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- Gary: Are you holding someone accountable or waiting for your chance to hurt them back? Good morning and welcome back to Northman Coaching's Seven Deadly Sins. I'm your host, Gary Hults. Today we're talking about wrath through Leviticus chapter 19, verses 17 and 18. This passage tells us not to harbor hatred toward another person. It calls us to address wrongdoing, then forbids revenge and bearing a grudge. It commands us to love our neighbor as ourselves. Notice how these instructions belong together. You can confront a wrong without cultivating hatred. You can speak honestly without planning payback. But wrath makes that fucking difficult. Sometimes it comes out through shouting. Sometimes it stays quiet. You replay the argument, you collect examples of their failures. You imagine the moment. They finally suffer enough to understand what they put you through. And you call it justice. But ask yourself, what outcome am I actually seeking? Do you want the harm to stop? Do you want responsibility and repair? Or would their pain satisfy you even if nothing improved? That's a hard question. It's also where free thinking begins. Examining the story that you tell yourself about your own motives. Being hurt doesn't make every reaction wise. Think about the father who uses discipline to unload his frustration, the former partner who turns every conversation into another opportunity to punish. The man who humiliates someone publicly because he felt disrespected privately. The original hurt may be real. So is the harm that follows. Leviticus gives us a better direction. Address the wrong. Refuse revenge, and practice love. That can include firm boundaries. Forgiveness doesn't require restored access. And accountability can include consequences. So here's your challenge today. Before sending that message or having that confrontation, ask. Am I trying to resolve something or make someone suffer? Then choose words that name the behavior, explain its impact, and state your fucking boundary. If you're too angry to do that, pause, pray, give yourself time to respond deliberately. You can be firm without being cruel. You can protect your peace without spending your life rehearsing revenge. Remember, the way you look on the outside is a direct reflection. of what is happening on the inside. If you are ready to work through resentment and practice accountability alongside men who will challenge and support you, join the Northman Brotherhood at NorthmanCoaching.com. We grow brick by brick and shoulder to shoulder. If any of this resonated with you, I encourage you, please like, share, subscribe, do all of the things, and I will see you on the inside.