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TD_JAKCES_FOCUS_ON_YOURSELF_AND_LET_THEM_Go_TDJAKCES_MOTIVATION · Healing the Strong Ones: Faith & Purpose

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Speaker 1: There comes a time in your life where God starts
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Speaker 1: cutting things off, not to punish you, but to position you.
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Speaker 1: And I came here today to tell somebody it's time.
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Speaker 1: Time to stop begging people to love you, Time to
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Speaker 1: stop losing sleep over who walked away, Time to stop
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Speaker 1: breaking yourself just to keep people who are never meant
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Speaker 1: to stay. You keep wondering why you're tired, why your
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Speaker 1: heart is heavy, why your peace is shattered. It's because
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Speaker 1: you keep holding on to what God already told you
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Speaker 1: to let go. This message right here. This ain't for everybody,
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Speaker 1: but if you've been carrying the way to people, expectations,
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Speaker 1: dead relationships, and trying to prove yourself to folks who
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Speaker 1: don't even see you, then baby, this message is for you.
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Speaker 1: So today I want you to give yourself permission to focus,
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Speaker 1: focus on healing, focus on becoming, focus on you, and
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Speaker 1: let the rest Let them Joe, because everybody can't go
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Speaker 1: where you're going, and trust me, if they could, they'd
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Speaker 1: still be here. So lean in staying with me, cause
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Speaker 1: by the end of this message, something in your life
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Speaker 1: is going to shift. Thing's about to break loose, and
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Speaker 1: you're going to walk out of here. Knowing that your
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Speaker 1: future is too important to be tied to your past doots.
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Speaker 1: You see, the problem with many of us is that
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Speaker 1: we don't know how to let go. We get so
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Speaker 1: emotionally attached to or invested in people that we confuse
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Speaker 1: their presence with our purpose. But let me help you
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Speaker 1: understand something today. Not everyone is meant to stay. I
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Speaker 1: know you love them, I know you prayed for them.
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Speaker 1: I know you have plans, dreams, and hopes wrapped up
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Speaker 1: in that connection. But maybe if they walk away, it's
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Speaker 1: because they weren't assigned to your destiny. You don't need
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Speaker 1: everybody to complete your journey. Sometimes God will allow a
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Speaker 1: person to come into your life to teach you something,
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Speaker 1: to shape you, to shift you, but not to stay
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Speaker 1: with you. They're not here forever. They're your lesson, and
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Speaker 1: if you're so busy trying to resurrect what God already removed,
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Speaker 1: you're going to miss what He's trying to do next.
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Speaker 1: Some of you are asking God to bless you in
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Speaker 1: rooms that are filled with the wrong people. You're praying
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Speaker 1: for increase while holding on to folks who only know
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Speaker 1: how to dream you. It doesn't work like that. God
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Speaker 1: can't bless who you pretend to be, and he can't
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Speaker 1: bless why you refuse to release There are people who
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Speaker 1: were only meant to be a chapter in your book,
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Speaker 1: not the whole story. Stop trying to write them into
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Speaker 1: pages they were never supposed to be in. You keep
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Speaker 1: turning back the pages of your life, trying to find
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Speaker 1: what you've lost. But God is saying, I'm writing a
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Speaker 1: new thing. Why are you mourning in goodbye when God
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Speaker 1: is trying to give you a beginning? When people leave,
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Speaker 1: let them leave, don't chase after them, don't beg them
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Speaker 1: to come back. Don't compromise your value just to keep
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Speaker 1: someone who never saw it in the first place. If
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Speaker 1: they walked away, they made a decision, and that decision
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Speaker 1: revealed everything you needed to know. People don't walk away
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Speaker 1: from what they truly value. People don't let go of
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Speaker 1: what they're afraid to lose. You've got to understand that
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Speaker 1: rejection is sometimes the greatest blessing. In disguise, it feels
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Speaker 1: like heartbreak, but it's really Heaven's redirection. If God allowed it,
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Speaker 1: He's going to use it. That betrayal, that abandonment, that
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Speaker 1: heartbreak wasn't meant to break you it was meant to
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Speaker 1: build you, but you can't get the lesson if you're
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Speaker 1: still stuck in the loss. Stop standing at the door
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Speaker 1: of someone who already closed it. Stop waiting on an
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Speaker 1: apology that may never come. Stop getting CPR to what
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Speaker 1: God has already declared dead. Let it go. I know
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Speaker 1: it's not easy, I know it hurts, But hear me
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Speaker 1: when I say this. Your healing is on the other
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Speaker 1: side of your release. You don't need closure, you don't
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Speaker 1: need an explanation. Sometimes all you need is clarity. And
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Speaker 1: the clarity is this, if they were part of your future,
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Speaker 1: they wouldn't have walked out of your present. The ones
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Speaker 1: who are meant for you, truly meant for you, don't
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Speaker 1: need convincing. You won't have to beg plead, shrink, or
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Speaker 1: settle to keep them. They'll show up and they'll stay
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Speaker 1: because they see your value without meeting a sales pitch.
