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iHeartRadio Podcast Awards Spectacular! · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Benn and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with i R Radio. It is the Ben and Ashley
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  Speaker 1: I Almost Famous podcast. But Ben isn't here again. However,
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  Speaker 1: I have so many guests to fill in his spot
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  Speaker 1: this today, even though is he really somebody you can replace?
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying we're replacing him. I'm saying we have
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  Speaker 1: some people filling in. And those people include Brooks like
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  Speaker 1: Gavin Degrock, Caitlin Bristow and Jason Tartek, Nick Vill, Tanya
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  Speaker 1: rad beck At, Tilly Yardley Smith, Jean Claude, Van dem
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  Speaker 1: Brooke Burke, Megan King, Edmunds, Dean Anglert, and my husband.
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  Speaker 1: And our first guests are sitting right next to me,
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  Speaker 1: and they are Caitlyn and Jason. Does it still feel
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  Speaker 1: weird to say husband? You said husband? And I got
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  Speaker 1: like all tingle, I say husband, any chance I get
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  Speaker 1: I call him husband? Yeah, I would too. I like that.
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  Speaker 1: You need say my husband, Jared, You said my husband
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  Speaker 1: was such a power. Yeah we all know, Yeah, my husband.
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  Speaker 1: It does have a certain strength about it, does it does.
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  Speaker 1: Fiance's like fancy and then husband's like you guys, you
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  Speaker 1: mean it. You guys are in fiance is flirty, very flirty. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and boyfriend just sounds super like I'm in high school.
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  Speaker 1: There needs to be a term that's like not boyfriend
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  Speaker 1: and not fiance, like not man friend, because that's really
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  Speaker 1: I won't like the word fiance. I'm like, it's too cliche.
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't use it. I love it, you don't like
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  Speaker 1: you know what. What I notice about when I used
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  Speaker 1: to have to refer to Jared as fiance is it's
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  Speaker 1: like so much less commanding than my husband. Like if
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  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, thank you, I have to talk
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  Speaker 1: to my fiance about it, like to make a decision.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, oh, really, it's your fiance, but like I've
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  Speaker 1: talked to my husband, of course you have to talk
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  Speaker 1: to your perfect sense. Yeah, it's more of a legit word.
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  Speaker 1: Fiance is very flirting. I think about your your wedding
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  Speaker 1: often too. By the way, it was just such a
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  Speaker 1: beautiful wedding. It was like you know, when you scroll
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  Speaker 1: through photos in your phone, like looking for something to
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  Speaker 1: post something. I always passed it. It It was just stunning,
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  Speaker 1: really was. Thank you. And those photo booth photos that
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  Speaker 1: like everybody is stupidly incredible. They're so insane Um, okay,
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  Speaker 1: so we got to talk about the Bachelor with you guys. Um,
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  Speaker 1: let's talk about the pregnancy theory first. So you guys
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  Speaker 1: know that this is the new theory out in the
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  Speaker 1: on the Wait Cyber's Fear, there's a pregnancy theory. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So now, ever since we got an extra clip, you know,
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  Speaker 1: in the super tease, we got an extra clip after
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  Speaker 1: Chris Harrison says we have big news. We just learned
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  Speaker 1: it right now. And then there's a new scene that
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  Speaker 1: they added where he's like lying on the bed and
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm making this up. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like he had like ice on his head or yes,
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  Speaker 1: I remember, yeah, and he looks super distraught. Now people
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  Speaker 1: are saying that because they keep teasing sex before fantasy.
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  Speaker 1: Sweet Caitlin, you know about that. I've liked, am I
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  Speaker 1: the only one? Or am I the only one that
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  Speaker 1: was exploited for me? Definitely the only one exploited for it? Um,
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  Speaker 1: people are saying that possibly they're bringing that up so
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  Speaker 1: much because a girl gets pregnant and then he finds
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  Speaker 1: out there. I mean it's really a bit of a
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  Speaker 1: stretch because you know, like you need how logistics guy, right,
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  Speaker 1: like think about that weekend? How many saying no, but
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  Speaker 1: you need Like don't you need just two weeks to
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  Speaker 1: really know? Like if you miss your period and you
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  Speaker 1: were opulating two weeks earlier, you just need two weeks.
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  Speaker 1: But then I'm thinking, are you gonna have to call
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  Speaker 1: him like Mari mariy whatever his name is to you know,
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  Speaker 1: like he obviously would be the father, but who is
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  Speaker 1: the mother? Because if you're having multiple women, you mean
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  Speaker 1: who is the mother the one that I'm sorry, sorry
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  Speaker 1: you wait now my whole my whole theory is screwed.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just thinking, like, wow, I really did not think
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  Speaker 1: this one through. You're right, I'm gonna make you feel
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  Speaker 1: better right now. One time I had to write a
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  Speaker 1: Spanish essay my sophomore ye of high school, and I
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  Speaker 1: spent thirty minutes trying to find Spanish letters. Oh yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 1: that does make me feel a lot better. So you
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  Speaker 1: just didn't think that went through. But what I'm getting
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  Speaker 1: at is that's going to be a dramatic thing. But
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like maybe they're gonna it's
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  Speaker 1: gonna be like, oh she thought she was, but like
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  Speaker 1: there's no way, Yeah, there's no way, I don't think so,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I guess it's a possibility. It is a possibility,
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  Speaker 1: of course, it's a possibility. Crazy people that I don't
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  Speaker 1: think there's there's absolutely no legitimacy. They're like, Hannah Brown
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  Speaker 1: comes back and says that she's Pregnant's like, no, because
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  Speaker 1: she wasn't you have to have sex? So that would
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  Speaker 1: be crazy. But I just thought my theory was based
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  Speaker 1: on your theory when I read what you said, thinking
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  Speaker 1: that Hannah wins Dancing with the Stars says she's thinking
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  Speaker 1: about him and that she wants to be with him.
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  Speaker 1: Still I think, I mean, I'm still wanting to believe that.
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  Speaker 1: Can I just ask you what you think about that?
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  Speaker 1: What do you think about Hannah coming back and not
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  Speaker 1: joining the season and then um then possibly like what
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  Speaker 1: do you think of the whole situation? What do I
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  Speaker 1: how do I feel like it's appropriate and she were
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  Speaker 1: to actually come back and be like anything, like what
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  Speaker 1: is it? Just your thoughts on that whole Hannah and
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  Speaker 1: Peter situation. I'm okay with her coming back. I'm okay
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  Speaker 1: with what she already did, which was come back and
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  Speaker 1: like express her emotion. But then if she were to
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  Speaker 1: like tell him at the end of all this, hey,
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  Speaker 1: just letting you know I'm still thinking about you. Then
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  Speaker 1: that might be rude. Yeah, okay, yeah, I think it's done.
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  Speaker 1: I think you had you know, she had to come back.
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  Speaker 1: She gave the wings back that was cute. Then that
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  Speaker 1: she led the date that was very production based, and
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  Speaker 1: then I think when she was in the back we
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  Speaker 1: can all relate to this when you're back in the
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  Speaker 1: world almost like the PTSD, the emotions manifest, and I
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  Speaker 1: think that was very raw and authentic. But I think
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  Speaker 1: it's done, Like I think the whole hand and be
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  Speaker 1: that's my theory. We won't see her again on this
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  Speaker 1: season and her in Peter's relationship is over and they're
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  Speaker 1: gonna like root for each other's happiness. Okay, so that
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  Speaker 1: is probably what happened. What annoys me if that is
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  Speaker 1: the case, is like their last scene was so inclusive,
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  Speaker 1: like concert there there's no there was It was inconclusive.
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  Speaker 1: It was left open. Yes, that was ambiguous for I
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  Speaker 1: didn't answer any questions that were brought up the episode beforehand,
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  Speaker 1: which makes me think there's something left to be said.
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  Speaker 1: At the end of the season. I think I think
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  Speaker 1: her intention was like listen, I'm gonna check the boxes,
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  Speaker 1: give the wings back, lead the date, I'm done, And
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  Speaker 1: then I think it all just kind of hit there.
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  Speaker 1: And that's why there wasn't an answer, because I don't
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  Speaker 1: think she expected to react like that, and she definitely
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  Speaker 1: wasn't going to be like, well, yes, I'll join the house,
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  Speaker 1: so she was like, I'm not even going to answer
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  Speaker 1: that question. Yeah, I guess I. I just wonder why
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  Speaker 1: there wasn't even I t M like there weren't even
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  Speaker 1: interviews after that scene, Like he was like, I would
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  Speaker 1: have canceled this portion of the date now and I'll
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  Speaker 1: see you guys later. And I thought that we'd see
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  Speaker 1: him in an interview for hours, just sobbing and like
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  Speaker 1: trying to talk out his feelings, and the same literally
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  Speaker 1: just went into the date night like nothing happened. Bizarre,
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  Speaker 1: super bizarre, super I'm glad you guys think that's where
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  Speaker 1: does I do? It? Was super weird. Um Peter is
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  Speaker 1: saying that reality Steve says that he can't be he
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  Speaker 1: can't have an accurate prediction this year for a fact,
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  Speaker 1: this is what does reality Steve say? Why no? But
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  Speaker 1: Reality Steve, No, that's not. I'm saying Peter is saying
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  Speaker 1: there's no way that Reality Steve can spoil this season. So, like,
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  Speaker 1: does that mean that Peter doesn't even know how his
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  Speaker 1: own season ends, Like he's still making a decision. It
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  Speaker 1: must that I guarantee that, Well, there's no other explanation.
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  Speaker 1: Even if he picks nobody, Reality Steve would still know that.
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  Speaker 1: So right, So is that a spoiler in itself, Like
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  Speaker 1: he doesn't pick anyone, or he's still trying to pick someone.
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  Speaker 1: He's still trying to pick someone, I think, because otherwise
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  Speaker 1: that's that's the only way you couldn't spoil it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: the only way, especially today, like you can trace who
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  Speaker 1: follows who, all the crazy stuff people do to be
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  Speaker 1: able to like back into it and for it to
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  Speaker 1: be actually unspoilable, then then he had to have made
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  Speaker 1: no decisions. Something must happen between the finale and yeah,
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  Speaker 1: like something his decision must be made on after the
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  Speaker 1: right now. But then Harrison, like in those teasers, Harrison
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  Speaker 1: comes back and tells him something extremely dramatic that he's
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  Speaker 1: like shocked at the finale, right, Like you could tell
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  Speaker 1: he's got his Like I think it's his full tucks on.
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  Speaker 1: So it's got to be the first we are you
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  Speaker 1: here for the first part of the conversation doesn't know
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  Speaker 1: what we were talking about when he had laid there, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: like that somebody's pregnant, because you know, I'm saying, right,
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  Speaker 1: there is when in my opinion, that's when like something
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  Speaker 1: happens where no one's picked. Like, so that's why it's
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  Speaker 1: unspoilable because there was going to pick someone before Harrison
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  Speaker 1: said that. Sure, Like so maybe someone he's not over Hannah.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, Maybe he someone doesn't. Maybe he picked
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  Speaker 1: someone and they don't pick him back. No, that he'd
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  Speaker 1: still know that though, Oh yeah, that's true. Yeah, he
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  Speaker 1: I think the last season he wasn't accurate on was yours. Well,
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  Speaker 1: then he went back and said something like he caught
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  Speaker 1: it in the middle of the season or something, but
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  Speaker 1: his initial spoiler wasn't true. No, he didn't catch it
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  Speaker 1: until I spoiled everything. Oh, that's right, that's right, that's right,
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  Speaker 1: that's right. Oh my gosh, of all seasons for him
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  Speaker 1: to be wrong on and then I go and spoil it.
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  Speaker 1: My goodness, I like being unspoiled by the way I have.
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  Speaker 1: That's my my next question for you guys is do
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  Speaker 1: you get spoiled every season because some fan will write
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  Speaker 1: under your photo and your capture your comments and be
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  Speaker 1: like it's so and so, and it's like, why would
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  Speaker 1: you tell me? I'm trying to watch it, like just
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  Speaker 1: slid into my d m s and she goes, Caitlin,
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  Speaker 1: did you see this? And it's him on a hometown
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, no, I didn't, and I'm trying
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  Speaker 1: to avoid spoilers, and she goes, yeah, me too, but
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  Speaker 1: somebody showed me and I'm like, thanks, yeah, no, it's
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  Speaker 1: spoiled now. I mean spoiler who goes to hometowns? But
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  Speaker 1: I hate spoilers. I hate them. I love the like
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  Speaker 1: I don't know the surprise at the end. I love
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  Speaker 1: being all my toes the whole time. I'm I just
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  Speaker 1: I don't like spoilers. But it always happens because people
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  Speaker 1: comment under it, but I try to not look like
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  Speaker 1: even if I know it's Bachelor related, I'll try and
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  Speaker 1: not read the comments or even right now, watching Gray's Anatomy,
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  Speaker 1: everybody knows what always happens, but when I tweet it,
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  Speaker 1: I don't read the responses because I don't want spoilers
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  Speaker 1: on Season A new and right now I've Jason. I
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  Speaker 1: heard that there's like some issues in the relationship, because yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it is like anytime caitlyn Is is on the couch,
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  Speaker 1: it's gray, anytime she's going to bed, it's gray, and
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  Speaker 1: then it's grace. He does he does one thing, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, McDreamy would do that for Meredith. Yeah, I'm like, hey,
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  Speaker 1: do you love me as much as McDreamy loves Meredith.
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  Speaker 1: I think he does. You'll end up learning to love
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  Speaker 1: other relationships too, because between five and ten there's a
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  Speaker 1: lot of other really great, relatable relationships, and I doesn't
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  Speaker 1: feel so sad for you just because you're going to
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  Speaker 1: go and you're going on this great binge like I
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  Speaker 1: did two years ago to three years ago, where I
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  Speaker 1: did thirteen seasons and like ten months. But then when
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  Speaker 1: I got up to the live episodes, I was like, no, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I know, I keep bracing myself from it to not
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  Speaker 1: be as good seasons are there sixteen sixteen, So I
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  Speaker 1: I dropped off the beginning of fifteen. I just couldn't
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  Speaker 1: do it really Okay, Well, I still have a little
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  Speaker 1: ways to go, at least two months worth of binging
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  Speaker 1: I got, I got two more questions. I don't care
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  Speaker 1: if they're telling me to wrap up a little bad.
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  Speaker 1: We just did our first live podcast and you're like
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  Speaker 1: the queen of live podcasting. Do you have any good
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  Speaker 1: advice if we continue to do more dates? Um, you
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  Speaker 1: did a live one in l A, San Francisco. How
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  Speaker 1: did it go? Was it fun? It was good? Yeah? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it was really fun. I mean the audience was gets
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  Speaker 1: you a hype? Yeah, they do. I think. I think
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  Speaker 1: my only advice is just like I don't treat it
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  Speaker 1: like a typical podcast like interview style. You kind of
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  Speaker 1: have to just feed off the audience and the audience
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  Speaker 1: wants crazy, behind the scenes funny like you. You can't
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  Speaker 1: do it like a typical interview style. So I would
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  Speaker 1: just say incorporate the audience and make them feel like
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  Speaker 1: they're part of the experience. I really like that advice.
