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My girlfriend's secret partner passed away...her mom demanded I have some sympathy! | Reddit Stories | EP3124 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Carly.
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  Speaker 2: And this is Dakota, your favorite OK Storytime hosts. And
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  Speaker 2: we've got some great stories coming up.
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  Speaker 1: to OK Storytime. I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 3: I'm Riley.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm Savannah. And today's episode is all about the
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  Speaker 1: wildest ways that people found out they were cheated on.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, I think I got cheated on when I was 16.
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  Speaker 4: What?
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  Speaker 1: By who?
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  Speaker 3: My girlfriend. She wanted to see if her friend still
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  Speaker 3: liked her.
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  Speaker 1: That's really unfortunate.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it was.
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  Speaker 1: But it's not that crazy. I'm sure these stories will
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  Speaker 1: be crazier.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, he was 21.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, that's really bad. That's actually terrible. No, it's illegal.
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  Speaker 1: But wait until you hear these stories, Riley.
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  Speaker 3: Please tell me.
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  Speaker 1: We've got a guy whose girlfriend's affair partner passed away
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  Speaker 1: and her own family expected him to grieve right alongside her.
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  Speaker 3: That's a lot to juggle. We also got a story
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  Speaker 3: about a bride who found nudes on her husband's phone
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  Speaker 3: after he cried every single night for two months.
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  Speaker 1: Well, that's really embarrassing for him. There's also a story
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  Speaker 1: about a groom who got rejected at the altar in
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  Speaker 1: front of his entire village and didn't find out the
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  Speaker 1: real reason why until her father showed up on his
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  Speaker 1: doorstep months later.
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  Speaker 3: Bad time to get married. Yeah. Buckle up because we
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  Speaker 3: got another story. On top of all these great ones
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  Speaker 3: about a guy who found out his girlfriend was cheating
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  Speaker 3: with her best friend's husband after a suspicious sleepover.
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  Speaker 1: Aye, aye, aye. Those are some pretty intense stories. Let's
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  Speaker 1: get into them. My girlfriend's affair partner passed away. Her
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  Speaker 1: mom demanded I have some sympathy. That is horrible. I,
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  Speaker 1: 25 male, am in shock right now. My relationship with
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  Speaker 1: my girlfriend, 22 females, started to become strained after the
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  Speaker 1: birth of our first child.
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  Speaker 3: Dang.
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  Speaker 1: I found out during dinner with her effing parents. Her
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  Speaker 1: phone started going off like crazy. It was from her friends,
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  Speaker 1: and they effing knew. She left her phone at the
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  Speaker 1: table to grab her coat after all the effing waterworks.
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  Speaker 1: She was effing some dude called Andrew.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, I hate Andrews.
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  Speaker 1: And it started recently.
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  Speaker 3: No!
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  Speaker 1: Recent enough for me to doubt that the child she
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  Speaker 1: carries is even mine.
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  Speaker 4: Oh.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, that would make it a lot less complicated.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, that DNA test, I guess.
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  Speaker 1: I broke her phone when she tried to grab it
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  Speaker 1: from me. Her parents threatened to call the police on me.
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  Speaker 1: I left with my son. I don't want her in
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  Speaker 1: my life. I don't want her to be involved with
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  Speaker 1: my children's life. I am so effing angry right now.
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  Speaker 1: What should I do? By the way, this comes from
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  Speaker 1: a shamed strain. And if you want to submit your
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  Speaker 1: own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit.
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  Speaker 1: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
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  Speaker 1: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do.
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  Speaker 1: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
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  Speaker 1: And Opie says, edit. I want a relationship with my
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  Speaker 1: children and not her. I can't be a father long distance.
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  Speaker 1: Her boyfriend is brain deceased.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, so he's still alive.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, they usually take you out of life support if
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  Speaker 1: there's no sign that you would ever improve.
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  Speaker 3: Never mind.
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  Speaker 1: Her mother told me to have sympathy. F that. My
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  Speaker 1: life is ruined. Yeah, shut up. Don't be like, you
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  Speaker 1: should have some sympathy. She just lost the man, the
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  Speaker 1: second man that she also loved, along with you.
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  Speaker 3: She's going through a breakup right now.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's crazy. Oh no, it gets worse. Edit two,
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  Speaker 1: most users are assuming I am a US citizen. I
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  Speaker 1: am not. Once my contract is up, I'll have to
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  Speaker 1: leave the U.S. How on earth can I be a
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  Speaker 1: father if I can't even be with my children?
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  Speaker 3: Oh, man. Deported?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, maybe not deported, but he would have to
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  Speaker 1: leave if he doesn't have a marriage.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, so a step above being deported.
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  Speaker 1: I think it might be a little bit easier for
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  Speaker 1: you to apply if you've been living in the country
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  Speaker 1: and your kids are citizens. Yeah, I feel like you'd
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  Speaker 1: be put more priority.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Edit three, I picked up the dang phone out of curiosity.
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  Speaker 1: Holy crap, they went crazy when they tried to take
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  Speaker 1: it from me. Edit four says, phone is still with me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm taking screenshots. I paid for it by credit card,
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  Speaker 1: my name on the contract. And edit five, okay, I'll
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  Speaker 1: get some therapy.
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  Speaker 3: He's going through everything right now.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he's like, okay, I'm gonna maybe have to leave
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  Speaker 1: the country. Yeah, I'll get therapy.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, okay.
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  Speaker 1: Edit six, waiting for it to return before I do anything.
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  Speaker 1: Need to video myself leaving my apartment untouched and in
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  Speaker 1: peace for my own safety.
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  Speaker 3: Update.
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  Speaker 1: So I just spent Valentine's Day with my ex. Talked
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  Speaker 1: about how we are going to get through this as adults.
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  Speaker 3: Whoa, this is a total 180. She's making this work.
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  Speaker 1: I guess so.
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  Speaker 3: Probably because he still wants to be near his kids.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, that is such a tough thing, you know,
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  Speaker 1: if OP has the possibility of maybe having to leave
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  Speaker 1: the country. Yeah, very tricky. I'm still hurt, resentful, and
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  Speaker 1: unsympathetic to her plight. But hey, we have a kid. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: I am the father to my son. A DNA test
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  Speaker 1: confirmed it.
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  Speaker 3: Oh boy.
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  Speaker 1: She wouldn't agree to a test for the baby until
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  Speaker 1: it was born. I'm trying to play good cop, bad
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  Speaker 1: cop here. I don't think she's on Reddit. But legally speaking,
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  Speaker 1: I'm literally effed when it comes to custody. I can't
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  Speaker 1: go into the details. Her dad eventually collected my son.
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  Speaker 1: He wanted his mom, and the phone was also returned.
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  Speaker 1: It only had a cracked screen. The phone isn't a
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  Speaker 1: massive issue. I might reveal why later. Unlike my employment, residence,
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  Speaker 1: and immigration status.
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  Speaker 3: The world is against you, bro. Just the United States.
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  Speaker 1: However, I am advised to make a non-binding agreement with
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  Speaker 1: her on custody out of court if possible. Yeah, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: the second that you enter court, it would not probably
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  Speaker 1: go well for OP because of the citizen stuff.
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  Speaker 3: Dude, those lawyers.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Waiting to take this case.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It would definitely be better if you did this outside.
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  Speaker 1: The days after my predicament at dinner, I found myself
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  Speaker 1: constantly juggling my emotions whenever I met my ex and
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  Speaker 1: drinking a lot lately. It's been a rough week with
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  Speaker 1: all the texts and calls. Firstly, when she came to
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  Speaker 1: collect the rest of her belongings, I had already packed
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  Speaker 1: her crap in bin bags. I made it known she
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  Speaker 1: was trash.
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  Speaker 3: There you go. Tell them, Opie.
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  Speaker 4: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 1: You had a bunch of her stuff in trash bags
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  Speaker 1: and then wrote on it, this is you. I got
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  Speaker 1: into an argument with her friends and her male friends
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  Speaker 1: clearly intimidated me. Her girlfriend suggested I marry my ex
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  Speaker 1: and live separate lives.
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  Speaker 3: What? So you can stay? What life is this?
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  Speaker 1: That's insane.
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  Speaker 3: What?
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  Speaker 1: Her girlfriend is like, well, maybe you should just stay.
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  Speaker 1: You should just marry her and then you don't actually
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  Speaker 1: have to be together or.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, this is what they do in kingdoms. Separate bedrooms.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I could understand because of the immigration laws.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Like, I get that, but then it's like. But would
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  Speaker 1: she even do that?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Where is she getting this advice from? What the F Reddit?
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  Speaker 1: I had to threaten to call the police because they
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't leave. All on video. A total crap show. Secondly,
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  Speaker 1: she wouldn't budge on the fact that I was the
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  Speaker 1: father of both her children. We agreed to a few
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  Speaker 1: private paternity tests on our son. and that test would
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  Speaker 1: be carried out post-birth. Her attitude this entire time has
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  Speaker 1: always been remorseful, maybe because she believes that I'm abandoning her,
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  Speaker 1: and the fact that Andrew's gone. Her life is crap,
• 7:42
  Speaker 1: but that's on her. Andrew was engaged. Oh, bro. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I feel so bad for his fiance to simultaneously find
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  Speaker 1: out that your partner is gone forever and also.