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Speaker 1: Letting go doesn't mean you failed. It means you trusted
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Speaker 1: God enough to believe He's got something better. And better
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Speaker 1: doesn't always come in the same package are used to better.
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Speaker 1: It doesn't always look like comfort. Sometimes better starts with
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Speaker 1: being uncomfortable. Sometimes it starts with loneliness. Sometimes it starts
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Speaker 1: with silence, but in that silence, God speaks, and that
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Speaker 1: void God feels, and in that pain God restores. You've
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Speaker 1: been walking around with a weight on your chest, carrying
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Speaker 1: memories like chains, thinking if you hold on just a
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Speaker 1: little longer, maybe they'll come back, maybe it'll change. But
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Speaker 1: the truth is your piece is too expensive to keep
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Speaker 1: putting it on sale for people who don't value it.
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Speaker 1: You've got to stop trying to take everybody with you
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Speaker 1: where you're going. Not everyone can follow. Some folks who
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Speaker 1: are only built for the season you just came out of,
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Speaker 1: and trying to force them into your next season is
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Speaker 1: like trying to wear shoes that no longer fit. That'll
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Speaker 1: only cause pain. Don't be bitter, don't hold resentment, don't
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Speaker 1: wish them harm. Just release them with love and move
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Speaker 1: forward with faith. Because your destiny is too great, you're
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Speaker 1: calling too important, and your assignment too urgent to be
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Speaker 1: tied up trying to fix what's all Rea, He've been finished.
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Speaker 1: Let them go and walk in freedom. Doc. There's a
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Speaker 1: reason you feel heavy. There's a reason you've been tired, frustrated,
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Speaker 1: and restless. Like you're doing it. You can but still
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Speaker 1: not moving forward. It's not that you're not gifted, it's
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Speaker 1: not that God's hand isn't on your life. It's because
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Speaker 1: you're trying to carry things that were never meant to
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Speaker 1: go with you. You're trying to run a marathon with
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Speaker 1: a backpack full of dead weight, and God is saying,
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Speaker 1: you're strong, but I didn't ask you to carry that.
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Speaker 1: You keep asking God for more, more peace, more clarity,
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Speaker 1: more purpose, more blessing, and He's willing to give it.
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Speaker 1: But the problem is your hands are full. You're trying
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Speaker 1: to hold onto relationships that no longer serve your spirit.
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Speaker 1: You're clinging to roles and identities that God already asked
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Speaker 1: you to grow out of. You're wrapped up and proving
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Speaker 1: yourself to people who don't even have the capacity to
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Speaker 1: receive you. And you wonder why you're stuck. You're stuck
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Speaker 1: because you're overloaded. There's a cost of carrying the wrong things.
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Speaker 1: Just because you can carry it doesn't mean you should.