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  Speaker 1: And my finale question is which dog prefers? Who is
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  Speaker 1: Jason and Caitlin? Who's the best buds? So Ramen definitely
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  Speaker 1: prefers Caitlin, Peno or is myself? That's for sure. I
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  Speaker 1: would agree with that. Pino, Yeah, I would. I would
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  Speaker 1: say that you wouldn't admit that though until we got Pino, no,
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  Speaker 1: I would admit that. You never let You're like, no,
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  Speaker 1: he loves us both the same. And he follows up
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  Speaker 1: me around two and I'm like, okay, whatever, correct I
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  Speaker 1: knew for I tell everyone from the minute we had Ramen,
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  Speaker 1: Ramen was like, Ramen loves Caitlin, but loves never always
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  Speaker 1: said he loves females in general, Like, so Caitlin wasn't around.
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  Speaker 1: I brought him back home immediately he attached to my mom.
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  Speaker 1: And then there was another instance we brought him around
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  Speaker 1: immediately attached, oh to Sydney. Remember we left, we left
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  Speaker 1: the dog in Canada. So now you're trying to take
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  Speaker 1: it away from me that he loves me more. Oh no, no, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: he absolutely loves you more. But yeah, but I was
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  Speaker 1: just saying that was one of the things. Well, Romen
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  Speaker 1: might be my favorite child too, But I love Pino
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  Speaker 1: so much. But I'll secretly like whisper to Ramen and
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  Speaker 1: be like, you're still the king of the house. I
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  Speaker 1: love you so much. Both from the same place. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: Bunny's buddies, Ye, buddies both from Softocre, They're both from
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  Speaker 1: same shelter House like everything. I just sent it their
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  Speaker 1: DNA tests. Yeah, and I'm like praying to God. The Brothers,
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  Speaker 1: you know, has more of a full face. Ramin is
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  Speaker 1: very like delicate and like pinots, just a big potato.
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  Speaker 1: I love them. All right, Thank you, guys, Thank you,
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  Speaker 1: see you later, good luck at the podcast awards. We
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  Speaker 1: should also probably talk about that. We are here right
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  Speaker 1: now in of the podcast awards, the I Heart Radio
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  Speaker 1: Podcast Awards, Caitlin and I are up against each other
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  Speaker 1: a little friendly competition. Yeah, I'm not. I'm not feeling
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  Speaker 1: competitive with you though. I'll just as happy if you
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  Speaker 1: win as if I win. Me too. And let's be real,
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  Speaker 1: sory Heart Awards, you're gonna win. I don't think so.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's like the opposite. I think they're like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: we can't be too obvious, so we have to not
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  Speaker 1: choose anything. Who who else is in our category? Nick
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  Speaker 1: is in our category? Oh oh as long as I
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  Speaker 1: beat him. Okay, now that's a real friendly all right,
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  Speaker 1: thanks guys, thank you. We are back at these special
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  Speaker 1: I Heart Podcast Awards podcast with a couple of guys
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  Speaker 1: who have a podcast called how Men Think on the
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  Speaker 1: I Heart Radio podcast platform. We have Gavin DeGraw and
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  Speaker 1: Brooks like here at Little Studio tonight, Gavin, you are
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  Speaker 1: going to be performing and Brooks are going to be
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  Speaker 1: introducing him. That's correct. That the big surprise that was
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to be featured. I'm going to do like
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  Speaker 1: a like you know how sometimes like a notable artist
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  Speaker 1: comes in to feature on another notable artist. So that
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  Speaker 1: was in line. That's what we have in line for sounds.
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  Speaker 1: Did I played some rock band like a week ago,
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  Speaker 1: so I'm dialed in here. That's awesome, But like, are
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  Speaker 1: you really going to like singse? I feel like you
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  Speaker 1: could sing though you have a good tone to your Totally,
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  Speaker 1: I totally don't. It's amazing, honest, have you seen me
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  Speaker 1: play hockey? So here's the thing. Actually, I respect and
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  Speaker 1: love and admire the art of singing. If there was
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  Speaker 1: one skill in the world that if I could magically
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  Speaker 1: snap my fingers and acquirey would be the ability to
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  Speaker 1: like really sing. I'm the worst singer in the world,
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  Speaker 1: but I love music and I can't wait to see
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  Speaker 1: my buddy perform. That's very kind of you. I can't wait.
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  Speaker 1: I'm super excited to see um he he actually has
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  Speaker 1: a great speaking voice, and we should leave it there.
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  Speaker 1: I appreciate the support, but damn it. And he has
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  Speaker 1: the gift of gab that's very important him on the podcast. Yet,
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  Speaker 1: by the way, he's amazing, He's so good. He's an
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  Speaker 1: absolute natural. You guys have two other co hosts, Dmitri
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  Speaker 1: and Rick over there and say hey, guys, Hey, So
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  Speaker 1: the following questions, I'm going to ask to all four
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  Speaker 1: of them, what are the top two things that you
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  Speaker 1: guys think that women don't understand about men? Because you
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  Speaker 1: guys get emails all the time like what are the
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  Speaker 1: two things that women are always asking that women don't
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  Speaker 1: understand about men? Like, you know what I was trying
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  Speaker 1: to figure out, you know what, I think. I think
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: that they think that we're not sensitive sometimes, and I
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: think that we're much more sensitive than we let on. Okay,
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: that's that's a very good point. That's true. You know
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: sometimes if I say something a little sensitive, someone like oh,
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: you're just being but hurt, and it's like, no, I'm not.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: I can have a feeling and I can be upset
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: about something I'm not right now, So we're clear, doesn't
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: sound like we understand that I think that down the knife.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: I really think that's truthful. I think, and that's part
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: of our mission with our podcast is emotions are real
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: and men have them. And I was talking about somebody
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: earlier about this that men's emotions are just as strong
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: as women's, we just maybe don't show them as much.
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: I think the other thing um that maybe women might
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: mistake about men is um and maybe they do, maybe
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: they don't. I don't know. But sometimes a man can
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: be looked at like he's figured things out, he's supposed
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: to know, Like, we don't know, we don't know the answer.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: We don't know how to handle this situation. We're trying
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: our best. But like a lot of times, we might
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: be looked at for some sort of guidance or leadership
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: or or anything to handle something or to be a
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: safe place for something, and we're flying by the seat
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: of our pasts that we don't know. We you know,
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: I've been through some of that stuff recently in my life.
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: We lost our dogs, Like I don't know how to do.
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: I don't know how to handle that. Like, but I'm
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: trying to be there for my wife. I'm trying to
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: I'm trying to go I'm going through it too, Like, um,
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: there's a lot of times in our lives whereas men
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: we really don't know, but we just we try try
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: as hard as we can. So can I ask you
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: a way through that question? Good enough for you? Quite possible?
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: Here's a question, what do you would you think that?
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: Or what do you think? Um? When I don't women
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: don't get about men? Yeah? Or what is it something
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: that you don't get about men? Um? You know you're
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: recently married, so that's a whole new journey. I know.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: I would say that, like, probably women get the rep
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: for being like the moodier gender or sex, and I
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: feel like guys can have just as many different moods. Yeah,
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: is that? I guess that kind of goes with the
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: sensitivity thing. What do you think? Why young at me? Um? Okay,
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: I agree, why not? You'll hear it on the podcast time.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: I would tend to agree with you. I think I'm
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: pretty even keeled somewhat, But that doesn't mean I don't
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: have emotions. But I think man in general, maybe maybe
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: I'm generalizing and painting it with a broad stroke, but um,
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: maybe are a little more even keel in general. What's
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: been your favorite podcast topic to discuss in like the
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: what nine months you've been doing it? Guys, what do
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: you think? I mean? Well, we always have a real
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: good time answering questions from people because that's real, that's
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: our honest opinion. Um, we've talked about sex a lot,
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: which you know we're not good at to be able
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: to be honest, like to be honest. Actually we we
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: started the podcast to try and create a safe space
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: for men to talk about things that they never talked about.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: And part of my mission with this was in a
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: locker room, dudes don't talk about anything other than the
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: game we're playing too, And I saw guys really struggle
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: in their life, even though they could perform in their career,
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: in their life, they struggled and it's because we we
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: just didn't talk about stuff. So we will, as guys
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: want to be a place and have a conversation where
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: we lay our weapons down, talk about things that actually
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: are going on and truthful in our lives, even though
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: it's maybe hidden by a rough exterior or something. There's
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: actually like emotions and linings and insecurities and stuff going
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: on in our life. And UM, topic wise, I don't
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: know exactly which one is my favorite, but I love
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: the mission behind it. Yeah, I love the mission behind
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: it too. I mean, everybody loves the movie What What
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: Men Want and What Women Want? And I feel like
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: you guys are just trying to kind of like crack
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: the code in between the two sexes, right, I don't know,
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: we're just kind of vent about it. You know, we're
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: all in different phases of our lives too, and I
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: think that it helps us kind of bounce things off
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: each other. And and um, I asked these guys for
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: you know, their opinions on things. And sometimes I hear
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: them talking about marriage and their relationships. And I'm not married,
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: so it's interesting hearing their perspective on things. And sometimes
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: these guys are kind of steering me toward Hey man,
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: you know, you gotta with the right person you thinks
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: you're gonna you know, your your mind's gonna change on
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: certain things. So these guys are all there in for
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: the long haul with somebody. I'm not. I'm not there
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: in my life yet. Um, but vice versa. Sometimes I
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: think about becoming a rock star. I asked, sometimes you
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: guys like, hey man, you got a room on the bus.
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: Backup basis Gavin, You've never really had a relationship that's
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: made headlines or one that's been very public. Are you
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: very private about it or have you not just had
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: many relationships. I'm pretty private. I think I'm maybe too private, um,
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: but it's just the nature of it. And I think
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: because I've been into music, uh world and seen so
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: many public relationships fail or get too much attention, it's
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: always been a little disturbing to me. Um. And I've
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: always been also very fearful of of like celebrity relationships
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: and just the headlines sort of, um, just the the
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: idea of of people asking you about things that have
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: like on the red carpet, just freaking you out, like,
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: hey man, we heard that such and such is going
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: on with you guys, and that that's that's always been
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: a phobia of mine, you know, as an as an artist,
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: is that people would maybe pay a little too much
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: attention to certain things that are more private than than
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: than public, Like you don't want to Taylor Swift it
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: where everybody knows what the songs about, who the song
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: is about pretty much basically, Yeah, that that that's been
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: a phobia of mine, you know, I mean, that's to
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: me there's certain things that that you you want to
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: keep private, and uh, the second you start exposing someone
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: else to that, to that world, it's sort of irresistible, uh,
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: for for other folks not to pay attention to that
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: type of thing. I think he's really about about it.
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: Sometimes I bumped into him on the street and pretended
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: like you didn't know me. That's a joke, right, is
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: trying to buy some gum? Well what are you thinking
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: you be singing tonight? I'm doing a couple of songs. Uh, yeah,
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: a little bit, a little bit of medley. Yeah, just
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: a little bit of taste of a taste of what
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: what I do. Me and a couple of my guys
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: from my band got together and we're gonna do a
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: little bit of something else, uh, just to spice up
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: the night. Song called Soldier, and a song that kind
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: of kicked off my career in the public eye called
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: I Don't Want to Be. So that's that's when that
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: really kind of changed my life to begin with. You know,
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: I got me out of the poorhouse, all right. I
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: actually saw you perform Soldier at the Thirst of the Thirst.
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: It was really cool. Yeah, that was an unbelievable night.
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: Man special evening, wasn't it. Yeah, If you guys aren't familiar,
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: the Thirst Gala is about building water mines in in
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: areas of the world that they don't have any fresh water,
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: and people like literally spend their entire day going to
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: fetch water. Absolutely so crazy, the walk miles and miles
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: just to get a couple of gallons of water. It's
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: just incredible. All right, Well, thank you guys so much
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: for joining us. Thank you so much. Yeah, Ashley and
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: I'll see you on stage with gaff for to hear
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: Brooks's rhymes. At what point are we going to bring
• 24:56
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• 24:58
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  Speaker 1: It's called The Damn Good Fight, and it's it's about
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: you know how to achieve success through tips of you know,
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  Speaker 1: the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual components of yourself. And
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: that can be anything from just like your mindset to
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: training and nutrition and all of this. All the tips
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: you're gonna give us on this podcast is going to
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: help us achieve our our life goals. We all have
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: access to success. Is that's a great word, access to success.
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: Can you give us a tip right here on the podcast?
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: But for example, I came in this country and God
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: blessed America with nothing in my pocket. But I did
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: have I did formulate in my mind an image of
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: success that I create in my mind when I was young.
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  Speaker 1: For many, many years, it became so alive into my head.
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  Speaker 1: I threw this image in the future of America, and
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: when I came and I walked in America, I was
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: looking in my head like a star. I felt like
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: a star, and finally it happened. So it's like these
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: types of secret And also we'll have the point of
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: view of the young generation that I cannot follow sometimes
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: like Christ and many guys around him his age, So
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: we'll have this point of view, will have him correct
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: me when I make English grammatical. Lot of the show, actually,
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: if I may step in dewn, A lot of the
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: show has to do with representing a relatability factor with
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: the world itself. Right now, everybody's damn good fight to
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: the top. What is worth fighting for to them? Individually speaking?
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: You know, everybody has a damn good fight if you
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: want to say it in the commercial aspect of things,
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: but it's true. And um, the relatability factor of the
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: show and the people were going to be the guests
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: essentially we're going to be interviewing can share their fight
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: to where they've arrived with their success and they're in
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: their lives. So I think it's a very important show
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: that can bring people together to know that you know,
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: someone like my father and someone like myself and yourself,
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: and people in this room have a fight. They're fighting
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: for every day their purpose in life. Johnny, you um
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: just talked about the power positive thinking, visualizing. How do
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: you feel how do you feel people who have a
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: positive outlook differ in success than people who have a
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: negative outlook? Um, okay, we cannot be positive all the time.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: I've got my dawn site a lot, and that will
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: be describing the show like you and everybody else. But
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: it's not like a technique, but it's a um, a
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: natural act of nature. And when it will be described
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: in the show with other people, famous people like you said,
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: Christopher and myself, they'll come on the show. Maybe we'll
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: have a champion from the UFC or a pilot. Uh,
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: Formula one, Formula one, how you say in English? Formula one?
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: We got it? Formula race car driver America and stuff
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: like that. So you I mean when you came here,
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: where you're from, which state? How you were able to
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: become so successful in in in in the radio and stuff.
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: My name is actually I was. I grew up in
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: Virginia and I went on a dating show. But that's cool, right, people,
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: So everybody on our show will be a star, not me,
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: not Chriz. Everybody will come on the show. They will
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: talk about stuff I didn't know about it like a
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: live YouTube visual not visual, because it's not camera. Stuff
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: I did not know about. It would be the correction
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: there because my son told me and I was doing
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: something to me that it's no camera on that show.