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  Speaker 3: Cheated on you. They're both double-dipping. Get one dip, and
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  Speaker 3: you have to dip there forever.
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  Speaker 1: One dip. Keep dipping. And from what I know, his
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  Speaker 1: family are not pleased with this little surprise. I can't
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  Speaker 1: say I pity her, although it is the worst way
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  Speaker 1: to get caught cheating. She explained her relationship with Andrew,
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  Speaker 1: and I totally feel like a second string backup. She
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  Speaker 1: tried to tell me that she always loved me. However,
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  Speaker 1: it's over between us, and I don't love her anymore. Finally,
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  Speaker 1: Valentine's Day, the worst I ever had. I thought I
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  Speaker 1: would have spent it alone or with a Tinder date.
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  Speaker 1: The ex-girlfriend turned up without asking because she wanted to talk.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.
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  Speaker 1: We went to the place that I had reserved for
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  Speaker 1: us weeks earlier. Oof, you didn't cancel the reservation?
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  Speaker 3: It probably had a cancellation fee on it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, two weeks earlier though.
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  Speaker 3: Oof.
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  Speaker 1: And it was such an awkward experience. Got home to
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  Speaker 1: another round of major waterworks and drinking. She literally begged
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  Speaker 1: me to stay with her and to stay for the kids.
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  Speaker 1: I tried to press the idea of the kids living
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  Speaker 1: with me eventually. We agreed to some relationship counseling so
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  Speaker 1: that I would have a mediator to negotiate custody.
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  Speaker 3: Dang, this is just a hot pile of trash.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's pretty bad. Do you have any final thoughts
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  Speaker 1: about this lady and this situation?
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  Speaker 3: Honestly, this is kind of traumatic. I'd rather ask you.
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  Speaker 3: What's your favorite fun dip?
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  Speaker 1: Flavors?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, your favorite Fun Dip flavor.
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  Speaker 1: I don't even remember. What were the flavors?
• 9:25
  Speaker 3: I know Savannah has one. What is it?
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  Speaker 1: Blue Raspberry.
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  Speaker 3: Blue Raspberry. There you go. You know what?
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  Speaker 1: Actually, I think I like the blue one.
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  Speaker 3: And you would stay with that dip for the rest
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  Speaker 3: of your life, right?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And that's how it should be. That's how it should be. Dude,
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  Speaker 3: just the levels. God, I don't know why, but I'm
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  Speaker 3: feeling like this woman has a loaded family, so they're
• 9:46
  Speaker 3: just going to back her up. And the fact that
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  Speaker 3: they were able to back her up so quickly.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, they already are on her side and saying, well,
• 9:53
  Speaker 1: you should feel bad for her.
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  Speaker 3: Like, what kind of relationship, OP, did you have with
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  Speaker 3: your wife?
• 9:58
  Speaker 1: I wonder what kind of relationship OP had with her
• 10:00
  Speaker 1: family members. You know, was it good? Did they never
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  Speaker 1: really like him?
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  Speaker 3: True, true.
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  Speaker 1: But we got a little bit more. She even tried
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  Speaker 1: to sleep with me again when I was in bed. Like,
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  Speaker 1: what the F? No, I get a spray bottle and
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  Speaker 1: I go, like, back, back.
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  Speaker 3: Yaw, yaw.
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  Speaker 1: I started shouting at her because she's stressing herself out.
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  Speaker 1: Sea levels increased overnight as I slept on the couch.
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  Speaker 1: She cried through the night. I can't lie. I can't
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  Speaker 1: believe I'm still attracted to her after all this. It's
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  Speaker 1: a crap feeling. Well, you know, it just happened.
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  Speaker 3: That's your wife.
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  Speaker 1: It's your body. This was your wife.
• 10:35
  Speaker 3: Well, not your wife.
• 10:36
  Speaker 1: Girlfriend.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, girlfriend.
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  Speaker 1: Mother, children. You know, it makes sense. It's time for
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  Speaker 1: me to look into how I'm going to co-parent with her.
• 10:43
  Speaker 1: I need to avoid this going to court. My ex
• 10:45
  Speaker 1: isn't that stable right now, but I need her to
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  Speaker 1: cooperate with me. Edit, Andrew, 28 male, and my ex
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  Speaker 1: have had an on and off relationship before I was
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  Speaker 1: in the picture.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, so the family knew about Andrew.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, they already knew Andrew and liked him probably.
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  Speaker 3: And the family probably sees Andrew as a family friend,
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  Speaker 3: but probably didn't know about them going back and forth
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  Speaker 3: behind Opie's back.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so it was like losing that person that they knew.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: That makes a lot more sense.
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  Speaker 3: That makes a lot more sense of the reaction of
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  Speaker 3: the family. Dang.
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  Speaker 4: Yikes.
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  Speaker 3: Sweet dips. Guys, what's your favorite dips?
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  Speaker 1: Guacamole. Guacamole.
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  Speaker 3: All right. Well, we got a story. My husband cried
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  Speaker 3: every night after the wedding because he was cheating.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. You don't get to cry about that. I.
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  Speaker 3: 32 female, married my husband, 31 male, at the end
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  Speaker 3: of June.
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  Speaker 1: My birthday.
• 11:41
  Speaker 3: My birthday. After eight amazing years together, we basically live
• 11:48
  Speaker 3: with each other from the beginning. Our wedding and honeymoon
• 11:51
  Speaker 3: were amazing. We have always gone along, made each other laugh.
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  Speaker 3: We're going to start a family and we're happy. The
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  Speaker 3: fact that you can make each other laugh is a
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  Speaker 3: huge thing.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so big. I'm sure it helped them so much.
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  Speaker 3: Or so I thought. About two months ago, we were
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  Speaker 3: cuddling on the couch. And I felt something wet on
• 12:15
  Speaker 3: my chest. At first, I was like, you babe, you
• 12:19
  Speaker 3: drooled on me. Only to realize he was crying. In
• 12:23
  Speaker 3: eight years, I've only seen this man cry when our
• 12:26
  Speaker 3: dog passed away. Oh, dang. That moment cracked everything open.
• 12:31
  Speaker 3: He admitted that he was unhappy and the floodgates opened.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, dang.
• 12:36
  Speaker 3: We didn't have enough spicy sleep. We have complete opposite
• 12:39
  Speaker 3: work schedules. So we get about an hour together once
• 12:42
  Speaker 3: a week. and then Friday afternoons and Saturdays. Even with that,
• 12:47
  Speaker 3: we were having spicy sleep at least once a week.
• 12:50
  Speaker 3: He said he didn't feel loved. He complained that when
• 12:54
  Speaker 3: I was about one year into the relationship, I tried
• 12:58
  Speaker 3: to move us to another state. He was angry that
• 13:01
  Speaker 3: I didn't want to have a baby at 28 before
• 13:04
  Speaker 3: we were married.
• 13:05
  Speaker 1: This guy's got a lot of grievances.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and the list goes on and on.
• 13:08
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
• 13:09
  Speaker 3: Remember that one time I cooked you pasta and you said,
• 13:12
  Speaker 3: It needed a little bit more salt.
• 13:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and remember another time when we were walking and
• 13:18
  Speaker 1: you stopped holding my hand because you needed to press
• 13:21
  Speaker 1: the button so that we could cross the street? Um, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: these are stupid reasons.
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  Speaker 3: I worked my butt off for the past two months
• 13:29
  Speaker 3: to fix all the things that were wrong with me.
• 13:32
  Speaker 3: Communicated better, initiated spicy sleep, bought and read all the
• 13:38
  Speaker 3: books on saving marriage, got into therapy, got us into
• 13:41
  Speaker 3: couples counseling- Still, he would cry every single day. And
• 13:47
  Speaker 3: every time we tried to have spicy sleep, he couldn't
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  Speaker 3: get it up for me and blamed me for it.
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  Speaker 1: Dude, how are you going to blame me? That's your problem.
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  Speaker 3: Yikes.
• 13:58
  Speaker 1: It's your body.
• 13:59
  Speaker 3: Well, with that, if you're trying to blame me for it,
• 14:03
  Speaker 3: I'm going to go to Amazon, buy a little pee-pee pump.
• 14:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't need you.
• 14:08
  Speaker 3: And I'm going to pump that thing for me. It
• 14:10
  Speaker 3: takes about 15 minutes. You'll be fine. And you'll be good.
• 14:13
  Speaker 3: I learned that from a comedy show. I was worried
• 14:16
  Speaker 3: about his mental health. His job is really dangerous and stressful,
• 14:20
  Speaker 3: and I worried he was depressed. By the way, this
• 14:24
  Speaker 3: comes from Character Buyer 1068, and if you want to
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  Speaker 3: submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay
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  Speaker 3: story time subreddit, and we're going to read the story goofily.