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Speaker 1: You've been strong for everybody else, you've been their counselor
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Speaker 1: their cheerleader, their support system. But while you've been lifting others,
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Speaker 1: you've been sinking yourself. You're carrying guilt that doesn't belong
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Speaker 1: to you. You're carrying shame from a past that God
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Speaker 1: already forgave. You're carrying the opinions of people who never
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Speaker 1: knew the real you, and that way it is stopping
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Speaker 1: you from becoming who you're called to be. Sometimes we
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Speaker 1: carry people out of love, but just because you love
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Speaker 1: them doesn't mean you're responsible for their journey. You can't
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Speaker 1: save someone who's determined to stay the same. You can't
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Speaker 1: drag someone into healing when they're comfortable living in dysfunction.
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Speaker 1: You can encourage, you can pray, you can support, but
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Speaker 1: at some point you have to release because your destiny
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Speaker 1: is too important to keep dragging people who only know
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Speaker 1: how to drain. And I know that sounds hard. I
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Speaker 1: know it feels like giving up, but hear me. Letting
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Speaker 1: goes failure. It's faith. It's trusting that God can take
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Speaker 1: care of them without destroying you. You've been trying to
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Speaker 1: be everything for everybody, and it's killing your peace. It's
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Speaker 1: time to step back and say, I can't carry this anymore.
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Speaker 1: Not because you're weak, but because you're finally wise enough
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Speaker 1: to know what's yours and what's not. This weight doesn't
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Speaker 1: just show up in people. Sometimes it's habits, environments, it's mindsets.
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Speaker 1: You keep revisiting the same places that keep you small,
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Speaker 1: you keep entertaining the same thoughts that tell you you're
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Speaker 1: not good enough. You keep sitting in spaces that tolerate
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Speaker 1: you instead of celebrate you. And you wonder why you
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Speaker 1: feel unseen, unheard, and undervalued. It's because you're outgrowing the space,
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Speaker 1: but you're too afraid to leave it. God is not
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Speaker 1: calling you to carry what's comfortable. He's calling you to rise,
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Speaker 1: and to rise, you've got to release. Every time you
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Speaker 1: hold on to what's weighing you down, you're saying no
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Speaker 1: to what's waiting for you ahead. You can't fly carrying bricks.
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Speaker 1: You can't walking your purpose when your soul is bound
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Speaker 1: by baggage. You've got to get to a place where
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Speaker 1: you start asking yourself, is this helping me or hurting me?
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Speaker 1: Is this feeding my spirit or draining my soul? Because
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Speaker 1: everything you carry either pushes you forward or pulls you back.
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Speaker 1: And sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do is
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Speaker 1: say no. No to the chaos, No to the codependency,
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Speaker 1: No to being the strong one all the time you
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Speaker 1: don't owe anyone your peace. You don't have to sacrifice
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Speaker 1: your joy to keep everyone else comfortable. There is power
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Speaker 1: and release, There is healing and surrender. There is freedom
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Speaker 1: and finally saying, I choose me, not in a selfish way,
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Speaker 1: but in a holy way. Because you cannot pour from
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Speaker 1: an empty cup. You can't build when you're broken, and
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Speaker 1: you cannot do what you were born to do if
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Speaker 1: you're always carrying what's breaking you. You weren't built to
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Speaker 1: carry bitterness. You were created to walk around carrying fear.
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Speaker 1: You weren't called to dragon disappointment like a badge. Shake
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Speaker 1: it off, let it go. Every time you lay down
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Speaker 1: that weight, you get stronger. Every time you at least
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Speaker 1: something that no longer belongs to you, you make room
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Speaker 1: for what God is trying to give. It's time to
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Speaker 1: drop the weight. Your next level depends on it. Some
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Speaker 1: of you are sitting in rooms trying to fix what
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Speaker 1: already left. You're wearing yourself out, trying to piece together
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Speaker 1: the broken shards of a relationship, a friendship, a connection
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Speaker 1: that's already been buried, and you don't even realize the
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Speaker 1: damage is doing to your soul. You keep chasing closure,
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Speaker 1: thinking if you could just have one more conversation, one
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Speaker 1: more explanation, maybe it'll make sense. But I came to
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Speaker 1: tell you closure as a trap when it becomes the
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Speaker 1: excuse you used to delay your healing. You think you
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Speaker 1: need answers, but what you really need is peace. And
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Speaker 1: peace doesn't always come through explanation. It comes to release.