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: It's it's a it's a audio. So I said it
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: was a camera somewhere. He said that sometimes podcasts have
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: a video components to them. That's right. Why did you
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: choose podcasting? Well, I think you know. We were approached
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: by we were approached by a wonderful team. We're working
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: with a team called known as Cinematically. Consists of very
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: very important people in this, in this, in this this
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: show itself, and we couldn't be where we are without them,
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: so we're very grateful for that. Um Cinematically has approached
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: my father and I because they saw the dynamic between
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: us and they when when things start to get fluid
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: on on a on a regular basis, even at home,
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: we are just ourselves while interviewing people like right now,
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: and we just kind of work well off each other
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: when we warm up to the to the correct RPM.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: But um, I think, uh, the good thing about this
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: show is we have so much. My father has been
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: through what I've been through. Being underneath such a large
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: name like my father and the impact he has in
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: the world, it's very difficult to to try to Um.
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: It's a fight within itself, you know, And it's like
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: you're you're trying to cast your own shadow upon your
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: own shadow from within the shadow that's DNA based. So
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: it's like it's very hard to climb that mountain, but
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: it's possible. And um, coming from that side of the
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: of the fence, it's nice to hear my father's speak
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: about things I never even knew about. And I think
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: when we interview people who can relate to the pain
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: he shared for his time to make it to the
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: place he's been and vice versa. With me and the
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: and the guests we have on the show, we can
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: we can really share some important stuff. And I think, um,
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: I think, uh, I think we can go somewhere special
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: with this because it's as raw and grittain real as possible.
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: Our podcast is a lot about relationships because we talked
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: predominantly about the Bachelor franchise, and do you do you
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: guys ever expect to be talking about the damn good
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: fight that is love and marriage and all that. I
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: know that you've been married a few times, but you've
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: been with the same woman since now exceptional, I mean
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: to be able to First of all, I met my
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: wife into in front of me in the magazine in Belgium.
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: She was very known in Europe as a one of
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: the first body builder champion without the Jews, you know, steroids,
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: very very Jews, very female looking and uh like you know.
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: So anyway, I came to Los Angeles and I always
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: wanted to be with that woman, and finally we met. Look,
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: she basically met your celebrity trash, don't I was nobody
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: at that time, so she uh took me in and
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: and then um depend on but to be able to
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: remarry the woman and for her to be able to
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: wait and to forgive, it's something amazing. And that's why
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: people like to stay around her family. When people come
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: to our family, they don't want to live because they
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: see a wife like snow white. Uh, they see kids
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: like they saying yes, sir lady. Because they were born, homeschooling.
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: I was afraid for them to go into drugs because
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: my past history and so well protected but also well
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: instructed in terms of uh A, spirituality, intuition, science, connectivity stuff.
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: We can talk about people like wow connected. You know,
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: we don't know Jean claud I didn't know, but the
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: martial arts. But we can talk about even quantum physics,
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: plasma and all that stuff. So they heard this crazy
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: girl on YouTube learning what they learning what school and
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: they have that type of education. So when people come
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: to our place, they feel this type of feel welcomed
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: and we can relate to people. You know. Yeah, we
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: love people. Yeah, we love people, and we want to
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: do that with the show. And we love animals. Howe,
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: how many dogs you have amongst you guys? Can I
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: say the number? Countdown? All right? So we started. We've
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: always had dogs either minimum to maximum and one heaven. Yeah,
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: everybody who comes to the house is welcomed by all
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: the pups. But now we're at seven. God bless those
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: who have passed away and left as they left. They
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: they lived long lives and they they've lived great lives,
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: long lives, and we we they're all rescues. Most of
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  Speaker 1: them were rescues UM from filming locations, different sets around
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  Speaker 1: the world. Um, we brought them a lot of my poor, my,
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  Speaker 1: poor mom, my parents, they they and my sister and
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  Speaker 1: I too. We all helped and contributed with the traveling.
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  Speaker 1: But it was such a hard a hard trip to
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  Speaker 1: bring some dogs. You know, quarantine avoiding, quarantine, all that,
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  Speaker 1: all that stuff. But we love, we love animals big
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  Speaker 1: on ecology. They don't care about them on the street.
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  Speaker 1: They were dying. You want to take them out to
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  Speaker 1: save them, and they give you so much headache. It
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: cost me ten times more money to save a dog
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  Speaker 1: with all the papers, and it ridiculous, it's so, it's
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  Speaker 1: so crazy, it's so it's Um. The way that I've
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: adopted dogs has always been quite easy, but I know
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  Speaker 1: that there's a lot of people who they have to
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  Speaker 1: go through so many hoops and wait so many months
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  Speaker 1: just to get a rescue. Just like let's you know,
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  Speaker 1: they seem like a good person. You do a home check, okay, right,
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: and not the dog have a home. And also in
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: our audience, what we want to do because I've got
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: all those fans and believe or not to go okay,
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  Speaker 1: it's full of no one. I'm not I create such
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  Speaker 1: And we want to give this, uh not a message,
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  Speaker 1: emotional on on on that one with my words, excuse
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  Speaker 1: me for that. But what I think he's trying to
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  Speaker 1: say is that he wants to really bring in not
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  Speaker 1: only his fan base and viewers alike, he wants to
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  Speaker 1: deliver a message he feels it is important, um, you know,
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  Speaker 1: representing his damn good fight and representing what he represents
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  Speaker 1: now past just being a star, past just good. Um.
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  Speaker 1: He's personal, you know, basically, and it's it's as relatable
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  Speaker 1: as it as it should be. Like other people coming
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  Speaker 1: on our show, please open up to us. And also
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: our show is super optimistic. We're not here to launch
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  Speaker 1: people and a new pass in this and that we
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  Speaker 1: we we we live at the page. We don't understand
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  Speaker 1: the past. We do we learn from it. But when
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  Speaker 1: a guy come to my show is coming at the
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  Speaker 1: page of today because every day, which chance for better words? Yeah,
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: I think about myself even nine months ago, and I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't have picked that alphite out. Oh my god,
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: Oh my god. We have more people sitting next to me,
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  Speaker 1: like my husband. He's back. You guys, I know you're like,
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  Speaker 1: this is a second podcast this week that Charon's been on.
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  Speaker 1: Is it really? Oh yea the live podcast? I forgot
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  Speaker 1: about that, But I'm not alone. I have my co
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: host from the greatest podcast that ever was Help I
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  Speaker 1: Suck at Dating Dean, I'm Glenn Suck. Help my sucking
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  Speaker 1: day a little. We're gonna work on a chance. My
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: first question for you is, truly, like the podcast pride
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: is real. I've never seen somebody shout out their own
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: podcast or get so hype when it's brought up than
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: you two. Why it's a movement? You suck reason movement.
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: It's not stopping. We're coming from the People Choice Awards.
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: We're coming for podcast awards because you're not nominated today. No,
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: which excuse my language, but it's bull Viva love revolucy on.
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  Speaker 1: You want to know what's funny is you know in
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  Speaker 1: soccer and soccer matches in international sports. The only team
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  Speaker 1: that shouts their name in the matches USA. We're the
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: only ones that go US usay every other country they
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: have like a song or anthem. Does that make us
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: like obnoxious or awesome horribly obnoxious? I don't know. I
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: think it kind of makes its awesome. Well. I appreciate
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: that because I feel like we're adopting that same mentality.
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  Speaker 1: Help helping made I think I'm gonna I'm gonna dar
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: Deane to get up on stage tonight as somebody accepts
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  Speaker 1: the pop category, talk about this. We're pulling. We're pulling
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  Speaker 1: a full Kanye. There are relationships in dating category because
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: there should be no there's like TV and film. I
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  Speaker 1: think that it could be in film. It should be
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: relationships and dating. I agree there might have been motivation
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: which we could potentially fall under. I'm gonna let you finish,
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: but Jared was the best co hosted two nine Dean.
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: If you did this, you guys would get so many
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: listens literally conversations. We'd be iconic. But the problem is
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: Dean can't do it because you know he's not gonna.
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: He wouldn't have because the correct him coming, because you
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: would take so long security attackle me well before I
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: got to the mic at least. But I don't I
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: don't think you'll be able to pull it off in
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: the same way. What the hell is that supposed to be?
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: You know, you're too like suave like I've got. Wouldn't
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: that be a good thing you need to be. We
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: gottaet him a couple of drinks deep, and I think
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: he might be might be game. I've seen him a
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: couple of drinks deep. You've seen me a couple of
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: drinks deep. So how do we so we don't even
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: know what he's capable of. We don't exactly, guys, you
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: don't even know the beast within. Have you tried the
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: Bartesian out there? We had it on Help I Suck
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: a Dating weeks ago? Really, yeah, we did for the
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: Christmas episode. I was thinking, like, we don't even drink
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: mixed drinks in the house all that much, but we
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: should get one of those. I mean, it's pretty cool. Okay,
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: So I my biggest question, and I feel like the
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: audience's biggest question for you guys in your podcast, is
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: how can you still suck at dating if you're both
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: in serious loving relationships. Do you want me to take
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: this one? I would love for you too. Al Right, listen,
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: listen to everybody who's listening currently right now. Listen up,
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: open those ears. Guys. We all suck at dating, whether
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: in relationships, whether we're single, it does not matter, because
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: there's all things that we could work on get better at.
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: There are aspects of marriage that I suck at. Give
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: them examples, Give me examples what you suck at. I
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: could do a far better job of surprising you. What
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: do you mean surprising me? Just bringing home flowers every
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: once in a while. It's it's things that I'm currently
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: working on. Really, I haven't seen any work actually, because
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: in all other aspects of marriage, I'm perfect. So I
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: have to have one thing I suck at in order
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: for the podcast to be successful. It's for the big baby.
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: This is why I don't get surprises. What you doesn't
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: mean so much for me, I know, but I'm working
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: on a Dean. Would you agree, though, that there's all
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: aspects that we suck at. I think you know that
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: right on the head. I think just because you're in
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: a relationship doesn't mean you don't suck at dating. Just
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: because you're married doesn't mean you don't suck at dating.
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: Just because you're single doesn't mean you don't suck at dating.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: I think anyone can listen to the podcast and learn
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: things because it's not just us sharing our experiences. It's
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: also we have relationship experts, therapists, authors, et cetera that
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: come on the podcast and divulge all of their information
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: and all their wisdom upon us. And even like, like
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: I was saying, you don't have to be married in
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: a relationship or whatever your status is, you can still
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: take something from it, which is nice. You guys. Later
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: in the podcast and Nick Vile is coming on, do
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: we think that Nick sucks at dating? Absolutely? Yeah? Why
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: does Nick suck at dating? I think Nick is uh
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: And I say this as somebody who was part of
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: the groomsmen party that sits in front of me. Well,
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: Nick will never agree to this, but I think he's picky,
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: very Oh my god, I think you'd agree with you.
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: I think you might be the pickiest person that I met.
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: Incredibly picky averything up to me. He's like he and
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: I are like the same amount of picky, Like there's
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: always something wrong even if it's perfect. There's always something wrong,
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: and he's just the epitome of a single guy living
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: in Los Angeles. It's hard paradox and choice kind of
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: like paralyzes people. You know, He's got so many options,
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: and Nick he's a you know, he's acting, he's obviously
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: used to be the bachelor. He's got a lot of
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: things going for him, and so a lot of women
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: probably would want to date him. And so sometimes that
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: ability to choose things that mobilizes you and makes you
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: question whether there's maybe something better around the next corner. Yeah,
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: that that's the millennial problem. Is there something better with Instagram? Now?
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: I'm sure Nick's dms are off the charts, blowing up,
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: you know daily. How is it felt to not check
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: that DM that other DM section for you over the
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: past seven or eight months. Well, I still check it,
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: but they'll check it to Yeah, it's just for fun
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: some of the business recently. Yeah, because there are people
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: that will reach out and be like, hey, do you
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: want to like a pair of sweatpants and just tag
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: us on into a grand story like yeah, I would
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: love a parent swap pants, Thank you so much. But
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: it does it does feel good. I was walking through
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: the airport the other day when we were flying back
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: from Europe, and uh, I just had like randomly stopped
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: dead in my tracks. Caitlin as well ahead of me
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: because I embarray slow in my coutches, and I was like,
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: I'm so glad I'm in a relationship and I know
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: have to be single anymore. It just being single as exhausting.
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: I have a friend who just broke up with her
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: boyfriend of two years this week, and I keep thinking
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: about her at thirty, needing to be back on the
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: dating field, and I'm like, that is stressful, and especially
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: since like so many of your other friends are in
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: serious relationships. Like who do you go out with to
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: like try to meet people? And it's just like you,
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: it's a relatability thing. It's like fun for five seconds
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: and then you're completely over it. Right, Um, what is
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: what is Caitlin's number one complaint like about what you
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: stuck at dating? Oh? Man, Well, she's just so sweet.
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: She doesn't really complain about much of anything. Uh. Sometimes
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: I get maybe drive the sarcasm home a little too hard,
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: like publicly, I feel like maybe not like between you too,
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: but I feel like like you kind of get on
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: her at Twitter on Twitter sometimes we're in interviews that
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: probably annoys her. No, but she maybe at first, but
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: she Like what I really adore about her is she's
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: kind of taking that whole thing and stride and now
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: she spits it right back at me twice as hard.
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: So it's like what she what used to be her
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: biggest grievance against me, she's turned into. One of my
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: favorite things about her is that she's able to put
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: it back on me too. That's so cute. My last
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: question for you guys is, um, well, sorry, baby, it's
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: not for you. Well, it's like it's harder for me
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: to come with interview questions for you since you're my husband. Yeah,
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: we talk constantly. Yeah, um, Dean, I need to know
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: about all the things that you now appreciate, even more
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: about Kaylin after she went to Switzerland and like help
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: you truck through Europe and all the nursing that she
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: did for you. Like I want like a little bit
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: of mush for the next sixty seconds. Oh my gosh,
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: Musch is not really my strong now, but it's so
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: sweet when it does come out. Um, I do appreciate
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: your coming her. I appreciate her coming out to help me.
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: There were a lot of times she called me and
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: she was like, hey, I'm gonna fly out to Switzerland,
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: like help you. I was like, no, like, don't come.
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: I don't want you to be bored in the hospital
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: with me. You're not gonna be doing anything. Um. And
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: there were times when you know, obviously she had like
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: carry my luggage to the airport and she had Today
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: actually was the first day since the accident that I
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: put my own shoes on and tied to myself. Really
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: proud of that. Um. So she was responsible for doing
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: that for me up until today basically. And I kind
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: of got a note at myself a few times because
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: there were like things that she would mistakenly do or
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: like forget to do, like forget to get me something
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: from Starbucks or something so silly like that, and I
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: would like get kind of annoyed, and then I was like, wait,
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: why am I getting annoyed at this person that's trying
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: to help me. Um. But she was great every step
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: of the way. You know. It's really telling of her
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: to just kind of drop everything and come and help
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: me through the recovery process in Europe. And I appreciate
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: her for that it would have been a much, much
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: grimmer situation had she not been around. And so Kitlin,
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: if you're listening to this, which I'm sure you are,
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: I really appreciate you doing that for me. And if
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: the roles ever reverse, God forbid that ever happens, I
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: will be there for you as well. And I love you.