• 14:33
  Speaker 3: We're going to talk about pumps and all this stuff.
• 14:36
  Speaker 3: If you have anything you'd like to add, please add
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  Speaker 3: down below. We love solutions. Then, My therapist asked if
• 14:42
  Speaker 3: he was cheating. Then his mom and sister asked me
• 14:46
  Speaker 3: the same thing.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, dang.
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  Speaker 3: They pushed me to look at his phone. I didn't
• 14:50
  Speaker 3: want to violate his trust. It ate away at me.
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  Speaker 3: So finally last week, after he got home, laid his F,
• 14:57
  Speaker 3: I checked it. What do you think was in there?
• 14:59
  Speaker 3: How old do you think she was? I'm thinking milf age.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, this is a 60-year-old woman.
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  Speaker 3: Hey, hey, hey. Just because the wrapper's a little wrinkly
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  Speaker 3: don't mean the candy ain't sweet.
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  Speaker 1: Riley, 2026.
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  Speaker 3: It was all right there. For months, this man has
• 15:15
  Speaker 3: been having an affair with a bartender.
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  Speaker 1: How old?
• 15:19
  Speaker 3: All of their messages were about how much they love
• 15:22
  Speaker 3: having spicy sleep with each other.
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  Speaker 1: So boring.
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  Speaker 3: Spicy pics. The same selfies he would send me, he
• 15:30
  Speaker 3: would send her. They were telling each other how much
• 15:33
  Speaker 3: they love each other so much. I even saw her
• 15:36
  Speaker 3: mention my name a few times. I confronted him. He
• 15:40
  Speaker 3: admitted he loves her, but that he loves me more.
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: No, you don't. You don't love me at all. That's
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: why you cheated on me.
• 15:47
  Speaker 3: I love you more.
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that's not how that works.
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: You get one dip.
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't say that you love someone more and
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: then cheat on them. Like, that's not how that works.
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: I tell Angie I love her more and don't cheat
• 16:00
  Speaker 3: on her. There we go. I kicked him out and
• 16:03
  Speaker 3: moved all his stuff out. Left for town a little
• 16:06
  Speaker 3: while to be with the family. We've talked a few times.
• 16:09
  Speaker 3: He's insisting it was a mistake and that he would
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: take it all back. But he's not groveling. Not trying
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: to make amends. Won't answer any questions about her. Doesn't
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: have any immediate plans to cut things off with her.
• 16:25
  Speaker 3: We've been trying for a baby for months. We're planning
• 16:28
  Speaker 3: a life. I know he's known her for years and
• 16:32
  Speaker 3: since he wouldn't answer me when I asked if it
• 16:35
  Speaker 3: was happening since before the wedding, I assumed the answer
• 16:38
  Speaker 3: was yes. So Reddit, is there any possibility of salvaging this?
• 16:44
  Speaker 3: What's my best move? Thanks so much. Okay.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 16:48
  Speaker 3: So if we were to salvage it, one, it was
• 16:50
  Speaker 3: going to be for the laughs and the laughter, but
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: the part that really makes it, it won't ever be
• 16:56
  Speaker 3: a thing that he says he doesn't, Love you anymore.
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: He said something like that.
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: Well, he said no. He said I love you more
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: than her.
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: No, no, no. He said something earlier before he like.
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: Oh, before he took that back? When we talk about salvaging,
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: let's kind of use an example here. If a house
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: burns down, you could maybe salvage something there, but you'd
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: have to rebuild from the ground up. And sometimes it's
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: just a little easier to buy a new place.
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: You're right. Sophia was correct. He admitted that he was unhappy.
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: That's when I'd be done with them. Fun fact, houses
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: have rooms in it and bathrooms and all these other
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: things you loved in your first house.
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's true. You'll find the same stuff that you
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: liked in the old house, in the new house, and
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: better stuff. It probably has a hot tub at this house.
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: And a pool table?
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: And maybe heated bathroom tiles.
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: Oh, dude, don't even get me started on heated bathroom tiles.
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: I would love heated bathroom tiles.
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: I don't think I'd care for those.
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: What? You don't want heated bathroom tiles? I don't really care.
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: Why does that matter?
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't think I'd care for it.
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: Okay, you're getting out of the shower. You're a little cold.
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: I don't get out of the shower until I'm warm.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: Why would you get out of the shower cold?
• 18:03
  Speaker 3: Facts. What? She's going to try to prove you wrong.
• 18:07
  Speaker 3: Don't get into this with her.
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: I will be like burning hot. And then I will
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: get out. And then I'll be like, oh, it's so
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: nice and cold out here. But you're getting out of
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: the shower wet, yes?
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: Okay, I thought you were drying off in the shower.
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: Sometimes. No. Update. To clarify, we are not having spicy
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: sleep anymore or trying to have a baby. We were
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: trying for a kid for months before I found out
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: about the affair, which was about a week ago. I
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: packed all the stuff, changed the locks, and redecorated a
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: bit to make my home feel like mine instead of ours.
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: I know for a fact he has some sort of
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: sports poster somewhere in the house.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: She's just going to take it down. It's only one
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: sports poster. That's the only thing of his.
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: That she redecorated.
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: She threw it in the trash. I got tested a
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: few days ago and I'm waiting for more results. All
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: have come back clear so far. Edit. Today was his
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: birthday and I ignored his messages.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: Good.
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: We'll post updates as soon as they come.
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: I think Opie's doing the right thing.
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, please don't go back to him.
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: No, you don't need to. Think about the heated tiles
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: metaphorically in your next relationship.
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: Ladies. Ladies. What is heated tiles in a man?
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: Ooh.
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: What is a heated towel holder for a man?
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: So this is something that is not necessary but is
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: a bonus. And this is our individual thing that's not necessary.
• 19:35
  Speaker 3: With sesame seeds on top of rice. I'm thinking about what.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: Was not necessary in my boyfriend that was a bonus
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: when I found out.
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: Update two. It's been over two months since all this
• 19:43
  Speaker 3: went down. Today, I'm just about four and a half
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: weeks and no contact with him. Nice. Things blew up
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: when his girlfriend reached out to me wanting to commiserate
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: with me about him being a wiener.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: The audacity. I'd be like, girl, I don't want to
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: talk to you. You blew up my life. Get out
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: of here.
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: Blocked her, blocked him, block, block, block. When I asked
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: what the plan was, Having me and a girl on
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: the side, he said, I hope you would get pregnant
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: so I would have a reason to stop.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: Wow, that's actually a crazy sentence to say. If you
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: got pregnant, I would have stopped. Oh, would you though?
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: So it was her fault. Like everything else in this
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: relationship has been.
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he added another thing. Also, I so strongly doubt
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: that the guy who said, oh, we weren't having enough
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: spicy sleep when they were already having it once a week.
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: Probably would have gone down if she were pregnant. Just
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: because when you get pregnant, you know, that can happen.
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: He would have been like, oh, well, now we're having
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: even less spicy sleep.
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that is the premium time for men to cheat. So.
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: And that he thought life with me would be mediocre.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: Yikes.
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: Bye. Since we've broken up, I've traveled, been in therapy consistently,
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: worked out regularly, been on a few dates. and spend
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: more time with friends and family. Oh, yeah. Thanks all
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: for the love and support, and we have an update
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: eight months later. Oh, boy. Any predictions?
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: I think OP's going to be doing really well. I
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: think that she's gone on a trip to Europe, and
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: she's found her new man that has heated floors and
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: towel warmers.
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: Big hands. Any predictions? I'm thinking Switzerland is where she went.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she went to Switzerland. Really? She found a Swiss man. Well,
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: I would say she moved, got out of there, and
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: now she's living on a beach town.
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: Beach town.
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: Beach town.
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: Update. Hi, Reddit fam. I cannot believe it's been eight
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: months since I found out my ex was having an affair.
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: So I figured it was time for an update. Yay!
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: First and most importantly, we are not together. Yay! We
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: haven't seen each other since January. Yay! And I can
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: be confident to say there will be no reconciliation. Yay!
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: And here is possibly the most unbelievable plot twist of
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: this entire story.
• 22:14
  Speaker 4: Oh?
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: He's gay.
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: This whole time he couldn't find any satisfaction with any woman.
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: We found out Our marriage was never legally filed. What?
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: How did you?
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: That's a huge twist.
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: That is a huge twist.
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: She's like, well, I guess I don't have to divorce you.
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: We're not actually freaking married.
• 22:36
  Speaker 4: What?
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: Cool beans. Okay, well, I'll just carry on.
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: The paperwork apparently got lost in the mail and never
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: made it to City Hall. Wow. And before you say it,
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: because I know I truly did not think He tampered
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: with it. I personally dropped it in the mailbox at
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: the post office.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: So it's your fault.
