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Quick Lift: Build Your Circle, Own Your Growth · Loud & Lifted

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  Welcome to Loud and Lifted Quick Lifts, the bite
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  -size boost you didn't know you needed. I'm your
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  host, Betsy Hamm, and today we're throwing it
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  back to my conversation with the amazing Margaret
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  Miller. And we're zeroing in on a few key takeaways
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  from the episode with action items that you can
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  implement this week, and we're going to talk
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  about it all in less than 10 minutes. The first
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  key takeaway from the conversation with Margaret
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  is you need a support system and it starts at
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  home. Margaret talked about how her husband had
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  her back from day one. He gave her the confidence
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  to move forward and want to open her own business.
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  We all need cheerleaders. Now, maybe you don't
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  want to open your own business, but maybe you
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  are having a rough day or maybe you're not sure
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  if you should apply for a new opportunity or
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  new promotion. We need those cheerleaders in
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  our lives. It can be husbands, it can be friends,
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  it can be your mom, but make sure you have somebody
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  who is rooting for you, especially when you're
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  not rooting for yourself. The other part of a
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  support system besides the cheerleader is just
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  the general support. Now, this looks different
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  for all of us, and especially at different stages
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  in our lives. When you have young kids, your
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  support system needs to be somebody who is watching
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  your kids so you can go to work, whether it's
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  reliable daycare or babysitter, or maybe you're
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  lucky enough to have a parent who watches your
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  kids. But we need support. And it goes beyond
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  just the kids and running them to sporting events
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  and activities or making sure they get to their
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  volleyball practice. This just continues to evolve.
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  But you also need to take a look at your life
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  and figure out what can you outsource. Now, outsourcing
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  can mean buying all of your groceries online
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  and having them delivered. Big fan of that. It
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  can mean ordering. everything and anything on
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  Amazon or it can just mean even something as
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  amazing as having the ability to hire a cleaning
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  lady. We all need support and it again looks
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  different depending on our situation in our life
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  but take a look and figure out how you can have
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  better support and especially when it comes to
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  your spouse. You know oftentimes I feel like
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  we're just afraid or we don't want to show weakness
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  so we don't ask our spouse for support when it
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  could be something as simple as unload the flipping
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  dishwasher. Please pick up the clothes, put the
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  clothes in the dryer, whatever it is, am I talking
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  from personal experience maybe, but ask for help.
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  Sometimes we get so overwhelmed, we need to ask
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  for help, whether it's from our partners, heck,
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  our kids, as your kids get older, your family
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  members or your friends. So action item here,
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  if you already have the cheerleader and you have
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  the support in your life, thank them. That's
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  so amazing, you're so lucky. But if you don't
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  have the support or the cheerleader in your life,
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  is it because you're not asking them? Are you
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  not leaning into them? So take an inventory of
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  those who you're surrounding yourself with and
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  figure out is there opportunity to lean in more
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  to them? Or do we need to expand that support
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  around you? Maybe it's your neighbors. Neighbors
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  also can be a really amazing support system.
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  But take a look, determine if you have the right
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  people around you. And sometimes you just have
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  to ask. The next key takeaway is building your
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  circle intentionally. Circles don't just happen,
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  you have to build them and they take time and
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  effort. Margaret said she's working on her circle
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  when it comes to small business owners in her
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  community and it takes time and it takes sometimes
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  something really small as just sending a text
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  or reaching out on social media. Maybe it's cheering
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  for them, maybe it's asking them for coffee,
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  but it takes effort on your part to create circles.
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  And if you do have circles, that's awesome, or
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  a circle, make sure you're in the right circle.
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  I cringe when I hear women talk about their friends
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  not cheering for them or not rooting for them
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  or not supporting them. You have to surround
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  yourself with people who have your back and are
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  willing to support you. Kind of goes back to
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  the first part of needing that support system.