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: Thanks all right, thank you, guys for the best love.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so glad he's here because our show is not
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  Speaker 1: man like and you know you started that out by
• 51:16
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  Speaker 1: It's so different. That's what we really talked about, the
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  Speaker 1: being married and being in relationships. Yeah, I guess women.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's just it goes back to vulnerability. I
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  Speaker 1: think that men have difficulty being vulnerable with their counterpart,
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  Speaker 1: and so I think probably a lot of times you
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: bring up looking at your phone while in the midst
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: of a conversation. Most of the time, I'm sure when
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: guys look at their phone, the conversations about something serious,
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: and so they just avoid eye contact because they don't
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: want to be vulnerable because eyes obviously are a pathway
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: to the soul. So I think, and I think women
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: are far more willing to be vulnerable. And this is
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: a it's a real skill actually, to to a skill
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: and to feel a willingness. Yes, these vulnerables really Yeah,
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: and to build the capacity to hold that. Like you said,
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: a lot of men like divert their eyes or draw
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: their attention elsewhere, um, instead of like deeply connecting, because
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: it can be a lot to hold. And so a
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: man has to be deeply present within him embodied within
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: himself to be able to show up for a woman.
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: You guys talk about sex a lot in the podcast,
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: and um, here should we get a little should we
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: like be a little revealing right now? Yeah, it's okay.
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: So everybody knows that I was you know, I was
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: a virgin for a long time. That was my thing
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: on the Bachelor, And um, I think because I started
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: later in life, I like have this thing where like
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: I have such a hard time feeling sexy, Like I
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: cannot present myself as sexy. Like I can feel hot,
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: like I can look in the mirror and be like
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: you're having a really good day, like you're really pretty,
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: but like I can't like be sexy, So like I
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: need advice from you ladies. Look things like I can
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: feel like I look in the mirror and I'd be like, yeah,
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: it look good, but like I can't like like put
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: on like a sexy persona. It's so interesting to hear
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: you say that, because your body language is sexy and
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: you are as like a sexy woman exuding that. And
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: this is an amazing inversation because it comes from within
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: such a deep place. And what we're talking about a
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: lot on our podcast is about getting in touch and
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: dialing in and discovering and tapping into all of the
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: powerful feminine qualities that we all possess and sort of
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: owning that and giving ourselves permission. We talk a lot
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: about permission to feel, to discover and to find freedom
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: in that. And like I look at you, even the
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: way you are moving, you're so sexy in your in
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: your body language. So it's about I think, changing your
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: inner dialogue and you know that inner messaging um and
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: feeling it from a deep, authentic place because it's actually
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: already happening. You might be in a little wit denial,
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: thank you. I think. I think it's definitely my sister, who,
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: like I know, I blame her for this all the time.
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: It's because like all of my twenties, she was like, actually,
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: oh my god, you're so awkward. Oh my god, you're
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: so awkward, Like I can't ever imagine you like that.
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: And I really think that it went to my soul. Yeah. Yeah, well,
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: you know when you are very sexy. Let me say this,
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: I do you think you are awkward, But that's your
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: your that's your person, that's who you are, that's your
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: most endearing quality. But I also think it goes back,
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: if I'm being honest, to confidence, because it's so confident
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: in every other territory. That's let me let me explained.
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: I think even Brook, like you guys, you leaders, are
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: saying Ashley is very sexy right now because she's in
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: a podcast studio on a mike, very confident because she
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: does this all the time, and this is like this
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: is your this is your thing. You know, you know, like, hey,
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: I got this, I can interview like a podcast, I
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: can talk. You're very confident in that area. I think
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: sometimes because everybody well knows you might be a little
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: inexperienced in some aspects of relationships, you lack the confidence,
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: and I think your awkwardness comes out because you're also
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: the person that you can't hide anything. So when you
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: are feeling awkward, you are putting that vibe out and
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: you're like, I don't feel comfortable, and I'm I am
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: I do is this not good? Like, I don't know,
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: and it's sort of adorable. But don't we all feel
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: awkward at times? Awkward at times? Well yeah, otherwise we'd
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: just be arrogant, we'd be like walking around owning it
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: and it wouldn't be as attractive. So that might be
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: your most attractive quality. But when you tap into that,
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: that's sensual confidence. Girl, it's an it's sexy that you know.
• 56:24
  Speaker 1: It's not like what someone looks like. It's what how
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: they are feeling and that coming through you know, it's
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: um it's really an energy. It's someone who is feeling themselves.
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: You can see like someone who isn't what we deem
• 56:38
  Speaker 1: to be sexy walking down the street. But if if
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: that person is feeling themselves so they are their senses
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: are alive and that is emanating through their body, that
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: is sexy. And that's what we're seeing in you right
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: here when you're talking and you can I can see
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: and feel all the energy moving from your body and
• 56:56
  Speaker 1: it's coming out. Damn, you're really you're you're feeding me that.
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: We're going to talk about this on our in our
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: next episode. I think on Monday. B D E b
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: D is so it's big dick energy. Yeah, Like and
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: guys have it, like a really confident like centual dude
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: will have b D And it's not necessarily a compliment
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: or a bad thing, just it is. But women can
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: have it as well. So it's this, it's this like
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: it's like a confidence like a it's like, um, not
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: an ambiance if you will. And it's interesting and it's
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: kind of like this powerful feeling. I feel like that's
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: what Pete Davidson has and that's why he gang. Okay,
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: if you Urban Dictionary b d E because I have
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: his name is on there. There we go, because like
• 57:45
  Speaker 1: he's cutesy and he's super funny. But like it's because
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: Dictionary know where we know what. We thank God for
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: the Urban Dictionary, right we are learning back in the scene.
• 57:59
  Speaker 1: I gotta I gotta like learning these these acronyms. I
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: haven't make it a nightcrack about that kind of stuff
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: that because we're like Google searching, like searching. Oh yeah,
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: I have this. So I thought i'd bring this up
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: on this podcast because I have this sponsorship with k
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: Y coming up and their new acronym is um. It's
• 58:19
  Speaker 1: resting pleasured to face instead of resting bitch face. And
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: I feel like lube is one of those taboo things
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: with sex. What do you think is a taboo that
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: people just need to get over and be like, you know,
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: we should just talk about it. I didn't add with
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: them last year for Valentine's n and I was and
• 58:37
  Speaker 1: I was like a little bit nervous. Yeah, but I
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: was like, you know what, I have sex and I
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: am okay with that, So like, why am I not
• 58:45
  Speaker 1: okay with telling the public that I have sex? Love?
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: And I did that, right girl, That's good. And I
• 58:52
  Speaker 1: get why you're a little like hesitant that accomplign like that.
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: I get it. But it was empowering because we all
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: do it. Yeah, and like we do like lube, right, yeah,
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: we do. No, I'm glad to do that because I
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: do think that, like, as a society, we should be
• 59:05
  Speaker 1: talking more about sex because the only way it doesn't
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: become a taboo topic is is if people are rave
• 59:11
  Speaker 1: enough to talk about it And lube is a great
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: example of because people always feel weird about talking about luke,
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: but it is a part of sex. I mean, like
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: we talked about there's like it's a great way drug. Yeah,
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: remind me in our next episode to bring something up
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: that I won't get into right now in the loop department. Okay,
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: do not let me forget Okay, talking about and coconut
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: oil and don't don't let me coconut oil I heard
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: was not good because like oil can like make little
• 59:39
  Speaker 1: cuts or something. No, it's good for everything and everything.
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: I have false information. Don't listen to me. I have
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: two more questions for you, ladies. Um, I have a
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: friend right now who has gone on two dates with
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: a guy. She likes him a lot, The conversation is great,
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: they have a great energy between them. Um, but she
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: like doesn't feel like it's her person. Do you think
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 1: that you always have to give three dates? Because that's
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: always been the rule that my mom taught me that
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 1: my my sister in law, she wasn't sure about my
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: brother in law until the third date. I feel like
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: the third day is a magical number, and I'm just
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: should she give him the third day or like if
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: you're if you're not feeling it's your forever person by
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: date to then you just got I don't know about
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 1: what forever person, Maybe not forever if you're not excited,
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: I guess for a third date. If you're not excited
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: for a third date, do you go on one just
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: to like give it it's all, or do you cut
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 1: it off at the second day? Three dates For me
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 1: seems like a great investment of time. I mean, maybe
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 1: you get to the second date. If you I mean,
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 1: I don't know, Like yeah, you're like I have kids,
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 1: Like you know, who the hell has that kind of time?
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: I'd rather tell it, I say, follow. I think she
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: should follow her guy fellow, her instinct. She doesn't have
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 1: to have reasons and kind of have logical explanations for
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: how she's actually feeling. That's what that's what she to
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 1: be guided by. Like on paper he's good, but like
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 1: there's something in his in her gut that says that
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 1: is going to be nagging at her or if she
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: or not, if or if it continues that first thought
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: and impulses going to I think we should be talking
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: ourselves out of that gut feeling and compromising like at
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 1: the stage, and we're championing the mind over what is felt.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: And I think that's a huge mistake. Actually, I love that, Like,
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: don't champion the mind over what your heart and your
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 1: gut are saying. We're obsessed by what says rather than
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: I also have another friend who is seeing a guy
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: that she really likes, but the kissing is bad. What
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: do you do? Get out? Run run back. I've definitely
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 1: trained a few people. I think they can be trained. Absolutely.
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 1: I think there's a lot of misleading. You might have
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 1: had some very misleading information before, and so I think
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 1: he's likely could be trained. So another girl may have
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 1: given him bad lessons, bad feedback. Everybody needs feedback, especially
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 1: without our bodies, Like I think I think we need
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: some roadmaps. Is like, no, I dump it. I just
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 1: feel like I've raised for children. I'm looking at me
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 1: and going training right now. You know hard we're working
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 1: on to like we design our lives and raise our
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 1: kids like I would like long term maybe if it's
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 1: your but just providing some value information like a little
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 1: to the left. You know that's valuable. And I've glows
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: back and a little bit slower. I'm looking at my
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: husband now, and I know that this man doesn't like
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: criticism and nic kind. What's your mail take on that
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 1: you can give him tips? Or is he going to
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 1: take that bad? I mean guys have big egos, so
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 1: it might not. I think it's probably what's best for him,
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 1: but they probably won't take it the best. Guess what
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 1: about I guess the delivery of the style in which
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 1: somebody Well, of course, Cosmo always like, love it when
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 1: you do this, even if he's not doing it like that.
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 1: I think that's legit good. Yeah, say that again. Cosmo
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 1: will suggest that you're like, oh, I love it when
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 1: you do this. It's like, you know, like you try
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 1: to point them to the right direction and instead of
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: telling him what's wrong. Yeah, that makes sense. Alright, Well, ladies,
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 1: this listen. This has been so much fun. I want
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 1: to be on your podcast. Okay, Well, we also want
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 1: to know what people want us to talk about and
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 1: what they think, and so we're sort of developing this
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 1: and evolving this for everyone because it's such a personal conversation.
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 1: So yeah to us, yeah, god, Dad, give it to us.
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 1: Sounds good. Maybe I'll just like drop in the studio
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 1: sometime when you're recordings and they come out Monday's. That's right,
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 1: every Monday. I knew episod own and knowledge. Thanks for
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 1: having Thank you so much, Thank you, Thank you all. Right, next, guest,
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 1: I know we keep rolling through them. This is insane.
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 1: We have Yardley Smith. She is most famous for her
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 1: role as Lisa Simpson on The Simpsons for the past
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 1: thirty years. Lisa Simpson is as old as me. Well,
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 1: actually I'm a year older than her, but still, Um,
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 1: you're Yardley is an actress, a producer, a writer. You
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 1: have been everywhere TV, Broadway, You've been as good as
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 1: it gets Dharma and Gregg, the Tracy Yelloman Show. And
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 1: now you have a podcast called small Town, Big Dicks,
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 1: Big Crime, Big time crime happening in small town USA.
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 1: How do we go from all that comedy to a
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 1: true crime podcast? Actually, it's it's just small town Dix,
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 1: smalltown Dick. I don't know the tagline. We've made a
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 1: tagline for you if you will get thanks, thanks for that. Uh.
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 1: Dick's being the the noir slang for detective. Um you know?
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 1: I oh? Is that why? Like they called him Dick Tracy. Yes, yes,
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 1: learning things all the time on the almost famous podcast. UM.
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 1: I have always been fascinated by people who aren't interested
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 1: in following the rules that the rest of us following
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 1: order for society to function well. And then since there
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 1: are those people in the world, I also want to
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 1: know that there is another group of people that are
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 1: willing to put the train back on the tracks in
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 1: order for society to continue to function well. So that
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 1: means that I want to know that there's law enforcement
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 1: who take their job really seriously, who feel that it
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 1: is a calling and not just a job, who are
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 1: willing to line up all the dominoes exactly right. And
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 1: what I've learned on our podcast is that in order
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 1: for an investigation to result in justice, you have no
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 1: idea how much granular detail needs to be put in
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 1: place in order for all of these things to line
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 1: up precisely, in order for a d A to file,
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 1: in order for justice to be served, so that this perpetrator,
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 1: this criminal who has been who has committed a crime
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 1: against a person, against a home, against you know, society
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 1: can be put in jail and we all feel a
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 1: little bit safer. Have you watched with cats? You know?
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 1: I've Actually it's so funny you say that because about
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 1: seven people say yardly, because I love cats, I have
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 1: two cats, You've got to watch with cats and that
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 1: I'm like okay, well and they're like okay, but there's
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 1: just you know, they don't show you what to the cats,
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 1: but you know, it's kind I'm like, Okay, I'm not sure,
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 1: I gotta I think you should watch it because especially
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 1: you're so interested on the side of the people trying
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 1: to do good and get these people in jail. You'll
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 1: see like this huge Facebook community I know what happened
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 1: Like it's a community of like regular non criminal expert
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 1: and who say, dude, law enforcement listened to me. There
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 1: is a dude who's killing kittens and he's going to
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 1: escalate and he's gonna start killing people and guess what,
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 1: oh he did. It was fascinating to see like how
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 1: behind the times the real professionals were there. It is, um,
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 1: you know, it's it's really all those stories are so
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 1: interesting because when you think about what we have learned
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 1: from our detectives, because all of the cases on our
• 1:07:43
  Speaker 1: podcast are told by the detectives who investigated the case,
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 1: so which is really quite unusual in the podcast space.
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 1: You see it much more on television. So, um, what
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 1: we've learned is that the case load never gets less, right,
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 1: there to do list never gets smaller. And they, as
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 1: I said, they really consider their job of calling not
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 1: just a job. And these cases really stick with them.
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 1: So what I do on my side of the table,
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 1: as the lay person is I want to know not
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 1: just what it took to take this investigation from soup
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 1: to nuts, but I want to know as a human being,
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 1: when you are the person who pursues humanity, who sees
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 1: the worst of humanity every single day, where does that
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 1: live in you? When you have a family, if you
• 1:08:30
  Speaker 1: have a wife or a husband, um and children, where
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 1: does that go and you at the end of a day.
