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142 // What is God Calling You to? · ADHD with Confidence | Overcome Anxiety & Self-Doubt, Christian ADHD Coach, ADHD in Women

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  I have always believed that everyone has some sort of dream,
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  some sort of big picture, a dream that they would like to work towards,
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  that they would like to be a part of, something bigger than themselves,
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  something that, you know, helps others, serves others,
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  that they bring out into the world.
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  And I think a lot of times we are held back by fear, we're held back by uncertainty,
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  and we are held back by self-control.
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  Hey friends, welcome to the ADHD with Confidence podcast. I'm your host, Kelsey.
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  And today I'm asking you the question, has God placed a dream on your heart?
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  Now, I love asking people this question is, what is a dream you've always been too afraid to pursue?
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  Because I've found that there's never been a person who didn't have an answer
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  and the types of answers are completely different.
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  Everyone is so unique and everyone has had these, you know, really interesting
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  answers that I would never think of for me because those are not the dreams
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  that God has placed on my heart.
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  But I want to encourage you today just with some questions and a few quotes
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  from a book called Created to Dream by Rick Warren.
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  God does have a dream for your life. He has a plan for your life.
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  He has created you in his image, unique to reflect him.
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  And you have, you know, kind of a backpack of skill sets and passions that he wants you to follow.
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  But it is going to be with his strength, with his guidance.
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  We can't do this on our own. You know, it says, it says in the Bible,
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  I don't have the verse on me right now.
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  I think it's in John 15, where Jesus says, you know, I am the vine apart from
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  me, you cannot bear fruit.
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  So we need to remain in Him. We need to have Him be our strength.
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  But it is so incredibly encouraging and fun when you do get to pursue that big
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  dream that God has placed on your heart.
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  So in today's episode, I'm going to give you some different quotes from this
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  Created to Dream book. I'm going to give you some action items,
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  some questions to ponder.
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  So the first one here, it says, and this is from the Created to Dream book,
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  it says, God wants to work on you before he works on your project.
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  The purpose of the delay phase, so the waiting phase, is to teach you to trust
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  God and to be patient with his timing.
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  How you handle God's waiting rooms of life is a clear measure of the strength of your faith.
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  Now, I just want to say, I have felt convicted in this area lately where,
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  you know, if it feels like something is not going as well as I'd like it to,
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  my expectations are usually pretty high, but if it's not meeting or exceeding
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  my expectations, I get frustrated.
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  And this has been such a good reminder that,
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  Sometimes we are in this delay phase, this waiting phase, and God's purpose
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  is not about the project or the dream that we are working on.
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  He wants to work on us because for Him, it is about relationship with us, relationship with Him.
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  It's not about the project, the dream that He's calling us to.
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  He can grow our faith through that, but that is not His end goal.
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  Another part of this here on page 13, it says, faith is like a muscle.
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  It needs to be exercised and developed.
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  So I want to encourage you here. If you have been holding back on pursuing a
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  dream that God has placed on your heart out of fear, I want you to know that
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  it's normal to feel afraid.
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  And that a part of following God's dream or his calling for your life is taking
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  those little steps of faith. That is how you are going to grow your faith, is one step at a time.
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  God doesn't show us the end result. He doesn't show us.
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  I mean, maybe sometimes he'll give us a glimpse, you know, Joseph in the Bible,
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  those dreams that he had about, you know, these, I think it was the stocks like
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  bowing down to him, but he didn't know what it meant at that time.
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  And it took years and years in order for that to happen.
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  And so I want to encourage you that if you are not sure where this is going
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  to go, if you're not sure where it's going to end up, that is normal and that
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  is a part of trusting God and stepping out in faith.
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  It also says in this book, it says, figuring out and following God's dream is a walk of faith.
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  His dream usually is not spelled out in complete detail. You discover it one step at a time.
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  All right, some questions I want you to think about as far as figuring out what
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  is the dream that God has placed on your heart.
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  Maybe you already know what it is, but maybe you don't want to speak it out
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  loud because you're afraid that when you speak it out loud, there's accountability.
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  I encourage you to start with having it written down.
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  There's a woman here who has started a women's ministry, and she said,
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  you know, at first she had this big dream on her heart, but she was afraid to
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  speak it out loud, so she wrote it down. She journaled about it for a while.
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  And then she started to open up and talk to other people because it is important
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  at some point to make this more concrete by sharing it with other people.
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  That is an important step. But first, I just want you to ask yourself,
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  number one, what do you feel like God is asking you to do?
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  Jot it down. Don't feel like there's any judgment to this or that there's some
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  or to test at the end, this is something unique to you.