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  So take a look at your circle around you, whether
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  you're in a corporate environment, you're a small
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  business owner. See, take inventory, see who
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  you have. And if you have amazing circles, that's
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  awesome. But even when those circles are created,
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  they take work. It again, takes effort of sending
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  the text to the group and saying, hey, who wants
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  to grab drinks after work tonight? Or when you
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  see that maybe somebody in your circle has something
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  amazing happening, maybe they received an award,
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  sending a text to not just them, but also to
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  the group so everybody can cheer and congratulate
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  that. So action item for this week, send a text,
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  schedule coffee, comment with a heart, but just
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  start the conversation and start building or
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  strengthening your circle today. Next key takeaway,
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  growth takes grit. Overnight success doesn't
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  exist. It's a myth that sometimes now is sold
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  more by media social media highlight reel Margaret
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  talked about building a brand from scratch and
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  she got the confidence by starting slowly and
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  small by just selling for another clothing company
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  But then it took time and patience and effort
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  and things didn't always go her own way But she
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  continued to persevere and move forward even
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  when she wasn't really sure And even when you
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  start to accomplish your goals, you don't get
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  to stop there. You continue to grow and have
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  new challenges that you're going to have to persevere.
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  Also, when you're looking to start something
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  new or maybe apply for a new job or promotion,
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  we have this idea at times that everything has
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  to be figured out and everything has to be perfect.
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  So we get paralyzed and we don't want to take
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  the first step. Well, having it all figured out
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  is just not. realistic and I use the podcast
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  as an example since that was recent for me something
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  I talked about for a really long time had some
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  ideas but I thought everything had to be perfectly
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  aligned and everything had to be completely fleshed
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  out before I can move forward and that's crazy
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  So I just had to start taking small steps and
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  eventually just put an episode out there and
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  I'll continue to grow and evolve and get better
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  as I move forward. Oh, and by the way, I also
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  could not have done this without the support.
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  So I have the right people supporting me to be
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  able to pull this off on a bi -weekly basis.
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  Action item today for growth takes grit. Set
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  one tiny goal toward whatever you're building.
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  Take action, take the first step. It doesn't
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  have to be perfect, but just start moving. And
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  our last key takeaway is lead with authenticity
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  and vulnerability. Real always wins. Margaret
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  doesn't hide the hard parts even today and that's
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  why people trust her. That's why her community
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  and her clients trust her and that's why her
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  team loves her. She's very open and honest about
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  the challenges and continues to move forward.
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  She also talked about that words matter more
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  than you think So whether it's what you're saying
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  to your co -workers or to your friends and also
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  what you're saying about yourself Think about
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  what you're saying and think about if you're
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  building somebody or something up or you're breaking
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  it down Action item here is very easy. Tell someone
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  you appreciate them. You need them and you're
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  thankful for them Margaret talked about reaching
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  out to her team when she was thinking of them
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  and just said thanks. Thanks for being amazing
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  Thanks for being awesome. So this is a super
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  easy action item There are our key takeaways.
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  I have to be honest, this week maybe are the
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  easiest. Sometimes I think we're going to talk
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  about these action items and you might not have
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  the opportunity to act on it. It might take a
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  few weeks or maybe months, but these action items,
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  you're in control of every single one of these
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  and you can do them today. Okay, fine. I'll give
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  you like the week, but you can easily make progress
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  and check these off your list very quickly. They're
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  so easy. You're in control. So please don't.
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  waste time and at least get one checked off your
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  list today. Ask for help. Make sure you have
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  the right support. Work on building your circle
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  or strengthening one that you already have. Take
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  action and tell someone that you're thankful
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  for them. Margaret reminded us circles aren't
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  found, they're built. Brands that matter aren't
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  manufactured, they're felt. So today, start building.
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  One conversation, one action, one real moment
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  at a time. Thanks for turning into quick lifts.
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  If you haven't listened to Margaret's episode,
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  go check out episode three now. If this sparks
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  something in you, please don't keep it to yourself.
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  Share it with the women in your circle. Subscribe,
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  leave a review, and keep coming back for more
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  lifts and more bold moves. Until next time, keep
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  rising and keep lifting.