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: You should know it's your fault.
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: Everything's your fault.
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: This marriage. After eight years together, a wedding, vows, honeymoon, everything.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: Well, it wasn't a legal morning.
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: I walked away without even needing a divorce. Wild.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: That is pretty crazy. I will agree with you there.
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: He paid me rent. through the end of our lease,
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: and still sends me money occasionally. Okay.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: Okay. Kind of like a, I'm sorry I cheated.
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: A little nice 500 bucks a month would be pretty neat.
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: That would make me feel better.
• 23:33
  Speaker 3: Maybe 300. I'm like, I can always get myself a
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: little something special every month.
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't take them back, but it would make me
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: feel better.
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: In the month or so, after everything blew up, my
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: ex went back and forth a lot. He asked me
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: to get back together. He asked me to run away
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: with him.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: Where?
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: He talks about eloping and still having babies together because
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: they weren't technically married. Yeah. At one point, he told
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: me he had ended things with this affair partner. I
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: told him I don't hate myself enough to ever get
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: back together with him. I also told him to go
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: unend things with her because maybe he could repair that relationship.
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: But there was absolutely no repairing our relationship.
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: Heck yeah, girl. Tell him. Tell him.
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: Eventually, his affair partner reached out to me because apparently
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: she wanted to commiserate with me about him lying to her.
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: That's insane.
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: Blocked. My ex and I went more than four months
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: completely no contact. When a family member passed away, he
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: used that as an opening to reach out. We've spoken
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: a handful of times since then, almost entirely about logistical things.
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: We did catch up a little bit once, but the
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: second he started bringing up the past, And asking why
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: I couldn't meet his needs, I ended the call. It's
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: all about what you can bring to the table.
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah. Like, he still doesn't get it. It's still him, him, him.
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: Me, me, me. What could you do to fix that
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: with him? Brain surgery.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was going to say.
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: Were you going to say brain surgery? Yeah. Dude, look
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: at us improv-ing. That was actually a pretty important moment
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: for me. Eight months ago, I would have immediately started
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: explaining myself, defending myself, or wondering what I could have
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: done differently. Now I heard it for what it was.
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: Him still trying to make me responsible for choices he's made.
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: Life is pretty much imploded after we broke up. He
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: moved in with his best friend, who eventually kicked him out.
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: And last I heard, he was living on his parents' couch.
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: The truly wild part is that as of Easter, he
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: was apparently still telling his family that we were together
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: and that I was just visiting family when I wasn't
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: showing up to family events.
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: Yikes. That's embarrassing for him.
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: Then in July, he randomly texted me asking whether I
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: had told his family we broke up because he people
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: were starting to ask him questions.
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: Dude, you dummy. Maybe they just started to figure out
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: that your wife never showed up to anything.
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: And that's what it was because Opie says, I had
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: not told anyone.
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah. I think that people just aren't stupid like you, dude.
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: Yeah, why are you sleeping on your mom's couch and
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: where's your wife?
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: What's going on there?
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: After a few months of that.
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: I haven't seen her. I haven't seen her in like
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: a year.
• 26:30
  Speaker 3: People come to conclusions. Which means this grown man apparently
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: made it more than half a year without fully owning
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: the fact that his relationship had ended.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: That's so embarrassing.
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: And those who did know were upset with him for
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: how he did me dirty. He's lost friends over this
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: and is mad at me for it. As for the
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: affair partner, I believe they still may be together. But
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: I genuinely don't even know. I asked everyone close to
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: me not to give me updates about either of them.
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: When I wrote my first post, I kept asking, why
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: did he marry me? I thought if I could just
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: understand it, maybe I can make peace with it. I
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: understand now that there probably isn't an answer that would
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: ever make sense to me. He made selfish, cowardly choices.
• 27:20
  Speaker 3: That is the answer. Something else I had come to
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: terms with is that the affair wasn't the only thing
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: wrong with our relationship.
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, he gave you a list.
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: Right? Yeah.
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: What do you mean? How do you not know? You
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: don't remember that. Keep up.
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: It's another one. You're never listening.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: Jeez.
• 27:38
  Speaker 4: Add it to the list.
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: With some distance and a lot of therapy, I can
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: recognize patterns that I normalized over eight years that were
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: emotionally harmful. It's like getting earwax cleaned.
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: Out of you.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: You're like, oh, oh, that's what it was.
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: It hurts, but when it's out, it feels great. My
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: sister explained to me using the frog in boiling water analogy.
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: If you throw a frog into boiling water, it jumps out.
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: But if you put it in cool water and slowly
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: turn up the heat, it doesn't realize what's happening until
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: it's too late. He didn't wake up one morning eight
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: years ago and suddenly started treating me terribly. It happens slowly.
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: A critical comment here. A nasty joke there. Comments about
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: my appearance. Texts with girls that just crossed a line.
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: Things so temperamental and moody that I walked on eggshells. Meanwhile,
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: my life has gotten so much bigger. I've stayed in therapy.
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: I'm probably in the best shape of my life. I've traveled.
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: I've poured energy into people who show up for me
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: when my life completely fell apart. I have a new
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: nephew now. Nice. And honestly, he's been one of the
• 28:49
  Speaker 3: biggest blessings to come out of this year. I think
• 28:51
  Speaker 3: the nephew... She's wanted a kid for a while.
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah. She can be kind of like the second mom auntie.
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah. A way to pour into a child's life. I
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: think that's what was missing with her.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: My aunt's never had kids, but Sam and I were,
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: we were basically her kids.
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: Fair. Opie says, I'm also dating someone. Tell us about
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: this house. Is he Swiss? Does he have a, I
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: don't know, house sauna? He's kind. He treats me well.
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: And I'm intentionally not putting some huge, this is my
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: future husband pressure on the relationship.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: Smart, smart, smart.
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: What I do know is that this experience completely changed
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: what I'm willing to accept from a partner. I'm not
• 29:35
  Speaker 3: going to mother a grown man. I'm not going to
• 29:38
  Speaker 3: beg someone to communicate. with me. I'm going to choose
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: someone who chooses me. Eight months ago, I genuinely did
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: not know how I was going to survive losing the
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: life I thought I had. Turns out, I didn't lose
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: my life. I got mine back. Bars!
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: And also, like, what a sign from the universe when
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: you are, you know, experiencing this, you get cheated on,
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: your husband is awful, and you're like, I just want
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: to divorce him, but this is going to take so long,
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: and then you find out that you're not legally married. Like,
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: what a sign from the universe that you are going
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: to be okay, and then you're just going to move
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: on from this.
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: Honestly, bro. That's huge. That is absolutely huge.
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: Big wins. Big wins. Hey, it's Carly, your favorite Jersey
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: girl here. We're going to get back to the stories,
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: but here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors. She
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: rejected me at our wedding. The whole village blamed me
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: for it.
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: Well, you probably shouldn't have given her the ache.
• 30:35
  Speaker 4: Trigger warning.
• 30:37
  Speaker 5: Mentions of loss. I, 21 male, was orphaned around six
• 30:42
  Speaker 5: years old.
• 30:43
  Speaker 3: Oh, dang.
• 30:44
  Speaker 5: In March of 2019, after a horrific car accident where
• 30:48
  Speaker 5: my whole family was unalived.
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: Oh my god.
• 30:53
  Speaker 5: At that time, I was in a two-month relationship with
• 30:55
  Speaker 5: my now ex-fiance. And she stood with me more than
• 30:59
  Speaker 5: anyone else did. And her whole family took me in
• 31:02
  Speaker 5: as one of their own. But especially her father. He
• 31:06
  Speaker 5: treated me just as he did his two sons, if
• 31:08
  Speaker 5: not even better. And I loved him and still love
• 31:11
  Speaker 5: him as a dad. And I've been working with him
• 31:14
  Speaker 5: for over two years now because he's a lawyer and
• 31:16
  Speaker 5: I'm studying law. Over here, you have to work in
• 31:19
  Speaker 5: a law firm to get experience in order to graduate.
• 31:22
  Speaker 5: And you usually don't get paid for it, but he
• 31:24
  Speaker 5: pays me minimum wage, which is.
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: Way more than he has to. And I love him
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: for that. That's really, really sweet.
• 31:31
  Speaker 5: Living alone for that long, however, was lonely. Even though
• 31:35
  Speaker 5: I had a loving second family, but I wanted marriage.
• 31:38
  Speaker 5: For her to move in with me and to not
• 31:40
  Speaker 5: be alone anymore. And when I proposed last.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: Year, she happily accepted and we kissed. And her family
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: was so happy for both of us. Yeah, yeah.
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: Ah, this is the first part of up.
• 31:56
  Speaker 5: And then our supposed wedding came this past June. And
• 32:02
  Speaker 5: in front of our whole family and friends, she said
• 32:04
  Speaker 5: no and ran outside crying.
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: What? And I just stood there feeling like this was
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: all just a dream. But no, it was reality.
