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How to Become Someone Others Can Count On (S5) S29:E5 Wednesday · Inspirations for Your Life

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  Well, hello there, everyone.
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  Welcome to Inspirations for Your Life.
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  It's great to be with you.
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  It is July 15th.
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  It's a Wednesday, in case you guys didn't
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  know that.
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  And if you've been here, well, before, whether
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  it was one time, five times, 10 times,
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  a hundred or more, I like to say
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  welcome back and thank you.
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  thank you for joining.
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  And come on back and don't forget to
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  check out BelieveMeAchieved.com, which you can do
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  after the show.
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  This is Inspirations for Your Life.
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  And the master weekly topic, Series 5, Show
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  29, is how to grow through every season,
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  building a life that creates lasting results.
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  And today's granular topic is how to become
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  someone others can count on.
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  Series 5, Show 29, Episode 5.
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  Welcome everyone to the ever popular Inspirations for
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  Your Life show.
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  I'm John C.
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  Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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  podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
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  Montclair State University, passionate lifelong learner, and yes,
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  guys, so grateful not to be a published
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  author.
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  Welcome, everyone.
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  Welcome.
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  Thanks so much for joining me for another
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  episode.
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  It's going to be a great one today.
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  And so this is where I help you
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  explore practical principles that help us become stronger,
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  wiser, and more intentional every day in our
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  life.
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  Success isn't measured only by what we accomplish.
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  It's also measured by the kind of person
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  others know they can rely on.
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  People remember those who keep their word, act
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  with integrity, and remain dependable in both the
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  good times and the bad, or what we
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  say the difficult seasons may be.
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  Today, I'm exploring how becoming someone others can
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  count on not only strengthens your relationships, but
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  also builds a reputation that opens doors throughout
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  every area of life.
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  Number one, guys, integrity builds trust.
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  Trust begins with integrity.
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  When your words and actions consistently match, people
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  know they can depend on you.
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  Integrity becomes the foundation of every lasting relationship.
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  Number two, consistency earns respect.
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  People respect those who consistently do the right
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  thing, even when no one else is watching.
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  Showing up with the same level of commitment
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  and enthusiasm every day builds confidence in your
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  character.
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  Consistency speaks louder than promises ever will.
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  And number three, reliability creates opportunity.
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  And opportunities naturally come to dependable people.
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  When others know they can count on you,
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  they become more willing to trust you with
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  greater responsibility.
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  Reliability often opens unexpected doors.
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  Number four, keep your promises.
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  Every promise you keep strengthens your reputation.
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  If you commit to something, follow through with
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  excellence.
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  Your word becomes one of your greatest assets.
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  Use it wisely.
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  Number five, show up daily.
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  Success isn't built by occasional appearances.
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  It's built by consistently showing up even on
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  the days you don't feel like it.
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  Dependability creates momentum.
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  Okay, and number six, actions build credibility.
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  People believe what they repeatedly see, not simply
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  what they hear.
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  Consistent actions build lasting credibility.
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  Let your actions reinforce your message.
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  Number seven, character matters.
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  Skills may earn opportunities, but character determines how
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  long they will last.
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  Strong character influences every decision you make.
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  It's your greatest long-term investment.
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  Number eight, lead by example.
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  Leadership isn't about giving instructions.
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  It's about demonstrating the behavior you hope others
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  will follow.
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  Your example often teaches more than your words.
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  And that's something a lot of people miss.
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  Number nine, build confidence through action.
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  Confidence develops through repeated action, not wishful thinking.
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  Every promise you keep strengthens your beliefs in,
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  yes, ladies and gentlemen, yourself.
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  So progress creates confidence, and that's the key.
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  Number 10, encourage others.
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  Encouragement costs very little, but often creates tremendous
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  value.
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  Helping others believe in themselves strengthens both your
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  relationships and your influence.
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  Positive words leave lasting impressions.
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  Number 11, stay dependable.
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  Dependability isn't something you practice occasionally.
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  It becomes part of your identity.
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  People remember those who remain steady, regardless of
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  circumstances.
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  Number 12, earn trust gradually.
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  If trust isn't demanded, it's earned one decision
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  at a time.