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Speaker 1: Some people left and never looked back. Some betrayed you
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Speaker 1: and never apologized, some ghost did you lie to you,
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Speaker 1: took your love for granted and kept moving like you
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Speaker 1: didn't matter. And now you're sitting in the dark, asking
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Speaker 1: yourself what you did wrong, what you could have done differently.
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Speaker 1: But let me tell you something. You are not responsible
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Speaker 1: for someone else's inability to ve val. You stop looking
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Speaker 1: for closure from people who were never honest with you
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Speaker 1: in the first place. If they couldn't tell the truth
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Speaker 1: when they were in your life, what makes you think
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Speaker 1: they're going to tell it now that they're gone. The
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Speaker 1: truth is you might never get the apology, You might
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Speaker 1: never get the explanation. You might never hear them say
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, But hear me. You don't need it because
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Speaker 1: your healing does not depend on the words. Your healing
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Speaker 1: begins the moment you stop waiting and start moving. You
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Speaker 1: keep going back to the same conversation in your mind,
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Speaker 1: reliving the last thing they said, dissecting every message, replaying
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Speaker 1: every moment, like, if you can just understand it better,
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Speaker 1: you'll hurt a little less. But overthinking won't give you peace.
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Speaker 1: Peace comes when you decide I don't mean to understand it,
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Speaker 1: to be free from it. You might not know why
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Speaker 1: they did it. You might never understand why they change,
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Speaker 1: why they turned on you, why they chose someone else.
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Speaker 1: But even if you never understand, you can still heal.
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Speaker 1: Even if you never get clarity, you can still move on.
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Speaker 1: Some of you are stuck because you're trying to grieve
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Speaker 1: something and chase it at the same time. That's not healing,
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Speaker 1: that's torment. You can't chase someone who's already moved on
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Speaker 1: and expect to find peace in their footsteps. You've got
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Speaker 1: to learn to close the door yourself, wipe your own tears,
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Speaker 1: send in front of the mirror, and tell yourself, I
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Speaker 1: deserve better than this. That's when healing begins. You keep thinking,
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Speaker 1: if I can just talk to them, I'll feel better. No,
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Speaker 1: you won't, because the truth is you already talk. You
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Speaker 1: already gave your heart, You already offered your love, and
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Speaker 1: they showed you who they were. Stop negotiating with the evidence.
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Speaker 1: Stop asking God to confirm what's already been revealed. You
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Speaker 1: don't need another sign. You need to accept what is
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Speaker 1: and let go of what was. You're trying to find
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Speaker 1: closure in someone else's mouth when God already gave it
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Speaker 1: to you in silence. Their silence is the answer, Their
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Speaker 1: distance is the response. Sometimes the loudest thing a person
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Speaker 1: can say is nothing at all, And if you really listen,
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Speaker 1: you'll hear the truth in what they didn't say their words.
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Speaker 1: To heal, you need your decision. Healing is not about
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Speaker 1: who left. It's about what you're willing to release. You've
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Speaker 1: got to stop tying your value to someone else's ability
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Speaker 1: to see it. You are not less because they couldn't
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Speaker 1: love you right. You are not broken because they walked away.
