight and seven hours ahead
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Speaker 1: due to time zones. For her fiance is now her
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Speaker 1: ex five definitely, I suggest you read the previous But yeah,
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Speaker 1: this person just didn't read the post. Okay, oh man,
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Speaker 1: we don't have any more updates.
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Speaker 2: Ah, you know, it'll be what it'll be thought that us.
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Speaker 2: You know that's a that's basically it is what it
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Speaker 2: is in icelandic little little fact. That's the only word
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Speaker 2: I picked the words I picked up from Iceland. I'm
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Speaker 2: probably saying that wrong too. Any people from Iceland in
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Speaker 2: the comments, US, am I saying that wrong? Probably all
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Speaker 2: you can do is say your piece.
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Speaker 1: I think you have a very emotionally mature boyfriend, and
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Speaker 1: I'm happy for you for that. I think you're going
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Speaker 1: out of your way to grab all the evidence and
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Speaker 1: even footage from the hotel and all that. And I
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Speaker 1: just think she's she's clearly in a very emotional state
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Speaker 1: and not in the right frame of mind. You guys
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Speaker 1: don't have a good relationship. I think this is just
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Speaker 1: a recipe for disaster. Hopefully she can get past it
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Speaker 1: and realize that you're not lying to her. It is
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Speaker 1: a crazy situation, though, I'll give the sister that that
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Speaker 1: one thing. And and your parents suck. That really sucks,
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Speaker 1: even though they basically believe you. But they're like, your
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Speaker 1: sister's sad, so we're just gonna side with her. Actually,
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Speaker 1: it's like, oh, way to raise a just a little baby,
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Speaker 1: a little baby who's always a victim, Like that's not
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Speaker 1: She is a victim in this case because she got
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Speaker 1: cheated on and her whole future wedding got ruined and
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Speaker 1: all that stuff. But in terms of them picking her
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Speaker 1: side over yours, I just don't think that's fair. That
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Speaker 1: is a crazy situation. Though I would not wish this
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Speaker 1: situation upon anyone. I know, that's terrible. Hopefully she comes around,
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Speaker 1: but yeah, this is crazy. What would you guys do.
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Speaker 1: What would you guys do in the situation? I have
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Speaker 1: no idea. This one perplexed to me. But that's it
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Speaker 1: for today. I will see you in the next one,
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Speaker 1: all right. Love you, appreciate you. Say yah.