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  It's not something that I can answer for you because I have heard so many unique
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  and interesting responses to this and things that I would never think of for
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  me because that's not what God is asking me to do.
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  The second question, what are you good at and what are your strengths?
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  What are the God-given strengths that you have?
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  Number three, what are you passionate about? It's not just about what you're
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  good at or what your strengths are, but what are you also passionate about?
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  So for me, for example, for pretty much my whole life, I have been passionate
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  about helping people find a place where they belong.
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  It wasn't always clear how that was going to look, but
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  that was always in my heart since I was a kid hosting
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  international students in my home when I
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  was a teenager and the jobs that I had when I
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  was a young adult going to university working at
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  a campus ministry and even
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  to this day that is what I really hope for and that is what
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  I'm passionate about so what are you passionate about
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  question four kind of goes along with this what is
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  life giving for you what is something where you come away from it and you are
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  more filled with energy excitement and joy and then number five i want you to
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  take those first four things and see if there's any intersection between them
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  do any of them cross paths of strengths that you have maybe you have,
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  interpersonal skills and you're passionate about you know helping people find
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  a vocation whatever it is do any of these things intersect and i just want you
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  to you know circle highlight make some notes, whatever it works for you.
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  You can do a voice memo on your phone if that's helpful.
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  Then I want you to continue. Number six, what is holding you back from following
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  that dream that God is calling you to? Is it fear?
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  Comparison? So comparison to other people and their journey?
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  Comparison to who you think you should be? Comparison to who you used to be?
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  Is it self-doubt? Are you putting all the pressure on yourself and forgetting
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  that we have the creator of the universe who is calling us to this dream and
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  he's going to equip us for it?
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  Is it perfectionism? perfectionism so kind of
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  along with that fear of not wanting to start unless
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  it's going to be perfect so i want you to look at
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  what might be holding you back from this because that's going
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  to help you figure out what you need to address number seven
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  whatever is holding you back how can you give that to god how can you give your
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  self-doubt your perfectionism your fear your all or nothing thinking how can
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  you surrender that to god and say god i'm afraid or god i feel like I'm not
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  good enough because look at what they're doing.
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  Give that to Him. Ask Him to take that from you. Ask Him to help you work through that.
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  Because we can't fully know what we're called to if we don't ever take any steps
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  towards what God is asking of us.
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  Take, for example, in starting this podcast.
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  I didn't really know anyone who had started a podcast before.
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  I felt a couple years ago God gave me that nudge, and I had so many questions.
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  God, where is this going? God, how do I do this? What do I do next?
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  But it was one step at a time.
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  I did also have a mentor, a coach.
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  And so if you are also looking for somebody who can coach you,
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  I would love to partner with you in that way.
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  If you think I'm the right fit, go to ADHDwithconfidence.com and you can book
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  a free intake coaching call.
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  Number eight to consider is, does this dream you feel you're called to,
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  does it align a scripture?
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  Now God is not going to be asking us to do something that
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  is illegal that's going to hurt people you know that doesn't
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  align with scripture if it's unloving God's not asking us
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  to do it the next question does it align
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  with your God-given gifts and passions so kind of what I said earlier the next
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  question does it challenge you does this dream challenge you therefore growing
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  your faith in order for it to be a God-given dream I believe it needs to be
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  bigger than you so that you need to rely on God. Because remember earlier I said.
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  His purpose of giving you this dream is to grow you in your faith,
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  not just for you to accomplish the dream.
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  He's going to grow you in your faith by walking you through those steps towards that dream.
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  The last one here is when you seek God about this dream, when you pray about
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  it, you journal about it, you're reading your Bible, you're in community,
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  do you feel at peace about it?
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  Does it excite you? Is it life-giving?
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  I don't believe that God has created us to be miserable about what we're doing.
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  I think he has given us things that we are passionate about,
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  that when we do those, we feel like we are in our element.
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  We are in the place that we are supposed to be with the caveat of relying on
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  him for our strength as well.
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  Another tip that I just want to give you here is be willing to reevaluate.
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  God doesn't give us a clear map or step-by-step instructions.
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  It's just one step at a time.
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  When we step out in faith, he will give us that next step. Or he might put us
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  in a waiting phase where he's growing our faith.
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  I hope this has been encouraging. I hope this has been helpful.
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  If you have any questions, you want to reach out about something,
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  you can email me at kelsey at ADHDwithconfidence.com.
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  If you don't receive a response, please reach out to kelsey.spronk at gmail.com
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  as I'm not sure if that first email is always working right now.
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  And I apologize. Thank you for your patience.
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  I look forward to being here with you next time. Until then, God bless.