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 1: A lot of those guys struggle, all of them. It's
• 1:08:40
  Speaker 1: really really hard, and they all say, well, you know,
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 1: we just put it in a box. But what's also
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 1: true is the lock on that box isn't that good? Yeah,
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 1: it's They have a lot inside them, and I think
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 1: a lot of them struggle keep the struggle to keep
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 1: it in. It's and you ultimately you can't really keep
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 1: it in, and so they it's unhealthy. They process it
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 1: with each other because they also feel like, no matter
• 1:09:05
  Speaker 1: how close I am to you, the light person, right,
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 1: my partner, my um, mother, my sister, my whatever, you
• 1:09:13
  Speaker 1: have no idea what I've actually seen. You have no
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 1: idea what it was like to try to do CPR
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 1: on that baby and it didn't work. You have no
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 1: idea what it was like to explain to those three
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 1: children that they're dad just killed their mom and so
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 1: those things. So they process those experiences with their fellow
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 1: law enforcement personnel and then at the end of the day,
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 1: as you say, I mean, there's a lot of sort
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 1: of emotional stress that goes along with that, and so
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 1: they're just I always feel like everybody has a story,
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 1: no matter what the story is. Everybody feels like their
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 1: story isn't that interesting, and everybody is wrong. Everybody's like, oh,
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 1: it's boring, But like I'm compelled by a people's supposed
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 1: boring stories. There's so wrong about that. It is the
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 1: It's in the details, no matter what the details are.
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 1: This week are the Aaron Hernande's story came out on
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 1: and I watched it yes on Netflix. I finished it
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 1: last night as well. My my husband and I are
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 1: big Patriots fans, and he came into the bedroom of
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 1: the morning it came out and he was like, the
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 1: Aaron Hernande's documentary dropped him and I was like, Yay,
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 1: We're gonna go watch it tonight. During what we eat dinner?
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 1: It was like very exciting, and then I'm like this
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 1: is so crazy, Like yeah, I'm excited to learn about
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 1: this horrible story of multiple people dying, about this absolutely
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 1: tormented man. Why do you think that we are so
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 1: obsessed with true crime? Because I think that by and large,
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 1: we recognize, like I said, that society only functions if
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: we really do all abide by a certain set of rules.
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 1: If we don't, we have complete and utter chaos. So
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 1: who are these people who, especially the ones who are
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 1: really successful and or gifted and or um, the ones
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 1: who pulled themselves up by their bootstraps, like um, Aaron
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 1: Hernandez who was had extraordinary talent as an athlete and
• 1:11:11
  Speaker 1: he then made that into incredible opportunities. He made it
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 1: onto the Patriots, right he was a fourth round draft pick.
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 1: Then there was like, what the hell is happening? How
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 1: come he hasn't been chosen? Oh my god, Oh my god.
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 1: And then he becomes this huge star and then like okay, no, wait,
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 1: what the is happening here? What? And he was this
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 1: huge star and then everybody had to sort of pull
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 1: on the reins and go, hang on, this isn't right.
• 1:11:37
  Speaker 1: And I think there is a kind of a kind
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 1: of is there is there anything inside of me that
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 1: is like that? And if there isn't anything inside of
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 1: me that's like that, how did he get like that? Right?
• 1:11:54
  Speaker 1: And so if you watch that documentary, you'll see there's
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 1: a theory that he had the brain in tree right
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 1: at the very n C T e um. And then
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 1: there is the well, he was gay and he couldn't
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 1: handle that, And then there is though he was abused
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 1: as a kid. There are so many theories, but at
• 1:12:12
  Speaker 1: the end of the day will probably really never know.
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 1: And so I think there's a fascination of what actually
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 1: made him go over the edge. And then there are
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 1: people who say, well, I don't think it was him.
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 1: I don't think he actually pulled the trigger. But for
• 1:12:27
  Speaker 1: I gotta tell you, So, I watched that documentary with
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 1: Detective Dan. Right, Who's who? So? I co host my
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 1: podcast with Detective Dan and Detective Day for Identical Twins. Right,
• 1:12:38
  Speaker 1: and so I watched that documentary Detective Dan, and he says,
• 1:12:44
  Speaker 1: listen to me as a detective. A guy who gets
• 1:12:47
  Speaker 1: in a car with four people, one of them ends
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 1: up dead half a mile from the house of Aaron Hernandez,
• 1:12:53
  Speaker 1: who then goes into his house, goes into his basement
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 1: and comes out with a glock that the dude was
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 1: that Odin was killed with. Half an hour later and
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 1: his lawyer is going, it could have been an iPad
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 1: or a cell phone. Dan is like, dude, that's not true.
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 1: That's a glock like a little burry and oh it
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 1: could yeah, it's we don't really know it's it has
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 1: a very specific um shape to it, that gun. And so,
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 1: you know, it's really fascinating to watch. I only so
• 1:13:30
  Speaker 1: it's ruined doing the true crime podcast is actually ruined
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 1: um uh, scripted true crime, scripted crime shows for me,
• 1:13:39
  Speaker 1: because now I'm like, ah, that's crime Light. I can't
• 1:13:42
  Speaker 1: watch that now. I only want to watch Oxygen and
• 1:13:46
  Speaker 1: I D Discovery and stuff and stuff like that. And
• 1:13:48
  Speaker 1: it's really fascinating to watch it from a real detective's
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 1: point of view, because of course he'll always tell you
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 1: in the first two minutes, like, ah, I'll tell you
• 1:13:59
  Speaker 1: who I'm like. Also, it's like, my dad's a doctor
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 1: and you can't watch Gray's Anatomy with him because he's
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 1: like this says both like all the entire episode, the
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 1: same with the same with Dan He's like, the badge
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 1: is in the wrong place. That's not how you hold
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 1: Then never do that. You can never enter a room
• 1:14:16
  Speaker 1: that way. I'm like, could you just I'm just it's
• 1:14:18
  Speaker 1: just television. It's television. Yes, enjoy it, right, Yes. My
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 1: last question for you is, of all the podcasts you've
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 1: done thus far, what's the story that sticks out to
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 1: you the most that will really sell our audience to
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 1: listen to your podcast. Oh gosh, um, really there are
• 1:14:37
  Speaker 1: We've done over seventy episodes now we just closed our
• 1:14:40
  Speaker 1: fifth season, although we're only about two and a half
• 1:14:43
  Speaker 1: years old. There are two. I'll give you two because
• 1:14:46
  Speaker 1: I can't. It's trying to like trying to pick your
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 1: favorite child, but we don't want you to make Sophie,
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 1: thank you, thank you. Um. We have one four part
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 1: series in season one called The Sociopath and the Whistleblower,
• 1:14:56
  Speaker 1: which is about one of our detect tis investigating a
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 1: bad cop on his own police force, which is fascinating
• 1:15:05
  Speaker 1: and heartbreaking and it ruined the whole small town. And
• 1:15:09
  Speaker 1: then we have another one that aired at the end
• 1:15:12
  Speaker 1: of this past season five, which just aired about a
• 1:15:17
  Speaker 1: man who executed a guy when he was fourteen years
• 1:15:22
  Speaker 1: old and was put away for seventeen years and got
• 1:15:26
  Speaker 1: out on um a thing called a second look. Uh.
• 1:15:31
  Speaker 1: We actually on our podcast, we don't give any of
• 1:15:33
  Speaker 1: the names or places where the crimes took place. But
• 1:15:35
  Speaker 1: in the second case, exactly because you don't want to
• 1:15:37
  Speaker 1: give fame to the criminals. Um. We actually it's out
• 1:15:40
  Speaker 1: of respect for the victims. Okay, I was going to
• 1:15:42
  Speaker 1: say that's on the other side, yes, yes, And also
• 1:15:47
  Speaker 1: because many of our detectives are still working, and so
• 1:15:50
  Speaker 1: we don't want any of them ever to be on
• 1:15:52
  Speaker 1: the stand and have a prosecutor going. So you're part
• 1:15:55
  Speaker 1: of that podcast called small Town Dicks, right, so, Um,
• 1:16:00
  Speaker 1: but this guy, his name is Trevor Walraven and because
• 1:16:03
  Speaker 1: his case is quite famous, Um, he executed a man
• 1:16:08
  Speaker 1: when he was fourteen years old, and then he got
• 1:16:10
  Speaker 1: caught a week later, and he doing what after you
• 1:16:14
  Speaker 1: got a week after he got out of jail, he
• 1:16:16
  Speaker 1: got caught doing no. No, he got caught for having
• 1:16:19
  Speaker 1: murdered this man a week later. So and then he
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 1: got put in prison for seventeen years and now he's
• 1:16:26
  Speaker 1: out and now he's an advocate for youth offenders. And
• 1:16:30
  Speaker 1: it's a fascinating two part interview. Yeah, and you can
• 1:16:34
  Speaker 1: get our podcast everywhere you like to listen, so Apple
• 1:16:37
  Speaker 1: podcast as your Google play, um, you name it, We're there.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Has been so cool. You're cool.
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  Speaker 1: friends than it is these strangers? And the answers Absolutely.
• 1:18:58
  Speaker 1: I enjoyed by one of my good friends, Nick Vial
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  Speaker 1: of the Vial Files, which he's here at the I
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• 1:19:10
  Speaker 1: our audience. Bet, I was gonna call you Ben. And
• 1:19:14
  Speaker 1: also I feel like good friend is a little kind
• 1:19:16
  Speaker 1: of underselling our relationship. If I speaking freely, should I
• 1:19:19
  Speaker 1: say best friend, my best friend, you're one of my
• 1:19:23
  Speaker 1: best friend. You know, groom groomsmen, bridal party here a
• 1:19:28
  Speaker 1: bridal party friend, performer at your wedding. Performer. He sure
• 1:19:32
  Speaker 1: did perform. He recited did you did you? You did
• 1:19:37
  Speaker 1: Harry met Sally? Right? Yeah, So he did a monologue
• 1:19:40
  Speaker 1: at the ceremony, the Harry met Sally scene before the
• 1:19:44
  Speaker 1: clock strikes midnight. He did an outstanding performance and he
• 1:19:48
  Speaker 1: filled in last minute from somebody who had stage right.
• 1:19:52
  Speaker 1: But you know, you were definitely the best decision. Acting
• 1:19:55
  Speaker 1: classes are finally paying off shore are so I called
• 1:19:59
  Speaker 1: you Ben in the beginning. My first question is do
• 1:20:02
  Speaker 1: you think that you or Ben looks more like Peter Pete?
• 1:20:09
  Speaker 1: Pilot Pete? Yes, you you even put a picture. You
• 1:20:15
  Speaker 1: took a picture of the two of you next to
• 1:20:16
  Speaker 1: each other, and you're like doubledangers. All right. I've seen
• 1:20:21
  Speaker 1: some pictures where they're up. There will be times or
• 1:20:23
  Speaker 1: I'll see a picture of Pete and at first glance,
• 1:20:25
  Speaker 1: I'm like, that was that like an old photo of me?
• 1:20:28
  Speaker 1: Or I don't think he really looks like Ben? Okay,
• 1:20:32
  Speaker 1: I think I thought he looked so much like Benn
• 1:20:34
  Speaker 1: has a boyish look, but their eyes, the dimensions of
• 1:20:39
  Speaker 1: their face, like their face shape. I thought there was
• 1:20:42
  Speaker 1: so much better in him, and then look, I think
• 1:20:46
  Speaker 1: that's I think it's the boys. I think there's something
• 1:20:49
  Speaker 1: Doughey in their eyes, like Doughey into like a nice
• 1:20:52
  Speaker 1: like Dollway. I think it's it's that boyish charm that
• 1:20:55
  Speaker 1: they both have. Okay, So anyway, so Peter was sitting
• 1:20:57
  Speaker 1: next to me and I was like, oh my god,
• 1:21:00
  Speaker 1: you are the actual child of Nick and Ben, and
• 1:21:04
  Speaker 1: then you also became the Bachelor. It was weird. I
• 1:21:08
  Speaker 1: think it's very attractive. Yes, he's very attractive. He has
• 1:21:11
  Speaker 1: your coloring, and he has been structure is very is
• 1:21:15
  Speaker 1: wild to see. Why do you Nick feel like when
• 1:21:19
  Speaker 1: a person becomes the Bachelor they go to Ben for
• 1:21:24
  Speaker 1: advice and not you. I think so, yes, I don't know,
• 1:21:32
  Speaker 1: and I've talked to Peter, okay, but I feel like
• 1:21:35
  Speaker 1: Ben is like, then, why do you think that Ben
• 1:21:37
  Speaker 1: is the godfather of the franchise? You're you're dropping these
• 1:21:42
  Speaker 1: truths on me. I didn't know. You don't think that
• 1:21:44
  Speaker 1: like Ben has looked at as the like the president
• 1:21:48
  Speaker 1: of the Bachelor. I guess No, No, I feel like yes,
• 1:21:56
  Speaker 1: you apparently don't. I think Ben's great. I mean, sure,
• 1:22:00
  Speaker 1: I'd go to him for advice. I didn't know that.
• 1:22:02
  Speaker 1: Did you go to him for advice when he became
• 1:22:03
  Speaker 1: the bachelor? He gave me advice and we had we
• 1:22:06
  Speaker 1: had we had dinner and before I went so I
• 1:22:09
  Speaker 1: got him him and Lauren? Who else did you get?
• 1:22:13
  Speaker 1: Actually gave me better advice than that? What did she say? She?
• 1:22:16
  Speaker 1: You know, she just told me to focus and I
• 1:22:18
  Speaker 1: don't know, she just told me to protect the relationship.
• 1:22:20
  Speaker 1: If I thought I was going to pick someone. Okay,
• 1:22:24
  Speaker 1: that's good. That's good advice. Did you talk to any
• 1:22:26
  Speaker 1: other bachelors beforehand? Beforehand when I was going to be
• 1:22:31
  Speaker 1: the best? No? No, I didn't. That was you know,
• 1:22:37
  Speaker 1: that was that was all I needed. I guess relevance
• 1:22:41
  Speaker 1: may Chris a little bit? Yeah, maybe Chris souls um. Okay. So,
• 1:22:46
  Speaker 1: in addition to the viral files, which you talked about
• 1:22:49
  Speaker 1: a number of things, it's not just bachelor oriented. You
• 1:22:52
  Speaker 1: do interviews with relationship experts, a list celebrities, and you
• 1:22:59
  Speaker 1: also do questions with Nick every Sunday on Instagram. Questions
• 1:23:04
  Speaker 1: with Nick is when people send in all these questions
• 1:23:08
  Speaker 1: when you know, you set up the Q and A thing,
• 1:23:10
  Speaker 1: what is the number one? Like? What is the question
• 1:23:13
  Speaker 1: that you get every single week? And you're like, are
• 1:23:14
  Speaker 1: you kidding me? I'm getting this question again? Uh. They're
• 1:23:18
  Speaker 1: generally different variations of is he into me? Like why
• 1:23:23
  Speaker 1: hasn't he called? Right? Yeah, it's it's either it's it's
• 1:23:27
  Speaker 1: like why hasn't he called? Or what does he mean
• 1:23:30
  Speaker 1: by this? It's more it's a lot of more like
• 1:23:32
  Speaker 1: what does he mean your Your answers are almost always
• 1:23:36
  Speaker 1: he's not dying to you. Well, there's a lot of
• 1:23:39
  Speaker 1: those themes that try to be more specific. It's, uh,
• 1:23:43
  Speaker 1: it's more or less about it's less about he's not
• 1:23:46
  Speaker 1: that into you and more about uh trying to encourage,
• 1:23:51
  Speaker 1: And it seems to be more women asking questions, but
• 1:23:53
  Speaker 1: trying to encourage them to maybe have greater expectations of
• 1:23:58
  Speaker 1: uh their own require mention dating, greater expectations for their
• 1:24:02
  Speaker 1: own requirements, like do you think that girls should be
• 1:24:05
  Speaker 1: shooting higher? And they're like kind of settling for less.