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  Every honest action strengthens the confidence others place
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  in you.
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  Number 13, listen carefully.
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  Listening demonstrates respect.
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  Understanding others before responding creates stronger communication and
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  healthier relationships.
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  Great listeners become trusted leaders.
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  Number 14, communicate clearly.
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  Clear communication prevents unnecessary misunderstandings.
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  Be honest, direct, and respectful.
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  In every conversation, clarity builds confidence.
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  Number 15, respect your commitments.
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  Treat every commitment as a reflection of your
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  character.
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  Following through shows people they can depend on
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  you.
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  Every commitment honored strengthens your reputation.
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  Number 16, be accountable.
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  Taking responsibility for your actions builds credibility and
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  respect.
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  Accountability means owning both your successes and your
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  mistakes.
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  People trust those who accept responsibility without making
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  excuses.
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  Number 17, stay authentic, everyone.
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  Authenticity allows people to know the real you.
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  You don't have to pretend to be someone
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  you're not.
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  To earn respect, genuine character creates genuine relationships.
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  Number 18, support others.
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  Helping others succeed never diminishes your own success.
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  Offering encouragement, guidance, and kindness builds stronger communities
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  and lasting friendships.
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  People remember those who stood beside them.
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  Number 19, build lasting relationships.
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  Strong relationships are built through trust, respect, and
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  consistency over time.
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  Invest in people instead of simply transactions.
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  Meaningful relationships become one of life's greatest treasures.
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  Number 20, practice humility.
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  Humility allows you to continue learning and growing.
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  It reminds you that everyone has something valuable
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  to teach and share.
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  Humble people earn admiration because they lead without
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  arrogance, something the world needs a lot less
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  of.
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  Number 21, keep learning.
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  Personal growth should never stop.
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  Every book, conversation, experience, and challenge adds to
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  your understanding.
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  Lifelong learners remain valuable throughout every season of
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  life.
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  Number 22, lead with integrity.
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  True leadership begins with doing what's right, even
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  when no one's watching.
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  Integrity creates confidence because people know your values
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  remain consistent.
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  Strong leaders lead by principle before position.
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  Number 23, guys, create positive influence.
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  Every interaction leaves on the impression you make.
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  I think some people, you know, they miss
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  that point.
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  They don't realize that they have that power
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  inside them, okay?
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  Make yours one of the best ones that
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  will be encouraging and allowing people to hope
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  and build confidence and growth.
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  And positive influence often extends much farther than
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  you ever realize.
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  Number 24, stay honest.
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  Honesty builds relationships that last even through difficult
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  conversations.
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  And they'll become easier when people know you're
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  actually truthful.
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  See, trust grows whenever honesty is consistently practiced.
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  But what I want to tell you is
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  that this can be difficult for people because
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  they're expecting something.
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  They don't realize, like, what's happening.
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  They don't understand why something is happening.
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  And that can be hard, guys.
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  And I'll tell you that it's something a
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  lot of people don't understand.
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  Okay?
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  And the reason I understand it is because
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  they really don't care to, okay?
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  It's crazy how people don't care.
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  And I think that's a problem.
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  People don't care.
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  I think when people care and they understand,
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  that's when they understand these things and that's
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  when they get it.
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  I think those are important qualities.
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  Number 25, consistency creates leadership.
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  Leadership isn't earned through one inspiring speech.
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  It's earned by repeatedly demonstrating dependable character and
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  eliciting sound judgment.
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  Consistency inspires confidence in others.
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  You didn't realize that, did you?
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  We inspire others.
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  And when we do that, that makes people
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  want to change, okay?
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  It makes people want to change.
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  It makes people want to become a better
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  version because they're seeing something else that they
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  want to be like.
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  An example.
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  Number 26, inspire through action.
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  People are inspired by what they see lived
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  out every day in their life.
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  Your example has the power to motivate others
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  for more effective ways than words could alone.
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  The message you hope others embrace is the
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  key to the success of life.
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  And I think sometimes the message gets, well,
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  discombobulated.
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  It gets confusing.
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  And that happens because of miscommunication.
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  And miscommunication happens because people's egos get in
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  the way.
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  Number 27, guys, be the example.