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. You can't do that. You're
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: basically married at that point.
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: Married because you said yes to the engagement, but no
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: to the marriage. So if you say no to the marriage, no.
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: No means no. Here's the problem. You didn't do the
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: wedding earlier. If you would have done it earlier, she
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: would have said yes faster. Thus, she'd been married. I
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: don't know. It's a problem with time. It's a time problem.
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: It's not a time problem.
• 32:40
  Speaker 3: Then what is it then? What kind of problem is this?
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: You know what?
• 32:43
  Speaker 4: Yeah, the only thing you need to fix a time problem,
• 32:44
  Speaker 4: time machine.
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: That's true. If you had a time machine, then you
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: could fix this problem.
• 32:48
  Speaker 4: Or Cindy Lauper.
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: One of the two.
• 32:50
  Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from deleted. And if you
• 32:52
  Speaker 5: want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: Okay. Storytime subreddit.
• 32:55
  Speaker 5: And we're here to talk about some stuff and give
• 32:57
  Speaker 5: some advice, but we don't have all of your answers.
• 32:59
  Speaker 5: We're just going to tell you what we would do.
• 33:01
  Speaker 5: So let us know what you would do down in
• 33:02
  Speaker 5: the comments.
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: Come on, baby.
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: Let go.
• 33:05
  Speaker 5: OP says she destroyed me that day. Her parents went
• 33:09
  Speaker 5: after her as I stood there, seeing all those people
• 33:11
  Speaker 5: whispering and looking at me. And I just snapped. I
• 33:14
  Speaker 5: went home and threw all her stuff away. That was
• 33:17
  Speaker 5: already there. and then went straight to the airport to
• 33:20
  Speaker 5: go to our honeymoon alone because it was expensive as
• 33:23
  Speaker 5: heck and most of the trip was non-refundable. And I
• 33:27
  Speaker 5: had already lost a lot of money in the failed marriage.
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: Oh, see? Just say yes at that point. There's so
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: much money into a marriage and honeymoon.
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: So you just say yes because none of it's refundable.
• 33:40
  Speaker 3: Exactly.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: That's not a great outlook on life.
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: Also, I came up with something really clever. Yeah? If
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: you want to move in with someone before marriage... You
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: both put in, let's say, like $ 5, 000, and you put
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: in a high-yield savings account. And as long as you
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: guys are together, that thing grows. And then whenever you
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: have a honeymoon, you can use that money for your honeymoon.
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: But if you break up, you split that money, and
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: then that covers the cost of moving out and all
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: the logistics of that.
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: Wow. You know what? Riley cracked the code.
• 34:09
  Speaker 4: Riley can crack my code anytime.
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: What did he do?
• 34:13
  Speaker 5: Her family kept trying to get in contact with me
• 34:16
  Speaker 5: over the next two weeks, but I deactivated all my socials.
• 34:20
  Speaker 5: Even after I returned home, I couldn't bring myself to
• 34:22
  Speaker 5: see any of them, so I even avoided work. I
• 34:25
  Speaker 5: live in a small village where everyone knows everyone, and
• 34:28
  Speaker 5: everyone here talks, and ever since that day, people made
• 34:32
  Speaker 5: me this evil beaster that forced this innocent little girl
• 34:36
  Speaker 5: into marrying, but she heroically saved herself.
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: Which is all BS. I never even raised my voice
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: at her.
• 34:44
  Speaker 4: I think it just, this actually takes into effect. It
• 34:47
  Speaker 4: takes a village.
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: Takes a village to cause rumors.
• 34:50
  Speaker 5: Life then went on and I found another lawyer to
• 34:53
  Speaker 5: do my internship with and he was nowhere near as
• 34:56
  Speaker 5: good as my ex-fiance's dad, but it wasn't that bad.
• 35:00
  Speaker 5: And they stopped trying to reach out to me and
• 35:02
  Speaker 5: people stopped talking about the whole thing and it felt
• 35:05
  Speaker 5: like it's just moving on. When suddenly, around two weeks ago...
• 35:10
  Speaker 5: I was chilling at home alone at night. And her
• 35:13
  Speaker 5: dad came over. I, of course, welcomed him in and
• 35:16
  Speaker 5: offered coffee, and he accepted. Before we could talk, he
• 35:20
  Speaker 5: started apologizing for his daughter, saying she got cold feet
• 35:24
  Speaker 5: at the last second and refused, and that he, too,
• 35:27
  Speaker 5: wasn't proud of her and wasn't happy about the whole situation,
• 35:31
  Speaker 5: and I told him it was none of his fault
• 35:32
  Speaker 5: and that I'm sorry for ghosting him, but it just
• 35:35
  Speaker 5: was too painful to be around him, especially since she
• 35:38
  Speaker 5: looks so much like him. even though I still love him.
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: Oh, dude, that's, in a way, that's your dad.
• 35:46
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: Because you lost your family early on in your life.
• 35:48
  Speaker 4: This was like your secondary family.
• 35:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah. He took you under his wing. He treated
• 35:52
  Speaker 3: you super well.
• 35:53
  Speaker 4: Replacement family, yeah.
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: That's your dad, dude.
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: Exactly, yeah. It was just like, don't worry about it. Like,
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: we got you.
• 36:00
  Speaker 5: And it's hard because it's like, how do you navigate
• 36:03
  Speaker 5: this without anyone?
• 36:05
  Speaker 3: Right?
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: With no one. That's just like, oh, God.
• 36:08
  Speaker 3: Oh, so what's her deal? Has she not loved him
• 36:10
  Speaker 3: for a long time? Yeah, I don't know. Where did
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: it fall apart? Did she feel all this pressure because
• 36:14
  Speaker 3: of how much of a support system her family was
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: to him?
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: And she felt like she had to go through with it,
• 36:20
  Speaker 3: and then at the last moment, blah!
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 36:23
  Speaker 5: I would want to get her side of how she
• 36:25
  Speaker 5: felt and why she did that.
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: Oh, dude, a little documentary on this?
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: A little documentary? Ooh, I'd sit down and watch. I would!
• 36:34
  Speaker 5: He asked me whether I'd like to come back and
• 36:36
  Speaker 5: work with him, even if I just want our relationship
• 36:39
  Speaker 5: to just be a work relationship. Because he loves me
• 36:41
  Speaker 5: like a son and doesn't want to lose that. And
• 36:43
  Speaker 5: I told him I'd think about it.
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: That's hard.
• 36:46
  Speaker 5: Am I the a-hole because of how I reacted? And
• 36:49
  Speaker 5: should I return to work with him? Any help would
• 36:52
  Speaker 5: be appreciated.
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: Oh, man. Are you the a-hole for, like?
• 36:58
  Speaker 5: Just kind of disappearing for a little bit because you
• 37:01
  Speaker 5: got stood up at the altar.
• 37:03
  Speaker 4: And then the entire village.
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, everyone knew. Don't think you're the a-hole.
• 37:07
  Speaker 4: But they painted you like the, not necessarily the bad guy. Yeah,
• 37:10
  Speaker 4: they kind of did.
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: Whoever talks first is what the truth is going to be.
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: In history, wherever the truth, so what kind of like
• 37:19
  Speaker 3: appears out of secondhand news, whoever said it first, they win.
• 37:23
  Speaker 3: They get the truth. So whoever's been spreading these rumors
• 37:26
  Speaker 3: certainly did not like OP for some whatever reason. Thus,
• 37:30
  Speaker 3: that makes me think, was OP's fiance seeing someone else?
• 37:34
  Speaker 3: And was he some sort of political figure in the village? Thus,
• 37:38
  Speaker 3: that's why the rumors spread so fast.
• 37:39
  Speaker 4: He should have gone to the YMCA and hung out
• 37:41
  Speaker 4: with the village people.
• 37:44
  Speaker 3: Village people. Were those guys into each other?
• 37:47
  Speaker 4: Literally or figuratively?
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: Yes. Yes.
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: Literally or figuratively? Yes.
• 37:53
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 37:54
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I can see her being with someone else, but
• 37:57
  Speaker 5: being too afraid to like have it to break this
• 38:00
  Speaker 5: off because her family is now his family.
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: So enmeshed.
• 38:04
  Speaker 5: So it's like, oh my gosh, like I feel so
• 38:07
  Speaker 5: much pressure.
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: I can't just be like, oh, we're breaking up. Now
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: he doesn't have anyone.
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: He's a part of the nervous system. Like it's easy
• 38:14
  Speaker 3: to get rid of a bone. It's a little harder
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: to get rid of muscle, but getting rid of a
• 38:18
  Speaker 3: part of a nervous system. Oh my gosh. The nervous
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: system touches everything. It's all apart. It's all in you. Yeah.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: Update.