• 1:24:09
  Speaker 1: I think a lot well, for what I've noticed with questions,
• 1:24:12
  Speaker 1: I think a lot of young women tend to um
• 1:24:17
  Speaker 1: be more worried about whether he likes her, and that
• 1:24:21
  Speaker 1: seems to be their biggest concerns. You know, what do
• 1:24:26
  Speaker 1: I like about him? Do I like that he does this?
• 1:24:29
  Speaker 1: Do I not like that he does that? Um, it's
• 1:24:33
  Speaker 1: seemed to kind of dismiss all these things all around.
• 1:24:36
  Speaker 1: Does he like me? So I try to, you know,
• 1:24:39
  Speaker 1: in different ways, you know, point that out. Okay, so
• 1:24:43
  Speaker 1: you obviously like we haven't seen you in a relationship
• 1:24:46
  Speaker 1: that lasted a long long time. Why do you Why
• 1:24:51
  Speaker 1: do you think that you can teach like those who
• 1:24:54
  Speaker 1: can't teach. I don't even suggest that I can teach.
• 1:24:57
  Speaker 1: I just you know, people ask me a question, I
• 1:25:00
  Speaker 1: of an answer. I don't know if they like it.
• 1:25:01
  Speaker 1: I don't even know. I'm not even suggesting it's the
• 1:25:03
  Speaker 1: right advice. It's just the advice I'm it's not even advice.
• 1:25:07
  Speaker 1: It's more just like your feedback. This is my feedback. Also,
• 1:25:11
  Speaker 1: you know, coaches don't play you know kind of thing,
• 1:25:16
  Speaker 1: but at all seriousness. I mean, I think, you know,
• 1:25:20
  Speaker 1: try like you learn, you can learn more from failure
• 1:25:23
  Speaker 1: and you learn from from disappointment. UM. And I will
• 1:25:28
  Speaker 1: say a lot of sometimes the advice I give is
• 1:25:31
  Speaker 1: is based off of things I've learned in the past,
• 1:25:35
  Speaker 1: and points of view that I used to have when
• 1:25:37
  Speaker 1: I was younger, um, and and things that you know
• 1:25:41
  Speaker 1: I learned to you know, have you learned to view
• 1:25:44
  Speaker 1: the world differently and learn how to be a little
• 1:25:46
  Speaker 1: bit more honest with myself? And so those are kind
• 1:25:48
  Speaker 1: of things I try to to to suggest, but again
• 1:25:53
  Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm right. Sometimes I want to, like,
• 1:25:56
  Speaker 1: I read through your questions and I think I'm gonna
• 1:25:59
  Speaker 1: scrench his his answer, the question, his answer, and then
• 1:26:03
  Speaker 1: give my own answer and like, just see the parallels.
• 1:26:06
  Speaker 1: Shall I do that one time? Do you think we
• 1:26:08
  Speaker 1: wouldn't be annoyed? You know, I'm going to like approach
• 1:26:11
  Speaker 1: everything with a little bit more rainbows and butterflies than
• 1:26:13
  Speaker 1: you are. Are you? I feel like you would always
• 1:26:17
  Speaker 1: constantly just post a photo of you and Jared and
• 1:26:20
  Speaker 1: be like, well, I'm the exception to the rule. Are
• 1:26:24
  Speaker 1: very much exception To try to tell people that smart
• 1:26:28
  Speaker 1: it's quite honestly, well, it's a great story. It's a
• 1:26:31
  Speaker 1: very dangerous story to tell. It is. It is my
• 1:26:35
  Speaker 1: last question for you, And because we have to get
• 1:26:38
  Speaker 1: go into the awards soon, obviously there's a little friction
• 1:26:41
  Speaker 1: between the by all files and the almost as podcasts.
• 1:26:45
  Speaker 1: Love Jed, I do love Tea. I'm talking about my podcast.
• 1:26:49
  Speaker 1: I just said the almost same as podcast. I thought
• 1:26:51
  Speaker 1: you said, I hope a second there's friction. Oh, I
• 1:26:53
  Speaker 1: know there's friction between the second. I love to tease you, guys,
• 1:26:58
  Speaker 1: there's enough. There's enough of love to all. I'm in
• 1:27:01
  Speaker 1: teasing friction. Of course. Tell our audience if they don't
• 1:27:05
  Speaker 1: listen to the viral files and what they're going to
• 1:27:07
  Speaker 1: get there? What was your favorite episode, your best interview
• 1:27:10
  Speaker 1: for them to go listen to to get them hooked?
• 1:27:13
  Speaker 1: Two on my podcast? Yeah, well, I mean if you like,
• 1:27:17
  Speaker 1: for one, we do well. Now we're doing three episodes
• 1:27:20
  Speaker 1: a week during well Bachelor's on. So if you if
• 1:27:22
  Speaker 1: you like listening to people's dating stories all across the spectrum,
• 1:27:28
  Speaker 1: it's very interesting and relatable, and we try to give
• 1:27:31
  Speaker 1: our opinions of what people should or shouldn't do and
• 1:27:34
  Speaker 1: their interating situations and timetimes. Sometimes we have a guests
• 1:27:37
  Speaker 1: to help me out, uh, and then we do like
• 1:27:40
  Speaker 1: some very interesting interviews and with batchler people or other
• 1:27:43
  Speaker 1: dating experts or just other celebrities and just try to
• 1:27:46
  Speaker 1: have interesting conversations. And then when the Bachel's on, Will
• 1:27:49
  Speaker 1: Will recap The Bachelor every Tuesday. I'm going to give
• 1:27:52
  Speaker 1: you a really big compliment here. Thanks. Actually, no one
• 1:27:55
  Speaker 1: recaps with so many thoughts as Nick does, and Nick
• 1:27:59
  Speaker 1: analyze is the episode so in detail, like he'll give
• 1:28:05
  Speaker 1: you all the perspectives. Hey, well, I mean I've I
• 1:28:09
  Speaker 1: lived it all, all the sides you've lived, loved it all,
• 1:28:13
  Speaker 1: Mr Vil to break it down. But you know, you
• 1:28:17
  Speaker 1: guys are the You guys are the O G. Batchelor.
• 1:28:19
  Speaker 1: We thanks. Look look at us giving compliments to go
• 1:28:24
  Speaker 1: around so much love all right, love you Nick. All right.
• 1:28:37
  Speaker 1: I have my husband joining me again because we have
• 1:28:40
  Speaker 1: a couple that is doing their own I heeart podcast
• 1:28:44
  Speaker 1: called He said, Oh man, this ideal. It's Rosalind Chances
• 1:28:55
  Speaker 1: and Eric Winter and Rosalind I just like I watched
• 1:28:58
  Speaker 1: TV Spades and I watched I Know it's hell a
• 1:29:01
  Speaker 1: big fan of yours. That's really really cool to have
• 1:29:03
  Speaker 1: you on the podcast. And then Eric is currently on
• 1:29:05
  Speaker 1: ABC's The Rookie and here you guys have a podcast
• 1:29:09
  Speaker 1: about marriage and how you guys both came from two
• 1:29:12
  Speaker 1: very different cultural backgrounds and how that works out in marriage. Yes, yeah,
• 1:29:16
  Speaker 1: we're pretty much just even outside of marriage, we're just
• 1:29:19
  Speaker 1: the epitome of opposites. I guess attract in a way.
• 1:29:22
  Speaker 1: I mean, I think we're still attracting to each other.
• 1:29:26
  Speaker 1: Attracted every podcast, right, like more sex anymore? Wow? Really? Um?
• 1:29:36
  Speaker 1: So yeah, it's really a podcast about coming at everything
• 1:29:38
  Speaker 1: from our complete opposite perspectives on life, marriage, kids, pop culture, um,
• 1:29:43
  Speaker 1: and just diving in and having fun with it. What
• 1:29:46
  Speaker 1: do you guys feel like is the part of your
• 1:29:48
  Speaker 1: relationship where you're the most different? Well, there's so many things.
• 1:29:57
  Speaker 1: Oh that's the next question. U are we the most different?
• 1:30:01
  Speaker 1: I think the differences came hardcore after we had kids,
• 1:30:09
  Speaker 1: but we but we have differences for sure. As you
• 1:30:12
  Speaker 1: start to raise a little you know, a little people,
• 1:30:15
  Speaker 1: you start to realize how I mean, some people do
• 1:30:17
  Speaker 1: everything exactly the same. But we, for whatever reason, a
• 1:30:20
  Speaker 1: lot of our differences and raising kids came front and center.
• 1:30:23
  Speaker 1: And that was more about how we were in life too,
• 1:30:25
  Speaker 1: with schedules and timing and you know, I'm very much
• 1:30:29
  Speaker 1: by the book and straightforward with everything, and I like
• 1:30:31
  Speaker 1: to have everything under control. And she that's pretty much
• 1:30:39
  Speaker 1: what because that was like in your marriage, there's always
• 1:30:48
  Speaker 1: Astley Land. I'm I'm learning to just become a part
• 1:30:50
  Speaker 1: of Ashley Lands. If I want to have a happy life,
• 1:30:56
  Speaker 1: I need to have a happy wife, which means buying
• 1:30:58
  Speaker 1: real estate in Ashley Land. Yeah, yeah, think you that, Eric.
• 1:31:04
  Speaker 1: It's interesting just trying to sell at times and buy
• 1:31:06
  Speaker 1: something else, instill in Rosin's Land, just new locations. It's
• 1:31:11
  Speaker 1: interesting that you guys talk about how when you guys
• 1:31:13
  Speaker 1: started having kids, more of your disagreements or differences came
• 1:31:16
  Speaker 1: to the forefront. Because Ashley and I even the little
• 1:31:19
  Speaker 1: things like interioring, you know, interior decorating or like you know,
• 1:31:24
  Speaker 1: scheduling things like that. I think a lot of it
• 1:31:26
  Speaker 1: is just kind of pushed to the side because it's
• 1:31:27
  Speaker 1: just the two of us. But I'm curious, when you know,
• 1:31:30
  Speaker 1: knock on wood, as long as everything is healthy, we
• 1:31:31
  Speaker 1: have kids, Um, if like those differences will start, like
• 1:31:36
  Speaker 1: you guys said, maybe becoming more of a priority because
• 1:31:39
  Speaker 1: it's how we raise our kids. Well, one thing even
• 1:31:41
  Speaker 1: you just said, which is very different for us, and
• 1:31:44
  Speaker 1: maybe it's good for you guys. Are you guys both
• 1:31:45
  Speaker 1: the same, Like when you talk about interior decorating. Are
• 1:31:48
  Speaker 1: you guys both good at keeping on a budget? Are
• 1:31:50
  Speaker 1: you both? We're both really the same money, So that's great.
• 1:31:55
  Speaker 1: Like we're like comfortably forgot, like we like live a
• 1:31:57
  Speaker 1: good life, but we just don't over spand so you're
• 1:32:00
  Speaker 1: that's how I am. Yeah, I'm comfortably frugal. Chap. She's
• 1:32:04
  Speaker 1: completely opposite, Chap. We just at our house. It was
• 1:32:08
  Speaker 1: like she said a budget and we went over every
• 1:32:11
  Speaker 1: step of the way because she says, I want it
• 1:32:13
  Speaker 1: for this price, but I want that and it just
• 1:32:15
  Speaker 1: you can't make that happen for that price. And the
• 1:32:17
  Speaker 1: house became the entire time I'm with Rosslyn here because UM,
• 1:32:23
  Speaker 1: when we talk about buying a house one day, I'm
• 1:32:26
  Speaker 1: always like, Oh, it's gonna be this, It's gonna be this.
• 1:32:28
  Speaker 1: And then he's like, well, we don't need that. I'm like,
• 1:32:30
  Speaker 1: why would we not get what we want? We need? Yeah,
• 1:32:36
  Speaker 1: we don't need We went to UM a couple of
• 1:32:39
  Speaker 1: months ago and it was at this massive house like
• 1:32:42
  Speaker 1: outrage is like a hotel. Like I was joking when
• 1:32:45
  Speaker 1: I said, you know what this is living? And he said,
• 1:32:47
  Speaker 1: would you live that in the house like this? And
• 1:32:49
  Speaker 1: I went absolutely talking like, you was ridiculous. This place
• 1:32:52
  Speaker 1: is stupid, and it was. It was absurd. It's like
• 1:32:54
  Speaker 1: a resort, but it was amazing. I'm wait, what do
• 1:32:58
  Speaker 1: you mean you want to live in the place like this?
• 1:33:00
  Speaker 1: This is incredible? Like dreamt in thirds and by three
• 1:33:04
  Speaker 1: of them in different locations, and he's like, you need
• 1:33:06
  Speaker 1: a walkie talking, Yeah, do what, I'll call you with
• 1:33:07
  Speaker 1: a love the East or whatever. No, but it was
• 1:33:13
  Speaker 1: it was a ridiculous body. Yeah. We yeah, I just
• 1:33:16
  Speaker 1: tend to like at least she said, you're ridiculous. That's
• 1:33:19
  Speaker 1: the important part. You admitted to it. I love how
• 1:33:20
  Speaker 1: honest you guys are with each other. Um. People always
• 1:33:23
  Speaker 1: say like newly for newlyweds, you know, I was like, oh,
• 1:33:27
  Speaker 1: the first year is the hardest, but I feel like
• 1:33:30
  Speaker 1: the first year is definitely gonna be one, probably the easiest.
• 1:33:34
  Speaker 1: But it's also the first year with kids, it's probably
• 1:33:36
  Speaker 1: the hardest, right, very possible. Yeah, it's tough for me.
• 1:33:41
  Speaker 1: Everything changes, everything changes, and also you're going through it.