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  If you want honesty, demonstrate honesty.
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  If you want respect, well, demonstrate respect.
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  See, the standard you live often becomes the
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  standard others follow.
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  The standard you live becomes the one others
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  follow.
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  A lot of people will mimic.
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  A lot of people will try to be
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  like someone, not trying to copy them, but
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  trying to just learn a good example.
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  And I think those are very important things
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  in life when we can do things like
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  that, okay?
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  Number 28, build meaningful impact.
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  Success becomes more fulfilling when it improves the
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  lives of others.
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  People always say, you know, success is all
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  about me.
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  That's part of it, but it's important to
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  think about others, really important to think about
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  others.
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  Focus on making a positive difference wherever you
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  go.
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  See, impact gives lasting purpose to achievement.
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  And I think if we dissect that a
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  moment, and we understand how impact works, and
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  we understand that our choices, which are coming
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  from our own freedom, freedom of will, can
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  impact somebody positively or negatively.
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  So I think the most important thing is
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  that we learn how to be kind.
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  You know, it doesn't cost anything to be
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  kind.
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  It doesn't cost anything.
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  It's completely free.
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  It just takes some, well, some dedication.
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  It takes true intention, right?
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  But everybody's so, like, into themselves.
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  And I think when people can just stop
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  for a moment and realize that if
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  you're not part of the solution, you're part
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  of the problem.
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  I was reading something not too long ago
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  on social media about something that happened at
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  a ham convention.
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  So ham, ham is basically a, it's an
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  organization, ham radio operators.
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  And so we think about this for a
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  moment.
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  It's basically a license you get from the
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  FCC, okay?
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  And they're licensed operators who use amateur radio,
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  equipment to communicate globally.
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  Equipment with electronics and provide vital emergency communication
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  when standard networks fail.
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  And they build their stations and connect via
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  voice, Morse code, and even digital data now.
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  So you have the, you have basically the
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  technician class, which is an entry-level license
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  requiring 35 question exam.
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  Focuses on the VHF, UHF operations for local
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  and regional contacts.
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  General class, the second tier granting wider privileges
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  across the short wave HF bands for worldwide
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  communication.
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  And then the amateur extra class, the highest
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  tier granting access to all US amateur bands.
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  And it's interesting that, you know, this is
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  there, but what I wanted to pull this
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  up for was because not too long ago,
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  there was a ham, let's say market where
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  they sell, you know, new and used radios
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  from people that sell them, right?
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  Not the hams, but basically the people that
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  sell these radios.
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  Well, there was one particular person, I don't
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  think I've ever seen this at a ham
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  convention, who was using some, let's say, not
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  polite four-letter words.
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  And he also was getting, in addition to
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  the verbal and the assaults with words, he
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  was getting ready to pick a fight with
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  somebody.
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  And hams are here to help people.
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  Hams are not supposed to be about egos,
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  but, you know, there's egos everywhere.
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  Unfortunately, guys, that's just something that just kind
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  of pops up.
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  And, you know, it's not hard to be
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  kind, right?
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  It's not hard to be.
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  But people basically become unkind when their ego
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  gets in the way, right?
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  And that sounds like something that's pretty, like,
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  straightforward, right?
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  But the thing is, when somebody's ego gets
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  in the way, it actually impacts more than
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  just them.
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  It impacts all the people around.
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  And that doesn't actually seem fair.
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  When somebody is not polite or discourteous, they
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  not only affect themselves, they ruin the comfort
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  and quiet for others.
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  Interesting to think about that, right?
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  And when we think about that a little
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  deeper, we can ask ourselves this one question
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  about purpose, right?
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  About how our actions, which
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  are meaningful, will leave an impact.
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  Now, even actions that are not good will
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  leave an impact.
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  It'll leave a bad impact on somebody.
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  Number 29, guys, success follows trust.
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  You don't get success before you get trust.
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  You get trust when people feel comfortable with
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  you, when people see that you're a person
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  that does what you say you're gonna do.
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  Probably remember the days of a handshake.
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  Well, handshake contracts are gone.
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  They're gone.
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  Success follows trust.
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  And people naturally choose to work with support
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  and recommend individuals they trust.