• 38:26
  Speaker 5: So, after reading all of your comments, I decided to
• 38:29
  Speaker 5: talk to him, and I did. We went out to
• 38:32
  Speaker 5: a local coffee shop and talked. I told him I'd
• 38:34
  Speaker 5: love to work with him again, but the only condition
• 38:38
  Speaker 5: is to not mention his daughter and what she's doing
• 38:40
  Speaker 5: with her life, and to please not invite me to
• 38:42
  Speaker 5: events she'll be present at, and he accepted.
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: I like that. I like that.
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: I think that's fair.
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: You got a great job opportunity that looks like it
• 38:51
  Speaker 3: can scale... over time, and he likes you, I'd take that.
• 38:55
  Speaker 3: And she also is not allowed at the office. Would
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: you go one further on that?
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: I think that that's fair.
• 39:01
  Speaker 3: Or give me a heads up if she's around so
• 39:03
  Speaker 3: I can hide.
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so I can hide. He's just, he's in the
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: bathroom stall the whole day.
• 39:09
  Speaker 4: It's the Scott Pilgrim. Oh, is Scott here? Jumps out
• 39:13
  Speaker 4: the window immediately.
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: Oh, dude.
• 39:14
  Speaker 4: Nah, you missed him.
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: Nah. Great film.
• 39:18
  Speaker 5: He told me that he too was embarrassed and shamed
• 39:21
  Speaker 5: after the wedding and that he's sad and disappointed it
• 39:24
  Speaker 5: didn't work out between us and that he understands why
• 39:26
  Speaker 5: I don't want to hear about her. Then he asked
• 39:29
  Speaker 5: about how I'm doing and where will I be celebrating
• 39:32
  Speaker 5: the new year and I told him I'll do it
• 39:34
  Speaker 5: alone at home which was the first time I ever
• 39:36
  Speaker 5: did it because for the last five years I always
• 39:39
  Speaker 5: celebrated with them and he was sad and said he'd
• 39:42
  Speaker 5: have loved to celebrate with me as his son-in-law and
• 39:45
  Speaker 5: I told him to say happy holidays to the whole
• 39:47
  Speaker 5: family except her of course.
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: Then we left.
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: Oh, man.
• 39:55
  Speaker 4: Is that being petty? Like, happy holidays to everyone. Miss
• 39:58
  Speaker 4: them all. Except her. Let her know that.
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: It's so hard.
• 40:01
  Speaker 5: I couldn't imagine being in the dad's place because he's like,
• 40:05
  Speaker 5: I don't agree with my daughter, but it is my daughter.
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: Like, what am I supposed to do? I can't just like.
• 40:10
  Speaker 4: That's your almost son-in-law. Yeah.
• 40:12
  Speaker 5: And this was, you know, this kid came into our
• 40:15
  Speaker 5: family having absolutely nothing.
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: Worked for me, worked hard to get there.
• 40:20
  Speaker 5: I appreciate all that he's done for us and the
• 40:23
  Speaker 5: family and to my daughter.
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: And now my daughter ruins it.
• 40:29
  Speaker 4: Exactly. I don't know. I just get like, hey, almost
• 40:33
  Speaker 4: dad-in-law wants to hang out with me. He just likes me.
• 40:35
  Speaker 4: I'm going to be around. Sucks to suck.
• 40:37
  Speaker 3: He just loves me. Honestly, I'd take it. I take
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: those odds. Yeah.
• 40:41
  Speaker 4: Like, you know what? This could make you uncomfortable. This
• 40:43
  Speaker 4: could make me uncomfortable. But I'd rather have somebody in
• 40:45
  Speaker 4: my corner rather than nobody in my corner.
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah. And honestly, he might not even like his daughter
• 40:49
  Speaker 3: as much. Because hear me out. Daughter made dad, perhaps,
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: pay for this whole wedding. Did this, said she loved him.
• 40:56
  Speaker 3: Never had any signs of not being into OP. And
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: then at the last moment, she booked out. You don't
• 41:02
  Speaker 3: wake up one day thinking, I shouldn't be with this person.
• 41:05
  Speaker 3: Happens over time.
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: Well, yes.
• 41:06
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: I'm sure it has happened.
• 41:09
  Speaker 3: But you know what's interesting? We have maybe heard two
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: to three sentences about this woman.
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: This whole situation is about this woman. It's about him
• 41:18
  Speaker 3: and the dad. It's about Opie and the dad.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: Well, there's a second update.
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite host who's always on track here.
• 41:25
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• 41:27
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• 41:30
  Speaker 5: Earlier today, her dad talked to me and asked if
• 41:32
  Speaker 5: he could come over and I accepted. And he came
• 41:35
  Speaker 5: over with a gift basket full of chocolate, which I
• 41:38
  Speaker 5: quite liked.
• 41:40
  Speaker 3: Maybe dad's trying to get with you. Uh-oh.
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: He's bringing him chocolates and flowers.
• 41:45
  Speaker 5: He told me that he just wanted to let me
• 41:47
  Speaker 5: know that there was a second guy that my ex
• 41:50
  Speaker 5: was seeing at the time, which is why she said
• 41:54
  Speaker 5: no and left me, and that he was so ashamed
• 41:57
  Speaker 5: to tell me that and so embarrassed in his daughter
• 42:00
  Speaker 5: that he said she got cold feet. So she was
• 42:04
  Speaker 5: cheating on him, which is exactly what I said.
• 42:08
  Speaker 3: So that's what I said first.
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: But I said it in a cooler way.
• 42:12
  Speaker 3: I said that he was a politician and was spreading
• 42:14
  Speaker 3: rumors around the village.
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: No, politician.
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: You can't even name one. Boom. See what I'm saying?
• 42:21
  Speaker 3: You see what I said there?
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: I could name one.
• 42:24
  Speaker 3: All right. Name five.
• 42:25
  Speaker 4: Go.
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: Five. All of the past presidents. Boom.
• 42:29
  Speaker 3: All of the past presidents.
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: Do you want me to actually name people?
• 42:31
  Speaker 3: Name will go.
• 42:32
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: Mike DeWine.
• 42:34
  Speaker 3: All right. She knows one politician.
• 42:36
  Speaker 5: No, I just like don't really care for it. Like,
• 42:39
  Speaker 5: I don't care about like, I don't know.
• 42:41
  Speaker 3: All right.
• 42:41
  Speaker 5: Anyway, I told him that I suspected so and that
• 42:45
  Speaker 5: it wasn't his fault. I asked him whether or not
• 42:48
  Speaker 5: he has heard what was being said about me after
• 42:50
  Speaker 5: the wedding in the village. And he said that there
• 42:53
  Speaker 5: were also people talking about his daughter and that she's
• 42:55
  Speaker 5: a witch for doing that. And I asked whether he
• 42:58
  Speaker 5: could stop and deny those rumors that That I was harmful,
• 43:02
  Speaker 5: and he promised he'd help me and deny them.
• 43:04
  Speaker 3: So the dad doesn't like the daughter anymore is what
• 43:07
  Speaker 3: I am assuming.
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: That's just crazy. Like, I get it. I honestly, I
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: get it. But that is also your.
• 43:15
  Speaker 4: Cheating daughter?
• 43:16
  Speaker 3: Child.
• 43:17
  Speaker 4: Cheating daughter?
• 43:17
  Speaker 3: It is your child.
• 43:19
  Speaker 4: Or sad son-in-law?
• 43:20
  Speaker 3: Sad, hardworking, and great and amazing son-in-law.
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: Like, I mean, he's, yeah, no, he's playing like, you know.
• 43:26
  Speaker 3: Because son-in-law has nobody right now. He's got nobody on
• 43:29
  Speaker 3: his side.
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. Which is why I love the dad for
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: doing this.
• 43:34
  Speaker 4: Daughter?
• 43:35
  Speaker 3: Got a new boy to help her out. Girlfriend's already
• 43:38
  Speaker 3: got a new boyfriend. He's got all her siblings and
• 43:41
  Speaker 3: everybody in the village. She's fine. I think OP can
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: have the dad.
• 43:46
  Speaker 5: I also asked whether he could recompense with some of
• 43:49
  Speaker 5: the money I lost in the wedding and Because I
• 43:51
  Speaker 5: need serious therapy and it's really expensive over here. And
• 43:54
  Speaker 5: I put almost all my money into the wedding and
• 43:56
  Speaker 5: honeymoon and our house. And he agreed to give me
• 43:59
  Speaker 5: half of the wedding costs. Which would be more than
• 44:02
  Speaker 5: enough for me. And I thanked him for that. He
• 44:04
  Speaker 5: also said that the guy his daughter left me for
• 44:06
  Speaker 5: has already broken up with her. And she is regretting
• 44:09
  Speaker 5: leaving me for him. But he understands why I don't
• 44:12
  Speaker 5: want to go back to her. And he promised me
• 44:15
  Speaker 5: that it won't affect my internship with him.
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: And I refused.
• 44:18
  Speaker 5: Returned to work with him next Sunday, which I'm thankful
• 44:21
  Speaker 5: for because I hate staying home. Thanks for all the
• 44:25
  Speaker 5: love and support.
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: Dang.