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Speaker 1: You are not unworthy because they chose someone else. Their
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Speaker 1: decision does not define you. Their absence is not a
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Speaker 1: reflection of your worth. It's a revelation of theirs. I
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Speaker 1: know you thought they were the one. I know you
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Speaker 1: had plans, dreams of future you imagined with them but
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Speaker 1: you can't build your tomorrow on someone who wasn't willing
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Speaker 1: to stand in your today. You're trying to plant roots
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Speaker 1: and soil that was never fertile. Let it go. Stop
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Speaker 1: watering what won't grow. Stop crying over closed doors. What
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Speaker 1: walked away was never meant to stay, and what's coming
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Speaker 1: will never make you beg to be seen. When you
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Speaker 1: stop chasing closure, you make room for healing. When you
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Speaker 1: stop the manning answers, you create space for peace. And
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Speaker 1: peace is not the absence of pace, it's the presence
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Speaker 1: of God in the middle of it. So don't wait
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Speaker 1: for them to come back and explain. Don't wait for
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Speaker 1: them to apologize, don't wait for them to validate the hurt.
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Speaker 1: Let God do the healing and you do the releasing.
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Speaker 1: You've cried long enough, You've questioned yourself long enough. You've
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Speaker 1: delayed your healing long enough. Today is the day you say,
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Speaker 1: I don't need closure to behold. You've got to understand something.
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Speaker 1: When God gives you an assignment, when he places purpose
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Speaker 1: on your life, it will always cost you something, and
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Speaker 1: more often than not, that cost is attachment. You're trying
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Speaker 1: to fulfill destiny while holding on to everything familiar. But
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Speaker 1: sometimes the very thing that's holding you back is the
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Speaker 1: comfort of who's standing next to you. Not because they're
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Speaker 1: bad people, not because they don't care about you, but
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Speaker 1: because they were only built for the beginning, not for
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Speaker 1: where you're going next. See we confuse loyalty with alignment.
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Speaker 1: Just because someone was loyal to you and one season
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Speaker 1: doesn't mean they're aligned with where God has taken you
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Speaker 1: in the next. There are people who were essential for
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Speaker 1: your survival back then, but they will not be necessary
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Speaker 1: for your success now. Some of you are dragging people
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Speaker 1: into chapters they weren't cast for. You're writing roles for
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Speaker 1: folks who were only meant to be in the introduction.
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Speaker 1: And now you're wondering why everything feels stuck, why the
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Speaker 1: dream is delayed, why the vision is clouded. It's because
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Speaker 1: you're trying to carry companionship into a calling that was
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Speaker 1: meant to be walked out alone. I need you to
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Speaker 1: hear me. Your assignment will always require separation. God doesn't
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Speaker 1: elevate you without also requiring that you release. Abraham couldn't
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Speaker 1: step into promise until he left his country, his relatives,
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Speaker 1: father's house. Jesus didn't start his ministry until he went
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Speaker 1: into the wilderness alone. And you think you can carry
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Speaker 1: everybody with you, baby, this thing is going to cost
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Speaker 1: you some people. You're trying to make it make sense.
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Speaker 1: You're saying, but we've been through so much together. They
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Speaker 1: were there when I was down, They supported me, they
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Speaker 1: knew me when I had nothing. Yes, they did, and
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Speaker 1: that was their purpose for that. But you can't allow
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Speaker 1: your gratitude for the past to become your excuse to
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Speaker 1: compromise your future. Loyalty is beautiful, but not when it
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Speaker 1: blinds you. And some of you are so loyal to
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Speaker 1: people that you're betraying your purpose. You keep saying they
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Speaker 1: help build me, Yes, but they can't go with you.
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Speaker 1: Some people were only designed to help you get started,
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Speaker 1: not to finish the race. And if you don't learn
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Speaker 1: to discern who's temporary and who's called to be permanent,
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Speaker 1: you'll keep forfeiting your progress for the sake of keeping
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Speaker 1: people who no longer fit. And I'm not talking about
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Speaker 1: being rude, I'm not talking about cutting people off with bitterness.
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Speaker 1: I'm talking about having the spiritual maturity to know when
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Speaker 1: a connection is seasonal, when an assignment has shifted, when
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Speaker 1: a relationship is no longer bearing fruit. God does not
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Speaker 1: prune you to punish you. He prunes you to prepare you.