• 1:33:43
  Speaker 1: You also see who handles. For example, it's much different
• 1:33:48
  Speaker 1: with the second kid, but with the first kid, I
• 1:33:50
  Speaker 1: would have meltdowns whenever she would get sick, like meltdown, Yeah,
• 1:33:55
  Speaker 1: freak out. WoT handle it. She'd be more calm, but
• 1:33:57
  Speaker 1: she'd freak out of the kids scraped her knee, and
• 1:34:00
  Speaker 1: I'm like, it's fine, let them fall, bumps and bruises,
• 1:34:01
  Speaker 1: no big deal, run into the cabinet, It's fine. You
• 1:34:03
  Speaker 1: need to do these things. So we were again opposite
• 1:34:05
  Speaker 1: even on that. You don't know how you're going to
• 1:34:08
  Speaker 1: handle those things when you're in these situations, and it
• 1:34:10
  Speaker 1: creates an anxiety and a stress that's built up when
• 1:34:13
  Speaker 1: you're trying to raise these two kids. Kid gets sick,
• 1:34:16
  Speaker 1: you gotta be there for each other because the kid's miserable,
• 1:34:19
  Speaker 1: and you feel like every second it's grave danger, you know,
• 1:34:23
  Speaker 1: And you realize, now we all went through all this
• 1:34:25
  Speaker 1: and we all are going to be okay. But it's
• 1:34:27
  Speaker 1: good to have those things in common. Yes, it helps us. Yeah, yeah,
• 1:34:34
  Speaker 1: but you just got married. You don't have kids. Well,
• 1:34:35
  Speaker 1: I mean, clock thing. You know, I'm already one. I'll
• 1:34:39
  Speaker 1: be already too in March. We have time enjoy, but
• 1:34:44
  Speaker 1: we want to before enjoy marriage then a little bit, right, Yeah,
• 1:34:48
  Speaker 1: that's what we want. That's how two years we've been together.
• 1:34:53
  Speaker 1: Two years, but we've been together for four years. We
• 1:34:57
  Speaker 1: were best friends for a few years before that, and
• 1:34:58
  Speaker 1: it was we very much relationship without touching very much.
• 1:35:02
  Speaker 1: So enjoy the touching a little longer before your kids,
• 1:35:04
  Speaker 1: because then you'll be without touching. You guys said everything.
• 1:35:10
  Speaker 1: I feel like I hear that all the time, where
• 1:35:12
  Speaker 1: everything changes when you have kids. What changes You're the
• 1:35:15
  Speaker 1: priorities in life just become all about these kids. Something traveling,
• 1:35:19
  Speaker 1: Like we love traveling and we used to go on
• 1:35:23
  Speaker 1: travel all the time the moment, let's just go somewhere.
• 1:35:26
  Speaker 1: Now when you have kids, it's not as easy, you know,
• 1:35:28
  Speaker 1: because you have a little human being next to you
• 1:35:30
  Speaker 1: and they star preschool on school and then you can
• 1:35:32
  Speaker 1: pull them out of school and they have their activities.
• 1:35:35
  Speaker 1: You know, it's not granted you can do it with
• 1:35:37
  Speaker 1: a baby. Should just staying on the way. He's like
• 1:35:39
  Speaker 1: our friends taking her baby all over the world all
• 1:35:42
  Speaker 1: the time, And I'm like, I get it. It's one kid, yeah,
• 1:35:44
  Speaker 1: and you're going to travel with at least one or
• 1:35:45
  Speaker 1: two nannies in that situation, this particular person does, it's problem.
• 1:35:51
  Speaker 1: I will grab my dogs and my kids and I
• 1:35:53
  Speaker 1: will travel the way. Problem you would bring like four
• 1:35:55
  Speaker 1: people to help. For sure, I go on vacation and
• 1:35:59
  Speaker 1: I want to go to the point I'll do it.
• 1:36:01
  Speaker 1: He's so concerned about everything that just the fact that
• 1:36:05
  Speaker 1: that there's a time difference and if the Dylan knaps
• 1:36:08
  Speaker 1: at one, what are we going to do? Is five
• 1:36:09
  Speaker 1: o'clock over there? When is it going to nap? Like
• 1:36:11
  Speaker 1: no that I don't like to throw him off on
• 1:36:14
  Speaker 1: a time change for a quick trip. These are the
• 1:36:16
  Speaker 1: kinds of things you will jump into when you guys
• 1:36:19
  Speaker 1: might be on the same I love you, don't you
• 1:36:22
  Speaker 1: know what I mean? You never know because I feel
• 1:36:24
  Speaker 1: like we need to have dinner with you guys. Even
• 1:36:28
  Speaker 1: when you said when you were talking about dreams, Rosalind, God,
• 1:36:32
  Speaker 1: you sound exactly like Ashley. She has a dream of
• 1:36:34
  Speaker 1: your dreams. Oh yeah, She's like, if your dreams are realistic,
• 1:36:36
  Speaker 1: they're not big enough. That's and it's like I get that,
• 1:36:40
  Speaker 1: it's just not that's not who I am in my
• 1:36:42
  Speaker 1: car and that's like a big fight of us. That's
• 1:36:45
  Speaker 1: one of our big things. Yeah. That was like our
• 1:36:47
  Speaker 1: second our first podcast, and everybody called me dream Poper
• 1:36:49
  Speaker 1: at that point that the thirteen years she's called me
• 1:36:52
  Speaker 1: a dreamp. You need that pop a little bit. She's like,
• 1:36:55
  Speaker 1: she's like, that would be nice, would be nice. I'm
• 1:36:59
  Speaker 1: sure that would be nice because it will happen, and
• 1:37:01
  Speaker 1: he like, well they He'll be like, no, I mean,
• 1:37:02
  Speaker 1: like the odds of it happening are very little. Let's
• 1:37:04
  Speaker 1: be realist. And it doesn't mean I'm not gone. Here's
• 1:37:08
  Speaker 1: the thing. It doesn't mean I'm not going to go
• 1:37:09
  Speaker 1: after my dreams. But I'm also gonna have a level
• 1:37:11
  Speaker 1: head about it going after it. But then she's like,
• 1:37:13
  Speaker 1: if you have that attitude, it's not gonna happen. I'm like,
• 1:37:15
  Speaker 1: I disagree. That doesn't mean I'm still not working towards it,
• 1:37:20
  Speaker 1: because then what happens is I don't know about you,
• 1:37:22
  Speaker 1: but I'll speak on her behalf is then something doesn't
• 1:37:24
  Speaker 1: go right in that dream process. Everybody's this and this
• 1:37:29
  Speaker 1: person did that, and this is book. I don't know
• 1:37:31
  Speaker 1: why doesn't work out for me? Because your dream is
• 1:37:33
  Speaker 1: too big. You never know what happens if you have
• 1:37:36
  Speaker 1: a level of reality. What about reality? When you dream big?
• 1:37:41
  Speaker 1: Maybe the dream doesn't happen, but the steps that you
• 1:37:44
  Speaker 1: take towards the dream and the plan something leads you
• 1:37:47
  Speaker 1: to the right direction. Here. Here's the thing I'd say.
• 1:37:49
  Speaker 1: In the world of entertainment, and I don't know if
• 1:37:52
  Speaker 1: you guys, dreams include if that's what it is, right.
• 1:37:54
  Speaker 1: If you have a dream of becoming a doctor, it's
• 1:37:56
  Speaker 1: a very realistic dream. If you stick to your plan,
• 1:37:58
  Speaker 1: you go to school, you ask your test, you'll be
• 1:38:01
  Speaker 1: a doctor. It's not that hard, like, if you do
• 1:38:03
  Speaker 1: everything right, you'll be a doctor. It is an easy
• 1:38:06
  Speaker 1: because it's a path that if you do everything and
• 1:38:08
  Speaker 1: you score, you'll get it. It's I don't want to
• 1:38:11
  Speaker 1: say you have you have. You have a very difficult
• 1:38:13
  Speaker 1: path to fulfill and live up to and score right
• 1:38:15
  Speaker 1: on all your tests. But there's there's a path that
• 1:38:17
  Speaker 1: if you do it all, you will get it. So
• 1:38:20
  Speaker 1: there's a dream you can accomplish with hard work. In entertainment.
• 1:38:23
  Speaker 1: You can set all the dreams you want in the world,
• 1:38:25
  Speaker 1: and most everything happening is in somebody else's hands. Now
• 1:38:28
  Speaker 1: it sucks, So being a dreamer can get you in
• 1:38:31
  Speaker 1: a lot of trouble in entertainment. I think it also
• 1:38:35
  Speaker 1: mee I alsost see. I agree with you though, because
• 1:38:37
  Speaker 1: I think in this industry it's to bring them this
• 1:38:41
  Speaker 1: in anxiety because I completely agree with you. We're a
• 1:38:44
  Speaker 1: lot of the decisions, Like like you said, uh, you know,
• 1:38:48
  Speaker 1: at jobs that I've had before where I'm working fifty
• 1:38:50
  Speaker 1: hours a week, it was like, you have a path,
• 1:38:52
  Speaker 1: and this is how you work up and make more money,
• 1:38:54
  Speaker 1: and this is where you're going. In the entertainment industry,
• 1:38:57
  Speaker 1: it's literally just like throwing stuff against the law and
• 1:39:00
  Speaker 1: being like I hope, I hope that I'm working hard
• 1:39:03
  Speaker 1: enough and people are seeing it enough where they'll do
• 1:39:06
  Speaker 1: something about it. But even if you go to the extreme,
• 1:39:08
  Speaker 1: and this is something again not an easy path, but
• 1:39:10
  Speaker 1: even professional sports not easy to be a pro athlete.
• 1:39:14
  Speaker 1: But if you have the physical gift and you work
• 1:39:17
  Speaker 1: hard every single day, you're gonna get a result that
• 1:39:20
  Speaker 1: people will quantify and say, Okay, that result will get
• 1:39:22
  Speaker 1: you a scholarship, will get you a contract. You could
• 1:39:25
  Speaker 1: be the best actor, host, whatever it is in the world,
• 1:39:28
  Speaker 1: and no one whatever give you a shot because it's
• 1:39:30
  Speaker 1: one person's opinion that has to say yes, you can't
• 1:39:33
  Speaker 1: control it. So I feel like, are we may be
• 1:39:35
  Speaker 1: similar because everything that I've pretty much dreamed, I've pretty
• 1:39:39
  Speaker 1: much accomplished too. Yeah, so that there there, it works
• 1:39:42
  Speaker 1: for me, works for you, So therefore I conclude it works.
• 1:39:49
  Speaker 1: It works. Got an amount of times if I had
• 1:39:52
  Speaker 1: I dream, but I get it done. It works. Everything
• 1:39:56
  Speaker 1: I've dreamed has come true. My family members tell him too,
• 1:40:00
  Speaker 1: there like anything actually wants Astley gets and he's like,
• 1:40:03
  Speaker 1: I got to hear this act otherwise, especially in the
• 1:40:06
  Speaker 1: entertainment world, is the only way, Eric. Otherwise, you know,
• 1:40:10
  Speaker 1: you have to visualize and you have to be so
• 1:40:12
  Speaker 1: certain that it is possible. And I've dreamed things that
• 1:40:16
  Speaker 1: happened and they've happened. But there are plenty of things
• 1:40:18
  Speaker 1: that I've dreamt to happen and have not happened. But
• 1:40:20
  Speaker 1: when we're talking very business, but we're talking about dreams
• 1:40:24
  Speaker 1: that are attainable and dreams that are when you're really
• 1:40:26
  Speaker 1: good at something, not like I dreamed. Took okay, next question,
• 1:40:31
  Speaker 1: final question UM. On my other podcast, I Don't Get
• 1:40:34
  Speaker 1: a podcast this week, I was talking about big personality
• 1:40:37
  Speaker 1: females with big personalities and guys being drawn to them.
• 1:40:41
  Speaker 1: I am determined, passionate, emotional expressive. I feel like you're
• 1:40:46
  Speaker 1: in the same way. You're beautiful, you have the profession,
• 1:40:50
  Speaker 1: the personality, the big personality. Was that something that was
• 1:40:54
  Speaker 1: intimidating to you at first? Eric? No, I actually were
• 1:40:58
  Speaker 1: you into girls like that? In the Girls Girls? Were
• 1:41:03
  Speaker 1: you into girls like that? Because I just noticed from
• 1:41:06
  Speaker 1: personal experience and watching The Bachelor, it seems like the
• 1:41:10
  Speaker 1: soft spoken demrror take a backseat type girl always gets
• 1:41:14
  Speaker 1: a head on the show. Really yeah, but in life,
• 1:41:18
  Speaker 1: I don't know. But we had had a McDonald on
• 1:41:20
  Speaker 1: and we're and she obviously has that huge personality, and
• 1:41:23
  Speaker 1: she was like, I do think it's harder for girls
• 1:41:26
  Speaker 1: with that type of personality to get guys. But like
• 1:41:29
  Speaker 1: a strong personality. Yeah, I remember when we first met,
• 1:41:33
  Speaker 1: there was a whole She was shocked first of all
• 1:41:36
  Speaker 1: that I was a white guy, and I went up
• 1:41:37
  Speaker 1: to her because that was blew her mind right away.
• 1:41:39
  Speaker 1: She's like, who's this guy? Why are you talking to
• 1:41:40
  Speaker 1: me more white guys? Don't you talking about you? I know,
• 1:41:43
  Speaker 1: but I was when when he came always saying no,
• 1:41:44
  Speaker 1: we just wanted to do myself. My name is Eric.
• 1:41:46
  Speaker 1: I looked back, going, there's no way these white She realized,
• 1:41:51
  Speaker 1: like I did Latino life my whole life, because in
• 1:41:54
  Speaker 1: the city I grew up, it was all it was
• 1:41:55
  Speaker 1: all Mexican predominantly one day. But I grew up with
• 1:41:58
  Speaker 1: a lot of Latina, so I was, as you know, Latina,
• 1:42:01
  Speaker 1: So she was shocked about that. But my point is
• 1:42:03
  Speaker 1: I never when I got to dating her, I realized
• 1:42:07
  Speaker 1: right away she was a strong personality just the first
• 1:42:08
  Speaker 1: time I met her. And we were friends like you
• 1:42:10
  Speaker 1: guys for almost a year before we ever started dating,
• 1:42:14
  Speaker 1: and I realized, it's a very strong, strong lady. But
• 1:42:16
  Speaker 1: I'm a solve, I'm a very type a personality as well.
• 1:42:19
  Speaker 1: So once we started dating, I remember having another conversation
• 1:42:22
  Speaker 1: being like, look, I get it, you're strong, I'm strong.
• 1:42:24
  Speaker 1: One of us has to give. Somebody's gonna have to
• 1:42:27
  Speaker 1: take a back seat at different points in time, or
• 1:42:29
  Speaker 1: this is never gonna work. And that was like early.
• 1:42:31
  Speaker 1: She wouldn't remember much in our relationship because she's been
• 1:42:37
  Speaker 1: and here we are talking about resolutions and compromise is
• 1:42:40
  Speaker 1: still at the forefront of what your new resolution needs
• 1:42:42
  Speaker 1: to be. So even then it was like, somebody has
• 1:42:46
  Speaker 1: to be She hates the word submissive. Somebody has to
• 1:42:49
  Speaker 1: submit at any point in time in a relationship. You
• 1:42:53
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  Speaker 1: Alex krev a k Alex Chambers. Is it on him?
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  Speaker 1: name was justin. What did I say? You guys see
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  Speaker 1: want you to turn your card over, like, don't even care.