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: Dang. Dang.
• 44:33
  Speaker 3: Let's freaking go.
• 44:35
  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's just really hard. That whole story was really
• 44:38
  Speaker 5: hard because you just like, the dad's just in the
• 44:41
  Speaker 5: middle of it.
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: Like, what do you do?
• 44:42
  Speaker 3: Well, he put himself in the middle. I think he
• 44:44
  Speaker 3: held himself very well to make sure Opie... was doing well,
• 44:47
  Speaker 3: because he knows OP's a good kid. He doesn't deserve this,
• 44:50
  Speaker 3: so he did his piece. And he's making sure everything's fine.
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: Which is a great person.
• 44:54
  Speaker 3: Honestly, props to the dad. I like that dad a lot.
• 44:57
  Speaker 4: He probably went to his daughter and was like, way
• 44:59
  Speaker 4: to knock a guy down when he's down. Why didn't
• 45:02
  Speaker 4: you just be up front? You didn't have to be...
• 45:03
  Speaker 4: I get it. Maybe she was just being nice because he...
• 45:06
  Speaker 4: I have everything. But that doesn't mean lead him on
• 45:09
  Speaker 4: to this.
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: Dang.
• 45:13
  Speaker 3: We got the last story of the day right here.
• 45:16
  Speaker 3: I hope you guys are ready. My girlfriend was cheating
• 45:19
  Speaker 3: with her bestie's husband. I exposed them both. Oh, yeah.
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: Two for one here.
• 45:25
  Speaker 3: I've, 18 male, been in a relationship with my girlfriend,
• 45:30
  Speaker 3: 19 female, for about a year now. And honestly, our
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: relationship is pretty good. But ever since she visited her
• 45:36
  Speaker 3: best friend's place alone, something's been off. Her best friend,
• 45:41
  Speaker 3: 22 female... and husband, 22 Mel, are good people. We
• 45:45
  Speaker 3: hang out with them often, and sometimes we go to
• 45:48
  Speaker 3: their place and stay up late watching movies, playing games, etc.
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: But there was that one time I couldn't go with
• 45:55
  Speaker 3: my girlfriend because I had to do something. She stayed
• 45:59
  Speaker 3: the night like always and came back in the morning.
• 46:01
  Speaker 3: My girlfriend's house is a few houses down across from mine.
• 46:05
  Speaker 3: I can see her house from my window. That morning
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: I woke up to go to work, and I saw
• 46:10
  Speaker 3: a car pull up to her house. It was her
• 46:13
  Speaker 3: best friend's husband's car. It stayed there for a minute
• 46:16
  Speaker 3: or two. Then my girlfriend came out of the passenger
• 46:19
  Speaker 3: seat and went inside and he drove off. By the way,
• 46:22
  Speaker 3: this comes from BismolAstronaut404. And if you want to submit
• 46:26
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• 46:29
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• 46:31
  Speaker 3: you'd like to add, please add it down below. Opie says,
• 46:34
  Speaker 3: I really don't think much of it. But when I
• 46:37
  Speaker 3: asked her that same day what they did that night,
• 46:40
  Speaker 3: she just said stuff like, Always. Watching movies, playing games,
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: stuff like that.
• 46:46
  Speaker 4: Stuff like that.
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they played games all right in the bedroom.
• 46:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah, they played In-N-Out.
• 46:51
  Speaker 3: Ooh. They played Dinger Boom.
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: Oh, they played Sorry.
• 47:01
  Speaker 3: Played Scramble.
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: It's Scrabble. They played Scramble.
• 47:07
  Speaker 3: But ever since that night, something's been off with her.
• 47:10
  Speaker 3: She's always texting someone on her phone and won't really
• 47:13
  Speaker 3: pay attention to me on her dates. And a few
• 47:16
  Speaker 3: times when I go to her house, she's talking with
• 47:19
  Speaker 3: someone alone in the phone in her room. And when
• 47:22
  Speaker 3: I walk in, she quickly says goodbye and hangs up
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: the phone.
• 47:25
  Speaker 4: I feel like she's trying to get caught.
• 47:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Well, she's 19. She's not really that smart.
• 47:30
  Speaker 4: This is like you're doing it blatantly in front of
• 47:32
  Speaker 4: your partner.
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 47:33
  Speaker 4: You live a house down. The fact that Opie can
• 47:37
  Speaker 4: just see her. It's like, you know, the SpongeBob me
• 47:40
  Speaker 4: where Squidward's in his house and seeing Patrick and SpongeBob play.
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: Yep.
• 47:43
  Speaker 4: That's it. He goes, what was that?
• 47:45
  Speaker 3: Also, he's not very smart. He's 18 and he still
• 47:48
  Speaker 3: hasn't figured out that she's cheating on him.
• 47:50
  Speaker 5: I mean, I think cheaters are just stupid in general
• 47:54
  Speaker 5: and they're usually not smart. Like sometimes you get like
• 47:57
  Speaker 5: the smart cheaters that are like, oh, I've like done
• 47:59
  Speaker 5: all the math and this will never, you know, come
• 48:01
  Speaker 5: to light, whatever. But usually you get the really dumb
• 48:04
  Speaker 5: people who are like, oh, I know what to do.
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: And then they obviously get caught.
• 48:11
  Speaker 3: When I ask her about it, she says it's just
• 48:13
  Speaker 3: some old friends or relatives.
• 48:15
  Speaker 4: Okay, let me see your phone.
• 48:16
  Speaker 3: One day, I was out with my mom shopping, and
• 48:19
  Speaker 3: I came across her best friend. We said hello, and
• 48:22
  Speaker 3: she said things like, why didn't you come that night?
• 48:25
  Speaker 3: Normal stuff. But then she said something that made me
• 48:28
  Speaker 3: right this year. I told her, what did you guys
• 48:30
  Speaker 3: do that day? She said nothing much, since she came
• 48:34
  Speaker 3: home late from work that day.
• 48:37
  Speaker 4: That doesn't stand out as weird.
• 48:39
  Speaker 3: By the time she was home, it was something like
• 48:42
  Speaker 3: 2 a.m.
• 48:43
  Speaker 4: Never mind, that's weird.
• 48:45
  Speaker 3: And only her husband was home, and my girlfriend came
• 48:49
  Speaker 3: later too.
• 48:49
  Speaker 4: Maybe she came earlier too.
• 48:51
  Speaker 3: What shocked me is that that's not what my girlfriend said.
• 48:56
  Speaker 3: I know that she left home way earlier than that time.
• 49:00
  Speaker 3: I didn't actually say anything and act normal, and I
• 49:03
  Speaker 3: didn't ask my girlfriend about it either. I didn't want
• 49:06
  Speaker 3: to sound like an a-hole who doesn't trust his girlfriend
• 49:09
  Speaker 3: without him around. But after that day, she often goes
• 49:13
  Speaker 3: out and comes home late at night. And I even
• 49:16
  Speaker 3: saw her two times coming out of the same car
• 49:18
  Speaker 3: that her best friend hugged. has when I asked her
• 49:22
  Speaker 3: about it she said he saw her walking and offered
• 49:24
  Speaker 3: her a ride home and when I ask her where
• 49:28
  Speaker 3: she goes she always changes her story sometimes she would
• 49:32
  Speaker 3: say she visits old friends sometimes something else.
• 49:36
  Speaker 4: And Opie's still trying to piece it together. He's like,
• 49:39
  Speaker 4: something's not right. What's going on?
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: I would confront the guy. I'd confront the husband. Be like, hey,
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: so what actually happened?
• 49:50
  Speaker 3: One time she came to my house and she went
• 49:52
  Speaker 3: to the bathroom. She left her phone on the couch
• 49:54
  Speaker 3: and someone called her from an unknown number. I decided
• 49:58
  Speaker 3: to pick it up and I thought maybe it was
• 50:01
  Speaker 3: the wrong number. But it wasn't. It was her best
• 50:04
  Speaker 3: friend's husband. When he heard that it was me who
• 50:07
  Speaker 3: picked up, he kind of hesitated and said that he
• 50:10
  Speaker 3: called to ask about his wife, who wasn't picking up
• 50:13
  Speaker 3: her phone. That's a normal thing, but why would he
• 50:16
  Speaker 3: have my girlfriend's number?
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: Well, you guys are friends.
• 50:18
  Speaker 3: I honestly don't know what to suspect. I haven't gone
• 50:21
  Speaker 3: through her phone secretly because I don't want to look
• 50:24
  Speaker 3: like someone who doesn't trust his girlfriend so easily. Or
• 50:28
  Speaker 3: maybe I'm scared that I would really find something. I
• 50:30
  Speaker 3: don't know. What are y'all's thoughts about this? I honestly
• 50:33
  Speaker 3: want some advice. And I will read every comment. Go
• 50:37
  Speaker 3: through the phone or not. I'm saying go through the phone.
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: Go through her phone?
• 50:40
  Speaker 3: Yes. Yeah, I would.