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Speaker 1: But if you fight the proning, you'll miss the promise.
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Speaker 1: This thing you're carrying, this vision, this dream is calling,
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Speaker 1: is bigger than you. You can't play small to keep
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Speaker 1: people comfortable. You can't shrink your light to fit the
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Speaker 1: place as God is calling you out of. And some
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Speaker 1: of you have been holding back because you're afraid that
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Speaker 1: if you grow, they'll feel left behind. You've been dimming
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Speaker 1: your fire, softening your voice, sectd guessing your gifts, all
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Speaker 1: because you're trying not to make anyone uncomfortable. But let
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Speaker 1: me tell you, purpose will always make people uncomfortable, especially
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Speaker 1: the ones who have no intention of growing with you.
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Speaker 1: You've got to make a decision. Do I want agreement
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Speaker 1: or assignment, because sometimes the two don't live in the
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Speaker 1: same place. You're trying to get agreement from people who
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Speaker 1: never had the vision. You're looking for validation from folks
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Speaker 1: who didn't hear what God told you in the midnight hour.
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Speaker 1: Stop explaining what God whispered to people who only operate
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Speaker 1: on noise. Your vision doesn't need everyone's confirmation. It just
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Speaker 1: needs your obedience. There's a moment in every journey where
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Speaker 1: you've got to walk forward, even if it means walking alone.
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Speaker 1: Not out of prime, not out of anger, but out
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Speaker 1: of alignment. Because what God placed in you is too
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Speaker 1: precious to be delayed by indecision. And if you keep
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Speaker 1: choosing attachment over assignment, you'll keep living beneath your calling.
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Speaker 1: Don't stay in Egypt because you're afraid of the wilderness.
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Speaker 1: Don't settle for the familiar. When God's trying to lead
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Speaker 1: you to freedom. You got to trust him enough to
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Speaker 1: believe that even if the road is lonely, it's still
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Speaker 1: leading somewhere greater. You don't have to carry the same
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Speaker 1: crowd to reach the next level. What God has for
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Speaker 1: you doesn't require everyone you started with, and you will
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Speaker 1: never walk into your future while dragging people from your past.
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Speaker 1: So stop trying to make it work, Stop trying to
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Speaker 1: explain yourself, stop delaying your obedience to preserve a comfort zone.
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Speaker 1: Focus on the assignment and let the attachments go. You
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Speaker 1: keep asking God to do a new thing, but your
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Speaker 1: hands are still full of the old. You're praying for
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Speaker 1: growth while clinging to everything that kept you stuck. You
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Speaker 1: say you want breakthrough, but you're still building your life
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Speaker 1: around people, patterns, and places that God already told you
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Speaker 1: to release. You say you're ready for elevation, but elevation
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Speaker 1: requires space, It requires pruning, it requires room. You cannot
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Speaker 1: step into what's next if you're still holding onto what's finished.
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Speaker 1: Some of you are frustrated, not because God is a
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Speaker 1: moving but because you won't let go. You're trying to
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Speaker 1: grow in soil that no longer supports your roots. You're
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Speaker 1: trying to stretch in environments that weren't built for your capacity.
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Speaker 1: You can't plant new seeds in a garden full of weeds.
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Speaker 1: You've got to do some clearing first, and that means
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Speaker 1: letting go not just a people, but of expectations, of mindsets,
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Speaker 1: of the way you thought it was supposed to be.