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  Trust creates opportunities that talent alone often cannot.
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  A trustworthy reputation becomes one of your greatest
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  competitive advantages.
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  You know, ladies and gentlemen, it's priceless.
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  You see, you can damage your reputation in
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  seconds.
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  You can work hours, days, weeks, months, or
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  years to build a reputation and then bam,
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  you just destroyed it.
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  Crazy, right?
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  And I think it's these things that get
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  people to really understand, right?
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  And the understanding comes from like what people
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  are doing, right?
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  But why do people act up?
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  It's because of fear.
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  False evidence appearing real.
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  That's what it comes from.
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  Now, ladies and gentlemen, number 30, your reputation
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  becomes your legacy long after accomplishments are potentially
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  forgotten.
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  People remember how you treated them and whether
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  they could depend on you.
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  Every decision you make contributes to the reputation
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  you're building.
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  Make it one that reflects integrity, reliability, and
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  genuine care for others.
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  I said, when you're kind, people like it.
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  And kindness doesn't cost a penny, nothing.
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  A penny doesn't even cost a penny, costs
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  nothing.
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  Pretty cool, right?
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  I think when people know that something is
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  free, they associate no value, but our time
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  has value, right?
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  How long did it take you to make
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  your first friend?
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  Let me ask you that.
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  How long does it take to make a
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  best friend?
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  Does anybody know?
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  How long does it take?
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  Research says, okay, according to many journals, 200
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  hours of shared time to transition from acquaintance
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  to a best or close friend.
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  The timeframe can be reached through specific milestones
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  rather than just potential hours.
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  Casual friends, 40 to 60 hours.
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  Moving from a mere acquaintance to someone you
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  occasionally chat with or socialize with.
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  A friend, 80 to 100 hours.
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  A best or close friend, 200 plus hours.
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  And you can't rush that, you can't.
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  Because the minute one person senses that you're
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  trying to rush it, it's like, it's over.
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  As I prepare to wrap up today and
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  we conclude the show, I want you to
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  remember something.
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  See, becoming someone others can count on is
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  one of the greatest achievements you'll ever accomplish
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  in life.
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  I'm not gonna tell you it's easy to
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  do.
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  Trust is something that you just don't build
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  in five minutes.
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  Look how long it takes to build a
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  friendship, right?
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  How long does it take to build a
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  friendship?
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  We just said, right?
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  40 to 60 hours for a casual friend.
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  Moving from a more known acquaintance to someone
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  you occasionally chat with or socialize with.
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  Friend, 80 to 100 hours.
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  Spending more time together, sharing personal details and
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  having regular meaningful conversations.
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  And a best close friend, developing deep mutual
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  trust.
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  Participating in major life experiences and providing consistent
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  support.
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  When you're very young and you're making your
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  first friend, it becomes very easy to make
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  a friendship in preschool.
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  So how quick do kids make friends?
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  Very quick, within a few minutes, okay?
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  We're talking about toddlers, one to three.
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  Young children, four to eight.
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  The fastest age you're making friends.
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  Children this age bond quickly over common interests,
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  toys and simple games.
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  Older kids, becoming friends can take longer.
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  These are age groups that rely more on
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  shared values, trust and deeper conversations.
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  Meaning it can take weeks or months to
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  establish a solid friend group.
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  But when you build it, when you're younger,
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  it's a lot easier, okay?
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  Success, ladies and gentlemen, may open doors.
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  But character determines whether those doors remain open
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  forever.
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  Every promise you keep, every commitment you honor
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  and every act of integrity strengthens the reputation
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  you're building one day at a time.
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  You see, trust isn't built overnight.
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  I've said that before.
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  It's earned through thousands of consistent decisions that
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  demonstrate honesty, dependability, humility and respect for others.
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  The choices you make today will shape how
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  people remember you tomorrow.
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  Let your life become an example of consistency,
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  accountability and authentic leadership.
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  Thank you so much for joining me here
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  on another episode of Inspirations For Your Life.
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  I'm John C.
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  Morley, serial entrepreneur, and be sure to check
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  out BelieveMeAchieve.com.
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  Thanks, sir.
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  Take care, everyone.