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: I would have her do it in front of me.
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: I'd be like, okay, so I'm just, like, feeling a
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: little weird. Can we, like, sit down and can we
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: just go through your phone a little bit?
• 50:51
  Speaker 3: I don't know if you need to do that.
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: And if she starts being weird.
• 50:54
  Speaker 4: Or tell her, like, hey, sorry, your phone was ringing
• 50:57
  Speaker 4: a bunch. Picked it up. It was a random number.
• 50:59
  Speaker 4: I thought it was, like, a spam. I was going to,
• 51:01
  Speaker 4: you know. But it was actually BFF's hubby.
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: What's up with that?
• 51:05
  Speaker 3: What's going on? What's up with that?
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and then get her reaction because she'd probably be like, oh.
• 51:08
  Speaker 3: I'm going to the phone.
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: You just go through it without like.
• 51:11
  Speaker 3: Probable cause. If you already haven't. If you already went
• 51:14
  Speaker 3: through the trouble of writing this Reddit post.
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: Probable cause. I mean, I'd go through it anyway. Yeah.
• 51:19
  Speaker 3: All right. Seems like we're going through the phone. After
• 51:22
  Speaker 3: reading a lot of your comments, I decided to go
• 51:25
  Speaker 3: through her phone, but she has a password put on it.
• 51:29
  Speaker 3: Put the best friend's husband name in it. When I
• 51:32
  Speaker 3: told her to open it because I need to call someone,
• 51:34
  Speaker 3: she took the phone and was trying to look like
• 51:38
  Speaker 3: she was opening it. But then she said my mom
• 51:41
  Speaker 3: is calling me and went to the kitchen to talk.
• 51:44
  Speaker 3: After that, she acted like she forgot about it and said,
• 51:46
  Speaker 3: let's watch a movie. I didn't say anything about it
• 51:49
  Speaker 3: because I don't want her to suspect anything. At least
• 51:53
  Speaker 3: not now.
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: Oh, dang. You could have called her out right there.
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: I would have been like, no, actually, I know no
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: one's calling.
• 52:01
  Speaker 3: Would you... risk getting more evidence to do that? Or
• 52:05
  Speaker 3: would you rather wait and get more evidence down the line?
• 52:08
  Speaker 4: I would wait and get more evidence down the line.
• 52:09
  Speaker 3: I think that's his game plan.
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 52:12
  Speaker 5: I couldn't because it would bother me. I wouldn't be
• 52:14
  Speaker 5: able to sleep. I'd be freaking out. I would have
• 52:16
  Speaker 5: to be like, just tell me.
• 52:17
  Speaker 3: All the evidence is on her phone.
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 52:19
  Speaker 3: If you have nothing to back it up, this is
• 52:21
  Speaker 3: someone that could say, you're crazy. You don't even know
• 52:24
  Speaker 3: what's happening. Yeah.
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: No, I get where you're coming from.
• 52:27
  Speaker 3: Update. It's been two months since I last posted.
• 52:30
  Speaker 4: Oh, I've been single for two months.
• 52:34
  Speaker 3: Honestly, so many things happen. I just wanted to get
• 52:37
  Speaker 3: away from everything and take a break to work on myself.
• 52:40
  Speaker 3: And I want to say thank you to all the
• 52:42
  Speaker 3: people who have given me their thoughts and advice. After
• 52:45
  Speaker 3: so many people told me it's best to talk to
• 52:48
  Speaker 3: her or go through her phone, I thought it was
• 52:50
  Speaker 3: best to go through her phone since I knew I
• 52:53
  Speaker 3: wouldn't get much from her if I confronted her. The
• 52:56
  Speaker 3: first time I tried to open her phone, she changed
• 52:58
  Speaker 3: the password. Which was weird since we both don't change
• 53:02
  Speaker 3: it without telling each other. As a sign of trust.
• 53:05
  Speaker 3: But I didn't want her to know that I was
• 53:09
  Speaker 3: going to go through her phone. So she won't hide
• 53:12
  Speaker 3: anything if she had something in there. So one day
• 53:15
  Speaker 3: I was at her house. We were watching a movie
• 53:17
  Speaker 3: just chilling. After it was done she said she had
• 53:19
  Speaker 3: to go to shower and left her phone there. I
• 53:22
  Speaker 3: took the chance and went downstairs and asked her older
• 53:25
  Speaker 3: sister if she knows the password. Because I need to
• 53:28
  Speaker 3: make a call. And surprisingly, she did. When I saw
• 53:34
  Speaker 3: what she had in there, it still makes me want
• 53:36
  Speaker 3: to throw up to this day.
• 53:38
  Speaker 5: Oh, no.
• 53:39
  Speaker 3: She had her best friend's husband's Instagram and it went
• 53:42
  Speaker 3: through her DMs. I was shocked. They were only flirting
• 53:46
  Speaker 3: and spicy texting, but even sitting noodles to each other.
• 53:51
  Speaker 3: I was speechless for a while. I didn't even know
• 53:54
  Speaker 3: what to do. I just stared at the wall for
• 53:57
  Speaker 3: a few minutes until... I thought about her best friend too.
• 54:01
  Speaker 3: She deserved to know about it. So I took some
• 54:03
  Speaker 3: pics of the text and went out and called her
• 54:06
  Speaker 3: best friend to meet me. We went somewhere quiet and
• 54:09
  Speaker 3: honestly it was the worst moment in my life. It
• 54:12
  Speaker 3: was the first time I was scared and broken. Too
• 54:15
  Speaker 3: shocked to even say anything. She realized it and kept
• 54:18
  Speaker 3: telling me what's wrong. Until I showed her the pics
• 54:21
  Speaker 3: I took. She looked like she would pass out for
• 54:23
  Speaker 3: a while. She just sat there quietly and started crying.
• 54:27
  Speaker 3: I've never felt that for anyone. I mean, yeah, she
• 54:30
  Speaker 3: was my girlfriend and all, but for her, it was
• 54:33
  Speaker 3: her husband. After I tried to calm her down a little,
• 54:36
  Speaker 3: we talked about what we should do, and I told
• 54:38
  Speaker 3: her she should divorce him ASAP and not stay with
• 54:41
  Speaker 3: him any longer than she had to. She said, I
• 54:43
  Speaker 3: don't think I can. And when I asked why, she
• 54:47
  Speaker 3: said for a few days she's been having symptoms that
• 54:50
  Speaker 3: can indicate pregnancy? And then if it was true, getting
• 54:53
  Speaker 3: a divorce would be very hard because she can't take
• 54:56
  Speaker 3: care of a child on her own. But she said
• 54:59
  Speaker 3: she would take some pregnancy tests and hope for the best.
• 55:03
  Speaker 3: After that, I finally confronted my girlfriend, ex-girlfriend now, about
• 55:08
  Speaker 3: everything on the phone. I didn't even want to see
• 55:11
  Speaker 3: her face anymore. And I didn't want to do anything
• 55:14
  Speaker 3: after that day either. So I just quit my job
• 55:17
  Speaker 3: and went out of town. and went to live with
• 55:19
  Speaker 3: my uncle for these past two months. And after a
• 55:22
  Speaker 3: few weeks, my ex's best friend told me that the
• 55:26
  Speaker 3: test came out negative and that she wasn't pregnant, and
• 55:29
  Speaker 3: I'm honestly glad she wasn't.
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh, that would be a nightmare. Yeah. Thank God. Yikes.
• 55:38
  Speaker 3: Especially after learning that.
• 55:40
  Speaker 4: Trauma bond, trauma bond, trauma bond.
• 55:42
  Speaker 3: No child deserves to have a cheater father, nor does
• 55:45
  Speaker 3: a cheater deserve to be a parent. And now I'm
• 55:48
  Speaker 3: doing much better. Thanks to all the people who took
• 55:51
  Speaker 3: their time to give me advice and asked how I
• 55:53
  Speaker 3: was doing. But I still think about it and think,
• 55:57
  Speaker 3: could I have done that better? I feel like I
• 56:00
  Speaker 3: rushed a lot and ran away from that situation and
• 56:03
  Speaker 3: left my ex's best friend alone to deal with it.
• 56:06
  Speaker 3: I'm going to check up on her since I'm back
• 56:08
  Speaker 3: in town and hopefully she's doing well too. That's not
• 56:11
  Speaker 3: your job, dude.
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: I mean, you both went through it. It is a trombone.
• 56:15
  Speaker 5: But also, yeah, she does have, like, a support system
• 56:18
  Speaker 5: and everything. You don't have to, like, constantly, like, check
• 56:20
  Speaker 5: up on her and whatnot. But just, I mean, yes,
• 56:23
  Speaker 5: being a good friend is one thing. But then, like,
• 56:25
  Speaker 5: you don't want to be weird about it.
• 56:27
  Speaker 3: You don't want to be weird about it.
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 56:28
  Speaker 3: So just let it go, dude. Well, guys, that's the
• 56:30
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