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Speaker 1: Growth doesn't happen in comfort. Growth demands change, and change
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Speaker 1: demand surrender. You're asking God to bless your life while
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Speaker 1: refusing to make space in it. God's trying to send
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Speaker 1: the right people, the right opportunities, the right healing, but
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Speaker 1: you're still holding onto relationships that drain you, behaviors that sabotage,
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Speaker 1: bots that limit you. You want more but you're not
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Speaker 1: willing to lose what's less, And I get it. It's
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Speaker 1: not easy. Letting go as hard, especially when you built
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Speaker 1: your identity around what you're releasing. That relationship became your
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Speaker 1: safety net, that job became your worth, that version of
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Speaker 1: yourself became your protection. But the same thing that once
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Speaker 1: covering you is now suffocating you. And God is saying,
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Speaker 1: I've got more, but you've got to trust me enough
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Speaker 1: to make room. You cannot receive what's new while clinging
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Speaker 1: to what's familiar. Sometimes what's familiar isn't even good for you.
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Speaker 1: It's just comfortable. You know how to survive in it,
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Speaker 1: you know how to move in it. But surviving isn't
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Speaker 1: the same as living. And God didn't call you to
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Speaker 1: survival mode. He called you to thrive. But thriving takes risk,
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Speaker 1: It takes faith, It takes the kind of boldness that says,
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Speaker 1: even if it hurts to let go, I trust that
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Speaker 1: what's coming is greater. There are doors God won't open
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Speaker 1: until you close the ones you keep going back to.
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Speaker 1: You've been walking in circles wondering why the breakthrough hasn't come.
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Speaker 1: But you can't walk into your next while keeping a
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Speaker 1: foot in your last You're too full, too crowded. You've
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Speaker 1: been praying for peace, but you're still to chios. You've
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Speaker 1: been asking for clarity, but your mind is still cluttered
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Speaker 1: with confusion. Some of what you're carrying is not yours anymore.
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Speaker 1: It served its purpose, It did what it came to do,
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Speaker 1: and now it's time to release it. There's nothing wrong
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Speaker 1: with outgrowing people. There's nothing wrong with outgrowing conversations. There's
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Speaker 1: nothing wrong without growing habits. That's what growth is. Don't
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Speaker 1: you ever feel guilty for changing? Don't you let anyone
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Speaker 1: shame you for evolving. You've worked too hard, cried too long,
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Speaker 1: come through too much. To stay the same. Wells ahead
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Speaker 1: of you requires a stronger Why is a freer version
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Speaker 1: of you, and that version can't carry dead weight. Some
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Speaker 1: people want the growth, but they don't want the proving.
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Speaker 1: They want the platform, but they don't want the preparation.
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Speaker 1: You can't skip the letting go process and expect to
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Speaker 1: arrive hole. You've got to be willing to walk away
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Speaker 1: from what no longer aligns with your becoming. Because the
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Speaker 1: truth is not everything can go where you're going. God
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Speaker 1: doesn't just bless he prepares, and sometimes that preparation means separation.
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Speaker 1: He will strip away what can't sustain the next season.
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Speaker 1: He will empty your hands of what you think you
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Speaker 1: need so he can fill them with what he knows
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Speaker 1: you need. And if you don't learn how to release,
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Speaker 1: you'll miss what he's trying to give. You'll stay stuck
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Speaker 1: in cycles that look like safety, but they're really just distractions.
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Speaker 1: Letting go doesn't mean forgetting, It doesn't mean dishonoring. It
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Speaker 1: means acknowledging. This chapter served me, but it's not my
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Speaker 1: story anymore. It's giving yourself permission to turn the page
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Speaker 1: without meeting anyone's approval to do it. And when you
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Speaker 1: do that, when you finally unclench your fists, when you
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Speaker 1: finally breathe and release, you'll realize that what God has
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Speaker 1: next is so much more than what you left behind.
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Speaker 1: You don't have to understand everything to trust him. You
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Speaker 1: don't have to know all the details to take the
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Speaker 1: first step, but you do have to be willing to
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Speaker 1: open your hands, to release, to create space, because if
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Speaker 1: you keep filling your life with what's familiar, you'll have
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Speaker 1: no room for what's meant to grow. You let it go.
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Speaker 1: So you can grow. Do you have to reach a
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Speaker 1: place in your journey where your validation no longer comes
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Speaker 1: from the voices around you, but from the voice within you?