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  Speaker 1: right now. So what the hell? I mean you what
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  Speaker 1: like you did the whole benching of grades, like I
• 1:47:45
  Speaker 1: stopped season fifteen. I just couldn't do it anymore. Just
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  Speaker 1: wasn't good anymore, you know what. I'm getting to that point. Yeah, okay, no,
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  Speaker 1: we have to watch there's no storyline that we're talking
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  Speaker 1: to now. They've taken away everything with Justin Chambers leaving,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I mean, he was my favorite, He's my
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  Speaker 1: He's probably my favorite characters at the entire series. So interesting,
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  Speaker 1: and I definitely I loved him. I love him. I
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  Speaker 1: don't you know what I'm mostly upset about, Like I
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  Speaker 1: would have been upset no matter what, but the fact
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  Speaker 1: that we've already seen his last episode, but we didn't
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  Speaker 1: get to prepare for that being his last episode. That's
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  Speaker 1: so messed up. It's unfair, it's so weird, and I
• 1:48:28
  Speaker 1: do we think that's on him though, like he got
• 1:48:30
  Speaker 1: there was some insaternal drama where he probably thought, like
• 1:48:33
  Speaker 1: this script is freaking horrible, this show is become trash. No,
• 1:48:37
  Speaker 1: I'm done. I don't think it's that because I feel
• 1:48:39
  Speaker 1: like he would have done that like a season ago,
• 1:48:41
  Speaker 1: to be honest, or maybe it was after that season
• 1:48:44
  Speaker 1: that he was like, you know, I just don't feel
• 1:48:45
  Speaker 1: like I'm growing and my character. This to me feels
• 1:48:48
  Speaker 1: like um Ashonda, Like it feels like something happened to
• 1:48:52
  Speaker 1: him personally and he needs to like step back for
• 1:48:55
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  Speaker 1: like I don't know, I really don't know, but it
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  Speaker 1: Shaunda thing, or he just wasn't into the script thing.
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  Speaker 1: There's no way they would not do like a goodbye
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  Speaker 1: episode if it wasn't something sudden and abrupt. Yeah, because
• 1:49:15
  Speaker 1: why all the sudden is it just like you've already
• 1:49:16
  Speaker 1: seen his episode he's gone because he was like I
• 1:49:19
  Speaker 1: can't anymore and throw his papers in the air. I
• 1:49:22
  Speaker 1: don't think so, I really don't. I don't know. I'm
• 1:49:26
  Speaker 1: just like sixteen, like I mean, fifteen and a half
• 1:49:29
  Speaker 1: seasons and then that he just disappears, like with no warning.
• 1:49:35
  Speaker 1: But then like, what are they going to do with
• 1:49:36
  Speaker 1: Joe and his storyline? You mean they're like a couple
• 1:49:40
  Speaker 1: of storiline. I don't know. I don't know if they
• 1:49:44
  Speaker 1: tell us that he passed away or if they're like,
• 1:49:46
  Speaker 1: he's gone to find Izzy. He's not going to be
• 1:49:48
  Speaker 1: passed away, right, didn't he? Like I didn't watch a
• 1:49:52
  Speaker 1: fan theory that like they could kill him off. I
• 1:49:55
  Speaker 1: thought it already aired. Guys, they're going to pretend like
• 1:49:58
  Speaker 1: while he had he Christina Yang would like call Merritath
• 1:50:01
  Speaker 1: and she left, like they could still fake calls from him,
• 1:50:04
  Speaker 1: and then like who knows. Sure, I guess they'll probably
• 1:50:06
  Speaker 1: do that. I hope, so they can't kill him off,
• 1:50:09
  Speaker 1: But he's not gonna Joe. Joe is going to move
• 1:50:11
  Speaker 1: on with someone else. Move on with someone else. Yeah,
• 1:50:16
  Speaker 1: they're married, That's what I'm saying. Maybe what happens if
• 1:50:20
  Speaker 1: you're married and then one of you dies, you're a widow? Yeah,
• 1:50:28
  Speaker 1: you're right there. I was like there was a term
• 1:50:29
  Speaker 1: for that. Oh my gosh, I guess who I met
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• 1:50:38
  Speaker 1: met Patrick Dempsey? How'd that go? Like the best moment
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  Speaker 1: of my life? I wish I had, Like I wish
• 1:50:45
  Speaker 1: I had a GoPro in my head for a moment
• 1:50:46
  Speaker 1: back because I like blacked out. So I can't really
• 1:50:49
  Speaker 1: remember everything, but it was really just like magical. You're
• 1:50:53
  Speaker 1: with Chris Harrison and he was like guiding you through
• 1:50:55
  Speaker 1: this whole thing. He guided you through a journey. It
• 1:50:57
  Speaker 1: just wasn't the bachelor journey. It was your greatest It
• 1:51:00
  Speaker 1: was my grays journey. And he like alle me so
• 1:51:02
  Speaker 1: legit to where he was, like, she said a part
• 1:51:04
  Speaker 1: of an award winning podcast called Scrubbing In that's all
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• 1:51:12
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  Speaker 1: ended it after award winning podcast and not thrown into
• 1:51:18
  Speaker 1: all that, Yeah, because then it would have made me
• 1:51:20
  Speaker 1: sound really cool and smart and not a groupie. Yeah,
• 1:51:23
  Speaker 1: because I went for sure. I went groupie, full groupy.
• 1:51:25
  Speaker 1: I was like, well, as a married woman now, like
• 1:51:29
  Speaker 1: I go full grouping now because I'm not like I
• 1:51:31
  Speaker 1: don't need to like woo my celebrity crush. I just
• 1:51:34
  Speaker 1: want to show appreciation. I think he's married. I was
• 1:51:38
  Speaker 1: like him, I was just trying to like get him
• 1:51:41
  Speaker 1: on the podcast maybe, but that was you know, did
• 1:51:45
  Speaker 1: you attempt? No? You kidding? I could barely get words
• 1:51:47
  Speaker 1: out and I was like, are you gonna like throw
• 1:51:49
  Speaker 1: the ball around. Wait, actually, so there's talks of Tanya
• 1:51:53
  Speaker 1: going on the Bachelor. There is there are talks. There's
• 1:51:55
  Speaker 1: talks she could. We all know that she could just
• 1:51:58
  Speaker 1: be thrown in at any time she wants. I mean,
• 1:52:00
  Speaker 1: it's already done filming, so we'd have to start filming
• 1:52:02
  Speaker 1: her season in September. What do you think about this?
• 1:52:06
  Speaker 1: I mean I feel like, how has it not happened yet?
• 1:52:08
  Speaker 1: She's the unhonorable member of Bachelor Nation? How do you guy?
• 1:52:12
  Speaker 1: You'd handle the production, the whole, the part of dating
• 1:52:17
  Speaker 1: other a man, that is, dating other women. I can't
• 1:52:20
  Speaker 1: do that in my real life. There's a lot of
• 1:52:23
  Speaker 1: things here. One, it would be cool to see you
• 1:52:26
  Speaker 1: as not just an honorary member, but like as an
• 1:52:28
  Speaker 1: official member of Bachelor Nation. But the thing is, I
• 1:52:30
  Speaker 1: think you'd have such a target on your back because
• 1:52:32
  Speaker 1: you're basically a celebrity. I mean, yeah, you were playing
• 1:52:35
  Speaker 1: in a celebrity softball game with Patrick Dempsey, Chard Harrison.
• 1:52:39
  Speaker 1: It's like you have a leg up I target on
• 1:52:41
  Speaker 1: your back. That's your friends with Chris Harrison was saying.
• 1:52:44
  Speaker 1: She was like, they're gonna hate you. I was like, yeah,
• 1:52:47
  Speaker 1: I don't care. I'm gonna win them over. But that's
• 1:52:51
  Speaker 1: not the point. The point for me is like I
• 1:52:53
  Speaker 1: can't date someone and even think he's eating other people.
• 1:52:56
  Speaker 1: I think, if I honestly, I'm putting myself in the situation.
• 1:52:59
  Speaker 1: I think if I saw it all happening and I
• 1:53:01
  Speaker 1: saw him kissing other girls, like I would literally be
• 1:53:03
  Speaker 1: crying every day like that with the Bachelor's But I'm
• 1:53:08
  Speaker 1: to like prepare mentally knowing that you're going to go
• 1:53:11
  Speaker 1: on and that I'm mentally get me there. I'm like,
• 1:53:15
  Speaker 1: I do like this happening, and I think it's like
• 1:53:19
  Speaker 1: beck is the commis person around if only she can
• 1:53:23
  Speaker 1: give you a little bit of herself. I've been asking
• 1:53:25
  Speaker 1: for this for years. I'm like, if I could just
• 1:53:27
  Speaker 1: be a little bit as chill as she is my
• 1:53:30
  Speaker 1: dating life, I feel like I probably would be married
• 1:53:32
  Speaker 1: by now. So I was just talking to Rosalind Sanchez
• 1:53:35
  Speaker 1: about like girls with big personalities and how guys take
• 1:53:39
  Speaker 1: to them, and how I feel like a big passionate
• 1:53:43
  Speaker 1: personality is always so much less likely to be approached
• 1:53:48
  Speaker 1: by a guy, which I think is super sad, but
• 1:53:50
  Speaker 1: I think it's true, don't you, Yes, Why is that
• 1:53:54
  Speaker 1: approached by a guy, but I like to stick around,
• 1:53:56
  Speaker 1: to stick around for sure, because I think, like I
• 1:54:01
  Speaker 1: just also I'm in a place where like I know
• 1:54:02
  Speaker 1: what i want very much, so I'm not shy about
• 1:54:05
  Speaker 1: voicing that. Yeah, but like expressive, like more outspoken for sure,
• 1:54:10
  Speaker 1: girls that like speak with confidence. I feel like I'm
• 1:54:15
  Speaker 1: the bachelor and I'm saying the exact same thing I
• 1:54:18
  Speaker 1: said in the previous interview. But I'm the bachelor. It
• 1:54:20
  Speaker 1: feels like the girls who just are like a little
• 1:54:22
  Speaker 1: bit like they bat their eyes and they speak so
• 1:54:24
  Speaker 1: sweet and soft. They're the ones that are always like
• 1:54:27
  Speaker 1: the front runners. I think there's an element of mystery
• 1:54:31
  Speaker 1: that draws and see its mystery to a woman, just
• 1:54:35
  Speaker 1: like there's like that like stereotype of because like there's
• 1:54:40
  Speaker 1: a stereotype of a man being like the hunter or whatever.
• 1:54:43
  Speaker 1: So like for someone who's mysterious and I'll back, he's
• 1:54:46
  Speaker 1: like I gotta pursue that, because I gotta pursue that
• 1:54:49
  Speaker 1: to get to know her. Otherwise I'm not gonna like
• 1:54:52
  Speaker 1: if you put it all out there. That's a specific
• 1:54:55
  Speaker 1: man who's like I want a confident girl who's going
• 1:54:57
  Speaker 1: to go into a room and like shine, you know
• 1:55:00
  Speaker 1: if he's like, wait, I get this, now, you just
• 1:55:03
  Speaker 1: got I think you figured it out. They just like
• 1:55:06
  Speaker 1: the mystery and girls like me and Tanya and and Beckett,
• 1:55:09
  Speaker 1: you're just like all around and you just got it,
• 1:55:12
  Speaker 1: you know. But she like appeals to everyone. Yeah, there's
• 1:55:15
  Speaker 1: like she's like very real. It's like she's outspoken, yet
• 1:55:18
  Speaker 1: does it in a gentle way. I don't like to
• 1:55:21
  Speaker 1: do it. Like I could pretend, like, you know, to
• 1:55:23
  Speaker 1: be like this cool, calm and like mystery girl, but
• 1:55:25
  Speaker 1: that's not me. So it's like the guy's going to
• 1:55:27
  Speaker 1: know within a month, like that's not me. You know
• 1:55:29
  Speaker 1: I can yeah, So it's like I just I can't.
• 1:55:32
  Speaker 1: I can't fake it. Yeah, And I'm telling you, like
• 1:55:35
  Speaker 1: just like I always say, Tanya has gotta find her Jared,
• 1:55:38
  Speaker 1: because like Jared like celebrates that part about you, you know,
• 1:55:42
  Speaker 1: like he loves it, and Tanya's guys gonna celebrate that
• 1:55:45
  Speaker 1: about her. He wasn't like at first though. That's what
• 1:55:47
  Speaker 1: held him back because he was like, oh my god,
• 1:55:49
  Speaker 1: I never imagined a girl like this, true, but that's
• 1:55:52
  Speaker 1: what took him. So it's longer to come around. That's
• 1:55:55
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying you never know, but we're not banking
• 1:55:58
  Speaker 1: on that time and I don't have to. Maybe you
• 1:56:00
  Speaker 1: should just h yeah, maybe you should um woo them
• 1:56:03
  Speaker 1: with friendship first, because I do feel like with girls
• 1:56:06
  Speaker 1: like us, perhaps friendship first would be great because then
• 1:56:10
  Speaker 1: they're like, oh wait, busy girls are really awesome, Like
• 1:56:13
  Speaker 1: I know that's something I'm bad at, Like I can't.
• 1:56:15
  Speaker 1: I just have too many friends and I don't want
• 1:56:17
  Speaker 1: a guy, you know, like if I if my tongue
• 1:56:19
  Speaker 1: has been in your mouth, Like noah, you can't backtrack. Yeah,
• 1:56:22
  Speaker 1: we talk a lot about Tommy's tongue being in someone's mouth,
• 1:56:24
  Speaker 1: and my tongue has been in or around your mouth,
• 1:56:27
  Speaker 1: like you're not only my friend. Yeah, my friend Lizzie
• 1:56:30
  Speaker 1: always talks about that tongue and a tongue in a
• 1:56:33
  Speaker 1: guy's mouth. And I'm like, I don't really like tongue
• 1:56:35
  Speaker 1: that much, so that you don't know, I don't really know.
• 1:56:39
  Speaker 1: I really don't um, but my friend Lizzie is single,
• 1:56:42
  Speaker 1: nows so maybe you guys out yeah you know, wow,
• 1:56:46
  Speaker 1: words words spreads quick. She was because I like post
• 1:56:51
  Speaker 1: a lot of quotes and stuff, and she was saying,
• 1:56:53
  Speaker 1: how they like help her, and I was like, oh,
• 1:56:55
  Speaker 1: that's so sweet, y'all. Are both you and Lizzie are
• 1:56:58
  Speaker 1: going to find I forgot that you us can both
• 1:57:00
  Speaker 1: like go on the prowl together. Now there's no problem,
• 1:57:03
  Speaker 1: but I go on it doesn't want to go on
• 1:57:05
  Speaker 1: a prowl either. God, Okay, this is definitely an off
• 1:57:07
  Speaker 1: podcast conversation. We're talking about somebody who's not a podcast host,
• 1:57:12
  Speaker 1: not even a public figure. All right, y'all, thank you
• 1:57:15
  Speaker 1: for sticking with me for all these hours. I would
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• 1:57:52
  Speaker 1: Ben's Bachelor Live in Reno, So we hope to see
• 1:57:55
  Speaker 1: you guys there. Thank you for joining me on this
• 1:57:59
  Speaker 1: podcast episode. This very very special episode. We've missed Ben
• 1:58:03
  Speaker 1: this week and we will get to see him on Monday. Bye, guys,
• 1:58:07
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