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Speaker 1: Because as long as you need the applause, the acceptance,
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Speaker 1: the affirmation of others to feel secure in who you are,
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Speaker 1: you'll always be one opinion away from insecurity, one rejection
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Speaker 1: away from retreat, one disagreement away from abandoning your destiny.
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Speaker 1: And let me tell you that is no way to live.
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Speaker 1: You're looking for approval from people who didn't even build you,
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Speaker 1: people who weren't there in the dark places, people who
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Speaker 1: don't know the cost of your oil, people who have
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Speaker 1: no idea how much you've had to push through, crawl through,
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Speaker 1: cry through just to be here. And yet you're still
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Speaker 1: pausing your purpose to get a yes from them? Why
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Speaker 1: Why are you waiting for people to see in you
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Speaker 1: what God already confirmed? Why are you giving them that power?
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Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. There's freedom, no longer needing
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Speaker 1: to be understood. There's peace and knowing you are still
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Speaker 1: chosen even if they don't choose you, that you are
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Speaker 1: still called even if they never clapp that your value
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Speaker 1: is intact even when they don't validate it, because if
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Speaker 1: you're not careful, you'll spend your life auditioning for roles
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Speaker 1: you already own, and that's not what you were made for.
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Speaker 1: They may not like how you move, they may not
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Speaker 1: agree with how you think. They may not understand why
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Speaker 1: you've changed, why you've grown, why you've walked away from
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Speaker 1: what used to be your normal, and guess what, they
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Speaker 1: don't have to Your journey doesn't require their permission. Your
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Speaker 1: healing doesn't need their confirmation. You do not have to
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Speaker 1: justify your growth to those who refuse to evolve. Some
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Speaker 1: of why all are shrinking because they're uncomfortable, dimming your
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Speaker 1: light because they can't handle your shine downplaying your vision
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Speaker 1: because it makes others feel insecure. But listening to your
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Speaker 1: life was never meant to make others feel safe in
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Speaker 1: their shadows. You were not designed to be palatable. You
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Speaker 1: were designed to be powerful, And when you finally accept that,
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Speaker 1: you stop explaining yourself to people who are never supposed
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Speaker 1: to understand. Stop asking for permission to be who you
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Speaker 1: already are. Stop waiting for someone to tell you you're enough.
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Speaker 1: You're already enough. Stop rehearsing your worth for people who
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Speaker 1: can't even comprehend the fullness of your gift. You don't
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Speaker 1: need to soften who you are to make others feel comfortable.
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Speaker 1: You don't need to bend your truth to fit into
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Speaker 1: circles that were never shaped for you. You've got to
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Speaker 1: reach a place where your piece is too expensive to
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Speaker 1: put on the clearance rack of public opinion, where your
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Speaker 1: identity is not for negotiation, where your joy no longer
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Speaker 1: hinges on someone else's ability to approve of your becoming.
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Speaker 1: When you understand that you move different, you love different,
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Speaker 1: you build different because you know who you are, even
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Speaker 1: if they never acknowledge it. And some of you have
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Speaker 1: been stuck, not because you're weak, but because you're waiting,
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Speaker 1: waiting for someone to see your value, waiting for someone
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Speaker 1: to validate your vision, waiting for someone to give you
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Speaker 1: permission to walk in your anointing. But let me tell you,
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Speaker 1: there are some people who will ever celebrate you because
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Speaker 1: they are too intimidated by your becoming. They saw you
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Speaker 1: as broken, and now that you're healing, they don't know
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Speaker 1: where they fit. They were comfortable with the version of
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Speaker 1: you that needed them. But now that you've found your footing,
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Speaker 1: now that you've learned to speak with authority and walk
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Speaker 1: with comforts. They don't recognize you, and that's okay. Let
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Speaker 1: them misunderstand you, let them question you, let them whisper down.
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Speaker 1: Assume you don't owe anyone your truth when they've all